SERIALously - 171: ‘TikTok Star Murders’: Everything Peacock Left Out & The FULL Story of Ali Abulaban

Episode Date: July 1, 2024

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When is the last time we had sex, Anno? I don't care. It's been a month. I don't care. Why the fuck do I need to be in this relationship? What do you give me, Anno? Nothing. When is the last time you fucking pleased me?

It's a no, it's a no. It's a no, it's a no. There's no way that you're not fucking somebody right now. There's no way that you're not fucking saluting. There's no way! Hey True Crime Besties, welcome back to an all new episode of Serialistly with me, Annie Elise. As you can see, I am not in my current studio. I am still on vacation, but I brought all of my recording equipment with me because I had a little sneaky suspicion that something was going to happen.

There was going to be either a case update, a brand new breaking case, something where I was going to need to just jump on my mic, turn on my camera, and bring it to you. And sure enough, that's why we're here. So now I'm just sitting on the floor in the bedroom of our rental in the Hamptons because I got to talk about this case with you guys.

Now, the case we're talking about today, it's one that I previously talked about very, very briefly on a Headline Highlights episode. And I also talked about it on my YouTube channel, Tend to Life, many, many years ago. But the reason that I'm talking about it again today is because the trial has finally finished. There is so much more information that we never even knew.

And it's a case that is just very, very upsetting. So as we were working on this episode, Peacock actually came out with a documentary called the TikTok Murders. There's so much never before seen audio video, so much more information. And when I tell you that this documentary is unhinged, it truly is unhinged guys. My jaw was on the floor, but not for the reasons that you would expect. Not because yes, this case is crazy,

but because it was very one-sided. Now I'm not saying that I'm siding with the other person. If you know this case, you know what I'm talking about, but I don't want to give anything away. But there was so much that went down in the trial and so much more information that we found out through the trial. The trial was not completely televised 100%.

So unless you pulled these court records or attended the trial, you wouldn't even know about this other slew of information that comes into play in here. So I knew when I saw this documentary, I was like, hold on, we need to talk about this because there is a whole other half to this that's missing. Again, that doesn't make anything right, wrong, and different, whatever. I just feel like, you know, I always want to jump on here and give you the full picture

of a case in the most neutral, unbiased way. And so oftentimes with these documentaries that we've talked about it with American Nightmare, with the Denise Huskins story, so many other ones, it just doesn't tell you the whole thing. It doesn't give you the full picture. So I was like, no, we need to give them the full picture. We need to break it all down.

And so much information that was just left out quite honestly. So in today's episode, we're not only going to talk about what was featured in that documentary, but we're going to talk about the trial, about the case. We're going to dive way deeper into things like I mentioned that weren't even touched on in this documentary or that people haven't touched on in any case coverage really and go through it all, especially with the trial because like I said, it wasn't completely publicized. Only bits and pieces were put in the media.

But this trial was a whole new level of unhinged. And one of the things that we love to see is when defendants testify. And this defendant is no exception. It was unbelievable. One of the craziest things about his testimony was that he was truly giving the performance of a lifetime. I mean, it was crazy. It was the biggest display of narcissistic personality that I've ever seen, just trying to sell his story.

It was unbelievable. It was almost like he was trying to gaslight anybody who was watching this go down, that he was telling the truth. It was like he was a master manipulator. But then in typical narcissistic fashion, he slipped. And when he did, it got ugly. So buckle up, let's jump right in.

We have got a lot to talk about. On October 25th, 2021, police were dispatched to the Spire apartment complex in San Diego. This was after they got a call that reported hearing multiple gunshots. The witness described the suspect as a Middle Eastern male that goes by the name of Ollie. Yes ma'am, my wife and another man were out there. I found them dead on the couch. Okay, stand by. Please don't...

Okay, hold on sir. Tell me what you saw when you went in there. I saw my wife on the couch. I don't know where he is. I don't know where he is. He's been gray. Gray? Okay, well your wife was shot in the face. Is that what you said? She had a forehead and he had a tumor pretty close to the head. When the police arrived and entered the apartment that these gunshots came from, they were met with a truly haunting and gruesome scene. There were two people inside the apartment, both dead on the couch. One was shot in the face, and the other was shot in the head. Now, there's never been a question as to who killed them, as the suspect involved immediately

confessed. However, whether it was a cold-blooded premeditated murder or a crime of passion, well, that would ultimately be up to a jury to decide. So what happened here? And even more importantly, why? As the details started to unfold, it began to look like a true American nightmare. And to understand all of that, we have to start by talking about Ali. Ali Abulaban was born on May 25, 1992 in Staten Island, New York. Ali is Middle Eastern, and he grew up as a first generation Muslim American. According to Ali, his childhood was very difficult. He had a strict father who really expected a lot from him, especially since he was the oldest child in his family and also coupling that with his family culture. And Ali said that in school

he struggled to even make friends because he had social anxiety. But also because when he finally felt like he was starting to fit in, he was constantly reminded how different he was. For example, spending the night at a friend's house, it was just completely out of the question. His father wanted Ali and his siblings to be raised in a more traditional Muslim culture, so he would constantly remind Ali of this, even going as far as saying, you're Muslim, you're not American, I will not raise you to be American. So Ali said that because of this, it was very confusing because he just didn't understand why he couldn't be

like everyone else around him. And because of that, he ended up carrying a lot of shame. In fact, Ali described his entire childhood as emotionally, verbally, and even physically abusive, all at the hands of his father. Almost always, everything was an overreaction, in my opinion. Nothing was ever just a simple talking to.

I mean, everything was just explosion, anger. Most of the time, I wouldn't know why he's mad at me or what exactly he's... But he would just grab whatever's nearby, throw it at me, strike me, vacuum cables, shoes, things like that. I had wanted my mother to purchase something for me, something that I really wanted. It was Star Wars related.

I'm big into Star Wars, but he didn't like the fact that it was kind of childish in his mind. I think I was about 14, 15. His response to me pestering my mother to purchase this for me, and I think it was a Darth Vader helmet that changes your voice, was to grab the vacuum cable and whip me repeatedly. And when I say whip, you can hear the whew, you can hear it. And that was the worst pain that I've ever felt physically. I literally would beg him to stop, and he's asking me, why are you fucking crying?

Why are you crying as he's whipping me? He would constantly say things like, oh, I'm not going to raise my kids American. We're Muslim. We would say in Arabic, we're Muslims. Which means we're Muslim. We don't do these things. We don't do these things. And that was very troubling for me because I'm a first generation American. I wanted to be American. I wanted to be, you know, how my friends were. Like the way he would call me would startle me. I mean, he wouldn't say, Hey, Ali, can we talk? So I'd jump every day.

I just, every time he called me, I would jump and I naturally just have this reaction to just jump. And it always feels like I'm in trouble. He felt constantly beat down, like he was never good enough and never going to be enough. So after high school, Ali was still living at home and he said that the abuse from his father, it was now getting worse. He needed to figure out how to get away from this situation

and get away as soon as possible. So in 2014, he decided to join the US Air Force and he felt like this was going to be perfect for him because he could finally do something positive in his life, but also get out from underneath his father's thumb. It was really just the perfect situation. So after he joined, he was stationed in Okinawa, Japan. And that is where he met Anna.

Anna was born in the Philippines, but she was living in Okinawa while Ali was stationed there. Now, when Ali first met Anna, he was just completely enamored with her. He wanted to be her boyfriend immediately. He was just smitten. Anna was this beautiful, kind woman. She had so many friends.

She had this amazing glow to her. Anna and I grew up together in Okinawa. She's from the Philippines and her dad was stationed in Okinawa. We were best friends and we had a very tight knit friend group. And Anna was one of the more like caring, loving, happy individual. That's what drew me to her. I don't think my life would personally be the same if she was never my friend. And so I'm very thankful for the friendships that her and I have shared together.

And according to one of Anna's friends, Julia, Anna was also really drawn to Ali because he had this big larger than life personality. Anna's friend Kayla said, I think that Anna saw something successful in Ali. He had a good head on his shoulders. He had a solid ranking in the military and the two of them shared a lot of laughter and love. So Ali and Anna immediately

clicked, and because of this, they of course wanted to do what any new couple would do. They wanted to spend as much time together as possible. And before they knew it, they were pretty much in a full-blown relationship. Now, Anna wasn't really the type of girl that wanted to just isolate herself and only spend time with Ali. She had a lot of friends and many of her friends lived in Okinawa. They were people who she grew up with, who also grew up near the military base.

She just had these very close friendships and close relationships that were really important to her. So she really tried to make the best of both worlds combining the two. She would sometimes wanna hang out with her friends and Ali in a group setting, which is totally normal. You often want to bring your boyfriend or girlfriend around your friends, right?

Mold the group, kind of become one big melting pot of friends. So they would go out to clubs, they would dance, they would do things like that. The only problem in all of this was that Anna's friends didn't really know how they felt about her dating Ali. I mean, of course they wanted to be supportive, but there were things that Ali did here and there at first

that just rubbed them the wrong way. But then later on, it became obvious that these little things that rubbed them the wrong way to begin with were major red flags within Ali. It wasn't too long until things ended up coming to a head and Ali ended up getting kicked out of the Air Force. This is after he allegedly assaulted one of Anna's friends. Hang out one-on-one, you know, maybe talking bad or something, you know, something like that something intimate They would they would get mad at me. Oh letter. You know, why are you such a party pooper? It's like three in the morning, you know, I have to go back to work at eight in the morning, you know, it's like

And in the way you're describing it right now You're using a voice that sounds kind of calm and easygoing. But when you look back, do you recall using? and calm and easy going, but when you look back, do you recall using like a level of voice or a tone of voice that was maybe a little bit more authoritative, commanding? Yes. To Anna, yes. I would be like, hey, because in the beginning I would suggest it, but then it got to the point where I was like, all right, Anna, come on, it's time to go. Were you getting frustrated?

Yeah. We heard from several witnesses who described seeing physical control and violence from you to Anna in the military. There were some general conversations about seeing pushes and slaps and things like that. And there was a very specific incident that led to your discharge.

Do you recall hearing testimony about that? So those are two different things but yes for the first thing about like then me pushing her friends so as far as the whole the friend saying I pushed him I don't recall these things. Slaping her friends? Slaping Anna Anna I would never do that in public I mean I never did that there were times later in your relationship where you put your hand yes but I never did that in public let me finish my question sorry there were times

later in your relationship where you put your hands on Anna. Is that right? Yes. There were times that you punched her? Yes. There were times that you pushed her? Yes. Yes.

There were times that you may shoved her? Yes. According to her friend Julia, every time that somebody commented on Anna's looks or the fact of how lucky Ali was to have her, Ali would get really upset, almost like, don't tell me how lucky I am, she's mine, I know, and just kind of almost possessive in a way. So now without the Air Force, Ali couldn't live in Japan any longer. And after he was discharged, he ended up going back to Virginia where his family was living. But that's not the end of Ali and Anna's relationship, not by a long shot. Because Anna had a huge surprise. Anna was pregnant.

Ali and Anna knew that they wanted to get married, and Ali also applied for a visa so that Anna could move to the US and they could all be together. However, that process is very, very long. And Anna actually had their baby, a little girl named Amira, while she was still waiting on her visa. So in 2017, Anna moved to Virginia with their daughter Amira, and she and Ali married in a courthouse ceremony. Everything was great. They were finally all together. They were starting to make a life for themselves. It was finally like, okay, we can do this. We're all together in America. We're gonna live the American dream.

We have our great family. We're in love, you know, amazing life ahead. Fast forward one year to 2018 and Ali started posting videos of himself doing these spot on impressions of famous characters, characters like Al Pacino's Tony Montana from Scarface, Keanu Reeves from John Wick, all these different characters. He even did Nicolas Cage and honestly was a dead ringer, sounded just like him.

Look, Dad, I know it sounds crazy, but just hear me out. The map exists. All I have to do, look, I'm not stealing it. I'm borrowing it. We take it, we flip it over. If there's no map, we put it back. There are no foul. Don't call the cops, dad. What the fuck are we? Okay! God, okay! Do you want to play this? Okay. I'll be with you.

Do you want to play it off? Okay! Where the fuck is my gun? Tina! Tina! Where the fuck is my gun? And impressions were one of the things that Ali did while he was growing up so that he could make people laugh. When he was in school, he wanted to fit in. He wanted to make people laugh. And doing these impressions of other people is something that really achieved just that. So in high school, Ali described himself as somewhat of a class clown. And like I mentioned earlier, according to Ali, he had some social anxiety and did have some trouble fitting in at times. He also had felt like the abuse from his father made him insecure around other men. Well, I had learned that there was a

house party that I was not invited to. But one of the guys who told me he's like, just just come, dude. You work with us. Just come, you know. And I show up and I see one of my staff sergeants sitting down. You know, everybody's in normal civilian clothes. It's just a party. And a couple buddies of mine that I went to work with every day. And I sat with them. I had a beer in my hand. And it had been really troubling me as to like, why am I not fitting in?

What's wrong with me? So I said, hey, staff sergeant, can I ask you a question? He goes, sure. I was like, why does it seem like nobody likes me and he goes you want the truth I'm like fuck what did I get myself into I'm like yeah it's cuz you're a terrorist you're a terrorist a bullet one and then my buddies are just like, like, fucking party. I felt like it was like a disc jockey. The whole party just stopped.

They all heard that shit. I was ice cold, man. I just, I didn't have any words. I just got up and walked out. It was humiliating. Do you think, is that something that you experienced in the military given that you were Arab? Yes.

I was one of the only Arabs, Arab Americans, in the military. So I guess in that culture, you know, the military culture, it's people from all over the country, some from the south to the north, west, whatever. I noticed that in order for them, for me to feel like I'm bonding with them, I had to allow them to make fun of my race.

They had to call me A-Rab or Ben Laden. You know, I had to allow those things in order to, you know. So he knew that once he could make people laugh by doing this, they would start liking him. So now, as an adult, Ali thought that maybe he could take his comedic talents and turn it into a career. This internet celebrity or social media influencer. That kind of thing. So Ali started off on Instagram and YouTube and he used the username Jinkid. He posted tons of funny impersonations, posted videos of himself just being goofy, and he started getting the same attention that he did when he was back in school, when he was

younger. People liked him. They thought that his content was funny, and he quickly started to build a following, which felt like he was immediately fitting in with the masses. But then entered TikTok, and this is where Ali really began to shine. You know why I pulled you over today, son? Go on, your man, now your fucking son. Your respect, okay? Hey, chill out dude, I caught you speeding on the freeway, license and registration. The only thing you're gonna get from me is an ass kicking, okay? So get the fuck out! Alright, fair enough. A lot of you have been asking me how to do the Tony Montana impression. I'm gonna try

explaining it. So, um, it's really deep in the throat, so start with the sound, rrr, rrr, you know? it helps to do the face too then you talk normally RRRRR RRRR how'd you like that? I always know one day I come in here do not hesitate. One of the hard parts about Tony Montana is not only do you have to be able to do the voice but you got to know how he says certain certain words if you didn't grow up watching the movie like I did it's gonna be Pretty tricky for me. I just picked it up so I could say anything Garnier, man, my stomach is bubbling. I'm gonna go take a shit. It's gonna be the nicest shit you ever seen in your life So what's this about?

You heard what happened in my home I Got no idea who you are. In my home? In my bedroom where my wife sleeps? Where my children come and play with their toys? In my home. Hey! Who the fuck do you think you're talking to, huh?

What do you think I kill a wife and two kids? Me? I want what's coming. Oh yeah, what's coming. Oh yeah, what's coming? The world, Chico. And everything in it. I know a few lawyers.

Sometimes, Anna would join in on these Gin Kid videos, helping Aligra was following on TikTok. Can you even smoke in here? I don't care. Who's gonna stop me? Come on. talk. As he gained more followers, he began sharing bits and pieces of his personal life, too, just giving off the vibe that everything in their relationship and their life was perfect. They had internet celebrity, they were in love,

she would join in on the videos. What more could anybody want? By 2020, he had millions of views and he eventually ended up getting verified on Instagram, which is when you get that little blue check mark thing. And Ali felt like that blue check mark was a big deal for him as a creator. He felt like it would surely open doors to different brand collaborations, different auditions.

He felt like he was going to be able to make a full-blown career out of his passion. Now at this point, though, as Ali's popularity grew, it was almost like this one taste of fame made Ali feel way too powerful. Almost to the point where social media can be dangerous. I'm not trying to be the next Al Pacino. I probably could. College is bullshit. I'm a college dropout, bitch. And I pay more money than fucking half the people I see. Olly would walk into a room sometimes and be like, don't you know who I am? I'm a gin kid. I can do whatever I want. He was intoxicated with his own fame, and he felt like he was untouchable. So much so that he even started asking his friends

and family to start referring to him as his handle, the gin kid handle, not his name Ali. It was like he was becoming this persona inside and out and he was just consumed by it. Meanwhile, Anna felt more and more isolated and lonely in Virginia. She was dedicating most of her time to raising their daughter Amira and

also helping Ali with his TikToks. But then one weekend, she went to San Diego, California to spend some time with her friends, the same friends that she had while she lived back in Japan. After that trip and seeing everybody exploring everything in San Diego and everything that San Diego had to offer with the beaches, the sunshine, the boardwalks. Anna decided she wanted to move there too. She wanted to be closer to the people that she grew up with. So she told Ali, I've been in Virginia for you, doing your TikToks, raising our daughter, I wanna move to San Diego for me. And Ali agreed, he agreed to move.

Now mainly he agreed to move because it meant that he could work with influencers in Los Angeles. He was convinced that this was gonna be a huge career move for him. It wasn't like he was doing this move selflessly to make his wife happy. It was more that he was totally excited by this because it fed into his ego. He thought that it would bring him closer to his dream of becoming an actor. So then once they were in San Diego on social media, Ali and Anna kept posting these videos of their relationship, of his gin kid skits, all of these things,

and their life looked very glamorous. They were in love. They were this beautiful couple. They were doing videos together. They lived in this huge high-rise apartment in San Diego with beautiful views. Many people thought that they were the epitome of couple goals. But behind the scenes, things were falling apart. Anna's friends said that the marriage was actually deteriorating. And deteriorating is putting it mildly. According to Anna's friend Julia, they only hung out with people that Ali wanted to hang

out with. And if he didn't want Anna ever going out with her girlfriends or her close friends, he would just tell her she couldn't go. He also started controlling how she spent all of her time in San Diego. Now around this same time, Anna started building her own social media following. And this kind of became a thorn in Ali's side, a sore spot in their relationship. Because he was used to being the one receiving all of the attention. He loved having all of the fame.

Now that people were interested in Anna, what she was doing, what she looked like, watching her videos of her going out, he was not liking that. Again, more in line with possessive. To top it all off, alcohol and drugs started coming into the mix as well. Anna and Ali spent a lot of time partying. There were nights out drinking at all of the hottest spots around town. There was heavy drinking mixed with cocaine use, and that really became the norm for both of them. Now if you ask Ali, he would say that it was Anna's friends that were the huge partiers and that Anna was the one doing cocaine heavily before then he started partaking in it as well. Now other people will say no, he

was the driving force. He always had a bag of cocaine on him, but from all accounts and what we will get to later with the trial, it seemed like they both were using drugs recreationally, together and apart. Now, regardless who the driving force was or what's 100% true or not, ultimately Ali began to heavily use cocaine, all the time. It wasn't just when he was out partying

or in social settings, he would literally just be ripping lines while he was home by himself. Now around this time, Ali's behavior also took a dark turn, which is to be expected when there's drug use at play. His jealousy and his possessiveness over Anna heightened, and he started abusing Anna, both physically and emotionally. But what's crazy about this is his insane behavior started spilling over onto social media because he would record almost Everything he would record private conversations. He would secretly record things

He was recording him venting on social media and he was just airing out all of his dirty laundry to all of his followers So that he could really make Anna look bad There were even times where he would be on Instagram Live or TikTok Live, and you could see that he was clearly using drugs, where he would still have powder residue on his nose. Now in the Peacock documentary, it shows some pretty tough footage of their fights, which Ali recorded, most of them in secret.

They also showed some voice memos, which he sent to her. And these were very brutal to listen to and can be very triggering to listen to. So I just want to give you a warning. He often would accuse her of cheating on him. He would constantly remind her that he was the reason that she was able to come to the U.S. in the first place, just guilting her, basically saying like, if you didn't have me, you'd have nothing. I did all this for you. And it's very difficult to listen. But I want to play a few of them for you just so that you can understand the context

and the tone of these voice memos, recordings, and all of those things. Where were you? I went to clear my head. Clear your head or you went to go sleep with another man? But you don't understand how hard it is to get her to listen. It just sucks that she paints me the bad guy.

I can't believe guys can deal with this as a man. I'm a healthy man. I listen to you. I try to work with you. The door is right there. The door is right there. When was the last time we had sex? Tell me.

There's a billion other women out there for you that would fuck you in a heartbeat. Yeah? A billion other men for you too? Is that your hope? When was the last time we had sex, my mom? I don't care. It's been a month. I don't care.

Why the fuck do I need to be in this relationship? Hold on. I'm not going to let you go. I'm not going to let you go. I'm not going to let you go. I'm not going to let you go.'t care. It's been a month. I don't care. Why the fuck do I need to be in this relationship? What do you give me, Anna? Nothing. When is the last time you fucking pleased me?

It's no, it's enough. It's no, it's enough. There's no way that you're not fucking sleeping. There's no way. No you're not fucking somebody right now. There is no way. No woman is beautiful as you. You're gonna go a fucking month without sex. Thank you for baiting me. I drove across the whole country for you. This was your plan all along, Anna.

You used me. You fucking called the cops on me behind my back? How evil is that? Anna, how evil is that? What are you trying to show with that video my back? How evil is that? Anna, how evil is that? What are you trying to show that to me this time? How evil is that? Are you showing the blame?

No, I just can't believe it because I want to watch this later. Look at me in the face and tell me you don't love me. I don't love you. What do you mean? I don't love you. I don't love you. Sorry.

So clearly a man who is beginning to come undone. His possessiveness is getting the best of him. He's realizing that he no longer has Anna in his grasp the way that he used to, and he's beginning to lose control. But guys, we are just skimming the tip of the iceberg here. There is so much more and it gets so much worse, and we're gonna get into all of that

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today to get 10% off your first month. That's betterhelp.au. So Ali is becoming completely undone, unhinged, and Ali's non-stop degrading comments and vile insults to Anna continued, they didn't stop. It was like he wanted to record all of this to just like paint some sort of narrative for later on. But the joke's kind of on him in all of this because all of these recordings actually show him being the abusive shithead,

nothing painting her as the villain in this. There's my wife, seven years, from Okinawa all the way to San Diego. She f***ing wants to leave me after seven years. She couldn't even wait for the visa to finish. That just means I don't need your visa. I'm gonna keep breaking this suit. Let's keep calling the cops. Yeah, cause he just tried to commit suicide.

So, that's what it is. He had a gun in his face. With my daughter sleeping on the couch. I had to do that just to get her to come home. When was the last time you fucking saw me smile? When did you last? So how do I change that? Fucking don't make me happy, just make everything worse. I'm sorry, Anna. You complain about everything, nothing ever makes you happy. This is why we're losing everything, cause you complain. You know everything good that happens when you complain. Everything that is.

You know, you're not the only one who complains. You're the only one who complains. You're the only one who complains. You're the only, but I think nothing ever makes you happy. This is why we're losing everything, because you complained. For everything good that happens, you complain. Everything is negative. Sorry, I'm pretty good. I don't know why, how I got that answer. I wish I could have told you.

This is what you want. I wish I had said... I You abandon your husband don't respect them you put your friends over him of course you're gonna lose him After you fucking punch me in the face I still come back to you and this is my baby I said you you don't want me anywhere. You said you don't look I said leave. No, I said leave No, you're not you're just respecting you're trying shit you ain't trying shit things ended up getting so bad that Anna even called Ali's mom at one point Why do I need your mom I just need him to leave

What's up? What's wrong? Why do I need your mom? I just need him to leave because he is... Hey! Why do you always pull back to him? Yeah, what do you want me to do? Put him in jail? I'm not trying to put him in jail. I'm trying to remove him from my house. Whatever case, if you feel like you're under your license, then take your case to jail! She's not in danger! What the fuck are you guys talking about me like I'm some monster? She's not even giving me a chance to fucking... to get my fucking marriage back. He doesn't have a chance when he does cocaine after next though. He lied and so he

can stop doing it. I need you to walk away. Please come here. I don't want to lose my wife. If another man touches her I'm fucking gonna go crazy. But despite her efforts nothing was seeming to work and Ali kept getting more and more violent. So eventually, Ana started calling the police. However, Ali would immediately change his tune and act like nothing ever happened once the police got there. I bring her to this country on a reason she's a Filipino, man. Somebody has to be the bigger person.

What you don't want to happen is she alleges that you paid her and we have to arrest you and now you have an arrest. Isn't that fucked up? It's a woman's world. I gave you everything you could. I brought her to the country. And now some other fucking asshole is gonna be touching my woman?

I don't think so. Then as soon as the police would leave, Ali would just go right back to treating Anna like shit all over again. He was forceful, violent, scary. And the truth was, Anna was trapped. He practically was holding her hostage. Not to mention, they still had a young daughter together. Anna was trying to protect her. She

was trying to shield her from this. She didn't feel like she could just escape. And I forget the exact statistic, but I believe it takes people usually eight tries to escape a domestic violence relationship. Eight times, eight times trying. So she was trying to use resources, she was trying to call his parents, she was trying to get away, distance herself, but things were just getting worse. So finally, without having many other options

and not sure what to do, Anna ended up posting to her social media. She posted a selfie video with text over it saying something along the lines of, when you're in a toxic and abusive marriage for seven years and you find out that he cheats on you in your own home. Now, it was a good move for Anna, I will say, in the sense of reclaiming her voice. She was putting him on blast. She was telling the world what was going on. It was a clear outcry for help. but the problem with it was that his internet persona was everything to him.

So now that this video was online for everybody to see, everybody who was following and invested in both of their relationship and their personal careers, it was a huge dent to him. To his ego, to his potential career move, he became infuriated. And like I mentioned earlier, Anna appeared in many of Ali's videos on TikTok and Instagram. So he felt like he was the reason that she even had followers to begin with, like nobody would actually like Anna on her own or anything like that.

So to him, he saw this post as her trying to turn his, quote, fans against him. So he totally and completely flipped out on Anna, and he made her remove the post immediately. I didn't cheat on you. You fucking betrayed me. And I fucked a girl in Miami too. And I fucked a girl in LA. I've been fucking bitches all day.

Because you deprive me of sex, you paint me a bad guy, you fucking disrespect me, I'm fucking everybody. I am fucking the best man you ever met. You're the dumbest bitch I ever fucking devoted my life to. I worked so hard to build my platform and turns out the one closest to you is the one that tries to destroy it. So the toxicity in their relationship continued. But then finally it reaches ahead. And one day, Anna decided she has had enough. In October of 2021, she finally decided to leave Ali. Ali told Anna, okay, you can stay in the

apartment. You can stay here with our daughter. I'll leave. I'll go stay in a hotel. So Anna stayed in this apartment with their little girl, Amira. Now during this time, even though Anna was leaving Ali, Ali saw things a little bit differently. He didn't exactly think that this was a breakup, that this was the end, that they were going to divorce. He was still trying to win her back. He was thinking that they could repair their relationship. Things could improve.

According to Ali, Anna was the liar here. She was the one in the wrong, and he knew that she was cheating on him, but he just couldn't prove it. He says he couldn't prove it because she would constantly lie about it. She would hide it. But in reality, Anna was trying to escape Ali and he could not wrap his head around that fact.

Not at all. He couldn't accept it. He couldn't understand it. And he just outright refused to believe it. So at this time, Ali was still trying to get Anna back. He said that he was trying to make things up to her and that one day he even ordered a bunch of groceries to then be delivered to the apartment so that it would make Anna and Amira's life

a little bit easier. And in that grocery order, Ali also included some flowers for Anna, really trying to get back in her good graces. Oh, I was so, when I had made the order for the groceries, I was really hoping that the roses would make an impact on her, a positive impact on her.

I was really banking on it. I was really hopeful. I was waiting for the notification that the groceries were delivered. So I was just really, really anxious to hear what she would say about the roses. I got the notification that the groceries were delivered. So I'm like, okay, cool. She got it. She's probably bringing it in now. Bringing it into the house at this time. She's going to text me any minute. She doesn't text me. I'm not getting anything.

So I thought that was strange. So I texted her first. I said, hey, is everything OK? She immediately responded, hey, got food. Thanks. And that really caught me off guard because it's very dismissive. It's very short. She did say thank you.

But she didn't acknowledge the whole, like, whatever, she didn't acknowledge the roses. And I thought that was so strange. So when Ali didn't get the response to this act of love or whatever you think it is, personally, I think it's an act of desperation, when he didn't get the response that he wanted from Anna, he went over to the apartment to check on her. You're waiting for an acknowledgement of what in your mind was a nice

gesture and a romantic gesture. Correct. She responded to the groceries, which you recall receiving a thank you for that. Correct. But as you're waiting, did you ever receive any acknowledgement of this romantic gesture that you had done for her? No. At some point, did you try to call her before you went to the apartment? I believe so. And I'm not sure she responded or answered. or answered. After placing that phone call and her not answering and not acknowledging what in your mind was this romantic gesture, what was going through your mind? The cocaine has started to take effect.

My anxieties, my worries, the same things that I'm worried about were starting to come back to me. This is not normal behavior from Anna. These are the thoughts that I was having. This is not normal behavior. She's being shady. Why didn't she say anything about the roses? I have to go talk to her because keep in mind, I'm thinking I'm about to hit the road for four hours to go to LA. So I wanted to just, well, first of all, my intention was just to do something nice with

the roses, but now I'm having suspicions about her reaction. So now I just want to talk to her just before I go." Ali says that he never made a copy of the key to enter the apartment and that he always had front one from day one. But according to the prosecution, that was not the case. And he did in fact secretly make a copy of the key. So he used the secret key that he made. He got over to the apartment complex and once he got inside the apartment, he had a full blown meltdown. He felt hurt, and he felt like Anna must have done this on purpose to him, like she was toying with his emotions. And that hurt turned into a full blown rage.

Well, at first, I was just observing. I mean, I was right at the front door. I immediately noticed all the groceries were on the counter, including the milk, that she had not even taken the time to put it in the fridge. And the first thing I see is my roses or the roses that I sent on the counter and they're crushed by this like mini luggage makeup kit that she had, this makeup bag. That makeup bag doesn't usually leave her vanity, she does it in front of the vanity mirror. So for me to see my roses crushed like this,

and her makeup bag right on top of it still open, I'm trying to piece this information together. I'm thinking, okay, first of all, she didn't give a shit about the roses. Second, her makeup bag is here. It's open, so that tells me she's quickly putting her makeup on to go see somebody. That's how I interpret it.

At first, I wanted to see where she was, well I asked her what she was doing. I had not let her know that I was in the apartment. She said, I'm at home, stupid. You obviously were at home and you knew that she was not home. Is that right? Right. This was the first time that she had blatantly lied to me with my knowledge and That set me off. When you say it set you off, what do you mean? I knew in this moment she's a liar and

she's lying to me and my suspicions are skyrocketing. Now I'm just like At this point I knew I can't believe anything she's telling me. Do you remember calling her on the phone? I did. Was that before or after you made this recording in your apartment? I think it was before,

and that's why I was trying to bring this up. Okay, so when you made this phone call, what were you saying to Anna? Where are you? You're not home. I'm home. You're at Dunkin' Donuts? Like she said she was at Dunkin' Donuts to get ice coffee. And then I remember asking, give me a pan of like the car.

Let me see if there's anybody else in the car with me. No, I'm not doing that. Couldn't it have just been that she didn't want to tell you where she was? Why in your mind did you immediately jump to, she want to tell you where she was why in your mind immediately jump to She's not telling you where she is this means she's cheating. I Mean the cheating thing was going on I mean the the suspicion of that she's cheating on me had been going on for months and I'm constantly one minute

I'm thinking it's happening. It's prevalent and then sometimes I just brush it under the rug Maybe I'm just crazy and then again I start to think and then sometimes she'll tell me something and I believe her that she's not cheating on me so the whole cheating thing is just been going on for so long like the whole me suspecting this is cheating it's been going on for so long so that's of course gonna be my first conclusion I yeah I started rummaging the apartment. I started throwing some stuff, some of their stuff away. I threw away her makeup. I smashed some of the groceries. I threw the roses on the ground. I was having a huge tantrum. I mean-

He wanted Anna to know that he was mad, but he also wanted to get proof that he wasn't crazy, that she was cheating on him, that she had been cheating on him. So in the midst of him trashing everything, throwing things around like a freaking tantrum toddler, he also decided to grab his daughter's iPad. And when he did that, he installed the app Discord on it. Now, if you're unfamiliar with Discord, basically it's a messaging app. Ali said that he had a Discord channel for his community of followers, so they could talk, things like that, which I have one for mine. It is kind of like a group chat that you can have rather than needing

to share your personal phone numbers. And it's just a way to have privacy, but always be connected. But also one of the things that you can do on Discord is you can create a voice channel. It's basically a phone call, but imagine that anybody can click in and join this call, similar to like a three-way phone call from back in the olden days. I'm dating myself, I know. But instead of three people, as many people can join as you want. So once you're in that voice call,

anybody who joins can hear you, just like they would if you were on the phone with them unless you're muted. So Ali set up a voice channel on his daughter's iPad and he activated it. So now Ali could join this voice channel from his phone, his computer, or whatever device wherever he is, and he would be able to hear anything that was going on inside that apartment.

Ali decided that the best place to put the iPad was underneath a piece of furniture. That way if Anna was having sex with anyone or in close proximity with anyone, he would definitely know. So after a little time passes, Anna ended up coming back home and she saw that her apartment was completely trashed. She called her friend, Julia, to vent, to tell her everything that was going on. She knew that it was Ali who did it. And she said that she wanted to clean up the mess

before her daughter, Amira, got home from school because she didn't want her daughter to come home to be confused, wonder what was going on. So she asked her friend, Julia, to go pick Amira up from school so that Anna could clean up this mess. Anna also mentioned in this call that she was planning on finally getting a restraining order against Ali.

So she asked Julia to pick up Amira from school so that she could deal with this mess, and then she decided to also call another friend named Rayburn. She called Rayburn so that he could come over and help her. Now Ali had always been jealous of Rayburn because Rayburn had She called Rayburn so that he could come over and help her. Now Ali had always been jealous of Rayburn because Rayburn had made a comment apparently a while back about Ali being so lucky to have a beautiful wife like Anna and that never sat right with Ali. Remember he didn't like when anybody paid compliments about his wife if anybody was showing interest so he never really liked Rayburn from the jump. When we moved here I used to cry to you. I didn't want you to be close to Ray.

And what do you do? You party with him. Now as a side note, in Ali's own words, he said that he actually had a crush on Anna when they first met. But at the time, Anna was already with another guy named Sean. Sean was also in the Air Force with Ali. Ali said that Anna's friends would always bring Sean up, and it seemed like they liked Sean more than they liked Ali. But the truth was that Anna was actually married to Sean. Ali says that he didn't know that he was anything more than a boyfriend, and he was very surprised when he found out that she had actually been married.

So now back to Anna and Rayburn. They were actually very close. Anna knew Ali was completely unhinged and would fly off the handle if he ever found out that she was seeing somebody else. So the two of them would meet up frequently at hotels. They were just trying to lay low. They didn't want Ali knowing anything was going on because they didn't want him

to just completely lose his mind. But later that day, when Rayburn came over to the apartment, he had no idea, neither did Anna, that Ali was actually listening in on the whole thing on his daughter's iPad with that secret app downloaded. And when he heard that Rayburn was there and that Anna was with another man, he completely lost it. This was the final straw for him.

Something snapped and he went crazy. Now in the documentary, you can actually hear audio recordings from Ali's phone of him breaking into the apartment and then tragically shooting both Anna and Rayburn. After the shooting, Ali runs out of the apartment and he calls his mom. And in this phone call, he says to her, I killed her. I killed Anna. Then he went over directly to pick up their daughter Amira from school, and he got there before Anna's friend Julia could get there to pick her up. Now luckily, he was soon pulled over on the freeway and he was arrested, but he had a lot of live ammunition in the car with him.

He had the gun still with him. I can't help but wonder if this would have turned into a situation where it was a murder-suicide, where he either tried to flee with his daughter or could have snapped even more and killed her and then himself. So I am just so thankful that he was pulled over swiftly, then he was arrested. Five hours later, he ended up confessing to the murders, and he was charged with two counts of first-degree murder, along with a gun use allegation and a special circumstance allegation for committing multiple murders. And this is where things become unhinged.

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someone's day. After all, if you have the power to make someone's day, you would be crazy not to. So Ali has now been arrested and he has been charged with these murders. At one of the first hearings, Ali didn't seem to show any remorse whatsoever for killing Anna and Rayburn. And at one point, he even called Anna a bitch after he heard evidence that she had invited Rayburn over to her hotel. I'm here to invite Ray over to the hotel when she was staying at. I'm sorry, this is news to me. The judge tried to calm him down,

but Ali flipped out completely. He started yelling, you think I wanted this for my five-year-old daughter? Who the fuck are you? I'm fucking her. My life is destroyed. You think I wanted this? I'm not your father My life is destroyed. This is the thing I wanted then.

I wanted it. I wanted it. And that's something that you are going to see as we put more clips in and you listen. It was always about him. My life, my wife, my house, my couch, my daughter. It was never, never, never about Anna. And this just goes to show that any remorse that he did feel, any sorrow or regret that he felt was for himself, not for what he actually done. So following this outburst,

a local reporter ended up reaching out to Ali and she arranged a jailhouse interview. In the interview, Ali claimed that he had caught Anna kissing Rayburn on the couch, but he said that the rest of it, it was just a complete blur. Then he said, I wanted to be an actor. It was right there.

I'm the loser here. I lost. Again, all about what was within grasp for him, for his career and how now he's lost all of that. Not realizing you just killed your wife. You just killed the mother of your daughter. Take a listen. This is me and her kissing Ray on my couch. You just killed your wife. You just killed the mother of your daughter. Take a listen. Get the fear to my marriage! No! That's my family!

Your family says that your social media fame changed you. They say that you were doing cocaine. They didn't really care about the consequences. Are they right? That's false. My family doesn't know anything because they never hear. Could anyone else have Anna? How else would you need? He said his social media fame is what made him snap, and that the drugs and the social media fame all messed with his brain.

He said that the attention that he got online, it's what made him violent and made him aggressive. Now interestingly, during the interview, Ali talked a lot about losing his quote, baby, again, meaning his career. One of Anna's friends even pointed it out in the documentary how it seemed like he was more upset about losing his business than losing his family. Then after this interview, a video ended up being posted on YouTube on his behalf.

In this video, Ali is on a phone call from jail. It's the recording of him from jail and in it He's telling his fans that he's doing okay for the most part saying I'm so sorry. I'm not able to give you the content you want I'm so sorry. I'm not able to make videos for you, but I'm doing okay. We'll get through this together Again like a complete break from reality in my opinion That's what you want to put out as a public statement an apology to your follower saying, I'm so sorry I can't give you more content.

Bro, your content wasn't even that good. I mean, okay, the impressions were pretty good, but like you're not Tom Cruise, you're not Jon Hamm. I don't know why I said Jon Hamm. That's the first name that came to mind. But like, you're not this like elite actor. You were doing TikTok videos. So then to feel like what is the level of being a narcissist, I'm wondering, to make you

feel like that needs to be your first public statement. An apology to your fans. Not to your daughter for taking away her mother. Not to your family. Not to Anna's friends or her family. To your followers. Like get a grip. So when the trial began in May 2024, prosecutors aimed to prove that the murders were premeditated. However, Ali's defense attorneys had a very different view on things. They argued that Ali had acted in the heat of the moment, basically saying this was a crime of passion and Anna pushed Ali to the brink. That's why he broke. In the defense's opening statement, Ali's attorney argued that Ali was psychologically vulnerable when he heard Anna and Rayburn on that app that he installed on his daughter's iPad. Then, because of that, he went control, not in his right mind, but he instead overcome with so much intense emotion,

simply out of his mind. Anna knew Ali well. She knew his underlying vulnerabilities. She knew his insecurities about his mental illness, his drug addiction, and his own chaotic upbringing. She used these and she weaponized them against him. Ali's testimony made a lot of people online feel very conflicted to, very conflicted about whether any of this was true or

not or if it borders on victim blaming. He admitted to punching and pushing Anna on various occasions, but he said that he never even acted like that before they moved to San Diego from Virginia. And that's going to be a theme here. So because of this, he caved into Anna and they moved to San Diego from Virginia. And that's gonna be a theme here. So because of this, he caved into Anna and they moved to San Diego. Then they started doing drugs, they started partying. Remember, all because of Anna's friends. He says they were the ones that fueled this lifestyle,

which then left him susceptible to mental health struggles and really ultimately played a role in his mindset when the shooting happened. Before the murders, Ali said that his marriage had developed into a continuous series of arguments and accusations of infidelity on both sides. He said all of this was then exacerbated by cocaine, which he says was pretty much a full-blown addiction for him, and that cocaine is what made him violent. When recounting one particular event, he said that one time, Anna said that she slept with one of his friends. So because of this, Olly punched her three times in the face.

But he also said that Anna was the one that punched him in the face three times before he was even awake. I woke up and I hear giggling. I hear a man laughing. And then I hear Anna's voice. And I'm half asleep and I'm just absorbing all this and then immediately I'm like, oh my God, oh my God, that's Anna, oh my God, who's that man, who's that man, oh my God, there's a man, there's a man. I'm saying this out loud to myself, freaking out. I mean I feel like I caught Bigfoot or something, like you know, you believe he's there but

you don't have the truth. But then now there's this evidence and it's just like I caught Bigfoot or something. Like, you know, you believe he's there, but you don't have the truth. But then now there's this evidence, and it's just like, I'm freaking out. I quickly put my pants back on. I gathered my keys, I grabbed my Coke. I started to do a couple bumps because I knew, okay, there's a man in my house.

I need to be focused because I want to be in the zone here. You know what I mean? Because I was still half asleep. So I was just slamming back some coke and yeah. How much coke do you think you did in that moment? I want to say four or five bugs consecutively. When you said that you got up and kind of were gathering your things

and put on your pants, at this time were you always carrying your gun on your holsterster on your belt? I had been for the last few days. Is there any particular reason why you were doing that for the last few days? Well I'm a concealed carry permit holder in the state of Virginia so yes I used to wear regularly concealed every day but that doesn't apply here in California. However, when I had moved out or when I left the apartment on the 18th, all my expensive belongings were in my Jeep.

My Jeep, my iMac computers, my personal property, it's all there, laid out in the open. The windows are not tinted. So I wanted to carry concealed in the event that I found a break-in or a robbery or something like that. I'm already like freaking out, high out of my mind. I'm already amped up. I'm driving over 90 miles an hour in an attempt to hurry up and get there so I could hopefully catch it before it happens or stop it with my presence because I just didn't want it to happen. I was hearing I heard that they were making fun of me he was like did Ali make this mess? I think keep my eye on who he was he's like did Ali make this mess? She says yeah and he bought me these cheap ass

flowers. Let me just tell you when you hear your wife talk shit about you to an undisclosed man, that's fucking painful. And this is while I'm driving 90 miles an hour, already freaking out. But then what happened was the voices stopped. Suddenly they were silent. And I'm like, what? Why don't I hear anything?

Why did they stop talking? Next I start hearing R&B music playing. When you're on your way up in the elevator, what are you thinking? I'm thinking, oh my God, she's probably having sex right now. I wonder who it is. Hurry up, hurry up, we gotta get up there,

we gotta get up there. They kept stopping on floor after floor after floor and I'm trying to stay calm and I don't want to startle anybody. You know, I put a smile on my face. I'm thinking that like this is happening right now. I need to like get there so I can at least hopefully try to prevent it from happening with my presence or get there before it happens. Because you knew that you put the iPad with the Discord channel on in the

bedroom, as you're coming up and getting ready to go into the apartment, what are you expecting to find when you open that door? Well, I put it in the bedroom because I was trying to catch them having sex. So when I heard their voices loud and clear, my mind thinks they're in the bed doing whatever. So I thought that by entering my apartment, I would have that little leeway from the front door to walk to the bedroom.

I thought I'd have that cooling off point to be like, okay, I don't know what I'm about to see just calm down I thought from the front door I'd be able to just kind of bring myself together a little bit I'm like prepped to hear moaning and just very disturbing things. When you got off the elevator what happened next? As you can see I was in a hurry to get in there. I didn't even wait for the door to open. I was running, running, running. I used my key card.

The only thing I had in my hand was my key card. I opened the door. I barged in. I was immediately startled. I stopped right in my tracks like a deer in the headlights. They weren't in the bedroom. They weren't having sex. They're right there cuddling on the couch. Well at first I only I saw Anna. I couldn't see who the man was because she was kind of leaning forward a little bit to see who's at the front

door. So I see Anna and then then the man leans his head forward. He leans his head forward, his eyebrows arched. I immediately identify him as Ray and he goes like like what's up. I didn't expect that Anna would ever do that to me. didn't expect that Anna would ever do that to me. Him of all people. She knew how I felt about him. She knew how I felt. I was trying to believe her. I was trying to believe that she wasn't cheating on me. That she would let me fix this because I was sick. I was struggling from drugs and mental illness and I fucked up. I fucked up a lot but I was in mental illness and I fucked up. I fucked up a lot, but I was trying to fix this. And when I saw that it was him,

I couldn't take it. I couldn't take the fucking betrayal. I couldn't believe that she could do that to me, to our daughter. And then before I could stop myself, I just fucking snapped my gun was in my hand and next thing I'm shooting and I can't stop I'm just shooting I'm shooting and I'm even startled it's like I'm watching it happen I'm like I'm in

the passenger seat of my own body I can't stop it I hear Anna screaming and crying I don't even remember shooting Anna. I just remember running back to the front door and I grabbed the door handle and then it hit me. I'm like, did that just happen? And I turn around and I see Anna leaning forward and there's blood. And I'm like, Anna, Anna, Anna, Anna! I couldn't believe I did that. I don't know why I didn't do that.

I don't know why I didn't do that. I don't know why I didn't do that. I don't know why I didn't do that. I don't know why I didn't do that. I don't know why I didn't do that. I don't know why I didn't do that. I don't know why I didn't do that. I don't know why I didn't do that.

I don't know why I didn't do that. I don't know why I didn't do that. I don't know why I didn't do that. I don't know why I didn't do that. I don't know why I didn't do that. I don't know why I didn't do that. I don't know why I didn't mean to do that. Now I'm not gonna lie, murder is murder, and I can't really get around the idea of not being guilty because somebody pushed you to it. However, there were times when Ali was somewhat convincing in his testimony. However, all of that, anything where anybody was convinced, kind of went all out the window during cross-examination. Because Ali's mask? It slipped.

And he showed the jury exactly who he really was. Right there, front and center, on the stand. On 9-26, you sent Anna a picture of a broken leg, right? You tried to pretend your leg was broken? I did. But it wasn't? It wasn't. Because you were hoping that she would come comfort you? No, actually I was trying to get her to unblock me so that I could communicate with her while I was in Miami. So you're lying and sending a fake photo to try to get in touch with her, right?

I've had to do many extremely weird things to just try to get Anna's attention, yes. Yeah, and you would often say that you wanted to hurt or kill yourself to get her attention, right? That actually was something I considered. But you would do that to get her attention, right? I would do that because I'm not getting a response and I felt like I wasn't being heard. Right. Anna sent you multiple text messages at the end of September that she was done with you,

right? She had done that a lot. Message exchange with your cousin, Anthony Elias, where you said that, where you said I'll kill him, right? Right. And you said I'll beat, I'll beat his fucking ass, right? I wasn't talking about anybody specifically. Right.

But when you said I'll kill him, you meant that, right? No. Because three weeks later you did that, right? Any man that Anna was with, you wanted to kill, right? Jesus Christ. No. You asked Anna, does that mean I'm your man, and she said, and no, Ali. Okay.

You know about all these text messages, right? I'm seeing them here. Yes. Right? But this is what Anna was telling you in October, right? Can I have her removed in the audience, please? Her name is Alicia Juco. She's from the friend group. She's been taunting me every single time. All right, first of all, what she told you was you're Amir's dad. You know, we grew up together. We have a connection that way, but I am not in love with you. Right?

Right, but... But that's what she told you, right? She said, she says things like that, yes. Just like I say, oh, she's a shitty wife or whatever. We say things to get under each other's skin, but then our actions show differently. You mentioned that you made a couple of notes in your phone about not hitting Anna, right? Like about not wanting to hit her and to respect her and love her, things like that, right? Yes. Why would you need to make notes to remind yourself not to hit your wife?

Because I was very impulsive in that time frame. I was very not like myself. And I was unpredictable. And my thinking patterns would change on a daily basis, maybe even in an hour basis. You sent Anna a text message on October 15th telling her, hope you and Ray enjoy each other, right? When did I say that? I'm asking you. I'm not showing you anything. I'm asking you. You sent her that text on October 15th, 2021.

I don't recall that text. It's not a surprise to you that she and Ray would go out together, right? Are you kidding me? I had no idea about it. What the fuck? This was a text message series that you sent to Anna on October 15, 2021, telling her, by the way, when I fucked Nikki, she was on her period, right? Yeah. So you were telling Anna that you did in fact have sex with Nikki.

Again, this is me just trying to hurt her emotionally. And you were laughing at her. Ha ha ha ha ha ha. Correct. Because I wanted her to feel somewhat of the pain that I was feeling about our situation, the situation of our relationship. You said that when Chris visited you, you looked up those escorts for fun, right? We were considering it.

And so you were considering getting an escort for yourself? At first it was me helping him to get one. But then I played with the idea. So that was okay for you to do, get an escort, but Anna couldn't do the same, right? Well, you're so convinced that we were separated, are you not? You cannot ask me a question.

What's wrong about that? Anna wasn't with me, right? Right, so but it's perfectly okay for you to sleep with another woman, but Anna could not do the same with another man, right? I have not slept with another woman. I massaged another woman. I'm talking about the escorts. It was okay for you to get an escort?

We never hired anyone. You have to wait till... You started searching for escorts on September 6, 2021, correct? Hmm. I'm trying to remember what I was doing at that time. It's not about remembering, it's about looking at the exhibit. These are the web searches from your cell phone. You were searching for escorts on September 6th of 2021. I don't recall doing that.

Correct? It's there, but I don't recall doing that. And Chris Faison was not visiting you then, right? No. So there were at least four different dates that you and your phone searched for escorts while you claimed to be in love with and married toorts. Why you claim to be in love with and married to Anna, correct?

That's not even relevant. My love for Anna doesn't change the fact that I was lonely. I was very lonely. She was not in the house. She was gone. She was confusing me about the status of our relationship. I have needs. But I looked them up, but I never hired one. There's no evidence that I hired one ever and then you talk to your friend gene about getting a prostitute, right? No, he told me about some massage parlor apparently in San Diego that they they go the extra mile if you pay them extra and

Again, he's the one who told me about all okay for you to do You have to understand. I was come. I was confused about where the hell I was in my relationship. There's nothing wrong with searching this stuff up. I mean, I was lonely, I was freaking out. You got to keep in mind, I'm thinking Anna's out with men. The whole time, I'm thinking she's sleeping around and just not telling me about it. So I was just trying to cope. I'm just trying to figure. I was confused. And these months, all these months, was like the most confusing time of my life.

I was on drugs 24-7. I wasn't thinking clearly. I'm confused. One minute I'm angry. One minute I'm crying. One minute I love you, Anna. And one minute I hate you, Anna. But none of that is consistent.

I was not in the right frame of mind during this time period. So again, you're blaming Anna and your cocaine use on you searching for escorts, right? No, I'm blaming myself and the mindset that I was in, and the situation of our relationship, the whole thing was confusing. You read an article about husband turned into stalker and planted spy devices in ex-wife's bedroom, correct? So, that article, I did not look it up specifically, but it was a related search result when I was looking for these devices.

You clicked on that article. I clicked on it. Why? Correct. I'm sorry. I clicked on it, yes. Why? Because I just wanted to see what did he use, what method did he use, because I couldn't

find a way to do it. So I was just curious to see how he did it. You searched for chopped bodies, correct? I did. And you searched for decapitated heads, correct? Right. And the searches that you were doing were at 10.30 p.m. after that dinner you had with Anna, correct?

Do you see where it says decapitated head cartel? I asked you a question. You did these searches right after that dinner you had with Anna where you punched her in the eye, correct? I may have, but it's not related to the dinner. This is just me back when I'm at my home, coked out of my mind, reviewing things that I've been thinking throughout the whole month, like what happened with Chris, the text messages I'm getting.

So I just happened to think about it Like let me see if I can find those damn pictures and then right after that dinner you looked up chopped bodies, right again It's not related. Yeah If I can ask why what do I get from searching chopped by seeing pictures of chopper? What is that gonna do teach me how to chop a body? I'm just trying to figure out your Mindset where you're going with this. It's weird, yes, that I would search that up.

On October 18th, you were also researching teen porn videos, correct? What? What did you just say? That's what you were researching. Say it again? Teen porn videos. You're out of your mind. On October 19th, you were researching Sean Torres, correct? Show me the teen shit you just said.

You want to paint me as some kind of fucking child molester? Show me what you just said. I've never seen that in a discovery. I've been incarcerated three years. You never showed that to my team. Where did you get that? It's in your phone. Show it.

You researched Sean Torres on October 19th. Show me what you just said. We're not going to breeze over that. You're not going to breeze over that this is not a problem is something i'm not i search for trash cans but i don't know it says last visited i don't know what it means by that i don't know what it's in reference to but if you're trying to imply that i searched for trash cans at three fifty

after the shooting you're out of your mind okay because it's not after the shooting i was on the road the whole time but you understand that that's you t c time so those times are are seven hours later than the actual time you searched right that's very manipulative because i did not know that that's you t c and i'm sure people here didn't because that says i looked at it at what three fifty so sir

had not said anything just now you probably wouldn't point to that out you probably would have made it seem like i did that immediately after the shooting i would not have done that i did look for trash cans but it it was not at 3.50 p.m. of PST. I'm not saying it was. I'm sure you would have if I had not said anything. You admitted multiple times during my questions of you that you have lied, correct? No, I didn't.

Oh, well, I've lied to Anna. I've never lied on this stand. See how they've twisted? That's crazy. You racked the gun again after you fired the first shot, correct? never lied on the stand. See how they've twisted? That's crazy. You racked the gun again after you fired the first shot, correct? I heard it. I don't remember doing that. But you did that, correct? That's what happened. You did not need to rack your gun because there was already a bullet in the chamber, correct? That's correct.

You racked it to intimidate your victims, correct? If I'm trying to kill them, why am I trying to intimidate them? That doesn't make no damn sense. What do you want to say is happening here? That I'm processing these thoughts and feelings? How did she betray me? Or did I just fucking happen? It just happened.

There is no intimidation. I didn't even know that they were seeing each other. I didn't know that that was going to happen. I saw it. My gun's in my hand. I racked it because there was going to happen. It just I saw it my guns in my hand I racked it because there was no bullet in the chamber there and then I racked it again after the first shot Are you holding it to the side or straight up? No, I'm not a gang member. I don't I don't shoot that way I shoot I had it like this you only shot Anna and Ray in their head and in that direction correct? That is false.

There's a shot there's one of them that entered his trap is his neck area. I did not aim for these things this is just where the bullets ended up and there's a few bullets that hit the wall so unless you're assuming I intended to hit the wall too. You killed Ray first so thatna would watch that happening correct? Anna put her hands up in the air and screamed right? For mercy? She was screaming because she was scared. And you made the choice to fire another shot correct?

No. Correct that's what you did. That's what happened but I didn't know Why the fuck would I want to shoot Anna? You stood in front of Anna and racked your gun right in front of her head. Correct? I don't remember. And then you shot her in the forehead. Correct?

I don't even remember how that happened. I just remember heading to the door. You shot her in the forehead, correct? That's what happened. You put a bullet in her head and it went through the back, correct? Correct. You knew that shooting Anna in the head would kill her, correct? No.

You didn't know that? I mean, I know that anybody getting shot in the head, that could be fatal, of course. But there are people who have survived that. But this is not something that I've thought about in this moment. These are not thoughts that I'm thinking, well, you know what, if I shoot her in the head, she's more likely to die. Maybe I should shoot her in the head. Nothing like that was happening.

I wasn't even thinking. You did not shoot her in the leg or the arm or anywhere else, right? I did not have control of myself in this moment. Before you racked your gun and shot Anna in the head, you said the word respect, correct? I did not. You heard that on the recording I just played, right? I did not. I'd like you to play it again if you don't mind.

I'll play hear anything. Before you shot Anna in the head, you said respect to her. I did not say that shit. And you shot her because she had disrespected you and was with Ray, correct? No. Right after you shot Anna in the head, you pushed her head down into Ray's lap, right? Oh, get the fuck out of here. I'm not gonna tolerate this.

That's what you did, right? They scrubbed my hands, they scraped my nails for any DNA. No blood, no skin, no hair. Come on." And this wasn't the only time that he freaked out. He also lost his cool in court multiple times, either shaking his head, talking out loud, saying things weren't true, or just making other snide comments. Ali's mom also took the stand, and Ali had called his mom right after the murders as I mentioned. You can see this actually on a neighbor's Google Nest surveillance video.

You can hear Ali confessing to what he had just done. He also sent her pictures of Anna and Rayburn after they were dead. But here's what I will never understand and will never align with. While taking the stand, she blew him a kiss from the witness stand. Whether you forgive him or you think it was justified fine,

but like to do that in front of everybody just feels so gross to me and I will never understand it. Elise mom DeLal Barra taking the stand and immediately breaking down when she sees her son in court. Do you see him here in court today? I miss him. She first testified about Elise childhood

saying he had an abusive father was diagnosed with ADHD but had other undiagnosed mental health issues. His mom claiming Anna and Ali were violent to one another late in their marriage. I know you're trying to protect yourself, but I need you to be truthful with being very truthful. Absolutely. did the defendant tell you that he has punched and hit Anna on a number of occasions? Not punched hit. Yes, but not punched. So he has told you he has hit Anna on a number of occasions. Yes, but she's also has hit him too. Moments after the shooting on October 21st 2021, Ali called his mom and confessed.

I just like the way you do it. 21 Ali called his mom and confessed. Wara testified about that phone call and the picture of Anna and Rayburn dead on the couch. I just recall saying you know that's not funny, that's that's not funny. I don't say that. That's not funny and then I received the picture.

I looked and I deleted it right away and. I hung up the phone and I literally fell on the ground. In court she was confused and sometimes having difficulty recalling what exactly happened that day. He never said he was gonna hide. Non-responsive. Come on. Sorry, your honor.

How is he gonna hide when he called the cops on himself? No, I never said this. This is crazy. But this is, these are text messages from... A clinical and forensic psychologist took the stand Monday afternoon saying Ali's father never returned her calls for an interview. She said during her observation of Ali, he described a physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive childhood. That he did not have the personality that his father wanted, that his father told him,

um, you look like me but you have the brains of your mother or something to that effect. So insulting comments, comments that Mr. Bulipan interpreted as rejection from his father. interpreted as rejection from his father. And in court today we also heard from Ali's former boss who he worked for at Naval Air Station North Island. He testified a lot about how Elise behavior at work changed pretty drastically in the months

and even the weeks leading up to this shooting. We also heard from one of Ali's close friends that they had met back in 2018 when they lived in Virginia, saying that when they moved to San Diego, both of their behaviors and drug use changed drastically as well. Now what we have all been waiting for.

Ali Abulaban is expected to take this stand sometime tomorrow. We've been in the courtroom every day since this trial started earlier this month, and of course we will be in there covering that tomorrow as well. Reporting live downtown, Zara Barker, Fox 5 News. Zara Barker with the latest, thank you.

So in the end, after hearing the audio recordings and Ali's testimony, the jury found Ali guilty of two counts of first degree murder. And when the verdict was read, you could hear cheering all throughout the courtroom, and Ali looked pissed, almost so pissed that he was going to cry. You know when you get so angry that the tears start welling up, that's what it looked like.

We the jury in the book entitled Cause by the defendant Ali Nasser Abulaban, guilty of the crime of murder in the first degree. Thank you. Woo! A very very hearty... Silence. But this was far from over because now we were going to go into the dark corners of the internet,

the dark corners of the trial documents, and figure out what allegations were really made against Anna. Now, you might be wondering, before we jump into that, I do wanna mention that Anna's daughter, Amira, is currently in the custody of Ali's parents. I personally don't know how I feel about that, but I just hope that she is safe, that she is happy, and she is properly being cared for. So there's been a lot of talk online about what was revealed in the trial

versus what was reported in the actual media. And I wanna talk a little bit about that. By no means would I ever wanna victim blame in any way ever, but like I said in the beginning of this episode, it's really important to me that you have a full picture of everything. And the reason I'm bringing this up is because not all of the trial was live streamed. Online you can find clips and most of Ali's testimony, but there's a lot of context that is missing. For example, on Reddit, one user posted,

I live in San Diego and I went and observed in the courtroom for two days. I saw the entire first day of Ali's testimony. He was abusive to her, and she was having an affair with Rayburn for over a month before they were both killed. They read text messages in the courtroom between Anna and Ray. They were hooking up, meeting at hotels. They even show a picture in the courtroom of Anna and Ray, and behind them is a baggie of what they said is most likely cocaine.

Anna was also married to another guy when she met Ali. The guy had also been in the Air Force, and Ali said that she didn't tell Ali until she was pregnant that she was married to this other guy, who was also kicked out of the Air Force and had returned to the U.S. Ali was also kicked out of the Air Force after a bar fight where Anna got hurt. Ali said that she fell down the stairs, and others said that Ali pushed her. He then went to the Philippines with Anna, and she found out she was pregnant. Ali ran out of money and returned to Virginia and worked a couple of jobs and then eventually

brought Anna to the U. the US on a fiance visa. It's hard to get the visas, they're expensive and a lot of paperwork. They lived with Ali's parents until they bought a townhome. Both Ali and Anna had good jobs. Ali was some sort of IT tech and Anna did some sort of analysis position for the same company. In 2020, Anna visited San Diego. She returned home and convinced Ali to come

visit. They came to visit, and they did a lot of drugs together. Both ketamine and cocaine. In 2021, I think March, is when they moved to San Diego. That's when the hardcore cocaine use began. It sounds like Ali was worse than Anna, but she also was coked out as well. Then Ali became more and more abusive. Anna had an affair before Ali did, but he didn't know for sure. Then it was in the courtroom transcripts of Anna and Ray's texts, and they were read. I don't remember the date, but I think that they were read for early September. Anna said in a morning text to Ray that she could still smell him on her, and he asked what does he smell like? And Anna said, good sex.

I'm not condoning the killing of Anna and Ray at all, but the news is not reporting anything that makes Anna or Ray look bad. They were not just friends. They were clearly lovers and cocaine users, too. So again, there's some context from the trial that wasn't included in the mainstream media. Does that ever at all make it justifiable for domestic violence or to murder somebody? Certainly not. Absolutely not. However, it is important to have a clear picture of what the dynamic was in the relationship. Not to justify it or make excuses, but just to again know everything from all sides because it really has been Illustrated as a one-sided narrative and I get why because Ali is a scumbag. He's a dirt bag He murdered two people in cold blood and is that freaking narcissist in my opinion that has zero remorse and only cares about his own

Stupid social media following. However, if people are going to be asked to remain unbiased and form an educated opinion of their own based on all of the facts, then it's my opinion, you have to deliver all the facts or make them all readily available so that people can then form their own opinions. So I don't know, what do you guys think? This was obviously one of the more heartbreaking

and upsetting cases that we have talked about in a long time because we have seen so oftentimes That when there is a large degree of domestic violence Oftentimes it does result in death for one or both sometimes of the partners And I just want to remind everybody that if you're going through something like this I know that these statistics say sometimes it takes I I believe, eight times until you're able to successfully leave, but please know that there are resources. One of the best parts in this documentary that I thought was so educational and so insightful was at the end when they say, all you have to do is remove yourself from the isolation. Meaning,

even if you can't remove yourself from the situation, that's okay. Just tell somebody what is going on so that you aren't continue to just remain in isolation with your abuser. And I think that that's so important because had there been more outcry from Anna perhaps, or maybe if people were having a little closer look and this isn't to victim blame anybody, but maybe somebody could have intervened and maybe it wouldn't have gotten to this degree. I don't know. It's unfortunately one of those things where we always learn things in hindsight at somebody else's expense and my heart just breaks for her daughter now who is not only growing up without both parents, but growing up with Ali's family. I don't know. There's something

that just does not sit right with me about that, but let me know what you guys think about this case, I'm curious to know. And in the meantime, please always watch out for yourself, for your friends, for your family, stay safe, and remember there are resources out there that can help. Thank you guys so much for tuning into another episode of Serialously, and I will be back on the mic with you very soon. Until then, please, please, please stay safe. Bye.