Sex, Lies & DM Slides - 87. Boundaries in Dating

Episode Date: June 10, 2024

Boundaries are such an important part of dating, whether you just started seeing someone or you are in a long-term relationship. We wanted to break-down some of the different boundaries you should keep in mind and the importance of them - from physical to emotional and more. Plus, Ana opens up about the boundaries she put in place when she was dating her ex-boyfriend. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

let's go hi guys and welcome back to another episode of sex sides and dm sides with me and me and the stage of kings lord so we are back for another week and back for another opportunity to deep dive into all things sex and relationships we're bringing the energy this morning guys we have just we are it's bright and early here in LA but she's just had the caffeine hit and now she's absolutely I know because I feel like this time difference isn't really working in your favor but it is for me because for me it's half four in the afternoon so I feel like I'm like yes do you know what babe lucky for some I know that was a big. I've lived my full day now. At least it gets me up early, though.

At least it gets me up on with the day, which is, I used to be a 5 a.m. girly. I used to get up every morning at 5 a.m. Where's that gone? I know. On your Instagram story, I used to see your legs in the bed in the morning. And you'd put the time on at a wide angle, half five, let's go to the gym. And I'd literally wake up at 9 o'clock thinking, has lived a full life or so I've been dreaming and I loved that for you do you know what though actually getting up at that time it is crazy because you

do realize how much more time you have in like I know it sounds stupid but when I would get back from the gym I would have done so many things and people wouldn't have even woke up yet and that feeling is genuinely one of the most incredible feelings in the world I you can't explain it until you've done it but I would have done everything I would have gone to the gym had my breakfast I don't know walked along the beach done chores and errands I needed to do I would have done so much and people would have still been in bed sleeping and it makes you feel insane did you feel more tired though in the evening like were you going to bed earlier

no no not at all I would go to bed earlier I'd absolutely go to bed earlier but i definitely wouldn't feel more tired in the evening because that's good no i wouldn't yeah i would have to make a conscious effort of going i would go to bed early though i'd go to bed at half nine i'd be asleep that is early i was but the thing is in the evening i don't really do anything that's how i can sit on my phone yeah that's right i was gonna say like when you think about it yeah i don't know if i'd from sit on my phone. Yeah, that's true. I was going to say like, So when you think about it. Yeah, I don't know if I'd be able to fall asleep at half nine, but then if I was waking up so early,

then I guess I would be able to because I'd be in that cycle of being able to. There's a book called The 5am Club and I honestly recommend, I mean, to be fair, actually, I did, I don't find it

the most interesting book ever, but it is, there's lots of books about waking up early and you just see the benefits of it. I would love to be able to do that again, honestly. So it's probably not a bad thing. And actually I'm going to try and start getting up now. Now my mom's gone. I'm going to try getting up early in the morning. It becoming a routine of just getting up and going straight morning it becoming a routine of just getting up and going straight to the gym because i think when you also just get out you see sunlight you do something in the fresh air first thing it just makes you feel incredible so i'm gonna

i'm gonna try get back into that routine i completely agree fresh air changes everything like everything well they say you should get 10 minutes first thing in the morning so i wish i had a balcony or i wish i had a garden that i could go into like i know it's like because i don't think they mean sit in the balcony yeah i don't think they mean go for a walk not me doing my 10 minutes of fresh air sunbathing on the balcony no but i mean just like so the air hits your face at 5 p.m when it's freezing cold in the uk actually yeah so that makes no difference if i'm about me or not i could just get in the lift to go downstairs but no yesterday like i i was jet lagged so i woke up at four and i got so much done in the morning because i was awake and i was

all the time in the world by nine o'clock i'd literally done my full day and i was like now what yeah like it was it's crazy isn't it because in the evening what do we i know you enjoy it especially if you're somebody that comes back from work at 6 p.m yeah then it's your time to chill but really what do we do yeah you know like we just sit on our phone for hours or maybe watch tv but actually you could but if you're on your own i'm saying all of this i don't have a five-hour morning routine currently and i don't see any things to say on my phone but yes i definitely i definitely ain't got a five-hour morning routine going off but potentially in the future i'm gonna try i don't know if i could do five i could probably do six six would be more of a you definitely could

do five maybe but maybe you don't want to do five yes that's it like that's a bit unnecessary because why like then you genuinely are so tired yeah i would be so dark that's the thing waking up when it's dark is what i struggle with if it was light outside and it was five in the morning i can get up but if it's pitch black raining summer's a lot easier freezing yeah like then the last thing i want to do is be getting up and going outside for me 10 minutes of fresh air when it's pissed it down the rain no i get that i get that in the summer it's great yeah a lot easier anyways we're just yeah anyway sorry about that i hope that's inspired you to wake up early anyway I'm going back to university for $0 delivery fee, up to 5% off orders and 5% Uber cash back on rides. Not whatever you think university is for.

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are very very important um so first of all what is boundary a boundary refers to limits that you put in place to protect your well-being um boundaries are for you and about you and they're respecting your needs in a relationship. So there's lots of different boundaries. Okay so first of all we've got physical boundaries which refer to your body, privacy and personal space. So if your partner like kissed you in public and you're uncomfortable with it you have to let them know because that would be your boundary or sharing your preferences and expectations might feel difficult but not sharing them could make you feel disrespected have you ever yes but say have you ever experienced this what where like I think my boundary has been like overstepped like I haven't said either that you haven't said or you feel like it's been

overstepped yeah I would definitely say it's been overstepped you feel like it's been overstepped yeah i would definitely say it's been overstepped i think when it has been overstepped in a physical sense then i would i would say like i don't like this or because the person might not know that i didn't like that and then after that they've always made the conscious effort to not do it and to change that which i respect is there somebody you've been seeing though or is this just because I think it's different if it's if it's a friend that you don't think no I it has happened with some people that I've yeah no it has happened with people that I've been speaking to before where like the boundary is just not quite there but like I think it was after my situationship in every sense of the word was

when I realized what boundaries were in but not physical boundaries as in like yeah like intellectual boundaries everything like that was when I really thought about it and like learned that actually my boundaries are so important because they are what makes my relationship enjoyable for me and of course like you have compromise in a relationship but when they're your boundaries you don't really compromise on boundaries I don't think that's your boundary like yeah that's do you think that you've ever have had your boundaries kind of like overstepped physical I don't think so but I don't think so because I'm a very my love language is physical touch so for me I don't think so so somebody I'm seeing doing that

I don't think you're overstepping the line because that is my number one love language I love physical touch I yeah I don't think I've ever been in a relationship and thought personal space give me I don't actually think I've ever even experienced that I'm not even joking I don't think I have like even when I go to bed I know some people hate it I love cuddling going to bed and I know this is a very a lot of people can't do my best friend is like absolutely not she needs her own space when she's sleeping i don't i could just cuddle into a guy's arm the whole night going to see i i like i just like touching i can fall asleep like that i think but then like as i'm like really about to go off i have to like spray and yeah like roll over i get hot like so hot

and then i start to like see because i'm a cold person oh if i was a cold person it'd be lovely but the fact that i'm so like yeah yeah like under the duvet like it's a lot so i do i do i do like my own space in the bed to kind of like spread out i have like a specific sleeping position like like i fall asleep in and i kind of have to be in that position like i'll be on my side and one of my legs my knees will be bent really far in yeah and like yeah and it's so comfy i think that's a very common um girl sleeping position i think it is as well one leg under the cover on one leg out yeah and like my knee is really high my knee could be up like

touching my chest yeah at this point but like it's so comfy no i sometimes sleep like that i love it or do you know how else i sleep which people find so weird on your front i sleep head down yeah yeah i know you do i sleep fully on my front i think it's scary what what i think i think it's quite scary but i think that's coming from a very sweaty person in the night like a hot person when i look at you face down on the pillow i think she's quite scary but i think that's coming from a very sweaty person in the night like a hot person when i look at you face down on the pillow i think she can't breathe she can't breathe like she's i sleep like that yeah she's she's suffocating herself in her sleep and i'm just like how is she comfy but you're out like a light like you're gone when you sleep like

that absolutely i mean but then do you ever actually lay on your back? I've never. If somebody said I had to just lay on my back, I would never fall asleep. No, I think I definitely have. But like, not like flat out like this, like on my back. Like my arms and legs would be bent in a bit of a weird way. If I'm still laid on my back. Sure.

Do you know what I mean? Yeah. I've never, ever laid up front. Even if my legs were bent, I've never laid up front no i would always lay on my front or i would spread out like a starfish and still lay on my front or i'd have one arm like this you do do that actually yeah you starfish on your front that's what i do yeah you do yeah oh my god you do and you starfish on your front and i sleep diagonally sometimes because and that is always how it works you do sleep diagonally i get to every pisses everybody off yeah i do starfish

so i can't i'm like you starfish i'm halfway across the bed it works perfectly somehow yeah um okay so they're physical boundaries now we've got emotional boundaries um so in order to establish emotional boundaries you need to be in touch with your feelings so notice when you feel guilty ashamed upset and undervalued boundaries might be needed when you notice these feelings coming up around certain issues or situations this is more so what i meant by i learn boundaries in a situation because yeah so maybe give an example or explain I think I from previous situations have become very in touch with my emotions and before that I would very much like bury it and like if I was feeling a certain way I wouldn't say it because I

wouldn't want to upset my partner or upset the person I'm talking to whereas now like if I was feeling a certain way, I wouldn't say it because I wouldn't want to upset my partner or upset the person I'm talking to. Whereas now, like if I'm feeling some sort of way, I will always make sure that I voice it and I voice my opinion, let them know how I'm feeling in order to work on it and move past it. Because then that's setting the boundary of like, right.

They know that this isn't acceptable. They know this has made me feel this certain way and i don't accept that behavior whereas like yeah and i do you know what i mean no i do and i think also if you don't say again it's so much easier said than done right but if you don't voice that if you don't voice it then it's only going to be on your mind anyways it'll probably come up in a in an argument or in a worse way yeah so you actually are better voicing it again it's a lot easier said than done so i completely understand that i think that's the that like you said it's the best thing to do because if you don't you're just going to bury that deep in you and it's going to come up at some point like you said it will come up in an

argument it will come up when you're drunk and nobody wants that like it's much better to have like an adult conversation sober adult conversation about it um to let that person know that like right you've overstepped a boundary now like i don't accept that behavior so please don't do it yeah no definitely No, definitely. Let's go. Upper Canada College inspires boys from senior kindergarten to year 12 to find their passions and realize their potential. An IB World School, UCC offers a supportive environment, cutting-edge facilities, and a best-in-Canada financial assistance program. UCC, a place where tradition, excellence, and innovation meet.

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match, we're ready for you. Visit td.com slash small business match to book an appointment with one of our advisors. Okay, so the next one is sexual boundaries. Sexual boundaries refer to your expectations around physical intimacy. what is and isn't okay with you sexually healthy sexual boundaries include mutual agreement mutual consent and an understanding of each other's sexual limits and desires i mean this is a huge boundary thing right yes i think this is like arguably as obviously intellectual emotional and all those boundaries are so important but

i would go as far as say this is the most or very high up that important boundary that has to be yes appreciated and listened to when you're with your partner um because of course everybody is going to have different things that they like in the bedroom. And if you can meet your partner and meet your match and those things are the exact same, then amazing. But some things would like mean compromise and setting boundaries. And you know that like, I feel that's like. A very adult conversation. To have with someone. Like if you're sleeping with them regularly. Your boyfriend whatever.

And you're like. Right. I like this. But I don't want this. Like. It's like in. In Fifty Shades of Grey. Well it's respectful as well.

I think. For somebody to keep. Yeah. If there's something you don't like. And for your partner to keep. Wanting it. Then. I don't know.

It's hard isn't it. If it's what somebody else enjoys. But. It's. I don't know. It's hard, isn't it? If it's what somebody else enjoys, but it's, I don't know. It's just, yeah. But it's your body. Out of respect, you just would. Yeah, it's your body. And like, I know it's a very weird thing,

but I was thinking of Fifty Shades of Grey. You know, when like she's negotiating the contract and she's taking things out, she's like, I'm not doing that. I will not do that. I'm not trying that. Like she was setting her boundaries. So we can start doing a contract. Imagine imagine that contract was sick imagine but like no like she was setting her boundaries and she's like I'm not doing that like no matter if you like it it's not happening and I like I said I think that is so incredibly important and can only like push that people

really set the boundaries in that area yeah 100% and also like things can change when you get closer to somebody yeah oh actually I really enjoyed that so maybe I'll enjoy this it's not always so sad but yeah I think you obviously need to be yeah you might change your mind I want to try something new this is by far the most important thing yeah yeah like yeah you to be yeah you might change your mind and want to try something new this is by far the most important thing yeah yeah like yeah you could be like you could be with them for five years and you're like right i want to switch it up actually i'm open to trying this now but yeah just being clear with like however you feel in that moment i think is stupidly important so we praise sexual boundaries on this podcast please um yes the next one is intellectual

boundaries so intellectual boundaries encompass ideas and beliefs so if you feel as though you can't discuss certain topics with your partner because you believe they don't respect your opinion or put you down a boundary might be needed i think i hate that yeah i think it's really hot like i love having intellectual conversations with people but i hate it when they shut me down and will not listen to my opinion i mean i just hate people that put others down as well i think you can completely have different opinions that's so fine everyone's gonna have somebody down about their opinion i just think is yeah just again i think it also comes down to disrespect if you respect somebody you wouldn't do that because i might be like okay i couldn't see how you think that i personally

don't think that but if you think that then that's fine unless it's something obviously that's such an important topic to both of you and you have completely different opinions than maybe you just aren't meant to be together because some some people's opinions on things could be very different to mine um which I couldn't be with them because you know if their morals and their opinions don't match with mine and I don't think I'd be able to be with somebody but if it's just a general topic and we didn't agree that's so fine but for somebody to put me down about it I hate that I mean I just hate anyone that feels like they need to put somebody down anyway so me too and I think especially when like

someone believes in some things that if people have got particular beliefs and someone was trying to shut you down on those it's like you said it's a disrespectful thing it's like that's what that person believes in and you know and yeah it's really disrespectful to shit on that I think it's hard isn't it because again I think it's if you have an opinion I kind of like when people challenge you and I don't see a problem with challenging somebody about something and ask them lots of questions but yeah like you said the the putting them down i i just don't think it's nice i think it's very disrespectful yeah i think you definitely need to put a boundary up i yeah i would also enjoy it if someone was to challenge me on one of my opinions because i think that opens the room up for like a very intellectual and open conversation but then like I can hear your side like I'm intrigued to hear the other side of why

you think I might be wrong but like have it open like be open-minded about the conversation like a conversation rather than just shutting me down and be like you're wrong that's it point blank period I'm right like I yeah do you know what I mean like an open an open conversation um okay last one yeah last one go on financial boundaries financial boundaries financial boundaries are all about money boundaries are joint versus separate accounts how much goes into savings what purchases you want to make and how much discretionary funds you will each have I don't know this I find hard because it really depends on the situation yeah it's very situational and also like when you have like joint account and stuff i feel like yeah this is like deeper

into a relationship boundary that you'd start thinking about like i've never had this of somebody i haven't i wouldn't be thinking about this for a very long time really about like how much money goes into this pot how much money goes into that pot but I can completely yeah again boundaries in that area are so important because say I don't know if one of you was to put like if you both put like two grand in the pot said you've got a thousand pounds to spend for the rest of the month between you and then one of you went and blew the four thousand pound you've got no money left for the rest of the month between you and then one of you went and blew the full thousand pound you've got no money left for the rest of the month it's like you just need to set boundaries in place so that doesn't happen yeah I think it's

super important it's hard because none of us have experienced that we don't we don't really know what that's like I've never shared money with anyone so I really wouldn't know what that's like but yeah I do think that would be very hard I don't even know if when I'm with somebody that would be a thing for me like I'm pretty sure a lot of people I know have their own money but if I don't know if that if somebody had way more money than the other I just think I would just give you know or I don't know if I say for example I had way more money than my boyfriend this is an example right and we wanted to go on holiday I would just book the holiday I wouldn't think oh well you need you know

we'd have our own money but then maybe I would do things like that it's really personal isn't it it really depends on the situation but I don't know if I'd ever just put all my money in it's just i don't know yeah people have joint accounts where all the bills come out of and stuff and i'm sure maybe that will happen one day i don't know but yeah like if we were it is hard because if you if one of you were to have more money then i'd prefer to be like i'll just pay for this you pay for that maybe and i'll just get this and like and honestly that's how most people i know do things yeah that. That live together, been together for years. You know, one of them might get just paid for the electricity. The other one pays for.

So it's fair. Yes. They just don't put it all in one account. Yeah. I think I would actually prefer that. I just feel like it caused way less arguments. Yeah. 100%.

I feel like money can be like a big argument with like between couples and as you get older. So I feel like, yeah, just avoid all arguments then. Let's go. couples and as you get older so i feel like yeah just avoid all arguments then okay so they are the five boundaries which one do you think is the most important out of the ones that we've spoken about i definitely think the sexual boundaries like that goes without saying yeah like for physical like it's so so important i think emotional because i think to be disrespected in that oh sorry i'm just gonna say to be disrespected in that boundary I think it'd make you feel horrible like it you'd feel awful if you'd been disrespected like that whereas the other ones yeah it's not nice to you know emotionally be disrespected all of those things I think to be

for your sexual boundaries to be crossed I just think that's a really horrible thing for anyone to go through yeah a hundred percent and I think also like I think that is the most important one but I think emotional boundaries are so important and way more than we actually realize because I think emotional boundaries you're thinking about the sort of behavior that you would accept in a partner and I think it's so important to set these boundaries in like the very early stage of your relationship because the longer you leave it the worse it's going to get and you don't want it to get worse you're better off like even three dates in saying like this is what I like this is like I wouldn't accept that no no this is what I would like one all right this is what I would like that is one million percent how I will move forward with future things like even with my ex-boyfriend from what I'd learned previously

like the way I set boundaries was so incredible and I think that is why our relationship was so good because we set so many boundaries like a like what I would did you set the boundaries after they had been crossed or did you set the boundaries so I set them beforehand they'd been crossed by another person so I learned that I was like right I don't accept that and then going into the new relationship I set the boundary and it was never crossed because I said from the beginning I was like I would not accept that behavior or like I wouldn't want to be treated like this like yeah do you know what I mean like it's even so simple as like the only this is a really random example but say if you wouldn't want um your boyfriend liking girls pictures right that's a boundary that you don't want crossed

so like you would just politely say to them like i don't know like i don't think you should really be liking the girl's bikini photo whatever and then if he does it i don't even want to have to say that to someone no doing that yeah you really should you really shouldn't i shouldn't even have to say no you that is a very unspoken thing yeah you really shouldn't have to say it that was probably a really bad example but like then you you can say like i don't accept that behavior so then they shouldn't do it but if they do do it they've crossed your boundary i feel like that's i'm trying to think of other examples but no that that is actually a really good example i think there's some things like that that i'd say

on the sexual boundaries i don't necessarily think I would say that unless I went to unless they crossed a line and then I in the moment kind of said it I don't think that's somebody I'd personally I think I wouldn't sit down and be like just to let you know this is where it crosses the line I don't think I would in that department be able to say that oh see I have somebody done something that maybe crossed the line see I know think I would in that department be able to say that oh see I have somebody done something that maybe crossed the line see I know that I have but I didn't do it in that way maybe I should yeah I didn't do it it wasn't like a sit down like serious like right you can't do this but you can do this it was more of like uh we were getting to know each other and having a very open

conversation saying what I like and don't like so I was like I wouldn't do this so like I wouldn't want to try that but like I said it in a way of like don't do it do you know what I mean but like I didn't like right so it was more that sort of like conversation not a okay yeah I wouldn't be able to have like a dead serious I don't think unless they'd cross the boundary then I would be like sure you can't do that sure it's funny because I'm watching uh Married at First Sight the US version I would be like sure you can't do that sure it's funny because I'm watching uh married at first sight the US version I'm sat with my mum last night and the girl and too right and so she should but she said to the guy I'm not being disrespected I'm not this I'm not that I'm and she went on with this list I just want you to know that you're never I want you to know my worth

and she was saying all of this and I thought good for her but I also thought to myself I actually said to my mom but it's quite a lot a lot and we've really liked this girl on this show she's lovely and she does deserve to be treated like that but also it's hard isn't it because i get she was saying her boundaries but i don't know how much is too much to tell somebody straight away do you know what i mean how early on was this i felt like it was well they get married so they are married because it's married at first sight right i don't even know how long they've been together maybe two weeks um and obviously they spent a lot of time together but i don't know my thing is if i was having

to tell somebody that they need to respect all of those sort of boundaries yeah i don't know i just i think if i had to actually tell somebody that much they're not the person for me if i had to if i had to say i have to let you know that you need to respect me you know that to me comes without saying i shouldn't even have to tell somebody that there you need to respect me you know that to me comes without saying i shouldn't even have to tell somebody that there shouldn't be a boundary that i need to set you should already know that i i completely agree with you i think that is where like it can become hard because with sexual boundaries there's going to be things that you don't like so you can tell them straight off the bat without like because they're not going to know that you don't like it like you know

because they might love it but yeah whereas if like an emotional one like if they've disrespected you I shouldn't have to sit you down and say I'm not going to be disrespected I'm not going to be this because you shouldn't be disrespecting me in the first place but I think it's just about setting those like making that clear from the beginning maybe not as much as like the girl didn't marry at first sight but just like making it known that i mean she needed to because he wasn't but therefore okay i know she doesn't have a choice she gets married to him at first sight but i also think like i don't know and she was on that show i think you'd be very much in like a rushed mindset because you've just got fucking married like i think your head would be all over yeah you would be do you know what I mean it was hard as well because she was saying to him as well you know you you can express it to me in more ways by telling me and and this and that and I get it

because if somebody wasn't you know I love words of affirmation as well again another love language of mine that's because I'm somebody that I kind of do say how I feel a lot so I love that and I think if somebody wasn't doing that maybe I'd be like oh well you never tell me I I get saying it but also in my in my head if I have to tell someone that then whenever they then compliment me I'll be thinking well now they're just saying it me too but then with the compliment thing i know but i think it would be nice like say if you said something like that you're like oh like i like to be loved like this or like this is how like my love language works and if they listen to that and take that on board and really make a change to to cater to your needs then i think that's nice because then i think

they've listened to you and they've respected you like you shouldn't have to tell them but their love language might be completely different so if they're changing their love language to fit yours then they love you do you know what i mean that's true because if somebody's acts of service they're it's very different towards affirmation yeah whereas yeah they could be doing everything right in every other department yeah whereas if like you said that to them and they didn't make any change then they're kind of disrespecting and disregarding what you've said so so I think it just depends on the level of it like if you've cheated on me I shouldn't have to tell you not to cheat on me but if I'm like politely

telling you how I like to be loved and the things that I like I like setting a boundary in that way that I think that's like a nice way to set one and so when you set your boundaries how did your ex-boyfriend react because it's clear that you said yeah I set them very early from the start and I was I didn't sound like a woman I wasn't very much like you're gonna respect me you're gonna do this you're gonna do that I more said it in a way of I've been very disrespected in the past I won't tolerate being disrespected again I want someone like who is just gonna be a nice guy look after me love me like love me the way that I deserve to be loved um and be able to be honest with me and like I want like an emotionally available guy. I was more saying it in that term. And he took it like insanely well. Like he, honestly, like I can't even explain how well he appreciated my boundaries. Like, I mean, I think, I don't know if I've said this on the podcast.

I think he would have done that anyways without you saying that. Yeah, I do think so. I do think so. But I so but I think I think he it makes you feel better also just getting it off your chest I think yeah I think he understood the type of woman that I was when I said those things to him I think he immediately knew that I was like very very like emotionally mature in that sense because of what I've gone through but like this is like a mad boundary and like I don't know if I've ever said this on the podcast before um but I actually didn't sleep with my boyfriend or ex-boyfriend until Valentine's Day and we'd been speaking for a very very very long time before that

um and I just for some reason didn't I think I like I'd I don't know I had a bit of a weird time with sex before that and it was like a boundary that like I wasn't ready to explore and he waited until like I was ready and never tried to push it never tried to like overstep my boundary and waited patiently and I was like that is like a man like he's listened to what I've said and he's taken that on board and he's like when you're ready and that was a really lovely yeah i was like that was a really lovely like and it made me realize that like people do actually respect your boundaries but like you just have to make them sometimes they respect your boundaries if they respect you that yes you know yes that that is literally it they were a man or a woman will respect your boundaries if they respect you that yes you know yes that that is literally it

they were a man or a woman will respect your boundaries as long as they respect you as a person i think you've literally just exactly you're rounding it up perfectly no man child i can't believe i overheard you saying fuck child that's my new favorite one no fuck child is doing that that's our maybe that's what it should be called yeah that's our like man stereotype on the podcast a fuck child yes anyways that is all for today guys um be sure to check us out on socials and subscribe to the pod on spotify so you don't miss out on all of the gossip also we love reading your dms um and finding out your stories if you've ever had a story with somebody's over across the boundary or how you've told somebody

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