rSlash - r/AmITheA**hole For Finding My Friend's OnlyFans Account?

Episode Date: June 3, 2021

r/AmITheA**hole One day, OP was clicking around the Internet looking for content 😏 when he stumbled upon an OnlyFans account and instantly recognized the girl. It's his best friend's little sister!... He wasn't sure what to do, so he contacted his friend's sister and let her know that he was able to identify her due to her tattoos. When her older brother found out that OP knew about the account, he becomes furious at OP and cuts him out of his life. Is OP the butthole in this situation? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:00:36 account. Am I the butthole for not telling my friend that his sister has an only fans? I'm a 22-year-old guy, and my friend, who's also a 22 year old guy, have been friends since we were kids and we've always been really tight. We're pretty open with each other and there haven't been any secrets in our friendship up until recently. Not gonna lie, he's the golden child of his family and he receives a bunch of support from his parents. His sister is a 21 year old woman and she cops it bad. They treat her like garbage!
Starting point is 00:01:05 Her and I get along well. She's like the annoying little sister but we're cool and get along. About a month ago, I was on only fans because of reasons. I came across a profile and clicked on it. I didn't recognize the name or anything, but when I looked at the pictures, I saw a tattoo that I did recognize that belonged to my friend sister, Belle. There were also other identifying features. I freaked out and instantly clicked off the profile.
Starting point is 00:01:30 She was using a fake name, but there were a few things that identified her. I never would have clicked on her profile if I knew that it was her. And I guess I wanted to respect her right to be anonymous on the website. I thought about things for a few days, and eventually I sent her this message with the intention of helping her out. Hey Belle, this is really awkward for me and I hope you understand that I'm coming from a place of concern rather than anything else. I came across your only fans account the other day because at first I didn't realize it was you. I clicked off once I realized. Just a heads up, I could identify you from your tattoos and some other details, and I would
Starting point is 00:02:07 hate your anonymity to be compromised if you continue to post since you have a fake name and all. I would suggest blurring out those features, but if you're not bothered by this, then keep doing what you're doing. I just thought that I'd touch base to be safe. I hope you're doing well, and again, I hope you understand that I'm just looking out for your safety. See you soon.
Starting point is 00:02:26 Belle replied I was thankful that I pointed that out. She thought that her tattoos and other features weren't unique enough to identify her, and she told me that she'll make a change. I saw her a couple days later at a party, and she gave me a hug, so things are back to normal. Fast forward a bit, and somebody else identified her and has been collecting images. They sent the pictures to her parents. Nobody knows who this person is, they remained anonymous. Bell's parents ripped into her, and my friend went on this huge rant on Facebook calling
Starting point is 00:02:55 a sister all kinds of names. I didn't comment anything other than, you need to loosen up, mate. But a lot of our friends are on his side, saying that they'd be ashamed if she was their girl. He came over for a few drinks and he began to unload on me. I didn't really react and I just kept telling him to calm down. He asked why I wasn't so surprised and I shrugged and I said that lots of girls have only fans now and then it's not a big deal. Eventually it came out that I knew.
Starting point is 00:03:22 I know that I should have kept my mouth shut, but he was suspicious that I kept defending a slut. My friends have booted me out of the group chat because they say that I broke the bro code. What? Broke the bro code. OP, the bro code is like, don't sleep with your friend's ex. It's not help me slut shame my sister. OP, your friend's sister is an adult and she has a right to anonymity.
Starting point is 00:03:46 She also has a right to post whatever she wants to online. OP, your friends are super toxic. I'm giving you and your friend sister zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your friend your friend's parents and whoever exposed your friend's sister four out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for not giving my mom money that I saved up that she really really needs to save her and her baby's lives? I'm the 4th oldest of 10 kids. My mom is currently pregnant with her 11th. Ever since I was 12 years old, I've wanted to move out.
Starting point is 00:04:18 I've been saving up money. It's actually been hard not spending my savings, but I'm now 21 and I've saved $7,000. My mom knows that I work full time, but I'm now 21 and I've saved $7,000. My mom knows that I work full-time, but I lied and told her it wasn't unpaid internship. Otherwise she would have made me give her the money. Her boyfriend literally don't have any money. I'm sick of living in this house with so many people. There's nothing more I want more than to move away and live by myself, finally. My friend and I always talked about moving to New York, and her uncle, who's a super, offered us an apartment at a really good rate. The idea went
Starting point is 00:04:50 from something that we just talked about to actually being a reality. Once I secured a job interview, I knew that it was time to tell my mom that I was moving out. Despite having four older siblings, none of them had moved out. I didn't know how she would react. She was extremely upset, and she asked me how I had the money to move to somewhere as expensive as New York and pay rent. I admitted to saving up my money, and that's when she lost her mind. She started screaming about how I know that she's struggling to pay rent and pay for her baby's formula and diapers. And one of her twin toddlers had to have surgery two years ago, and I didn't offer a dime and diapers. And one of her twin toddlers had to have surgery two years ago
Starting point is 00:05:25 and I didn't offer a dime and they're my siblings. Two weeks before my flight to New York, my mom fainted on the job and was hospitalized. They said the pregnancy was too high risk. She had problems with her other pregnancies before this one and almost died with her last pregnancy. They advised her to abort, otherwise she could die from the pregnancy. She refused
Starting point is 00:05:46 to abort, saying that she's been getting pregnant since she was 14, so it wasn't going to kill her now. She was in the hospital on bed rest, and she called me begging to send her some of my money. She didn't even want all of it, she just wanted some for a special procedure to help save the baby. I literally can't afford to waste a dime. My money isn't gonna last long, and even with a job lined up, I didn't want to risk potentially wasting all my money before I even got to New York. So, I told her that I couldn't. She went off on me, calling me a butthole, saying that moving isn't as important as saving her and her baby's life. All of my siblings are saying that I'm evil, that I can wait to move later, that I'm
Starting point is 00:06:25 young, and I'm a major butthole for not helping at all. Once I become more financially stable, I do intend to send her some money. I offer her 500 bucks, and she hung up. I don't know if I'm wrong or not. Alright OP, so what's happening here is that your mom is making really poor life decisions and expecting her kids to bail her out. As harsh as it is to say, the reality is that they're not your kids, they're hers. So simply put, they're just not your
Starting point is 00:06:51 responsibility. OP, you said that you're 21 and you have four older siblings who haven't moved out yet. OP, my advice is to move to New York, freeze your credit, and never look back. Your mother sounds super toxic, and this post is sending up a lot of red flags. I think what you really need to do, OP, is focus on yourself and make yourself the priority here. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I realize that making that decision can make you feel guilty, but in your case, I think it's the best decision that you can make.
Starting point is 00:07:21 OP, I'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes. I'm giving your mother 3.5 out of five buttholes. Oh, and one last thing, I want to be clear about this. Hospitals have to perform life-saving procedures. So, if your mom has to get surgery to have her life saved, then she'll get the surgery, she's just going to get billed for it afterwards. So, your mother doesn't want you to send her money to save her life. She wants you to send her money to save her from debt. Am I the butthole for not telling my husband the dinner is ready? My husband has an obsession with TikTok, and he's 40 years old by the way, not 14.
Starting point is 00:07:56 Well, that's a relief, Opie. I hope you're not married to a 14 year old boy. My husband takes his phone to the bathroom, and he'll spend ages just mindlessly scrolling. We have two young kids and I think he just does it for some peace and quiet. However, that means that I'm constantly having to go knock on the door and ask, are you okay? Are you gonna be long? Are you gonna come out and help with the kids? It is such a pain in the butt. I was making a full roast dinner and I saw him hitting off upstairs. I told him dinner would be ready in 20 minutes so don't be long.
Starting point is 00:08:29 I set the table, finished cooking, put the food on the plate, got the kids to the table and just thought, I'm not going to go seek out my husband. This is ridiculous. I just wanted to see how long it would take him to come out on his own. Two hours and ten minutes. During that time we finished the meal, I cleaned the kitchen and the floor, did the dishes in a load of laundry, and the kids were halfway through a film. He came downstairs and yelled at me that I should have told him dinner was
Starting point is 00:08:54 ready. I told him that I am not his mother, and it is not my job to go seek him out. He stormed out, saying that he's not eating his dinner now because roast dinners are terrible in the microwave and this is all my fault. Am I the butthole? Wait, OP, are you sure this guy is in 14 years old because he's sure acting like it? This guy honestly just disappeared onto his phone for a full two hours and 10 minutes. Look, we've all gotten absorbed on our phones before in Lost Track of Time, but 2 hours and 10 minutes, that is not losing track of time. That is intentionally and willfully ignoring your family. Then, when he finally does come down, he has the audacity to yell at you when you've been doing chores this whole time. You've been caring for
Starting point is 00:09:40 this guy's house and kids, and his response is to yell at you? No, OP, you are not the butthole here. Your husband, on the other hand, gets 3.5 out of 5 buttholes. I gotta ask OP because it sounds like you do all the cooking, all the cleaning, and all the childcare. So, does your husband actually contribute to this family? Now streaming on Paramount Plus. Hey baby, I hear the blues. It's calling, toss salads and scrambled eggs.
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Starting point is 00:11:09 margin. Though when he made more, I always insisted that we split things evenly to avoid potential resentment down the road. I've had sort of a non-linear career path. I ended up switching to the corporate world. To make a long story short, my liberal arts degree and time doing non-profit work gave me a lot of skills that enable me to really excel professionally in some more niche areas. I recently started a new job as a consultant, making way more than I'd ever anticipated. When I got the offer, I told Tim that the pay was amazing,
Starting point is 00:11:40 but he didn't ask about the actual amount. And I didn't want to be braggy about it, especially since I was fairly sure that it was above his current income. Well, we just applied for new apartment, and in the process of submitting our paystubs, it became obvious that I make roughly 30% more than he does. I expected him to think that was cool since he's a feminist, and he's always been super supportive of my career. But instead, he started to make increasingly harsh jobs about how I cheated the system to get where I am.
Starting point is 00:12:10 That no English lit major makes more than a cybersecurity professional without cheating somehow. His major point is that I got my first job due to nepotism, which sets me up to trample more qualified people who didn't have the same advantages. It is true that I got my first post-college job after being referred by a sorority sister, but it was for a non-profit making $22,000 a year. It's not exactly like I got a job at my daddy's company. He also points out that at my first corporate job, I snagged a big promotion after volunteering to take on my company's diversity, slash equality, slash inclusion program.
Starting point is 00:12:45 And I'll admit that if I were a white man, it's highly unlikely that I would have been able to be the face of the eventually high-profile diversity program. Tim also notes that I was awarded a small college scholarship for being a promising female writer when no such scholarship existed for males. But all that said, I still don't feel like I cheated the system, and it makes me angry to listen to him joke about it, especially since I grew up blue collar and worked full time while going to school full time to afford my degree. I reached a breaking point yesterday when he made a crack about how the first woman on his team was an obvious diversity hire. I told him that his jokes about women cheating the system to get
Starting point is 00:13:23 ahead are not funny, that they make him sound like an insecure little boy. He told him that his jokes about women cheating the system to get ahead are not funny, that they make him sound like an insecure little boy. He told me that I was being a naive Karen and we haven't really talked since yesterday. Did I go too far? Alright OP, I'm really glad that I came across this story because I have a lot to say about it. Like UOP, I also have a degree in English. I got my bachelor's degree in English, and then I even went on to get my master's degree in literary and cultural studies. I originally planned to become an English professor, but I realized during the course of getting my master's that that is just not what I wanted to do. And also like UOP, I have a super non-linear career path. After getting my master's, I started working for a corporation writing documents, and then I became a YouTuber.
Starting point is 00:14:06 And now that I'm a YouTuber, I am much more successful than I ever could have been as a corporate writer. So honestly, OP, I feel a lot of camaraderie with you in this post. And let me tell you, his comments about you cheating the system are complete and utter BS. You didn't cheat the system, you applied your skills and your work ethic to get ahead in the world, and you got rewarded for it. If anything, your resourcefulness should be celebrated, not criticized.
Starting point is 00:14:33 Generally speaking, unless you become some famous writer like JK Rowling or George R.R. Martin, you're just not going to make a lot of money in the English field. So I say kudos to UOP, and I just want to take a moment to celebrate your success because what you did is awesome. Now onto your boyfriend, your right OP, your boyfriend is being an insecure little boy. OP, your boyfriend needs to get his ego checked and if he honestly thinks that he's never gotten an advantage by being a white dude then he's out of his mind. OP, I'm giving you 0 out of five buttholes. I'm giving your boyfriend 2.5 out of five buttholes.
Starting point is 00:15:09 Hopefully he'll come around and realize that having a rich girlfriend is a good thing, not a bad thing. And trust me, OP, if your boyfriend doesn't figure that out, there is a long line of guys who would jump at the chance to have a rich sugar mommy girlfriend. Am I the butthole for moving out after my parents demanded that I follow their rules? I'm a 22 year old guy and I just finished
Starting point is 00:15:30 college when back to my hometown while I figured out what to do next. I was planning to share an apartment with my old friends but my parents wanted me to move in and help them out. COVID has hit them hard and they're struggling to pay their bills, so they wanted me to move in and pay rent. I said okay because I want to help my parents out. Everything went fine until three days after I moved in. My mother came in around 9 p.m. saying that I had had enough screen time and I need to go to bed. I thought this was ridiculous because I'm an adult who's paying rent. She has no right to demand this. She said, you're living under my roof, so
Starting point is 00:16:06 I make the rules. I went along with it for that night, and the next morning I went and took my laptop back from the room. She proceeded to ground me for disobeying my authority. I had enough of this. I called the people I was going to room with and asked if they still had a spot. They said yes, so I packed up and moved in with them. Now my family is hounding me for not supporting my family. Alright OP, I'll be honest with you. When I started reading this post, what I thought was going to happen was you moved into your parents' house and they told you what to do and you didn't like it so you moved out.
Starting point is 00:16:43 And I was prepared to say, well, keep in mind this is their house, so even though you don't like their rules, you still have to follow them. However, then you mentioned that you guys paid rent, so I'm like, wait, what's the conflict here? Then your mom tries to ground you over looking at a computer at 9pm? I mean, come on, it's not even like you were staying up until 2am or something. 9pm for a 22-year-old guy? And they took your computer to a room like you're some kind of child? Nah, OP, you are completely not the butthole here.
Starting point is 00:17:20 What plan are your parents living on? I mean, if you weren't playing rent, it would be a totally different story because you'd basically be mooching off of them, so yeah, they would have some sort of authority because it's their house, their rules. But the second you hand over that first rent payment, then it's no longer just their house. It becomes your house too. Opie, I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your mom two out of five buttholes.
Starting point is 00:17:44 She is completely delusional. Down in the comments, I like this post from Spin the City. Haha, too funny. Tell them to make an ad for a tenant and make sure to put in the ad that they'll be controlling that tenant's screen time and bedtime. And they must obey all the house rules or they'll be grounded. Not the butthole. That was our slash of my The Butthole, and if you like this content be sure to follow my podcast because I put on your Reddit podcast episodes every single day.

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