Sex, Lies & DM Slides - 112: Doom Scrolling & Doom Stalking

Episode Date: September 5, 2024

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that I'm gonna out myself here so this morning I set my alarm at 6am okay so originally I woke up at half past five because there was a bird that was making the weirdest repetitive noise that I thought there was a dying cat or something in my house

that had actually come down the stairs and thought, oh my God, like something, there's an animal something's in my house. It was that loud

and it was repetitive. So weird. So I should have just stayed up at half past five because I was wanting to get up at six but i didn't so i did the whole snooze thing 10 more minutes 10 minutes anyways next minute's half seven so i've missed the gym at this point i thought well i don't have time for the gym now

so i have like an hour but i could have done all of the things i needed to do but instead i just scrolled on my phone and thought this is really unhealthy saffron shouldn't be doing this in the mornings haven't done the gym haven't done anything else I needed to get done and so this is something I do very often which I'm not proud of no I do it all the time and it's really it is a habit that I really wish I could get out of but the thing is it's always going to be such a hard habit to break like I have done it ever since I've had a phone just the first thing in the morning I would do is go on my phone the only time I have not done it is when I did locked in a couple of years ago because obviously I didn't have my phone for two weeks and let me tell you I have

never gotten out of bed quicker in those two weeks in my whole entire life because you have nothing to lay there for. I would literally wake up two minutes later, I'm in the bathroom getting ready. And I felt amazing every day because I was doing it. But like at home, it's just too easy to like press my alarm off. Oh, who's messaged me overnight? Oh, what's going on on Instagram? What's going on instagram what's going on tiktok tiktok's the worst for me because i can go down a tiktok hole for hours see i think tiktok's the

worst for everyone though i think it's just too easy that platform is it's so fast paced that you're just constantly just scrolling yeah i would actually like to say i don't think i'm a victim of that i think actually although i'm like out in myself here, because I'm like, oh, I doom scroll. Every person that meets me is genuinely gobsmacked by how little I know about the internet,

considering my whole job is on the internet. Oh yeah, you do. You tell me like, oh, did you see that TikTok video? I've not seen it because I haven't scrolled. Like I never scroll TikTok. Genuinely never scrolled it if i need you to see something i have to send you it because i know if i just bring it up in

conversation you wouldn't have seen it no and the other day i was around a table with all different influences and everyone's like oh my god and that trend and this trend oh my god have you seen that on tiktok and their name and these people and everyone in the end was in hysterics i didn't know one thing that people spoke about this entire meal let me one thing let me tell you two trends then on tiktok at the moment and you tell me if you know them okay can i just quickly say something yesterday god this this sounds like an excuse but i was trying to think of tiktok ideas so i did have a little scroll but other than that i never normally do but go on okay so two very demure very cutesy have seen very demure very cutesy you've seen that one that is literally like everywhere that's kind of like

impossible not that i have seen okay so i'm not that bad and then what about the cucumber one cucumber salad no but i saw you make something like use a whole cucumber and i thought to myself why she used a whole cucumber and i thought maybe it's a trend because i look at my friends it is but that's it so there's a guy called logan and i think he's from iceland i'm not too sure and he started these tiktok videos where he would just eat an entire cucumber with loads of different things and when i tell you they have popped off like he's got something like five million followers now like from doing these cucumber salads so i literally ordered the same pots the same slicer i went out to get all the ingredients and like all the tiktoks on my fupator coming up now are everybody recreating these cucumber salad you would love it genuinely you should make one i think you would

love it and it's such a little healthy snack like you feel just really hungry you need something i actually love cucumber it's so good so i thought i'm just like what how has this guy got five million followers for making like isn't it crazy what actually like pops off it's honestly i i will never understand it but like i love the idea so much i was a bit annoyed at myself i was God, I'm annoyed for not thinking of this. Like, this is an amazing idea. Wow. Okay. So you need to make your cucumber salad.

I need to get a cucumber slicer. Yeah, or for TikTok, but you need to do it. What would be now on TikTok? Do this trend as if I know what it is? Let's go. This episode is brought to you by CIBC. From closing that first sale to opening a second store, as a business owner, you've hustled to accomplish a lot,

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We've all been a victim of that. We've all been a victim of that. Okay, can you think of something else? Like what's another trend that you can think of that I should know? What is going around on TikTok at the moment? See, my For You page is a bit like weird because I was doom scrolling

and I ended up on, these girls have been working for Disney World for the last year as exchange students so I'm now on like Disney World exchange student TikTok which definitely isn't a trend but it's just somehow what I've ended up on and it's just them going around all the Disney parks so I don't think you necessarily would have seen it because I've ended up on a very different side to TikTok I can't say I've seen that yeah I didn't think you would have so I'm not gonna lie the only two trends I can think of is demure that. Yeah, I didn't think you would have. So I'm not going to lie,

the only two trends I can think of is Demure. Okay, well, I'm kind of in the loop, kind of-ish. Yeah. I mean, what did you see on TikTok when you were scrolling yesterday? So one thing I saw, and then actually I've gone, and I really tried to get to the bottom of it,

and I still have no idea what went on. But there was a, there's a Netflix series, I don't know if it's just in the us called dancing with the devil or dancing for the devil okay i've not heard of it um and it's about how this girl she's part of the 7m tiktok dancers which never heard of 7m tiktok dance before no i'm thinking oh shoot hang on i watched a trailer of this on netflix the other day this is the girl that then her family thinks she was in a cult yeah I don't know the full thing but I don't know the whole thing and everyone's like it's so sad but what's so weird is she's still going to her family's weddings and things and it doesn't seem

like she was in a cult and it's and she didn't know that her family was filming it and it's all just a bit weird. I don't know. And it's meant to be really, really sad. And I do want to watch it. But I scrolled and scrolled and scrolled and I still don't understand where she's come from, what really happened. I think I obviously just need to watch the series.

But that's what I ended up doing instead of finding TikTok ideas for myself to film. So it wasn't that productive. But yeah. Oh, so you can watch it in the uk then yeah it was on my netflix i watched the trailer the day but sorry i just thought of another one that is so fitting for this podcast that i saw somebody do right there's a trend well i don't know if it's a trend but i'm assuming it is this girl is going on 50 first dates no way she's up to number 10 that was the last one i watched and she's done it oh my god i want to watch like i'm already invested i will send you it i was invested and on date number

10 she really likes this guy like the 10th guy and i'm waiting to see if she's seen him again but she like she explains where she met them so like what date app, what they look like and what they do for a job. And then she films herself in the toilet after her first drink to give everyone an update on like how the dates go in. And it's so good. Oh my God, that is so good. It's so good.

Next time she comes up with a few page, I'll send you it so you can stalk all of them. No, can you? I'm so invested. I tell you what, I could not be bothered to go on 50 days. Oh, babe, neither neither i'm sorry asking somebody's favorite food 10 times fuck that i'm not made for dating anymore 50 times 50 times i tell you what you'd be like a robot you'd be so into the swing of things it'd be so easy you'd

just be i'd be having 50 strawberry daiquiris which would be be quite nice, but I just don't have it in me. I can't do that. But like props to this girl because she looks like she's having the time of her life. And she was saying that she loves dating. So it was really, cause you can tell she's really enjoying herself. Right, that's cute.

And just for her, I'd be getting 53 meals if they're good dates. She lives in London. So like she's saying where she's going with them all as well. And she's going to all these bars. She knows exactly what she's doing. She's living her's living her best life but okay so that's a very like random hole that i found myself in but how often do you get yourself into this position of doom

scrolling i would probably say i'm a victim twice three times a week i think that's respectable because i'm sorry that's very good going that is really good i reckon three times a week i am i'm doom scroll well i don't know though because i do scroll at night but i think it also depends like if you end up in a good enough hole to want to stay on it like sometimes i'm scrolling i'm not seeing anything i'm like oh this is boring but like if i'm hooked on somebody's story, I'm going to be sat scrolling for longer. Anna's come up with this lovely idea of us showing our screen time on TikTok. But, and I'm fully aware that I'm here

and I make an excuse to myself. I have been in bed ill with COVID and I've had nothing else to do. Just getting exposed. Oh, I'm fucking terrified. I'm exposing myself. There's me like, I never go on it. do. Huh? Just getting exposed. Oh, I'm fucking terrified. I'm exposing myself. There's me like, I never go on it.

But. What is yours? I feel like yours is going to be worse than mine. So is yours daily average? Daily average for TikTok? 30 minutes. Oh.

Are you lying? Show me your phone. No, I swear my whole life daily average is 30 minutes. Oh, mine's one hour 29. hour 29 and she's been in bed and she's been in bed with covid ill with nothing else to do i mean in the last no no you can't come with excuses now no i actually can't but in my defense been you know what i've been working a lot on tiktok A lot of ads popping off on TikTok right now. So that's my excuse.

Yeah. It takes how long to upload to TikTok? Oh, babe. With this Wi-Fi, long time. One hour and 29 minutes. One hour and 29 minutes to be exact. No, I'm actually really proud. 30 minutes is not bad.

Considering I've been in bed. I genuinely thought yours was going to pop up as like five hours and you were going to be like, fuck. I mean, I was quite terrified

because I'm thinking to myself, I did spend quite a lot of time on TikTok when I was ill. That's really not bad. Yeah, slow. Big slow. Slow for you.

But my average screen time is more than Anna's. Mine's five hours, one minute. Yeah, mine's five hours one minute yeah mine's uh six hours 30 i sort of think that's bad i'm actually really shocked with how low that is six hours 30 on a phone that is quite a lot do you know what though i do do a lot of meetings and stuff on my phone too again we work on our phones yeah so ours is going to be higher than the average oh it's gone down 34 from last week so clearly the week before it was a lot higher let's go

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Okay, have you ever... I don't even know why i'm asking i know the answer i feel like it's a very normal thing doom scrolled like you've looked to your ex and then you're looking at his new girlfriend then you're looking at his girlfriend's cousin cousin's dogs cats mom yeah yeah i felt like we've all been evicted with that as well right we've all done that i've definitely done that and then someone has to freaking be on private and you're like for god's sake it's so annoying when they're on private like it's so annoying thing in the world but it's really hard because once you're in the habit of doing that it's really hard to break the habit of not doing it like have you done it in the past oh yeah for sure

i don't know why i thought i know we've done it we've both done it we've both done it we've both that they've done it together like that's just a common thing i tell you what though i wish more people uploaded on tiktok so you really got to see the personality because i'm just seeing instagram pictures it's so yeah so sometimes like if i'm speaking to somebody i will just give them a quick google or like like put their name into tiktok just to see like what they look like better because sometimes if their tags are turned off i'm like i'm sorry like i don't know do you remember on the podcast we had that guy who was gorgeous gorgeous but it wasn't like he was editing himself yeah so now unless their tags are on

i've got to do a little deeper scrolling or a deeper look because I don't know if I'm seeing you. I think it's weird if your tags are off. I think you're hiding something if your tags are off. Well, you are. You obviously, you must be some sort of a catfish if you never like a photo that you're tagged in.

Yeah. Because believe me, I don't like some of the photos I'm tagged in. No, I don't. I look at them and I think, oh, for fuck's sake. Yeah. But I just leave them there.

But also you can just hide that from your tags can't you oh yeah you can actually like surely these people like if you're not getting tagged in that much surely you can just hide something rather than delete all of your tags bit weird yeah yeah you can yeah you can but like in i don't actually do it anymore in the sense of like do i search for like i still stalk the occasional person, but I've really stopped doing it. Because it wasn't good for my brain. So I was like, but it's really hard to stop.

Like I know it's really hard to stop. But once you break that habit, how long does it take to break habit? I actually don't remember how long it is. Neither. But like once you get past that stage, it get easier yeah you tell him she stopped stalking we've just found out it's not 21 days you just got to double that and a bit more double it again it's 66 days yeah i was well off have i done 66 i've definitely done 66 days of not stalking yeah do you reckon

wow when they're when they're blocked you can't there is that there is that no i'm very proud of you for that that's actually good going thanks babe you've definitely done 66 days in the past as well oh i've definitely done 66 days yeah no i have do you know what because i do think it's that same thing the second you look again you're just going to be addicted to looking so i'm just uh just outside of mind you know a hundred percent and in the end you don't even care about the person who's doing it as a habit i tell you what though if our ex has got new girlfriends they're so lucky in the sense of stalking us because babe we're providing so much content our whole they know our personality they

know where we shop they know where we like going out for food if they wanted to spend a day listen to this podcast they can find out everything everything about our dating life like everything they are so lucky we are probably the best people to stalk because we have no seek well we do have secrets but like not in the sense of you know everything is on the internet yeah even all those horrendous videos that keep resurfacing of us on tiktok why by the way so strange you know the amount of people that come up to me and like oh my god um yeah and i keep seeing your old like you when you're like 40 where was i the other day and someone said what did they say to me that's what it was you know so my friend harriet was on love island and you know grace blonde grace

so i was sat with her and it was the first time i met her and she was like oh my god um your old videos keep coming up my tiktok of you and harriet in the car and i'm like what like it's so weird like all of our old youtube videos keep resurfacing on tiktok i think it's because people are making money they're making over a minute long and they're making money off our youtube videos but for some reason all of them are getting like hundreds of thousands millions of views so many and there's nothing interesting about them that is a minute clip from a youtube video i haven't i don't remember filming it like it's so far in the past i'm looking at it and i have dissociated myself from it i'm like that's not me but it is me but it's not and it's weird as well because it's not even like their videos it's like oh who remembers

when savannah anna did this really funny thing it's like no context no just a clip just a clip did you did you see the one of me faking it on the phone to domino's pizza when i was like 12 i can't say i have oh babe it kept my few paid and i couldn't even watch it but it had something ridiculous when i saw it like 80 000 likes well i saw one of me and you i did see one of me and you actually which one that apparently oh you must have seen it it's called absolutely everywhere it's like saffron's an awful friend to anna and it's us two in the car oh i've seen it and i couldn't even watch it because i thought this is just such bullshit i can't even watch this can't even for the comments and my brother was like have you seen that video of you and anna that's resurfacing that apparently you're really

mean to her he's like i don't get it you do nothing mean she's like he's like literally don't get it at all so you said something that was sarcastic but no one could take sarcasm anymore so yeah honestly me and saf are never gonna win on the internet i never what we're never gonna win we can never like i just i genuinely if i see a video come from a few page now i will scroll past it because i think it's actually the most ridiculous thing yeah like i can't even be bothered for it i'm like fuck this it's sometimes the comments do make me giggle like someone said to me the other day i had my hair sleeked and the top comment was I wish you'd just get a buzz cut because she takes sleeking too far and now I'm getting comments on my actual Instagram saying won't you get a buzz cut

because of this TikTok no I'm being serious do you know what babe you do sleek and I'm so jealous I just love it I wish I could sleek the way that you seek I've just got a little sleek plait today like it's just easy isn't it yeah i just like it's easy for you because it's real hair yeah it's like a quick two minute hairstyle for me but oh i also look like phil mitchell that was the other one i got that was top comment and i just thought you know what you just have to laugh like i do feel better at least if there's ever a video of us two you know it's you that's getting love and it's me that's getting the love. So if it makes you feel better, there is that. There we go. That's the positive.

I look like Phil Mitchell, but I'm getting the love. Yeah. You're getting the love because apparently I have a Diana. Somehow. Apparently so, guys. Even though we've cleared it up one too many times, but no one's ever going to listen. No. For some reason, everyone likes me being the villain.

I don't understand i don't understand it's so strange well we've doom scrolled on ourself in the last couple of weeks on tiktok we have unintentionally got on topic but thank you all so much for the love thank you for reminding everyone that we're still about because i love it when people say we used to watch you that's my favorite thing but our tiktoks are resurfacing so we're coming back and i said we was at ocean beach anna goes if i hear one more fucking i used to love you or i used to watch shit i'm gonna scream how do they think it's a compliment what do you mean i used to watch me i'm like babe i'm still uploading really good

vlogs like i know but it is funny because people say it meaning it really you know nicely yeah oh my god i used to watch you but that's not a good thing like we're still uploading yeah i think well what was the point where you didn't watch me what did i do i'm like what what why don't you like me anymore but no honestly like it just really made me laugh and then when i see all these old tiktoks of our youtube videos i'm like wow like it's like we're ancient but actually we're only 23 24 but you know what we are we have been around a long time we're old in this youtube industry now so we'll end it on that we've doomed on ourself and we're old in this industry but thank you all so much for listening to this episode make sure to go and check out tuesday episode where we speak all about secret single girl

behavior and other than that we'll see you next tuesday for a brand new episode see you guys then bye sex size and dm size is a spotify original podcast it was produced by spirit studios