rSlash - r/Bestof HELP! My Dad is TOO HOT! 🥵‎️‍🔥

Episode Date: March 8, 2023

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Welcome to our slash best of redditor updates, where OP's dad is so hot that it's ruining her life. Our next reddit post comes from our slash relationship advice. I'm a 34 year old man who's very close with my stepdaughter who's 19. Her boyfriend who's 20 does not like that. Alright, so let's get the obvious out of the way. Yes, she calls me dad. I've been in her life since she was 11. Yes, the age difference is weird for a lot of people. My wife is 40 and she had a kid.

Sue me. Lastly, I am in no way attracted to my daughter. She's a pretty girl, but that's my kid. This is not a f*** post. Now we can begin. My daughter and I are very close. She'd never had a decent male figure in her life at the time that I met her, and I knew that if I wanted to pursue a relationship with my now wife, I should do everything I could to fill that role. So I did. I helped with homework. I played games with her. I watched shows or YouTuber she was into, writer-favored books, etc.

Because I wanted to build a solid relationship with her. Turns out, if you treat things like they're important, sometimes they go well. She and I spend a lot of time together, and our family doesn't really have big touch barriers, so hugs, cheek kisses, sometimes she'll use me as a pillow, etc. All of this is very common, and she does the same with my wife. I love you, as said probably like 50 times a day in my house. We're affectionate, that's the picture I'm trying to paint here. Very recently, she started dating. Her boyfriend

doesn't appreciate that we're comfortable with expressing our affection towards each other. Even going so far, as to ask me to tone it down when he's around, he asked me this in private. My daughter doesn't know about this yet. I want to respect my daughter's new relationship because this is a new and exciting thing for her and I'm genuinely happy for her. But I also don't want to lose the connection that I've spent so long building and I don't think that I should be made to pretend that it's less important to me just because she's dating someone who happens to be a little insecure. I can understand where the guy's coming from, but I don't think he really has a right

to interject here. The dilemma is, should I tone it down as requested, should I continue on as normal, or should I tell my daughter about the request and let her handle it however she sees fit? Honestly, I'm not sure what the right move is. Also, OP clarifies in an edit that he initiates maybe about 20% of the physical contact with a stepdaughter. People ask OP what he looks like and get a load of this you guys. OP is 6'5", maybe 245 pounds.

OP says, I would say that most people would probably rate me on an 8 or a 9 on a scale of 1 to 10. I am admittedly kind of a trophy husband. My wife made roughly 8 times my income when I met her, and I've since quit to pursue my passion, blacksmithing. I met my wife just after she broke it off with her abusive ex, and she was just looking for a fling. The fling turned into being friends with benefits, and eventually into a relationship. Don't get me wrong. We're very much in love, but I took it upon myself to be a good cook, I do most of the

cleaning, etc. Because she's often exhausted from long days at work, travel, etc. Um, et cetera. Okay, OP. I'm not saying I'm defending this guy because I think you're in the right here, but I'm starting to understand why he's intimidated by a nine out of 10 attractive, six and a half foot tall, 250 pound hot blacksmith dad.

If I were 20 and dating a girl girl and that was the girl's father, I'd probably be intimidated too. That wouldn't make it right to be insecure and to tell the dad to tone down the affection, but OP you do sound pretty intimidating. You sound like a character out of Game of Thrones. Is anyone else imagining like Gigaad standing over an anvil and a forge just hammering metal while sweat drips down his biceps and pecs. Yeah I'd be mega intimidated by that OP if I were some 20 year old kid dating a girl for the first time. Then two days later OP posted an update.

I spoke with my daughter the next evening after she came home from work. Her boyfriend was in the house at the time. I pulled her aside for a couple of minutes and let her know what happened. She was surprised because she'd already had this talk with her boyfriend. She said that she would handle it and left. A little while later I called them in for dinner. After she finished eating, she confronted him. I'm paraphrasing, but this is basically the conversation. So my dad told me what you said, and I wanted to wait until after dinner to bring it up. I didn't have a good childhood. My biological father treated my mom horribly, and after she left him, he never contacted me again. Her next big relationship was worse. It seemed fine on the outside,

but there was a lot of emotional abuse and controlling behavior. I was caught up in it too. Then, OP came along. I was obviously skeptical at first. He looked like trouble to me. He was making my mom happy, but I was an ICB word to him because bad men were all I'd ever known. He asked me questions for over a year trying to get to know me, and I shut him out. One day, when I was reading, he asked me what book it was. I didn't even answer him. I just lifted it up so that he could see the cover. It was Island of shipwrecks in the unwanted series. He said, that looks pretty cool. What's it about? And for the millionth time,

I didn't answer. Maybe two weeks later, he asked if I'd finished the book and I said, yeah, why? And he said, well, I read the other five and I thought you might let me borrow it so I can catch up and we can talk about it. I thought he was lying through his teeth, so I asked him questions about plot points and characters. Not a single wrong answer. I went to my room and got the book for him. It's kind of a dumb story, but you have to understand something. My dad is the first

man who's ever been nice to me, and I gave him plenty of reasons not to be. He was patient and thoughtful, and never pushed me out of my comfort zone, and I'll always be grateful for that. The bottom line is that I love my dad, and the only people who have a say in our relationship is us. If you feel threatened because we're close, that's not going away. Ever. I like you. I have fun with you. But if you think I'll change my relationship with my dad for you, then you've made a mistake. If you're too insecure to handle the fact that I'm close to my dad, this is not going to work out. If you can handle it, I'd love to have you around. Otherwise, at this point, the boyfriend kind of interrupted her and said,

It's not just because you're close, I get that he's been good to you and your mom, and that's great. But have you seen this guy? Yeah, what about it? It just makes it really weird for me. I don't know how to explain it other than that. You're way closer to your dad than anyone I've ever met, and it's a little creepy when you take into account that he looks like he could be a, what are you doing step daughter type a guy? Look, there's apparently two people at this table who think that my dad is hot, and it's really weird that you're one of them.

For context, there are four people sitting at the table right now. OP, OP's wife, the daughter, and the boyfriend. Choosing time is over. The door is that way. Don't call me. Don't text me. So that's pretty much how it went down. After he left, she cried for a few hours in her room.

When she finally came out, it was around midnight or so, and she sat next to me on the couch. I asked her if she was worried this would be a constant problem, and if she wasn't comfortable with how things are, I can understand and respect that. She hugged me very tightly and just replied, don't be dumb. So, I guess everything's alright. I also thought that it was kinda funny, disrespectful, but funny, that she had this big story planned out. I got some rom-com vibes from it personally, but it was her first boyfriend, so she has no experience having big talks.

And the guy just completely disregarded it. Obviously, empathy and understanding are not his strong points. I feel bad for my daughter because it was her first relationship, but I definitely think that she dodged a bullet. Also, also, opiads, she was wrong though, there were three people at the table. I think I'm extremely hot too. Then another update. My stepdaughter and her boyfriend have since gotten back together, and the physical nature of her showing affection has slowed considerably. She no longer sits in my lap, but she'll still lean on me occasionally when we're watching shows. I suppose she set up new boundaries, which I'm more than happy

to accept, particularly because I'm never on the initiating side anyhow. I only ever wanted her to be comfortable with me, and however she chooses to express that is fine by me. Her boyfriend is a nice enough guy, and I kind of hope that he sticks around. He seems to treat her with respect and kindness, which is all I can really ask for. And despite the sarcasm in the title, it's pretty accurate. I am a 6 foot 5 blacksmith, though I'm not great at it, who happens to be an awesome dad, an amazing

partner, and my family uses me as a pillow. I'm not perfect, but I definitely give it my best effort. Okay, this is kind of wholesome. The boyfriend was a little bit dumb, but you know, he got through it I guess. I think he needs to lay off the hub, if you know what I mean. But I am dying to see a picture of Mr. Blacksmith here. This was a funny story. It kind of seems like you just have a very, very normal

relationship with your stepdaughter and your wife, really like healthy and normal. It's just the problem is you're so giga-chad-hot that the guy is intimidated. I guess he and his girlfriend kind of work through it and he was like, yo, I'm being really insecure because your dad is mega-hot and I constantly watch stepdaughter stepfather adult videos on the hub so I got in my brain. The boyfriend's wrong here but I don't want to be too harsh to him. Also, I gotta say, man,

round of applause to the wife in this story. The girl's making eight times her husband salary and has a hot blacksmith husband who's 6'5". The girl is winning at life. Our next reddit post comes from R-slashamai the bad guy. Am I the bad guy for no longer allowing my sister to use my spare vehicle? So I'm a 19 year old guy who moved off to college at the end of this past summer, and my little sister, Emma, who's 17, got her license shortly before I left. I have two vehicles, a Ford F-150 that I restored and took with me to college, and a 98 Dodge

Ram which I bought as a total piece of junk, and then rebuilt, painted, lifted, etc. For my sister's 17th birthday, I gave her the keys to my Dodge, as the car that my parents bought her barely ran half the time and constantly nickeled and dived her money away. She still has the car, she just doesn't drive it often. Keep in mind that both of these trucks are bought and paid for by me. The titles are in my name only and they're on my insurance policy. The agreement for Emma using my Dodge was that she takes care of it and pays me the insurance premium on the truck, 95 bucks a month, and the taking care of it part is what became the issue here. When I left, I had just painted the truck and redone the interior.

The truck had no dents, no rust, etc. It was as pristine as the truck was in 1998 when it was built. I came home for the holidays and found my truck completely trashed. The brand new seats were ripped, the carpet was stained, trash was everywhere in the cab. The passenger side headlight was busted, the fender dented, paint ruined on that fender, the brand new tires were bald in the rear. That's like a thousand dollars in damage in the four months that I've been out of state. I immediately took my keys back. Not only did she trash the car,

but she hadn't told me about the damage which I later discovered came from her drunk driving and hitting a mailbox. My parents, of course, called me a dick for taking away her form of transportation, but I feel like I said pretty easy to follow boundaries that she did not respect. I can handle an accident, but drunk driving, messing up the truck and failing to tell me

about it. I don't think I can forgive that and also continue to let her use the truck. So Reddit, am I the bad guy? Well, I don't know what's going to happen in the update, but this is very clearly a not the bad guy's situation OP. The amount of damage that your sister did to your car in 4 months is insane. If you added up all the damage that I've done to all of my cars throughout my like, I don't know, 10-15 years of driving, I don't come close to this.

She did all this damage in 4 months, I'd be pissed off too. Then later that day, OP posted an update. I spent all day driving my truck with my best friend, Tucker, to body shops and junkyards around the area to find the parts my sister destroyed. The grand total was $1362. Along with that, I told my parents about Emma drunk driving. Emma immediately tried to write out her boyfriend as the one who drove drunk and wrecked. She had apparently lied to them saying that she told me about the damage and that I didn't

care. Now, she's grounded, and her other car, the one that doesn't work well, is being sold to pay me back. And my parents are going to pay me the difference and make her pay them back. They also told me to add the shop rate that I used to charge when I worked on vehicles, so 140 bucks an hour. After 14 hours of labor, that comes out to $1,960. That's on top of the parts cost. So now my sister owes me $3,322. Also, my friend Tucker told his parents about his brother wrecking the truck, and I have to stop here and say I think that Tucker's brother is the girl's boyfriend.

At which point their parents took away his car, license, and electronics. My sister is also grounded. Our next reddit post comes from our slash off my chest. My husband to be, once everyone to know that I'm not... PURE. I've been with my fiance for six years and engaged for the past eight months. I've been doing most of the wedding planning, but my fiance, Ryan, will give his input here and there. So about a month ago, Ryan out of nowhere said that he was talking to some of his co-workers

and things that I shouldn't wear a white dress at the wedding. This was totally weird to me. Ryan is a very artistic guy, so I figured this was more about how the photos would turn out or something along those lines, but I'm set on wearing white. I told him this, and I could see that he was annoyed, but he let it go. Two weeks ago, I finally picked and paid for my dress, and this caused a huge argument. Ryan again came to me very annoyed. He asked to see the dress I picked, but I said no because I wanted it to be a surprise for our wedding day. He asked me to at least tell him what color it was, and when I said white, he threw a fit. I honestly do not see why this was a big deal.

Almost everyone wears white on their wedding day. When I asked him what color he thought I'd be wearing, he told me I should wear red. Again, this was super weird to me. I asked him why would I wear red to our wedding and he told me that brides only wear white when they're pure. For some background, Ryan and I started dating when I was 21 and he had just turned 20. He was a virgin when we met and I had only been with one person who was my ex-boyfriend of four years throughout high school. This caused a lot of problems the first year of our relationship, and we almost didn't continue dating because of how insecure he felt. After that first year, it was never a problem again, until now, I guess.

He went to his mom about all this, thinking she would convince me, but she's on my side. So two nights ago, Ryan, his mom and I stood in our living room and argued about my sex life being shown in a dress. His mom said that he's no longer a virgin either, so maybe he should wear red too, and he burst out crying. Ryan is still saying that me wearing white would be deceiving all the guests, and that it's different for guys. This has honestly made me question even marrying this man.

I don't know if it's just because everything's so fresh, but I'm really disgusted by him. He's not even religious, so I know this is all just about him still thinking about me losing my virginity at 18 before I even knew him. I just needed to rant about how psycho this is. Then exactly two weeks later, OP posts on r-slash dating advice. What do I wear to my first date and six years? I'm in my late 20s and I just broke off an engagement. This is going to be my first date in many, many years.

We're going to a nice waterfront seafood restaurant in North Carolina. It's a beach, but also November, so I have no idea what would be appropriate. Well OP, whatever you wear, don't wear white I guess. You wouldn't want to deceive that poor guy about your purity, would you? Man, this post would make sense if it were written in like, I don't know, 1372. But in 2023, it's pretty nuts, so, man, it's pretty nuts, so. That was our slash best of redditor updates, and if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new reddit podcast episodes every single day.

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