Scheananigans with Scheana Shay - Breaking the Fourth Wall

Episode Date: June 21, 2024

This week, Scheana and Kiki are back for another round of hot topics. On RHONJ, is Paulie’s business-level commitment to Dolores the new ring on a string? Is Apple making it easier for people to cheat? Do Scheana and Lala have any dating overlap? Flushing tampons – faux pas or fair game? Why does Scheana say to make sure Bluetooth is off while in therapy? Plus, could you be friends with someone who knows what your man’s anatomy looks like? Tune in to find out why Kiki couldn’t! Follow us: @scheana @scheananigans Co-Host: @thetalkofshame The video version of this episode will be available on Scheana’s YouTube page on Friday, June 21st.   Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Episode Sponsors:You can find all the new, decadent scents of Cremo Women’s Body Wash at Walgreens, CVS, or CremoCompany.com.Say hello to your IRL makeup filter in a bottle, COVERGIRL's Simply Ageless Skin Perfector Essence. Only from Easy, Breezy, Beautiful COVERGIRL.Upgrade your closet this summer with Quince. Right now, go to Quince.com/honey to get free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order.Stop wasting money on things you don’t use. Cancel your unwanted subscriptions by going to RocketMoney.com/HONEY.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The following podcast is a Dear Media production. Providing women with the knowledge and tools to really own their own health. With celebrity guests and today's leading experts, we're dropping episodes every Tuesday. So listen and subscribe on YouTube or wherever you get your podcasts so you never miss an episode. From Vanderpump Rules to Motherhood and everywhere in between, it's time to catch up with Sheena Shea. This is Shenanigans. And now, here's your host, Sheena Shea. Because we're good as gold. Because we're good as gold. Because we're good as gold. Because we're good as gold. And we're off.

Hello, everyone, and welcome back to Shenanigans. Today, I'm Kiki with my girl Kiki. How we doing? I'm good. We're down to co-host. Janet was supposed to be here and I understand more than anyone what it's like when you don't have a babysitter. Her husband had to work. You know, he's got a real job. He's lawyering, was stuck in court. I don't know what that part of it's like. I thought she might be like hung over because I saw she was at a premiere for the bike riders you know what maybe that was a little sidebar of it she's like no Jason's stuck in court wink wink Sheena doesn't have his location he's got an android so no missing Janet today but we will get back into

some shenanigans with her when she gets back she's going to take some time before they start season two of the valley go back to Ohio spend some time with the fam and have a little time off. So they have a date they're starting to film. I don't know if they have an exact start date, but they have a time when they need to be back in L.A. by. Oh, OK. Yeah. Usually, I mean, for us, it's kind of been that way where it's like around Fourth of July. You either start like right before or right after you always have the Fourth of July because it's a legal holiday. Do you think it's like around 4th of July. You either start like right before or right after. You always have the 4th of July off because it's a legal holiday. Do you think it's going to be,

because like your last season of Vanderpump, like filming when you were with the public, you could see everyone in the background. Like it was distracting for me. Yeah. The Valley was so popular. Do you think they're going to have that issue filming second season?

I do. I think it's going to be a lot different for season two for them, season 12 for us. I was thinking about this the other day and I'm like, I feel like because I've read, I have been a little bit in the comment section, but I've read like comments on the podcast because I love reading the YouTube comments YouTube it used to be like a 95 positive space now that I post the podcast that's changed which is to be expected but I'm thankful for everyone who watches these videos excuse my air dried hair right now but so I've been reading different perspectives and I see people saying you know I'm backpedaling because it's like god forbid I say one thing in support of Ariana and they're like you're backpedaling you're this I. I'm like, no, no, no.

I've gotten perspective. I've seen the season. Time has passed. I've had conversations with Ariana, conversations with Lala, conversations with production. Things just do change. But also one thing I noticed,

people were saying, we don't like that the fourth wall is being broken because we liked being able to just watch a group of people who aren't on the show because they're on the show and talking to each other because it's their job. And I was like, interesting, because I thought like this is going to be so great. Season 12, the fourth wall is down. But I'm like, or do we build it back up? I don't know.

I think there's a level of like, because I want to operate in real time and that's impossible in reality TV world. You're watching it six months later. So sometimes I don't mind the fourth wall being broken because, you know, they do have to come back, re-edit some stuff.

And it's like, it makes it more, a little more realistic than just like watching something that happened six months ago. That's like not the reality. I think certain fourth walls kind of make it weird.

And you're like, I don't want to know that level of detail or I don't want to know this or that especially when it gets into like you know like marriages and people like actual marriages and their children and like people are kind of like and they have to sort of address those things because it could just be so false but I feel like then they have to address it but it's like this isn't a real thing I know so it'll be really interesting to see where season two goes for them yeah but I'm here for it oh yeah I can't wait but um how was your weekend you got into any fun shenanigans I like my short-term memory has gotten so bad and I'm like worried about it because I'm like I used to I don't know if it's just because

I'm consuming so much I'm like I don't remember what I did this week. And I think I think I had fun. I don't really, I honestly don't remember what I did. Yeah. Well, I mean, sometimes, you know, that's OK. Yeah. Yeah. Sometimes you only need your long term memory. Sometimes it's good when the short term memory is gone.

I have my screenshots. I have like 100,000 screenshots. It's like I really want to know. I'll just go through. There you go. And that's the thing. It's like there's, you know, always three sides of the story. There's like yours, mine and then the screenshots. There you go. And that's the thing. It's like there's, you know, always three sides of the story. There's like yours, mine, and then the screenshots.

Yes, exactly. Well, I don't know how I seem to remember my whole weekend because we did 25 hours in Vegas. James has his residency at Live. So he does the nightclub and the beach. I think he does one in each per month. Oh, wow. And Brock has been dying to get out there. He loves a pool party.

He had all his Aussies come out. Like, literally, everyone showed up for him. Full send at the pool party to the point where I was like, maybe don't go back in the crowd. He was like, on one,

but like a good one. And... So he's DJing, like, what? Like, every Friday, Saturday, Sunday? Like, when, like... So he does, I think, two shows a month. One at the nightclub,

one at the dayclub. Okay. Because then he's all over the country and everywhere else as well but i just have to say and i said this to him and i think i even commented it somewhere online but james gives 110 every show i told ali i go honestly i think i because i've known james so long i may have may have gone to more James Kennedy shows than she's been to now or maybe we're neck and neck. But I'm like from watching him at Sir Tom Tom on the toilet paper. Yeah. But like no matter what, even when he's still at Sir, he gives it his all. Beach. It was just so fun to see because I always believed in him and I always knew he was going to be able to be a really big, successful DJ if he, you know, toned down the partying. Yeah. And now that he is his, you know, California sober version of himself, I think he's just the best version of himself. He's so talented. He puts on such a good show and he's just gotten so much better. Like

it's insane. Do you think he rivals like DJ Pauly D? Do you think Pauly D is a little threatened? Because like Pauly is like really big in Vegas, right? Well, they actually have the same manager. Oh, really? Yeah. So it's either a rivalry or it's a team thing.

So they have the same manager. So are they friends? Okay, they're friends. Yeah. So maybe it's a little silent rivalry. I don't know. But I mean, Pauly D, you know, he was the OG reality TV DJ of Vegas. And I don't think his star is ever going to not shine as bright as it is.

So I feel like he's good there. But yeah, it was so awesome to see. I've been wanting to get out to live. My sister's been a few times. And it was just like, I'm looking back at the photos and I'm like, how do you just like get up on there and then jump off? They get the best action shots of his, but it was crazy. So much fun. And then we went to the critics choice awards straight from the plane. I go into glam. We land. Our flight was a little delayed. We get home. I have eight minutes to shower,

figure out what gown I'm wearing because I did not plan that before. And then I have glam walking in the door. I was like, backup reunion dress. I'm just going to wear that. One of my gels on my toe chipped off. Oh no.

And every dress I was planning to wear needed an open toe shoe. And I was like, okay, I need a dress long enough that will cover the toes because I had no time to get them fixed. So straight to the Critics' Choice Awards, Brock and I presented. It was so much fun. Our category didn't win, but Ariana did win.

Okay, yes. She had like a nice package of just her at the Love Island set. Oh, nice. Thanking the critics and everyone. Who was she up against? So it was Phaedra, I think Selena set. Oh, nice. Thanking the critics and everyone. Who was she up against? So it was Phaedra, I think Selena Gomez. Oh, wow. Retta.

Who else? Oh, Reba McEntire. Oh, wow. I think that might have been it. That's a loaded category. It was a loaded category. Because Selena Gomez, at least she did. She has the most followers on Instagram.

Like, she had more than Kardashian. Yeah. So to, like, beat Selena is a big category. Because Selena Gomez, at least she did. She had the most followers on Instagram. Like, she had more than Kardashians. Yeah. So to, like, beat Selena is a big deal. Yeah. And, I mean, Phaedra, obviously, she's been iconic for so many years. But I felt like Traders just put her on even more people's radars. Yeah. And Traders won our category.

They won so many things. But that show is amazing. Yeah. So I'm really excited to see next season. Yeah. But, yeah. many things but that show is amazing yeah so i'm really excited to see next season yeah but yeah so ariana won they had packages for the people who weren't there to thank you know whoever they wanted she looked amazing and yeah it was a really fun night went out to soho house after and then father's day it was just like a very busy but fun weekend. That's fun. I love that. Yeah. I told Brock, I was like, you get everything in one weekend. And now leave me alone.

Now we're done. Now I'm back to work. We're done. But I thought for today, it would be fun to just like maybe not completely talk about Vanderpump Rules in the Valley. We're going to do that a little bit. But let's get into some hot topics because there's a lot going on in the valley. We're going to do that a little bit, but let's get into some hot topics because there's a lot going on in the world right now. But before we take a break, let's just,

let's do a little bit of Bravo before we get into the other ones, because I just caught up on Real Housewives of New Jersey last night. And I, I love Dolores. I mean mean she is all-time like my favorite housewife ever so on this week's episode she had a discussion with her mom and daughter about how Polly wants to start a business together in New Jersey some sort of electrical business or whatever and she relays that Polly feels like going into business together shows his level of commitment to the relationship since he's showing no signs of legally divorcing his wife. They've been separated for what, 12, 13 years? Yeah.

So how do we feel about this? And does it seem like this is kind of the new ring on a string? I mean, it just goes to show that like, if you really like someone, you're willing to make excuses because, you know, with make excuses because you know with her ex you know she was like I'm not moving in with you until I have you know an engagement ring we're not doing any of those things David you know her ex now with Polly she has moved in she is like

you know willing to start a business and all of these and let him stay not let him stay but he's still not separated even though he promised it like a year ago and all of these excuses and it's kind of like I understand where everyone's everyone's coming from of just like girl move on but at this point she just likes them so just let her do her thing she knows that this

doesn't feel right and so everyone just piling on is it's not going to make her leave him no I mean when have you ever left someone because someone thought it was a bad idea? Never. Clearly never. Did you see season six? And I'm like, at the end of the day, Dolores, first of all,

can we all say her daughter Gabby is like the best daughter ever. Like, she's the veterinarian. Like, I want to take my cats to Jersey just so she can be my veterinarian. Like, she has like the best kids. She has a great relationship with her ex, great relation with her mom.

I love how they have this like, you know, mother, daughter, granddaughter. And they're just like, everyone needs to know that we're number one. And of course,

when your brother gets married, his wife, you know, I just love that. So the fact that Polly, look, he's allergic to Italian food. He hates the Jersey shore.

Everything about him makes him not compatible with Dolores. But I just want Dolores to be happy. She looks at him. She's so happy. So I know. Let it be. And I see that in person when I've seen them, too. She just lights up in a different way. Whenever she'd talk about David, it was always so positive. And she loved him. And I know she wanted that to work.

But then it's like, then you get Polly. Yeah. And it's just that light. Like the same way I see Ariana with Dan. Yeah. You know, when I first saw them together Pauly yeah and it's just that light like the same way I see Ariana with Dan yeah you know when I first saw them together I was like there's just a different spark and a different light and I see that with them so you know what go into the electrical business and get married after you know it's like I mean he obviously does really well because I think that's why the divorce is taking so long, because I think that he must have assets that are very large. And so I mean, we've seen his apartment or condo.

I mean, like, so look, he's doing well off. He's a contractor. If you want to if he wants to start an electrical business with me, I'm all for it. Let's do it. Yeah, it's something. And I just feel like I mean, I do know, yes, divorce can take a while. This is unheard of a while. But he probably didn't have a reason to really hardcore start the actual legal process before he met Dolores.

You know, it's just like, it's easy. We just we keep things the way they are. And once he divorces, he's going to have a piece of paper that then he has to pay a certain alimony. He probably has been providing alimony or whatever it is. But it's like once it's on a document, it's like he has to stick with it and it's like, so why rush it

if you don't have to? Yeah. Maybe she would've gotten married and then I won't owe anything. Maybe he thought that she would get married or something, you know? Who knows?

Well, yeah. And then it's like, I mean, I even wondered that when you marry after going through a divorce, you know, and then you get remarried, like, do you take on

that person's debt? Do you take on their financial responsibilities with previous marriages, with children, with alimony, you know, like all of those things? Well, I've been watching 90 Day Fiance and one of the couples, Manuel, and I can't remember her name right now, but they go to like get a postnup. And that was when he found out that she had like $100,000 in student loan debt. Now, as Americans, we're like, oh, OK. Yeah. But he's like, what?

You have $100,000 in debt? Like, how could you do this to me? You know, but you don't take on their student loan debt. That's one debt that you don't inherit. Yeah. That's kind of good to know. And so I think there's certain debts you do take on. There's certain that you don't.

But yeah. No, I learned that. I don't know why when I met brock i just assumed he was 29 i think when i met him maybe turning 30 but i just assumed he had a lot of debt and he was like i don't know because of my previous you look debt-ridden a couple years of dating things just that's i don't know the single sheena years in my 30s kind of just like yeah traumatized me so i just assumed i don't know the guy has Sheena years in my 30s kind of just traumatized me. So I just assumed, I don't know, the guy has a lot of debt. And he was like, I don't have any debt.

And I was like, oh, okay. Well, then, yeah, we can get married. I was like, do I take that on? And then, obviously, he is caught up with the child support. He pays all of that. But I did. I had questions because I'm like, I don't know how this works when you have things in another country and then you get married in california and it's true i'm just not trying to take on anyone's debt yeah and i learned lessons from

my first marriage like we have our joint account and we keep our shit separate we have a joint business manager he makes sure all the shit's in order but i'm like you don't have access to this i don't have access to that and i'm perfectly have access to that. And I'm perfectly fine keeping it that way. Yeah. I just think it's smarter. Okay. We're going to take a quick little break and then so many hot topics to get into. I don't know where to start. After a stressful day running around, taking care of errands and family and work, you know,

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vaginal rejuvenation due to the frequency of her sex life with John Jansen you she claimed that they go at it four times a day and i guess that's rivaling larza pippen who had famously revealed that she and scotty did this four times a day as well who has time for that it's beyond me i mean unless i was like on vacation with brock and bali i don't think i've ever hit four times a day so good for you if it's true. Also, ouch. But, you know, as someone who does overshare herself from time to time, like, do you think this was info that we wanted to hear about? And how do we think Shannon felt hearing this? Well, I think it was for Shannon, right?

Like, I think that when you say those things, it's specifically because you're like, A, you are trying to, like, make some some press for the show which is a smart move anyways but then also it's kind of like I got your man like because you know who know we don't know what went down we don't I will say I watched the first episode of OC and I think a lot is going to go down this season and so I don't think there ever was love between Alexis and Shannon. Really? Right. But anytime someone says they're having sex that much,

I never, I instantaneously, I'm like, I don't believe it. No, I don't know what adult can have time to have sex like that every day. Like, don't you have things to do?

It's a lot. Yeah. Unless you're literally like on vacation and you just didn't have any plans that day like you I don't I don't know I'm trying to think like I don't even know if I've had maybe I've had sex with myself four times a day like I don't even that okay that makes sense you know and I felt like a degenerate after just by the way but you probably felt better yeah it was a nice relaxing day. Okay, so Larza said that also, I think she said four times a day wasn't enough to keep two people together.

So what do we think is a healthy frequency of intimacy for a relationship? Because I feel like everyone's definition is different. Yeah, I mean, I think if you're having sex twice a week, you are doing a really good job personally. I totally agree. Shoot, twice a month after you are doing a really good job. Personally, I totally agree. Shoot twice a month after you have kids. That's a fucking accomplishment.

I mean, there's so much to do in the world. It's like you get through your day and you're like, oh, wow, I already have to go to bed again. Like I have things to do. I don't know. No, Brock and I have to go out of town because now that summer is in her big girl bed at any moment at night she could just wake up walk in the room this morning i always normally hear her i still sleep with her monitor on my phone like on my side table so i can hear when i know she's gonna come down the hallway but this morning all of a sudden she was just at my bed oh no oh no oh my god i'm like how did i not she just must have

silently woken up and been like all right i'm just gonna go in mom's bed my god i'm like how did i not she just must have silently woken up and been like all right i'm just gonna go in mom's bed yeah so i'm like we literally haven't even christened the new house yet really because it's like she's always there how long have you been there i mean we've had sex since we moved in just not in the house but i'm saying how long have you lived in this house three and a half months oh my god you gotta have sex in this house? Three and a half months. Oh, my God. You got to have sex in the house. I know. I know. So the plan was while she was with my mom this weekend, you know, for Brock's birthday, she wasn't in the house. But then we just had a lot of fun and I was like, I'm pretty good. And like I said, we only had eight minutes in between the car and glam.

And then we were like, we're gonna do it again we're gonna christen the house when we get home tonight we ended up going to soho house we were out till 1 a.m like we had such a fun night when we got home we're like we're tired and every time she's not in the house with us which has maybe only been a handful of times since we moved in that she stays at my parents house because we have a late event or whatever we're too tired yeah you want to go out exactly yeah it makes total sense but every time we go out of town like oh we're getting it on so it's like we're just vacation sex people now i guess it's smart though because i mean i did walk on my hair in on my parents i mean and i remember it traumatizing yeah like i haven't forgotten it so it's good it's probably good yeah yeah I have one

of those as well I was like four but it wasn't my parents it was my uncle who was babysitting me I was telling this story recently and I was like oh yeah I walked in on uncle so-and-so and so-and-so and they're like we don't think he was with her yet like I was like when i was like oh gotcha well whatever whoever it was i remember seeing that okay like that sticks with you i don't want summer to have that no so yeah no i just i'm too paranoid it's the ocd brain you know i cannot get out of it when the kid is in the house Okay, so also on this podcast, Alexis had addressed Megan King's concerns that John Jansen was love bombing her. She essentially said that she felt Megan was looking for a moment in the spotlight by talking about her relationship. So although we haven't seen much of their relationship dynamic yet, do we think Megan's concerns for her friend are valid? Here's the thing.

After Megan, I saw her like traumatizing a baby squirrel and like moving a nest. I actually can't take anything. Oh, my God. So I'm kind of like, but do I think I mean, I think that any time you get into a new relationship, I just think that there is automatically an element of love bombing on both sides. I don't I think you can't help it because you're just so into that person. You start I mean, I start doing things that I've never done for people. I'm like, why am I doing this? You know, so I think that's normal.

It's when it's still happening like a year later or it's only happening when like something bad happened. Like those are the I think the red flag. Right. They've only been dating. It's been like what, a year later or it's only happening when like something bad happened like those are the I think the red flags right they've only been dating what it's been like what a year has it even been that long I don't even know what yeah yeah it hasn't been long so I'm kind of like and especially during the season it's very new so it's kind of like you know I expect it especially because I do think there's an element of both of them kind of wanting to get back at Shannon. I think that John holds some resentment towards Shannon. I think Alexis holds some resentment towards Shannon. Like I think there's like, and I think, so I think they're going to go overboard on camera for those reasons. Well, I'm just going to say this here, team Shannon.

Okay. I'm still kind of on the topic of sex, but we're going to go outside of Bravo now. So we were texting last night about Lenny Kravitz. Yes. So we need to kind of get into this. During a recent interview with The Guardian to promote his new album, he revealed that he hasn't been in a serious relationship in nine years and remains celibate until he finds the right person. On his reasonings for why he chooses to abstain he said

that he was becoming a player he didn't want to be that guy so he had to tackle that and it took years do we seriously believe that lenny kravitz has not engaged in any sexual relations for the past decade or like what does celibacy mean to him like does he have this like california celibate sort of version you know it's like well i only get my dick socked but i don't put it in like it's like what is what is this it's like the mormon he's like i sit on the bed and then someone hops around but like i don't really you know get it you know right i'm i don't know but i'm intrigued because it's lenny kravitz again this goes back to like when a guy's hot you're willing to like overlook some things.

If I met Lenny and he told me he was celibate, I would be very intrigued about what his idea of intimacy is. Right. Because I'm like, OK, that's cool. Like, are we edging? What are we doing? Yeah. I recently saw him perform at the People's Choice Awards and I was just like turned on drooling. Oh, yeah. Like it was did he have a shirt off on I don't even remember. I was just like so in it the whole

time like he did a medley and it was just I had no idea he was performing. He came out and he had his guitar and then oh my God he did the walk up to the stage and I was just and Brock was like it's okay I get it like I think Brock was like you know having a fanboy moment as well

but yeah he's gotta be a hall pass he's gotta be a hall pass especially if the hall pass is like maybe not full sex right see this is he's gonna be my new hall pass I'm gonna just put that there honey you know it might just be a make out Lisa Bonet has had sex with some of the most beautiful men in the world

I am jealous of her always. Yeah. I'm just, yeah, I was really wondering about that. Because after just seeing him recently perform, I was like. And we never see him really connect. I mean. Nine years. I know.

That's what I'm saying. But we never see him like kind of out and about. Like he says he was a player, but it's like he was really good at hiding it. Because I've never really seen him attached to anyone other than Lisa. Right. So, you know, he must have people signing NDAs because people don't talk about him in the press. I had read in the article that part of his reasoning was he saw himself becoming like his father and he had been unfaithful in his marriage to his mother. to his mother.

So that I can understand, you know, and there are different types of addictions and things. People who are like, you know, they're addicted to alcohol, drugs, sex. Like, so maybe people

who go sober from alcohol and drugs, maybe there are people who go celibate from sex if they see bad patterns of behavior. No, which is why, like, I know Ice-T,

like, he retweeted it and like made a comment about it and i was kind of like dude like weren't you a sex addict i'm pretty sure like a sex addiction so like right you're like on a different path i get it you could not go this long without sex but other people are on their spiritual journey let them live yeah no totally but he did say that he's open and ready to finding love again. So I am single. And I was going to say, you know, we got a good match right here. I mean, especially if I don't have to worry about like being really good in the bedroom.

I just have to be like myself. How's your deep throating skills? Oh, I'm really good at it. I am really good at it. That's one thing I was always proud of. I love it. I am really good at it. That's one thing I was always proud of. I love it. Okay. Still on the topic of not necessarily sex, but relationships, cheating couples and whatnot. I need to ask because you told me that there's a new feature on Apple's recent update, the iOS 18. And you said it makes it easier to cheat.

Yeah, apparently like you're going to be able to put like passcodes on your app so people can't open apps or recognition, right? Yeah, I think any sort of it might be even a code. And then you can actually hide apps so that they're not even shown on the screen. And then if someone goes to the search bar to even search for the app, it won't pop up. And so you can literally have like a deep level of hiding. So nobody going through your phone can see that you have certain apps. Now, I mean, again, it's sketchy.

But at the end of the day, if you're with someone who wants to cheat, they're going to find a way to cheat regardless. So I'm actually all for this hidden app because i have way too many weird pictures on my phone no actually i am too because if that means someone accessing your phone can you know not be able to check your texts images there are things that i even like my notes app i have a password on yeah my alarm apps and certain things you have to have facial recognition for just in case God forbid my phone got stolen. The most important things

I do have locked. But if I could also have those hidden that's right. So iPhones just making it easier to cheat or easier to just protect your privacy. To be secret. Exactly. I don't necessarily need to know. Maybe I have

like 14 dating apps and maybe I don't need people to know that I'm on 14 different dating apps. I didn't know there were that many. I, you know, I'm assuming there are. I'm trying to delete them as we speak. I don't know. Okay. What's your favorite one you've been on and least favorite? My least favorite

is probably Bumble because I know that they say it's like female friendly, but I just feel like a bunch of men just keep swiping on you and then you go to swipe them and then they decide if they want to like, if you respond to them, they're like, oh, and then they disconnect. So I feel like I always want the guy to say something first. And I don't like that. I mean, maybe they've changed, but I don't like that you have to initiate as the woman.

So that was my least favorite. I don't know if I have a favorite. I've changed, but I don't like that you have to initiate as the woman. So that was my least favorite. I don't know if I have a favorite. I just keep using Hinge because it just seems easiest. I feel like I've heard the most success stories on Hinge. Really? Yeah. Okay. Yeah.

I don't know if I've heard. I've heard like two success stories in my life. Any of my friends who met on a dating app who are like still together. It was Hinge. Oh, okay. So. i'm not having i have more success i feel like in new york than i do in la i just and i also just think i have a different type and like they're mostly yeah i mean la dudes it's yeah they're tinier than me

i don't need to just like come on yeah no i mean no. I mean, I've had many, many years single in L.A. And it's not really you seem like someone who's never been single. Like you seem like you've always been dating, always in a relationship. No, from 20 to 25, almost 26. I was single. And then I was with Shay and from Shay straight to Rob. So for like those seven and a half years, I was in a relationship. But then I was single again for almost three, two and a half, three years until I met Brock.

But like, did you date a lot? Like, how often were you dating when you were single? So my early 20s, those stories one day I'll tell. Okay. Not today. There was a lot. And it's like, what do I really consider dating?

What is your definition of dating? Because there was a six month period where I was hanging out with a certain celebrity. We weren't going out to dinners and going on dates. We were having a lot of sex. And, you know, private hangs at home And that was just it was fun. So it's like was that dating or was that just secret sex?

I don't know but I had a lot of those in the early 20s And then I did have some guys I dated but wouldn't consider a boyfriend I feel like I never really went on a lot of dates. Like when Rob and I broke up, there were a couple guys I slept with, but it wasn't really going anywhere. It's like if you want to date someone successfully after a breakup, it's a great rebound to bang a guy from The Bachelorette not to date. to bang a guy from The Bachelorette not to date. Okay. So I had some fun

of that. Yeah. Okay. We'll just say that. But then I went on several dates with Nima. Oh. Never had sex.

I don't think I knew that. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Wait, so Rachel dated Nima after you? Because I recommended him to her because I was like, this guy is such a gentleman. He will take you on the best dates. Just make you feel like a queen.

Zero pressure to have sex. If it happens, it happens. But like when we went on our first date, we went to Nobu Malibu. Oh, nice. And I remember I had just been sober for I think I was at 50 something days because I froze my eggs. I cleansed for 30 days before and it was like, am I going to drink on this date? Am I going to smoke weed on this date?

Like I felt so nervous because I'm like, when was the last time I've actually been on a date? Yeah. Sure. I've slept with people. Yeah. I've hung out in group settings or this and that. But I was like, I felt really nervous. Yeah. That night I did have some drinks. I hit my vape pen. And then that date turned into another turned into another.

But then it turned into this beautiful friendship that him and I have. And so when Raquel was single and I felt like she really needed to get back out there. I was like, you should go on a date with Nima. Like whenever he's in L.A. or you're in New York, like he'll show you what it feels like to be treated like a queen on a date. This is so shocking to hear because, like, you know, you know that you hear often that you're not a girl's girl. You hear that all the time. That is the most girls because I am not. If I go on one day, if I kiss you, you will. I will never recommend you to my friend. Like I would be like, no, he's a great guy.

No, you can never date him because I'm greedy and selfish and jealous. Yeah. I can't believe you actually recommend it. You're like, he's a great guy. That's amazing. That's actually amazing. But wait, is he good in bed? I don't know.

You didn't sleep with him? I know I never slept with him. Oh, so that makes a difference too. If you had slept with him, would you still have recommended him? Yes. Oh, yeah. Yeah. I mean, Janet and I have had some overlap with men as well her husband no wait you said i it didn't

go that far before you knew janet you slept with jason so you want to know what's funny yeah and i'm going to say this because janet decided to put it out there on the after show and she's not here to defend herself today. So Jason and I did go on a couple of dates. He came over, cooked him dinner. But this was around the time that I was still kind of seeing Adam. And Adam was psychotic with like he couldn't commit, but he didn't want me with anyone else. But he didn't want me. And it was very toxic, especially when he would drink.

And so I would have janet come out with jason and i kind of as our beard so if adam saw that i was hanging out with jason like oh they're just like it's the three of them and it just didn't work out you know jason i i love him to death he's so sweet but it just yeah it wasn't for me and him and janet now together i don't know if i could be friends with someone who knows what my man's dick looks like i'm like is this why you eloped you couldn't ask me to be a bridesmaid oh my god yeah but um interesting. Wait, any more overlaps? Like, did you and Lala ever overlap? Did we? I feel like we...

So, we did find out recently that there was a football player that had slid in both of our DMs around maybe the same time, but neither of us had slept with him. So, I felt like that was the one over overlap where she was like wait you know this person from this team and I was like wait and then we compared phone numbers oh my god and he had like had the area code where I met him was like the team he played in but then the area code she had was the team he got traded to oh my god and so it was like a little bit of overlap but yeah yeah, I'm trying to think.

And you or Ariana never had overlap? No. Okay. We just like would make out with each other when we would get drunk. Yeah, perfect. I mean, Ariana was always like more my type than any of the guys she was ever with. I'm like, I'll take you. Yeah, okay.

Not so much, but you, what's up? Okay. Anyways, enough about that. So I saw recently, I've been hearing a bunch of stuff about Twitter and how people are just saying that since Elon has taken it over, it's just, it's much different space. And I saw that he announced this past week that the platform formerly known as Twitter now we're going to be calling it X or whatever the fuck it's always going to be Twitter always Twitter no it's I'm tweeting your mama named you Twitter I'm gonna call you Twitter exactly but now they're

getting rid of the likes tab so users are not going to be able to see what content from which account has been liked how do we feel about this? Well, first, let's also this was right after he announced that porn, full porn was going to be allowed on the platform. So it's like that's another thing. OK, so now you have porn, but you don't want people to see the likes. Got it. Makes sense.

And it just feels like Elon is one of those guys that like touts like free speech, free speech, freedom, but not for you. Yeah. I don't want you to know what I'm doing. I want to mean he's like suing the kid who or like going after the kid who was tracking his jet. Right. Because he's like, I don't want you to know where I am. It's like he wants to be so secretive, but it's like, yeah, it's a free free market,

Elon. Right. It's freedom to do whatever we want. Yeah. And I feel like, OK, so with this part of me likes it because like the likes on instagram it's such a it's a competition it's who can get more likes and sometimes i just hide the likes and it's just so i know but you want to see like it starts feuds in reality world well that's what i was going to say because now it's like okay we're not going to be able to you know catch a

senator watching porn or see which housewife is liking the shady comment of another housewife. So it's like part of me likes it. And then part of me is like, hmm, who are we really protecting here? It should at least be an option. Like it should at least for like especially for reality stars. I want to leave my life open because I want people to know that I'm shady towards her without, you know, actually saying something. So it should be an option. Elon doesn't give people choice, but he acts like he's trying to make choice like everyone has

freedom i'm like no i want the choice yeah just show my likes and that's what i like about instagram is you do have the option to hide them or you have the option to leave them yeah sometimes i leave them sometimes i hide them i just same with tiktok you know you people can see like the videos you liked if you want them to yeah um i choose not to because i you know, people can see like the videos you liked if you want them to. Yeah. I choose not to because I, you know, my algorithm is weird. Literally. Okay. We're going to take one more little break and we'll be right back. All right, y'all.

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Things that I don't think about. And then I'm like, oh, I talk about it with another girl. And I'm like, oh, so I made a list and I thought it would be fun for the three of us, but we'll just have to get Janet to weigh in another time. So one is something I was talking to her about recently. Do you flush tampons? Yes.

See, okay, me too. People don't. Apparently you're not supposed to. Says who? I don't know, my sister. No, I flush all me, too. People don't. Apparently you're not supposed to. Since who? I don't know. My sister. No, I flush all of. No, the only time I don't flush is like when I'm in another country where they say don't

put anything in this toilet. And even then I've done it. Right. OK, see, I have two. And here's the thing. I feel like now that I have two homes that I own, I do look at different like things a little differently, like what goes down my garbage disposal and whatnot. I haven't though had a period

since I've really been a homeowner. So I'm like, okay, that first maybe eight months that I was in Palm Springs, the few times I went there, if I was on my period, did I flush a tampon? Maybe, but I got pregnant

and then I breastfed and I've had an IUD. So I've literally not had a period for I don't even know how many years now. I'm like, I asked my doctor, I go, is this OK? Am I like, does my uterus need to shed or like, are we good? I mean, I'm not having any more kids myself, so whatever. But I'm wondering, I'm like, would I not? What, you're just going to wrap it up and put it in the trash? I mean, I guess.

Well, that's what I guess some people do that. But I never I always thought you could flush a tampon. I've never been told. I always thought otherwise. I knew pads. I knew pads. You couldn't. Of course.

I mean, you know, but tampon. OK, see, I'm glad we're on the same page with that, because I feel like some people recently like, how could you ever? And I'm like, it never even crossed my mind, except now that I own a home. I'm like, OK, if I wash my hair, my hair is going down the drain. It's true that there's different things you think about because home repairs are expensive as fuck. They really are.

It's not fun. Would you rather have your sex tape leak or your therapy tape? I don't go to therapy. And I think that's because I know what would come out of my mouth is why I don't go to therapy. So probably you could release the sex tape. That's what I'm thinking, too. I was going back and forth with this. And I'm like, honestly, I mean, you could watch femme fatales.

And that's pretty much my sex tape. So I would put the sex tape adding to the watch list. There should I talk about in therapy? I mean, yeah, I know I have intrusive thoughts. Yeah, I'm like, oh, like if somebody heard these things, they'd be like, lock her up. No, literally. Like I make sure when I'm in Zoom therapy, my Wi-Fi is off. My Bluetooth is off.

I leave my house because my house is so echoey. And I want to just, unless I'm in the house by myself, I want to be able to freely speak about it. But one time it was Brock and Summer were leaving the house, right? And of course I talk about my husband in therapy. And he's leaving the house. And all of a sudden it's like cutting out. My therapist like is saying something.

And then I'm like, what is happening? But because he was so close, the Bluetooth connected to the car. So then she's like talking to Brock. Oh my God, no. But he was like, sorry, I'm in the car. I don't know. Oh my God.

Oh my God. So now I've learned in just a lesson for anyone who does at home or Zoom therapy. Turn your Bluetooth off if you don't want it to connect to another device. Sometimes it'll just automatically connect to my beats and Brock will have my headphones on. And it's just like the. So I'm like Bluetooth off, Wi-Fi off. I didn't even think about that.

You've unlocked a new fear. Thanks. Yeah, no, definitely not going to therapy. And if I do, definitely it's going to have to be in person i guess i don't know no literally because it's that could happen that's terrifying and i've heard stories where that has happened before and then i also worry because now i'm watching all these court cases where therapists are being you know brought into the courtroom yeah and so i'm like? Yeah. And so I'm like, well, isn't this not allowed? There's a protection there.

Yeah, but like, I mean, Johnny Depp trial, we saw, you know, therapists reading notes and stuff. And so I'm like, is it not protected? I thought this was like a lawyer situation.

Yeah, it's like a HIPAA thing, right? Yeah, I thought. Interesting. Yeah. Keep my thoughts to myself. Sex tape, put it out. Worked out for kim kardashian although there's no way a sex tape coming out today would have anywhere close to the impact

that it had 15 17 years ago how long people keep trying like people literally keep trying like that drake dick didn't leak because like you know know, there's just like, oh my God. Right. Okay. There's also been some controversy online lately regarding how people lather in the shower. So washcloth, loofah or hand. I use all, but for different parts. So it's like, you know, I use, I have a soft washcloth for my face to like do that. And then I have like an exfoliating sort of like, it's one of those, I don't know what you call them,

but it's an exfoliating thing that I do to like get all the exfoliation. And then I loofah as like a final sort of like get me all bubbly up before I rinse off. Yeah. And like, you're not going to like loofah your vagina. No. You know, it's like,

you got to use your hands for some part. Well, and I use some, I use a different washcloth sometimes and I'll do like, you know, I do different you got to use your hands for some part. Well, I use a different washcloth sometimes and I'll do like, yeah, I do different things. I use washcloth. I know some people don't use washcloths. I'm reading a lot about that. And I'm like, what is wrong with you people?

But I use washcloth. I have to use one for my face. And like when my daughter's in the bath, obviously I'm using a washcloth with her. But yeah, yeah. But the loofahs, you do just got to make sure that you're replacing them oh yes I get like I don't even know I think I get a new loofah probably I would say I get a new one once a month like every time I like if I go to Target I'm like I just pick one up I usually have like three under the sink yeah and just like I'm reminding myself now that I'm due for a new

one because also it's like Brock and I share one. Wait, you share a loofah. Okay. That's I, that would never, I would never. And that's like sharing a toothbrush to me. We've done that sometimes. It's like, I've, I've caught him using mine when we're like out of town.

I'm like, well, you didn't bring yours. And he's like, well, I mean, you kissed me. And I'm like,

I just, but I'm like, I mean, no, I don't want you to lose in my loofah, my tooth, but none of it. Get your own.

You have your own section. Sticking with bathroom activities. I feel like there's and I've heard I don't know if this is like a boy thing. I've heard dudes talk about this. They're like, would you fold or do you like scrunch your toilet paper? Oh, you know, I'm a wrap around the hand person. I like to have my whole hand wrapped. I'm like, I use wet wipes.

Like, I love to use wet wipes and those it's like I'll fold and I use a wet wipe. I do both. It's like I go, it's like I go for the initial clean and then I get the wet wipes for the deep clean.

And then, you know. Totally. And I think all men should use wet wipes. Yes. I really do. Oh yeah. Because they don't, they barely know how to wipe. use wet wipes. Yeah. I really do. Oh, yeah. Because they don't they barely know how to write.

Literally. No. Like, I won't even get into it. But I mean, Brock is always door open. And sometimes I'm like, I'm sure you got it all. Are we good? You don't even, you don't check. You're just like, what?

We're going to we're going to raise our daughter better. We're going gonna teach her front to back yes yes that was the thing too like we had her preschool orientation last week and i'm like okay she is fully potty trained now but you know we're still working on the wiping so when she goes to school like now a teacher is helping her. Are they just like, do it yourself? How does that work? I mean, it is all,

at least who I've met, all female teachers. And I know it would obviously be a female teacher taking her to the bathroom. Yeah. But they said they do assist with that and like just helping kids, you know, learn and whatnot. And I'm like,

okay. But it was like, that was one of my biggest questions I had going into it. It was like, who's going to help my daughter wipe? Or did they just say like, go in, do it, you know, and wipe and like also wash hands because I feel like kids it's like

do you know like is it under the nail like do they know how to wash their hands properly right I'm probably not that's why everyone has pink eye and her kid households but oh my god I just I can't believe she started in school in a few weeks like I feel like I've honestly been going back and forth on if I need to get back on Zoloft because I just like don't feel like mentally strong enough or ready. Like, it's like a letting go. But I'm like, I know it's a huge step. So I'm like, maybe I'm just temporarily feeling like it's like almost like I'm getting like baby blues, like toddler blues in a sense where I'm like, I don't know. Did you think or consider like ever homeschooling because you were paranoid?

Like, was that ever a thought or no? So I actually have talked to four different parents, two of the parents whose kids are going to be in preschool with summer. But we've talked about after this preschool considering doing a homeschool but having like at least like 15 kids that's what my friend her sister does yeah they have like it's like homeschooling but it's like six different kids from the neighborhood definitely something we're going to consider because so many of us in the group had kids at the same time. So many of the kids are going to be in the same class for the next year, I guess, two years until they go into

kindergarten. So we were just talking about it at dinner the other night and we're like, okay, well, we have a location. We can, you know, it's like the tuition would be paying the teacher's salaries. So it's like, we're spending thousands of dollars a month for a private preschool you know i mean we could do that if we got enough people together so it's something that brock and i have talked about just with you know in america and guns it terrifies me yeah so not against it i just like i wouldn't personally private teacher homeschool her We do have our nanny slash teacher who works with her, but I want her to have

that social aspect. You know, and then when it comes to high school, it's like I want her to go to prom. I want her to do all of those things. If we're able to provide a similar experience in a safer environment, I'm all about it,

but it would need to be a big enough group of kids. Okay. I was also going to ask, because yeah, do you want to go the traditional path of school? Because I've been watching a lot of shows lately. I've been watching to ask, because, yeah, are you do you want to go the traditional path of school?

Because I've been watching a lot of shows lately. I've been watching Dance Life. I don't know if you've seen this on Prime where it's like these kids go to this Brent Street Academy in Australia and they're like the most

elite professional dancers. They're there. They go to basically become triple threats. And I was always like, I feel like in Europe and in other countries, like they ask kids,

like, what do you want to be? Yeah, and they'll send them to that school to teach them like this is what you want to be. And feel like in this school we just like we're just get your education and then like you know we're not going to like specialize you in anything but I'm like if a kid I wanted to be an actress for so long and I feel like if my parents had just listened to me maybe I would have been doing this like way sooner no totally I wanted to be a child actress so bad and all I got to do was school plays yeah but you know I took an occasional

theater class but it's like where I went to public school up until high school as well there wasn't like the best programming for anything like that in Azusa but yeah that's definitely something that I would consider it's scary it is it is but you know you you like to think of it like you still want your kids you're like I do want them to go to prom I want to do the things and like totally it's like I did go to traditional school and I had some of honestly the worst years of my life and some of the best years of my life so okay I have one more scenario to weigh in on and then we're gonna wrap it up so an Airbnb host lost internet in her home recently. So she had offered her guests to pay for their dinner

for their inconvenience. Two hours later the guest sent their dinner receipt and it was $520. Should the Airbnb host have to pay for that? Well, how many people was that for? Good question. I mean, for four people, $500

isn't that much. Right? That's not bad. If it was just like two, if it was a couple, then you people, $500 isn't that much. That's not bad. If it was just like two, if it was a couple. Then you're like, you know, taking advantage. I know. Like, you know, I feel like I think $100 per person is like a normal thing to spend on dinner. Agreed. Yeah. So it's a little bit over.

And also, I mean, if you offered to pay for the inconvenience, you know, did you give them a limit? Did you give them a budget? Did you give them a budget? Did you say, you know, I would love to do $200 for dinner for you. Maybe you should have put a price number on it. You have to, because I know that I would take full advantage. I'd be like, oh, well,

let me get a bottle of Casamigos because how are we going to down dinner without some tequila? Totally. And we need dessert. Yeah. I might not go for the petite filet tonight. I'll have the full filet.

And it's surf and turf. So I'm going to need either petite filet tonight. I'll have the full filet. Yeah. And it's surf and turf. So I'm going to need either crab legs or lobster. You have to add a lobster tail. I love that. All right. Well, if you guys haven't already checked out Kiki's Sirius XM show, Reality Check, or her podcast, Pop Crime, what are you doing? Check it out. Download it. Like it. Watch it watch it listen to it do all the things thank you for being here i always have so much fun with you and i love that

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