Saturn Returns with Caggie - *Moments* Disguising our inner critic with Stef Williams

Episode Date: October 30, 2022

In this week's moment, hear businesswoman and online fitness personality, Stef Williams, discussing the idea of ‘Swanning’ with Caggie. You’ll hear why it’s important to recognise when we are presenting as a ‘Swan’, to prevent our inner critic from controlling our self-worth. The full episode will be available tomorrow at 7 am. The conversation touches upon: drinking culture and becoming sober-curious; discipline and why it is a core principle of Saturn; how our own binary thinking can affect the perception we have of ourselves and how Stef navigated her way out of her eating disorder. --- Follow or subscribe to "Saturn Returns" for future episodes, where we explore the transformative impact of Saturn's return with inspiring guests and thought-provoking discussions. Follow Caggie Dunlop on Instagram to stay updated on her personal journey and you can find Saturn Returns on Instagram, YouTube and TikTok.  Order the Saturn Returns Book. Join our community newsletter here.  Find all things Saturn Returns, offerings and more here.

hello everyone and happy sunday i hope you're having a lovely weekend to share with you a clip and a moment from tomorrow's episode of saturn returns where i am joined by businesswoman and online fitness personality steph williams aka steph fit and in this moment we discuss the idea of swanning swanning is the sort of concept where we are presenting a certain version of ourselves to the world but what is going on internally might be vastly different. We also discuss in this episode our own inner critics and how this impacts our sense of self-worth. The full episode will be available tomorrow at 7am and this conversation touches upon drinking culture

and becoming sober curious, discipline and why it's a core principle of Saturn and how our own binary thinking can affect the perception we have of ourselves. Steph also explores some very personal subjects that I found really resonated with me and it's not one to be missed. You can pre-order the Saturn Returns book

and buy tickets to the Saturn Returns book and buy tickets to the Saturn Returns live show please follow the link in the show notes part of like feeling like a little bit lost I think in my early 20s um I think had like a massive part of that um and I you know my like my parents my husband everyone's like well your fitness has always been like your love like your passion like why you know I stopped doing I played I played through throughout school and then I stopped and that's kind of like also I think had an impact on my mental health because that was my like um release and my you know outlet yeah very fortunate that yeah I have like my family

and husband to kind of like pick me up and, you know, see the signs where, you know, I might be feeling that way inclined again, and not speaking to myself nicely. And, you know, just saying, I'm being so mean to myself, to your friends, or like my mom, or husband, and then just kind of like you getting that routine, which is what I spoke about earlier, which is why I think that they can encourage you to do it yeah exactly I think having that support system is so key and it reminds me of what we were talking about earlier about the swan thing because I think as well not only to like through social media and stuff but to the world and people like me I wanted to present the swan and so in relationship it was challenging

for me to actually say hey I'm not okay and this is what's going on in my head right now and cannot like is it safe for me to share that with you but I think that that's such a transformational thing to be able to do because we need support in that area and we need people to kind of call us out on our own in a critic talk and get us back on track yeah I think it's hard isn't it that first you know like you said when you met your boyfriends you know so like oh god you've you think I'm like this actually like i kind of feel like i have this demon and that sometimes i like are you going to accept that as well and like obviously you know people will accept that generally speaking that people are very understanding

and like lovely and if you speak to someone they're never going to do anything other than care they won't pass judgment because actually a lot of the time as well with women when I've spoken about it with my friends they have some kind of demon or something that you know they want to speak about too or so yeah I think talking about things obviously I think we all have that thing that we think about ourselves that makes us feel we are unworthy of love of belonging and of being that we're not enough yeah and that thing can just it's so sad because like you said if we shared it and we're a little bit more honest with each other we'd recognize that actually it's all very human we all have our flaws we all have our demons and it's just like part of the tapestry of life. But when we internalize it, you think, oh, if they knew this about me, they wouldn't love me.

And it's so untrue. And it's been through, and it sounds like it's the same for you, just being vulnerable enough to share that, regardless of the fear that comes up around it, and having a new experience that can then counteract that thought and I think that that you know for anyone listening is the best piece of advice I could give on this subject it's like have someone that you could share that with and it will give you such a profound and new experience that when that thought comes back you can refer to that because when it's just you in your own head it's like they think the voice in your head's like no no this is what would happen