Sex, Love, and What Else Matters - A Very Vulnerable Conversation

Episode Date: October 26, 2023

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What's up, ecorgeous friends and creatures alike? Welcome back to another episode of Sex Love and What All Smatters. What's up baby? Hey honey. How's it going? It's going great actually out here. Still in Colorado. Can't wait for you to get here in two days. I'm like dying. I know. I can't wait to see you. I'm just like, I can't believe I'm about to travel.

Yet again, I don't know if I can leave town after this trip. I think I'm just going to like lock myself in my little apartment, and that's that. Why would you want to do that? Until 2024. Because I'm tired, I'm almost tired. Yeah. That trip was really awesome, but three weeks, man,

I don't know how people do it. It always like looks so cool when you like watch it on like Instagram and social media and people are like, yeah, we just like live on the road or like we go on road trips all the time. I'm like, what? I thought it would be awesome too. And it is a blast once in a while, but man, yeah.

I think I just feel a little overwhelmed today, specifically just trying to play catch up and stuff, but very grateful, very, very grateful. Not bad problem to have being busy. Yeah, being busy is great. And being able to go on three week road trip that we did. I mean, honestly, there were some days that were nothing but driving and that kind of sucks. It wasn't a casual road trip, but it was all great, though. I thought it was worth it at the same time. You're always going to have that feeling when you get back. You have to get back to work.

You're like, behind on everything else, you take that time off. That's what I mean. I think that's where I don't do well with taking like large amounts of time off. I'm more like, I can bounce for like a few days or something, but just trying to juggle, just juggle in life and all of that good stuff. I think if you call that the Las Vegas rule. What's that? That means you don't wanna go for longer than three days.

There's no reason to think it's gonna be a few more than three days. That's like, No, I, shoot, shoot, shoot, girl. No, no, no, not for me. Today was really fun though. I got to go to dancing with the stars again, my second time and watching Ariana Dance and she absolutely killed it.

It was, she saw as a hurt foot and she's just like turned into like the most beautiful dancer. She's a natural performer, a beautiful actress, but it was so nice. They actually didn't use the package that I recorded with her, which is totally good and fine. But I was like, oh, interesting. The package that you recorded with her. So everybody, I went to dancing with the stars.

I got to go to Ariana's rehearsal space last week for the first time. And it was really cool. And I got to see her practice a little bit of her waltz and hang out with Ariana and Pasha in the studio. And it was just like, really cool. Like for me, it was just like a dream come true because I've been watching this show as many years as I can remember. So yeah, we had a whole little crew tonight go and and her mom was there and it was just really fun So everyone felt for Ariana Every Tuesday. Yeah, faux for Ariana live in the dream babe. That's like yeah, it's pretty it was really cool Obviously like who just gets to like go watch their front and perform and dancing with the stars

And I will say I don't think people realize number one how long we were just there today but how long like she's there that she gets there like 7 a.m. and is there all day long when practice is like four hours a day every morning like it's just very wild. I'm tired from just like sitting in the audience I don't know how the hell she does it. It's like her full-time job right now I guess. Yeah for sure it is. Yeah, but anyway, just proud of my girl. Luke and I are just kind of like having another catch up with you guys like little bent sash

because we've both just been working hard and are a little brain farty today. And we've just been sending each other like funny memes because there's a couple of things I want to talk about. Can I bring one of them up really fast? We said it's like, I have this crazy, like it's playing on repeat in my head right now. Yes.

Did you see that when I sent you? It wasn't a meme, but it was like a story about, it was in Thailand, but this man and his wife were on speaking of a road trip. They were on a road trip, like some wildly long road trip. And he pulled over to rest stop. And accidentally, well, supposedly accidentally, left his wife there for 100 miles.

He drove 100 miles without her in the car. I don't like, what? Like, what? You know, honestly, I could kind of see certain relationships being like, you know, maybe there's no talking, maybe there's like no interaction right there and you can just get back in the car

and start driving and just in the zone. Maybe you know how? You know how I am when I start driving? Like I'm typically in the zone, like I'm driving. And I couldn't go 100 miles without noticing you. That's for damn sure. But. That's what I mean.

I'm trying to think of like any world that that we would go to a rest stop. You'd get back in the car. I'm not there in the passenger seat. And then you just take off for not a mile, but like 100, 100 miles. That's a really long time. So they must have had cell phones either. Obviously, how could that even happen?

100 miles in Thailand. That's mind boggling. So this is what it says that they headed out at 3 a.m. to drive through the night to her home somewhere in Thailand. And he was forced to pull over for a toilet break during the night and didn't want to wait to reach a gas station essentially, despite his wife's complaints. So he stopped the car. Oh, he stopped at the side of the road.

I misunderstood. I thought they went to an actual rest stop. So he literally pulled over on the side of the road. Oh, my gosh. And she is a mother of one. She decided she also needed to use the restroom ventured into the forest. He didn't realize she had gotten out of their pickup truck. So when she came back to the road, she was stranded in the dark. Is that your worst nightmare? Wow. Yeah. I actually, like, but yeah, between that or like being stranded at sea. Yeah, imagine the corn fields in Iowa and Nebraska during our trip,

if you had just been dropped off and seen nothing but a sea of corn field. Oh my God, no, I don't even know what I would have done, honestly. Probably like just falling asleep on the side of the road somewhere slightly safe. Did my best. So this says that she, oh no, her husband is on my shit list now.

So she had no money and her phone was in her bag in the car. So she walked 13 miles to the police station. She didn't know his phone number by heart. So the officers were unable to find him. They tried to ring her phone calling 20 times what he failed to notice that it was in his car as he drove onwards blissfully unaware of the panakiaid caused.

Ha, ha, ha. About a hundred miles later, he realized what was going on. When asked how he could have driven so far without noticing her absence, the humiliated husband said he was sure she was in the backseat sleeping the whole time. They did not argue when he picked her up. Okay, so there it is.

That's how it happened is that if she had been sleeping in the back seat before and he didn't know she got out, yeah, he could absolutely not notice that. That's totally possible. So he, okay, that's fair. That's a little more fair than the clickbait headline that got me real good. But still, that's pretty wild. Do you think if I slept in the back seat of the car, this could happen to us? If we didn't have the dogs with us. Not anywhere near that far. I'm gonna say you were sleeping in

the back seat and we're driving through the night somewhere and I pull off to pee and you get out and don't say anything. I don't hear the door shut. I could totally hop back in really quick and take off. Okay, well now we know. So there's a blessing in disguise with this awesome story is that don't ever take off unless you know that I'm in the car just in case, but I'm pretty loud, right? I'm like, babe, I have to pee too. Wait for me. I'm wrong. Like for sure. But I love that they didn't get an argument about this. And they were just like, yeah, it should happens. Really? Or however? It says that. It says that they didn't get an argument. Oh. It says that she said they did not argue when he picked her up.

Oh, when he picked her up, I'm sure he got his ass reading the rest of the way. I guess some point he got an ass reading for that. No doubt about it. Otherwise, is she a dream wife? that, no doubt about it. Okay. Otherwise, is she a dreamwife? Yeah, there's no way. No way you're just that patient. No one has that much patience. Let me maybe, but maybe, I don't know. I would not be that patient.

I think I would lose my shit, but I wouldn't actually be like legitimately mad at you because obviously you didn't mean to, but I would still lose my shit. There's no way I wouldn't be able to lose my shit. Right. It wouldn't be like breakup divorce worthy though. That's good. It's a mistake. Yeah, that's good. I would hope so. I would hope. Yeah. I think the moral of the story is he was too damn tired to be driving. Yeah, fair. But I want to talk about another article he sent me. Okay. You know, probably no one I'm talking about, the Australian woman that slept with,

supposedly, at 300 partners in one year. And 365 days had 300 different partners. Yes, from Australia. She was a track. I mean, she was attractive. No doubt. Oh, yeah, she's super hot. Yeah.

She's known as Australia's most sexually active woman, 26-year-old Annie Knight. Oh, she's an only fans creator. Okay, so it doesn't say that she does this like on a regular basis, but it says she did have... She's now considered the most sexually active woman after sleeping with 300 people in one year. The quote from her is, sex makes me feel good.

It is meant to make you feel good. It's fun and exciting. It's messy, the messier, sex, the better, and that she felt empowered afterward. She uses dating apps and only fans to find sexual partners and has eight regulars that she meets up with on a weekly basis. Wow.

And she is not about cuddling at all. So, hey, Yolo. Yeah, you wanna live that life forever? Did you do it? I mean, to me, that feels massively excessive and someone that would be like one of the biggest turnoffs I feel like in a dating situation. For me, specifically, and I think for a lot of people, it would make it really hard for that person to be like a potential partner.

How do you feel about that? What if it was reversed? Well, I'm just like, I'm not here to be judgy, but I'm just like, wow, she has like a vagina made of diamonds, sparkles, and steel or something because. Oh, she's hot, baby, she could get it. It's not like it's hard.

She's also like advertising it. I feel like it would hurt to go to pound town that often. Ha ha ha. Plus, I'm like, I'm, you know, like I have had my fun in my, my earlier years being single, but sex is just like such an intimate thing for me these days. But maybe, you know, she was, she's only 26. Maybe she'll, I'm curious. We should try to talk to her. Any night you want to be on the pod? We have a bunch of questions. Not here to judge.

I want to know your opinion. If me or if, you know, some guy you meet, you you find out because I know you do your research. Everyone knows you do your research. You see this article pop up that he slept with 300 women in one year. Is that going to deter you from dating him or is that gonna have no effect? Nope, not me, Jam, because I'm too jealous. Not your jam, yeah.

Totally, I get it. And you'd have to like question,, if that's a lot of people in a lot of places, probably, like, you have to question anybody, any interaction. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, I'm just too jealous for it. Like, all of our guests that have been, like, I'll do anything for love, but I won't have a threesome. Okay, well, that'll be mine. Like, I'll do anything for love, but I can't. Well, I'm only going to date you forever, but hypothetically speaking, I couldn't date someone who was going to pound town that often with that many people.

Mm-hmm. Like that often, I'll be honest, is totally fine. Mm-hmm. Three hundred and three or 65 days, that's fantastic. That's like, is that your dream? Do you think that you could ever be like out-sexed by me? No. You and I were talking about something recently,

just kind of like a food for thought, you know, again, guys, we're just like venting here and catching you up on what the hell is going through our brains right now. But obviously a couple of months ago, Luke and I talked about the fact that we're in a very committed relationship, that I did go to my OBGYN, and that we got all good news on that front. So whenever we're ready to start trying, whenever that happens, so far looks so good. But you and I were discussing sex drive in pregnancy. Now obviously, I have a lot of friends

who have been pregnant and I've gotten different answers from a lot of different people. I don't know what I would be like. I feel like psychologically, I would even, when there's not even, it's just cells, right, there's no baby, but like psychologically I would be like, I don't know, are you gonna poke its head? I know there's not a head yet, but,

like things like that, like at first, but I don't know, like if that's just a natural, maybe that's something we should have, like a doctor on or something to ask, like obviously it's a case by case and everyone's a little bit different, but like, obviously it's a case by case, and everyone's a little bit different. But like, is there anything specific that makes certain women, you know,

when they are pregnant, like, want to have sex more often, more horny or less horny? I don't know. I think it's probably directly related to their horoscope or astrological stuff. That's my guess. Oh my god, that's really funny. Step into a world of non-stop action on Draft King's Casino, play the classics like Blackjack, Roulette, and Spots.

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Now, to grow your business no matter what stage you're in, remember, that's Shopify.com slash Kristen. So I think we should just tell him babe that we are that we're trying. That we've pulled the goalie that we're having sex. We're having sex guys and we're not using a condom. So, who know? Well, we haven't firm in it, but yeah. I mean, I get nervous because I don't want to jinx anything,

but when we had that appointment in August with my doctor, he essentially just said that everything looked good. And when we were ready to start trying for us to give it a few months because of my age and obviously I think a lot of women know that a geriatric pregnancy is actually over 35 and I am now 40 on my way to being 41. So he recommended as someone who is not frozen their eggs or done anything like that for us to just give it a real fair shot during our ovulation time. And if nothing happens in whatever period of time that my doctor filled us in, and he said, you know, up to like, I think it was like three or four months.

Normally, he would give someone a year, but he said, because of my age, he was like, well, maybe we will have a conversation before that. So we're still good right now. No stress, no stress, no worries. Luke is convinced that we're not going to conceive until we're in Colorado. Well, I think generally you just have way less anxiety when you're out here, when you're out here in Colorado. I just feel like weight slipped it off your shoulders, even though there's not all the amenities.

You don't have postmates, you don't have Instagram, you don't have the things you have in these cities. I get it and I understand. Yeah, but those are just, those are conveniences that people don't have. It's just kind of, you know, convenience, I think especially during COVID in 2020, became like something that we all fell back on.

At least my friends and I here in LA, I'll speak for myself. It's like we fell upon this easy way to just have everything delivered because we weren't really supposed to be leaving our houses and some people were still working that way, but they're just conveniences. Yeah, so anyway, whatever, convenience is aside, it's just way more open. There's not that you don't have a lot of noise out here, you know? I feel like I see the way it gets off your shoulders.

I know you don't want to be here long term here, you know? I feel like I see the weight get lifted off your shoulders. I know you don't wanna be here long term for the extended periods of time, but. Yeah, it's beautiful and serene, but it's not forever. It lifts weights off your shoulders. It is where you will be like comfortable and happy and not anxious in a way that, yeah. And make it possible, I think. Yeah, totally.

Ellie stresses you that way. You know what does. Well, I'm very fucking stressed today, and I think why I'm so dumb today is because today is day one of not vaping, because that is probably the best thing for me to do right now for my health. And I'm not gonna lie, it's not necessarily as hard as I thought it might be, but it is also kind of fucking irritating at times.

So if you are all just catching up, I quit smoking almost two years ago, smoking cigarettes, and I've been vaping, and just decided, you know what? Why wait? So I'm going a little crazy, not gonna lie, very fidgety, but yeah, so I think Colorado will be a nice little break. It's just like going from having as someone who kind of

has like multiple vices, whether it's like, I like to get high sometimes, like smoking weed or like drinking wine or, you know, and I have my vape and trying to calm down on those vices, I think to be slapped in the face, you know, when I hopefully do get pregnant, but also just trying to be a little more like healthy for that reason.

It's what I've read. I'm sure like the healthier we are, the better, but it's making me go little nuts today. I'm a little irritated, like a little not irritated, a little irritable, but also happy. So we'll see. I'm happy about that, not that the vaping irritates me, but I'm happy that you're doing it for your health. I know being healthy and happy and a happy place is really what.

Those are things that help you conceive. Yes, of course. Not being super stressed. So yeah, happy you're doing that. I can't wait to get back and cook for you. I've been cooking a lot here, and I want your kitchen. I want to sleep in your bed next to you. And I want your kitchen. I want to sleep in your bed next to you. Yeah, long distance relationships, man. They're not all that cut out to be. It's not the worst thing ever because we have such a great relationship. And we are so lucky to have face timing and talking on the phone all the time and texting

all the time. We're not, you know, think about like way back in the day. They had to like write a letter, stick a stamp on it, mail it, wait for someone to get the letter just to have like a conversation. I would lose my ever loving mind. Maybe that's why do I do a pigeon in your property right now. Is it a carrier pigeon? Should we start writing love letters? All right, so to make the connection for everybody, super weird thing today that we skipped over. I am working on a project in Colorado and a pigeon. Like the kind of pigeon you see in underpasses and cities and in Barnes and Iowa shows up where I am in Colorado in the middle of nowhere.

Now I've had my property for quite a few years now and I have never seen a pigeon and it just doesn't make any sense, but it was hanging around, laying on trees, like for hours, it was kind of like hanging out within 50 yards of me. It was weird. Did you like Google like if there's, so you know, it's like if you see a dove, it means blah, blah, blah.

No, I did not. Let's look at, let's see what a pigeon means. I mean, I know what it means. Fortune, peace, love, and prosperity. That's lovely. In various cultures, they are a symbol of fertility and wealth. As they are one of the first birds, species to be domesticated by humans.

Their presence is a sign of abundance and with improvement and well-being. I mean, that's super positive, according to Google. That's great. Hey, so you never know. Awesome. Abundance, yeah. I mean, you're working on projects to make that mula and to spread your creative wings.

Yeah, we're very, we're very lucky. I have on my calendar every single day. I'm sometimes I look at my calendar on my phone and I'm like, wait, I have something to do every day this week, like, you know, every day this month. It's because I wrote gratitude at the top of my calendar for every single day.

So when I'm having an irritable day and I want to throw my phone across the room for whatever reason, I have to remind myself that this is exactly what I've always wanted and I feel very fortunate to have all of these projects going on at this time. It's good. Can you even remember, I know you can,

but think back to a year ago, when neither of us had a lot going on. We hadn't even started this podcast yet to where we are now. It's been an awesome year. That's pretty loyal, huh? I didn't even think about that. What the hell? What was a year ago? Were we technically dating a year ago? We were definitely dating a year ago. But on the podcast, I was still saying what I was saying. Yeah, you were in denial. I was totally in denial. And you know what I need to do? By the time this airs you guys, you're going to read our podcast bio and it's no longer

going to say my friend Luke. Does it still say it? Yeah, it does. I just forget a lot. I think it's kind of funny when people bring it up when I do need to update that. But you are my friend, babe, because I really like you. Well, that's good. Well, I do.

Don't I say that all the time? I think there's something about being in a relationship and there's one thing about being in love and loving someone very much. But when you really fucking like your partner and your person and you're like, that's my best friend, man. It's like, well, who I want to chill with

and spend time with and play games within learn things. And I don't know. That was something about dancing with the stars tonight. I just thought of was Alison Hannigan, the actor. She said the year that she got married to her husband was the her most memorable year. And she was just like, he's the best. She's like, I'm just so in love with him.

And I like him so much. And I was like, oh man, I always tell Luke that. Like, she's like, I'm just so, like in love with him and I like him so much. And I was like, oh man, I always tell Luke that because sometimes when I think you're mad at me and I'm like, I don't think you like me right now. You do say that. And so if I don't like you. I'm like, that is the fact.

Oh, there we go. Now we're getting some honesty. Absolutely. But I always love you and I like you a lot more than I don't like you. Oh, that just made me cry. That was really funny. I always like you. I guess I'm the good good girl friend. No, sometimes you're not being honest now. Sometimes you just drive me nuts. Exactly. But I still like you. I don't know. Fine.

I'm being full of shit because I want to win right now. Babe, do you want to have a boy or girl first? Well, my psychic, remember Roy, who is my psychic friend who did a reading for me last year, he said that I had a boy waiting on the other side for me, but that I was not going to get pregnant while I was 40. Or like, I wasn't gonna have a baby at 40. Yeah, it was gonna be somewhere between 41 and 42. So that's why I wouldn't you

and I truthfully started talking about our plans to try and our commitment to each other that I was like, you know what, I'm not gonna put pressure on myself because I believe my psychic. And so, I'm not gonna worry about like actually, you know, having a baby in 2023. So you didn't answer the question at all.

Oh, and I don't really care either way. I guess, okay, if I had to pick a boy, probably, I think so. A boy and then a girl. Yeah, it's always kind of been my thing. I think I've said this before on this podcast, but I've always been like, just want two boys, I want twins, knock them out, call it a day,

and then when I became friends with Nia and she and Daniel had twin girls, I'm like, holy shit, that is way more work than what you imagine it to me. Like, and they're so blessed and I know that, but I'm just like, oh my gosh, Niknea literally is just as slave to these two little tiny infants that rely on her, you know, like on her body.

So then I was like, maybe not twins, maybe I changed my mind. But babe, do you, I have a question, it's a little off topic. But if you're talking about babies and stuff, I mean, let's talk about marriage. Do you think it's true that men want a girl that is carefully balanced between a boring housewife and an unstable psychobitch? I sent you that meme. You should dead. So I'm curious what your thoughts are on it.

The careful balance between a boring housewife and an unstable psychobitch? Yeah, I'm not going to act like there's any men out there that are looking like desiring the psycho bitch part, but you understand what you're working with. And so that's probably a really healthy combination. Super healthy. Does the psycho bitch part only come once in a while? I don't know

Yeah, I mean just like it's hilarious one out of the three four weeks is kind of how it goes I am I a balance between a boring housewife and an unstable psycho bitch I would say that would not describe you No, it would not describe me. You know, I was like and now that we've just now like sort of we didn't really let a cat out of the bag But that where we've pulled the goalie. We are not engaged, you guys, we are not married. We both believe that you can do life in whatever order your relationship requires. And so for us, we've had that talk before,

where it was like, do we feel the need to be married before we would try? And I don't know, Luke, do you, is that something you've like changed your mind on with me? Or have you always been feeling that way? Because I've never really asked you about like prior to me if you had kind of a set way. My set way prior to you, 100% honest, was I'm not trying to have kids right now. But then I was essentially single for a couple of years. And I don't know, in those couple of years, I, things kind of changed in me. And as far

as what I wanted, I got tired of the, just the single, the chase, the sort of thing. I have my friends having kids and everything. I see it. I interact with my friends, children, all ages from babies to 16 years old. And I always get along great with kids. And I mean, I've babysat for years and years growing up. Like, you know, when I was in high school, even in college in the summers, I babysit for some friends in the neighborhood. So I've always been good with kids

and just never felt like it was a time or a person to do it with, but I feel differently with you. Well, thank God for that. Just kidding. No, but God for that. Just kidding. No, but meaning like before you and I were dating and had those very intimate and like deep discussions, were you ever like the person who said, well, no, I need to like get engaged,

get married, then have a family, or were you just always kind of like, I don't know, I'll figure it out when the time comes. I got a funny story about that. I don't really know how men think about it. Do men typically think that way? I know you technically can't speak for all men, but that's what you're here to do. Yes, I think most men do think in a linear order like that, slightly more than half, but

that's not the way I've thought in my life. Yeah, that's an interesting something we haven't really talked about very much. I just popped into my head. I don't know because not all of my friends have, my friends have done it in so many obviously different ways. My friends from back home, my friends in LA, and I was just like, man, I wonder what do a lot of guys think? And obviously it does have to do with like age and where people are adding their lives,

maybe which area they live in. But yeah, I was like, I don't know. Our guys kind of as maybe relaxed, as I feel like, at least the people I'm around have been as of late. I think COVID babies had a lot to do with that too. It was like a lot of couples married or not married, but like living together in serious commuted relationships were getting pregnant because there really wasn't a whole lot to do in 2020

than have sex. So I don't know if that's what shifted within the people that I speak to, but I think when I was in my 30s, is when I kinda went, you know what, it's not gonna make a difference to me. But for a while, I thought I was gonna do it by myself anyway, you know.

I didn't know that. I don't think you've told me that. Well, yeah, you always have a boyfriend. I know what I was never like trying to really get pregnant with by any of them for reals. So it was like, well, one day I might have to do this alone. And if that meant adopting, then that's what it meant. You know that.

I've said that before. At the end of the day, I always wanted to be a mom. But you know, I'm glad that I have a partner who's willing to go the extra mile with me, babe. Kill the extra mile. Well, you have a lot of patience. You have a lot of patience in dating someone at my age when knowing what you knew, knowing that before that doctor's

appointment, there was a possibility that we weren't going to get the best news in the world. And it was going to be like, well, is he going to stick around like he said, or is he going to break up with me because he might, you know, things could go south? I laughed because it's such an uncomfortable topic, but it was something that I had prepared myself for. Is that why you were so uncomfortable going there?

Really? Yeah, partially. Because you thought I'd break up with you. Well, not like on the spot, like God forbid, if my doctor was like, okay, well, you know, it's not like he was gonna go your, your screwed, Kristen, your fucked, but if he had maybe not the best of news to tell me

and or tell us, and we would have, that it could be, well, we still don't know. I mean, to be fair, knock on wood. Oh, great. My dogs are going to wake up now. But we still don't fully know. We just know that we had a really great appointment. But no, I didn't think you were in that OBGYN room

while my feet are in stir-ups. You were going to be like, all right, well, it's been good, babe. It's been a good time. We had a good run. Peace. Going back to Colorado. But you just never know how people are going to handle different news like that that affects your life in such a serious way.

Just getting some deep right now. So let's go back to you. Ask me about marriage. You know, it needs to be linear. I know you said so many times you don't care about the ring that much, but like as far as a proposal type deal, would you rather have like friends there? Obviously, you want it to be special, but would rather be more intimate, like just you and me, or be like a set up kind of deal. All your friends show up, walk out, show up behind some.

I love that we're having this very, very private conversation on the air. Welcome to our relationship, guys. No, I think it's actually cute and funny. Honestly, I don't know. It's things just that my priorities have changed so much over the years from the days of my Pinterest board of the exact ring and what my, you know, what my bridesmaids were gonna wear

and like what it was gonna look like and what the font of my invitation was gonna be. And now I'm like, yeah, it's about life and love and like it's not about those stupid, not stupid, but for me, it's not about the small details of those days as it is about the relationship. The things you learn when you get a little bit older. I agree, babe, but I'm asking you for real.

I kind of want a little help here. I don't know, I don't know. I really don't know. I haven't really thought about it. Is that weird? I mean, I guess maybe a little bit. Right? Someone like me, like why

haven't why don't I have this all like set in stone written in blood what I the way that I want it to be. I just expected an answer one way or the other. Yeah no I just I just feel like whatever you do whenever you do it is gonna be the exact right thing in the right time and the perfect way. I don't need to give you any advice. I love your confidence in me. Sure do, Shorty. Just asking, I want to make it perfect.

So. Guys, we are not like getting engaged tomorrow. So we're like leading listeners on right now. It's all right. Thank you. We're just being honest because we have a lot in our mind right now. So we're like, let's just shoot the shit. Let's be a little vulnerable and honest about some of the conversations that we've been

having lately, rather than trying to map this all out today. Because that's just life, you know what I mean? So that's kind of all the stuff we've been doing and thinking about. In 2023 has been a pretty awesome year. It's definitely an upward swing and I just can't wait until we can sort of share a little more info about all of our fun projects that we have going on and really let the peeps in.

I can share a little bit about what I've been doing out here. Mm-hmm. Well, we will be filming a movie out there when I am there, which is very exciting. And I'm building one of the sets that has a lot of uses, but long story short, keep your eye out late 2024, about a year from now, be a movie starring Chris and I will be present in it, but I will not be starring. Yeah, we're really stoked about that too. So it's going to be a good time, y'all. And then we will be back on Friday with some more Vanderpump rules, VPR from the start.

And I do want to take a second to really thank you guys all for your really, really sweet comments and DMs and stuff that I've been getting about Vanderpump rules, because I don't want to keep reminding you that it wasn't my favorite season, but sometimes it's just like it comes the day of where Luke and I are gonna sit down and watch it, whether we're together or not,

and then immediately start podcasting about it. And it's just sometimes it's easy and sometimes I'm like, oh, here we go again, but I really want to shout out to all of the listeners and everyone's who's sending really kind messages because it definitely makes it easier and it does not feel like a thankless thing that we're doing because you guys are expressing your gratitude

and how much you're enjoying it and how entertained you are by it. And even my friend Christina, who I was with at Dancing with the Stars, she sent me a really nice message on Instagram that she told me about because obviously I was not paying attention. But just saying that she was meaning to tell me that she loves hearing Luke and I on the podcast.

And she says, the way that he supports you shines. And you can hear it in your voice that you feel safe. And I truly love that for you. And that made me tear up a little bit. So Christina, I love you. Thank that for you. And that made me tear up a little bit. So Christina, I love you. Thank you for that. And it just makes us really feel like this is all worth it and you guys are digging what we're putting down.

Because it's just life, man. It's just like, yep, new episode coming out on Friday. So. Yeah, okay. I would do anything for love, but I don't think I can marry someone who had sex with 300 people in one year. But more power to you, more power to you any night. Luke, what about you?

I would do anything for love, but I won't climb Mount Everest. Have I said that? Okay, I like that because I care about your well-being and that's a very tall mountain. Wait too many people die, I'm not passionate about that sort of thing. Yeah, absolutely not. Good, I like that. Keeping yourself safe. I need you around, sir, you know, long term for the long one. I'll be here, baby. No, right. Amazing. Okay, guys, well, we love you so much and we will talk to you on Friday. Thanks for listening to everyone. Bye. Make sure to follow us on social media. You can follow me on all platforms at Kristen Dodie and follow Luke on Instagram at Luke Double Under Score Broadred.

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