rSlash - r/AmITheA**hole For STEALING a Dog?

Episode Date: May 22, 2020

r/AmITheA**hole In today's episode, OP finds a lost dog and decides to take it in. To OP's credit, he takes the dog to the vet to check for a chip, but the vet doesn't find one. So, he decides to keep... the dog as his own! After he posts pictures of the dog online, the original owner quickly discovers the dog and asks for it to be returned to her. OP refuses, arguing that he's had the dog for a year and that he's come to emotionally rely on the dog. So, OP wants to know if he's the butthole for keeping the dog and refusing to give it back. What do you think? If you like this video and want to see more, hit the subscribe button for daily Reddit videos! Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NUEjdkZvhtI Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:00:00 This NBA season make every three-pointer alley-oop and buzzer-beater even more exciting with fan-dual. Download the app today to see why we're North America's number one sports book. 19 plus and physically located in Ontario, Camlin Tom call 1865-312600 or visit connectcentario.ca Welcome to RSLash, a podcast where I read the best posts from across Reddit. Today we're covering the subreddit RS a slash am I the butthole. In I the butthole, my parents said most of my wardrobe away as punishment and I said I didn't want the clothes back because it's obvious they're not actually mine. I got in trouble at school this fall. I'm a junior in
Starting point is 00:00:36 high school. I smoked weed with a guy in the woods after school ones and got caught. I also made out with him a couple of times and my parents found out about that too. As punishment, my parents with them a couple of times and my parents found out about that too. As punishment, my parents took away a lot of my things, all my clothes except three pairs of plain jeans and three plain black shirts in my coat, and all my makeup and hair stuff, purses and shoes, saying I had to earn things back with good behavior. I don't get to engage in my hobby, fashion, tell I've earned it. Anyways, it was a sucky couple of months, but I came to a couple of realizations.
Starting point is 00:01:07 It was actually kind of nice to not have to think about what to wear and how I look. My friends knew what my parents had done and didn't judge me. I also told anyone who asked why I looked like I only had one outfit, what was up, and it was no big deal. I know it was supposed to be demeaning, humiliating punishment
Starting point is 00:01:24 to make me look bad at school, but honestly, it just makes them look bad when people at school know I'm only allowed to wear one thing. I don't want to have things that are just something someone else can hold over my head. I don't want the old clothes and makeup back. If I'm going to get back into that stuff, I'll do it on my own terms. I'll buy my own stuff. So I told my parents that I don't care if they keep the clothes and makeup.
Starting point is 00:01:47 They've made it clear that stuff doesn't belong to me. And I said it's gross to spend every day wearing clothes that aren't mine, that can be given and taken as punishment. I'd feel gross and I'd rather not wear them again. So now my parents are mad because they've got a lot of clothes boxed up in the attic that the family spent money on and that are going to waste. Nobody can wear them. My mom isn't my size and my only sibling is my little brother. I said I don't care. I want clothes that are my own and those aren't it.
Starting point is 00:02:16 Am I the butl for not taking the clothes back and letting them go to waste? Wait, wait, let me get this straight. Your parents are telling you that your clothes don't belong to you, that they own your clothes. Then when you say, okay, I guess I won't wear those clothes then because they don't belong to me. They get mad at you. No, OP, you get zero out of five buttolls. To be honest, your parents have that coming to them. That punishment backfired hilariously. I honestly want to give you like negative butthole points because not only did you not do anything
Starting point is 00:02:50 butthole here, but on top of that you also grew up and became more mature, so good job, OP. Am I the butthole for telling my mom's new husband that she has kids? When I was 15, my mom left the family. For a long time, no one knew where she was or even if she was okay. Eventually, it was discovered that she was just too overwhelmed and left to handle herself. My brothers and I were raised by her uncle and my dad from that point on, but it was hard. I became like my brother's mom and had to grow up quicker than I probably should have. I got into therapy and a few years back have been doing better. Recently, I found my mom on Facebook. It was my pure mistake because I reconnected with some other maternal family members that I guess are friends with
Starting point is 00:03:35 her. She had the same first name and looks pretty much the same with just a different last name. The more I looked at her page, however, I saw that she had gotten remarried not long after she left my dad, and had basically started a new family. She has kids ranging in age from two to ten years old. My husband told me to leave it alone, but I was so angry I just couldn't handle it. So I ended up finding out her husband's Facebook and messaged him, saying that his wife had five other kids that she had abandoned. Did he know that? My mom ended up messaging me, pissed, saying I'd made her husband mad because he didn't
Starting point is 00:04:13 know me. To me, that's not my problem. You can't just run off and neglect responsibilities. However, my brothers and husband think I was the butthole. So am I the butthole? No OP, you get zero out of five buttholes on so many levels. And Gatita Monster down in the comments brings up a really good point. Not the butthole.
Starting point is 00:04:34 This man isn't nothing to you, he's your stepfather. You have a right to be acknowledged by your stepfather and siblings. Your mother cannot erase you, no matter how much she may want to, in order to avoid dealing with her own enormity. Since she can't be trusted to do so, you had every right to do it yourself. Your mother isn't a colleague or a casual acquaintance with strict rules of civility and boundaries that demand observance. Your mother committed a grave betrayal of her duties to you and inflicted grave wounds as a result.
Starting point is 00:05:07 She treated you as though you're nothing. You're not nothing. You're valuable and did not deserve to be abandoned. By announcing your presence in the world to her husband, you're letting her know you're still here in the only way that would make her listen. She can't ignore that anymore and that's a good thing in my book. Am I the- Am I the butthole for taking a dump when my girlfriend was in terror? This sounds ridiculous and I can't believe I'm posting this but my girlfriend is sincerely mad and is making me out to be a butthole. So I went to bed last night with a sore stomach. Without going into
Starting point is 00:05:41 much detail, I've been constipated for a while now. When I woke up, nature finally called, and she wasn't ready to be put on hold. I got up and was on my way to the bathroom when I heard my girlfriend screaming from the living room. I quickly ran there to see what was going on just to find out it was two effing spiders. They were sort of big. Keeping to themselves by the TV stand. I told her to calm down and then I would deal with it after to calm down and then walk back to the bathroom to do the deed. Right in the middle of taking a dump, my girlfriend
Starting point is 00:06:09 knocks repeatedly on the bathroom door, now literally crying about how they move closer to the couch. I get that she was scared, but the dump was literally halfway out, so I told her to just lock herself in the bedroom until I'm done. After it was all done, roughly 15 minutes, I came out and relocated the spiders outside onto the balcony, then went to tell my girlfriend. Problem is, she wasn't in the room. I pretty much looked everywhere for her until I finally called her, and she answered really angry. Talking about how sucky and useless I am, turns out she packed a bag and left to stay with her parents. WTF? She literally had to walk past these
Starting point is 00:06:47 dangerous spiders to get to the door. I apologize, but she's still not having it, and even her mother has chipped in her two cents about how pathetic of a boyfriend I am. I feel like this is an overreaction, but am I the butthole? Update, she's pretty much dropped hints that she's broken up with me. I guess Miles and Peter saved my butt. Everyone down in the comments is generally an agreement. Dump the girlfriend to keep the spiders. Am I the butthole for throwing away my husband's Xbox after he refused to look for a lost dog? For starters, I'm a 35 year old female nurse and I've been extremely busy these past three months. Even writing this post is a privilege,
Starting point is 00:07:25 and I'm having to do this in bits and pieces. I also gave birth to my daughter six months ago. I have an eight year old son as well. When I'm not working, I take care of my children. In January 2019, my son suddenly developed this strong desire to have a dog. He begged and begged for a puppy from my husband, who's 35.
Starting point is 00:07:44 I protested against that because I just found out that I was pregnant. Jesus. My husband said that we should let our son have a puppy to teach him some responsibility, and that he would have some practice to take care of his baby sibling. He also promised that he would help our son take care of the dog. I was absolutely unconvinced, but I had to give him eventually because my husband had already agreed and I didn't want to cause further fights. Metrolinx and Crosslinx are reminding everyone to be careful as Eglinton Crosstown LRT train testing is in progress.
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Starting point is 00:08:40 when you spend $300 or more. Plus, PC Optima members can get select PC or no-name cheese at $3.99. Conditions apply to fly for details. Five days ago, my son had accidentally left the back door of the house open and the dog ran away. These five days were also some of the busiest, most grueling days of my work and I had to take up night shifts because a colleague had fallen sick. Our son first went to my husband for help. He refused to help him and said that it was his son's responsibility to care for the dog and that he has to do something
Starting point is 00:09:08 about himself. My husband has a privilege of working from home. He works at a law firm. He works for maybe 3-4 hours a day and plays Xbox the entire time and sometimes gets up to check up on her daughter. He literally has no added pressures. Five days ago, when our son told me in tears that, that won't look for a tippy." I talked to my husband, who said that it would teach our son some responsibility to take care of things in the future, which I found very callous since a dog is a living sentient being and not a thing. He was playing Xbox when I was talking to him as well. He also said he won't look for the dog or anything. Yesterday, after coming home at night, the first thing I did was unplug the Xbox console
Starting point is 00:09:51 and controller and throw it in the trash can. This morning, before going to work, my husband threw a fit when he didn't find his Xbox in the living room. I told him that I thrown it away because he was so addicted to it that he couldn't even get up to help our distress son. When I came back from work, he told me he'd found his Xbox and the trash and the garbage truck hadn't arrived then. Now he's being incredibly snarky, giving me the cold shoulder and angry because his
Starting point is 00:10:15 controller isn't working. He also hasn't taken any measures to look for our dog and our mutual best friend called and said my reaction was incredibly childish. Now, I'm spending my free day calling every neighbor of ours, making internet posters and contacting animal shelters and animal control to see if Tippie had turned up anywhere and consoling my heartbroken son. Am I the butthole? And then, OP posted an update.
Starting point is 00:10:38 Tippie was found two miles away from our house, a day after I posted ads and posters on several platforms and websites. A kind lady living alone had found her near her street, starving and exhausted. She responded to my calls for help on Facebook and I'm utterly thankful to her. We need more people like her in this world. My son and Tipe were both ecstatic to be reunited. He takes care of him just like he did before, only now I have some time when my hands help him as well. However, my son is still wary of his father and he'll likely remain so for a long time. Now he doesn't ask him for help at all.
Starting point is 00:11:12 As for my husband, he now treats Tippi as if he doesn't exist. He went and bought a new Xbox controller right after Tippi was brought back and now demands that I pay him for damaging his property. I'm willing to pay because I realized my impulsive response was not the best decision and nor was it the best way to deal with this situation. My approach towards my husband's Xbox and husband's approach towards Tipeee were both horrible and irrational. Many of you mentioned that my husband may have been neglecting our daughter.
Starting point is 00:11:40 It's unfortunate that you were right. I started to notice some tender area and Ritz getting around my daughter's diaper area around two weeks ago. She was uncomfortable, irritable, and put up a fuss every time I tried to change her diaper. Turns out she was suffering from a diaper rash. Dipper rash is going to occur for a variety of reasons, none of which were applying to my daughter. She wasn't on antibiotics, she had soft cotton clothes, her bowel movements
Starting point is 00:12:05 were normal, and we weren't using any new products on her. This left only one option. Her diapers weren't being changed frequently. I was away from home for five days, I asked my husband how many times he changed her diapers. A baby her age needs her diaper changed at least once every three hours. My husband outright said he was changing them every seven hours or so for those five days because he didn't think they needed to be changed as much as before because she was now six months old. He had raised a son with me before. It's a ridiculous excuse. The diaper rash has gone now, but now I'm scared to ever leave my baby with them when I go to work. I'll have to sit down and reconsider everything and have a long talk with them soon.
Starting point is 00:12:46 It's inevitable. He still plays Xbox just like he used to before. Oh my god, OP, there's so many red flags in this. Either this guy is completely checked out of his family's life or he's addicted to video games. Either way, he has serious emotional problems that need to be addressed. And if he only changed his daughter's diaper once every 7 hours, does that mean that he was basically ignoring his daughter for those 7 hours just so we could play video games
Starting point is 00:13:14 instead? To be honest, OP, it doesn't sound like you have 2 kids in the house, it sounds like you have 3. So my final assessment is OP gets 1-5 buttholes because, yeah, throwing with Xbox was admittedly a little bit immature. What OP should have done is just have a normal So, my final assessment is OP gets one of the 5 buttholes because, yeah, throwing with Xbox was admittedly a little bit immature. What OP should have done is just have a normal adult conversation with them. But as for the husband, this is an easy 5 out of 5 buttholes. Am I the butthole for refusing to return a lost dog that was clearly well loved? About 7 months ago, a friend found a dog near her house.
Starting point is 00:13:43 I took her in and called Animal Control. They said to bring her in and look for a microchip. She was underweight with 30 fur. Animal Control couldn't find a microchip, so they said I could hold onto her for a week and they could list her on their website and if nobody claimed her I could adopt her. So that's exactly what happened. My dog now has shiny fur and is very healthy. She's polite and walks well on a leash.
Starting point is 00:14:03 She does lots of tricks. I have depression and anxiety and she's my support animal. She's honestly the light of my life. Last month I joined a Facebook group for the same unusual peer-breathed that my dog is. I posted a picture of her in the group. A woman was tagged, and a few hours later she DMs me. She said my dog was her dog, and she was so thankful I found her and wanted to arrange to come get her. She offered to pay me for taking good care of her. I thought she was trying to scam me since she lived across the country, but when I looked into it, I found her Instagram with a lot of dog pictures and videos.
Starting point is 00:14:35 My dog has very unique markings, so it was unmistakably the same dog as the one in her pictures. My dog is a show champion and had a lot of training to do obedience, agility, and a few others I've never heard of. She has a lot of fancy titles too. My dog was clearly well cared for, well trained, and well loved. She said her house caught fire last year, and she lost everything, including my dog who ran away. Nobody knows how she traveled so far, or what happened between when she got lost and when my friend found her. She never stopped looking for my dog. She even had a video of my dog as a super cute puppy getting a microchip. No idea why the shelter in my vet couldn't find it, but my dog had one at some point.
Starting point is 00:15:17 Here's the part where I might be the butthole. I told the woman I appreciated the great job she did with my dog for the first few years of her life. She's five. And I was sorry to hear about her circumstances my dog for the first few years of her life. She's five. And I was sorry to hear about her circumstances, but I couldn't give up my beloved girl. She's my support animal, so I'm not even sure I could live without her. I offered to send her pictures regularly, but she turned really nasty. I got tons of hateful messages from people I don't even know.
Starting point is 00:15:41 I had panic attacks whenever I got notifications, because her friends acted like it's my fault. I didn't choose for this special dog to change my life so much any more than she chose for my dog to get lost. I ultimately blocked her because she wouldn't leave me alone. Since she was listed with a shelter for the whole period and no microchip was found, I've adopted her and she's mine. I'm legally in the right, but am I morally wrong? I know she loves my dog and wants her back, but I can't picture my life without her.
Starting point is 00:16:10 Not one where I'm happy anyway. If I could clone my dog and give this chick one, I would. Am I the butthole if I think about myself and my health and keep my dogs since it's legally my right to anyways? That was our slash of my the butthole, and if you like this content, then please follow my podcast because it really helps my podcast grow. my right to anyways. That was our Slash and My The Butthole and if you like this content then please follow my podcast because it really helps my podcast grow.

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