Sex, Lies & DM Slides - S1E13: Gizzi & Sydney | Lou Teasdale

Episode Date: October 10, 2022

Gizzi and Sydney chat to the influencer and BFF of One Direction about what it’s like going on tour with one of the biggest bands in the world. Lou discusses how she became one of the most successful beauty industry business women in the UK and how to protect your mental health in a world obsessed with image. Sex, Lies and DM Slides is a Spotify Original. This series was produced by Heydon Prowse Productions, edited by Podmonkey with music by Free Seed Films. For Spotify, the executive producers are Rachel Simpson and Alexandra Adey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hello, my name's Gizzy Erskine. And I'm Sydney Lima, and this is Sex, Lies and DM Slides. Where we invite our celebrity friends to dive deep into their DM boxes to see what terrors lurk within. We'll be chatting about online trolls, online dating, perverted proposals and why everyone's so weird on social media. Sex and Lies and DM Slides. Welcome back to another episode of Sex, Lies and DM Slides with your hosts Gizzy Erskine and Cindy Lima.

I knew we'd merge into each other eventually. How are you doing, Giz? Good, actually. Yeah, feeling pretty good. What's been going on with you this week? So I've discovered hinge dating. Oh, really? Okay, so the thing is of hinge is that you can't see people's full names.

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on people's photos. Right, okay. So basically... So I've screenshotted people's photos and put it on Google Image Search. So if you don't know how you do this it's reverse image searching so it basically tries

to find that image online elsewhere it hasn't quite worked so what were you hoping to find? I was trying to find I don't know I guess I was trying

to find their MySpaces MySpaces? I was just trying to find some like proof of their existence and their last name so I could stalk them more intensely

so you can't you can't do the stalking that's pointless so you've got to strike i actually gotta start speaking to them before i can find out anything else about it which maybe it's a good thing so you see this person on hinge or on a dating site and then you need to sort of go into the backtrack what else are you trying to find out you want to see all right well they're quite limited in what they tell you on hinge so they don't i just need their last name, Gizzy. I need their last name. I need to find their LinkedIn.

I need to know what the fuck's going on. I mean, I guess that's a protection thing, isn't it, that they're not putting that out there? Yeah, but everywhere else does, don't they? I don't know, because I've never really used them before. I don't know what they normally... Do they not link up to their social media? No, you can opt out.

And some people just don't say what they do for work. Oh, but isn't that really sketchy? Does that not mean people could be having affairs or living under aliases exactly exactly i'm just trying to find out if they're married for fuck's sake yeah exactly so what what else can you find out normally so like if they want if they drink or not if they do drugs or not so it tells you all that or not yeah you can opt in for that some people say when they've like you can tell if they've got an australian accent or not which is always handy I just think like I wanted to I don't know I wanted to find their Instagram

that's quite bad though isn't it I just because like the other day I met someone through someone and then

they told and I was like oh they're fit it was really nice lighting and then they gave me their Instagram and I was like oh they're not very fit anymore

their Instagram was quite lame anyway so I didn't reply to his messages isn't that what it is though you're shopping for someone essentially it's a really dark way of looking at it but you're sort of going like oh i wouldn't wear that dress wouldn't wear that one oh that looks like it might fit nicely so yeah i haven't had much luck but i'd like to go through my message that I got we've sort of been asking people to get in contact

and somebody actually got in contact this week which I haven't finally I haven't yeah finally with something fairly interesting

so it's from James I won't say his last name I've just listened to episode one and I could have taken notes

it's so funny and informative as someone who has slid into your DMs to hear you talk about some of my fetishes I've just listened to episode one and I could have taken notes. It's so funny and informative. As someone who has slid into your DMs, to hear you talk about some of my fetishes was a massive turn on. Also hearing you say things like, Willie, an arsehole, was incredible. Really hope I don't sound too weird. Can't wait for the next episode.

And did I hear that you've been to a fetish club? And sploshing so much fun it's been so long since i've done it but i'm really tempted today now i've heard you talk about it lol also love the story at the start with the fin dom i wish i earned enough to do that i'm skint even i even think of giving it to women but I've been submissive with a few women in the past you'd make a fantastic Dom that's so nice that's very nice do you think from hearing this episode he's now going to be like

furiously wanking over it I mean, Willy arsehole it's funny anyway I'm not going to say without further ado you're gonna do it say it again i'll say it instead without further ado uh here's luteasel luteasel thank you so much for coming on the show you're welcome

hi so how would you describe your job firstly oh i hate this question it's so annoying well i don't really have any shame in saying i'm an influencer but people really roll their eyes at that it's a bit like to the influencers but that is kind of what i do now like i was hair and makeup first so right let's go back to the influencers but that is kind of what I do now like I was hair and makeup first so right let's go back to the beginning yeah so you're you I mean even when we were chatting um on whatsapp we were talking about what you do you're like I'm a hairdresser um but obviously that I don't some people may not even know you as being a hairdresser because they would see you as an influencer so tell us about the history of how you got to where you got well i was makeup first and um i used to work for quite a big hairdresser they would always use makeup assistants so that they could take on

jobs doing both and i was assisting a male hairdresser who did male barbering specialized in men he did a lot of the boy bands that kind of thing on shoots and stuff and he used to work on x factor so i worked on x factor basically um when i was an assistant so it all started from there really then i would meet a lot of the acts go and do a lot of promo and stuff um but usually with that show like by the time the next year came around then the who you're working with probably wasn't a big deal anymore. So you would just go back to the show. Whereas with One Direction, they went huge.

So I just stood with them. And I had my little girl and stuff like that. And they really looked after us. So it just kind of went from there. And like I say, up until three or four years ago now, I was still working for them. But it just kind of ended up being a lot more of the Instagram stuff I really actually enjoyed it more than doing hair it was a lot more lucrative I built my following as big as I could um me and my sister had an agency so we used to manage um some other influencers so we did all of that with bleach and then tonologist and so you just and we've just ended

up doing a lot more like brand work and stuff instead of standing doing hair as much anymore i love how you're being so blasé about this like bleach is probably one of the um biggest most progressive uh yeah sort of makeup and hair companies in the world now well bleach was like super disruptive on social media as well and i remember like Charmadine had started Wild Nails and that was huge on Tumblr do you remember Tumblr and I was just trying to look at what was taking off there and trying to sort of show the more corporate brands like look this is what's going on and we can kind of help you with all of that stuff and I suppose we've just sort

of built our business around that so how did it get to the point that you were kind of help you with all of that stuff and i suppose we've just sort of built our business around that so how did it get to the point that you were kind of touring with one direction and had millions of instagram followers the thing with one direction is they were like the hugest ever boy band and i think that what happened was was when they started instagram kind of started and it really was there was like so many parallels. So sort of supported each other. Yeah, and like they were kind of growing with that, but they were also growing these platforms because it really was, they sort of pioneered how you use that to make people really, really obsessed with you.

And it's really controlled now, Instagram. And when I work with artists now, they're really controlled of what they post. The teams are all very controlled with what they post. You have to be very respectful and professional with it. You know, confidentiality and everything's embargoed. Whereas when it first came out, it was really authentic because, you know, I would just post the lads

and they would just post whatever. None of them really post like that anymore but they they did back then and so you know it was just relative where their followers were 20 million then mine were kind of one because it was just everybody who's interested in them were interested in their team they were interested in their girlfriends they were interested in you know, they were interested in their girlfriends, they were interested in, you know, their sisters. I guess it's like the first sort of constantly moving fanzine, isn't it? Yeah, yeah.

And you get to be so invested in someone's life. Because I was used to be obsessed with Hanson. Oh my God, you're the only person. No. Hanson were great kids. I still go and see them every time. They were not boring. Hanson were great giddy. I would still go and see them every time because basically... They were not boring. Yeah.

Hanson, who but? Babe, honestly, I was so obsessed with them and I used to say to Harry, I was like, Taylor Hanson, you know what them girls are like about you? Taylor Hanson was that for me. So... Have you ever slid into anyone's DMs for sexy time? I can't believe I just said sexy time. I know. It's time uh yeah that never happened

don't we all do that i don't know i feel like i have you i don't know no i have kind of said oh hi if someone's followed me i just do a hi yeah i just go in with a hi and then just leave it there and then leave it to them do you as someone with like a huge following do you feel that that helps you then get more notice from signing people's dms because then if you've got a blue tick you can then approach other blue tickers it must make them more interested yeah i mean it's it's always you into a club it's like we're private members yeah yeah but then it doesn't mean anything anymore because i just saw like i don't know i mean hey our producers got a blue tick exactly i mean they're just giving them out left, right and centre.

Do you know what I find really frustrating recently, though? It's like, there's a lot of deception. Obviously, it's very obvious. There's a lot of deception on social media. But everyone, like, more than most... Basically, I think loads of people have had Botox, basically, recently. And they put on Instagram that they've just had a facial, but they've all gone and done Botox.

They had Botox. But I just think it's like... How do you know that people have done that? Because... Because of who they're tagging? Because they're tagging. They're tagging, like, aesthetics people. No, but my aesthetics person doesn't...

I don't have Botox, and I have my facial done by an aesthetics person. But loads of models do it, and they all lie and say they haven't had any work done. It's just really frustrating. But maybe they haven't had any work done. They have! I know they have but like do you think like Instagram

makes you kind of want to have surgery in that way because like with the filters and stuff like that like people don't really know what they look like anymore I definitely never worried too much about what I looked like and then this happened and now i do and i've had a few things done i ended up having my nose done i've said my teeth done i was just i can't stop looking at my teeth they are absolutely yeah they are literally the best teeth i've ever seen so amazing and and yeah because when you know when you're going on trips or whatever and they're taking pictures of you that you can't edit yourself or anything like that and that's just it that's what you look like and you do start picking out these sort of imperfections and things like that and i

do think that it definitely comes with that you know definitely you're quite honest if anyone asks you you tell them don't you it's like or do you like to have some secrets about what you do no i'm super honest about it but i wouldn't advertise having something like that done either um if someone asks me i'll be honest about it i wouldn't lie about it because i think that a lot of people have it done and sometimes they want to talk to somebody who's like done because it's quite reassuring when you're having something like done. It's quite scary if you've never had it done before to talk to somebody about, you know, things to think about. But a lot of my followers are very young. So I try not to like mark it as how you get a certain look or whatever, because there's just a level of responsibility that comes with having young

female followers do you think that there is um a trend within your um group of influencer your influencer friend circle that that everyone is feeling the same and having similar minor surgeries or larger ones yeah well i think i mean i think beauty as a whole um was becoming there were a lot of trends that were a lot of that a lot of that a lot of that hair tan lips lashes like it was all becoming more and more and more and it was as if like the more the better especially with younger girls who like might struggle to reign it in. Because when you start having it done, you're like, well, I like that. That looks better.

And then you have a bit more than a bit more. And it's very, very addictive. And I actually think that the beauty industry was then sort of supplying that demand. But I think that what's happened this year, it's shit for the beauty industry because a lot of people in beauty aren't working but I think that a lot of people have almost had to like have a full reset on everything and take it all off and be natural for a little bit which I kind of think people like needed to needed to do that like just take it all off and start from scratch and i i haven't had any fillers all year um i haven't had them since about november last year and i mean i can still tell

my lips are still bigger so i wouldn't have needed it when i was probably gonna go and have it right but i would just it's a it's an addiction and you're feeding something and i think that having to learn to do a couple of bits yourself and having to take feeding something and i think that having to learn to do a couple of bits yourself and having to take everything off is i think that's quite healthy and it's almost like everyone's been forced to do it i think the beauty industry is going to suffer massively um and i know a lot of beauty technicians who aren't working it's very stressful um but it'd be really interesting though wouldn't it if covid kind of created a more natural well i think that it has like yeah that's i think that it has because everything was just consumption and i

think it's the same with travel so you know we were used to being able to go where we want when we want even if we're traveling every week to a different country which actually is crazy and we shouldn't be traveling like that yeah we interviewed ruby wax a while back and she has gone to university to study uh mindfulness and that's kind of her mo right now and she's really doing quite powerful things with it um a part of her thing is that we should be all taking time away from social media because it is genuinely damaging for us yeah i mean i do so i like just every now and again i've got a daughter so i'll be conscious about screen time with her and obviously you know social media is like my fun and my work and you know so i kind of i will be on it way too much and i know i am um so i feel like you know

just every now and again if we're going away to something nice i'll just sort of say no phones um and like i say it's just about recognizing that you know like exactly the same as a drug addiction or an alcohol addiction it's not about not doing anything it's about moderation about keeping healthy head on um you know if something's stressing you about stressing you out do something about it so when it's stressing me out then i just have a little a little detox do you know how i mean i can't i mean that's i teach me how you do that because i don't look at to not look at it yeah i can't do it even now it sort of burns a hole in my brain i'm not too bad with looking at it like scrolling i'm more because

i'm constantly thinking about posting what i'm doing so i have to tell myself to switch off from bothering with showing what i'm doing which i don't really struggle too much to do that that's just in in here like i do like naturally if i'm doing something cute it looks i want to show what we're doing and i kind of realize i don't need to do that you know but i mean in lockdown posted absolutely loads and i would always sort of do one post a day max i would never just post all day and in lockdown we just i just was like whatever sort of post whatever yeah and i ended up getting an extra like half a million followers in lockdown. So it actually was worth it. Yeah, so I was kind of like, but then you can sort of like,

okay, I need to post more, you know, so then you can, but I can recognise that in myself. It's just about moderation. I'm not going back to university to be your friend. I'm going so I can get Uber One for students. It saves you on Uber and Uber Eats. I'm there for $0 delivery fee on cheeseburgers, up to 5% off smoothies, and 5% Uber cash back on rides.

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Yeah, take it on, tell us what happened to you in your DMs. We need to get him to reply so we may as well send something over so what kind of dms do you normally get so because i have loads of followers they are really like i mean there's a load of rubbish in there i never really look at the directs so the ones that aren't from people i follow let's open some of those ones well to be honest i just have millions of girls that still are asking me about louis and harry being gay like why do they say i don't know where it came from i do not know where it came from. I do not know where it came from, but it's still very, very, like, apparent in my DMs that it's just such a huge thing.

Like, it's just, they're called Larrys. What's a Larry? A Larry is someone who, like, buys into that conspiracy theory that they're a couple and everything else has been set up to cover it up one of the things we we were speaking about which we haven't actually covered on this is um fan fiction so is it that kind of thing where people make up stories about them but it's not fit well i mean it is fictional but it's it's they believe that we, like me, management, the fake girlfriends,

that, you know, it's all a plot to cover it up. When did this all start? When did they start the Larry? From like very early on One Direction. Really? And it's still consumed. So they're suggesting that they're together? Or that they're both gay in separate relationships?

No, that they're together, but it's all covered up. So sometimes I'll be, like, at Soho Farmhouse, and then my brother-in-law was away with Harry, and then Louis' girlfriend posted us to her farmhouse a couple of days before. We weren't all together. We just weren't all together. Yeah, just happened to be in the same place.

Yeah. Like, Tomo was with him. But also, they're mates. Like, does it matter? Yeah, but then it was just all of these things that were getting tagged in. Like, we figured it out. And then, honestly, it's crazy.

Like, the things that they come up with. Isn't it kind of fun, though? Like, keep them along for the ride. Well, kind of. But we're kind of 10 years later. Do you know what I mean? I'm like, sometimes I'll do a a live so i'll do an instagram live for like a brand and i've got to talk about a hair tool and what i'll do is i'll like touch my face and one of them will write really quick touch your face if flower is real and then they screenshot it and then they've got then they think they've got their proof that's

incredible very creative yeah like i mean is it some sexual fantasy for these girls i i don't know i don't know what what it what it stems from are there loads of photos that people have like like manips where they fake the pictures so they'll do a manip of like selena with harry and make it look like a real picture that as a couple kind of does that hit the news like does that eventually go into the news just instagram just instagram some of them are very well done there like some of these kids could get really good jobs i'm just replying to this sugar daddy one because it would be great if we could get him chatting yep go on so what did he say hello how are you doing today i am john t from pennsylvania hope you're good nice meeting your profile hits home

with me i like that you seem relaxed and very open if you don't mind would you like to be my sugar baby hoping to hear from you soon so So I've put hi, kiss, what are you offering? Then we'll just see if he replies. I've still not been asked to be someone's sugar daddy. My Amy, who I've brought with me, I work with, she gets loads. Really? Yeah, she always replies to them to ask what's been put on the table. And do they ever get proper offers or is it just a bit of a cheat? She gets some quite good offers.

She's not going to take it. She's just like, it's just for the laugh. What's the maddest stuff that happens then beyond the one direction stuff well i mean it's just men isn't it so it's like i do think there is like a bit of a thing going on with the blue ticks like they just go in with it and it's a bit of a are you dtf but without saying that no it's not as literal as that but you generally can if you want to have sex probably go and meet someone off TOWIE

quite quickly I kind of yeah I wish I was single though it depends if that's what you have to yeah

have you been messaging anyone from TOWIE or vice versa loads of them you've been messaging them well not this year. Who have you been messaging? I have in the past. I'm not saying...

There is a little world going on and it's quite easy to go and meet someone from Instagram. And have you used any of the other apps? I've been on a couple of hinge dates. What's the difference for you

um i think i mean it's kind of the same idea isn't it but i mean on raya you feel like it's people you already know like i always connect people already know a little bit so it's really easy to start chatting it's like oh they're single at the moment they've gone on raya yeah it goes further yeah whereas hinge i feel like it's people that are quite in a bit of a different world so they're quite interesting a bit more interested in what we do but i generally find don't connect as well when it comes to meeting up i mean i generally find just talking on instagram better is easier better for dating i go meet more blokes that way you might be taking these out of your books even like my housemate I literally

she's going on about some guy and I'm like just slide in just put and I'll take it off her and just send to the high and has it worked every time? 100% success rate they always reply I feel like I'm going to live vicariously through you and do exactly this

do you think anyone from One Direction's ever used Instagram as a dating tool yeah I'd be pretty sure I mean sometimes so like I've been talking to a guy One Direction fans they start chatting to the guys I'm talking to

that's so awkward within like 5 minutes of starting to like someone and getting to know someone yeah so what they do is they make to my existence the fans make like fake fan accounts but they'll put like at luteasdale private it's as if i've got a private account and then i'll be talking to a guy and then i'm like why is he following that that's not me and then she's there writing all like writing god knows what and i get scared that she's dming them as you as me writing whatever and they start following back and everything chatting away thinking it's me as they're saying whatever like completely killing

my game has it ever had a negative impact in that you think they a guy hasn't clocked it and then they've thought it could have done it could be happening all over this might be why i'm single how am i to know so how was it touring of one direction well i was actually pregnant when i met them so i'm i wasn't that rock and roll at the time but they were super cute like they did her like a little cot bedroom on the bus and stuff like we got treated really good um yeah they took you in like family those yeah and it was that kind of tour and quite a lot of tours are like that actually like it does feel like a family and i think it was quite nice for everyone for her to be there and like it feel like makes it feel like home a little bit um but yeah we were super lucky and like I mean at the time it felt very

stressful and I obviously then she would grow up a little bit so then I started leaving her a little bit and stuff and so I would want to get home a lot but when I look back now it was obviously really really fun um and we just saw loads of the world i was just gonna say you must have gone all around the world yeah um that was when i did actually stop drinking as well so i don't drink and i think like it was such a big part of like working with men like it's such a male-dominated industry and like trying to be a woman you know and taken seriously getting paid as much as some of you know my male colleagues um is quite difficult um and i do think that like you know i kind of didn't party too much with them and get involved too much in that side a bit

because you know some of the women did and then you know you would end up yeah did anyone like did anyone was there like if you're going away working with people does everyone just end up kind of getting with each other well yeah so that was the thing for me it was kind of like you know i was with them from like very like right in the beginning and right to the end and i think like you kind of can't sleep with them yeah it's like it's quite important to keep in your job and i think there's some people would come in and like you know like assistants and stuff and i think like they would really think they were gonna you know fall in love and actually yeah it was love and obviously it's not yeah and it's just the quickest way to lose your job yeah then like

they've got a new girlfriend and she's there and they don't want you in the room you know so it was like i wasn't too... Did you have to be counselling quite a lot of people throughout it or were you just... Well, that's what hairdressers are, isn't it? Like, we're therapists and they tell you their side because they know that the next one's coming in and they want them to know your side and then they're going to say their side and then you do end up getting involved because you care about them

and you want it sorted and being mediator and stuff like that i would always end up gossiping everything and you know they'll say well don't tell no i was like well don't tell us then because you know i end up telling everybody like just don't tell me if you don't want everyone to know and then i would kind of think well they must want everyone to know otherwise they wouldn't tell me so they're saying they don't want anyone to know but they actually just want everyone to know so did everyone know each other's business when on tour yes yeah everyone but it was like if any jobs like that isn't it it's like working in the office everyone ends up either falling out or sleeping together or both

yeah or both everyone knows everybody's shit, it's just how it is. But it was, I mean, again, they're a lot younger than me. So we'd be on a friendship level. Did you ever date any of them? No. No, never. Yeah. I mean, I was in a relationship with somebody on the tour.

So I was with Lux's dad in the beginning. Yeah. And then I met my ex-boyfriend who was the, he built the stage. Right. So I had a boyfriend on crew so i was having a love affair full of drama anyway but it wasn't with anyone exciting but it was just full of drama but you know there's obviously like all the blokes behind the scenes not to us who's on the stage and who's not doesn't really make too much difference it's kind of who

you've got a connection with and um so yeah it was obviously all going on and everyone would end up in tears and you know what what kind of drama happened on tour oh god i don't know what i can say i know obviously fucking loads yeah you just can't really say if it involves any other celebrities yeah drugs yep so it's back to the box back to i mean he's just not telling me what he's offering my sugar daddy recently i've been doing some like instagram tear covers because it's been black history month and so i wanted to just do the lender platform thing i thought it was a really cool idea and i just had a few people that i've been working with recently that are like have kind of like suggested doing something together so i was just like you

know there's a couple of like model girls that used to work for the bleach they're really cool sisters and i always try and support them and encourage them. And like, if they have contracts, I help them with it and things like that. So I'm like, you know, here's the password. It's yours for the day. Post what you want. Get paid. Like, just it's yours. Have it.

Just don't read my DMs. We won't. We won't. But you know full well that someone's logged in and that they're getting the same thing pop up on their screen and i'm kind of like oh sorry about that one yeah like so there have been some quite embarrassing ones from some like probably d-list celebrities yeah some like famous yeah some famous lotharios that just reply to stories and send things that they shouldn't send that you don't want someone else reading do you ever get any

like weird like fetish things from people i don't get too many weird men because i all loads my followers are girls so yeah like sometimes i'll watch like love islanders doing lives and whatever and they get really disgusting pervert stuff and i really don't get that. I have a lot of mum followers that follow me because of my mum content and just it's makeup fans. There was somebody in the press who ended up through her Instagram getting into

escorting. Do you think that that's something that people have to be concerned about? I suppose so. I suppose it's too the contact is super easy and I suppose it's quite dangerous it could be quite a dangerous situation i mean i'm such a like boring mum like as soon as i go meet any guy i send my live location thing which my mum has anyway like sometimes sometimes i'll go meet a guy and i'm like at his and my mum's like hey what you doing and i know i know that

she's watching where i'm she doesn't know where i am on fine friends she doesn't know that place i mean i literally just don't know if anything's hard when it comes to stuff like that i don't really care god if my mom had me on fine my friend it was fucking awful i've had sydney's mom call me at like four in the morning trying your poor mum I know it's quite bad I have mostly British but then America next and then I have

yeah I get a lot of married men sliding into my DMs do you yeah I always expose them imagine they all fancy you do you

so I'll just say so I'll go through and if they haven't if they've got an open profile I'll be like oh I can see you're married I wonder if your wife

would like to know that and I'm going to screenshot it and post it they're always like there and then i hope that they'll never do it again i never have posted profile pictures them and their wife yeah or even like like you can see like that they've got girlfriends or some of them you've got public girlfriends and they're go they're trying to like respond to all your stuff with the stupid flame thing and you're like come on this isn't cool I'm not going to speak to you I don't know I've got male friends who I would do a flame to

just because that's a nice thing to do or am I being really ignorant is that like code for I want a bone I think if someone's sending them to me and they don't know me then that's a come on they're letting you know it's a

bit naughty isn't it that little reaction thing should we do another dm he's not responded that was so annoying and now i'm going to talk to him later on that note on that note it's probably time to wrap up sadly thank you so much for coming thanks for having me it's been an absolute really nice to hang out. I know. Now we're in a bubble, we can all hang out again. We need to take some pictures for my Instagram. Yeah, of course.

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