Sex, Lies & DM Slides - 14: Biggest dating icks and the art of breaking up with someone with Kyron Hamilton and Sam Denton

Episode Date: January 10, 2023

Hello lovelies, happy 2023! We’re starting off the new year with a big bang with special guests Kyron Hamilton & BF Sam Denton. On this week’s episode we cover a lot from HUGE dating icks and we��re pretty surprised with some of their answers tbh. From Kyron & Sam’s adorable love story and when is actually the best time to break up with someone (note to self: don’t do it on a national holiday *cough* Saff *cough*). Produced by Spirit Studios with Raymond Tannor and Kate Willis as the producers and from Spotify the Executive Producer is Rhyanna Coleman. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hey guys, I am Anastasia Kingsnorth. And I'm Saffron Barker and welcome to Sex, Lies and DM Slides. This week we talked, I think, something that's very trendy at the moment and that is just to have an ick. Very good icks and very bad icks. Very, and honestly, I just think talking about icks is one of my favourite things in the world because it's getting to the point where they're ridiculous. And no DM is off limits and of course own topic is off limits. So like we said this week, we are joined with

Kyron and Sam talking about ics and school experiences and dating in school. Yeah, like growing up, what it was like, our first ever relationships, first dating stories. So we're in for a good one. I am very, very excited about this week. But without further ado, let's do it. Let's jump into it.

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that's lasted six years so how do you do it literally no words haven't so no i don't know really no like just chill we're like um friends as well as we don't take stuff too seriously when we're with people they don't necessarily know we're together you know what I mean because we just like to be on that level where we're together but also friends how did you guys meet we so we're both from Southampton and like we literally went to the same schools everything but like your is it one one school year above me yeah one school year we went to like the same little school and then not middle school and then we remit at college do you by the way do you like when you meet people now you'll be like oh so

they'll be in the year above me because i still do that now and i'm like i'm not at school so i'm like oh so you'll be in the year above me and i'm thinking i don't fucking go to school i don't know why yeah oh I love that yeah so that's how we met like we've literally known each other for like forever but ages it wasn't until college that we kind of got to become friends and like get to know each other but Kyra was straight at this point so I kind of had to suss it out myself did you tell him well I was just like what's the situation but I think we both s suss it out myself. Did you tell him? Well, I was just like, what's the situation? But I think we both sussed things out.

I was, yeah, straight. And then he was in a relationship. So I kind of stole him. Sorry. Well, it's lasted. So it was so worth it, you know. And so now you guys are working together because you have your own podcast.

That is true, yes. And it's called fuck it why not yes so what's it about give us we basically just talk shit we have like one

topic of the week and then we just see where it takes us just have like a chat with your friends do you know like when you have a normal conversation

you think wow that was actually quite funny yeah it's just trying to capture their moments and then we get absolutely slaughtered

so by the end of it god knows what we talk I don't even know what we've spoken about 80% of the time so literally that's the best podcast though when you don't know what you've spoken right yeah you watch it back you think oh my god well we haven't watched we've only watched one of them back the one that's out at the moment we literally watched that back like not that long ago so it's going to be a surprise for us when we see it back but it's good vibes though isn't it funny as well how when you get like when i get drunk i don't want to know like what i said the night before what i did but i actually can't watch a video yeah so this week on the podcast we are talking ics and school relationships so i want to hear your best or worst ick.

So mine's like if someone runs for the tube and their backpack gets stuck in the doors and the doors have to reopen for them. I think backpacks. If the doors have to reopen for you, it's like what? Oh my God. There's something about backpacks in general. I was saying this to you on the way here. I was saying this, yeah.

I don't know what it is. And maybe it is when they run and they jump up and down on their back. I don't know what it is. Jump up and down on their back. I don't know what it is. What about the tube doors? When the doors have to reopen for you.

That is a bit weird. That's happened to everyone, surely. I've definitely got on the tube just in the nick of time, but the doors have just caught me. Yeah. I've never been stuck. To be fair, I don't think I've been stuck in the door yeah but the backpack thing i kind of get it but also like i think it's different let me know if you guys agree what if it's a backpack but they've just come out they've left the gym oh that's fine that's fine i yeah i think

that's i don't have a problem i don't have a problem with it i don't think i have i do get the running up and down thing i get that yeah but running in general if you're running for the train that's an ick in itself yeah i can't do it because it's just the panic of getting there and you don't even make it i'd rather yeah literally life is not that stressful that you have to run for a train no just like it's not that stress mine's i don't really have many weird ics mine is more of a like that is actually a bit rough and a bit weird you know when someone is so like over text they're talking to you and they're so like i mean i'm gonna destroy you like literally all of that all of that over dm or text or whatever and then you actually get to it and then it's like there's nothing nothing there it's all text and that's it and then it's just like a rigid kind of

do you know what i mean like not the one okay that's rough i really hope people have the video on so they can just see you demonstrate that you know what i have this other weird ick but the thing is like i feel like this doesn't even happen it's just something that i saw online it made me laugh it's when you picture the guy like naked in the bath like rocking back and forth what the thing is i don't think anyone does that if someone did do that that is it but like when you imagine the person that i've given myself the it yeah i think like if you want to if you want to if you don't want to like someone that's what you need to imagine them doing because

it is so vile i cannot imagine that where did that even come from oh i saw it on twitter oh you saw it okay yeah i saw it and then it just now I think about it all the time with every person I like speak to do you think people are like starting to imagine up their own ics now do you think people

are really like do you think they're trying to make their own ics up I feel like they are everyone gets an ic over anything over anything

like it is getting a bit over I'm feeling bad for a lot of people here especially like guys because girls have so many for guys that like

it's so it is so it's so out it's so ridiculous now it is i don't feel like they can do anything you can't even breathe and it becomes an ick okay so like an ick on a first date what would that be for you i think like for me it has to be when they start like i don't know if it's the word but like when they start like saying how much they hate someone on the first date, I'm like, really? That's just so icky. It's more like, I don't know if that's a red flag.

I would say it's more of a red flag if they talk about their ex in a bad way on the first date. It's more like a red flag rather than ick. That's just like, ugh, to me. I think it's a bit of both. I don't know if I've got any icks on first dates. What is the difference between an ick and a turn-off? Because maybe that's more of a turn off to me

I think an ic is more something that like just cringes you out and it's like a silly little like in the moment yeah can be funny

can be funny yeah whereas like a turn off is like an act like I'm put off by you for a solid reason yeah I think ics can be overcome

there's more context yeah whereas an ic is just an ic yeah it is really hard to like do you think it's a bit it's more minor in it it's just a minor version of eternal yeah yeah did he get over it like what if someone had a bad breath is that a turn off or an it that's eternal turn off like constant

or like after they eat but if he eats raw onions i tell you not it's not it's guys the way i have to watch what i eat around him like literally onions yeah onions obviously yeah they smell imagine kissing someone and they've got remnants of onions

in their mouth so actually my first ever boyfriend I will never forget I actually nearly ended it with him because of this I hated it that much

right on one of the first dates it's really it's a really weird date right I don't know why we got Subway

the first day I was in school okay but we went ice skating after he why we got Subway the first day I was in school, okay? But we went ice skating after he went and got Subway and he kissed me after a Subway. And I think, I love a Subway, but I think the smell of Subway is possibly one of the worst smells in the world. What?

And he kissed me after and I remember thinking, I've never smelled anything so vile. I've never hated something so much in my life. The passion. Subway. You know when you walk past Subway much in my life. The passion. Subway. You know when you walk past Subway and it smells so good.

I like Subway. Really? But like, if I ate Subway in my car, I then like the next day can't get in my car but McDonald's I still could. I don't know if I'd want

to kiss someone straight after with the Subway smell but like, I have something about sandwiches though. That's what gives me an ick, a guy eating a sandwich.

So one of our best friends has an ick about a boy having a lunchbox and like getting his packed lunch out does that give you that I think I think that's fine

I think that's fine I think it's sweet like they've brought I think it's sweet oh it is a bit but I think if I was sat there and we were like

at the table and they pulled out their lunchbox and everything was like wrapped in like separate little cling film they were like going the table and they pulled out their lunchbox and everything was like wrapped in like separate little cling film. They were like going to work. That's a bit icky.

But I think if they're like, you know, people have like the prepped meal plans. If they whip up that, totally fine. But I think a lunchbox is different. I feel like that's your type though. That's my type. They whip up the meal plan, I'm like, you're a bit me. But like a lunchbox, imagine if it had, I mean, I don't know, but like a little character on the lunchbox. Okay, no, that's too far.

I think a lunchbox gives school vibes, but if it's like an adult version, but they've just bought food to eat on their lunch. Just in a little Tupperware, yeah. Guys, we're in a cost of living crisis. You've got to bring your own food at the end of the day. True, true. Character or no character in front. Okay, so what about like texting ics?

I think certain emojis kind of give me the ick. Like the overuse of emojis. I like it when people use like the semi-color. What about, what about, so do I, what about if they're using like the devil? What if they're using the devil emoji? The what emoji? Like, is it not the devil?

What is it? The horny one, the purple one. Like the horny purple one but like they're using it constantly that is so icky to me yeah I know what you mean

I kind of use that more as a joke these days yeah do you know what I mean someone's using that seriously yeah what are you guys laughing at I said about

talking about emojis because I like when someone uses a semicolon and a bracket I said what so punctuation do you mean like to make a smiley face to make your little winky face a winky yeah I said what's your punctuation did you mean like the to make a

smiley face to make you a little winky okay yeah i thought you meant babes can i just say something i've always said winky faces like that because the winky face emoji cringes me no no can i just say something you used to be like why are you doing that why are you doing that i get it now thank you yeah something about the never babes but if it's a semicolon and the bracket, I love it. I use emojis all the time, but the winky, I can't. I hate the winky emoji.

It's so cringe to me. I do like a few emojis. I also feel like parents and nans and granddads do not know how to use emojis in this way. So out of context. They'll say like, hey babe, haven't seen in ages, can't wait for you to come home soon

with like the horny devil emoji. I'm like, oh, no! I'm like, no. That is so bad. I'm like, that's not what like the horny devil emotion bless her she's trying her hardest that's it okay so do you have any pet peeves in your current relationship no hesitation all right then okay um for me it's a fact he already knows it's like when i clean up i love to like keep everything nice and tidy and he'll go in and then try and find one outfit everything's everywhere and i'll leave it for me to tidy up again do you think you're quite opposite

because you know they say like opposites attract because you you seem like you're very tidy and you seem like you're not yeah no like i am you're not. Yeah. Apparently. No, I am, but he wants it like immediately. Do you know what I mean? Like, I'm not like... He'll happily leave it for four days then put it away. No, I won't. You're so exaggerating that. I'm not.

You are taking the piss. I'm not. No, I am very tidy. I am very tidy. It's just... Yeah, you are tidy. But if he's cleaned and I've just gone in there and then there's something on the floor,

I'm obviously going to pick it up. But because he's coming afterwards, he's now seen it and he's like, what are you doing? I cleaned now you leave the room have a fag have dinner go to bed wake up go to work go to sleep go to work then come back then pick it up maybe sometimes it's just a noise because you walk past it every day but you don't pick it up do you know what i I mean? That's what annoys me. But what sort of things? Just like clothes? Yeah, clothes, towels, minor things.

Towels? Like cups. That seems like a minor thing to me. That's not like a really bad pet peeve. It's minor, but every day it becomes annoying. You know what I mean? Right,

okay. It's one of those things that shouldn't be a thing. It's been six years. It's a thing. Exactly. Yeah. And the same top's been there

for six years. Whereas with Sam, have you got any pet peeves about Kyron? Oh God. Complaining? Now, to be honest with you not really like no i actually don't like i really don't have many pet peeves obviously like i feel like in any relationship you get annoyed like after a certain amount of time i feel like there's a weird amount of time that if you spend too much time together obviously we live together so it's quite easy for it to get that way you

spend like i don't know too long together and then everything gets on your nerves yeah not just like i'm normally those things wouldn't annoy me but because it's been too long we need some like space yeah then it's everything's annoying me like even him breathing is annoying me all right i can't really help that okay actually his pet peeve he literally breathes with his mouth open and literally the sounds that come out of it i'm supposed to breathe it's so so jarring there's a pet peeve that actually is a pet peeve do you know what i breathe really loud as well really i'm a really i'm a really heavy breather sometimes people like why are you snoring for i'm like what i can't even hear it myself.

Same. But then as soon as someone says why, I can hear like a, oh, shit, that's why. Okay, I don't breathe with my mouth open though. No, he's such a mouth breather. He's like, that's a bit of an exaggeration.

That's how it sounds. That's how it sounds. Do you snore? That's what I was going to say. Oh my God, does he snore? I mean, I don't know because I'm asleep, so I wouldn't hear it. Right, okay.

I wish we had that app that records you during the sleep. You should download that. He does talk in his sleep. Do I talk in my sleep? I talk in mine. I think most people do. I think it's quite a common thing, you know? I laugh.

Yeah, from what I've heard, mine's quite, it's a bit weird. He'll start like shouting and be like, it's coming in four seconds, four four seconds i'm literally thinking what the fuck are you dreaming about yeah so much random sentences i love that i feel like i well i've been told i sleep talk a lot i think it's normal yeah i think it's kind of normal is that nick

no i don't think it's nick i mean you can Nick no sleep talking I don't think it's Nick I mean you can't help unless you were like saying like another girl's name or something well girls you can say any girl's name

you want yeah well no yeah obviously but I mean in their situation okay so let's talk school romances

did you guys ever have a school romance for me they were all girls yeah me too I'm such a player romance for me they're all girls yeah me too such a player really yeah really that's so interesting yeah but like never anything like serious serious you know i mean it's kind of just like everyone it was just the thing to do so i just followed the crowd and done whatever really yeah i had some crazy ones like when i was like at secondary school like i had this girlfriend and like

she literally once I broke up with her she said I'm pregnant in what year um no like must have been like year nine wow your life could be so different yeah I know but I literally just broke up with her like i just broke up with her and i was like look i don't think it's working like i was starting to realize that i was gay but obviously i wasn't gonna say that and then i was like i don't think it's working and then she's like i'm pregnant i'm pregnant blah blah like and i was like did you even have sex with her and you know yeah oh all right people say no yeah obviously i mean then i'll be like okay well that definitely didn't happen but no yeah

i sort of thought it was kind of like no no pregnant yeah no i yeah no i was i did have sex with her yeah so when was both of your first boyfriends him oh okay that's for me but right yeah yeah so when was your first boyfriend when you said you noticed you were you kind of thought you were gay after yeah yeah so like in year nine what age are you in year nine I think that's about 14 yeah it's about 14 right yeah so I'd say like when I was like 15 I think I had my first like we never made it official because like the unfortunate thing was like we both liked each other and I was kind of ready to be like look I'm ready to come out like I'm so comfortable with that because I've always been very comfortable in my sexuality um but then he wasn't and he's like he was so like petrified of his like family or whatever no or like there was many reasons but yeah so we never made it official but then

that's kind of the reason I broke it off because I was like look I'm moving forward with things that's fair enough but it must be so hard in that situation because obviously, obviously I've never had to do it. But like coming out, I know is such a scary thing for so many people. But like you said, you would then also have to hide your relationship when you was willing to be open about it. So that must have been like such a hard situation for you to be in. Yeah, definitely.

Like I feel like a lot of um queer people can relate to that like storyline do you know what I mean like I feel like that's the case with so many people even into adulthood like people still you know I know loads of people that are not out because they can't um so yeah it's one of those unfortunate things but definitely you know happens a lot and yeah i had a few school romances as well actually did you um not really to be honest i was quite like to myself like just to myself in school i didn't really i don't know not anything i can think of what did you have well i had my first boyfriend when i was in year nine and that was subway guy oh wow it went well then that just didn't end that well do you know what i was so mean guys i would never forgive myself for doing

this like i'd never do this now it's so wrong in every way i've got to blame it on the fact i was on on text but I ended it with him on Christmas Eve because I wanted a fresh start for the new year on text

when he was on holiday how mean is that? what was your excuse? no I wanted a fresh start oh is that what you said? like I want a fresh start that is what I said

honestly he was heartbroken like I actually never forgive myself. There's never a good time, is there? There's never a good time. But really over text. It's one thing I do not advise. I know.

Like, right before Christmas. Who does that? Who actually does that? That is quite mean, obviously. That is a bit savage. Yeah, I know. And then I was in a relationship for years after that with a guy that wasn't from my school.

A lot of people do that, though, break up with their partners before Christmas or their birthday. But why? Because I don't want to get them a present. They don't want to commit to it for that reason. I swear so many guys do that, right? They break up right before December just because they actually don't want to get a present.

What do you think? Oh, yeah. I'm sure i've been broken up around about that time around about this time maybe like in a couple of months maybe in a few days it's just so you don't have to get each other a christmas present i can't be fucked by you this year that is so wrong it's so wrong okay so when you were in school

how did you feel about sex was that a thing no I was not no I wasn't I wasn't I wasn't

because I was in relationships but I feel like I actually lost my virginity very young but that was because I was

in a relationship yeah that's the same as me so yeah but to be fair all my friends actually lost their virginity really young i feel like i've always been above my years i think everyone feels like that when they're young i agree with you on that but like yeah i just always have like i had i was with my boyfriend for two and a half years from the age of 14 so i lost my virginity then

so young i know and also as well he lived like five and a half hours away from me so when we'd see each other it was like to be fair all my relationships have been long distance so i was like every single relationship you've been in has been yeah guys can't find someone around the corner i have to find someone in a different fucking country oh really what that lot that far distance to be fair my first boyfriend was like wales but like the last guy i was just with lived in america oh my god the one before that was yeah honestly they're always just like how do you find that it's hard especially like america i just haven't really known any different america yeah to be fair that guy i wasn't like fully with i was seeing him

but for a very not very long time like a good eight months so and we still would fly to see each other so yeah we weren't actually in a relationship but the guy before that who I was with also for two and a half years he lived in the country but like opposite sides of the country sometimes it'd take me eight hours to drive there so yeah that's hard so I don't really know any different, to be honest, but I like it because I know it sounds

like so cringe or whatever, but for me, I mean, I'm just trying to look at the positive. I'm like, oh, distance makes the heart grow fonder. It does in some ways.

No, I agree with you. Yeah, to be fair, it does. Yeah, because you make the moments more special when you're together. I mean, you've got to look at the positive, right? And I'll tell you

where I live in Brighton, there's absolutely no one. Really? See, that's why you need to come to Manchester the positive right and I'll tell you where I live in Brighton there's absolutely no one see that's why you need to go to Manchester this is what I keep telling you Anna swears I'm going to meet the love of my life in Manchester maybe you will I actually think you will you're manifesting it babes

maybe I'm trying to get her to go on a hinge date and she just won't do it I won't do it hang on actually last night I signed myself up to go on a hint date. God. And she just won't do it. I couldn't even imagine dating. Hang on. Actually, last night I signed myself up to go on a date this weekend. I don't like gay people. Are you going to go?

No. I know you won't. I'll say to you on the phone. I know. I know. I'm going to cancel. But listen, right? So I've signed myself up for a date.

I've just started talking to this guy. Literally just started talking to him. Within like- An hour. An hour I'm on a date with him. Apparently this weekend right I might be spontaneous

whatever how dead is his chat he's beautiful how dead is his chat now I'm just thinking I can't be asked he'll put a reply but there's no like

question to follow on like yeah like he's not asking me questions I'm thinking but you messaged me first and you've also asked me on a date

but you're not asking me anything but you know what that's not such a bad thing That's not such a bad thing. That's not such a bad thing in my opinion because, no, because once you actually get to the date, you'll have more to talk about. I was thinking this. Do you know what I mean?

But then what if he's like that in real life? It's just me making a conversation with myself. If he's like that in real life, then yeah, that's shit. But obviously. But he is beautiful. Okay, so talking of dating then and taking it back to school did you date in school like go on like actual dates you see i never did that really i was just in relationships i don't think dating was really a thing in my school i don't think people like oh should we go for dinner tonight i feel like that's do you think you're too

young at that age i feel like at that age literally someone becomes your boyfriend or girlfriend within like two days literally you just meet up don't you you just go and meet up somewhere random you hang out with friends and all of a sudden it's like do you want to be my girlfriend

do you want to be my boyfriend I don't feel like the dating thing's a thing during school maybe like the back end of secondary school like sixth form college is maybe when it starts

to like I'm thinking even like year 11 no one I knew was like going on dates I think college is when you start. Because it's like the next chapter, you feel like you need to mature that a little bit more. And do things a bit differently.

And people start getting in long term relationships from college. It's like when you have a job though. When you can start earning money, then you can pay to go on dates. That's true. Yeah, true. So Karim, what was your first date? Do you remember it? Well, Sam's the only person I've actually ever really gone on a date with or been in a relationship with oh wow so we used to like go on drives and then it's so cringe we

used to like go and sit like at the beach in the car and then like with like blankets and stuff and stop it oh that is so cute we used to wake up like 5am like oh my god yeah we used to just literally fall asleep in the car really oh god i car really oh that is so cute so you never like went to like a restaurant or anything for your first date no we didn't really do that until because i wasn't out then so it's kind of like the stage of friends knew family didn't it was like i don't know when that transition is going to happen when that happened then it was like fine but that was quite long actually wasn't it well some of my most of my family knew or some people did and then other parts it's like yeah yeah and i guess you already knew each other as well right yeah like it wasn't like you needed to go on a date as such

yeah you just needed to do cute things together yeah we see each other at college and it's kind of like an extension from that i feel like that kind of made it harder in a way though sometimes because like i never i never knew when to like like how far can i push the boundaries because like i really like kyron you know we obviously like each other in some way but i'm like i don't know how reciprocated it was because we were just well we were friends and then yeah well you told everyone i know i was so excited when i was like guys need to tell something they're like we know i was like for fuck's sake that is so funny but no yeah never really had a first first date oh that was like nice moment what about you yeah i think what this i have i have bad luck doing this i don't know why i've done it three times i've done like sightseeing in london and we just like walk around london wait this was your first day yeah oh yeah yeah

this guy okay it was oh she was head over heels for this guy really when he did so he told me ended because he couldn't do long distance long distance for us was two hours i then found out he was dating a girl who lives in canada what and i being a little psychopath that i was got on like snap maps and i remember waking up one morning and he was at the airport in canada and i thought you can't do long distance with me but you're in fucking canada oh my god this is the guy that lives near me right yeah do you know what do you know what though anna's just too nice you know she's still friends with this guy yeah that's awful we don't like speak on like like if you message me once every six months we'd have a conversation i guess it was so long ago as well i was one of those things

very young as well but yeah we'd go sightseeing around london and do that little walk-in i think i would find that again i think i'd find that a bit awkward because i just think sightseeing just isn't fun that fun but maybe that's because we're older now

and we've seen it a lot yeah maybe but like what are you talking about I've got Big Ben yeah that's what I mean because you're like oh Big Ben that's cool

but then is it just like you're just trying to have conversation about Big Ben I can't really remember I mean it didn't work out with it what sights were you seeing

just like the general i remember we walked up to like buckingham palace like it's really cute it's really cute i just think i'd be so awkward in that situation i hate walking as well so yeah true actually i'd rather sit down like go for a drink right yeah yeah i guess at that age you couldn't drink either yeah i was like 16 so you've done that multiple times your next few dates you also was doing sightseeing no i've done that with another boy again but that was just so your next date with another guy is you're going sightseeing yeah we've already seen it no they suggested it which is really weird and we've always said in our friendship group we're

like never go sightseeing london because it's just something about it that gives you like bad luck wow i don't know why i've done it i've done some very rogue no one's ever said to me about taking me sizing yeah i think it's a sweet idea like going yeah i think it's a sweet idea but i wouldn't recommend no after decades of shaky hands caused by debilitating tremors, Sunnybrook was the only hospital in Canada who could provide Andy with something special. Three neurosurgeons, two scientists, one movement disorders coordinator, 58 answered questions, two focused ultrasound procedures, one specially developed helmet, thousands of high-intensity focused ultrasound waves,

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So basically, have you got any fun DMs or messages? We've got some really, really weird Facebook. We get wild Facebook requests. I don't even have Facebook do you think Facebook is the craziest for like messages they're mostly like

spam accounts they're just so weird we'll show you right okay I feel like because we're in a relationship no one really DMs me like in a weird way

yeah because you're like very open about your relationship and everyone knows who are the first people to read out Facebook messages on the podcast though because I actually didn't know

this was a thing oh yeah well wait till you hear them it's quite explicit by the way we had to say it yeah yeah go for it yeah you go for it find the worst one to read the worst ones okay this one is i love wearing short skirts with nothing under so i can tease strangers by bending over to reveal my freshly shaved hot pussy. So yeah, thank you. Her name is Salazar. Is that like a spam account? Honestly, in a group chat. And why are they sending you that?

I don't know, but it's usually like a woman with a name and then they just send like, they must send it to everyone. So yeah, this is a blank page and it's called Salazar. So thank you Salazar for that. Thank you so much. This one says, I had very naughty fun with five guys

in a hotel room for four hours let's find out just what I got up to and how they totally used me and how I ended up there like what the hell what the fuck how they totally used me do you ever just like sit and read these for fun?

Yeah. Yeah. They're wild. They get like four a day as well. I just don't understand. What the hell? I know. I know.

So weird. I've got another one here. It says, I'm single, big breasts, pink nipples, and a nice slender axe mouth. Pink nipples.

What is a slender axe mouth? I've no idea what that means. Honestly. I have no fucking idea idea give her a message to find out this one says i'm single ready to take my sexuality to another level and only you can help me kiss me touch me hug me loud and wet. Do you reckon like this is literally a man that's just sending this out or do you reckon this is actually a girl sat in her room sending this?

I don't know if it's like... I reckon it's like bots. Yeah, it must be. But they are funny. They're just so entertaining. But someone has to write that though. So someone is thinking, okay, what can I send? And that's what they come up with that is so funny i've got two that are quite straightforward this one says i

love to get fucked like doggy style just looking for sex pez straight to the point literally just says hello i'm horny fucked in the ass I need you not being proud of a floor spell yeah that's a good point well we love people that are straight to the point

yes actually yeah no beating around the bush there no definitely not I love it if you want a one night stand go to facebook chat

100% yeah if you've got what is it something axe mouth if you've got an axe mouth wet size never heard of it do you know what I feel like it's a good reason I don't have facebook You've got a, what is it? Something axe mouth. You've got an axe mouth. Wet size. Never heard of it.

Do you know what? I feel like it's a good reason I don't have Facebook. Yes. True. At this moment, I'm glad I don't have it. Oh, I want to delete it. Yeah. I don't use it.

I feel like no one really. How old are you guys? 24. 24. Both of you? I'm 23. I feel like, yeah, so we're all sort of similar age. I'm 22.

I feel like people our age just don't really have Facebook anymore. Like none of my friends I'm 22 I feel like people our ages don't really have Facebook anymore like none of my friends have Facebook I have it but I don't go on it like it's just my old account from when I was

like a child same it's mostly for like parents with like the group chat of like that postcode yeah yeah yeah yeah

loads of my like my mum's friends and stuff like all just have like you said for their postcode but it's like they get annoyed about little things like in their area like somebody has left the bins out

yeah so and so and it's like really it's like a big yeah just group chat just like off the air and who's left the bins out i have been on it like once in the last year just to check what everyone was doing like who are you from school and stuff like that's where you can go to find out everything i'm like oh half my year's engaged engaged having babies oh my god that is so true like literally when i scroll through my timeline on facebook it's literally just engagement after engagement after engagement oh we bought a house okay like do you know what i mean it's like wow like that's what people are getting up to someone two years younger than me got married and i was thinking married and they've been engaged and full-on married yeah wow yeah and babies as well that wow wow wow i feel like couldn't be further

from that to be fair loads of my friends have babies and stuff so i feel like i'm just like surrounded by it honestly yeah yeah i mean honestly guys I'm not even kidding you two years ago I was convinced I was having a baby really yeah fully was

yeah do you remember oh my god I was so broody I was like convinced I was gonna have a baby how my life would be different right now

very glad I don't I love kids I know I love kids but I love giving them back yeah I just love giving them back

exactly for two hours it's fine then I'm like I can't be fucked now Yeah. I just love giving them back. Exactly. For two hours, it's fine. Then I'm like, I can't be fucked now. Yeah, no, I'm happy with my nieces and nephews.

That's enough for me. When you say broody, what does that, like, I know what broody means, but like, how is that a feeling? That's something I've never felt.

Just every time you see a kid, you're like, I want one. I need one. Like how I want a puppy. Yeah. Like that. You're broody for a dog. Yeah. Just that sort of feeling, I guess. Okay. Oh, i want a puppy like that yeah like that it's like yeah yeah just that sort

of feeling i guess okay oh i want a dog too wait so why are you not getting a dog do you not want a dog i'm not ready for a dog to be fair it's a big commitment yeah can i just say it's actually so glad yeah because i think if you get a dog and you're not ready it's like it can be so like i would be so selfish if i got a dog i like traveling way too much yeah like i just don't have the commitment. So many people I know get dogs and then end up giving them, like, back. And I'm like, that's just so unfair. I think it's the right thing to do, but just so desperate to get a dog.

But then again, I want to do more things in life. Yeah. Yeah. And you always have time. This is what you've got to remember. Yeah, true. This is what I was saying. Having a dog is like having a child.

Yeah. Yeah. What dog do you want? A little mini Yeah, true. This is what I was saying. Having a dog is like having a child. Yeah. Yeah. What dog do you want? A little mini dash hound. Aww. Or, what are they called? A doberman.

So I want to get one of each. That'd be really weird. Well, if you get one, I will be the babysitter. Yes, of course. I'm just saying, you know, if he needs one to babysit,

I'm always here. I love it. I have this vision in my head of me walking around with like one massive dog and one baby. Is that an egg? I'll carry the little one.

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probably the worst like this isn't just an ick this is full turn off for me like I will never reply to you again okay this is when he sends he he

no I'm done in what context in private he he he he I oh my god I'm never replying it's like a he he with the oh my god I'm never

replying it's like a he he with the little monkeys going like this oh one level up that's childish

to me I'm sorry no there's no way it's not even just childish it's the cringiest thing like I think

I'm even not replying or I'm saying you didn't just put that has anybody messaged you saying he he before

oh yeah 100% really yeah no one has for me has anybody messaged you guys hee hee before? Oh yeah, 100%. Really? Yeah. No one has for me. Has anybody messaged you guys saying hee hee? I don't know.

I mean, I've said it to a friend, but not in like that way. They're like, oh, how dare you? This is when you two are like, oh,

we always put hee hee. Yeah, we always put hee hee. Not even. That's actually my favourite thing to say. No, I just say,

I've said it before, like as like to a friend, if I piss them off, I'm like, oh, sorry. See, when I was them off I'm like oh sorry see when I was younger I used to put hee hee

all the time like when I was in school I used to always put hee hee I think it's a very like younger thing to say I think it's been some time since I've used hee hee in all seriousness

if someone put hee hee sorry the more we keep saying this I keep thinking of Michael Jackson we keep going hee hee Michael Jackson's in it

that is so funny yeah that's proper icky to me no that's full turn off that's full turn off i feel quite bad for this one because one of my best friends has an android but it's a guy that has an android not an iphone that is irreversible so that's a huge thing though isn't it that i'm a very iphone girl and it doesn't go blue it's green yeah right that gives me that annoys me

I just think maybe they don't have signal maybe they don't have signal and they were waiting for it to turn blue three weeks later you're that savage oh my

no I can actually agree on that because I'm such an iMessage girl as well I'm an iMessage girl like I know everyone nowadays is using WhatsApp I'm so not a WhatsApp girl WhatsApp girl as well I'm an iMessage girl like I know everyone nowadays

is using WhatsApp I'm so not a WhatsApp girl WhatsApp's work for me yeah that's for me essentially that would work iMessage is we're on good friend terms yeah

I'm iMessaging you and also I'm such a FaceTimer I'm voice noter so if I can't do that you have to WhatsApp call people on Android oh is that how you do it

that's what I was going to say my friend FaceTimes me not that WhatsApp call no if someone's what's not the whatsapp no i feel bad sorry if you have an android listening to this actually it's just the photo quality can't deal with that is it so obvious when it's taken on an android so obvious yeah yeah it's just something about android i I don't get it. I just don't understand. People that make the switch from iPhone to Android think you're brave. Yeah.

You are brave. Yeah. I think it's an older thing to do. But then most people that have an Android and go to iPhone, they're like, oh, it's crap. Androids are actually meant to be better phones. They are.

But I can't. I can't get on it. I can't get on it. Between Android users and iPhone users. Yeah. Don't be like, I'm an iPhone user. But I think it does say a lot about your personality. Do you think? I think if you have an Android and an iPhone. What android what is the personality trait to have an android i don't know which is so different you gotta say one you gotta say one

i don't know It's just very different. Okay, let's move on. I'm going to dig myself a hole here. Okay. And this next one is, my boyfriend does this weird... My boyfriend does this weird gun fingers when he's rapping. Like, you're not at a rave, babe.

I hate the gun fingers. When this comes out. No. Anna, you do it're not at a rave, babe. I hate the gun fingers when this comes out. No. Anna, you do it. Right, I used to do it. You do it. If you're listening to a song, do this. Don't, babe, babe, sorry.

I don't want to out you here, but you do. You do. Like this. When have I done that? You do. Not when. I want a tight date in place of when I've done that you do not when I want a time date and place

of when I've done that CCTV oh right okay you've definitely done it before I've done it as a joke I've done it as a joke

you're like I promise I'll never do it it's a joke but then I think you don't you like you're gonna say no now

okay maybe I'm so wrong but I thought your type is kind of the guy that does the gum fingers. Everyone has my type so wrong and it's so upsetting. Everyone thinks that my type is like D squared cap. Like spray on skinny jeans. Even Flossie said this the other day. She was like, your type is like D squared. It is gum finger kind of guy.

You say it isn't, but then you go for that. It's because I said I fancied H once and now that's my type suddenly. But that's not my type. No, but if a boy did that, that's straight turn off for me. Okay. Would it not turn you off?

Well, it would turn you off. Yeah, defo turn you off. You don't even like me doing it. Babes, I love you at all times. Right, the other one. I think this is quite sweet. When they bring their own carrier bag when shopping

yeah I like that you're just saving on penny person also you're saving the turtles there I think it's practical when you do a scan and shop that's good

I like that one yeah this is when you know we're getting old yeah well we've literally got a cupboard at home and when it starts overflowing

it's dedicated just to plastic bags. Yeah. I have a cupboard with plastic bags. I feel like everyone has it. So we should. But you can't continuously buy new ones, otherwise it'd just be like an overflow. Every time.

And I leave them in the back of my car because I hate going to the shop and not reusing a bag. That's quite smart. I don't do that. We don't use them. Oh, you should do that because otherwise you end up forgetting the bag. Yeah, always do.

That's good. Yeah, put it back in your car, guys. I actually get annoyed at myself when I forget my shopping bag. So do I. I get so annoyed. I think it would be time. 25p now in Sainsbury's. I know.

Do you remember the new Freddo? Yeah, it's a new Freddo. I know. Inflation is how I measured on plastic bags. It's so bad. 25p. Cheeky, isn't it? Rip off.

I feel like an adult now. I know, right? We're getting that into a conversation about bags. Would that give you a nick if he bought his own shopping bag if you went no no i would quite enjoy that yeah i'd enjoy that yeah just as a hint yeah i'd be like good good on you yeah fair play and also if you can remember to bring mine too that'd be great yeah yeah that'd be even better yeah yeah okay okay so what's the best advice that you would give someone to end the podcast regarding ics how to avoid them hmm i think don't look for an ick because then you constantly ick yourself out over everyone you have your staples have your staples but if you constantly look for an ick or

you want to be icked by someone you will you know so just chill let someone do let someone run into the tree and get their bag stuck. You know what I mean? Let someone bring a packed lunch. But yeah, don't look for an egg. Yeah. I agree.

I agree with that too. I feel like if you're constantly looking, you're always going to find it. I feel like people are making them up now. I feel like maybe just, it's almost, yeah, it's a trend.

I know it's funny, but like realistically, you're only prohibiting yourself from finding possibly your next match do you know what I mean yeah

love that and because ics and turn offs are like two different things ics like we said is something smaller realistically if someone's given you the ic you just aren't into them

because I think if you like someone enough you can get over an ic because an ic is not like someone you like exactly yeah do you know what I mean or even if you do think oh a little bit icky but if you like someone enough you can get over an ick because it's not like someone you like exactly yeah do you know what i mean or even if you do think a little bit icky but if you still then continue to like them then you just you like them you know yeah yeah that's true it's kind of like a reason to be turned off by someone like you're looking for a reason to be yeah so you

search that whereas you just allow it yeah why why are people delaying that whole process if you don't like someone just just admit you don't like them and move on. Yeah. I love that advice. I love that advice. Yeah, say it how it is. Yeah, say it how it is. Move on.

Well, thank you guys so much for coming on. No, thank you. Honestly, it's been so fun. I love learning other people's icks because I do also agree in the sense of it's got too far. It has. I think it has got too far. So it is interesting.

But the backpack one will forever make me laugh. The lunchbox one. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Everyone with lunchboxes. So remember, you guys can also slide into our DMs with your own sex, lies and DM slide stories for us to read in the next episode.

And if we don't see you in our dms we shall see you next week sex lies and dm slides is a spotify original podcast produced by spirit studios with ray and kate willis as the producers and from spotify the executive producer is rihanna colman