Sex, Lies & DM Slides - 82. Reading OUR DM's

Episode Date: May 22, 2024

We wanted get back to basics with this podcast…so thought we'd share some the wild and weird DMs WE have received. From Ana's flirtatious messages from guys, to people sending Saff some very traumatic breakup stories - these are honestly wild! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Let's go. Hello, everyone. Welcome back to Sex Slides and DM Slides. It is a Thursday, which means we are back for another bonus episode. So in Tuesday's episode, we actually answered all of your dilemmas, which we absolutely love doing. So for today's bonus, we thought we would, again, go back to the roots of our podcast and do something else that

we love doing which is reading our weird and wonderful dms and we've got quite the mixture of dms going off today yeah i feel like our dms are just so random really random i feel like all of these dms as well are recent in the last like week if we were to delve deeper god knows really what we would find yeah i feel like we could find some very disturbing dms if we looked deep i mean to be honest i was looking within the last couple of days i think if we looked further we probably could have found some very disturbing stuff and i feel like for now maybe i need to start screenshotting those dms that's what i'm thinking as i see them i need to screenshot them and send them to our little podcast chat so we've got them there forever because i've seen some wild stuff in

my dms before same so that's coming in a future episode we've got a few ones that we're going to read out should we do mine first and then go into yours because like mine are a bit more tame compared to yours do you think so well they had a little look okay but I think so I got so all of mine I don't know about yours but all of mine are from guys which is why they maybe are a little bit tamer I don't know but I got some really just generically nice ones which quite pleasantly surprised me I got a hello nice to meet you how are you can we talk for a moment I mean that's kind of sweet yeah it was I mean the picture of the person looked a bit older, so I would probably swiftly avoid. But then I got some really nice.

Hey, beautiful. You are so, so beautiful. You are unreal. Heart eyes. You're the prettiest human ever. Take them. Take them. Yeah, I thought I'm going to lap these compliments up.

I'm going keep keep these coming um but this was the one in the last week that like stood out for me and I thought this was so sweet what this guy sent me super hello hello little out of the blue obviously but if you ever fancied a date this is what we do drinks than activity something like flight club or ghetto golf you know what I mean you're sold aren't you activity day activity day I think this is a potty nose and then food the only problem is I'm very competitive ego one for you but we'll see how that goes also I'm from Birmingham and 25 years old give me a shout if you fancy chatting even if you don't want the date that's a really lovely message i just thought the way it was

worded like was so lovely and i liked i like the idea of the date we know we do know i like are you gonna go on it that's the question um probably not but i appreciate the way that he's reached out and he's done it in a very polite way um that wasn't like weird or creepy at all so shout out to him very very nice and i'm sure his sliding dms will work on somebody else i'm just i can't right now i'm not in the dating mood i can't do you know what is funny because actually i was with my friend chris yesterday and he said to me do you get really weird dms and i was like sometimes yeah and he said to me, do you get really weird DMs? And I was like, sometimes, yeah. And he went, look at my recent ones.

And I'm not even joking. He scrolled down his DMs and it was honestly dick pic after dick pic after dick pic. But worse than that, just videos. But constant, the entire way down his DMs. And I just thought it was crazy. See, because I feel like, I don't know about you, but when I get sent dick pictures, they go the hidden thing so I don't really I never

see them yeah me too and then when I go on that that's scary yeah that's a dark place to be in the hidden message request yeah but oh my god if I clicked on my DMs and they were just full of that I wouldn't know what to do with myself. No, no, neither. Oh my God, DMs are a wild place, guys. Let's go. The all new FanDuel Sportsbook and Casino is bringing you more action than ever. Want more ways to follow your faves? Check out our new player prop tracking

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up to 5% off orders and 5% Uber cash cash back on rides not whatever you think university is for get uber one for students with deals this good everyone wants to be a student join for just 4.99 a month savings may vary eligibility and member terms apply let's go okay so this says hey um i just wanted to say you look amazing and i've just been hoping for some advice i've been with my now ex-boyfriend for three years and suddenly he just split up with me however he says that he knows he wants me in the future however i'm just confused so i love this person in my eyes we were soulmates and I would try to make it work for the future and not just wait till the future. I'm just in a pretty confusing place at the moment

and don't know what to do because I keep trying with him, but he just doesn't want me anymore. Do you know what's really weird? Is my friend is going through this exact same thing. The exact same thing. So they were together for, I don't know, years i think and long time

out of nowhere a week before he's telling her that wants to marry her he's his person blah blah blah and out of nowhere he goes on holiday breaks up with her so in my eyes something very weird's gone on goes on holiday breaks up with her and doesn't want to be with her at all like no communication whatsoever doesn't want to be of her basically wants her to change everything about themselves herself and to be fair they they did argue a fair bit but when they were good they were really good anyways no one was expecting it everyone kind of thought still they were soul mates because that was just their relationship. Right.

And now he's doing the whole, oh yeah, I want you back in the future. And I just can't, I can't get on board with it because for me, if you want someone in the future, you don't want them enough because you'd make it work now. Why would, I just don't know. If you were to give up for that long already, you you've shared well this person three years your friend four years like i think it's

a really selfish thing to do to say to somebody like i know in the future we'll be together but we can't be right now because you're going to give that other person so much false hope it's like you're almost saying that to keep them there and make sure they don't go and get with somebody else but you go do what you want to do and that's like really really really not fair and a very selfish thing to do and like you were saying if they wanted it to work you would make it work now not like in five years when when you've gone and had your fun well i think you've actually just hit the nail on the head i think this is what i say to her he wants you there because he doesn't want you to have anyone else and he knows if he says that you won't go do anything else yeah but he can go do whatever

he wants because when you're in love with someone if they say that you're like oh we're going to be together you're all they're always going to be in the back of your mind like even if you try and move on and go on another date you're just going to be thinking oh well i'm going to get back with them anyway but like realistically that's probably not gonna happen so like I think it's a really selfish thing for a guy to say that to someone because yeah if it was gonna work I felt like it should be working now not in the future yeah and to be honest I'm very much a big believer in if it didn't work out the first time I don't I mean this is maybe a separate side note again actually I was talking because I mean my friend Christopher was talking

about relationships and we were both actually having the conversation yesterday about how if it doesn't work the first time why would it work the second time I know it has worked for a lot of people personally for me I think if it doesn't work out the first time what what's going to change because especially if somebody does something wrong to you as well I mean this is maybe I'm just going off on a tandem here but if somebody like screws you over in another in some way and says they're going to change whatever else they've got to do more than just working on themselves they've got really really work really work at themselves because most people don't change their colors so for me I just I don't know if somebody had ended it with me

I'm not game I'm just not game I don't know if it just didn't work the first time I can't see how it's going to work this time around I agree with you if so like if say my boyfriend had cheated on me and end it with me I would not then go and get back with him if we'd ended on mutual terms and we were friends and then we decided to find a way back to the one to grown up whatever but no one done any wrongdoing then I can like get behind it a little bit more but if like someone had done something wrong and then there was a second chance like it's so hard because I believe in second chances, but like in some circumstances, I just, I don't think I could. I just can't see how somebody would change.

I've been with people that have had that name for themselves. And I thought they were totally different. Not because I thought I changed them. I just thought they had changed themselves. And then I learned very quickly, they don't change. Unless somebody is going to deeply work on themselves they're not going to change leopard never changes its spots that's exactly what they say exactly exactly and also guys just on this note because another it's a conversation and I mean we talk about relationships all the time right this is why this podcast perfect yeah i don't i always have this conversation how if somebody's ever we've so i'm gonna go back to this in a minute

but if somebody ever screws you over and then you think to yourself oh my god he looks so in love with his next girlfriend and he's this and he's that and oh my god i can't believe he's found someone else guys just patiently sit there because you know he's gonna do the same thing you can sit there satisfied knowing he will do the same thing yeah because you will do the same thing to every person literally you can sit there satisfied like you said it perfectly because you know that like like i said that lep is not going to change his spots i almost feel sorry for the next person it's going to happen because it's it it's a them problem like that like within themselves that they need to fix and they're not going to fix that by repeating the same problem and it also goes back to what you

see on social media might look perfect but it's it's not it never is yeah i think i think we i thought that was so going off so going off topic um let's read the next dm on that note i think i feel like we haven't actually no no we've explained this but i just wanted to say i'm really sorry that you're going through this because i think that is so horrible if you're if you're in love with somebody and they've out of nowhere ended things with you i can't seeing firsthand my friend going through the exact same thing that you're going through I can't even imagine the pain that you must be feeling because I imagine you thought you was probably going to spend the rest of your life with this person but they

obviously just weren't meant to be they yeah I know it's so much easier said than done but yeah I think just surround yourself with good people, your friends. I personally would have the attitude of, if he doesn't want me now, then he doesn't want me enough. So he's not worth my time. It's obviously so much easier said than done. And I think that's harder when somebody hasn't screwed you over because you can't hate them. You're still in love with them.

That's a really horrible thing. It is. Sometimes it's easier when you have a reason because you can then use that to like get over them and start to hate them. Having hate, like having hate and anger, I think is a lot easier. Yeah. Just being sad.

A hundred percent. And being in love with somebody. Of course it is. I mean, yeah, I second what Saf said. I literally couldn't have said it better myself. And we are

sending you lots and lots of love i love listening to yours and anna's podcast thank you so i thought i would give you something juicy to talk about these are the dms we love i was with my ex for nearly nine years he proposed to me after eight and a half and five months later he left me decided he didn't love me anymore three months later he got another girl pregnant who he had only known for three weeks i thought my life was over but i'd met someone new and he has made me realize in five months how i should be treated in a relationship but i've never felt happier oh my god i'm so glad there's a nice ending me too i thought there was going to be a horrendous ending by the way that story was going honestly that makes me so happy that like you found true

happiness now and it goes to show even though obviously at the time when it was happening it would have been awful but everything happens for a reason because if that didn't happen you wouldn't have met this new person that you're with and you wouldn't now be experiencing this whole new like amazing relationship that's made you realize how you deserve to be treated a hundred percent and also I know there's okay there's actually very mixed opinions on it and you might have a totally different opinion as well but for me personally I know this is very very very normal and I completely get it um if you're not in a financial situation where you can't but for me if I was with somebody for over eight years and they hadn't proposed I would not be having it but I think that's maybe my personality is I'm a very I don't

know if it's always a good thing because it's not worked out very well for me and I'm still sat here single but for me personally I kind of feel like when you know you know that I mean that's the attitude I've always had. And I've never really said this on the podcast, but I was adamant my ex, who I wasn't with for very long, was going to propose to me very quickly, wasn't he? And we were together for about six months. So, but in my eyes, and I know it's...

No, seriously. So when we all got the news we got, was a very big shock factor i can assure you um anyways so to wait eight and a half years and then five months later i just i just cannot that is that's the i can't get my head around like proposing eight and a half years in but then five months later doing like that he must have just met maybe he felt like i'm not making excuses for this guy by the way but maybe in his head he felt as if he had to propose because it had been so long and then met somebody else i don't know to get somebody pregnant that quickly i mean obviously it could be a one-night stand but in my in my head he must have met her before

to be with somebody for that long and then to just break it up and then get somebody else pregnant I would safely assume yeah that he'd probably met her before and like you were saying about the engagement thing like I agree that eight and a half years to me I would be like every day I'd be like this too early to my boyfriend um I feel like babe um I think I think is i don't think there's too early like if it was like two months in i'd be a bit scared but like if it was like a happy medium i'd say like the three year two three year mark to get engaged i'd be buzzing about but if it hit anything more than like five years and there was still no inkling of it i would be

dropping some serious hints but i don't want to have to drop hints i want like no i don't either do you know what i mean i just think like five years would be my maximum really what what would yours be what's the earliest that you'd want to get engaged well i i don't know anymore i don't know anymore because i thought i was going to at about six months. Well, to be honest, if he was in the country, I probably would have been. So I don't know because I've always had the attitude of if you know, you know, why do you have to wait years? I don't get it.

That was always my attitude. But I've always just believed in the fairy tale. I think that's just been my thing. And I think it's because my parents parents from the second they met each other they they just knew it's their 25 year anniversary today I saw your mom post it is it actually is yeah which is so cute that's our wedding anniversary they've been together longer than that that's insane like I know my dad would have proposed the day after if he had the money to at the time we just didn't have money at that time.

But they moved in together straight away. So they just did things very quickly. So I think that's, I don't know maybe where my attitude of that's come from. But it's funny, I was watching a video the other day just on my TikTok. And it was saying how you should always wait minimum two or three years to get engaged to somebody. And for the first time ever, I thought I kind of get that now because you can think you know somebody so well, but you don't ever really know somebody. I think you've got to know somebody for longer than there's a saying longer than seven years. Yeah, because you think you know somebody, but like even when you move in with that that person then you're going to really get to know them and then you'll start to know all their habits and their quirks and

everything that you can't know everything about a person in that time frame I think to want to marry someone you need to really spend time with them and experience life with them for a capacity of time to be able to really know that person to be like yes I want to spend my life with them like if so if someone did propose to me after two months I'd be like you like the idea of me I think not maybe actually fully me just yet yeah I don't know I don't know I'm so into your minds because I have the mindset of if you know you know just do it why not why wait but at the same time why rush if you know you know just do it why not why wait but at the same time why rush if you think you're going to be together with them forever why rush

I don't know I feel as if I'm in a very I don't know I think I'm definitely taking it so for my next relationship anyways I don't think I'm gonna be accepting the wedding rings at two months in so I think I'm just gonna keep it a bit slower yeah and I think you'll just know when you meet that person on what scale to take it do you know what I mean yeah and I think you'll just know when you meet that person on what scale to take it do you know what I mean yeah like I mean personally I wouldn't want to be waiting years and years and years and years but that's just because I am very much a I don't know I just think that's my personality I just I'm too impatient for that yeah yeah I mean I wouldn't I don't want to wait years I'd say to myself like five years is like the max and then I would be yeah be like left-handed constantly holding up my boyfriend like I need joy on this hand because

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no warning shot just straight up leakage i'm thinking the first one i'm thinking the first one because even though the pain of having all my toes and fingers broken they will heal within like six weeks diarrhea for a year down my leg no i don't want that the smell because it's not just having diarrhea is it it's having it no leg that's what it's having it down your leg i think that's the part that's doing it you have to stay home for a year yeah which yeah no i can't do that so i think i'd opt for the toes and the fingers broken so so random i'd have no idea why someone would ask you that I and I get things like that all the time as if that's it's something from a guy I just can't understand the logic behind it I really can't understand the logic behind it unless he's got some weird like fantasy

thing with any of these situations I don't know like you can't knock anything nowadays but honestly nothing would surprise me anymore nothing would surprise me so that's the potential but that's a nice one to end it on we'd prefer our fingers and toes broken well be sure to very very random um be sure to check us out on socials and subscribe to the pod on spotify so you don't miss out on all of the goss and we will see you on tuesday for our next episode bye guys see you guys then bye you