Sex, Love, and What Else Matters - Vent Sesh

Episode Date: September 7, 2023

Episode 57. Things aren’t always perfect. This week, Kristen and Luke have a #VentSesh about their past few weeks of summer because when there’s a lot going on, they like to talk about it. They also give you their firsthand account of the viral drink throw in San Francisco at Kyle Chan’s party. “August slipped away like a bottle of wine” but there’s a lot of fun news coming soon! Sponsors: Head to TRYFUM.com and use code DOUTE to save an additional 10% off your order today. Visit OliveandJune.com/DOUTE for 20% off your first Olive and June System! Download the DraftKings Casino app NOW, sign up with promo code DOUTE, and new customers get a deposit match up to ONE HUNDRED DOLLARS in casino credits when you deposit $5 or more! Follow us: @kristendoute @luke__broderick Email us: [e-mail] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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So this semester, get your hands on a timeless collab. Britta, it's taste over everything. Hello my angels, welcome back to another episode of Sex Club and what else matters with me and Luke. Hey baby. Hi. We're all tired. You're tired. I'm a little tired.

I just need to sleep. What does that mean, even? That means I'm aware of how many hours I'm going to get, so I'm going to lay down. Oh, fair. I feel like I'm always just tired lately. You have been sleeping. I've been sleeping a lot, you know.

A little more, yeah. Sleeping a little bit more. Thanks, Luke. We'll get to that being a sleep shame to my boyfriend. Not sleep shame, so that very nicely sleep very politely. A sleep shame me. All right, let's start off then with a hashtag vent sash

because this is just Luke and I. And we had some ideas. We have some guests lined up, but I was like, Luke, we just let's just be real. Let's just be honest. Let's just talk about what the flip has been going on lately as much as we can because that's what I want to do with you guys. And that's why I wanted to start this podcast to begin with.

It was like to take things into my own hands after being on reality television for so long and feeling like I didn't get to have my voice. So this is our voice. So we've been working on multiple projects together this summer. Luke and I. And obviously they're all very exciting. We can't talk about everything right now. multiple projects together this summer, Lucanine. And obviously they're all very exciting. We can't talk about everything right now.

Lucanine are both constant workhorses. And I don't know babe, how would you explain it? We just have a different way of working. I think we're a really good balance. I'm the creative, flighty bird. And you keep me in check. You're the... I try to create the structure.

The structure. I mean, it's not my strongest suit. I like having some, oh, hi Jill. I like having some structure and creating it is something I'm getting better at, but that is definitely the balance that we have. Yeah. I'm the logic you're the feelings.

That, yes, Luke is the logic. I'm the feelings. Are you guys shocked? Probably not. So we've been doing all these different projects because we love to like look towards the future and Our dogs are in the background right now, so that's what you're hearing, but you know what? This is real life go lay down Jill so within all these projects I think that Luke and I always have baby I, I think we have a really good balance.

Yet one of the projects that we've been working on, even with our awesome balance and our good communication, it has not been going as swimmingly as we would like it to go. And I think we both agree on that. We've also agreed that it's not going swimmingly, but we're not against each other, right? Yeah, it's a little different than what we anticipated. And a different kind of struggle than we anticipated.

But we're getting through it. So I feel like for the first time, we were talking today about recording. And I was like, you know what it is? It's like, are we thriving? Are we just surviving? And I think it's a little bit of both. And I think it's a really interesting concept to talk about within our relationship and I've talked to other friends and their relationships

about that because I think Luke, like we thrive so hard in our relationship and we really put in the effort, but sometimes with, you know, outside forces or certain projects, I feel like at times I'm just like surviving. Does that make sense? Absolutely. I mean, I think that's a natural ebb and flow of life in relationships is there are times you just gotta keep your head down and get through it and there are times

where you wanna take in every second because you're thriving and everything's going great. And so, you know, it's part of that natural ebb and flow and at the moment we're getting through it. Yeah, my ass is trying to keep my head afloat. I'm having to be honest. It's like keeping my head above water. We can see the light at the end of the tunnel. It's peaking through, it's peaking through. And I think also because we work together,

we play together, and I think that's something that we both love to do because I do love our balance. It also just becomes difficult because we are so different. So the summer has been definitely some new experiences for me, not living in California. Well, this summer I've been living in California. Yeah, you've been here like six weeks now. Almost two months. Seven weeks now.

Yeah. About two months, like straight. Yeah. Which is a lot for you. Almost two months. Seven weeks. You've been here about two months, like straight. Which is a lot for you. It is a lot, considering the majority of my possessions and the things I've been building up to in my life are all in Colorado for the most part. I have a wonderful girlfriend here. I have my lovely dog.

I've got my clothes, my shoes, and a set of golf clubs. And we have a roof over our head. And we have some amazing friends. And we have a roof over our head. And we have some amazing friends. And we have to remind ourselves to be grateful. But you know what, y'all, it's been kind of a fucking shit storm. So speaking of shit storms, I'm going to step away from that for a moment and talk to you guys about our weekend. Holy mother f, what were we thinking?

So it's backup. Our friend Kyle Chan, who we are in love with, who we are obsessed with, who is like Luke's, like main man, like your main, I don't wanna speak for you, but like your main friend, like your own, like out here in LA, right? He's the guy I do the most, like I do the most stuff with out here.

We've been to two reptile conventions now where I got my Gecko at the first one. Oh yeah, did we tell you guys we have a gecko? We have a gecko now, it's great. Chris and Roles rise. Anyway. No, he's wonderful. I just find it really hard to be emotionally

like attached to Bronx, but you know what? He's adorable and he's growing on me. I'm just like a dog lady. For sure. But Kyle's wonderful. Yeah, so Kyle's great. We'm just like a dog lady. For sure. Kyle's wonderful. Yeah, so Kyle's great. We play ping pong, pickle ball. I don't know.

He invites me out. He's a great guy all around. Sometimes just go hang out at the jewelry store. And Kyle had, congratulations, Kyle Chan. We love you so much. Kyle had this amazing party in San Francisco with Gold Bar Whiskey. And Vanderpump rules was filming.

Luke and I went as guests and just decided, you know what? We're going to go on a whim. It is worth it. We're here to support Kyle. Let's just, you know, it's an hour flight. No big deal. So Luke and I arrived to San Francisco at 3.30 pm on said Friday. Well we were supposed to catch this ferry at 6.10 pm.

We get to the hotel at 4.30 and now we have like you know, an hour or 40 minutes so we have to be at the ferry. So we're like no big deal. We got this. We can get ready super fast. Just so you guys know Luke please attest to this. I'm the kind of bitch that can get ready real fast. Usually. Clothes take me the longest, typically. Yeah, you have to try on 12 outfits, but you can do your makeup and handpray outfit.

So I tried to get ready as quickly as possible. We miss the fucking fairy. By seconds, I was running down there and I saw them close to gate. 15 seconds. I was at the gate with my hands on it as the engines fired up in a drove off. And our flight had so much turbulence, we weren't even allowed to have water. Okay, enough with complaining. No, it's not complaining. I'm just saying, my point is that we not only survived this, we thrived through it. Because typically I can be one where little things make me kind of freak out.

Where I'm like, oh God, what else? What now? But we were you and I, we were just like, this is hysterical. What else? Come on, God, bring it to us. Let's go universe. What else you got for it? We already had a plan being placed. You can drive here. At the ferry was just going to be a cool experience. Being out on the water, I love being on the water. And Kristen and I have spent very, very little love being on the water. And Kristen and I have

spent very, very little time together on the water, which I'd like to do more. It was more just like, we're only here for a short period of time. Basically, we land at 3.30. Our flight leaves at 10 a.m. the next day. So we're like, we're going to have the best time. Who cares about all the hiccups? I'm not complaining babe. I'm saying lots of hiccups along the way. So we get to the party, the party is just a blast, so proud of Kyle. And then there was the viral video that all of you all saw. We were there, we're in said video, but you guys, I'm going to tell you right now, I have no idea what the fuck was happening.

Everyone, I've gotten all the DMs, the comments, the tagged, I have have no idea all I know is that was a friend of Kyle's I'm pretty sure he was just super drunk And he threw a champagne bottle then a glass of water and then a chair was picked up. No, it was a wine glass What does what he threw second it was a wine glass? Well, he threw like he didn't throw the glass He like chucked the liquid no liquid liquid flew out as he threw like, he didn't throw the glass. He like, chucked the liquid. No, it was glass. No, the liquid flew out as he threw it, but he threw the glass. Oh, shit. I don't know.

I just watched the video. I was standing there, but I can't see that far. Anyway, homeboy was just wild. Maybe just drunk? Who knows? I don't know if he had a vendetta. I have no idea. But as far as like, I'll just give you my opinion.

I am not on vanopompers rules, but I've gotten all these texts and people as like, I'll just give you my opinion. I am not on Vannapump rules, but I've gotten all these texts and people being like, oh my God, was it staged for the show? Or like, who told, you know, no, that's not true. So I'm gonna just like break the news here. This was not staged for anything. We're not sure what happened. No one would have a guy throwing glass bottles.

This was not sugar glass. We would not have someone throwing glass and breaking it in a group of over 100 people. That wouldn't be happening as a stage thing. Yeah, but it was just wild. I did hear some rumbling from people that he was this person. It had no offense to the dude and I'm sure you're a great guy. We're not talking shit, whatever.

But I did hear rumbling of him trying to kind of like, you know, grab like being in front of the camera or like go up to cast members on Vannarpombe and things like that. So I think there was like a bit of annoyance, but maybe he was just like a little oversurf. Maybe he like drank himself before he even got there. Everyone's like, whoo party! Yeah! Who knows. But that's what we experienced. It wasn't a setup, but it was fucking wild. Cold turkey, maybe, great on sandwiches, so I hear. But there's a better way to break your bad habits. We're not talking about some weird mind voodoo

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our flight leaves at 10 a.m. We agree. Let's go back to the hotel with the cozy zone. Let's get some food. And guess where Chris and one to go. Where I begged. begged as much as I tried to veto the decision. We went to Applebee's in San Francisco

when we were there for less than, okay. I've gotta say. There's a country song about Applebee's. Yeah, but that's how good Applebee's. It doesn't say Applebee's in San Francisco when we're there for less than okay. I've got a country song about Apple Beast. Yeah, that's how good Apple Beast. It doesn't say Apple Bees in San Francisco. I'm certain that there's a big difference from an Apple Bees in Indiana, Kentucky, Tennessee, than an Apple Bees in San Francisco. Has it got 11 San Francisco? All I'm saying is that I'm in San Francisco for one day I would like to eat seafood or something local, not a national chain that we have to take 16 flights of stairs to get up to the level it's on.

And I have a video approved list. It's a pretty funny video. Well listen, Ariana was like, yo, we're putting on cozy's and we're going to Applebees. And I'm like, girl, all I want is a side salad with french fries and ranch and some cheese sticks. I'm there. So Luke, thank you

for sacrificing your San Francisco seafood for us to walk to an applebee's. For your iceberg lettuce with it. It was so fucking good. It was so fucking good. And then I ordered another one to go and I took it on the flight the next day. You did? You certainly did. Listen, it was well worth it and I appreciate your sacrifice. And we made it as a couple. Not only did we survive, said Trip, we thrived. I think we made the best of the situation. Yeah.

In multiple cases. That kind of broke me. In other relationships I've been in, like missing the ferry, running, being like, oh fuck, now we have to take another really expensive Uber just to go over our bridge. Like in past relationships, those tiny little things that we're talking about could have broke me. And I would have been like, oh my god, this is the end of the world.

Now we're fighting, rar, but we were like, fuck it, let's run. My broken toe and my giant platform gold heels, I ran as fast as I could as well. It was a fucking great time. It was a good time. We were gone for roughly 18 hours, but it was a great time. I think literally from the time we left the apartment to when we got back was under 22 hours.

Yes, we fucking killed it. And let me also remind you, despite this project where we are working on that hasn't been going swimmingly, we've put together an IKEA dresser and we thrived. I had so much fun with you that day. So you guys, we moved into a new apartment and my friend Chanel, with Home One Point, shout out, came over with all of her girls and helped us move in and like, you know,

made all these labels and like organized everything for us. And we had just bought this dresser from IKEA and we're like, okay, Luke and I are going to put this dresser together. And my girlfriend walks in who is married pregnant with her third child and she literally went, oh my god, you guys are couple goals. You're not fighting at all. Like if you can survive this, you can survive anything. And did you not have fun? I had fun. Yeah, I like building stuff.

I mean, it was- You didn't have fun. No, I did. It is, I like the satisfaction of completing a project like that. And that was- I have fun, TBH. That's great.

I mean, it was a great day. All together that day was fantastic I will say that and I keyest stuff is kind of my jam. I like the challenge It's like as an I mean I keyest stuff being anyone's jam is weird because you don't have to like do anything except for like build Like it's like Legos I was going before you cut me off. Well saying it's like an adult Lego set I get to build it and then it's like has a utility instead of just something really cool to look at.

Yeah, it's so beautiful. So anyway, I'm basically kind of being like a CDX Tuesday. I could be a little bit of a cunt by like giving us an applause and a pat on the back by saying, I'm really proud of us because I'm an anxious person. I'm sure as you people know, all of our fun listeners. I have anxiety, I battle with depression, I definitely have like mental shit going on.

Luke is not the same. I am typically a high functioning anxious person, but lately I've been like a low functioning anxious person. And I think that something we've gone through with like not to be like, oh, let's get a little deep and dark, but you know, to balance out like all the fun we've been having, I really applaud you Luke for handling and thriving like with our relationship through that. Because have you ever been with anyone with like major anxiety the way I have? Because this is like even my anxiety right now is very new to me,

because I haven't experienced it in a few years. So it's a little different this than some other anxiety I've seen. Thank you for the compliment, baby. Yeah, I love you. I wouldn't say it's been totally thriving. I certainly feel like I'm out of my element here. I have been, my head and shoulders have been above water, but I wouldn't say I've been sprinting across land.

I just think we've been thriving through it. We're doing great, babe. We have moments of survival, but I think we've also been thriving. Yeah, I mean, we've gotten over some major humps, getting into this apartment specifically was way too long a process. But we did it, we're here, we're...

We've had a lot of fucking obstacles. So many obstacles in like an eight week period of time. But I want to pat us both on the back especially you, because we've just been like trying to communicate through it. And like when I am anxious, and I'm like, Oh, just give up that and Luke, just give up, fuck it. Err, you're like, no, that's up that and Luke, just give up, fuck it. You're like, no, that baby's not what we do.

You know, we don't do that. We're gonna talk about it, we're gonna sit down and we're gonna talk about it and it might be hard, but we're gonna do it. I've been trying to make you talk. Because you like to like, clam up when I'm like, hey, we gotta talk about something real and you're like, oh no, this is gonna be bad.

Oh no, I thought are were breaking up with me. It's always like your first thought and then you spiral and then you're brain. I'm sorry, not spiral. Your mind goes to worst case scenario. It does. That's what I mean to this. It's like a fight, flight, or freeze

is where I tend to go. I think because of triggers and trauma in my past, and not being able to see what's clearly in front of me. But when we're at home in our space with our dogs and we're like, have a moment to be at peace, I can see what's right in front of me. And then I can see the future and that what's going on currently does not mean the forever that's ahead of us. Exactly.

And I just, I feel like my role is to try to keep our common future goal and priorities just like at the forefront because you know, what I was telling you today actually, I know that I can't completely empathize with what you feel. I know that you feel things on a different level than what I do. Like your emotions are just more heightened. And the way it affects you is something than what I do. Your emotions are just more heightened. Skyrocket.

The way it affects you is something that I've never experienced besides like, you know, major tragedies losing my dog and losing my grandpa and things like that. Obviously, I've experienced some pretty intense emotions, but yeah, some things really hit you hard and I'm doing what I can to support and keep, just try to keep those priorities in perspective. That's it. Like, these are the things that matter the most and keeps us working toward that final goal. Yeah. And I think what we're both learning too is that although we've been together a year, like I've said before, it feels like 10 years at times in the best way possible. Doesn't sound like a good way to most people.

Well, I know that and I know people, but it's like I feel like I've known you my whole life at times, you know? Right, yeah. Not like, oh, we've only known each other, like, what, how long? Just a year, 14 months. 15. It doesn't, who's counting? But it doesn't feel like that.

It feels like I've known you my whole life a lot of the times and I trust you more than I trust anyone, and I love you more than I've ever loved anyone. And it's more exciting for me than it is scary, which I think is such like a wonderful relief, and like such a beautiful thing. So it is, it can be a little bit terrifying at times when I feel these past triggers.

The things people have seen on Vanderpump rules, the crazy Kristen quote unquote, the reactions instead of the responses, and people kind of triggering me, or things that I can't control outside of me, and that we're working through them, because it's like not something I'm proud of, it's difficult to talk about,

but I felt like in this episode of this podcast, the only thing I could do was just be real. Otherwise, I was gonna bullshit my way through it and interview someone about something even though this was what was on my mind. And I feel like a lot of couples go through things like this. So, I don't know. I thought it was kind of important to talk about.

I agree. And something else, as soon as we wrap up, one or two of these projects this summer, we go right into another project. Yeah, we're really excited about it. Yeah, we're really excited about it. And we're going to do in Colorado. It's going to be awesome.

And we'll have a lot more about that for you in the future. I thought you were going to say more freedom, which is almost different. Oh, we have a shit time more freedom. Absolutely. Yeah. Like this is our project, yeah, along with Greg and Rachel, obviously. We just have a lot coming up, so really excited. But again, I think the working and playing together and living together, it can be very

taxing at times, but it's like, how do you get through it together? And the fact that we are learning learning because I feel like people around us that are like married and they have babies and all this stuff and they're like, oh my God, do you guys are like sowing your honeymoon phase? You're in your honeymoon phase. You don't know the struggles. You don't know.

Well, it's like, what that's not really fair to say. I'm 40 years old. I have been in many long-term relationships. I don't know what it's like to be a mom yet, but I do know what it's like to have a long-term relationship and to lose love and to be in love. And that says a lot about our relationship that we're constantly growing.

And speaking of that, I'll preface this with, no, I'm not announcing some pregnancy or anything you guys, but it's a good, I think, another stressor that I've had on me that has reflected on Lucas because of my age. Of course, I've not been silent about the fact that I would really, I want a baby. Like, I would love to be a mother.

I'm so vocal about that, I always have been. And so for you women out there, or men, that are thinking about are going through the same thing. At 40, I have chosen at this point to not freeze my eggs because I've waited so long and I've seen what my friends have gone through and the emotional like turmoil that it's put them through at times. So Luke, I love and appreciate you for going with me

to my last OB appointment. That was the first for me. That was the first for me as well. I've, you know, that shows like the seriousness of like our love and our, in our companionship and commitment to each other. But it was really cool having you there so you could just kind of, you know, we've talked about we would love a family one day. We would love to have, you to have a future of one day, like blah, blah, blah.

Well, obviously, we have a future right now. Well, of course, I'm sorry. Yes, we both want to have a family. We want to have two kids. But we're very... No white picket fence, but we want to lay here some water in the back, with a dock and a boat. That could be a picket fence or not a picket fence.

It could be a fence, but whatever. Room for the dogs to run, water for me to play in. Yes. And the kids. And the kids. So we are not dumb to the fact that Luke is 32 and I'm 40. So he probably has great swimmers. Me, I keep up with my health.

I want to make sure everything's OK. So we decided to go to the OB appointment together. And we found out really great news. Everything looks awesome. Kristen's fertile myrtle, that's what you're trying to say. Yeah, I'm going to cry. So I'm very excited to give that news and we don't know what we're going to do with that in this current point in time.

We know what, we just don't know what. Okay, fair. We do know what we're going to do with that in this current point in time. We know what. We just don't know what. Okay, fair. We do know what we're going to do with that. I think we all know what we're going to do with that. And down in the butthole. Sex love. And what else matters? We're going to do sex love. We're going to do sex love for sure. But I'm very excited about that. And so that was like a huge weight, like an elephant lifted off of my shoulders. We can start saving money, not buying condoms anymore. We don't buy condoms.

Okay, you're such a liar. Look, I'm just trying to keep this a little bit. We do believe in safe sex, and we definitely use used condoms just to you guys know. Yeah, so that's just kind of like catching you guys up and like what we've been going through. And I feel like a lot of people can connect to the difficulties in communication,

even when we actually have, I thought, amazing, I do think amazing communication, but we've just been flubbing a little bit lately. So I thought it was the best thing to do is just to be true and honest and real and have a hashtag vent sash. So anything you want to hashtag vent sash about it for what else has been going on? So that dresser that we built is actually my dresser.

I have my, I officially have a dresser in California now. That's true. A dresser, a gecko, a dog, golf gloves. Slowly, you mean anything. You have a closet. I'm slowly in sort of. You have a closet, you just have clothes in both closets. I have a portion of a closet. you just have clothes in both closets.

I have a portion of a closet. You have a portion of two closets. Thank you for your help. That don't add up to one closet. Okay, fair, I have a lot more clothes than you do. You're too fed. Mm-hmm. I don't know, yeah.

You're too fed. There's just a lot more space in Colorado. You know, 70 acres worth of closets, 2 million square feet, I think we can definitely keep all your stuff and mine there. What do you think? Well, I am very excited that once we wrap

a couple of these projects up that we don't need to be in California for to go to Colorado with you, to go back home to Indiana and to Michigan and kind of like take a break for a minute, 100%. And I think that is like the give and take, the compromise of being in a relationship. You know, it's just really going like, what is the most important and then how can we compromise?

So wait, are you saying time? You're gonna spend two months straight with me in Colorado now. And we'll see. Is that what we're going? We'll see. Okay. I'm just talking about compromise.

I'm talking about the give and take, the push and pull, and then making the choices that benefit our family as a whole and how we can make that work, being that we've been a long distance relationship for the last year. Yes. Completely agreed. I would love for these our travels to be done more together. And I 100% believe that for successful relationships, your relationship and your partner,

and your family need to be priority number one. Like your friends obviously are another priority. I just personally think that the relationship has to come first. You know, you're gonna miss some things. There's gonna be some FOMO at times. But the commitment, you need to show to each other. Like I miss stuff. I've got, I miss plenty of family events

in Indiana, I miss friends, stuff in Colorado to be here with you, their sacrifices that are always made when you're pursuing something great. Like I'm great. We're great. We're great, and I'm great. And you're pretty awesome. You're pretty awesome too.

Oh, we're so cute. No, but for real guys, okay, enough of the bullshit. But, um, yeah, I think that's just something that Luke and I are really learning right now that I just wanted to kind of like vent and discuss about is that, yeah, it may appear like we're in this honeymoon phase, but you know, we're hitting some, some real heavy and some real honest conversations as of late and getting through them. And there have been some tears and there have been some tears, and there have been some disagreements,

but it's all about communication at the end of the day and seeing the bigger picture. And something that I've also learned lately is in the thoughts of building a family, a good friend of ours told us, like it takes a village to raise a family right? Yeah at least yeah whatever your village is whether it is or it takes a village family friends not like a whole state so you're allowed to make

sad village smaller. This village should be smaller no one has 12 super close friends that are involved in a weekly basis in their family and maybe not no one but I'd say 99% of people with families with young children don't have 10 other people involved in the friend group involved in their life on a weekly basis. Yeah.

And so that's something that I'm learning because I'm a really social person. And I've noticed, I talked about this actually with Maggie Lawson on our podcast and also on her podcast about me time. And I said my me time is typically like social time because I thrive off of being social with people and being around my friends.

But what I've noticed as a blade as Luke and I are truly discussing our future and children and a family is that I have decided that I think my circle needs to get a little bit smaller and my trust needs to be higher within the smaller group rather than sort of, you know, just sprinkling my trust around to every single person that I was ever friends with. So I don't know, this is just like a delting type shit and I'm 40 but, you know, adulting is different for everybody. It's a little slower type shit and I'm 40 but you know, adulting is different for everybody. It's a little slower development now. I gotta say.

You think so. I know so. Come on. I've seen enough here. It's slower development in Los Angeles. Anyway. And what I've noticed as of late is that my me time has shifted. I definitely have a like a small handful of friends that I run to where I say,

I need to go to Venice Beach that I run to where I say, I need to go to Venice Beach. I need to hang out with this best friend. This is my me time. Luke, if you need to go golf or go be with this friend or whatever, and we're like, cool, cool, cool, right? But I've noticed as of late, other than those things, my me time is like, I want to be at home.

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and Luke just said, well let's just have sex. That was a bus sleep I have ever had. Maybe ever. You did and you fell asleep. We both woke up completely naked so no one had had. And so happy. And then we've just been like bunny rabbits ever since. So I think that that sparked a little something, something in me too, is like taking that little break away even for one day that we went to San Francisco and stayed in a hotel, even though there were so much chaos around us. We came back to the hotel, we ate our Applebee's, sorry babe, but we did. And then we decided sex and then we went to bed and we woke up, cuddling, and touching, and also the hugging rule.

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Yeah. To feel your best. So now when I feel sad, I just say, I need hug. And then today when I came home from working on a project, I was like, Luke, I am just, I'm kind of fucking losing it right now. I'm feeling like I'm going to have a breakdown. I'm going to cry. I just feel like I'm kind of fucking losing it right now. I'm feeling like I'm gonna have a breakdown I'm gonna cry. I just feel like I'm gonna cry and look was like just come home I have a big hug waiting for you and it made me feel a lot better good

You didn't even tell me that yeah, didn't you've been trying to hug you more since I started coming out here I know you do such a good job because it really does change things like I never really thought I was a physical touch It really does change things. I never really thought I was a physical touch, lovely, and would be a person. But there's a difference between, my brain was thinking physical touch, like hand and my thigh going for the VJJ, where I'm like, that's not gonna make me feel better right now, okay?

Bro, but a really nice hug is like, holy fuck, my endorphins are on fire. Holy shit, let's go. What's my first reaction whenever your Luke kind of losing it like when you're like freaking out about something that's not going right on a bad day. Yeah come here. Come here. Come here. Yeah, let's hear your voice sounds like. You go, come here, give me, I'll give you a hug. That's more like, hey, baby. Actually, Luke does say, hey, boobit. And I'm like, if you ever say that again,

I'm never having sex with you again, but until the next time. Ha ha ha. I don't know, babe, is there anything else in your mind? We're losing steam, guys, and I'm sorry for this, but when you know, once all this shit comes out about all these projects, you're gonna be like, oh, I get it now. And again, I just wanted to be legit and real with you because we do have some really fucking amazing guests lined up

Really amazing Including you Michael Rappaport. I'm gonna call you out right now because Michael Rappaport is coming on the Pazoon and that's gonna be hysterical and a blast. I can't wait for it as well as could be hysterical and a blast. I can't wait for it. As well as, Carill, aka, the slut whisperer himself with his girlfriend, who is one of my amazing friends here in LA, and plenty more to come.

But it's just today I felt like we just kind of needed to vent and shoot the shit and be straight up honest about what the fuck we've been going through because we were really, well I'll say I was really struggling with podcasting this week because I'm like my brain's about to explode. I'm relaunching James May or throwing a party this week in like two days. So we just have a lot of fun stuff coming up and babe I love you and thank you for being my best friend and yeah. Of course on any don't give up when the going gets tough.

That's all. We gotta just keep our heads down and keep pushing. When the going gets tough, keep going. What do you, Tom Schwartz? It's just the way the cookie crumbles. You know what I mean, Dodie? I like cookies. I like cookies.

Do you have something? Did you make me cookies, baby? There's such a Schwartz as a movie. He just gives us those dumb, quickie. Also shout out, I want to just give a last minute shout out to Tom Schwartz. Tom Schwartz is blonde hair. Shout out to my girl, Lena, who does my extensions for giving Tom Schwartz that hot blonde hair. I was talking about it today and I was like, that's a fucking look man. He's looking good these days. Good for him. Good for you Schwartz. There's your band or tea guys. All right my loves. We love you guys so much.

All of you might not be excited about float ball season, but I damn know while you're excited about bachelor and paradise. So as soon as bachelor and paradise starts, as well as the golden bachelor, Luke and I are going to be recapping both of them. So you're going to get that extra episode. I'm so sorry we quit on the Vanderpump Recaps. We might come back to them, but it just felt like maybe not the right time to go into season two. You know what it means

season two really wasn't for me. We just didn't need any added stress and christenery living that would have definitely created additional stress. I do believe I will convince her to go back to it at some point. 100%. But for now that is on hold so we can get our zen back and just back in the groove. Yeah. For short, I like that. Love you guys so much. Super stoked to talk to you next week. And definitely email us, DM us, as always.

We love hearing your comments, questions, all of the above. And you guys are the tits and just keep making love and having sex and doing whatever else matters. Thanks for listening everyone. Taxi next week, bye! Make sure to follow us on social media. You can follow me on all platforms at Kristen Dodie and follow Luke on Instagram at Luke Double UNDERSCORE Broadrick.

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