Sex, Lies & DM Slides - S1E15: Gizzi & Sydney | Amelia Dimoldenberg

Episode Date: October 10, 2022

Gizzi and Sydney chat to Amelia Dimoldenberg, the star of Chicken Shop Dates, about who her favourite date was, the stars that ghosted her and why AJ Tracey told her not to hug him at the Brits.  Sex, Lies and DM Slides is a Spotify Original. This series was produced by Heydon Prowse Productions, edited by Podmonkey with music by Free Seed Films. For Spotify, the executive producers are Rachel Simpson and Alexandra Adey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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And welcome back. It's another episode of Sex Lives and DMs Live. I'm glad we're not musicians.'m sydney lima i'm kizzy erskine and we are not launching a pop career anytime soon i'm gonna pose a question to you babes go on is following an instagram model the same as subscribing to only fans or watching porn as in a model like you like and so you know like kind of instagram influencer model people like bikinis? Basically, what is the difference

between ogling and Instagram... Ogling. Oh, God, isn't it ogling? Ogling. No, I really like ogling. Ogling.

Of course. Can I just start reading the sentence? God, I'm really sick of my voice. It's so lispy. I like your voice. It's because of my overbite.

Anyway, that's why I can't give good blowjobs. Right. What is the difference between ogling a Instagram model and then ogling a porn star? Loads. Like with a bikini.

It's because it's quite soft porn. I put out some soft porn, didn't I? Yeah, you did. I've done some soft porn on the internet. No, because when you look there's like wank mag porn which is probably just a woman in a bikini and then there's only fans where it's you're getting somebody sort of probably being a bit more immersive and showing a bit of proper inside puss inside puss jesus christ don't ever make an OnlyFans yeah here's my inside

purse I'm going to show you a bit of it that should be like the tagline look I think it's interesting to like

because a lot of people say that girls in bikinis on Instagram I mean it can kind of verge on soft porn like I mean is this women hating no I don't think

it's women hating I think I get what you're saying but the fact is I feel like now I guess we've become maybe slightly insensitized to what it's like to see somebody in a bikini or in their underwear.

You see it all over the place. Even if you're just going on a catalogue, you can see someone in their pants and bra. I think there's a huge difference between provocative, overly sexualized material and also something on OnlyFans where you are going to see a bit more tit and have a bit more

interaction with the person and even some inside puss. But whereas on Instagram they are actually, you know, no nipples still allowed and you're not going to see any vagina in that.

You can. I saw some post on it the other day. You could literally see their like, you know, the big... Labia.

It's called labia. You couldn't see that? You couldn't see the labia? I don't know what a bits. Labia. It's called labia. You couldn't see that. You couldn't see the labia? I don't know why the northern accent there. That. What could you see? You could just see, like, all the bits.

Is that called labia? No, like, you could see, like, the pants were on, but you could see, like, it kind of, it was sucked in, so you could see, like, the whole vagina. The labia? No, like the, okay, whatever. It's just literally you. You're on an anomaly sydney i've never met anyone like you you're very experienced but with no experience it's amazing so basically what i'm saying is the difference between ogling a

Instagram girl and a porn star or like an OnlyFans is because if you're on Instagram you are trying to sell something and you're not basically putting yourself forward

to be porn but OnlyFans you're selling something no it's kind of an interesting chat look there is a real quick way to see somebody's body

with certain people guaranteed on Instagram but then being virtuous and showing off your figure to the actual bit of like sexualising going you want to fuck me or like you're going to have to pay to see bits of me that you would not be

legally allowed to within those kind of parts of social media. But do you think by putting yourself on Instagram in a sexual way that you are then a soft porn star? No. That's what I'm saying? No, I don't think so. I think like it's no, God, it's such a cliche thing to say, but it's no different than going to the beach. No, because a picture is kind of staged and you walking around on the beach is not as explicitly like thirsty as someone putting a photo up of them in like a kind

of compromising position in a bikini. that's kind of more like asking for it okay but how about looking at it from this perspective we've all been a little bit like sad and caught up in our own shit and put on a real thirsty picture on the internet it doesn't mean we want to be seen as being a porn star it might mean that we want to just get a little bit of a security boost yeah yeah exactly but then I do like do you never

put photos up targeting a particular person of course that's why I've been quite heavy on the moment I'm just waiting for them to reply being like isn't it funny

I was talking about this to someone the other day like I don't care about certain people hearing this podcast I couldn't give a shit about even my mum but there are certain friends that I am fully embarrassed about hearing it it's just like what bit in particular like now

all of our mates know everything about our bum holes no that was your bum hole yeah my bum hole see previous episode like how we orgasm what porn we love yeah like my mom it's kind of a bit of sketch up there's actually more friends I'd feel uncomfortable about hearing this stuff. I don't think, though. I don't know. Put it this way. You're saying you want to put up a really hot post, right?

You're feeling a bit insecure. What do you do? You lie down. I have a lie down. You lie down and get your phone out. I don't know. Like, the thing is, I can split between two things. It depends who I'm targeting.

Am I targeting an intellectual or am I targeting a guy who slept with half of London? So if I was going to be an intellectual, I'd probably post a picture of the opening of a foreign film. What?

And if I was targeting a guy who's... What, of you being in a... No, no, it wouldn't do me because they wouldn't respect that. So it's being clever? Yeah, I'm being clever about it. So yeah, me being clever. Yeah.

So I'd post a picture of the opening of a foreign film. Or a book. Or a book. It's like, I've just read your piece. I promise you. And then if it was someone

who'd slept with half of London, which I normally go for, I'd probably do just like a very generic selfie, but like, with like a little bit of a kind of tongue in cheek element to it so it's not too

direct. Make it funny, so like maybe do a kind of, put your hands against your face and look a bit like cute, like this. Is that funny? Well no, it just makes it less serious. And like normally, like I've never, I've 100% always get that person I've targeted they message me. Oh god so it's 100% sex get that person I've targeted, they message me.

Oh, God, so it's 100% sex race. It's sex race. 100% success rate. Yeah, 100%. What would you do? I don't know, it depends. If I'm feeling really shit, like, it goes without saying

that I've definitely put up pictures of myself in my underwear on the pretense that I'm like, and like I said, I don't give a fuck about any of the people watching, except for the one person I want to see it. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. And then I can never guarantee if that person's seen it or not.

That's the thing, when you put a story up and then you just scroll there aimlessly looking for that one person, you're like, yes, done, job done. I can never see. I always have too many people looking at my stories. Oh, fuck off.

Fuck right off. Anyway, today we have on Amelia de Moldenberg, who is a journalist. She's probably best well known for Chicken Shop Date, which is her interviewing famous rap stars in chicken shops.

She's genius. She's genius. It's one of the funniest things I've ever seen. Like, if you've not watched it, watch Chicken Shop Date because she is absolutely brilliant. It's all the grime artists.

She's basically everything you shouldn't do on a date. She's like this blonde, lovely, lovely looking girl who goes in and is like so dry and so almost personality-less. No, but that's kind of the point.

Would you agree? She's deadpan. That's not personality- point. Would you agree? It's almost like... Yeah, no, she's deadpan. Deadpan, girl. Deadpan. That's not personal. I love her. She's brilliant. Got quite pissed for the other day, actually, Gizzy. Oh, no. Yeah, sorry.

I'm jealous. So here she is, Amelia de Moldenberg. Sex! And lies. DMs. Lies and DM Slides. What's going on today, Sydney? Well, Gizzy, thank you for asking.

Today we are joined by creator and star of Chicken Shop Date, Amelia de Moldenberg. Hi, I'm here. For anyone who hasn't heard of you and might not be familiar with Chicken Shop Date, how would you describe it? It's a alternative dating show where I date mainly rappers, I would say, in chicken shops. Actually, a whole range of different people within entertainment, but I do have a type and it's...

So, I couldn't get out of this wormhole i watched about 20 episodes and you are incredible i mean like the deadpanness of the whole thing full stop is uh sight to behold in itself thank you who's like who's some of your guests um dave sean paul no how was sean yeah mo gill, the comedian. Saw that. Chabaddy G, Corrupt FM. Yes. So who's been your favourite date?

My favourite date? I don't know. AJ Tracy was one of my favourite guests I've had. I got, I dated him when he had like, I don't know, like 10,000 followers on Twitter. And now he's like a superstar. Ah, it's your fault. Yeah. So, and it's because of me so yeah um daniel kaluuya was came out this year i love like last month and i'm such a big fan of his and it was just such a cool thing for him to come on the show because he's so like established and incredible and talented and i was just so

happy that he agreed to come on so that was a really good one for me and people really love that Big Nasty I really love that episode yeah and he gets quite deep as well in the middle which I also love because we don't really ever get that deep I don't know you know what I say but I like all of the episodes because I just think they're so different and I because I I'm in the edit and I direct them myself I would never put something out that I didn't like. So I'm lucky that I do actually like all of them. How do you get them on the dates?

Do you DM them? Yeah, I DM them. It says it's perfect. Have you ever been denied a date? Yeah, all the time. Any one you can name? Well, it's more like people... What I get more often is that people will say

that they're really up for it and then it just never happens because... They ghost you. Yeah, or like you go through management and it's just like blocked for whatever reason that that's more likely than not if they reply to me then it's normally like yeah but that's kind of annoying i think because it's like then i if i get a yes and i will literally keep pestering you until it happens so so yeah there's a lot of people that i'm still you know chipping away at have you ever been blocked no i've never been blocked but not that i know i've been unfollowed that's deep yeah i've

been unfollowed how did you find out that i unfollowed you because i obviously checked i would check every day like do you still follow me so like when you go sliding someone's dms how do you take the rejection when they say no i mean is it just like got this or do you take it like i'm actually genuinely asking these people on a date and if they don't yeah or does this work i do take it personally but i've been trying to not as much because you can just get so down if you end up taking it super personally when people unfollow me when rappers have unfollowed me i try not to take it too personally because i think a lot of them do this thing where they unfollow everyone oh Oh, what's it?

They don't follow anyone because they look cool. And it's like, okay, fine. That's fine because you're just obviously dealing with your own personal issues. So that's okay. But then when I get, I guess, when people say they don't want to come on the show or for whatever reason it doesn't happen, I did used to take it personally. And by used to, I mean like a couple months ago still would get to me but I think that from now where I'm at a position where people are asking me to do stuff and I can't do everything and I say no to things then I'm kind of seeing it in more

of a balanced way that like you can't take it personally because otherwise you just be depressed the whole time who's been the biggest like kicking, kick in the nuts? J-Hus, I think. Your face will genuinely drop then. Yeah, J-Hus has just been an ongoing saga and obviously he's gone. I understand, like, now why it's not happening. He's not doing any interviews. No.

But that's because he's got his own things going on. I sort of feel like we should do a three-pronged attack and, like, it's the end now. Oh, trust me, I've done every prong in the book. I've pronged it all. How long have you been working on this date? Like three years, four years. Is there anyone that you've gone on a date with

that you've actually genuinely clicked with? Who have I clicked with? I think I've clicked with AJ Tracy. I think we're good friends, but I don't know if he feels... I think he does feel the same way, he's just not admitted it to himself yet. But no, I think we're good friends but I don't know if he feels I think he does feel the same way he's just not admitted it to himself yet but no

I think I once because I like talk about him quite a lot like publicly and I saw him after an awards

and I went up to him and I was like I'm really sorry do you mind that I tweet about you all the time and he was like

no I love it and I was like okay great so I felt better about that but I don't know I do talk about him a lot have you been messaging recently no but I saw him at the Brits yeah did you get snog no but he did hug me he hugged me but then he told me not to hug him because I

was gonna get makeup on his jacket oh that's a bit of a like giving and taking away no I hugged I basically I took a story wrong I went to hug him and then he was like, couldn't you not get him on my jacket? Step away. I was like, yeah, sure. I've got video evidence, it's fine. Like, we did hug.

So you've never, like, gone on a second date with anyone? No, I've never gone on a second date. No, actually never. No one's ever asked. No.

I know, it's so sad. It kind of is. No, it's fine. I'm not keeping it moving, you know. You've got to keep the audience on their toes and someone different.

Yeah, exactly. One day. Because it could be that this is all leading up to you marrying that dude yeah that is the plan that's why i started the show but i'm not ready to retire yet i need to get drake on then i can retire have you messaged him yeah i messaged him all the time if you scroll up on our message history it's just me no not yet but he will do. He will, he will. Outside of chicken shop dates, what kind of messages have you received from people online? In the DMs?

Well, I get, because I have a dating show, I do get like a classic line that goes into my DMs like, like every day like, so when's my chicken shop date? It's like, I don't know. When you release an album. Yeah know when you win a brit yeah so that's like my my like dm that i get like literally every day but i also get a lot of nice messages in my dms yeah one that i really liked was i love you because you're funny and you always make me happy i really like that one and then again and this and then i said thanks

with a chicken emoji and then they said oh my god i can't believe you answer me back amalia and then and then they changed their picture on their instagram to me yes and the second one is you will be my profile forever i'm watching you from africa creepy so there you go brilliant i love that one do you get any um have you seen any uh penises in your inbox no i haven't one that i got recently i had i saw that i had a guy's messaged me just all loads of voice notes i i really i really don't like voice notes i refuse and i don't like the voice notes i just i don't want and i retext back is when i get exactly i do the same thing let's keep it keep it old schoolails. And I don't want to. And I retext back when I get a voicemail. I do the same thing.

No, let's keep it old school. I'm like, I don't want you to hear my voice. I can't. It's too personal. I can't let you hear my voice. I can show my dick. I cannot reveal my voice. Do you ever, I think we're safe to say we're in an age where it's quite normal for everyone to be throwing their bits and bobs around the internet.

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Take a leaf out of all the boys' books. Send some unsolicited tidbits. I just don't know really what they're wanting to achieve with that. Like, I just don't think it's a nice picture. What, like a... A dick pic. A dick pic, yeah. It doesn't turn me on to see a picture of a dick. I mean, an unsolicited dick pic is not called for.

I find them... Just because of the invasion of... It's just such a weird thing. No, I actually think a solicited dick pic is just as bad. Just as bad. I'm sorry, but... Please. No.

If it's on WhatsApp, I'm deleting that message. Really? What about you? I'm sorry but please no if it's on WhatsApp I'm deleting that message really what about you I've never been with anyone that sent me a dick pic I'm really into it you're really into it I think it's quite normal

I'm into shoulders send me a pic of your shoulder and maybe you've got a shoulder fetish I just like like shoulders backs like a broad

big shoulder yeah not too big. Not like a dweeby? No, not like a rugby player. It is a conflicting thing. It's quite weird because considering you guys are a lot younger than me, I assume that you guys would be all about this. You're the pioneer of sexting.

It's not. I'm not into it. But no, I don't get that many messages like that that are gross. Is there anything that's actually ever put you on real edge or the only thing that's actually put me on edge is actually something like things in real like online to real life like I uploaded a photo of me in a bikini because I went on holiday last week and like the next day I went to an event and like three different guys came up to me and were like I saw your picture of you in your bikini and i'm like

cool it wasn't for you like that annoyed me what they just like people you didn't know no no people i do know which is why i was weirder and i'm like yeah that's when i don't know if that counts is because it's not a dm but in a way it was like well i see you're looking you're suddenly looking at me with different eyes like you follow me follow me on Instagram. I'm like, cool. There was no follow up. Yeah. So then I'm standing there like, yep, I uploaded a photo. Do you want to discuss it? Yeah.

Cool. Thank you. I have a body. Yeah. Or like I go swimming. I'm acknowledging it. Thanks. I was just, sorry, I just remembered last night.

I just got into this thing I think I sent to everyone where somebody sent their arse I'm now in a group where if I wanted to watch this girl's arse like masturbating that I'm able to join it that came in so slid into my DMs last night it was a video of a girl's arse I don't know if I want to see it what is it? is it explicit? you can sort of see it's a bum. What's the bum doing?

But then you click on it, and it's a girl riding up and down on a vibrator. Right. And that slid into my DMs last night. But it's not just for me. From this guy. Who knows? It was a group that he'd set up,

or somebody set up with loads of hot girls in there for us to all watch this girl. Oh, to send, to contribute your own, do you contribute your own, do you contribute your own ass? I don't know what it was expected. Do you know him?

No, no, no, no, no. Absolutely no idea who this person is. No, that's not, I don't like that. See, if I were to get something like that, I would just immediately

just delete it. I don't have time for it. I'm just like, it's just, you know, distracting me from my day. Yeah. I just don't have time. This ass is distracting

me from it. I just got a DM marriage proposal from someone I don't know just through news just in how did they approach it

show off it says 8 we getting married sometime soon nope so wait no go back to your DM so nothing ever sexy

nothing ever sexy but just a lot of date requests have you ever gone on one? From DMs? From someone who's going to... No. You're such a liar.

No, I haven't. I actually haven't. I feel like me. You've got a face that tells a thousand stories. I haven't. I was trying to think of my ex-boyfriend, if he was slid into my DMs, but we met through a friend.

And then he did it. Yeah, we met through a friend, and then we DMed after that. But no. And then now I'm single, and no one dates me and nothing happens I mean considering

your job is sliding into people's DM's in order to get them on your show no I'll DM people to get dates but I'll do it

you know funny impressionally obviously in the chicken shop you'll probably you must know the best chicken shops in London

full stop do you go to the same one? no we go to different ones normally like near where the artist lives yeah

but I'm not good at cooking Morley's number one? yeah Morley's is great great nuggets I only have nuggets so I can only comment on that you literally only have the nuggets? yeah I don't like

chicken on the bone oh wow there she is yeah there she is I don't do a lot of them like who are kind of

up and coming message you because they want to get on the show? yeah I have a lot of them who are up and coming message you because they want to get on the show? Yeah, I have a lot of up and coming people. And I do reply. And it just depends if I like their music or if I think that they're going to be big, if they're going to be a star.

The last rapper that DMed me was a guy called Mostak. And he said, I got my date outfit ready, Amelia. And then I replied saying, oh my God, what colour is it? We can match. But he didn't reply. TBC. Did he read it? No, he hasn't read it.

Oh. Just send a few more messages and maybe... I'll send a few more follow-up ones. Send one now. I'll send one now. Okay. What shall I say? Maybe just send a picture of what you're wearing now.

Maybe say, because you're wearing a green number. I'll say, i like the color green if you could wear that as well do you find that when you go on your dates that they actually sort of utilize it in the fun sense or or even in the real sense where they actually try and chat you up and use it as a day and when they do do it like is there a sort of certain move or something that's synchronetic with rap and grime artists i don't know i don't want to generalize i think everyone is so different and um i wouldn't say there was like a move in particular that anyone does it's just i also think that like i go on these dates that i like the

character that i play on chicken shop date is someone that's like both desperate and uninterested at the same time at the same time so it's like I've planned the date. I want them to be there. I've asked them to come. And then as soon as they flat with me, I'm like, why flat with me? And I think that's like the paradox of like chicken shop date. And that's what I try and do with it. And that's why I think it's funny and like weird. That's the show.

So it's kind of like the anti-date. I can be as awkward as I want and everything can go wrong. And then that's a success. So there's not really any pressure in that sense. That's why I like the anti-date I can be as awkward as I want and like everything can go wrong and then that's a success so there's not really any pressure in in that sense that's why I like doing them yeah when people do try and flirt with me I think it's funny because I shut it down immediately what I do get a lot is guys who will come up to me and say do you actually like rap music or like do you actually listen to rap and then will ask me like the other day i was at the brits after party and this actor came up to me that i know and was like oh do you actually like rap and i was like yeah because it's like that's my job that's my show and i like rap and also it's so mainstream right now how can you not like it and then he was like oh

right okay who's your favorite rapper and i was like um stormzy because he is my favorite rapper and then he was like okay we'll name 10 songs of his i'm just like i think that's kind of like yeah i know him but like that's happened to me numerous times where people try and like prove that you are and it's like that's my job is to like know about that music you can see it in my show and like just in general and I think they're flirting I think that's what you're doing to flirt but it just it does not I think it's like an inverted mansplaining exactly it's not flirting yeah I'm asking you to like prove that you know your stuff and it's like I don't have to prove anything to you subscribe to my channel yeah that's kind of that's kind of my version of it I guess

did do you find that when you go on a real date that it's do you ever come into your character or not or do you think no not really but maybe I don't know I am an exaggerated version on screen of my real self but people when I do go on dates, people have been like, oh, it's so weird. Like, we're on a chicken shop date. And I'm like, well, we're not. Have you ever used apps for dating? Yes, I have. What kind of apps? I had Tinder back in the day before it was...

Before it became very sexy. Before it became, yeah, whatever it is now. I've not been on it since. And I went on one date with someone I already knew and the date didn't go well. And then I was like, oh, I don't like dating apps. I've got that Raya. Yeah're in Raya now but it's just so rubbish I don't know who they are they're like no one famous but it's all the people that I like liked accidentally and then they're the only ones I'm matching with I keep seeing when the famous people I do see obviously I like

Craig David is right Craig David's on. I've not seen Craig David. I didn't see him. Maybe he's above my age that I've got on there. Really? What have you got on yours? I don't know, probably like 30. I put mine to dead. Did you?

Pretty much. No, you didn't. Oh, wow. You did. No, I don't think I could date a dead person. It'd be quite hard. It'd be several years. But no, it's so flashy.

I don't like it. It's not my type. And also, I was thinking, for example, the people I have dated in real life, if I'd have seen their profile on a dating app, would I have even liked them? Yeah, that's a good point. Because I don't even think I would have.

Yeah. So then I'm like, well, I don't know. Yeah. I feel like I've met people and then seen their profile after, even though I've already kind of, by that point, formed a... Maybe it's going out of the map at that point. See their Instagram, I wouldn't have ever gone't ever have gone out yeah yeah that was the first

impression exactly and i think the best way is through friends like mutual friends maybe because then you kind of know that you have some common ground and but i don't know have you ever been set up on it i think i'd like to be maybe set up one day no i don't know what i don't think i've actually really ever been on a proper day yeah to be fair yeah like i actually never been to a i've never kind of done a blind like a meet up with someone go for a drink i don't think I've actually ever been on a proper date. Yeah. To be fair, yeah. Like, I've actually never been to a... I've never kind of done a blind... Like a meet up with someone, go for a drink. I don't really know.

I really enjoy it. I've met them on nights out and then, like, woken up. Yeah. And then we've gone for lunch. A day date. I sort of feel sorry for that. Your generation based on that. I feel sorry for you. You feel sorry for me.

No, but I do. I just think it's a shame not to have a whole sort of anticipation of going out with someone. Do you think having been in your career of actually dating has set you up with some tools? Or do you think that in reality nobody can set you up for it? No, because I feel like I see Chicken Shop Date as a comedy show, a comedy series.

That's what it is first and foremost i don't really see it like as giving me any actual like credible dating tips do you walk into that room like in persona yeah in character for sure yeah i won't even talk you never let you never going to just let that character slide maybe for like a couple seconds to say hey but not really not at the beginning anyway afterwards yeah I'll be like thank you so much because I think people sometimes find it quite they don't know if they've done a good job or not because it's like so awkward that they'll find it like they don't know what's gone on like do you get people like messaging you after just kind of trying to be reassured that it all went okay no but I will message people

afterwards and I'll dm them afterwards and say thank you so much that you were amazing rappers your type i think i don't know i like people who are ambitious and people who like my career and my work takes up a lot of my life and is like really important to me and i think that that's always been like my type is like seeing that in someone else but i don't actually know now i'm and I think that that's always been like my type is like seeing that in someone else but I don't actually know now I'm thinking about it if that's necessarily a good thing for me to be partnered with like I feel like it's maybe now I'm thinking about it more it's like about balancing you out like you need somebody that who's unambitious oh I don't know not unambitious because I think I'd get really frustrated by that but maybe like you're

equal in everything maybe isn't actually the right person that you should be going in a relationship with. Trad husband. Trad husband, yeah. We were just talking about trad wives, which is, like, when somebody sits in and they're, like, really happy to be the 50s persona of a housewife.

Oh, my God, I've been watching the Justin Bieber documentary. Oh, how is it? And it's really depressing me. Why was it? Because I think that Haley bieber only from what i've seen in the documentary but she appears to be somebody that gives a lot to him like gives everything and he gives her a lot of instagram posts though so maybe yeah exactly but he's like she goes to the studio with him all the time she was there recording the whole album like she will

be with him everywhere what he wants to do and i was like that kind of 50s housewife kind of vibe of like oh god really to be with someone who's really successful and ambitious do you have to sacrifice as a woman like do you have to be there to support them all the time because i feel like the other way around it doesn't work as much i just don't think guys sacrifice their time and energy as much to support a working woman as the other way around but i think you can find people that do but i don't know look it's been great having you on and i really do wish you all the luck not just in your chicken shop dates but in the dating in the real life world yeah i need it do people like will people want to go out with me because i've got a

dating show i'm stressed me out now i think i think are probably into my dating, but that's a great thing. If you do find a guy that can deal with you, then that's fucking great. 100%. I'm ready. I mean, I'm still up for it. Thanks for having me on. Thank you so much, Maria. Thank you for coming on. Thank you for listening to our Spotify original

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