Scheananigans with Scheana Shay - Drinking and Podcasting with Tori Keeth

Episode Date: March 18, 2022

On this episode, Scheana is joined by actress, singer, activist, Tori Keeth for another fun drinking and podcasting episode. They talk about having matching tattoos, love languages, relationships, and the importance of not settling. Tori opens up about her sexuality and what she recommends to people who may be questioning themselves. Scheana talks about her rule for unfollowing people on Instagram and you won’t believe what she says when people find out they’ve been unfollowed! Tori also teases her new song, “Lovesick”… tune in now!     For the video version of this podcast, sign up for the Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/scheanashay     Follow us @scheananigans @scheana     Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Love this. Back in my little Hollywood studio. We are recording for Patreon. So if you guys are listening and you want to watch head on over to patreon we have my friend tori keith here we're gonna crack open some white claws let's do it let's do it we both have very long acrylics this is we do how did you do that i've been opening cans with long nails for so long oh my god you're gonna have to do it for me okay i'm gonna have that one.

Thanks. You just, you got to get it like under. I was trying. My finger's too fat. You have skinny fingers. I don't know. So as you guys know, the drinking and podcasting episodes are kind of all over the place. So we're just going to. Fun.

Talk about whatever the fuck we want. Yes. Let's talk. Let's do it. Cheers. Cheers. Love you. Love you. I can't get over how every time we see. Life. Yes. Let's talk. Let's do it. Cheers. Cheers. Love you. Love you.

I can't get over how every time we see each other, we look the same. Literally. We have two matching tattoos. We do. And one wasn't even on purpose. Yeah. When we met, or I mean, I've known you for a while, but like when we started hanging out again, we realized that we had a matching tattoo.

Yeah. And then I have, I have a rainbow matching tattoo. Yeah. And then I have I have a rainbow right here. Yeah. If you're watching. And Sheena was like, I've always wanted a rainbow. So if you guys saw my follow me around vlog, then you know who Tori is. And you saw us get tattoos together. So I got a matching rainbow tattoo to her. So I was like, we already had the 1111. And then when I saw your rainbow tattoo, I was like, I need to get a rainbow tattoo. Like, how had I not thought of that yet? I wanted to get something for summer.

I was thinking about her name. And then I was like, do I do like a sunshine or like something? And then I was like, duh. Rainbow. Rainbow. Rainbow baby. It was so perfect. And now it's matching and it's in the same spot.

I know. I want to get more. We need. Yeah. Yeah, definitely. the same spot i know i want to get more we need yeah yeah definitely i need so i like want to fill this up just very little tiny ones because all mine are really i love that just like a scattered sleeve yeah that's what i want to do too yeah yeah okay let's do it okay and it's the same arm yeah wait i love that i know i love we were in that we were when we got them done we were like

in the studio trying to get a picture of them. And it was so, it was so awkward. I know. And then our arms look like way bigger than they are from the angle. It just. We're like, no. But we have them. You can see them in person. You can see we're matching.

Yes. So you and my sister have been friends for, God, how long? Since you were like teenagers. Literally since we were teenagers. I remember one day she drove me home because I like wasn't allowed to drive in LA. My mom was scared. I was like 16. I met her when I was 16 and I'm 23 now. Yeah. So she drove me home one night and then we just sat in the parking lot and talked for hours. I love that. Yeah. And so we, you and I met when I was probably 17. At like Disneyland, right? Yeah.

With, yeah. Did you have any tattoos then or not yet? No. Because you were an 18 year old. No. I got my first one when I was like 19. Okay. I think. Yeah. How old were you? I was 18 when I got my first one. Okay. It was like a few weeks after my 18th birthday. And then I got another. Did your mom go with you? Yeah. My mom went with me too. What was your first one? It was the one on my ankle. The snowflake. The snowflake.

Yeah. I love that. Oh my God. Yeah. Because you bought me on my birthday. Right. And I didn't even know this. A snowflake bag.

So weird. That was crazy. Snowflake has to do with my grandma. My grandma and I called each other snowflake. And so Sheena, on my birthday, she took me out. It was so sweet. And she gave me a bag with snowflakes on it. Yeah.

What the fuck? And I didn't even know. Can we pause on here? Because, yeah, you can say whatever you want. Fuck. Okay. So having a birthday around Christmas, how often do you get presents wrapped in Christmas paper? The people in my life are really good at not and like separating birthdays and Christmas and

I always get the question like because my birthday is December 23rd so it's my birthday Christmas yeah Christmas people are like do you get gypped on presents and I never did that's good which is nice yeah my family cares about me enough to separate it I love that but. But yeah, but I was like, it was winter. I saw this pink snowflake bag and I thought that was cute. And you know I love pink. Yeah. I knew that. And then you loved gold. So I got you some gold jewelry and like a belly chain and whatnot. But I had no idea about the snowflake thing. That's crazy. Yeah. It was my first tattoo. Yeah. It's funny. She stalked my Instagram to figure out what kind of gold or silver jewelry I wore. Yeah. I need to get her gold. Yeah. So yeah. Boom. Well, love that. Yes. So Tori is also

the inspo behind my recent haircut. That too? Yes. I literally like a few months ago when we were here for like a viewing party or something, I just kept staring at you and I'm like oh fuck I kind of want to cut my hair again I really like it and I'm like you and I look so similar that it's if it's something you do no matter what so I was like oh I really miss the short dark hair so good so I chopped it my girl Natalie came over she drove down from la came over to my place in san diego right now if you guys are watching this is fresh out of the shower it is not and you still look whatever oh thanks i'm like hat on no yeah but uh she drives down to san diego she cuts brock's hair first because i was like i'm gonna have hair envy your hair is so long

and luscious i'm not i don't think I can commit to chopping mine again. If yours is just so long. If yours is longer and luscious and curly. Yeah. So I'm upstairs with Summer for her morning nap. I come down. His hair is chopped. Wait, it looks, he's right out there.

It looked long. No, it's barely longer than this is right now. But where was it before? It was like down to here. Down to his stomach? Yeah, like. It looked long. No, it's barely longer than this is right now. But where was it before? It was like down to here. Down to his stomach? Yeah, like it was really long. He probably cut, I mean, at least eight inches off. It was really long.

Oh my God, he did the chop for you. Yeah. So he chopped his. I was like, all right, we're committing to this. Like, I got to do it. So I cut mine and then I did it two inches at a time because the last time she chopped my hair, I was like five, six months pregnant. I just felt so frumpy, not myself. And then I had short hair and I just, I hated it. So she learned her lesson

last time and was like, okay, let's just go a little bit at a time. So I was like, okay, two inches at a time. Then I was like, yeah, cut more. So we did two inches, we colored it and then we cut another two. And then I had to go do an errand for my sister. I had to get to the gym. So we didn't have time to cut more. And then when I was in Vegas for the country music awards, yeah, so much fun. We got like all of this glam. It was the whole company that set up this trip for us. It was absolutely amazing. It was like Amazon Prime, this company Telt. They just totally took care of us, made so many new friends, such a great group of people. So we're in the glam chair and the guy doing my hair, Isaiah, he was like, so what do you want to do for hair? And I was like,

I mean, honestly, like two inches shorter, but I don't know, I guess just straight. And he goes, I mean, if I could borrow her shears, I can do it. And I was like, wait, really? Like you cut hair too? And he's like, yeah, I could do it. And I was like, all right, let's do it.

So you just cut it like while you're in glam. You're like, no, let's cut it. Yeah. And then Rachel, who won on Matt James' season of The Bachelor, they were there. And then she's like, wait, you're cutting your hair? No, I want to cut my hair. So then she got in the chair after and cut her hair too. Are they still together? Yeah, they were both there. Oh my, that's so cool. Yeah. No, they're awesome. I'm going to have them on the podcast soon when they come back into town.

I'm like, okay. Cause I know with Bachelor, like they have crazy contracts. They can't do shows for so long after, but it's been, I think over a year. But they do crazy contracts they can't do shows for so long after but it's been i think over a year but they do pod they all have podcasts yeah but they're like really strict with the timing and whatnot but i think that they'll be able to do the show soon stay tuned for that so here we are short twinning short hair you texted me at like 7 a.m you were like i think i want to cut my hair what do you think should hair. You texted me at like 7 a.m. You were like, I think I want to cut my hair. What do you think? Should I do it?

And I was like, fuck yeah. Of course you should cut it. We'll look even more like twins. I know. Already do. And then we were just sending pictures back and forth. Yeah. I love it.

It's cute. I feel like you're sitting up higher than me. Am I? Who's taller? I'm 5'5". I'm 5'4". So I'm probably a little taller than you. I think I'm like 5'4 and 3 quarters to be exact.

I just round up. Okay. I always round down. Because like I'm 5'3 and a half. Oh, because you want to like sound more like petite? Yeah. No. No.

I don't know. I just do it. I don't know why. Don't ask me. You're like at a fitting and then your pants are too short because they thought you were shorter. I'm like, sorry, you guys. I didn't know if you wanted to hear me say the half inch. Like, I don't know if that's a thing.

Yeah. Go on. So you've been in L.A. since you were a teenager. You've done acting, singing. This girl is so talented. I mean, you're stunning. But the fact that you're also talented. Okay, where do we start? Can you like just like do a little acapella for us? Because like, I will literally go back and watch your stories just to hear you sing.

Should I like tease my song on here? Yes, I would love for you to do that. Okay. I'm finishing it on Sunday. I was I would love for you to do that. Okay. I'm finishing it on Sunday. I was going to show this to you anyway, but why not just tease it right now? Let's do it. Okay. Hold on. I love it. I have watched that story so many times. So good.

Oh, that was fun. That was thrilling. So when this is available, you guys have to be sure to download it. Yeah, please do. We're finishing the song on Sunday, I'm just excited to like start releasing music because I have like a hundred songs written that I'm like. Wow. Yeah.

And you write everything yourself. All by myself. I love that. I don't have anyone else in my ear telling me what to do, which is nice. Do you dance too? No. No. Okay.

No. No. So I mean, triple threat with looks, but not a dancer. Acting, singing. Beautiful. Okay. Okay. Songwriting. That could be my instrument. No. Okay. No. But you songwrite. Yeah. That's one of the hardest things. Cause I mean, you can get in a studio and sing someone else's songs, but even like writing, you know, the harmon studio and sing someone else's songs but even like writing you know the harmonies the melodies and the bridge and the chord like all of that stuff I mean the the the melodies are like very hard because you have to be able to sing something that people even if they don't know

the lyrics yeah they can like hum along so I've definitely gotten better with that and practiced a lot but I've written a lot of songs yeah it's like all the time I love that non-stop but I always I used to only write heartbreak songs okay Taylor Swift but now I have a boyfriend and so this song is called lovesick and it's about him oh I love this okay do we want to talk about him yeah yeah so I know you've told me about him yeah and now it's official yeah now it's official you were there on my birthday him and I were just like talking we've known each other him and I have known each other for over a year and I always had the fattest crush on him yeah and then Courtney your sister was kind of the reason we like. That's what she was saying. You know, like got back because we were talking for a minute and

then we were like, I don't know if we're ready. And then Court got in there and made us get back together. Yes. We're dating officially. Yay. Well, congratulations. Thanks. I was mad at him, though, because he asked me to be his girlfriend on 2-3-22. Why couldn't he do it a day before? Come on. Thank you. Did you not think or wait, you know, until 2-22? 22. I was so mad.

He asked me and I had my freak out. I was like, oh my God, really? Yeah, I will. And then I'm like, fuck you. Yeah. I was with you yesterday. You could have asked me yesterday. He was like, I don't know. I just wanted to do it'm like, fuck you. Yeah. You could have. I was with you yesterday. You could have asked me yesterday. He was like, I don't know.

I just wanted to do it today because we were alone. And it was really sweet and romantic. And it was. Yeah. So I'm so happy. Well. Yeah. But.

It is. You know. I'm just going to lie. Yeah. You can just say it. I should just say that it's 2-2-22. I mean, it was still 2-22 that you guys started dating. Mm-hmm. You know? so you can just say 222.

Oh, that's better. Yeah. I'm going to say that. Okay, thanks. No, I'm trying to think about what day we want to get married. And I'm all about like numbers too. I know. I mean, I followed 420 on Instagram for so long that every time I make a new friend,

I'm like, someone's getting the boot. Wait, I love that. That's so smart. I see people do that with like angel numbers's getting the boot. Wait, I love that. That's so smart. I see people do that with like angel numbers and stuff. Totally. I follow too many like engagement ring accounts to unfollow them. Yeah, I'm like, if I don't follow 420, then I would have to get to like 444. And then that's finding a lot of people that you're interested.

So I'm like, do I just go and follow like a bunch of celebrities until I meet more people I want to follow? No, so I've just, I've kept it. celebrities until I meet more people I want to follow? No. So I've just I've kept it. It's been 420 for like seven years. Holy shit. How do you. It's getting difficult. Let me tell you.

I just followed four new people after this trip in Vegas. And I was like, you don't post enough. You don't post enough. Do you like text people when you unfollow them? No. But here's what I do do. If someone notices that I've unfollowed them, I blame my sister. Smart. Do you say like she manages my account? Yeah, I was like, oh my God,

I was like, my sister must have seen that like your account wasn't active or just didn't recognize your name. Like, so sorry, I'm following you back. Now that they're listening to this, you know that Sheena's lying and she unfollowed you because she has to keep her 420. She has to keep her 420. It's funny. There's one of my friend's like best girlfriends. And we met in person. She was like a fan of the show. And she knew the deal with the 420.

So when I followed her on Instagram, she was like, wait, this is a big deal. And she's like, but am I ever going to get the unfollow? And it's so funny because I never would. But every time I'm scrolling for who to unfollow, I just see her and I smile because I'm like, never that one. In your head, you're like, that story is funny. Wow.

People get the boot all the time. Yeah. It's kind of scary. I know. So you have a boyfriend. Yeah. But in the past, you've had girlfriends. Yeah.

So I know sexuality is something you post about you talk about a lot yeah so let's just get into it heck yeah when did you know the first person I kissed I was in like kindergarten and it was a girl I've just always known yeah I've just always known but I didn't know it was a thing so when I was was. Yeah, when you were a kid, I guess that would be confusing. You don't think. Yeah. We'd play like house and like I'd kiss them, like the girls. It never was a thing to me. And also my parents, I'm so lucky that my parents are so accepting and so open and don't care. Yeah. But for some reason, when I kissed a girl when I was 15 and I was like, I'm strictly lesbian. I was like, I think I'm fully lesbian. Yeah. But I suppressed that. And I came out officially when I was 21. 21.

I was dating a boyfriend and I was like, I see us going somewhere, but I need to explore my sexuality. I know I like women. And I don't know if I'm going to be able to do that. So we broke up. And then I got a girlfriend. And now I identify as queer because I don't like the term bi. Yeah.

And I don't like the term pan, which is technically what I am. I just like everyone. But it's just ugly saying pan. Yeah. I remember the first time I met someone who was pansexual. And I was I had to look it up because I didn't know yeah exactly what it meant because there are so many yeah different exactly so I just say queer because it's like I like everyone and anyone I don't care who you are yeah but yeah coming out was I don't know why it took me so long I'm so lucky that I had such a great support system, but I just,

I also didn't feel the need to. I just thought it was normal until I started asking like my sisters and my mom. And I was like, do you guys want to have sex with women too? And they were like, no, not at all. I was like, oh, okay. That's something. Okay if you have not I thought every girl wanted to do that but no well I'm glad that you had such a supportive family because I feel like that's the hardest thing for so many people is like you're afraid to say something because you don't know how people are going to react and it's so sad that people have to feel that way, you know? There are so many children that are, and especially with this Florida, the gay, don't say gay, ban that they have. Now, if a child comes out at all to anyone, a teacher, a student, legally the teacher has to tell the parent their children's sexuality within like 60 days where they can get jail time in Florida. What?

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And this is coming from Florida, which is very like conservative. And that's where kids are not accepted and it's not safe for them to come out. Yeah. I just cannot believe that anyone would even think that that's a good idea or like think to do that. Right. Because coming out is such a, and I'm so lucky that I was accepted, but there are so many kids that aren't accepted and they can't come out until it's safe for them too. So forcing someone out is horrible. I think it's like one of the worst things you can do.

Yeah. What advice would you give to someone who say is like later in life, like in their 30s and can't really fully admit who they are or doesn't know how to address that part of them? That's a good question. It honestly it just feels so much like I feel like I am truly more myself than I have ever been because I'm able to be open and honest to myself and to everyone else. And it's so exciting. It's a weird kind of exciting getting to tell people like, I'm queer. I've dated girls. I like girls. It's so fulfilling being able to fully be you. And so just be open to experimenting.

If you're 30 and you're married, let's say, like ask your spouse if they're okay with you experimenting with other people. If they're not, then you kind of have to ask yourself, hey, can I do this? Can I be with this person forever and not be in touch with this very important part of myself because your sexuality is so important yeah I mean it's like who you are and I can't imagine if I was still like suppressing that and yeah exploring yeah totally yeah so just be honest with yourself and if you're not married go kiss people right like just go kiss people get on dating apps go like get yourself out there yeah it's fun mm-hmm oh I'm so happy for you

like you are just you're an inspiration thank you and I'm happy that you just get to be you yeah I know and I have a boyfriend that accepts it and he loves it and he tells people like my girlfriend's queer and it's just it's great but it's weird because I really only have been dating women these past two years and now dating a man yeah like wow okay different different yeah really different but it's nice yeah well good so relationships yeah never settle that's I've been on that recently because of my boyfriend and wow, have I settled in the past. I mean, I met you when I was with my first boyfriend. I was 16. Yeah. We dated for two years and everyone after that, I'm just like, what was I doing? My boyfriend

today, I was stressed out. I've been going through a lot recently and he booked me a massage and he took me. That's a good man. He drove me there, took me to get my massage, picked me up, ordered me pizza. And he just does that stuff consistently and he's constantly showing up. And like whatever my love language is he will mirror that and do what I need and I think your love language physical touch words of affirmation and quality time yeah so but also he does every other one of every love language which is amazing but I think that's a very important thing with dating. Definitely. Is to make sure you guys have the same love languages because people like to love people in the way that they want to be loved.

But that's not – you're supposed to love someone how they want to be. That's confusing. That's such a good point. No, because my ex, who I know you wanted to talk about him. Yeah, we'll talk about him later. It's a good transition we had very different love languages when we've dated and now that him and I are friends again his love languages have changed completely and he was talking to me about his ex-girlfriend

and I was like whoa whoa since when is this your love language like this wasn't your love language when we dated because now it's like, I understand him more. But at the time it was like so different. Yeah. But it's weird. Like putting it's like puzzle pieces that you have to, sometimes it just does not fit. Yeah.

When you met him, y'all, I've never seen someone give someone such a hard time. It was hilarious. But then, like, I actually, like, I'm a very empathetic person. And I felt so bad for him. But it was so funny and deserved. Yeah, it was deserved. So, basically, backstory.

We were hanging out with her ex. Are we saying his name or no? Rob. Yeah, it's fine. We used to not say his name on the podcast but now we say now we talk about him on the podcast and he doesn't even know it and he's gonna be on the podcast soon big you've been an ongoing topic for the last few months i'm gonna have to come for that one and just pop in for at least 10 minutes definitely and apologize so we were drinking we were at a bar and rob came and i was a little bit tips sheena's like my big

sister and i was like just asking him so many questions i was like look how hot she is like you lost this oh she has she has a baby at home do you want to see the baby she's so cute what else was i saying it was really you were just're stupid. Like, do you see this? Like, how did you walk away from this? Like, I don't understand. Like, you don't have this anymore. And he was like, I'm well aware of that, Tori. Thank you.

He was like, yeah, I know. And I just kept digging and asking about things. Why? And then he was like trying to get into this like deep philosophical like I was like no reason of why the relationship ended and you're like no no you're stupid you're dumb I hope you know that I just want you to know yeah um but then he called me his daughter yeah I was like wait I was like Rob you're old enough to be her dad yeah he's 40 now. Yikes. So like he could be your dad. He's my dad. He's my dad.

I love him. Yeah, but. I need to see him again. We'll hang out with him. Yeah, we'll do a redo. Maybe this time I won't have tequila shots. No, we'll have tequila shots for sure. Yeah, but it was just, it was something that I felt like needed to be said and hadn't been said to him yet.

And that's why I did it because I felt like that too. And he needed to know what he lost and I wanted to know why he thought it was a good idea. And I also wanted him to know that he treated you like shit and I don't like it. Yeah. He knew. He knew. I think I got the point across. I think everyone in that bar. Yes, you absolutely did. But he loves me, you guys. Like I wasn't mean enough that he doesn't like me. No, not at all. So he's my friend. That happened. So I want to go back to relationships and settling because I feel like so many people do this. So many people stay because it's easier.

So many people. I was guilty of that for a year and a half before I said I wanted a divorce. So why do you think people do it? Just because it's easier? It's so much easier. And also you get stuck in this routine of like, this person is safe. I'm going to have to get rid of all of this stuff. I'm going to have to whatever, move out our friend groups, all this. It just seems so much easier to stay. And I'm so guilty of that. But if you're, you're staying in a relationship

that isn't fulfilling you anymore, you're outgrowing, people are meant to be in your life for a specific period of time. It might not be forever. A reason, a season, or a lifetime. Ooh. Yeah. We're for a lifetime. Yeah. Love that. But why would you want to stay in something that's not fulfilling you? And I know that's so much easier said than done, but there are so many people in this world. That's what I had to tell myself. I was single for two years. That was the longest I've ever been single. And through that time, I found myself so much.

I had so much fun and I did not want a relationship and I was not looking for it. And now I'm pretty sure I found my person. Like I do think that like without even looking for it. And now I'm pretty sure I found my person. Yeah. Like, I do think that, like, without even looking for it. Mm-hmm. So. That's when it happens. Mm-hmm.

Like, when you're not looking. Totally. Because if you're searching for something, I just don't think you're going to find it. Yeah. And that's what, like, I mean, nothing against dating apps or any of that, you know, because everyone has a different journey, different path. They want to date a lot until they find the right person. But I really feel like you find it when you're not looking,

when you're just so content being single. And then it's like, oh, shit, this guy won't leave me alone. Maybe I should give him a chance chance and that was that was so big for me is because I was so happy being single like I really enjoyed it um and I wasn't looking for someone else to complete me I wasn't like I need to be in a relationship right now and I'm a relationship girl I'm like you like we're we love being with someone we love love and you like no one is going to complete you you have to complete yourself and I've always said I was so clingy in the past I was so fucking insane but also that like comes with age you know I've always said now that I want someone to compliment me, not complete me. I love that. Yeah. Words of wisdom. I know. Crazy. I really like that. Yeah. So it's like my boyfriend, I don't rely on him for everything. I'm not like,

I need to be with you every single second. Like, why isn't he texting me back? Yeah. Which is something I've never felt, which is weird, but it's because I'm getting everything without having to ask for it. Yeah. And he compliments my life in the best ways, but I can go live my life without him and I'm totally fine. And I never was able to do that before. My identity like lied within my relationships, which is horrible. Yeah. And I feel like if you're not happy with yourself

and where things are in your life, it's like you can't be happy in a relationship. You can't make someone else happy. So like you have to put yourself first and relationships aren't gonna fix it they're mostly gonna make it worse and kids aren't gonna fix it either like when people are like let's have a baby it'll fix all of our problems no no no it doesn't i'm so happy you didn't have a baby with my ex same oh no i was on birth control. Like, I was very, very careful before I was with Brock. Like, I, especially when I was single, I was like, no, no, no. I do not want to get pregnant. But I

also didn't think I actually could get pregnant because my AMH levels were so low. And so when Brock and I started dating, we're like a few months in, I was getting ready to freeze my eggs again with my best friend Ariana. Right. And so I had to get off birth control for a few months. And he knew I was off birth control. I wasn't trying to trap him or trick him. I mean, we weren't trying, but we weren't not trying. Wait, so you weren't pulling out?

No, not at all. I mean, obviously you got pregnant. So I'm like, we weren't not trying, you know? But like, there was always a chance. And he was like, I thought you couldn't pulling out no not at all I mean obviously you got pregnant not trying you know but like there was always a chance and he was like I thought you couldn't get pregnant and I was like I never said I was infertile I said it's highly unlikely yeah and that came straight out of the doctor's mouth like we didn't think that I would naturally be able to get pregnant. He said it would be very hard based on my AMH levels. So we weren't careful. And then I was late. And then I took a test and I was like, what the fuck? Were you excited? I was freaked out at first because I genuinely did not believe I could ever get pregnant just

the old fashioned way. I thought I would have to go through IVF and like, maybe that wouldn't even work. Yeah. So I was freaking out. And, you know, we're in the middle of a pandemic. We've been dating six months. Like, I don't I don't I hope this is my forever, but I don't know yet. And then I'm pregnant and I'm like, oh, my God. And he wasn't ready. I wasn't ready. And then, boom, a few weeks later, we have a miscarriage. And I'm like, oh my God. And he wasn't ready. I wasn't ready. And then boom, a few weeks later we have a miscarriage. And then that just changed everything in our relationship because then we realized we do want to be together. Maybe a baby right now isn't, you know, the best idea. But then when I heard my doctor say that a month later was like the best time to try and have a healthy baby, I was like, do we do it? Do we not? And then one time we did it. And here's summer nine months later. Were you trying? You weren't trying, though, but you had the

thought in your guys. I knew that week I was the most fertile I would probably ever be in my life. I had the DNC procedure, which also just kind of like wakes up your body. I was on prenatals and everything just because I was getting ready to freeze my eggs again yeah so I knew if we had sex during this week it was a very good chance I would get pregnant again yeah he knew that and didn't pull out and I was like wait uh I guess we'll just wait so wait do you remember that specific like do you remember the sex that it was the day we moved into our house in San Diego. We moved in. We spent the night and woke up that morning.

It was our first morning in our new house in San Diego. And we christened it and made a baby. Literally made a baby. That is so crazy. Yeah. Because I feel like couples usually are like, I don't know which time it was. But for you, it was a specific week. And Summer's so freaking cute. She's's the best she was such a love today she was just she just gave gave me so many hugs i know

she can just sense that you're good with babies because like the first day when you met her she just like gravitated towards you already it was crazy was crazy. Yeah. And I mean, you nanny. So you're with the baby like all the time. All the time. She definitely senses that. I need to come see her more. I know. You need to come visit in San Diego. I do.

And Palm Springs. I want to go to Palm Springs so bad. Yeah. Let's do it. When? Let's do a trip. Okay. I mean, we're going to New York this weekend, but we just need to plan it.

Okay. We can do a girl's trip. He can even stay in San Diego and I can can take her out there, and my mom and sister can come, and your sister could come. Wait, let's do it. Yeah. Can we do it? Let's do it.

Okay. That'll be fun. I'll heat the pool. I just want to be tan. Is it hot there right now? It was. It was 90 degrees last week. Oh, my God.

Yeah. That's crazy. No, it's so nice. Okay. We're doing it. Yeah. I'm crazy. No, it's so nice. Okay, we're doing it. Yeah, I'm so excited. And I just got new bikinis. So this is great. Perfect. This is so fun. We're just like actually talking but in front of a mic. I know. This is what I love about doing this podcast because I again, do interviews with people who I've been a fan of, who I've never met, and it gives me an opportunity to get in the room with them. But also I can just sit here, crack a White Claw can with one of my girlfriends,

shoot the shit, and people are interested in listening. And I love that. Like, I feel so blessed that I get to do this for a job, that I get to be home with my baby every day because I mean working from home has like a whole new meaning over the last two years but the fact that I get to do this and people care enough to listen like I love you guys so thank you and like I could cry but I'm not going to right now do it it. Do it. I love these. These kind of podcasts are my favorite.

I love just listening to friends talk. Yeah. Talk about their stories. Talk about their life. We need to get on here with Addie and Court. Yeah. We should do a sister's one. In Palm Springs.

Oh my God. Let's do it. I got the mobile equipment. Let's do it. We can take it anywhere. We're going to Palm Springs. Yeah. But I want to do this more too. So especially anywhere. We're going to Palm Springs. Yeah. But I want to

do this more too. So especially like when I do move back to LA, whether it's here in the apartment, although I think this room is going to transform into like a playroom for summer. We'll have Brock's desk over there, but then the rest of it I think is just going to be a big playroom for her. He's like, wait, so how am I going to work if she, I'm like, I don't know. Figure it out. Figure it out. You have a laptop. Like her room is her is her room you know and then the living room's not big enough for the playpen so we're just and it's not carpeted exactly so yeah but when we're back in LA like full-time we need to do this more and even if it's bonus episodes that we put up on Patreon and do video ones you know I

mean these are my favorite ones and I haven't done these in a while I love the drinking and podcasting episodes because we just shoot the shit we need to get like drunk one time and do it and see what happens as soon as I'm done nursing I will have more than one drink on the podcast yes forgot about I think I've got like another month and a half. Of breastfeeding? Yeah. And then she goes on whole milk. Oh my God. I know. She's going to be one, Tori. I just don't like that.

How? I don't like that. I cannot. I just remember when she was born and I was texting Courtney and like on the phone nonstop. I was like, show me the baby. I know. I remember it was like a week. She didn't send you a picture and you're like, we're not friends anymore. I haven't gotten a picture of Summer. I was like, I swear to God, Courtney, if this is the end of our friendship, I'm pissed. Yeah. Because I needed to see, she's just the beautifulest baby in the entire world.

And she looks like she could be yours. She does. Oh my God. I i need to take i love taking out like the kids that i nanny in public yeah and people will be like oh do you nanny them and i'm like no they're mine yeah i just it's okay i'm an actress so it's practice for me to like lie right strangers yeah you're really good at it but i bet you if i took her out people would be like oh your baby yeah totally yeah this is mine yeah she is mine okay palm springs is it's happening we're doing it i'm so excited me too well thanks for podcasting with me thank you yeah we gotta do this more for sure we need to do it whenever literally whenever

you want me so i was like okay we're gonna LA today. I was like, what are you doing? I don't have a flight until tonight. Let's podcast. We've been talking about this. Yes. Literally since your birthday. And that was last year. Oh my God.

That's so sad. I know. What are we doing for your birthday? Mine doesn't even count anymore. I mean. Why? Because Summer's birthday is the week before mine. So it's just like all about her now. Yeah, but we still need to do something for you.

Well, I'm flying to Nashville on Mother's Day, which is the day after my birthday. Because Brock and I are going to be the special guests for the Give Them La La podcast tour. Wait, that's so fun. Yeah. Oh, my God. So we're doing that in Nashville at City Winery on May 9th. You guys should get your tickets. We have, like, a fun segment that Brock came up with planned.

So, yeah. So I guess that's going to kind of be, like, what we're doing for my birthday. I mean, we'll do something chill, like, probably just dinner on my actual birthday. And then we're doing a little trip. That's so fun. I was just in Nashville. I love Nashville. It's so nice.

Yeah. I kind of stayed inside, though. I was like, I've just been to Hermit Crab recently. Yeah. I don Nashville. It's so nice. Yeah. I kind of stayed inside though. I was like, I've just been a hermit crab recently. Yeah. I don't really care to go out. You, you're like flying to New York tonight. I know. Brock literally said to me, he goes, let's look at flights. Let's just go. What are you doing this weekend? I was like, nothing. He said, come. I was like, no. He said, why? You're not doing anything. Just come. No. It's just, I'm not like that anymore.

I used to be. I mean, I'm usually not either. But Raquel was like, I really want to go to New York and see Sandoval's show. Brock, the team that he was training with, the rugby team down in San Diego, has a game out there on Sunday. That's what he was Sunday. So when he was on the team before he decided it was just too much with homebody and the baby and everything, we were planning on being in New York and we're like, oh my God, how perfect. Sanibel has a show.

So that was already in the back of my mind. And then when Raquel said it, I was like, do we just go? I mean, it's two days. My mom was like, go. So I was like, all right, I'm going to set up a couple of podcasts. We we're gonna make it a work trip and have a little fun so we're going I wish I was going I know me too but I'm not well sorry next time yeah I've never been to New York what yeah that's oh my god you're gonna love it I've never been wow I've never like been anywhere. Okay. We're going to have to change that. Yeah. Yeah. We got to go places. You got to come travel with us. I will. Perfect. I'll be the travel nanny. Perfect. You read my mind. Duh. Love it. All right. Well, speaking of, I got to get packing. Okay, fine. I know.

But I'll be back soon. Okay. Not soon enough. I know. Whatever. Well, thank you for podcasting with me. Thank you for having me. You guys, go and follow Tori.

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