Sex With Emily - Episode 263 - Warm up Game

Episode Date: August 2, 2011

Today it’s all about game plans, and getting ready for the big match – from preventing STI’s to the questions to ask your partner before sex. In the final Weekend’s scores, Emily triumphs, and Menace is crushed by his awful weekend. Emily has to decide if she wants to be OM'ed (orgasmic meditation), and why anti-depressants prevent orgasms. Also discussed are the facts about female ejaculation, initiating your first strap-on experience, and how to avoid getting caught masturbating. And just to spice things up - common herpes myths. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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It is the worst thing. Bill's, I know. It is the worst. It's doing bills, doing housework. It is the worst. I agree, I totally agree. Yeah, I do that too. I knew the weekend was gonna be bad because automatically this is what happened. I get off work on Friday and I was gonna go to a go-in-a-way party.

And I was already ready way early before I was supposed to go this party. And our friend who do a radio show here in San Francisco for Nando and Greg, we're having a bar night in the cash row. So I figured, hey, you know what, I'll go- I wanted to go. I was last to make a thing, I saw him on Twitter

and I was like, I'll stop by for a minute. So I get out of my house, I flagged down a cab, which took forever. Right. So I get out my house. I flagged down a cab which took forever Right, it always does in San Francisco Again the cab I get all the way to the place that I need to go that's on the other side of the city I reach into my wallet and realize that I left my ATM card back on my desk at home So then I had to take the cab all the way back to my house. Oh my god It was like a $30 cab. Oh no, ended up being $40 something dollars

to go there and come back. That is so annoying. You have an extra credit card? No, I have two and they're all, they were both at the house. Oh, that's me. Because I was paying bills online. And it was a nightmare.

And then so finally I go back to, I go to the bar and I, and it was so funny because the place that I went to, it was really nice, it was like nightmare. And then so finally I go back to, I go to the bar night and it was so funny because the place that I went to, it was really nice. It was like a grand opening, right? It was a really cool spot. But it wasn't the typical gay bar because they're gay gentlemen, just in case you didn't

catch that before. It wasn't the typical gay bar where there will be a bunch of straight women in there and, you know, be a mixture of people. This is like the bears like the really buff. Right right. You know. What was it in the Castro? Yeah it's a new place called the edge. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It was very it was nothing but men. You guys would have loved it. There's like the guys in the got bartending with their shirts off. Love it. Love it. And all the stuff yeah it was crazy but

what was going on with some part of the crowd was the thing that we talked about before we had the last guest in was named the uh... the writer and the doctor and the guy from your school you remember wow damn really i can remember jalen rex jalen rex

doctor jalen rex. Jalenrex. Dr. Jalenrex. When I was talking with him about how, he was there. Oh, yeah, yeah. He was there. Well, when he was on the show, I was talking to him about how some people in the gay community,

and it's not just the gay community, but they don't like wearing deodorant. Right. We talked about this, and it's a problem. It's a problem with the gym. Yeah, because they like to be all natural. They use different ways to cover it up. Yeah, you were using some kind of other like super natural thing. But when you're in a tight space in a bar, man, it was bad.

It was bad. Just stick out. Some part of the places that I walk in and stuff. How long do you stay? I stayed there for good, maybe 40 minutes. OK. And then I went out. And then I went out.

And then I went out drinking and went crazy. And I woke up the next day at my friend's house on the floor wrapped up in a sheet freezing cold. I even know where I was. Where were you? How were you? That's crazy. We're doing it.

Just drinking a lot. This one out drinking a lot. Then, there's all the apartment that I used to live in that had I was going to go to did it, I did it. I did it. I did it. I did it. I did it. I did it. I did it. I did it. I did it. I did it.

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I did it. I did it. I did it. I did it. I did it. I did it. I did it. I did it. I did a walk to myself out. I had a walk two miles to an Apple store So I can charge my phone because my phone was dead so I could call somebody. Oh my god. What a night?

This sounds awful. It was the worst. It was awful honey. This was like the worst I feel so much better about my life right now I feel about your weekend and I was hungover and I had like take down a wall you to walk two miles to the Apple store Apple store charge my, let people know to let me back in the house, go back there, then I was like super hungover, and I had to like take out a wall, like man shit, right? And I felt like I wanted to throw up.

You were to take out a wall? You didn't have to do that? Yeah, I've been working on houses like my entire life. Really? This is so annoying. Okay, I love my mom, but this is what's so annoying about my mom is, she loves buying fixer uppers.

And the moment that the house is finally complete, that's the time that she wants to sell it. And then move and so that's what she likes to do. Yeah, tons of people like that. The key busy is work on houses. That's why going through that my entire life, my dream is to live in a condo. Right, that's already taken care of. That don't want to garden. I don't want.

She made you do all that manly labor. Oh my god. My entire life. I didn't know. So that means your handy guy. Yeah. I didn't know that. I have put siding on houses, windows, and like frames into the houses. Reminds me of kitchen, ripping up carpets because they taught me. That's because my my stepdad and my mom knew how to do that stuff Right, so they were It was a nightmare. I can't even tell you how much stuff I painted My little menace having to work. I've all its friends outside. I remember when I was 21 and they were they were putting like some new sprinkler system in the backyard and They made me I

Got home. I got home like really early in the morning because I was out drinking all night right? So nothing's changed. Yeah. They wake me up at eight o'clock like, hey, we need to help, we need you to dig a ditch, the dig a ditch so we can put in the new piping like, you know, dig the hole in. Right. I'm like, oh my god.

And the sun was blaring. And when they weren't looking like I puked into the ditch. Oh great. Oh my god, man. This is nothing you almost puked probably on Sunday. Yeah, so I think that's what is affected my life where I like I If I'm gonna come down, yeah, I'm good. I know I'm having issues with my dog. No. Yes. My dog. It says I just feel so much guilt because I can't what she needs tons of exercise

Uh-huh, and I'm already someone who's running late and has no time all the time But now I have to walk her for like a half hour hour in the morning walk her at night for an hour I don't have time and I just feel guilt all the time But I do it but I'm like but it's fine. I've all these new dog park friends. She's great She hasn't anything to do that. I just felt she's looking at me like, I'd really much rather be outside. Like if she could wear a bumper cigarette, say it'd say the rather be at the beach. Like she just hates being indoors.

Well, she's looking to go outside. So the second cigarette's outside, she's so excited and then I can't say all day because I'm busy and I'm working in blah, blah, blah. I wish I could pull tape from when we first talking about the dog and it was all, the things that you're repeating right now is all things that I said.

I know, but I love her and she's good to have around I just think that it's a lot of work on your friend and then you can visit her when you want I know that's what I might do so no she's awesome though and she's great and I had a good weekend though And that is treacherous as your weekend, but what you do Well, I I didn't end up doing anything on Friday night like I was I was wiped out I was supposed to meet some friends at a party and I didn't do anything and then Saturday night I went out this guy. So when I was in New York, I met this guy at a wedding I met this guy at my friends birthday party and he lives in Boulder and he's cute and he's

Nice and he works whatever as it has a good job Whatever we hung out in New York and then we hung out in New York the next day We had brunch nothing ever happened. We didn't hug up But we there was like an attraction. I guess he was into me and he was been texting me in New York. Then we hung out in New York the next day. We had brunch, nothing ever happened. We didn't hang out. But there was an attraction. I guess he was into me and he was texting me. But I kind of ignored him because I kind of forgot about him and I got busy and I had a...

I'm dating several guys, like whatever. He's in Boulder. But he's in town this weekend. So I met up with him and we went out at Saturday night and he was actually... I was kind of dreading, like not dreading, but just feeling like I wasn't going to be into him but he was nice. It was fun. Weing, not dreading, but just feeling like I wasn't going to be into somebody who was nice. It was fun. Way to get time.

You went to dinner and we went to this new restaurant, of course, and had lots of wine. And then it was fun. Good times. And then I saw him again yesterday and yeah, I know because he's here. He's getting a time in. Getting my time in. So it was fun. And then I'm not really giving that many to him because it's here. You're getting your time in. Getting my time in. So it's fun and then I'm not really giving that money to you

because it's not like but he's interesting that you should give everyone a chance. Here's the thing. Here's someone who's like, is it really my type not into but turns out like he's really interesting and cool. So that's this is a message we will that you should just give everyone a chance and go out with them if they ask you out.

Even if you're like, you're not sure. You're not sure. You are serial giving the phone number out or I don't know how to put it into her but that's the I don't know I have all these guys you want to okay so this I went to that orgasm pop up store a few weeks ago and it's all those people like this our guest that were on the show when you weren't here a few weeks ago they talk with this oaming practice this expanded orgasm practice where you, the

men massage the women's clitoris and it's called Oming and you learn, like, they give you an orgasm, but it's like through the special practice. So I met two guys that night who want to Ome and I literally think, I literally think that I should do it because it's good experience. I think it's a good, good material for the show, but I want some random guys coming over and like touching my clitoris, like that I don't even know. Like, but one of them was kind of cute. He's been emailing me and then I looked it up on good material for the show. But I want some random guys coming over and like touching my clitoris, like I don't even know. But one of them was kind of cute. He's been emailing me and then I looked

up on Facebook because I couldn't remember if he was really cute, but he is cute. So I'm trying to decide if I really want to do that. It's really, it's part of research and I've always been curious about the Oming practice. Sounds like a Craigslist type. I know, but they were cool. He seemed normal.

Oh, he seems normal He's just really into Oming well, he's never that he's learning so he needs a partner. Oh, that's it Wow, I should totally throw that out like I'm just learning to have sex So if like if I can just have you as a partner, so you can teach me that would be amazing It's nothing like you know nothing me that would be amazing. It's nothing like you know nothing. No, nothing there. It's not a big deal. Yeah, I don't know how to do that. And then the other guy that I've been dating has been out of town for three.

I dated him for two weeks. He's been gone for three and a half month, three and a half weeks. So I haven't really seen him and that's kind of whatever. No sex thing now. What? I just go back real quick. I don't even know how to... That's a normal man Even approach that conversation to be like I want you touch your vulva We're at the orgasm store though. Yeah, we were at the orgasm store for Nicole They don't book called slow sex and a lot of people are part of her one-taste Organization and there's a lot of guys you sign up for these omen classes where they learn

Tell one taste that's the like word that cult that everybody lives in a house Yeah, but that everyone lives in the house anymore They're like they're like redoing their image. They're redoing their image. They don't live in the house anymore and But these guys signed up for the class and they want they to partner and I just thought it would be I should go once I should do it Because I try to do everything and then share it with my listeners Yeah, what have you done? I should do it. Because I try to do everything and then share it with my listeners. Yeah. What have you done, baby? For show.

Did you have sex on Friday night? I had all the sex in the world on Friday night. I did a lot of research. No. You just put it on a blanket. Okay, let me tell you what's on today's show real quick thing. All right. Okay, today's show, we have your emails.

Some topics include medication and sex, large labias, one of our favorites, female ejaculation and getting caught masturbating, and we'll also be talking about responsible sex and how to talk to your partner about having being responsible in bed. Conomes, STDs, it's gonna be you're gonna be taking a quiz minus. Okay. And yeah, that's what we got. And we got our poll results and some stuff like that. So we're gonna be getting into that shortly. All right. And sex videos, of course. What do you got?

Okay. This is what I got. Science says sex makes Mondays suck less. And today's groundbreaking science news turns out that people don't really like Mondays. In fact, helpful new research from Vinegari, breakfast spread, Mar might find that people hate Mondays so much that they don't even crack a smile until 11.16 a.m.

People are also unproductive averaging 3.55 hours, 3.5 hours in the work day and twice is likely to be late, but not to worry Marmite scientists have claimed watching TV buying chocolate or makeup or have are buying just about anything and having sex are always ways to make your Mondays better Because Mondays do suck. I hate Mondays. Do you not? See, I'm so weird. I'm so the opposite. You love Mondays, cause you love your job and you love life.

Yeah, I love that. I love getting back to work and all that stuff. I, the only thing I hate about Fridays, not because I hate Fridays, it's just that I'm so exhausted that on Fridays, everyone hits me up to go out and then they get upset when I go, I'm just chilling. I want to stay home.

Yeah, I know. Fridays are tough. But Mondays, I just, something about Mondays, I've always had this, but even though I love what I'm doing now, and I'm doing such an Emily full time, and it feels great, I just, Mondays are just kind of like, really? What happened in the weekend? I thought it would be like Thursday,

Thursday is more of the teas, you know? You still have one more day of work. I know what Thursdays are fun. Thursdays and Fridays are the best. I don't know. I go out sometimes. But you have to work the next day.

I know, but you can still go out on Thursdays and Fridays, you can just kind of. Oh, flowed on through. Yeah. So down through work 3.5 hours. Is it fun if you work less during the day? What are they to sit in their computer, in front of their computer, and stare at Facebook or something? Oh, most likely, yeah.

That's what everyone else does, right? Okay, Casey Anthony was offered $500,000 for a nude hustler spread. Did you hear about this? Casey Anthony? Sure. Casey Anthony has been offered $500,000 to pose nude for old rascal Larry Flint's Hustler magazine. You've got men who say, hey, I want to see her in a birthday suit. There may be some sick individuals, but that's what life is all about. Casey Anthony's people say that any reports that she's talking with Hussler about doing this thing

are nonsense. The only way to get Casey Anthony to that photo shoot would be to chloroform her and drag her there. See, Hussler does this every single time, some reason, the news. They always offer some ridiculous amount of money, and no one has ever done it. They just do it for a publicity. And I'm not knocking you hustler, because I would like to meet Larry Flint one day.

But it's just for publicity. And that's totally smart. Right, well, yeah, but she's not gonna do it. Is there a Skype on? Cause I was gonna give it the phone number. Oh, okay, sorry. Do you know what to turn it on? Because I just got a Skype missed call from Skype.

They sent me emails. So the number is, I don't know where it is. Oh. What is the number? Oh, then the people, actually, I never got the login for that. You don't have to tell me. No, let me see if I can do it.

I have the, I can get. Sorry, everybody. Do you have a phone number? Um. Okay. The stuff number is 415-92. That would be the Skype turning on. 415-9927392. That's 415-9927392.

You can call up with any questions you have right now and we'll answer them. Yeah, and please just use the phone number. Don't try to Skype through your computer. Don't Skype through your computer. Just call from your cell phone, right? Yeah. Call from your cell phone that number right now and you can talk to us. If you try to do it through the computer, I'm going to deny it. Not because I don't want to hear from you.

It's just, it's going to be really awful. You know all the facts. I'm not the technical, whatever. Person here, menace. Okay. Woman sues a man for giving her herpes. A 33 year old woman wants $350,000 for a claim that she was infected with general herpes

by 35 year old man during a sexual trust. The woman says the man was legally liable for knowingly exposing an unaffected and ongoing partner to the sexually transmitted disease the woman was married when she had sex with the man and he was married to her spouse as reluctant to normal sexual relations because of her diagnosis she wrote so she she wants to be rewarded money from the man's auto and homeowner's insurance he is denied giving the woman's her reason told her to check with

other partners. So she was having an affair in her husband, obviously. Her husband wants to be with her now because the guy she was having a twist with gave her herpes. So she's doing. Oh, so you she's having an affair and she feels like this guy should have told her like.

So you cheat on your man and bad things happen to you and now you blame other. Exactly. That is the bottom line and that is not cool uh... yet you shouldn't have had sex dot a condom for one you should be cheap on your husband should be cheating your husband for two and uh... yeah that's what i have to say about that

we are going to be talking more about herpes later on in the hour let me just say it's and now you know what that's a good point no it is not hot it's not sexy it is not going to turn you on you might not even masturbate to this portion of the show i think you've masturbated other portions of the shows but it's important information is important information to dispense to people about std's and condoms and stuff like that we got a chock full of information for you because a lot of people there's myths there's questions people have they don't get it can i get her piece from a toilet

seat we're gonna answer all that did you did one of the interns bring bring this up to bring on the show because the jersey shore was having a whole uh... marathon over the weekend on tv and they called the doctor because i guess they have a doctor that they can call and said hey uh... can you getting diseases with somebody giving you

Phyllisio? And then the doctor said, yes. Yeah, you can. Yeah, because they're like, yeah, they're like, they're all, they're all because one guy didn't believe it. And they're like, no, your how long done. So then they called and the doctor said, yeah, you can. So is that what you're watching the Jersey marathon, when I was by television, I was watching Jersey Shore because I'm so excited for the new season. I used to not be into it. I actually didn't watch it.

You didn't like it, yeah. Tell a third season, but then I got so into it because I thought it was just gonna be like a real world. It's gonna be good, right? No, but it's so funny because it, you should be watching it because it is all about sex that if you really break it down Okay, it's all about them going to hook up with chicks all day long and then the chicks going to go hook up with guys Like you guys are they boyfriends and stuff new guys and it's funny just to watch them on how they act and how they they make things happen I should watch it

I'm gonna get my some me some cable the funniest thing the last episode that I watched and I know it's an old episode is they were playing pranks on each other and one of the guys was, one of the guys was out of the house and he was out at the club and the other people were at home and they're like, oh let's play a prank on him and they didn't know that he was going to bring a girl home. So they went and took a bunch of grated cheese and like all this cheese stuff and then put it under his bed. So it smelled really bad. That's so mean.

And then here he comes back and they're like oh my god he brought a girl back home and so he takes this girl into the bed and then the next day he's like I couldn't hook up with that girl. She smelled like cheese. Oh my god that's a girl. That's a girl. Yeah. with that girl. She spelled like cheese Okay, that is kind of funny I gotta watch it. I gotta get cable that is funny. That's gross. See that to me though that humor is not funny. That's annoying Oh god, no, I'd be like that's a dumb sorry. It's not some oven guard foreign film That has subtitles I apologize image of me. You know what I you know me. Yeah. You think I'm home watching foreign movies. I don't watch anything. But I appreciate that that it's all about sex. I don't know why you wouldn't be into anything as dumb. This is the real world. That's people how

people act like I get it. Not all people. Yeah, but like a large majority people I can go and see Yeah, not all people. A large, but yeah, but like a large majority people I can go and see 10 million people that act just like the Jersey Shore In this city like at any Fenty shaking nightclub. Yeah, of course. Yeah, so the nightclubs you do though. You say you don't put you do okay So topic we're gonna get into the emails all right, okay We'll be like I said topics include medication insects largely as female ejaculation, getting caught masturbating. Later on, we're talking about STDs, we're talking about herpes,

we're talking about responsible sex and how to talk to your partner about it. But first, we got some pull results in. Okay. What part, what body part, turns you on the most? 10% said the stomach. 12% said legs. 20% said eyes. 26% said chest and the winner. The most percentage, highest percentage, 32% said butt. The ass is what turns into butt.

Yep. What do you think about that? Are you an ass guy? I'm into butts, but you know, again, all this stuff is proportionate to the person's size. I don't, I don't look for anything that's, I don't like everything, you know, I don't go after anything that's like oversized, like some people do, where they go, oh my god, we go crazy for it, you know. Okay, I got it. Our new poll is, what would you, what way do you most like to do it? Just two choices two choices do it

one slow and sensual two fast and rough Hmm you got to choose I'm interested to see what people would say it's like see would be like neither Both but everyone would pick that or both, but I want to know if you had to choose right now What kind of down and dirty sex you're going to have is it going to be slow and sensual or it's going to be fast and rough go to sexthelene.com and vote right now. I'm going to share your answer now or later. I don't know what my answer is. Okay. I think. I'm going to share later.

Maybe I'll share later. It's a good point, man. It's okay. Hi, Emily. Still loving your show and getting more addicted every day. I take you everywhere with me Guess you could say I'm a sex with Emily junkie Your show is awesome. Keep it the great work. Hope to hear you on the air for many years to come I would gladly pay more if needed to be a sex with benefits member sex with benefits member. Yeah, it's a friends with benefits member Where else could you go to get great advice and entertainment at the same time? You and menace are breath of fresh air that has been needed for so long in the stale radio world.

Thank you. Love always your friend and everyone fan Danny. Thanks Danny, that was just so. Danny you're awesome. You're awesome. And we would like you to pay more. So just pay again. My, yeah.

I love the listeners. I love the listeners. I love the listeners. I like listeners that because they're like from all over the world country and stuff like that it it's everywhere all over we really do have all over the world yet and i love when the email the show and say where the from and all that's the two of you tell us where you're from when you email so you mention that a while where you're from and how you listen to the show

you know i'm saying that because i have another story that share i'm sorry to bore you down with stories but you might get started it's a good story i'll be the judge. You know how I said a while back I have some listener no centiming laundry and yeah from either radio shows So today I get a call from a security and it says oh Yeah, some flowers have been down here for you since Friday I go, okay. And then some roses come up and it says, in the card, Happy Birthday, which is not my birthday.

No. Tell October. Right, right, right. And I hope you can get these home safe. And that was it. It doesn't say, it doesn't say, it doesn't say who they're from or anything. Is this summer?

Yeah, and then I get a call from a stalker on Friday asking me if I can go out. And then I said, no, it's busy. Get a call back today from the same person asking me if I can go out today. Do you think she's in the flowers? I don't know. She's in the flowers. She's definitely in chocolates in Laundry. Do you know who she is?

No, I don't know who she is. Oh, that's so crazy. and I tell her I'm busy Yeah, well, what are you gonna say at least you talk you talked around the phone? Yeah, she calls up now She was just before she would just send letters you talk to your stalker. Yeah I can't block her call It's a public phone number to the radio station That blocker call. It's a public phone number to the radio station. What am I supposed to do?

Right, right, right. If I block it. Yeah, my stalkers were at St. Quentin. So I never really got to meet them. Okay. Cage Pete. Exactly. Dear Emily, my wife is on Zooloft and while she enjoys sex, she can't have an orgasm.

Any suggestions, Michael from San Francisco, California? Well, okay, that is a very common issue. Women and men on medication have issues, have with their sexual performance. And I would say the best thing she could do is go down on the zooloth and add something in like well-butrin. Well-butrin is a really good drug for, is a well-butrin, is an antidepressant

that does not produce the same side sexual side effects. So a lot of people switch from Zoloft to well butrin or they add it. And there's also, I would just like go down or sometimes if you know that you're having sex, you could like go if she's taking say a hundred milligrams, she'd go down to like 50 milligrams when she knows she's gonna have sex and it might help. And she might be taking too much of it too. Again, she could just, she could also just decrease the amount she's taking. But honestly, in use of vibrate or during sex, that could really help too. But really, there's not a lot you can do. Like, if you're taking the medication and SSRI,

you're going to have sexual, the number one side effect, isn't sexual side effects. And with well-buterin, there is not because Stoloft is an SSRI, a serotonin uptake re-inhibitor, and I well-buterin is also an SS, is also an antitapresent, but not an SSRI. a serotonin uptake re-inhibitor, and a well-butrin is also an SSRI, it works on different receptors. That's my answer. I say just go down in general. Go down. Go down on the meds, just go down. Go down in general. Go down, go down baby. Yeah, and nothing is how do you know so much about all these drugs? I've studied them over the years. Yeah, Yeah. Oh my god. I've gotten millions of questions about this Cool hundreds and I know a lot of people on meds and a lot of people who who have dealt with this issue

It's very common. It's like so many people are in it a presence I wish I had the stats, but I don't but like I know like a lot of people are on Yeah, and sometimes it with the like, they can just last forever and not, and not even orgasm. Yeah, exactly, men are not able to orgasm when they're taking antidepressants. It's such a bummer though, because it's like, I know you're depressed

and you want to clear yourself, so here's a pill, a happy pill. And then you're like, I'm so happy. Oh my god, everything's great. Life is wonderful. Oh, but I can't have an orgasm. That sucks. Like here's the greatest thing in life,

but you can't have an orgasm. It's kind of like this, it's kind of a deal. It's like making a deal with devil or something So that's the deal with that. Okay. Hey Emily. I'm a very satisfied new FWB member and enjoying all the great new material on your website In a recent episode you write a list of email from a girl who is extremely embarrassed and self-conscious about her large Labia and was actually considered labia plastic. You and Menace rightly pointed out that there are some guys who find large labia to be a turn on. I am ready to tell you that I am definitely one of those guys.

We found one. I find large labia extremely sexy and a huge turn on. I'm sure that I'm not alone in this thinking and that there are way more, I'm sure I'm not alone in this thinking and that there are way more than just a few guys out there who would agree with me. I just want to be that poor, I just want that poor girl to know that and I hope that she will forget the idea of Larry Plasty

and just be a little patient because she will surely find someone who appreciates them as I do. That jerk roommate or feel bad about them needs to have his ass kicked, very sincerely, deep from Cincinnati. Yeah. I think he's right.

I think that's really harmful when people get these messages early on, like, she was like a guy in high school or something you made friend of her labia, that just messes you up. And I think that she shouldn't rush on, get labia plastic. Yeah, some guys like this, maybe we'll help them up. De-fem-sens-en-addy. I don't know, I think it's just, again, when I, when this first came up, it was just her decision what she wanted to do.

Right. But I think that just because one or two guys didn't like it, I think that, but again, I just said, you know, we can build it, build it up and say it's fine as much as we want. But until she believes that herself, then it's not really going to make a difference. Right. She has to believe it herself. You're right, but I'm just saying I think it's just rushing to plastic surgery is not always the answer Mm-hmm Emily I had a complete historic to me at 27 for medical reasons I feel like I get to the point of orgasm, but honestly, I'm not sure if what I'm feeling is the actual thing Weird I know I heard you say one time that anyone can learn to squirt

I want to how and where do I go to learn to learn this How do I know if my G-spots working or if I even found it help hopeless orgasmic carry Joe from Evanston Evanston Wyoming Wyoming Not Chicago. I was thinking it was a little annoying. Okay. It says w. Why that'd be Wyoming do Okay, some background. Women do ejaculate with orgasm.

Others find that orgasm and ejaculation are two distinct and different functions which happen separately. It's important to relax as well as contract the pelvic muscles. Some women need cholesterol stimulation first in order to... Most women need cholesterol stimulation first in order to orgasm And it could happen from attention to the G spot. So a lot of times women are able to teach themselves. I mean, Susan Bratton was on the show a few weeks ago. She talked about the fact that she teaches this course that

women, anyone can learn to squirt. So it's mostly with pressure on the G spot, which stimulates production of the fluids. And it's the G spot we did a whole show on it the other day. So you can talk, you can listen to the show. Go back. We'll use a show. We hear on the G spot showot we did a whole show on it the other day. So you can talk, we can listen to the show. Go back, check out me here. When you hear on the G-Spot show, I know you weren't here. I know we were talking about G-Spot locators

that you were getting designed, but I don't know if that was... Just to show on Friday, I think, right, or Thursday. Thursday. Friday show, dude, you missed it. It was awesome. When you missed you. What was it? Interns gone wild.

Uh oh. Every time you get on the interns, you make it, get them on the show, you make it, get them on the show, you make them tell all their deepest, dark secrets. I know, you can't believe. I was just like my mouth again. Recap, so people go back. Tell me a little bit. Tell me a little bit. And watch, listen to Friday's show if you missed it. So, you know, we have them do sex toy reviews. So Aaron came in and did her sex toy review, but she also has been talking about, she reviewed her toy from Adam and Eve.com. We're anyone can go to Adam and Eve.com and use coupon code Emily at checkout and you get all

these special things 50% off an item, you get three adult DVDs blah blah blah, point being. So she had her sex toy review. Erin has a boyfriend. Erin and her boyfriend have taken everything very literally. The sex with Emily challenges what she's called it. And she says that they've been together now like I think eight months, but for the last three months, she's working for me, she takes everything home every night and like works on the stuff with them. Like tonight, let's find the juice spot. Let's, you know, let's try to, you know,

have this kind of sex, or that kind of sex. I mean, they've done all these things, and they've watched porn together. They've talked about it, and by watching porn, they've actually used some of the stuff that they've learned in there. She's like, oh, I like when that girl bends over the desk. So can I do that? I mean, she was just like getting into all these things that they've learned and that they're doing from the sex thomenshow. Like literally for three months,

everything. They've pushed it. They've tried it. And it's really like helped their relationship and it's grown and they love these. The sounds amazing and tiring at the same time. It is exhausting right? Could you imagine every night's like oh god again. All right. She's done all this stuff and then what else? And then Kelsey was talking about her experiences with her. She thought she broke her clitoris because from her vibrator which didn't happen. But she was she's like I think I broke it but she was talking about how using her vibrator a lot. She thought but it was fine. It was

she was a sick. Oh yeah. But a lot. She thought, but it was fine. She was a sec. But they're just vibrating. And they're just talking about their vibrators, they're talking about their sexual experiences, sleeping with the guys. And how, now she's become like, she's like a mini protoday. Like how I date guys now and they all say, oh, sex, then we, so I'm assuming that people want to sleep with me just because of that. Yeah.

So now that she's the one, and all these girls, all the interns, they're the ones now that know all about sex in their house, like in her house, it's college, everyone's like, now they're super popular. They're super popular, and everyone's like, you know, they're like, oh, hey, teach us stuff. So it's fun. So they've learned a lot. What else do they talk about? I'm trying to remember, there was, there was a school. So that was on Friday. That was on Friday show. So people can go to sex with Emily.com and listen to the recap, but they missed it. Exactly. Exactly. And then she, um, one more thing I was going with Emily.com and listen to the recap. They missed it. Exactly.

And then she, what more thing I was going to say. Just the fact that she used sex with her partners, all that stuff was new. OK. So let's get into what we missed. It's a one of them out in Berkeley, too. What'd you say? I found an amazing ice cream place out in Berkeley.

Yeah. Yeah, that's very sexual. I just can't. I don't know what it is with chicks. They love ice cream, right? Yeah, we love ice cream. If you take them out to ice cream, but I think you Get laid almost every time. Really? Sure, not true. If it's say, hey, hey, you want to go have some ice cream? I don't even eat, man. I don't even know what you say. You go to restaurants all the time. I don't even know what the hell you eat.

I eat. Well, I haven't even seen that. I eat stuff. I eat chicken. Name it. What did you have when you went on this amazing date to some new restaurant? We had some weird foods.

It was some funky foods. Yeah. Yeah, we had some pasta. Did you feel very cultured by having the the weird funky food yeah yeah yeah yeah there was some big thing of slab of meat that was like fried bacon it was kind of weird we had some just know some culinary lights you know San Francisco is known for its restaurant so this is a new restaurant can't tell you or something it was

and I don't remember what we had I know don't know to tort like pasta and pizza. How do you not remember things from just the other day? Because my life is so busy. Doing what? I don't friggin know eating the next meal. You can't remember what meal to the next. I remember everything I ate this week. The last I ordered room service and it was amazing.

Room service. Yeah. Are you just slipped and told me something you were supposed to tell me? Well, I was visiting this friend at his hotel. Oh, visiting friend. Why is it intern coughing right now? I don't know. Tell me to shut up.

Yeah, nothing to do with that. Did it? Yeah, you totally just slipped right now. But you called yourself out. I loved it the next time. See, why did you not share this stuff in the beginning? I forgot! Oh, you forgot!

You just forgot! I forgot! You just forgot that you're at a hotel with some guy. Yeah, so let's be real Let's keep it 100 So what would happen? You're a single woman who cares about these other guys You do what the hell you want to do. He's saved and they don't like you. They can kiss your ass I know I know I know it was awesome We ordered pizza and chicken and um and a side of cock

No, I have not seen this cock yeah, I'm not seeing this cock yet You went to a guy's hotel and you did not see his rooster. No shut the hell I know you don't believe me, man. I'm pure So this guy let you talk his ear off and you didn't see his his rooster Well, maybe you think I talked to zero off because I know you If you if you were not gonna check out my rooster you would not be in my hotel room all night ordering room service you'd be the F out so quick like I'm not gonna waste my time if I'm visiting this city and Listen to some girl jab on night and I see my rooster F dad man, so let's be real what happened

Why are you looking at me and you want me to stop talking? You give me the look You give me the look. Damn, what's the look? You're giving me the look like stop talking about asking questions. No, no, no, no, I don't care if you guys are used to the sky that I met. He's staying here, he's in town, whatever. Winters at our house room had dinner.

Did you see his rooster? I did not see his rooster. How did you not see his rooster? I don't know, because I wasn't ready. I just met him. Just met him. I'm trying to not sleep with people right away. OK.

So how much did you make out with him? Made out. It was good He's actually a good kisser. Oh see you at least copped him making out. Yeah, we told you It was hot. It was good. Yeah Maybe you didn't see his rooster because the lights were off That's how you're getting around the question. No, but that's a good one to use in the future He's just a dude visiting from out of town And it's perfect for me those guys that come to town and visit and leave and say nice hotels that I can say That's a good one to use in the future. He's just a dude visiting from out of town.

And it's perfect for me, those guys that come to town and visit and leave and say nice hotels that I can stay out with them. I love hotels. I want to live in hotels. If you're telling the truth, which you're not, I feel bad. I feel bad for that guy. Why? The total dry hump is like not putting out your out of the hotel.

Dry hump in the house. Dry hump in the USA. So weak. Uh, yeah, I guess I'm kind of lame. I'm not saying you're lame. I'm just saying the situations. Not every guy's about sex. He maybe he appreciates me.

He probably appreciated my since lady conversation. Oh yeah, totally. He totally did not have sex with me. I talked and talked. He totally didn't want to have sex with you at all. He just wanted to. Maybe he did. And totally the company. No, I probably didn't you think you did Don't assume every man wants to fix it. No, yeah, I'm sure every sex me. Well, you orders up a huge

No, I'm sure he just wanted to hang out. That's it watch TV watching TV or some room service That's it order some movies and service it was awesome I bet I bet that was that was it was awesome. I bet that was it. Super fun. Mav. What if? Trying to take it slow. I'm taking it slow, you don't believe me. I'm not saying I'm saying he's trying to take it slow.

He is trying to take it slow. He just doesn't tell what am I going to do? Just like super that every guy comes down. No, I'm just saying like you don't hang out with guys hotel rooms. I hang out guys hotel rooms all the time whenever they come to town. My ex from LA that I don't super than you more whenever he comes down. I have more lies. I can't take it anymore. I'm really trying to change my ways.

You're changing your ways. That's cool. Okay. Let's keep going. The first time I'm going to have a drink here. It's getting hot in here. I first must say thank you. Your show is about hours of sexy, hilarious, informative entertainment into my life.

I can't wait until I've timed every day to sit down and listen to your show. I've always wanted to write in and now I finally have a great need for your advice. I am a very open-minded person and I'm up for anything sexually, but it's hard to find like-minded people here. I'm engaged to a wonderful man and up till recently, he always thought of him as a very conservative lover. Your show actually opened up a whole sex dialogue for us. I finally told him a few weeks ago that I wanted to try some light bondage like wrist and

ankle straps and blindfold. He agreed it and we tried it and it was so fun. He tied me up twice now and a week ago he told me over the phone that when he comes home from the weekend from work he wants me to tie him up. I've never thought of myself as a dominant person so I'm lost. I don't know where or how to begin doing this. I want the experience to be great for him and I was warned if you could help me. What could I wear and tips you can think of. Again, I have to say love the show. Don't ever stop. You've a natural talent for making sex an endless word and endless sex and endless world of fun and excitement. Thank you Emily.

Debra from Fondue Lock, Wisconsin. She's a premium member. Miss Concent. I love it. She said there's a lot of guys there. So I love it. I love this email. This email is so good and chock full and made my day. All right, break it down. Why? Let me break it down for you. Why? First of all, she's with someone who she thinks Debra is sexually conservative. Okay.

Is it her husband? Yeah. Yeah. Conservative lover. No, no, no. Yeah, it's a conservative lover. And she said, and um, she wanted from the show. So that's one thing. She's with a conservative guy. She thinks from the show, which is like my

intern said, it's like a dialogue. Like if you listen to this show regularly, it's not like, we just like and fun and whatever, but we're giving you real information that you can listen. A lot of people like every night, my intern goes home and listens to the show with her partner and then they take stuff from it. So it's like you can use this like you don't have to bring up the conversation. I'll bring it up for you. You just listen to it with your partner like oh I kind of want to try that. I kind of want to try that. So I love that people do that with a show. That makes me so happy. Like it helps her and she did it and now and she tied them up and he

liked it and she thought it was conservative and she tied up and he was down but now she wants to do it and she doesn't know if she could be he liked it. And she thought he was conservative, and she tied it up and he was down. But now she wants to do it, and she doesn't know if she could be down in it. So I'm gonna give her some tips there. Anyway, I just love that the show opened him up. I love that she thought he was conservative, but he was actually really into it, and I love that he tied her up and did a good job.

And- And turned around. One of the have a couple of drinks, if they learn anything from the show, it just makes everything better. Because they're not learning from you. Okay, so here's the thing. When you want to be the dominant person, it is hard because I've had a guy ask me to be

dominant with him. Yeah. It's actually recently, he's like a friend, whatever, long story short, it doesn't matter who he is. But he wants me to be like the dominant because he wants to be the submissive. He wants to be dominated. He wants me to like whip him and do all this stuff. And I thought as an experience, he's like, I'll pay for you Emily to go to Dominic Tricks and learn less stuff. And I probably thought, again, all the sake of research, like

I'm going to let the guy touch my clitoris, I should do this stuff just to learn and expand and grow on whatever. So I agree Deborah, it is hard to learn. You ever thought of yourself as dominant, but and I've been kind of grappling with this too, because I'm not really a dominant, I'm more of a submissive embed, but I think we all have that side in us. I think we can bring it out. So be very confident and decisive about what you're doing.

This is like my first thing to do, is that like, I know that you're not gonna know what you're doing, but just, you're not gonna feel like you know, but just be like, lay down. I'm gonna tie you up, like just be decisive and down. I'm going to tie you up like just be Decisive and confident with all your moves even if you think it sounds funny just because you're in charge. You're the dominant Okay Fumbling too much of bondage isn't is boring and isn't gonna inspire confidence you so don't just you don't do any perfect knots

Or anything like you could just use like a blindfold and tie his hands Make sure you know how to remove the bondage before you put it on This is only important for safety, but also helps smooth running of the scene just use like a blindfold and ties hands. Make sure you know how to remove the bondage before you put it on. This is only important for safety, but also helps smooth running of the scene. And then what's where? I would go to a store, I'd go through every city. I know you're almost constant.

I'm from Michigan, I get it. It's not as easy, but you can buy like some latex thing, you can buy even a school or uniform, something cute that's like sexy, that you feel good in boots, like blacks, stilettos or something. And just like think about like, okay, like my first bondettos or something, and just like think about, okay, like my first bonnet thing was like,

I blindfolded a guy, I've talked to this for you, blindfold him, you tie his arms up or whatever, and then you like do something and you tease him, you tease him with feathers, you tease him with chocolate, you lick chocolate on him, you tease him with ice cubes, poor ice cubes on his back, you tease him with, you know, whatever, you buy some bondage tape also, if you don't have bondage tape, that's a great thing to

use. You can buy it at a minute. But I would say just think of a few things that you want to do. Like maybe you're going to blindfold him and use a feather. Maybe you're going to blindfold him and use a massage candle. They have these amazing massage candles where you drip the wax on and it turns into a massage oil. And then if he's blindfolded, you can do all these things to him that he doesn't know what's going to happen. That's what I would say I would do. Ice cubes. Ice cubes are awesome. Have you ever done ice cubes? It's the cheap. No, no, I never done it.

Put an ice cube in your mouth when he doesn't, so he's not expecting the hot and cold sensation. So if you have one of these candles that you can burn, like they sell them at sex toy shops, I'm Service Conson. I don't know where fondue lock was consensus. Hello, AdamEve.com. Well, AdamEve.com, but I don't know how soon she wants to do this, but I would order a massage candle. I would order bondage tape and I would order like they've got sexy costumes there or whatever you want to wear. But you know, if you want to go the whole dominatic trick, I would say black sexy latex.

I think the Indiana Jones whips, you know. Sure. Whatever turned you on. So you can get your doom-templed? But you could also rent a movie. I mean, you could rent something. There's like so many dominant movies you could go to fire. Not to plug all the sponsors, but fire TV.

FYRETV.com is actually giving way 30 minutes free of porn to everybody who wants to watch it. So Deb, if you want energy, because you're a friends with benefits member, you will get that 30, anyone who becomes a friends with benefits member gets 30 minutes free. It is, they've 20,000 titles. They're the Netflix of porn. You can watch it on your iPhone, your iPad, your computer,

you can get a set top box for your television set. Like, I have, you can do whatever you want. So I would say maybe watch some other rent, you know, watch some porn and find something online, where with a woman, there's so many videos of people dominating in categories. Yeah, and some porn and find something online where with a woman there's so many videos of people dominating categories. And you can just find one and watch a woman being dominant with a man. It's another way to do it.

So watch porn about it. That's what I gotta say. Okay, more. What? No, no, no. Do you think that you want to be dominated ever? No, but I can dominate people if needed, if they wanted to be okay. Yeah, but I don't think that's not something I've Into you, but you being a dominating someone yeah, that's what they want. That's totally fun. You tell it down with that

Emily, thanks for your advice in yesterday show listening to the whole show got me thinking about toys I've always had a fantasy about a girl doing with a strap on but if I but have had anything But haven't had anything in that area. And I'm confused with type of toy to get. Thanks again, Justin. He's a premium member. You know if you're a premium, friends with benefits member, that you get all that you get answers

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wanted to just want to penetrate someone. I've never had that desire as much, but I feel like again, for the sake of research, I should do it at some point. Dependent trait of guy. Yeah. I'm sure there's a lot of guys out there that would be down for it.

That's not. I know, but I don't know who. Probably the guy that wants to be dominated by me, I would think the guy, my friend, who's like, we you go do this dominatrix class but I don't know who. Probably the guy that wants to be dominated by me, I would think. The guy, my friend, who's like, we you go do this dominatrix class, I'll pay for you. I'm like, yeah, that's cool. Can I penetrate you, Analy?

That's cool, man. If only that can penetrate you, he'd be down. He'd be down. I'm not gonna do it. Okay, maybe. I gotta do more. I gotta get out there. I gotta get out there.

I gotta get out there. I gotta get out there. I gotta get out expanding. Yeah. Dear Emily, love the show. I masturbate and my parents catch me sometimes. Any advice? My parents catch me. P.S. your podcast rocks. Kevin from Skype. Thanks Kevin.

Kevin, he was on Skype. Okay, Kevin. Lock the door. Do it in the shower. I don't know. What do you do to hide from your parents, man? This is when you're going to do it. Yeah, it's doing the shower, man.

Right? Is that what guys do? Yeah, that's what we do. They do the shower. Lock the door. Yeah. Put your bed in front of the door so your mom can never get in your bedroom. That's the easiest thing. Don't do in the bedroom. No, you can't because your mom really walks into the conny.

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or wait until your parents are gone, but they're going to come in your room. They always do. Yeah. My mom once walked in the bathroom and me. me I was using the I was saying a bath and I was using the The faucet the water coming out of the faucet to master like it felt really A lot of women do that. Yeah, they expressed that so I was like oh my god It feels so good. I'm mom walking she's like oh, I'm sorry. It was so bear. I was like 20 though

I'm like look I'm washing. I'm making sure I'm cleansed. It's not what you think. Yeah, exactly So that was embarrassing, but it's my mom who's the coolest check out the planet. Yeah, she wasn't but it was just a I was baptizing my vagina Exactly. I was baptizing my vagina. Okay, we've got to get in the sex topic. We've got ten minutes I don't even know what happened. Okay, all right starts having sex, the greater his or her chances of becoming infected with an STD. We are going to talk about STDs right now. I just want you to bear with me because everyone, like, no, no, I remember I was the first

one ever to have an STD show. Remember I brought it up a long time ago. No. Yeah, I brought in some guy that some STD experts he never remember anything and when we first got together we first got together on free FM yeah I had this guy in and you were against it you're like oh it's not sexy so now the roles have been reversed not did you hate me then not I then. I was maybe frustrated with you with that stuff.

I didn't know anything. Okay. The younger people. But that's on the path. People who have had sexual contact, not just in a course, but any forms of intimate activity with many different partners are more at risk than those who stay with the same partner. So if you know a man horror or a woman horror, you're not sure. So that means you should only have sex with one person and then you should marry that person for life

and you'll be fine exactly No, that sounds like what you're promoting. That's not realistic. Why is that not realistic? I'm not promoting. I'm saying people with sexual contact not just in the course But any forms of interactivity with many different partners So don't have sex with multiple partners Don't have sex with that if you're worried about getting STD We're gonna tell you about ways to prevent it. But I'm also saying that if you're with this guy or this woman

who you know sleeps around a lot, they're more likely, you're more likely to get to have an STD. Now, many people have STDs and don't even know that they have them. That is a big concern. That people have them. They're walking around. They've got herpes.

They've got things. It hasn't even shown up on them. And so this is a problem. The 10 most common S.O. Latex comments are the only for a birth control that reduced your risk of getting an S.E.D. and must be used every time. You must use condoms every time. Top 10 most common S.E.D.s, syphilis, chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes, a AIDS, hepatitis, general warts, cancroyd, public lice, crabs,

trichimosanus, try, chisholmaniasis, I don't know what that is, but it's common. How can I protect myself from STDs? Use a latex common every time you have sex. If you use a lubricant, make sure it's water-based.

Limit your number of sexual partners. Practice monogamy. I'm just saying, these are ways you can avoid it. I'm not saying you're gonna do it. I'd better say. So your preach of monogamy. I'm not gonna mean. Yeah, I'm like, I'm like Barbara Bush.

Give me some monogamy. Monogamy is truly a way to let me. Yeah. So why are you against it? I'm not against monogamy. I wish that I was, I wish that I was a monogamy. Why are you anti monogamy?? I'm not against monogamy. I wish that I wish that I was I wish that I was I'm trying monogamy. I wish I was in a monogamy. Why can I say a monogamy today? I wish I was in a monogamous relationship and super happy in like monogamous right now. That would be so interesting

That would just be an interesting side of me wouldn't it? If I was like oh my hubby and I would be crazy Are my partner and I last night made dinner and and me watching movie? It would be a side that I've never seen of you before I Don't think it's gonna happen anytime soon. Choose your partners with care. Don't have sex with someone who you suspect has an SD. Get checked for SD's. Don't risk giving the affection to someone else. Don't use alcohol or drugs before you have sex, menace.

You may be likely, you must maybe let less likely to use a condom if you're drunk or high. Oh, I'm never drunk or high, so I should be fine. Know the signs and symptoms of STDs. Look for them in yourself and your sex partners. Learn to buy STDs, STDs. The more you know the better you can protect yourself. So what are the symptoms?

Look at somebody. I mean, I can look at people and know what they have. Really? I'm scared. Sometimes there are no symptoms of STDs. If symptoms are present, they may include one or more of the following. Bumps, sores, warts near the mouth, ainess, penis or vagina, swelling or redness. It's true. I don't know as a woman.

I've known as bumps on guys' penises and been like, what the hell is that? I've been like, what is it? It's just like skin grafts and that's not anything. I actually, I will tell the story. It's a very personal story, but it was a guy that I was dating for a while. I ended up dating him for like two years, but he had like a wart and he didn't know what it was. And it was just sitting there. And like, I didn't think God didn't catch anything, but it worked. You can, they're not like her bees. You don't have them forever, but he got it, went in and got it taken off. But that thought it was just some weird growth, but it was a war, which is gross, which is not gross.

I was like, go take care of that. Skin rash, these are other things, but I'm saying, like, look at your mind, look at your person's penis, or if you're going down a woman, like check out her vagina, she might not even know, but she might have some skin, or so some other things, you have a skin rash, is painful urination, weight loss, loose stools, night sweats, aches, pains, fevers and chills, yellowing of the skin, discharged from the penis of vagina, bleeding from the vagina after sex, painful sex, severe itching near the penis of vagina. That's what you gotta look for. That's hot, right? How to talk to your partner about SCDs and bring up sexual history?

This is a big one. Listen. Here are some ideas for just getting the conversation started. Just ask the question, have you ever had an SCD? See what happens. Data shows that a lot of people lie, particularly the casual sex partners, but others will be quite honest with you. So a lot of people do lie about it. They have to, like, but you should not lie, you should be honest, and it's not the end of the world, and people will stupid with you. Because you can, there's way, we're going to have a ways to have sex if you do have herpes ways that you can have sex.

Get tested. Since it's just as possible that you've an STD you are unaware of, get tested. That way you can share your information and hopefully get an honest response return. If you both think to be tested, you could plan to go together. Share your history. Let your partner know about your status and how you handle it, especially if you have an STD like Herpes that can never be fully cured. Discuss prevention.

There are some steps you can take on your own, such as getting vaccinated against HPV and being prepared with your own condoms, but safe sex usually takes two. Five questions to ask your partner before having sex. Have you ever been tested positive for sexually transmitted disease? Menace, if you've been diagnosed with herpes or general awards, are you having outbreaks? Are you being treated? Do you have any objection to using a condom? Are you on any form of birth control, which sexual activities do you want to engage in?

These are the questions you have to have. Like I was dating a guy and I found, this was years ago, and I found in his drawer, not that I was going through his drawers, it was not the pills, the, uh, herby pills, uh, what are they called? They're called, uh, uh, damn it, I forget. I know what it is though. They're treated with anybody X, it's called, X, something X. I can't remember what it was,

but I know it was a herbie drug. And he never told me he had herpes. And we were using condoms all the time. And thank God he was taking the drug because the drug does stop you from having outbreaks. I can't think of the name of it, it's killing me right now. there's like a typical there's like two or three dogs and everyone takes favorite bees And I was like and I never said anything. Val tracks Val tracks. Thank you. Yeah, I never said anything to him because I felt that we were being safe and I wasn't even that into it was this was years ago

But I just was like why didn't you tell me but I then I don't think I asked Anyway, look at their medicine cabinet, find out if they're herbys. I'm serious. Where can I get an SCD test, your local Planned Parenthood Health Center, many other clinics, private healthcare providers, and healthcare departments offer SDD tests?

Well, you can get home once now. Can you? Yeah. I didn't know that. How are SCDs treated with many or treating with antibiotics? Okay, if you're dating someone with herpes, how do you protect yourself if you keep having sex?

Use latex condom, latex condom offers some protection. Your partner should tell you when symptoms flare up, which is when the virus is most contagious, avoid sex when your partner has symptoms. So when they're having the flare ups, like right the first few days is when you should totally avoid it. And if they're on valve tracks, or they're taking some kind of

drug for it, they're not going to have as many outbreaks, but if they're not, okay, here's some myths about general herpes and STDs. Okay, myth one, I have general herpes, I should never have sex again. It's a myth. You can still have sex if you have general herpes, minus. It is, however important to avoid sexual contact if you have any symptoms of oral or general stores. It is important to note too that the virus can be transmitted orally to the genitals during oral sex. So, that's what they were talking about. I'm Jersey Shore, just to bring it back. Is that giving performing oral sex? If I have herpes and it's on my mouth and I'm giving oral sex to someone.

A man you can put on his weener. Yep, that's why people get cultures all the time. Mm-hmm. Okay, myth two cultures are not associated with general herpes. Cultures are caused by herpes, simplex virus type one. If you've oral genital sex with someone who is a cold sore, the virus can give you general herpes and vice versa.

It's just scary. Can you listen to this? I'm listening. I'm taking it all in. The light of this particularly high during outbreak, washing with sober water after a sexual encounter can help decrease the risk of this type of transmission. Myth 3, you can contract general herpes from toilet seats. It's actually not true. The general herpes virus dries out when it's exposed to air and it's quite fragile.

There have been no proving case of general herpes' transition from a toilet seat. But still, it used to cheat, man. It put the put the sheet down. Stress can trigger the truth. Here's a truth. Stress can trigger an outbreak of herpes. It is believed that physical and emotional stress can trigger an outbreak of general herpes in some people.

Stress can compromise your immune system. So get out of crit rest and exercise. So that's how if you will under stress, it's gonna flare up. Here's a truth. If you have general herpes, you may be more susceptible to HIV. That sucks. Yep. Myth 6, general herpes can make you sterile. General herpes cannot make you sterile. However, chlamydia and some other sexually-traumatic chemists can call sterility if they go untreated. Okay. Myth 7, we got to go after this. I've been in a monogamous relationship with my partner for several years and just been diagnosed with general herpes. My partner must have cheated on me. Oh no. This

is a good one. You or your partner may have contacted the virus from a sexual partner a long time ago. Or you or your partner may have had general herpes all along without knowing it General herpes outbreaks can occur with very mild sense of symptoms that go on notice So here she might not have cheated on you so they don't know who that's the thing It's like you can't place it like it's not like some guy gave it to you or some girl. You don't know Okay, we're gonna have to get through the rest of these tomorrow. Okay Because oh tomorrow. I'm so excited for tomorrow show we're gonna have julia allison on the show we're talking about technology in relationship

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