Scheananigans with Scheana Shay - A Holiday Q&A Part 2

Episode Date: December 9, 2022

This week, Scheana and Brock are back in action for the Holiday Q&A Part 2! Scheana retells the story of how she got Blacklisted from Dancing with the Stars four years ago and what happened when they scanned her ID when she recently went back. They discuss the real reason they left San Diego, keeping things fresh in a relationship after having a baby, and how to encourage your partner to be more sensitive. Tune in this week to see if your question was answered! Follow us: @scheana @scheananigans   Don't forget the official Scheananigans Merch    Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.    Go to http://www.everyplate.com/podcast and use code scheana149 to get your first box at $1.49 per meal   Go to www.talkspace.com and use code SHAY to get $100 off your first month   Produced by Dear Media   See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Because we're good as gold. Because we're a little under the weather we you said yesterday you were feeling a little weak yeah i'm not gonna do you know like the feeling when you're at home and you and you feel like the aches come on, right? And like it's the aches. Yeah. And you wake up in the morning and you're like, oh, that doesn't feel right. I was there, but I didn't want to like.

Admit it. No, not admit it. I didn't want to add to the stress that I know you already had gone on your head because you thought you had obviously could be covid or whatever no i honestly didn't think it was covid this time because the two times i've had covid i haven't had symptoms really interesting so you just knew it was like a flu i know there's flus going around i thought yeah i thought you were just gonna worry be worried about that so i just didn't want to mention it i was like i'll tough it out no i was honestly just worried about getting summer sick that's why i was like i don't want to you know share a straw with her or have her sleep on my chest i didn't

want to breathe around her i was considering like do i wear a mask because i just don't want to see her get sick and then fucking kid has a runny nose after her nap i'm like damn it but yeah but listen honey you gotta you gotta think of it like you were around here how much and you were sick you know what i mean like so for her just to get a runny nose and bounce back today you know perfect so yeah well done i'm glad you guys are well yeah and today we're feeling better but um you can probably tell from my voice it's still a little hoarse. I've been quite congested. And my friend Tori Keith, who I've podcasted with before, she was going to come into the studio today. She is also sick. I'm like, okay, it's just going around right now. We are going to reschedule. We're going to do a podcast focusing on all things

mental health, anxiety, depression, OCD, and like so much more. But we're going to do a podcast focusing on all things mental health anxiety depression OCD and like so much more but we're going to save that for probably after the holidays instead you got stuck with me tonight listeners hey I thought you're saying me I'm like I will always want to be stuck with you no but also there were so many questions that came in after we podcasted because we posted and then like five hours later podcasted. So I figured this was the perfect opportunity to just continue last week's podcast, do a part two Q&A because there were still so many good questions. But I know my sister doesn't want to be around me sick. So she is not here to moderate and ask the questions. So what does that mean? So that means we can ask the questions?

That means the questions came in. Do you have like random ones there? Can I look at some more questions too? I haven't even looked at them yet. I'm just swiping through. Yeah, I'm just going to ask. All right, let's lucky dip on the, wait, this is heated. Okay, so we're going to.

She sent me 19 questions. I don't know that we'll answer all of them. Are these going to be you answer, answer or just it depends some questions might be just for me some might be for both some is just a general question all right let's shoot from the hip is this one right here okay several sizer 04 wants to know what were you most anxious about going into filming? I think that is a both question. Oh yeah, I guess so. I mean, for me, when, when to answer that question, I mean, I get anxious every season. I don't know. I had nothing to compare it to. Yeah. I didn't have any, any understanding of that obviously. So I wasn't anxious. And to be honest, I was just kind of pretty like, this is cool moments.

Just like when we got to do really cool things, like go to the polo field grounds. Yeah. For James. Richella was dope. For Richella, right? So I don't think I never really had anything going into last season. Yeah. And then, yeah.

You're just not an anxious person. Like must be fucking nice honey must be nice you know what honey i i really i really want to try and be more present so hopefully we can do work on that together and i can help with your anxiousness and you can help with my non-anxiousness and give put a bit of a fire under me you know yeah okay i like that balance each other out you don't you but you obviously you said you get anxious i feel like yeah i mean i am about filming an anxious person by nature so with filming every season i always get anxious before the season you know

i'm not always i don't think i've ever in 10 years gone into a season where I'm getting along with every single person. Maybe actually, maybe season seven. I would have to fact check. But I think that was a time when I was good with everyone. Yeah. I don't know. Basically, every season there's someone or something that I'm anxious about because we're not always all getting along

ain't that the truth you know it's like who's gonna come for me what are they gonna say I'm gonna put that out there like this group is very kind of like they go through you guys go through some stuff like you go through you go for the ringer with each other and then to kind of but then after outside of that you guys have your appearances bravo con like and you're within the work environment so there's like a good foundation of respect how how like the friendships you guys have you know and it's just crazy how that how these friendships get tested and all that oh yeah for sure wild we've been through the ringer yeah exactly that the ringer yeah it's like it i've been

hanging around with you guys for two years i mean we've been together over three now i know you might have everyone pretty early on so yeah you're right yeah wow honey we are aging i know we are yeah actually when was it when it was it the other day I realized, like, oh, I'm old. Because I was lifting, right? And I hurt my back. Yeah. And I hurt my back and it was like a severe lower back injury because I wasn't using my core, which there is no core left. It's just a little bigger than when I was younger.

So definitely feeling the age tick on. Well, you still look good, honey. Thanks, baby. Let's get on this train. We've got New Year's coming up. We've got homebody crushing training. So if anybody is interested in doing any type of personal coaching online, where we can do nutrition plans, programming, daily check-ins, and then also weekly calls. So if anyone's interested for the New Year's, let us know. Homebody's got some great things going on. And I look forward to hopefully catching up with people throughout the New Year. But we're going to set some goals and crush them.

I think we should do some lives, me and you on there too. Yeah. I would love to do some with you. Now that we've finally moved in, it looks like Santa Claus has had vomit, the North Pole, everywhere in this house. He has vomited everywhere. now that we've finally moved in it looks like santa claus has had vomit the north pole everywhere in this house he has vomited everywhere but thank you very much erica for yeah my mom came over and decorated everything yesterday and it looks so good also i was gonna say speaking of lives brock and i are hosting fan room Live tomorrow, December 10th.

It's going to be a virtual meet and greet experience. We're going to do like a Q&A town hall style online event. So all of our fans who check into that will be able to video chat with us, ask us questions, and it'll be fun. I remember that. Yeah, I know it's coming up this weekend i really like that like that way it's gonna be a great way to connect with everybody see some faces again yeah what do i know i'm just doing like the huddles and stuff right because it's a great way

for people to like connect with you guys so wait when we're on homebody honey if we're hosting a live do i see the people in the class? Yeah, if they share their camera. Oh, okay. So it's their option. Yeah. Got it. Okay, I love that because I do miss that interaction. The goal of seeing people while they're working out too

is also motivation. Because let's be real, sometimes we're all on different levels. So the goal is to be able to connect with people. If we couldn't see what they're doing, it doesn't really add that kind of we're here for everybody and we all get to do it at our own pace. Yeah, for sure. Princess Janelle wants to know, she said, this is more of a question for you.

I think she means me. Yeah, because I posted it. Did you stop smoking prior to conceiving Summer? I did, actually, because after we had the miscarcarriage I knew I wanted to have another baby So I was like clean And good and made sure I was ready in case he impregnated me Again soon and lo and behold

One what? One what? What was that? What were you going to say? Something inappropriate? Yeah I just stopped myself I looked at her sideways with one eye open oh my god i gave her a wink and then yeah that's that's how babies are made people

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how are you enjoying therapy i just feel like i finally know what one of the main issues is and that's the postpartum ocd and just ocd in general and although I have yet to find a psychiatrist who I want to have make that proper diagnosis, I think my therapist is trained enough to know the signs and everything. And she's treated so many people who have been diagnosed by a psychiatrist. So just having those conversations with her have been so eye-opening. And I just feel like a weight was lifted knowing, oh, okay, this is what it is. And then talking about it on this podcast, speaking about it with friends and family and finding out so many other people, so many other moms deal with this. As bad as I have it, maybe worse. It just it's crazy that I feel like it's such a silent thing that no one talks about because they don't want

to seem like they're crazy or a danger to their child or like, how could you see such dark things in your mind? So no one talks about it i've certainly never talked about it before because i'm like what is wrong with me and now i know so when they when they say postpartum for out of postpartum ocd and it's often misdiagnosed for postpartum depression and let me tell you honey when I went in at my six-week check for postpartum depression, they do this like checklist. And there were maybe say two out of the 20 questions that I could have said yes. But you didn't.

But I didn't because I knew that the 18, I knew it wasn't postpartum depression. I just knew that's not what it was. But the couple of questions that I related to, you didn't want to confess on because you didn't know. You don't want it. I didn't want to be diagnosed from postpartum depression when I just, I knew in my heart and gut, that's not what it was.

Wow. But we're going to get way more into this when Tori comes on my podcast. So I'm going to save the rest of the depression talk for that mental health episode. I love that. I just coming off a talk space ad, I just have to emphasize in the conversation how much I am a therapy stan. Me and you, we've talked about it and i've never heard you say it like you just said just then how the fact that it's not talked about enough i try to explain myself more eloquently on the podcast than maybe sometimes conversing with you in the kitchen yeah so we just need to hop

on the mics more babe because when you put it like that it's like damn like if this is a real thing if it's being misdiagnosed as depression if you don't want to try and be perceived as depressed so you don't answer the right things on a ticket. Like that all in itself is just sounds very frustrating to deal with and let alone deal with it by yourself. So I'm sorry. And I'm here for you. We should talk on podcasts more often because we talk and listen to each other. I love it. Forced to listen.

Yeah, we forced the listeners to listen to this. No phones, well, except for reading the questions. Okay. Oh, my God. JDfish23, would you say yes if they asked you to be on Dancing with the Stars? JDfish. Is this for me?

Yes. I think that's for you, honey. Okay, so funny story. J.D. Fish. Is this for me? Yes. I think that's for you, honey. Okay, so funny story. Yes, yes, hard yes to that question. I have wanted to be on this show ever since I was in college and not a reality star. I watched the show from the first season.

I've watched that show grow. I have been to the show so many times with my mom until November 2018. I go with my mom to see Dancing with the Stars. It was a really sad day. She had to put her dog down that day. And I was like, it was the finale. And I knew this was just going to cheer her up. So when I've said this story on the podcast before, I'm just going to give the short version. But when we checked in, they found a weed pen in my purse. Long story short, apparently once you cross the gates at the CBS lot, it's like private federal property.

And I brought drugs onto that property. At the time, I had my medical card. They didn't care. They took my ID. They said, don't ever come back. They took my ID. They made it sound very serious so for the last four years you got 86 out of dancing with the stars i got blacklisted yes

so i have not tried to go back i have not known anyone close enough on the show that's been worth like trying to go back for until this season it It was when they announced the lineup. I was like, oh my God, it's fucking Teresa and Heidi and Shangela and Gabby and so many people this season. Trevor, who I did 90210 with, like I had connections to so many people who were on this season. I'm like, God, I got to go. I got to go. But I don't because I'm scared. So I don't ask anyone. Teresa goes home after like two weeks, which was such a bummer. But for the finale, she's like, you and Brock should come. Now, I don't tell Teresa that I might not be allowed on the lot again. And maybe, maybe, just maybe this is a reason that in the past

four years, I haven't been asked on the show. I'm just telling myself that because I haven't been asked on the show. So I'm like, maybe I'm actually blacklisted. But Teresa's like, don't worry. I got your name down. You're good to go. Here's the confirmation email. But she doesn't forward me the email. she sends me a screenshot of the email so i'm like okay we'll just hope this is good we rock up to the gate the guy is looking at my id and if you watched my vlog or actually i don't even think this part has come out yet but you'll see in my vlog how they spelled my name on the seats because when you walk into dancing with the stars they have a paper printed out with your first and last name so you know

where your seat is because it's designated well what did it say it said s c h e c i n c i yeah it was i don't know what that we're trying to get to i have no idea it was like shinchini shay and i'm like okay so i think there was already an issue with him trying to find my name based on whatever spelling it was in he finds brock's name i give him my id he looks up and he was like hold on this is also going to be in the vlog i believe believe, next week. And the guy's like, I don't really know how to say this to you, but your name matches the name of someone who's not allowed on property. So my supervisor is going to come over and have a talk with you. And I'm like, no fucking way. This is real. This is an actual thing. I am actually blacklisted still from dancing with the stars oh my god so i'm freaking

out a little bit now there are there is the longest line of cars behind us because we're just stuck at the gate i was like sir would you like me to pull over he's like no it's fine they're having cars go around they're checking them in every other place it was the supervisor comes over she says and i quote she leads with this is this the marijuana girl and i'm like oh my god yes yes ma'am it's me she goes you want to explain to me what happened and this chick like this is not a woman you want to fuck with i was like okay okay a little scared and i was like ma'am it was it was four years ago i came with my mom i'm a mom now by the way i had a weed pen and my medical card in my purse i just i i didn't know i wasn't gonna smoke it in the show i didn't know and she was just like like i'm just gonna like stop you right there

she's like it's fine it's fine for a second when you were talking to the chick and i was having the conversation in front of me i was like babe what are you saying i know i know i just felt like i had to explain everything and she was like it's 2022 like it's all good you can bring your phone into the show now you can bring your weed pen into the show you know what else you can bring into the show you can bring actual fucking weed because that's what Gigi had. She had joints in her purse. And I was like, I mean, of course she does. That's like a huge part of her brand. But I'm like, but you brought it into the show. And she's like, yeah, because we're going to smoke it before we walk into the show. And I was like, yeah, no, I'm good because I'm like, that's all I need is to be smoking a joint in the parking lot and to have her rock up and be like marijuana girl.

Really? So needless to say, long story short, we got into the show. It was amazing. Dancing with the Stars. Hit me up. I'm ready. Hey, honey, you know what I just realized then when you were telling that story? Yeah. You are not just the jonas brothers pizza girl you are the dancing with the stars marijuana

or the seat is it the cbs yeah but i'm the dancing with the stars marijuana girl yeah or i guess you can call me the cbs yeah dancing with the stars cbs yeah so i don't know if i ever am on that show one day like do they want me to tell this story in the package for one of the nights? Probably not. Probably not. It'll just die here on shenanigans. All right. Bitty Yoda. Did you say die here on shenanigans? Like that story just will die here on shenanigans.

I don't think it's going to die on shenanigans. If anything, it's going to get talked about. No, I'm saying like I wouldn't talk about it on the show if i that like this is the last time i would probably talk about it is what i'm saying roger that bitty yoda oh why are you leaving san diego oh i don't want to talk about it because i'm gonna cry i don't even want to talk about it because i'm gonna cry and when you see my vlog next week, so follow me around vlog, we have the dancing with the stars,

but then we have this thing that justice made of our memories in San Diego. And it's the best. It just, it doesn't make sense for us anymore. If we were able to buy that property and own it and make money on it, then I would have kept it. But it doesn't make any sense to have two rentals. We rent in LA. I own in Palm Springs. As much as I love, love, love San Diego, it was never really supposed to be more than a year, two years max.

That was always the plan with you know lockdown and the pandemic and everything we didn't think that we would ever be down there longer once work and everything opened back up la is where it's at and last year we had our place in hollywood and because that wasn't the best place to have a baby but we got a killer deal on an awesome new building we also that was when we tried to move back up to la there was nothing much available like rentals were a nightmare to try and get anywhere so we got yeah so we got a good deal and i loved the inside of that apartment i loved the building i just wished it was like on the west side so you know we kept san diego and we had the first six months of this year while raquel stayed

in our apartment in hollywood we kept it there we had san diego and it made sense until our lease was up and then they raised the rent a shit ton by the way and it just didn't make sense anymore we'll be back san die Diego. We will be back. This works out this way that work is up here in LA. We sold the gyms in San Diego. So that left us with nothing. Back in San Diego, really for myself and you and your family and everybody's up here. So it made sense.

Do you love living up here, honey? I do. I love where we're at, like where we're sitting right now. This home that we're in, this condo is as similar as we could get to the inside of our house in San Diego. We don't walk out to the sand, but we do walk out to a pool, a jacuzzi. We've got a park across the street, a grocery store, restaurants, a movie theater, like everything right here in walking distance that we didn't have in San Diego.

So I do love it here. And that's made it a little easier. But every time I move out of a place, I'm going somewhere bigger and better. And that wasn't the case here. I feel it's similar. And I do love it here. But we gave up. We were very lucky to get that place in the first place and our neighbors that we had down there so it's uh

it's it's bittersweet but yeah it was more bitter i agree with you it's it's uh we know we've got what was the sweet part honey i mean we got to be up here. Now we get to work in LA a bit more. Well, no, we were always going to be in LA. I don't know, honey. I'm trying to find a silver line and not to be so miserable about it. There isn't one. We just need to hopefully be able to buy that house one day. Well, that's the goal.

That's why we're going to stop renting it and save to try and buy it when it goes on the market. Yeah. Tracy Hugs 2 wants to know, what do you guys do to make each other smile she said love you guys xoxo lemon water love you tracy hugs lemon what i make you make sure i mean that does make me smile every morning i so summer wait depending on what time she wakes up if she wakes up before six we bring her into the bed for some cuddles and we get up around seven. Brock is so awesome and usually lets me sleep until about eight. And then when I get up, he has lemon water ready for me and he would make me breakfast every day, but I'm not that big of a breakfast person. Well, yeah, I mean, I'm trying to get her to eat, Becky, but this doesn't happen.

But that does make me smile yeah lemon water in the morning it's it's for me it's just making sure because the days i don't do it it's like well why didn't i do it it was i was up there i could do it and i know for a fact it means more to you than the effort it takes you to do it you know so just do it so i learned that yeah yeah so if i'm up in the morning before you just did lemon water make put a smile on your face and we're off to a good start of the day what puts a smile on your face that i do what do you know that you do every day that makes me smile i think for me something i do every day that makes you smile is when we check things off our list on the whiteboard when i work out and when i do things that like my self-care yeah i know that makes you happy that's exactly 100 when i see you working

out on the tunnel or asking to do a workout and getting doing that stuff hands down i'm like yeah that's it let's do it because i feel could, I mean, I could offer to make you lunch and dinner and whatever every day, but I don't feel like that like makes you smile. That's just like, oh, thanks. I could have done that myself. Yeah, no, I think it's not that, honey. I think where we are in our relationship, I like watching you grow. Yeah.

And so that makes me smile. Yeah. Yeah. When I do make you my dinners, though, and I have the nice presentation, that makes you smile, yeah when i do make you my dinners though and i have the nice presentation that makes you smile too oh but can i i'm just i'm just at that point i'm not even smiling i'm just a lucky man because i got a wife that works on herself is amazing to me amazing mom and she cooks me dinner like i didn't i didn't have to move the couch i get to be lazy for it for dinner i'm in yeah but i do generally like to cook but i also love to get cooked for yeah i'd like that yeah is there is there anything i do

that you can think of that makes me happy i just feel like that's been the biggest one lately i think well it's it is the biggest one i think for me and what makes me happy is seeing you you know do stuff like work on yourself if that makes any sense yeah so yeah that's those are my big ones okay i like that steph underscore lynn 89 how do y'all keep your relationship fresh and spicy since having summer plus work life vegas yeah we're gonna we're gonna ignore the i mean if you're we're talking about the un un untalked about is that even a thing if we're talking about the untalked about okay i mean who i've got a question for everybody out there comment below and give us a five-star review of your answer but is sex a thing straight after

pregnancy does it exist how long because we have been very much, actually, we've been picking up the pace, but we've been very like, it's gone, it's been put to the backside of things. Yeah, it's not one of the most important parts of our relationship since baby. And unfortunately,

by slipping that behind, like not making it a primary, then it drops behind something else, and then something else, and then it gets, then it becomes. I think that's very normal, honey. honey yeah and i think a lot of couples go through that same thing and maybe don't talk about it but yeah we also i just i think a big part for me is just getting out of

my head which i think i've been better recently. But after having a miscarriage, a traumatic labor, getting help syndrome and all of that, I'm terrified of getting pregnant again. I am not mentally or emotionally ready for that. So that for the first year was really in my head. And then for the past six months, it just, at this point, I feel like it's in God's hands. And if I- Honey, you put an IUD in, it's not in God's hands. I wasn't done. If I, on an IUD, got pregnant,

that child is gonna change this fucking world and I'm not going to get help syndrome but if i do they'll deliver early everything will be fine like but we have to have sex i know but it took me some time to get out of my head yeah to get to that realization it's we didn't go a year without sex i'm just saying mentally it probably took me a year without sex. I'm just saying mentally it probably took me a year to stop totally freaking out about that but then the last six months a little less but it's still there and I went to my

yearly checkup. My doctor's like it is still placed perfectly. It is 99.9% accurate. Your husband does not need to pull out. So I was like alright Dr. Benuni, I'm trusting you. Well we're working on the pullout game just

so for peace of mind for you but the last two times recently that we've had sex yeah i was just like it's good just do it just do it and what happened and you didn't you pulled out pulled out game strong yeah yeah but i've been out of my head and i feel like our sex is back i definitely i don't say yeah it's definitely harder than what it was before you know what i mean before there was a lot of pressure around like oh we have to have sex well yeah it's like we're out of town or we don't have the baby tonight so tonight's the night we have sex because i was also so in my head which still i mean i guess no have we well she's in the other room maybe i'm like have we had sex when yeah we have but you're but you're 100 of thinking about her and i bring it

up as yeah because then i'm like i can't make noises because then she might wake up yeah we she and his head goes in many places and i honestly i feel like a lot of women probably probably do honey they probably do and i'm here for it but to answer your question steph i think for us the trips that we do go out of town but we don't put pressure on it anymore or like this trip we had the whole family there but mom and dad took summer downstairs to get coffee i was horny i was like we got at least 10 15 minutes if the coffee line is long we might have 20 but we have enough time for sure we had enough time oh my god anyway yeah i think to help you out for relationship advice on that point for people getting married is don't think don't put the pressure on it and then the second part with

that would be be spontaneous like yeah don't plan it oh we're gonna have sex tonight you know if that's the conversation just call her into the shower or him into the shower and get it on spontaneously but like because that's what we did last week last week we were in palm springs yeah and you you so politely and in a sexy way but you like asked for my consent you're like honey do you want to like go in and you know do the thing and i was like oh like right now like oh hold on hold on i wasn't ready for this like now i'm just feeling the pressure and i was like uh yeah give me a second but then i was no. We're getting out of the hot tub and doing it right here, right now.

And we did. Yeah, there's that too. Yeah. What? It's not quite how I remember that moment in the hot tub. What do you mean? I was telling the short version. Yeah.

You want to give all the details? No, we don't need to give all the details. But yeah, I think that's my my my uh recommendations or uh advice is be spontaneous yeah yeah definitely sabs underscore h have you cut out alcohol now that you're a mom i guess she doesn't listen to my drinking and podcasting episodes or she's not a mom i'm joking i think you're definitely drinking less well that's also because you're not going to as many events as what we used to be going what do you mean drinking less than when i didn't drink when i was pregnant well outside no before the kid before being pregnant you know what i mean oh yeah yeah i

think yeah i mean we definitely did used to go out more. And then I feel like this summer with filming and events and like so many things kind of back to normal, I feel like I just socially drank more, but I never really drink and get drunk. No. It may be more often, but it's like, like right now you and I are splitting a seltzer. And, you know, I didn't have anything last night. I didn't have anything the night before yeah no i think it's fun i don't think you need to explain that yeah yeah i definitely think uh but but to have that question like now that you're a mother should you be drinking

i don't think that should be a question right you know unfortunately but hey everyone can do what they want do it in a responsibly and uh take care of your kid that's it this is an interesting question what do we got it's a pupper named gypsy when you have a baby do you still have the same amount of love for your pets oh what a question right because here's the thing that i've been feeling of course i still have the same amount of love for them. However, I don't have the same amount of attention I give them. I feel like now and I feel so bad, but especially when summer does come in our bed because Salem, not always Penny, but Salem always sleeps in the bed, sometimes Penny too. And I feel like now when,

if summer, it's one of those nights or the early morning when I get her back to sleep and she's in the bed with us and Salem's in the bed, I'm like pushing him off. And I'm like, no, I'm like protecting summer sleep at all costs. And I feel like I do that more with them. And then I feel so bad because I'm like, Oh, these these were my babies but now this is my baby and don't you wake up my fucking baby salem no and listen your babies are good with each other so that's that's the best part about that and i feel bad too sometimes like salem's just all over us when we're lying down but even before baby he wasn't all over us you know what i mean he was always all over us what are you

talking about he slept on my head that's you he's never all over me then oh yeah but probably now because my attention is split not just between the two cats but between a baby and obviously the baby gets way more of my attention clearly so it's not that my love has changed for them but it's you reckon they've noticed it of course i think so and even like right now penny was trying to hop up but we're doing the podcast i'm like penny can you just lay right here i'm not trying to push you away i just want you right here she would not on top of the podcast machine yeah but salem's next to her so he's not gonna i know they hate each other still still even if a baby they still never bonded over that realized that

they were on the same cats i know now they're enemies still i know i don't know if i haven't noticed a difference but they're not my cats you know yeah so yeah no i mean and they love summer like salem especially is so patient with her penny penny and she's always just been penny but i do feel bad sometimes and i'm just like i want to just give the cats attention but summer isn't human who needs my attention cats so it's different but i still i love my fur babies oh linda kenny underscore how do you deal with the conflict between brock and your mom you've said there has been some so last week we talked about how do you deal with the conflict between me and your mother my love well i feel like sometimes i just like to ignore it completely and not get

involved and just be like you know what that's how he is. That's how she is. I accept it. And I move on with my life. Because I feel like that's the best way. There's no fun in trying to tell you that you're wrong or my mom that she's wrong because you always think you're right. And she always thinks she's right. So I just let you guys be right and deal with each other and then you know uh it's her boy yee-haw how do i get my husband to be more sensitive like you it's nice to see a man's emotions sensitive like me wow i do wear my emotions on my sleeve, I guess. But some would say that it's not a good trait. Some will say I don't have emotions at all. I'm emotionless. But I don't know. I think for me, I have a really good understanding of the person I want to be and the person I want to surround myself and the standards I want to try and keep. And I try and stick to that. And if not, I get emotional about it

because more times than not, you fail at some things you set your goals to. So you get really, you know, Sheena gets upset with me because she thinks I don't have feelings. But I- No, I know you have feelings. I just think sometimes you can be harsh.

I can be. And we were raised completely differently. And I have to remind myself of that. Yeah, but I was just letting him know that the reason why I'm sensitive is because we all have feelings. And sometimes when you think your husband's not sensitive, he probably is sensitive. But just know that he understands. He doesn't know how to express it. Not even that.

We just deal with all of us. We deal with these feelings, but we just process them internally. We process them. And yes, apparently that's bad. And that's why you see me when I get upset. It's just like the straw that breaks the camel's back. You know?

And so, but thank you. I do find, kind of find, what's the word I'm looking for? Comfort. And knowing that, you know, men do cry.

It's not, and that's like, I've never thought of men that couldn't cry, you know, but I do cry often, but that's just because I am committed to what I want to do. Everything. Everything's all in.

Yeah. Yeah. Speaking of being all in Rachel Bennett wants to know if we would be all in to do a family reality show. Oh man. If we could, I mean, obviously give us like,

if I've got a couple more years of working to do up here, rebuilding, but you know, I'd love to just to go on adventures with you guys. Yeah. Down under. Oh my God. Just like, I want to, I want to take the family around the world and take you guys with us to go explore different cultures. And like more than just YouTube.

More than, I mean, hopefully we can get in anywhere. You know, like, no no but I mean like a an actual show like that would be so fun if we were to do a show with the family and travel around the world and just go like because that way you could see like the world but then you can also see the communities how the wives are treated how the husbands are treated how the kids are treated like full 360 degree I would really love that impression or an understanding of different cultures because that's one thing I really love what's going on right now

the World Cup is on for the soccer and it's like you see America come out at 7am to go support America you know and it's cool to get that camaraderie about one sense of thing you know it's not anything else it's just a sport but

america doesn't we don't do that enough over here i joke about it with you of the world series how america plays the world series and you win it but you only play canada i know i don't understand why it's called the world series yeah i never realized that until you asked me and i was like oh yeah that doesn't make sense but now listen i love america please don't think that i'm having a dig at america right now it's just good to have a sense of community getting together but it is outside of it right god especially if you're a chargers fan you have no loyalty that stadium was red at the chiefs game honey did you hear when they sang the national anthem at the end of it and they said and the home of the and the whole stadium goes cheese look at a lot that's pretty

savage like it is like to do that and I love me some homes don't get me wrong however like that must be something they do at all of their games or yeah maybe no i'm sure that they do so it's not disrespectful right because they wait for the end of it because they say brave and then they say chiefs no they said chiefs while he was singing brave okay yeah that guy kept that note going for a minute. He was fucking awesome. And then they hit him with the Chiefs. And so, yeah, disrespectful. When they said that, I was like, when they did that,

I was kind of like, wow. Savage, but disrespectful. Yeah, fickle. Eloise O'Hara, going back to, so you're just talking about World Cup and other countries and everything. Would you want Summer to go to school in australia for safety etc ain't that the million dollar question it's tough it's a tough one because

oh it's not tough i would love to have her back in australia for a term which is half a semester in australia we do our school system by terms one two three four terms in a semester in two semesters which is a calendar year so this is where it really baffles america but you guys do it too here but our calendar year for school is from the january to december so you're right okay so you start school like the second week you have have a week off for New Year's, maybe two weeks, and you start school. You go to school for like, I think it's like eight weeks, nine weeks. Then you get like a two-week holiday or like a 10-day holiday maybe. Then you go again, and then you have like a two-week holiday. Then you go again, and then like a little break,

and then again, and it's christmas very very structured very simple makes sense in america you guys go by seasons right well school starts it's starting even earlier now it's in august it used to always be in september after labor day when i was in school so your first day of like if you go to first day of school it's in august now it is yeah it used to always be like september 7th it's your first day of school yeah and then you have thanksgiving break yeah and then you have christmas break well winter break no we can't call it christmas break anymore winter break winter break but when i was in school yeah you have easter which is i don't know if you can still have easter is that spring break now

no we have that too but then you wrap up school like first week of June. And then you have the summer off. Then you have three months off, right? Wow. Yeah. Interesting. But yeah, I think, I mean, going back to that, I would like to have summer in school for a term.

But I would like her to grow up in school for a term and then and then but i would like her to go grow up in the american schooling system as well because i want her to have the opportunity to go to an american college i want all the kids even eli winter i would love to have figure out that comment that we'll have that conversation later on but for them to have the opportunity to go to the american college system on a scholarship you know i will say though no guns in australia sounds really fucking nice for school last question honey you ready hit me narrowed michelle to know, how do you get through difficult conversations and arguments? Well, Narrowed actually helps us. So Narrowed is our amazing,

I have two amazing producers who work on this podcast. I have Nick with Dear Media, and I have Narrowed who I have kept on from Action Park Media because she is just the shit. And she has heard it all for the last two years on this podcast. She has heard it all clean. And then she's like, listen, guys, and she helps me with perspective.

And to be honest, how we get through, to answer your question, tough conversations and arguments is by exactly that hearing what we're saying to each other and thinking about it and honestly maybe some a third party gets involved when we vent to somebody and they communicate with us that's the best way because it's all about perception and we both only have our perception and it could be seen many other ways so narrowed thank you very much for the work you've done on the podcast with Sheena and I and for Sheena. And to answer your question, just surround yourself with good people. Especially couples in relationships.

I promise you. Oh, my God. They're going through the same thing. Yeah. Everyone, there's so many similarities when you actually sit down and talk about what you're going through so many people are going through the same thing so we just we realize that not emphasize that enough i think it was a big eye-opener for me recently talking about the postpartum ocd oh yeah but wait what were to say? I think recently it's come, it's been more,

it's been more brought to our attention more recently because we, when we're single, we don't really share our emotions and our arguments. Everything's fine. But now that we're parents, we, nothing's fine. We're always stressed out. And so our time we have with each other, our kind of, uh, what's the, like, like, you know know you're on a short string you know you're a hinge when you're when you're with your partner that's quite shortened your patience for anybody and your loved ones are the first one that gets a cut short and i think you know now we realize that so we aren't we aren't sugar-coated it we're having these fun conversations with our parent friends because they're going through that same stuff yeah yeah and what i was just going to say

is i've realized it more recently with just talking about postpartum ocd and even going back to my miscarriage but so many other women friends of mine and women in my family who have gone through similar experiences or are currently going through them and just talking about it, whether it's with your partner, a family member or whoever, just talking about difficult and tough things really helps because I promise you guys, you are not alone. We are all experiencing this life together. And you and me touch the stars. I don't know all the words yet. can i just say honey that is one of the things that i should have said last week that i'm gonna end this podcast with now that i love the most about you is how you don't know the lyrics to

any song in the world but you sing them like you do and it it's the cutest thing ever. When I hear you saying the most wrong words to, what's the magic carpet ride song? A Whole New World? A Whole New World. Don't you dare close your eyes. I know that. I know that. It's the cutest. It's the cutest.

Well, listen, honey, if you don't know, you know. Until you don't know, then you don't know. So then you need't know you know until you don't know then you don't know so then you need to know thanks thanks for listening guys we'll be back next week bye y'all i am so excited something i have been working on for so long is finally here i have launched my very own eyelash line. It's called Viva Verano, means long live summer. I have the cutest packaging, all rainbow, as an ode to my rainbow baby who has the best lashes in the game.

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