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Are you okay? I'm good. You look kind of drunk, a little bit. I really? Yeah. Well, I'm not that drunk. Because I saw you to the right of the couch, which I can still see. You have a little, you took a little.

I have a nip. You have a flask. You have a flask. I have a flask and I have a handle over there. It's 240. I was vaping downstairs. I have, like, a weed pen. Is everything okay? Yeah.

If I'm feeling... Like, if it... If you can tell that I'm, like, a little out of it, maybe I just need to, like... Don't do another drug. Yeah. If that's what you're thinking. I would just, like, fucking skull a rail of cocaine. No. Just, like, to even me out. you're thinking. I would just like fucking skull a rail of cocaine just to even me out. You're fine.

If I just need to like bubble bumps. Yeah, you don't have to do any skull a rail. It's kind of like this delicate balance of like I get too drunk and I'm like a little crazy and then I smoke a little weed to mellow me out. But then I get too mellow. Every day? Is that roller coaster? It's not every single day because I wake up and I'm not like fucked But then I get too mellow. Every day? Is that rollercoaster? It's not every single day

because I wake up and I'm not like fucked up because I like slept it off. Do you ever wake up with a headache? Yeah. But like, it's easy to get rid of a headache.

You just fucking caffeine. Smash a real. Orange juice. You just bang out a real. Have some water. Snort a line. You snort a line of cocaine.

Do you ever use a humidifier? I like it. It sort of doesn't dry you out so that keeps you hydrated and healthy. I wake up, like, overhydrated. I'm, like, usually drenched in sweat, so I need the powder to dry my shit. You drenched in sweat means you're dehydrated because your body is expelling all that. I'm soaking wet.

Yeah. I wake up and I'm wet. That's dehydration. If I wake up and I'm super wet, I'll try to do some blow. No. And then if I do too much blow, then I'm like... It sounds like you want to do the cocaine regardless of how you feel. I'll shroom out for a little bit.

Shroom out now. Yeah. So cocaine, mushrooms... I'm taking acid tabs. Acid. Special K. Pills. And alcohol.

Daily. I didn't say anything about alcohol. You don't drink? I have a little whiskey. Yeah, you said you had a whiskey in the handle. I'm sorry. I'm feeling out of it. I feel like I need to do a bunch of blow because then I'll be a little more focused. Please don't do blow.

I just feel like maybe I overdid it on the weed session. It's a bonus video Thursday episode of our show, if I were you. That's why I try to stay a little sober for these. A little sober. We're on video, usually when we do the pod. Yeah.

I wake and bake. Yeah, I know that. Yeah, and that's like, we sometimes do it bi-coastal, so I can't keep tabs on you. Right, exactly. Yeah. And that's what I prefer. What's in that?

Juice. What's that? prefer. What's in that? Juice. Zaddy's juice. What's that entail, the Zaddy's juice? Zaddy's juice is just jungle juice that I lace with cocaine. If you drink cocaine, does it also do what it does? I would think not. Otherwise, people would just drink it.

Interesting. Putting it in your nose seems uncomfortable. Like, if you can just... If you snorted alcohol, it would be a faster way to get drunk, right? I'll take a fucking line of vodka. That's just like, would it be as popular if you had to snort it? Can you butt-chug heroin? I'm serious.

Can you put heroin in water and butt-chug it? That's a good question. Who says no to that? Thank you guys so much for watching. These are, as usual, real questions from real people. Only difference is every other Thursday you get to watch us. And it is completely free of advertisements, marketing. Get out of here.

We're not here to sell out. This is direct to consumer. They're paying us $5 a month for here. We're not here to sell out. This is direct to consumer. They're paying us $5 a month for content. We're delivering it straight. We're not trying to monetize every nook and fucking cranny. Yeah, right. Okay. Did you

sell an ad? I sold another ad type deal. I don't even want to call it branded content because that has such a negative connotation. Why do you even mix it? You ham up so much that we don't sell ads and then you're like,

I have one little ad. Do you remember months ago I sold one and they wanted you to read it? Yeah. So that one went awesome. That one was good for business. They sent me another one. Do you mind?

I forwarded it to you. If you could just read it cold. Yeah, I do mind. I don't want to sell out. Because I sort of... You didn't even give me any money from that first one, by the way. I'll pay you as soon as they pay. The annoying thing is, it's not just you monetizing this.

Yeah, just give me a W-9. I can't just give you the cash. Did you send them a W-9? Yes. Are you throwing up roadblocks for me to not get paid? I'm just figuring out. I'll give you a W-9.

I will give you a W-9. Am I going to get paid for this one? Let's see how the client likes it. Okay. And see if you can stare into the camera too because this has to be like... I won't be able to stare into the camera and read it, because you just sent it to me. Do your best.

Imagine a raisin the size of a fig. That's cool. Now a little smaller. A little smaller. So we're getting to a raisin. I don't fucking know. What you're holding is a new crepe from the makers of plastic. That's awesome.

Try not to editorialize, okay? It's the size of a. That's awesome. Try not to editorialize, okay? It's the size of a grain of sand, but wrinkly. How? The answer is pseudoscience. Interesting. Shut up. Shut the fuck up, actually.

It gets better. For every micro raisin we sell, I love this, two more are donated worldwide to, I don't know, Canadians for all I care. Are you sure you didn't write this? It sounds familiar now that you're reading it, but I don't think I just forwarded it along.

So what can we do to help? Well, as of now, this product is just a fever dream in the mind of a man in a coma in Vermont. Venmo a mirror, or maybe even I'll set up a dummy account. I feel like you you sent me the draft instead of the final.

Just keep reading it. We'll cut around it. And we can get to work because hey when we're working together there's no reason I shouldn't get rich off this shit.

LOL coupon code cash. I really think this is so I'm down to donate some to the cause. What was the Venmo name again?

You said Amir. Oh, mine? Yeah. So you want people to Venmo you for, I guess, a very, very tiny raisin. No, to revive this guy. Okay, so now it's like a GoFundMe for a guy's coma, for his medical bills, to Venmo you directly? It seems like a circuitous route.

If they could just give more directly to the hospital. I want to present them with one big envelope with one big check. Alright, cool. So this has nothing to do with the raisins. The raisins? What the fuck are you talking about? You said imagine a raisin the size of a fig, now smaller, now smaller. That was just to get people talking.

I think. So don't have notes from me if you don't even know what you're looking for. You did great, and I'll pay you as soon as I get paid. Oh, I already got a Venmo. Really? How's that possible? Because I blasted my family, so I got one for my cousin. What did you...

If you're watching, thank you so much. He gave $1,200. That's insane. For what? For this guy's coma? Well, I said that I was sick. All right. This is a separate scheme then.

You have lots of different schemes to get people to Venmo you. You have like different avenues. 1,200. What did you do? You like Venmo requested your entire family or you like wrote an email? Both, yeah. Independence is about having different revenue streams so that one dries up. You're still getting yours.

You're just more like, you're a tech savvy homeless person. You're a tech savvy bum is what you are yes yes like yes it's instead of a sign you're just venmo requesting people yeah yeah yeah i'm like getting venmo you said it correctly i'm getting venmo okay well don't like agree with me like we're having a casual conversation about i'm accusing you of a crime i think don don't dance. This isn't a good thing. This is a sad day for you. You're happy because you got 1200 bucks. That's not a dad. If you're happy and you got 1200, clap your hands.

And if you're going to get more cash, fap your hands. No, don't. Oh God, I hate that. All right. Let's answer some questions. This guy is kind of in a sticky situation after getting down with the total dime piece last night. Ooh. So we'll call him FDR. Why?

Because he's on the dime. I'm getting down with a total dime piece last night, and the gag is, I still live with my parents while I'm at college. So I did all the traditional cover-ups, turned the TV on to mask the sound, tried to be as quiet as possible. I thought I was in the clear because in the morning my mom was none the wiser and carried on as though everything was normal.

However, on the way to school, I received a text from my dad And it said, no more girls while we're home Too uncomfortable and disrespectful Ooh, ouch So he 100% heard me I'm embarrassed beyond belief and I want to hear What would you guys do?

Should I pretend that he's imagining things? Should I just ignore it and we never have to talk about this again? Has this ever happened to one of you guys? Thanks for your advice. Love, FDR. Cool. This happened to me all the time. You brought ladies home during college?

I think it was after. Yeah, maybe during college and then after college. And you would just hang out with them in your room all night. Yeah. Thin walls, old house, people heard. Right. TV on to drown audio, or that's also noticeable? It was, I mean, it wasn't like, it wasn't loud, but like, I guess, yeah. Were you trying to be a little quiet?

Yes. But you were caught we're trying to be a little quiet like actual like noise yelling wise yeah i feel like that only works to an extent like we have to be quiet we have to be quiet and then at a certain point you just sort of lose yourself to this act and you're like oh shit i think i screamed like you almost brown out i think you i think what ends up happening like if it's if other rooms are completely quiet yeah even if you're not making that much noise like it's hearable if you're utterly silent and silent in your house you just hear people sort of like having a muffled conversation you can hear that everything's hearable inside a house so like there's not necessarily me like going oh my god but it's sort of just like this

like quiet yeah oh i'm sorry i'm sorry that kind of thing yeah so whether or not they heard were you ever called out on it yes yeah yeah like, yeah. Like the next day, my mom would be like, that was too loud. She'll say that to you. Yeah. And then you're like, sorry. Yeah. But it wouldn't do anything. Well, it made me feel a little bad.

It was a little uncomfortable, obviously. It was like, gross, stop talking to me about this. Yeah. But yeah. She's right here still. We're all eating cereal together. You know Jill, she's married to me now, Mom. Don't tell me that that was uncomfortable in front of her. Well, I mean, now I feel like I wouldn't get caught. It'd be fine.

That's cool. They'd be encouraged. They'd think I was giving them grandchildren. That's good, because it should lead to another generation. That's right. How'd it go? Do you need anything? Et cetera. Yeah, exactly. Et cetera, et cetera. At this point, they're trying to facilitate it.

Joel, another glass of wine? Why don't you guys retire early? It's 4.15, Mom. Please, please. It's like mood music. This has happened to you. Has it happened to you? No, I would never bring somebody home to my parents' house. You've never even brought someone home while your parents were home?

I mean, girlfriends slept over, but i don't think we would you didn't even have sex you never even had sex in your parents house while they were there i can't remember that i did because it was never like i was there for a month with my girlfriend it would be like oh she slept over for a night let's not have sex because we're next to my parents right you know logical things yeah that's true i guess guess. That's fair. Is this guy certain that the dad heard him, or is it just like they knew a girl was there, and he said don't?

He said... It doesn't really matter. Yeah, he said, no more girls while we're home. Way too uncomfortable and disrespectful. So I assume they heard. Yeah. I mean, that's a pretty forceful text.

I think you just gotta say... I mean, you can't do anything except say, I sorry should i pretend he's imagining things yeah i mean if you're talking about dad there was no girl here the thing is if you're uncomfortable all you can do is be like i'm sorry i'm sorry i'm sorry let's not talk about it i'm sorry it won't happen again and then it's over but like if you're uncomfortable and you're like it didn't happen and then your dad was like no i heard like the headboard banging against the wall and you're like that was something else he's actually locked the door me and your mother will reenact what it sounded like yeah there's no like that just makes it more uncomfortable there's not anything that like saves you're not your dad isn't

going to be like oh okay i guess i didn't hear you fucking anyone so would you even respond to the text thumbs up reaction yeah i would i would respond and be as respectful as possible. I am really sorry. That was not cool. It won't happen again. It was rude of me. Yeah. But then you have to knock it off.

And then you do have to knock it off. You didn't knock it off. You just apologized and moved on. My parents were way more chill. I never got that kind of... If I had gotten that kind of text from my dad, if he was like, this was really disrespectful, I think I

would have done way more to hide it. I still would have done it. I would have done it. More to hide it. It was definitely more like... My parents teased me about it. It wasn't like... It wasn't like, how dare you? Yeah, it wasn't. They just aren't that

sober of a people. How close were your rooms? This was when I was in the attic, and there were rooms on the second floor. So there was some distance. The room is right below mine. They heard everything. It's directly below. The worst location the room could be was directly below.

Yeah. I mean, I don't know what they heard. I don't know anything. They didn't tell me exactly. Let's have them on. Mom, Dad. No. Reenact, please.

They would be embarrassed. They wouldn't tell you what they heard. So, yeah, you have to reply. Don't ignore it. You have to say, quick apology. Quick apology. take a beat yep maybe one day you can find your own apartment yeah and in the meantime just like don't have this stuff in your room if there's a there's an area of the house that's really far away i feel

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So who's the biggest party animal in your life? Jeff Rosenberg. Jeff Rosenberg writes, Okay. Eric writes, long-time listener, second-time writer. I'm in a real predicament of my own doing. Almost four years ago, I threw a party, and some kid was giving me problems in my own house. So like the macho man I am, I warned him multiple times to not keep messing with me.

He then proceeded to knock over some game of beer pong I set up, but I lost it on this punk. I grabbed a samurai sword that sits on my mantle, and I gave him a small nick on the knee. It got blown out of proportion at school, and people called me samurai for a while. Long story short, we made up and everything was fine. Four years later to the current date,

he's been selling drugs, and I guess turned into like a drug dealer that hangs out with real thugs now. He messaged me the other day saying he wants $200 or he's coming to take the money I owe him for what I did when we were 16. Like, what the actual fuck did I do? Is it stupid to want to fight him? Should I just give him $200 because I was a dick four years ago? I really don't want to hand over $200, but I don't know if I can scrap with real thugs.

Thanks, guys. He sent a picture, too. What a strange predicament. So this guy wants $200. It's a really small detail, but I like that this guy thinks it was blown out of proportion. This photo is pretty bad. That's like a pretty deep cut. That's, yeah, like, it was all blown out of proportion.

You attacked someone with a sword. It's more than just a slice. That's like a slice it was all blown out of, you attack someone with a sword. Yeah. Although, like, that's, it's more than just a slice. That's like a slice with a little opening. Yeah. And there's blood on the knee. And there's gauze on the blood. Right. And there's blood on the ground.

Yeah. So I think that your nickname of the samurai is earned. Yeah. What you should do is obviously tell this guy that you're going to meet him with the thugs and the 200 bucks. Uh-huh. And then go, like, superhero. You show up, you have your samurai sword. No.

Yeah. It's like, oh, you wanted some of this? Sing! You remember me? Whoa. The story is not yet finished. Sing! Uh, yeah, you owe me 200 bucks.

Yeah, scraped my knee. Do you accept Venmo? Sing! Yeah, sure, Venmo, cash. As long as it's like a private transaction. Incoming Venmo from... Ting, ting! The Samurai. That's like a private transaction. Incoming Venmo from the samurai. That looks like a really heavy sword.

Like you're having a kind of a hard time holding it. I have arthritis. You cut yourself a little. Yeah, it's very sharp. Yeah. Does your wrist hurt? It does. Amputate it.

Also, it's a very matte sword. You're making all the sound effects with your mouth. You know what? Keep the money. You're a all the sound effects with your mouth. Ding! You know what? Keep the money. You're a loser now. See how that worked? That's cool. Would you give him $200 if this happened to you?

Of course not. For slicing his leg open? You can't come and request it four years later. Yeah, but you also don't want to scrap with thugs. I don't think that meeting them and giving them $200 gets you out scot-free. Like, there's no way that the thugs meet up again and they're like, all right, who else should we rob? It went pretty well when we robbed Jeff. Yeah.

They'll be like, they keep on going back until the well is dry. I would imagine what you have to do is just be like, that's not happening. But then what if they beat you up i just i i sort of my theory is that they won't beat you up they're they're more like a threatening group they want to threaten people to get quick easy money if they get it great and if they don't they move on to the next thing they're just looking for a target they're looking for a mark. They're villains, and that's why you have to stand up for the little man. That's what the superhero does.

Zing! Zing! Rain coming down, a hood just dripping right past your face, looking at the ground, eyes askew, but then, ding,

they come up. Your wallet's on the ground, dude. Shit, shit, shit. Is there a finder's fee? I kind of just saved you from four hours of thunder and lightning. Where did he go? Where did he fucking go? And then your buddy's head just rolls off his body.

So you fucking decapitated someone? He was a thug. Oh, my God. They wanted $200 from the fucking samurai. We owe you so much more than that now. It's time that you earn the nickname. That's cool. The samurai.

Coming soon to, I don't know, Netflix, I guess. What would you do if somebody wanted money from you? I'd venerate them instantly. $200. Leave me the fuck alone, though. Now, here's the cash. Get out of my face, jackass. I'm a tough guy. I'll give you your money. Just get the fuck alone, though. Now, here's the cash. Get out of my face, jackass. I'm a tough guy.

I'll give you your money. Just get the fuck out of here. Unless you want more, and then you scram. Here's 300. Peace be with you. Keep the change, but take your dumb ass away from my town, and don't come back now, you hear? Unless you want a little more money,

in which case Venmo requests me from afar. Don't do it around me. Here's $1,000. Keep my parents' name out of your mouth. And just in case you need it, I'll write down their bank info, their routing number, and their account number. And you can set up a wire transfer recurring if you want. You little rascal. But if I see you, take one more dime, then let's say 40 grand.

Your ass is grass, and I'm going to call the cops. Don't take it all at once, otherwise they'll notice and shut you out. Zing! All right, last question. Okay. Go ahead Anytime What?

Yep Yes Something? Yes Okay Yes It is A guy who's concerned about his sister

Me You writes I'm in a library And everyone keeps The library keeps everyone's reservations on the shelf arranged by surname with the cardholder's names clearly visible. My sister's reservations were on the shelf over from mine and I saw that she had on the shelf waiting to be picked up a book. That's right. The title was, quote, Living with a Narcissist. I know that she likes to read books about all sorts of things.

So do I. But I was worried by this particular choice, as I know that she and her husband seem to have had some troubles recently. She's been spending a lot of time at work and less time at home, frequently going away on business trips. It's to the point where there's a lot of time at work and less time at home, frequently going away on business trips. It's to the point where there's a lot of pressure on their relationship because he's putting his career above his family. When he comes to family gatherings, he looks at his phone a lot of the time, is short with people, and doesn't say much. A few days after noticing the book, I asked my

sister if she's been reading anything interesting, but she said that she hadn't. So my question is, what do I do about this? I wouldn't really call it snooping to see a book in a library shelf because I was there too, but I don't know if it's my place to ask her about it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks. I got a lot of opinions on this, but you go ahead. Depends on your relationship. See me! Go ahead.

How close are you with a sister? Like, is it, like, kind of distant where you feel bad saying, hey, I noticed you rented out a book called Living with a Narcissist, anything you want to tell me? Or do you, like, do what you just did, which is like, hey, read anything interesting recently, make yourself available in case they wanted to talk about it. Yeah, right. Doesn't it seem almost like book

aside, you don't have to get her to talk about the book. It almost seems like all the information that you need to ask her about her relationship is there. Yeah. Like the guy travels a lot, there's pressure on the relationship. He's mean at family outings. You don't need to be like, I saw you had a book about narcissism. Is that related? Yeah, that was about you.

There's one called The Snooping Brother. Yeah. How to keep a weasel out of your family forever. Like, you don't have to be, you don't have to find the mystery behind the book.

If you're worried about your sister's relationship and you want to have a check-in with her, I feel like that's fine. But how much do you press if she's like, it's fine, whatever? Are you like, no, it's not fine? I wouldn't press. I would ask an honest, open question and let whoever I'm asking know that they don't have to tell me about it. But if they want to, I'm there and I'm curious and I care. And if your sister feels like sharing with you, then she will.

And if she doesn't, then she won't. And if maybe your concerns are all for naught, she'll let you know. Is there anything to the idea that if it's an older sister or younger sister, your relationship will be different? Like are you more protective of your younger sister than your older? I used to be. Now I'm like they're evening out a little bit more now that the triplets are in their 30s. Now everyone's like sort of an adult. Yeah.

Micah's still a baby. But the triplets are 30. It sort of feels like when I check, I don't have to like protect them very much. They're all the same age as you. I probably didn't have to protect them for a long time. But I still felt that. Like, it felt a little bit more like older brother relationship with them. Like, we talk, and I'm, like, much quicker to be like, I can help with this if you need it.

Do you want my advice on this stuff? Yeah. And my older sister, I'm way more demure. And I'm like, and I ask her about stuff, but when she has problems, I you'll figure that out all right i know you will you're the older sis you're the best you taught me you taught me to like billy joel who talked to you younger sister i'll give him a knuckle sandwich oh a job interview you want me to kill you want me to kick his ass it's a female boss who's leading the interview. That wasn't

very woke of me to assume. Please don't tell our older sister. She'll spank me. She's the boss of us. You did get spanked by your older sister a lot, right? I'm fucking joking, man. Oh my god.

No. Do you remember the... Was she ever, she's three years older than you? Yeah. At a certain point, she was big enough to beat you up, like when she was six and you were three. Yeah. Do you remember switching, flipping the script? When were you stronger than her? We got into some scraps.

Knock down, drag out. We did. When you were seven and she was ten? Oh, yeah. We got into some scraps. Knock down, drag out. We did. When you were seven and she was ten? Oh, yeah. When she was like 12, I think. No, maybe when I was, yeah, I feel like when I was nine and she was 12, I really think that we got into some fights. It's weird because beating up a 12-year-old girl sounds awful, but when you're a nine-year-old boy, it's just par for the course. No, I was never the first to.

Hannah was more violent with me. Mom? She would kick my ass. She would kick my ass. Really? Yeah. What would she do? Push you?

Push me, slap me in the face, pull my hair. For fun or because you were mean? No, we would get into fights over who's holding the controller, whose turn it is, whose TV show we're going to watch. And then she would sometimes hit me. Grab the remote and just hit you in the head with it. Or like, oh, if I was on her spot on the couch, she'd pull me off or something.

Classic. So we would get into like, didn't your brothers ever kick your ass not really actually I don't know why I was definitely a turd they never like pushed you

maybe because one was 8 years older than me so like is a 16 year old really going to beat up an 8 year old I got into some

scraps with Micah too I'm 8 years older than him what'd you do to him he was like bothering me I'd push him away and then he started he would hit me back when he was like 8 when he was 6 What did you do to him? He was, like, bothering me. I'd push him away. And then he started, like, would hit me back when he was, like, eight.

When he was six, when I was 16 and he was eight, he, like, head-butted me in the nose and gave me a nosebleed. Yeah, I never did that. I never made my brother's nosebleed. Interesting. You were a bad sibling. Right. You deserved that that i was always attacked you were a crash test dummy of sorts yeah your family treated you as a scarecrow and rightfully soy because you are a soy boy i was a a soy boy. All right, bring it up. And you don't have to dig so deep.

You don't have to reference the book either. Yeah, you don't have to. If you wanted to know about the book, you could have asked about the book, but the time has passed. The time is no longer here. And thus ends another episode of whether or not you should beat up your younger sister. Bring it on. If you have your own questions, your own theme song submissions, send them to ifireyoushow at gmail.com. Regular episodes of our podcast every Monday on the main feed.

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