rSlash - r/Trueoffmychest My Husband Spent $100,000 on OnlyF@ns

Episode Date: February 23, 2023

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Welcome to our slash true off my chest where OP finds out that her husband has spent a hundred thousand dollars on only fans. Our next reddit post is from new new throwaway. My husband and I are looking to buy a house and this cute house is about to hit the market. We both really like it. My husband got an ATV in July 2022 and we use my credit but he makes the payment. Currently, he's $18,000 in debt on my credit card. So I was talking to him, seeing if just he could get approved for the loan since I don't think that I could. Even though we've been married for almost a year, we didn't want to merge finances,

which I know now was a mistake. So I checked his credit card and he's over $17,000 in debt. I found out last Friday at work. I told him to meet me for lunch and that I was upset. I've been crying because I was thinking he had a gambling issue or something because he hasn't been buying anything. Like we're not getting packages delivered to the house so gambling makes sense, right?

But it's worse. My husband is $17,000 in debt because of only fans. He spent probably $100,000 in the five years that we've been together. Wow, that's a lot of adult content. Okay, believe it or not, you know, it's kind of up to you if you want to believe this. I have never purchased adult content before. I don't really know how much adult content $100,000 will get you. That's a lot of content. That's a lot of content. How many adult videos is this guy watching? Is it like six hours a day? Well, what's the math on this? 100K over five years, that's 20K. That's 20K per year, 20 divided by 12. It's a little over 1K.

It's $1,600 per month. Divide it by 30? How much is it spending per day? $50 per day. I mean, I guess it doesn't sound too bad. Like, on an individual day by day basis, like spending 50 bucks on something, how much adult content does 50 bucks get you though?

Because if you go to the movies, that's like 20 bucks. If you buy a video game, a video game nowadays goes for 60 bucks, but when you buy a $60 video game, you expect like 40 hours of content out of it. Is this like super premium, premium, ultra premium deluxe adult content? I'm sorry, I'm not getting really off content. I'm sorry. I know I'm getting really off topic.

I just, I don't even comprehend. How does this guy have enough hours in the day to consume this much adult content? Am I underestimating how much it costs to follow someone on OnlyFans? That's gotta be it. I've gotta be underestimating. How much, how much does it cost?

I've gotta make an account. I'm not gonna do that. My wife, my wife's gonna be like, sweetie, why do you have an only-pan subscription? Um, it's for a video, I promise. Let me just go back and find it in this like multiple thousands of videos I have published. And one of these, I made an account for a joke, I promise.

The typical only-pan model charges 10 bucks a month. Wait, 10 bucks a month. So that means, hold on. Wait, what? He was doing $1,600 per month, but divided by 10, that's 160 individual people that he's supporting on OnlyFans. Oh, so I think it's not volume, it's variety. Wow, that is a lot of content. Okay, down in the comments, I'm gonna read this reply from Diablo avocado. The number one reason for divorce, infidelity. The number two reason for divorce, finances. OPs, somehow your husband managed to kill two birds with one stone there.

I think, yeah, I think your only option is divorce because not only does this guy have an insane I think your only option is divorce, because not only does this guy have an insane P word addiction that I can't say on YouTube, adult video addiction, this guy is spending money like he hates it. Man, I can't get over this. When does this guy have time to do this? I think he doesn't have a job,

and then he just stays at home and like passionately hugs himself all day. But, you know, if he's got a hundred K to spend over five years and clearly he does have a job. Oh man. Good luck, Opie. Good luck. Our next Reddit post is from Similar Light.

My husband basically begged for a year, maybe longer, to sleep with other people. He knew I didn't want it. I told him no, over, and over, and over. I would cry so many times after he would ask. I told him I was depressed about it. I didn't want to do it. Why does he even want other people? He said that it's nothing about me, he just wants to see what it's like with other people.

That I look good, but he isn't doing it because of looks. Basically, he just wanted to try anyone else. After he wouldn't stop asking, I said fine. I told him I didn't want to do it, but he wouldn't quit asking so fine, just go for it. He did some stuff with another person, but not full blown intercourse. That's all he's done. The whole time, he told me that I can go do it too, and I can have fun and go away for the night. Well, I wasn't that interested, but I started talking to someone, and the conversation just went that way.

I haven't felt wanted like this in forever. But I started talking to someone and the conversation just went that way. I haven't felt wanted like this in forever. Keep in mind, he told me a week ago that I can go find someone and just tell him when I'm going. So I told him last week that I'm talking to someone. Then the other night I said, okay, I'm gonna go do it. Well, then he comes to me the next day and says that he was so sad about it and couldn't sleep all night and he's scared that I'm going to leave him.

I told him honestly I'm pretty pissed because I felt like that for over a year and he knew how I didn't want to do it but he kept begging so he's getting what he wanted. So now he's saying that he regrets it and he feels bad for doing that to me. I told him, oh well, he did it and it's BS to change his mind when it's to me. I told him, oh well, he did it, and it's BS to change his mind when it's benefiting me. I honestly might divorce him if he tells me that I can, because he puts me through so much garbage. I don't want to be a single mom, but I'm pretty mad about this. I gave him what he wanted after all that torment and heartache, and now he's pulling this. He said that he hasn't changed his mind yet, but if he does, then I'm done.

He wanted this, he got it. He didn't care about how much it hurt me. OP, if it makes you feel any better, this is a pretty common occurrence, this kind of theme and stories, especially on reddit. The husband or the boyfriend is like, sweetie, I think that we should have an open relationship. Okay, here's an open relationship. No, no, no, I think that we should have an open relationship. Okay, here's an open relationship. No, no, not like that. I don't mean an open relationship for you.

I mean an open relationship for me. I don't mean to make a lot of your situation OP because this is like life-destroying. Just um, I want you to know that you're not alone. That a lot of other people have gone through this as well. And I do want to say as hard as this might be to hear that more than likely your marriage is already over, you just don't know it yet. Our next reddit post is from Shattered Heart. So I'm a 28 year old woman, and I've been with my husband, who's 30 for 9 years married for 2. Me and my sister, who's 26, were never

really close, but we didn't hate each other. Anyways, I've been suspicious of my husband cheating on me for a while, and I went through his phone while he slept. I saw a text on a texting app that he has on his phone that read, I really do love you and the love we make, but I'm tired of being your little secret. This has been going on for too long, and you need to tell her or I will.

My heart dropped. I woke my husband up screaming at him and showed him the text and he admitted to everything. He just started crying and telling me that text came from my sister and they've been sleeping together since the night before our wedding. He then said she begged him not to marry me and he told her no because he loved me and then they passionately hugged for the first time that night. And the second time was on her 25th birthday three months later.

She threw a party that we both attended. He went to use the bathroom, and she followed him, and seduced him, and he couldn't stop himself. Then he came back to the party like nothing happened. They continued to passionately hug anytime they could ever since. He told me the story through sobs and I couldn't stop crying and screaming. How could he do this to me with my sister? I broke his stuff in the house and even went full on waiting to exhale and burned his clothes on the grill. He begged and pleaded that

it would never happen again, that he would cut her off and we can move away from everybody and start over just us. I spit in his face and told him that I hated him and I never wanted to see him again. I went to my parents house that night and told them everything. They didn't believe me at first, but my husband called me and I put him on speaker phone while he confessed everything. He begged and pleaded, and then my parents believed everything. The next day my sister came to my parents house. She saw me crying on the couch and asked what was wrong, and I just snapped.

I didn't say a word. I just attacked her. She had a black eye and I knocked out a tooth. My dad broke us up and my mom slapped her so hard across the phase she started crying. Before I could tell my sister that I knew everything, my mom already spilled the beans. She called her a whore and pushed her outside. She begged my mom to forgive her. Words spread about what happened fast. My husband wouldn't stop trying to win me back. He kept showing up to my job,

following me to the bank, popped up randomly in grocery stores, and even made a post on Facebook admitting to what he did and expressing his love and guilt. He accepted all the backlash he got. But I didn't care. I told him to go f himself. I guess he hasn't been seeing my sister

since everything went down because a friend of mine sent me a screenshot of a post she made saying something like, I can't believe this. For two years he held me, kissed me, made love to me, and made me feel like I was his world, and then just ghost me like the last two years didn't happen. Why is this happening to me?

Why can't you just answer the phone? Why don't you love me anymore? I guess people put two and two together and she got a lot of backlash. And it wasn't too long before her post was deleted along with her entire Facebook account. I was pissed that this B word had the nerve to cry about my husband. I drove to her apartment and tried to get her to open the door, but she called the cops on me so I left. She had to quit her job because her co-workers found out and shunned her. She had no more friends because they didn't trust her, and my parents refused to speak to or acknowledge her. Last Monday on the 16th, I got a phone call saying that my sister was deceased and it was

because she unalived herself. I didn't know how to feel. I didn't want her to die, but I couldn't care less about her well being at the same time. We got her note and she explained how she felt so guilty for falling in love with my husband and betraying me, but she couldn't help her feelings for him. She said that she can't continue to live this way, knowing that everyone hates her, especially me. And she knows that she shouldn't feel this way, because I was the one that was betrayed. I don't believe it. I think the real reason she did this

is because my husband doesn't want to see her anymore. I know my sister, and when she falls, she falls hard. Besides, since everything came to light, she would text him begging for him to talk to her and sending voicemails about how she needs him, and to talk to her or she would unalive herself. My husband sent me a screenshot every time she sent a text, even let me listen to the voicemail. I don't plan on going to her funeral, and I don't plan on letting my parents hear that voice message because they're already a huge wreck.

They won't bother me about not going, they understand why. They'll be paying for all the funeral arrangements. As for my husband, I still love him so deeply, but I hate him at the same time. Part of me wants to try to work it out, just despite that did beward, and the other part has morals. I can't picture my life without him, but every time I see him, I picture him with her, and I refuse to live the rest of my life torturing myself like that. I just needed to get this off my chest since she just passed away, and I can't really talk to anybody in the real world like this. Man, I don needed to get this off my chest since she just passed away and I can't really talk to anybody in the real world like this. Man, I don't know what this guy's

deal is that he can have such a grip on two separate women, but OP, you have gotta move on from this. His whole thing about, oh, I couldn't help myself, I'm so sorry, girl, this guy was sleeping around behind your back for what two years? Yeah, two years. That's seven hundred days of consistently cheating, cheating, cheating, cheating, and then cheating six hundred and eighty eight more times. This guy's not sad that he cheated. He's sad that he got caught. Our next way to post is from I Hate Life.

I'm a 19 year old girl who grew up with a single mom. Growing up, I was always told that my father abandoned me. When I was around 10, I asked my mom about my dad, and she told me that he straight up abandoned me. I cried so much that day that it's not a joke. As I grew older, I hated him, even though I never met him. I thought about if he came back, I would scream at him, ruin him, attack him for leaving. Last week, my mom and I were at her friend's house, and I went along because

I'm friends with her friend's daughter. Well, later on, I came downstairs, and I heard them say my name. My mom revealed my dad's name and said, it's easy to keep a father out of a kid's life like what I did with O.P.'s father after I found out that he cheated on me. She was also talking about how pathetic he looked when he pleaded with her to stay in my life. She also added how she used his old drug addiction against him in court. So from what I now understand, he was sober before I was born. I made contact with my biological dad as soon as we got home.

The next morning I got a reply, and he asked for my number so we could talk. The first thing my dad said when he called was apologize, and tell me that it was all his fault. After talking with him for a while, I told him I would love to have a relationship with him. He lives not far from our city, just a two hour drive. As for my mom, she's at work, and I sent her a text telling her about what I heard, and I'll be cutting off contact with her for a while, and probably forever. And then Opie posted an update. I inherited my uncle's house after he died, and that's when my mom started acting weird. She believed the house belonged to her and fought with my grandfather over it, but he put his foot down and told her that it's my house.

Secondly, when I turned 18 and moved into the house, my mom moved in with me. I didn't want to live with her again, but she told me that she would cut off my college fund. Well, now my grandpa told me that he would pay for my college. Also, another detail about my mom. When my parents split up, my grandfather told her that he didn't support her decision to keep my father out of my life. But she told him that he would never see either one of us. Also, my mom acts like my house belongs to her and always told me, technically, it's my house and it should have been given to me.

Opie, um, you need a lawyer. Like, putting aside all this stuff about your mom lying to you and you just found your dad and that's great news and all, but you need a lawyer, 100%. It's important to understand that like, once people live in a house for long enough, they start to get some kind of rights and it's like difficult to remove them from the house if they don't want to be removed. And I don't know where where you are so it's difficult for me to talk about the you know local laws but for real OP you 100% need a lawyer. We already know that your mom is capable of lying in court to get what she wants. So what's stopping her from doing that again to steal your house from you. again to steal your house from you. That was our slash true off my chest, and if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast

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