Sex With Emily - Episode 272 - Reasons for Cheating

Episode Date: August 16, 2011

Is cheating in our bones? No, that’s called marrow. But what about our genes? Today Emily talks about biological explanations for cheating, signs your partner is cheating, how to confront a possibly cheating partner, and the reasons why men and women cheat. They also discuss what not to do with handcuffs, how to evict an overstaying boyfriend, the new anti-date-rape straw, sex on Mars, how to handle a not-so-well endowed man, sexy voices, why men love reverse cowgirl, finger play for women, and female masturbation. Don’t cheat yourself by missing out! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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It's safe. You know what? Tired, you can't wake up. Wow. Are you homeless? Why no? What's going on? It was a long weekend, dude.

Really? Yeah, I mean, you know, menist was like over time like I shouldn't even complain about me being tired so what happened this weekend there was a big music festival yes big music festival it's called outside lands some of the headliners were arcade fire muse deadmouse I can't there was there was so many bands right shins the shins and It's about maybe four foot football fields long. Yes, and maybe it could be even more I don't even know with hills with hills and dirt and dust and

hiking nature yes, and constantly walking back and forth and back and forth and i'm here and over here and trying to meet friends and the cell phones are working and blah blah blah blah and we want to go to this show we want to go to that show oh and i'm hungry oh and i got a pee and did i mention i need a drink like literally it was like around of just like drinks peeing concert music walking walking drink i mean it's fun

it's kind of exhausting that's why i've been dead because it's the same thing at La La Plus and Chicago, which I just did the week before. I know, dude, how did you do both of them? I'm so, I'm done. I'm done. After this, I'm going to bed. Do you see anything weird, crazy sexy?

At the concert? Crazy sexy. Any hot backstage actions? Hot backstage action. No, I was kind of dead this year But I didn't joy like the first day there was already this girl like puking at like 1 p.m And the thing started at 12. Yeah. Oh my gosh She was probably doing some day party. He had a little

Mimosas with her breakfast or something. Yeah, but there was definitely I Kind of knock this area saying all are all the beautiful women at? But then they show up at the concert. At the concert. I thought there was a hot, I thought it was a good looking crowd. Yeah, there was really good looking. For sure.

Yeah. But I didn't mean anyone. You didn't mean anybody. No. What were you doing in the concert? I was wasting time walking in circles looking for people. Seriously? That's it?

Yeah, it was fun. No, I was listening to music, hanging out with friends. I had VIP, which was awesome for three days, which was great, because you can kind of get away from the people. The masses, the commoners. The commoners, exactly. And it was fun, good music.

I was a little tired. Like, you got to get out there, and then you got to get back until the miles to get there. But I went, it was fun. My friend had the foods amazing. Did you get to get out there and then you got to get back until the miles to get there but I went it was fun my friend had the foods amazing did you get to get in the food oh I had great food oh yeah I didn't have anything classy but I had like you're like a tater tots I had tater tots oh I did have something kind of I had I was it I had sliders but it was flaming y'all. Oh flaming y'all. Sliders and yeah but we do we get free beer backstage. Oh that's good. Oh say you love beers. Beer and ice cream. There's this guy

called the ice cream man and he travels to all these music festivals and he's sponsored by like Ben and Jerry's and all he does is hand out free ice cream. Oh I missed him. I would have been so happy if I saw him. I see them all over the country. Wow. And then I lost my phone. No. I lost my phone, but I got it back. Was that because you were wasted?

Yeah. And one of those girls that were wasted. I've never lost my phone because I was not in the best state of mind I have to say. And I got there starting night late, because I was just to get the earlier and this whole Chain of events happened that prevented me from getting there Those chain events chain of events sound interesting. They were so um

Want to share? Yeah, no, I was making out this guy in Dolores Park Okay, this guy that I'm dating whatever it was fun So I was late meeting my friends and I was in the sun in Dolores Park, which was actually sunny and really, really nice, because the rest of the friggin' city and where this park is is cold, where the outside lands. So then I was drinking, hanging out the park, Dolores Park is this really fun park

on the weekends, and I was just going, I was like, oh, gotta get the concert meet on my friends. So I got to the concert, and I couldn't find my friend, like I just couldn't, and they were like, where it lands on, and I just was messed up, and couldn't find my friend, like I just couldn't, and they were like, we're at Lanzin and I just was messed up and couldn't find in as walking in circles and I was like, I think I'll have some pizza though. And then you got some calamari and then I was eating food, trying to find them. I know I'm super fun. And then I finally found my friend at the very end who had a limo, which was the perfect time to find her. Because getting out of there was a cluster F.

And so she took me home and it was really fun. So getting home, no problem. But my phone, so I don't know what I did. Like, you know me, I'm phone obsessed. Like phone is right here. Like it's never too far away for me. And then all of a sudden I was like buying food and it was gone. And I had one of those purses with like 100 zippers in it.

So I sat down on the floor, methodically, went through the floor. I sat down on the dirt and I methodically went through every single zipper and just to find it was gone. So when I ran into my friend Lindsay at the end of the night, she was, oh my god, you lost your phone. He called me. The guy who had your phone because she was the last person I'd sat to blah, blah, blah, blah. I got it back the next day. But losing your phone just sucks. Yeah. And I had plans to meet up with people later in the night. I never got my phone back the next day. But losing your phone just sucks. Yeah, that's what I planned to meet up with people later in the night. I never got my phone back the next morning.

So whatever. That's terrible. It was terrible. It was terrible. But we missed you on Friday. In terms of going wild again, when you're not here, and you miss it. Oh, real quick though.

But if anybody want to see a bunch of photos, I took a lot of time. Oh, good. I took two thousand of them. And it's up on my blog. You took two thousand photos over the weekend. It's so, it's up on your blog. took 2000 photos over the weekend. What's your blog white menace.com? white menace.com just go there and you'll see all the stuff are they any pictures of you?

No, they should be more pictures of you pictures of the band and stuff like that after band. I don't know our pictures of men Oh, no No, okay, so the other thing I have to say is that um Facebook do you know that every day if you like the Facebook page and you might have already liked it, which is awesome, it's sex with Emily, Facebook.com, slash, Facebook.com, slash, sex with Emily, we're giving away three free month membership if you like us on Facebook. So we want to congratulate all the winners we've been posting on the sex with Emily page

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I'm sponsored by Sion where I get a car through Sion, but since the Japan earthquake happened the new car I'm supposed to get I don't have it yet. Right. So I'm like a month without a car right now. Got it. And I had to get home and my house is so far away from... So far away. And there's thousands of people. Right, it's crazy.

And you can't get a cab unless you want to get in a bus that's just jam packed with people. It's terrible. So what there is, there's a service called Uber. You go to uber.com and it's an app that you can download for your phone and it uses GPS for where you're at and you go, okay, pick me up and you just click a button and a private town car comes by. No way. Pulls up right in front of you just take the town car home.

How about all the people? What's everyone like? Oh, that's my town car, that's my town car. They know you're name and everything. They know your name and everything. I heard a lot of people talking about that. Yeah, and you just pay through your phone and everything. Wow, is it, they charge you more though?

They charge you a little bit more. It's worth it. It's worth it. Because you cannot, if you've never been Stanford's as good, there's a few things you need to know. In the winter, I mean, in the summer it's freezing. So like we're all at the park and we're freezing. I had a cashmere sweater hat and gloves

and my nose was running because I was so cold. And the other thing you need to know is you can never ever get a cap and if there's a concert with 40-50,000 people 90,000 people not gonna be the day you're gonna get a cap. Yeah Hours so thank god my friend she came like a beacon of light and Said we have a limo right over here Emily and it was perfect and they drove me home nice I know.

And the first night my friend was a vendor because his restaurant was there. So we got to he had a parking spot. Cool. Yeah, so it wasn't too much of a, it wasn't too bad. So yeah. Any other good stories? Not really. Okay, honey.

Just to people, I've been dealing with this my entire like ever since I started doing like media coverage at like concert events What do you mean we can't hang out? You know how I'm like no, I can't you work the whole time I know I texted you I was like where are you but I didn't think I'd really see you Yeah, but remember when we were the day before it happened I showed you my schedule Yeah, my schedule was down to the minute. Yeah, yeah, the entire I showed you my schedule. Like my schedule was down to the minute. Yeah, yeah, yeah. The entire time.

Some of the bitches will hang out with you another time. I know, but I just like, oh man, it is so rough. Like no one, they don't understand. Like even the, oh yeah, okay, cool, yeah, whatever. And they go, I mean, they still get upset. Like people, this like, a lot of people get upset. That's not the front. I would never get upset with you.

I understand that you're busy, but I still detect you to see where you're at. Okay, some, okay, we're gonna be reading, some, we've got some good topics today. Okay, emails, topics, include, overstaying your welcome at someone's house. Sexy voices, reverse cowgirl and female handjobs. And the teaser for today's show is the topic is why do we cheat and can relationship survive in a fair? And we just posted on Facebook and someone wrote, we cheat because we are all horny bastards. Some guy just commented that.

Menace doesn't cheat, but that's what they say. So we're going to talk about cheating, how to deal with it, what to do, what are the signs of someone's cheating, which comes up a lot because people are cheating all over the place. Can I ask you something real quick before we get into that? I just wanted to tease people so they know what's going on. You mentioned that it was an intern Friday thing and I wasn't here, so what the hell happened on Friday? What the hell happened on Friday?

What's our free Friday show? And my interns went speed dating and they talked about their speed dating event, their speed dating adventures. And speed dating is really cool. They went to a hurry date event because here's the thing're speed dating adventures. And speed dating is really cool. They went to a hurry date event because here's the thing about speed dating. Is everyone's dating online now? But if you go speed dating, you got an hour

and you meet 20 people and then you go home. Like otherwise you got to date with one person and that's about one hour, at least that you guys don't have the person unless you're me and I get it in 45 minutes. But if you're with them for an hour, you might as well meet that many people and you've five minutes, so the woman sits in one place

and the guys rotate around you and then you have five minutes, they ring a bell and you talk. So they do that, they once be dating and they had some matches, they had fun, they didn't meet like the guy of their dreams, but they had good times. I'm trying to think what would have us happen, what else, anything else crazy? That was like just said something that was terrible.

Does anyone say anything? I think, well, I think there was a problem. The guy in the bar. Oh, they were talking about how there was no cute guys or something. And then the guy in the bar was saying, right next to them, that was bad. Oh, man. He was just, I girls are so hard. But the problem is I also got them a little drunk before they went because it was one of the interns last days. Under a birthday? Yeah. So I got some shots and the bartender was buying them shots. So they were a little wasted. So, but you know I had to go speed dating a few years ago for work and I took them research and I liked it. I actually did. I think I had a boyfriend

at the time but I was doing it for work. I really was doing it for work. But I remember meeting a few guys that I thought were really cute. So I was gonna go, I am gonna go at some point, just do it for fun. But that's what we talked about. And you know, various other things.

You'll have to listen to this. It's a lot more tame than last time, it seems. Yeah, like no one got naked and crazy. Not that they got naked last time. They just talked about all their sex life. It's amazing, my interns really, it changed my life. They have, they got all those great stories. They learning stuff.

You know, you see it's like having children. It's like you see like when you know, and then they come in and then they learning all the other stuff on their own and it's like exploring and growing and changing and all that stuff. Their sexuality is expanding. Their sexual life. It's amazing to see.

It's amazing to watch. Okay, sex in the news. It's amazing to see it's amazing to watch. Okay, section the news What's in the news here's we got in the news new birth control rules may shake up behavior You heard about the new birth control rules that Obama has said that we are now going to be paying for contraception Health plans will have to cover contraception and contraception in seven other women's preventive care items. Okay. So half of our US pregnancies are unintended,

a rate that's unchanged in 30 years. And about one and three women will have an abortion by the time she's 45. So teen pregnancy has gone down considerably. The unplanned pregnancy rate among their older siblings has remained high. About seven and 10 pregnancies among married women in their 20s are unplanned.

So next year, it'll be interesting to see what happens when they have like the methods approved by the US food. Like they're going to pay for this. This is huge. They're going to pay for birth control pills, patches, injections, implants, vaginal rings, condoms, sterilization, IUDs, and emergency and morning afterpills. Now all that shit we had to pay for it before. Yeah. That's a lot of stuff that women have to say. I fully endorse it. I just don't know where the money's coming from If you are people are gonna be complaining about that. I don't know men get everything else for free They can only get men get like biographer free or whatever. I don't know. I know I definitely know Anyway, this is a big deal that this is finally happening because it just makes sense. Okay, but I yeah, I fully support it

Okay, I don't mind my tax dollars going to that because if you really if it's preventing a lot of stuff People don't want to bring into the world. Right. Right. I'm gonna have to pay for that anyways Yeah, and a lot of women have cited that it's just expensive and that's why they don't get birth control So now it's all gonna be available. This is just major major move forward Okay, scientists develop straw that detects date rate drugs. So, is really scientists have dropped a new device that looks like a swizzle stick but can actually detect date rate drugs that might have been putting into your drink. The device which goes on sale this month is able to pick up on traces of GHB

and ketamine, two of the most common place date rate drugs. Using a chemical reaction in the straw, a red light comes on, alerting the user that their drink has been spiked. Wow. Can you imagine if you're like bow to like dive into like your martini and it was being spiked, that would talk. Have you ever been date raped? I was once.

What? I was in Indonesia. I was traveling alone and I got, I was on a little island in Indonesia, this tiny island and my friends and I got, not date rape, I didn't get raped, but it was a date rape drug. Like we were, we were totally knocked off our ass. I, uh, not having a date rape, but I've definitely like, I've never been date raped. Let me let me let you just say that. I've definitely blacked out where it seemed like it was.

Right. I was wake up the next morning with so much business cards. I'm like, I don't even remember talking to you. Exactly, that's when you throw them away, because they won't remember you either. No, but I was like in the Indonesia, we were like, thought we were gonna like, take some psychedelic mushrooms or something,

but it ended up just knocking us out. That's bad. It was really bad. I didn't, my eyesight was gone for like two days. Uh-huh. I was traveling alone 25 years old in the middle of freaking nowhere. I hear mom let you do that. That's crazy.

Yeah, this is before, before like it was easy to make phone calls from other places. Like you didn't have your own cell phones and stuff like that. It was very sad. My mom didn't care. She doesn't care. Can you tell? Why, I'm the way I am the way I am. Yeah. She's like, what do I have to have fun? Write me a letter. What we just gonna say? Nothing. I'm just like, I don't know.

My mom was worried she's working she should have been okay follow up story this a follow up story from last week sex scandalized airline cancels ill-time to add campaign so i i don't know if you were here but there was i think this is the same story is a two people the pilot who's getting a orals for getting oral sex from a ten aflight attendant

and so okay so i was flying on clear it was not clear first. I know. I know. Hong Kong. Yeah, Roadhead can happen in the air. Okay. Hong Kong based airline says two of its employees who were shown in compromising positions are no longer employees of the company. The advertising campaign with the slogan claiming the airline is the team who goes the extra mile to make it feel special was canceled yesterday We imagine that

This pilot was like yeah getting rural sex in the cockpit now. Maybe it was his lunch break But you still shouldn't be doing that shit and take pictures of it If he was doing it in the air, I would give that guy high five No, what if you are exactly? But he's like flying this plane for all these people he hasn't crash in the planes as he so will never know because he was fired uh... weak

okay could put could porn help prevent rape a new report suggests that pornography could deter sexual violence the study says that porn could actually lower the amount of sexual violence some experts of the report believe the consumption of pornography may actually reduce the desire to rape by offering a safe, private outlet for deviant sexual desires. The report also states the professor of psychology and criminal justice who says that the low porn is more available now than it's ever been rates of rape and sexual assault in the

US or the lowest level since the 60s. But how are they tying that into porn? Why is it because, I don't know if it's because of porn that the rates have gone down? But I guess there was a study. Maybe some people are getting in there, they're like, oh, I was gonna go rape and kill this woman, but instead I just watched porn about it. What's porn is found?

Team Banger's nine. Exactly, I think I'll just watch some pervy stuff on my internet here. Yeah, but that's good. I guess if the rates have gone down on my internet here. Yeah, that's good. I guess if the rates have gone down, but I don't know if that's why. But porn preventing rape. I think if you're somebody's going to rape someone, you're probably going to rape someone. But let's hope they're right. Okay, Taco Bell worker.

Taco Bell worker Jason Dean allegedly handcuffed himself to women who refuse dates. Oh yeah. I heard about this. Desperate, can you say desperate, a Taco Bell employee came out a bit too strongly when he allegedly handcuffed himself to a coworker who rejected his romantic advances for weeks. Jason Deane's overtures were meant to be, were met with repeated rejection from his would-be sweetheart identified only as Rebecca. 18 year old Rebecca even scheduled her work hours to deliberately avoid overlapping shifts.

She told police she was leaving for work when Dean shut up wanted to talk. When she refused he cuffed his wrists to her. A trio of Taco Bell employees saw the commotion and demanded he release her. He was arrested as home to his later. That sounds crazy. She's working with some crazy people. I have to say, if men who wanted to date me, I've never had a guy like Lisa, he was arrested as home to his later. That sounds crazy. She's working with some crazy people. I have to say, if men who's wanted to date me,

I've never had a guy with like, handcuffs himself to me. Well, what I heard from the story is that he kept on asking her out and then, instead of her like saying something, she just asked to be changed shifts. Right. So when she changed shifts,

that's when he got upset and then he just showed up until when she was gonna have work and then he threw the handcuffs on. Is he thinking that the handcuffs is gonna be somehow like a great, this great fact that it's gonna win her over? She's gonna be like, oh my God, like you know handcuffs, that was a good move. You are the one that I've been waiting for

by the entire life. Great move with the handcuffs. I feel so fly, little dog. I feel so connected with you right now. I know, God, I wouldn't it yet. Okay, we've got some more penis mischief. We've had a few penis stories in the last few weeks. So some guy last week, were you here when the guy shot his penis for the pink pistol?

No. Yeah. Some do shot his penis for the pink pistol this week. And this week, penis mischief, there were some genital synopsis. When a 20 year old man exposed his penis to a woman at a bar She said it on fire as all good women should do the woman says he's not he not only exposed himself but groped her There's reports that she splashed the man's penis for San Bucca then used a lighter to set it on fire Wow, the man is recovering from second to for second degree burns on his chest and Adam and Okay, dude stop showing your dicks Like I don't understand. I don't know. I don't understand how guys get off on that where they just like the whole flashing thing

I know they're like she's gonna because because you know what it's a numbers game. They're like Some women's gonna find that Oh way Never Don't be like no woman I'm not encouraging it gonna find that hot like oh my god. I want this guy now. I'm not encouraging it. Get a find that hot, like, oh my God, I want this guy now. I'm not, I'm not.

I hear about stories on public transit all the time of guys whipping out their weeners and front chicks. Exactly. I don't get, I don't get it either. I told you it happened to me at Bunch in New York that one time. The thinking, like the thinking behind that, I don't like that.

It is nothing to do with a person as to with their own like fetishes Yeah, like their own like outdoor like their own obsessions with with flashing people I do not try that with me because I will murder you violently You'll pour Senbuka on their penis and light it up light it up flame Okay, NASA must study space act scientists as the Journal of cosmology has published a special issue detailing the mission to Mars. In a chapter titled Sex on Mars, the author discusses everything from the social conditions that would push astronauts have sex to the possibility of the first child being born on another planet. The chapter details a possible effects of anti-gravity,

menstruation, and fertility as well as significance of a child born on Mars. On Mars, the lights can be different, the gravity of the different, it's a completely different atmosphere. So if you put an infant on Mars, they would adapt to that varying degrees of the new environment. So they're talking about having sex and space and kids and Mars. We're not even going to space anymore though. Why?

Because all this mess up, stuff is happening. This is cost so much. I know, I know, but they're studying it. Maybe they should be studying other stuff. I don't know, but that's what's happening with that. OK, so I've got some emails. All right, what do you got? Well, this is what I've got.

Did they say where they're from? I like when they say where they're from. Yeah, if you buy this email, say that where you're from. Just say where you're from. And you can change your name. We don't care if you want to change your name, call yourself anything you want. But we just want to know where you're from.

Helps us a lot. OK, so I just want to say this again, that we are having this Facebook event, and if you want three months free of X Family, you all use to use like the Sex Family Facebook page. Every day, one person is randomly selected to win, and if you're already a fan, you're still eligible. So if you're selectable, send you message. So please do that.

Here's our new poll on sexwithemily.com. It's very simple. Have you ever had sex with a coworker? Yes? Or no? That's it. That's it. We already know minus his answer. He slept his way half way around the building. So yes. I aimed to please. I go the extra mile. I know. You do. Or you don't because you just date the women who are right there. You're like, Hey, you're sitting next to me in the cubicle. Let's bang. What's wrong with that? Nothing wrong with that, dude. I've done it. So I did talk about that on Friday. Was that Friday? Talked about the sex in the office? I talked about having

sex with this guy at this job. I had like the long time ago, but we closed the store and had sex in the office. No one knew we were dating. It was fairly scandalous. You missed that story on Friday. So go vote at sexwz.com and do that right now and send us your questions. Any sex questions you have? We will answer them right here. Sex and relationships, questions we've got them. Hi, Emily and Menace. I have a relationship question. My boyfriend of a year and a half seems to be, seems to overstate his welcome a lot. He knows I don't want to live together because I'm not ready for that big step, but he has stayed in my house for about a month straight, slowly moving little things in and it's driving me nuts.

I recently told him not to come over one night and he had a tantrum, asking me if everything's okay, are we breaking up, etc. I'm feeling smothered and it's making me question the relationship. What should I do? FYI, I've had the talk with him numerous times about needing space thanks Michelle from Nottingham, Maryland. She's a premium, friends with benefits member, which is why we're answering your email first.

Okay, dude, Michelle, what do you like about this guy? I'm not clear. He sounds sort of like a drip. He sounds sort of like a vagina. He sounds sort of like a giant like menacellate. Not that I label people, but no really. Like you ask them to stay, you've had the top with him and he's still staying. Does he not have money? Does he just being a deadbeat? Does he not have a job? Is he... If he stay... Maybe he's a cleaner.

If he stay with you for months straight as he's offering to pay things and do things around the house, that's one thing. You should at least be very grateful, but you also told him that you're not ready for that step yet. So I'm surprised that he's not moving out. So it sounds like there's probably other he's not hearing you, because he's like is he in a desperate situation, which also is not attractive.

Or is he in love? No, he's not in love. He's being a deadbeat. She told him to move out, basically. What should she do? She's at the top with numerous times about needing space. I think you need to spell it out. I think a lot of times, let me just say this, Michelle, is that a lot of times people think they're having the talk and they're not having the talk.

So the fact that you've said you've had it several times and you seem like an articulate smart woman to me, you haven't really had the talk. You've never had the talk that you've had with me saying, I don't want him here. He's smothering me and it's making me question in the relationship. That's the kind of talk you have to have with him. This kind of stuff that you think that you can probably like, well, you know, it's been a month and I'm just wondering, when do you think you might be moving out? No, no, that's probably the kind of talk you're having with you. You're not saying, not cool. We live together.

I mean, I'm not ready to move into each other. What's your plan for moving out? So that's what you got to say to him or just end the relationship. He's just being, if he's sucking the life out of you Say dooses man. What do you think I think? It's disrespectful you got to give him a if you're already told the move out You got to put a time limit you got to put a time limit on this day. I need you out And I think that's great. I think it's like what month is it now?

August you could be like okay by September 1st I hope you have a place because I really don't think that he's not listening to you. And that's the first time, like, where else is, I know what else I want to know Michelle? Where else in the relationship is he not hearing you? I think you should look at that too. Because usually it's not just an isolated incident. Hi, Emily, as a very happy friends with benefits member,

I was listening to an episode recently where Menace was gone, and one of your interns was kind of sitting in for him and co-hosting the show with you. I kept thinking, wow, she has a really cute and sexy voice. And then it suddenly hit me that she sounds amazingly like the sexy voice in her in a podcast that I used to listen to a few years ago, where the woman would read sexy orotic stories. So I'm just curious, is this the same girl from that podcast? Maybe?

Keep with the great work, Dee, from Cincinnati. It is not. As far as I'm concerned, it was either Aaron or Kelsey, I think. And they're both have super sexy voices, Kelsey's a little whisper, when you say Kelsey's a little like, has a raspier voice. Yeah. And Aaron's like really sweet and sexy. So I'm not sure who it was, but no.

As far as I know, they've not been on other podcasts pouring themselves out just here. OK. Yeah, Emily. Dear Emily, you missed it. Just a thought on reverse cowgirl. My wife gets very frustrated when we were having sex and she is on top.

Because with a woman on top, I rarely achieve a finish and she thinks it is something wrong with her. One night a few years ago, we tried that reverse cowgirl position and the finish hem came quicker than expected. I think she may have gone to the bathroom and high five for stuff in the mirror afterwards. Peace, Scott. Okay, this is interesting.

So reverse cowgirl is when the woman is like she's on tap, but she's reverse and she's facing her knees. That's where I put it, right? So she's not looking at you. She's looking at your feet, your knees. And you are able's looking at your feet, your knees, and you are able to look at it. And the reason why you probably were able to go so quickly, peace, Scott, is because

when a woman, this position is very popular, I think, for men because they love watching their penis go in and out, and you can see the woman's ass going up and down, and it can be kind of hot for a lot of men. Maybe that's why. And so she hiked herself because she's like, wow, I was finally on top and she was finally able to have an orgasm. That's awesome.

You found, versus co-girl. But that thing that I have to say is that your wife is getting frustrated that she's on top and you can't finish. That is something else to get frustrated about because we all have our ways that we can finish. And a lot of guys can't finish with a woman on top. Many men can, many men can, maybe you can learn it. but if that's on how you finish and you got to roll over and get on top or do whatever you have to do, I don't think she should get frustrated that she's

not turning you on. A lot of guys can't. Yeah, just let her do her thing and get to her point and then just go into a different position. Yeah, bro, I don't understand. I'm not sure why, um, why I poms her out, but I guess I'm not the chick that gets bummed out about that stuff. And I get that women do because they feel like what, one of the biggest issues women have during sex that they're insecure. Like across the board and they overanalyze it and they're insecure. Well, same thing is being insecure.

They're overanalyzing their insecure. She thinks, oh my god, I probably looked fat when I was on top and it wasn't turning them on. Like that's probably what they're going to remind. And so, so you just have to reassure that it's like nothing to do with her. She totally floats your boat, turns you on, but you just need to be on top or wherever you need to be behind her. That's how I feel.

Hey, Emily and Menace, I like how you two talk about what really happens in real sex life and the tips you share with us. What do you think about the hand job performed on women? Jose from Mexico. The hand job performed on women? Jose from Mexico. The hand job performed on women. Yeah, what about performing, what about like fingering a woman? What about performing your, what about using your hand on a woman? What do we think about it? What do women think about it? Yeah, what do, what do we think about women? So I can't, I can't. But like, what do you think about doing that to a woman? I think

it's, they're awesome. I think it's perfectly fine. I think it's great. A lot of women get off that way. A lot of women need finger simulation. Or you could stick a vibrator in front of an enlargement. Or some uh some uh tips. No areas like locations that you have been finger banged. I try to I try to come up with a different. But you couldn't. We're real tired today. No. Uh finger your way to say it, but yeah, you just couldn't get there So yeah finger banging What was the question how what locations where when oh well? It's interesting so lots of it's different for every woman I know I know I have a friend who loves being fingered like she just takes guys fingers and just shoves it up there

And she's like I want all of your fingers not fists, but like she's like, I want three fingers. I want two fingers. Some women like one finger, you could put it in and out, you could do with the G-spot thing where you're fingering her and you're also trying to reach her G-spot, which is, if you stick your finger inside of her and you use this come-head motion towards her, with your fingers towards her belly button, that's where you can find a G-spot. So women just want it really, really deep, so they want your fingers just really deep. Some women like it shallow.

The outer two-thirds of the vagina are really sensitive, so maybe you could just kind of spend some time in there. I think there's all different ways you can do it. You could just rub her clitoris, for example. You still have an answer for my question. What are some incidents that you could remember? When a man's fingers were inside me, that was good.

Yeah, but like this random location is not at your house. Location, oh wait. Where did my bit, oh, and you're saying, you're saying, where did the act happen? It's not like where was this figure. Because that can happen. It's awesome. Oh my god, it happens.

Because guys love doing it and they'll do it anywhere. Do they awesome. Oh my god. It happens. Because guys love doing it and they'll do it anywhere. Do they love doing it? Yeah. I love when guys do it. That's so good to know. I think guys do it in the car, in movies, in concerts, at a restaurant. I mean, yeah, in my lifetime, at a wedding.

Cool. In the background. In the middle the background in the bathroom at a dinner table It's awesome. It's so hot guys should do that more If people like exhibitions exhibitionism or having sex outside that's a or sex in Random risky places a fingering is something that you could get you could do that not a lot of people could see. And we can see it in the way. Air planes? What do you mean? Hand massages? No.

You called it a hand job performed on a woman, which I like. Yeah, I'd never heard that before. Yeah, I have kind of. Really? It does a hand job. And I don't think that a lot of guys think that women like it as much.

I think you have to ask for it. That woman has to ask for it. Yeah, like I think a lot of guys, some guys, I think that's the first thing that a guy tries other than touching your boobs after making out. He goes boobs, he goes to finger you. Yeah, but sometimes he doesn't do it right. It's different every woman. So you just got to show him. If you're a woman, show him what you like. Take his fingers. I'm telling you, like show him, like I want this finger. I want that finger. I want three fingers. I want your pinky. Like show him what you want take his fingers. I'm telling you like show him like I want this finger I want that figure I want three fingers. I want your pinky like show him what you want because guys don't know a lot of times Because every woman's different so his last girlfriend liked his thumb and you want his three middle fingers

He doesn't know how the hell is he supposed to know? Show them don't you have like a guide or something like that? You can share. Oh, do you want me to make another app? Yes, how many fingers do stick inside of me? The hand job is you can just make an app where you. How many fingers do stick inside of me? The hand job? They should just make an app where you can just build out a profile of things that you like. This is me and then you can send it to somebody. So you give me more ideas. Here's a questionnaire of things that I like sexually and then you're able to email

it to the person that you're dating and then the conversation you never had to have again. I know, but they do that on a lot of those like adult friend finder sites and stuff where you like are into fetishes or you're into different, you have different. I'm not saying always a session. I'm just talking about basically, basically, I like it when I know you go down on me after we did such and such. I know I wish that people would have these conversations. Why don't we create a form put it on the website that you could just send to someone? They've all these forms now like

here's my SD test you might as well be like here's my SD test and here's what I like it sexually. This is my bad idea. Write that down. Hey Emily I love the show and I listen to it as a podcast on my zoom before I go to bed at most nights. I go to college in downtown Chicago and I'm 19. Chicago. Oh, love it. Try it. Downtown. This is from a woman. I've done it in donuts and I thought about you everything.

You did. I love Dunkin' Donuts. I tried to take a picture but there was so much glare because of the glass. That's supposed to be the thought of me. How's it going to send it to you? Oh. Okay. So she's 19. Let's see. She listens to it in Chicago. Sex is becoming a more common thing

among young people that it used to be, and I only have a couple of friends who are virgins, which actually surprises me. I expect pretty much everyone in my age is at sex by now. I think it's also common that many girls at this age are not having orgasms when they have sex for various reasons. I definitely have this problem.

I think female masturbation should be discussed because I'm not sure people my age always think it's an okay thing and they should be encouraged to try it. I just need some advice in these areas and I bet other people wouldn't mind some either. Thanks Amanda. Amanda, you are preaching to the query, you are 100% right.

This is what we talk about in the show all the time that a woman is not gonna have likely not gonna have an orgasm at 19, 20, early young age if she has not masturbated, if she has not masturbated and figured out her own body and what makes her feel good. And I mean, not just one night you're going to try, I mean spending several nights, several for months at home exploring your body like take a bath when you get in bed at night, experiment with a vibrator.

There's like a tutorial vibrator or a bigger vibrator that you can insert inside you and you can look for your G spot. You are not probably likely going to orgasm with a man until you do this. Women have got to do the masturbation work. I really think that I agree that there's not enough information out there on the female orgasm. I've often said this on the show that I never even occurred to

me to masturbate. Like, didn't even... And that's kind of messed up. We could analyze that for an hour, but we're not going to. Like, why wouldn't I ever think to touch my vagina? Like, there it is. And I'm not prudent about sex. And my family talked about it all the time, but it just, I think I was busy. I just, I was too tired, again, bad and tired.

I wasn't like touching my vagina. Anyway, there's so many objects you guys can use. It's not for you. I know pervertibles is what they call them, home things. Like a carrot, don't do that. Get a vibrator, go into Adam and Eve calm and you can get 50% off most items and Three adult free DVDs and a free gift it doesn't say Adam and Eve so your parents won't know whatever it is that you're when you're getting it

But I think you should just get like a basic vibrator get like a pocket rocket or you should go all or nothing Just the biggest thing they have no no no no, but I'm not sure how you orgasm So Amanda, I think that you need to tell your friends any gym master rate. I think that it has to be discussed. And the common girl, she's so right, the girls that are age are not having orgasms. But I didn't know that.

I thought something like, remember, I think I said this on Friday, but I thought something was wrong with me or I said this recently, but the guy that I dated, I actually want to call him apologize because I remember dating him for three years from 19 to 22 and I never had an orgasm. And I was one of those women who blamed him like in my mind, I was like, it's

his fault. It's his fault. He's bad and bad. But it was totally my fault because I didn't know what the hell. So I'm sorry. Blank. She's like, yeah. Okay. Once she's 21, throw in some daquilla in the mix and you'll be good. Great, man. Thanks for that. Okay. Just love your little alcohol suggestions with everything. Okay. Hi, Emily.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while now and everything is going well except for the sex part. He isn't very, well large. He doesn't burn. He doesn't. Oh, burn. He doesn't mind. And neither do I. But when we have sex, it's hard for me to have an orgasm with him. So I find myself going home and doing it myself.

Oh, biggest nightmare for me on right now. I get really horny. And he turns me on. Just fine, but my body just won't orgasm with them. He doesn't know about any of this. And I don't plan to tell him. So I just pretend to orgasm, but I don't know what to do. Please help tips or anything. We'll help Taylor. You know I don't suggest this. God what menace.

We're gonna throw it out there. Sex toy. Sex toy. Where are you really? It hurts my heart to say. Oh my God. It's exactly what I was gonna say. It's not well. Oh my God. We're here one mind now menace. No, I'm not endorsed. I'm not on here endorsing this dough and sex toys in the mix but if it's gonna help the situation then yes I will help so most women tailor need clitoral stimulation during sex so he could use as fingers you could use your fingers you could also use I'm not sure how you

orgasm but a lot of women even can't have it like a clitoral a g-spot orgasm without having clitoral orgasm so there's great vibrators that you can use that are great for sex. There's the little glitoral bullets and that might just get you there. Like you can hold it on your clitoris while he's going in and out of you and that might make you have an orgasm.

And just because he's a small penis doesn't mean he can't hit the G-spot either if you know where that is. Sometimes size doesn't have to matter. So I'm just wondering how well you know your body. And but it sounds like you go home and you finish yourself off. And I bet he would find it so hot if however you masturbate, like, why don't you just masturbate while he's, you're having sex with him?

Why don't you just touch yourself the whole time and bring yourself to cut. I kind of think a guy would mind that. I think guys find that really hot. Don't you think when a girl masturbates? No, I'm like, I'm happy that she's helping the situation. But even if she didn't use a vibrator, she could use her hands. Yeah, no, I totally support that.

Hey, good. You wouldn't be like if she was like, I'm like, oh, dude, make it happen. What if we could do? Yeah, I gotta go to bed. Then it should also suggest the whole thing that I say, throw maybe a Chanel bag at her, a couple hundred dollar bills, and then- Doesn't work.

She would get super horny and taking care of. It doesn't work? I don't think so, although, I mean, I'm open to anything, but- Okay. Okay. Okay. I get three percent off coach now.

You do? Why? If you know somebody that needs a gift. I don't know, I might, that's good to know. I know people- It's good to know. You never throw bags at your girls, do you? No, no. I think you might- I think you might- I might that's good to know. I know you never throw bags at your girls do you? No, no I'm just hypothetically speaking a bag for a girl that I've dated for a long time

Right, that's nice. Yeah, I've had that too. Okay. We are going to move into cheating because cheating It's a huge topic that comes up all the time we see the news we see with politicians We see with celebrities we see marriages, not at lasting, we see. I know where you going with this. What do you mean? I know exactly what you're going to, your responses are going to be to this. I know you so well.

You're already cutting me. I don't even know where I'm going with this. I know. And so without the time. You're not saying what you're going to say? Yeah. You're going to say that no one is supposed to be with one person for the rest of the life. I'm not saying that.

Bob La, we're not built like that. We're supposed to date other people and experience other things and blah, blah, blah. I'd say that's what biology says. You're gonna say F marriage. I'm not, my name is Emily Morris. Menace, do you know that I've never ever said F marriage? I've never, in fact, when we were researching this,

you're blind. You'll imply it. I imply it. I agree that I've never ever said F marriage. I've never, in fact, when we were researching this, you were saying you don't play it. I'm play it. I agree that I imply it. But some say monogamy does not come naturally for humans. And biology predisposes us to seek multiple sex partners. Some say I'm not saying that everyone says that there are happily married monogamous couples who don't do this.

I'm just saying that for a lot of people, the theory is in biology that it is not natural. Okay? I wish I could do this with lottery numbers. I predict me. Okay. So we're going to be talking about why do we cheat? Cheating stats, reason-wise men cheat, reason-wise women cheat, signs that your partner is cheating, confunduring your possible cheating partner, is cheating at a bachelor party, okay? The healing process of cheating

and nine steps take after the fair if we can get all to this today, but I don't know if we're gonna get too out of it. We don't get to all of it, we'll do the rest of it tomorrow. Okay, so good stuff, okay. So yeah, it's true, why do we cheat? Some say monogamy is not natural.

I'm not saying I'm saying that, some say it's not natural. Animals are far from being 100% monogamous, 100 percent of the time. The only completely monogamous animal scientists have been able to identify is a tapeworm found in the intestines of fish. The male and female worms fused together at the abdomen and never separate ass were afterwards. I thought there were birds that made for life too though. Penguins. Penguins. But apparently they know because that was, did you hear about the penguins? It's what they cheat penguins cheat those bastards Okay, people who enter into long-term reactious relationships and really keep their promises tend to be very healthy mentally

Yeah endorsement see so you can be in a healthy manoeuvres relationship if you're very honest with your wide With your wide eyes and yelling into the microphone. I don't know if you're mentally stable to have people in the relationship. I have nothing to do with my mental stability. My mental stability might prevent me from other things, but it won't be that. People who cheat are called pursuers, also known as womanizers when they are men. What? I know. I know. I do. It is. It breaks. We're going to get into the stats. We're going to the stats. I'm just given the names. Procedures tend to require great numbers of conquest and they perceive them as conquest. Procedures often have a narcissistic power. Personality disorder. We're not saying all

of them to some. They crave and demand affectionate attention. We're not able to return it in kind. It is true. There is a genre of cheaters who just constantly need more and more affirmation because they feel bad about themselves and the more women or men they conquest they feel better and their ego is boosted and it can be kind of a narcissistic thing. So the cheating statistics, some say that it's many as 50% of women cheat on their husbands and 70% of men cheat on their wives. These studies have been coming out for years but all I can tell you is that you never know exactly what it is, maybe women are more likely to tell the truth,

or men in flight their numbers. But all I know is that I've been reading these stats for 10 years and that the numbers are getting closer and closer, men and women are getting to be the same. It used to be like 25% of women and 50% men. According to a survey, the longer men live, the more likely they are to cheat. 37% of men ages 50 to 59 have had an affair,

while only 7% of men 18 to 29% have cheated. You've never cheated, right? No. My philosophy is you're going to cheat. You're obviously not happy with the person that you're with. I agree. And then you should just break up. Right. Here's some reasons why men cheat. People always want to know if you're going through this to like, why? Why? Why? Why did it cheat? Because your high maintenance bitch does why? Because they have the option. Men don't get offered sex as, which is what you always say.

Men don't get offered sex as often as women do, so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down. And if you're someone like Tiger Woods or whoever who's like 100 literally, you could sleep with any woman that walks past you, what are you gonna do? They have the options. You're married and you have a kid. That's what you should do. Whatever. It's boost their ego. I mean, I get what you're saying, but that's he's yes. He should have had the morals say no. But women are literally like bang, bang, bang, bang, bang. Like a mad, I imagine like a video game with women just like throwing

themselves at Tiger Woods. Like I imagine at the bottom game with women just like throwing himself a tiger woods Like I imagine at the bottom and there's women dropping from the sky like hot blondes and brunettes and things Here see that's the problem with guys guys are so effing stupid like they fall been over backwards for any hot chick That's the problem with this world. They shouldn't bend over backwards Oh, they shouldn't okay So here's another reason it It boosts their ego. Sometimes men don't feel like they're attractive to the opposite sex anymore. And when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may also allow her

to stroke his ego more. That's true for men and women, I think. A lot of times, we just want the attention in a booster ego. Okay, another reason, men cheat. You grow apart. Maybe the two of you didn't have as much a common as you thought. He's met a woman who has more common with him. He may check out if he's compatible with her under the sheets as well.

I think that if it happens a lot, you're together with someone. You know, we don't ever marry someone who has, you can check all the boxes of your desires off. Like, I want someone who's this, this, this, and this. So let's say you're with someone, you're like, I love funny guys, but the man I marry isn't funny. And then like 10 years later, you're out and you meet this hilarious guy. This is, I've heard friends cheat this way and they're like like, but he's so funny, and my husband's not funny,

and you're trying to make up for all the things that are lacking in a relationship with someone else. It's not the right way, this is not the right way to do it, but that's why people do it. You grow apart. You argue a lot. Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner.

Number five, he's falling out of love. This is why men cheat. Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship they don't know how to get out. They say that women leave more than men. And that men are just kind of like, ah, I'm in it, I'm going to say. Or they just take off. They cheat, but they don't leave. Okay, number six, your sex life sucks.

If a man is a disinterested partner or isn't getting enough sex to fulfill him, there's a good chance he'll have an affair. True? Yeah. To get revenge, a man also knows Cheetah he finds out his partner was cheating on him. Number eight, it's new, different and exciting. Men don't necessarily always cheat with women who are more

attractive than their partners. They just want something different. I think that is like number one. I think that is so key to why men cheat, which is different, we're going to get into why women cheat in a minute. But I think that men, they're able to compartmentalize being with different women.

They want the variety. So like, they could be with the hot, you know, like, find me a hot chick in the bar, and I'll show you guys how to fucking her. You've heard that saying before. I think it's because men, and not, I don't even know what's more than women, but I think it's a little more than women, that they can find, like, it's not that this woman's

hotter than they cheer new with. It was just variety. it's variety, variety, variety, that men's minds typically just want more women, they just want the variety and women don't as much. So to me, I think that's huge. Okay, number nine, just see if they can get away with it. If a man has the attitude of what she doesn't know won't hurt her, he may cheat to see if he is sneaky and smart enough to get away with it. And number ten, because you've allowed it in the past, if you've forgotten, if you've forgiven a cheating, you may have a couple of times the more likely he's going to cheat

again. And you're an idiot for staying in the relationship. Hell yeah, you are. Hell yes. Why are you saying this now? What do you mean? Because all the times you said that I found out if some of you was a cheat on me, I said, I would dump them instantly.

It doesn't. Yeah, but a couple of times. I'm saying one time you shouldn't jump right away. I'm done. I understand. We knew you were going to say that. Want me to say what you're going to say? She'd send me one to them out of there.

It doesn't even matter. She shouldn't be with me with the very stupid feel where she treats ones were done. Yeah, done. I'm not going to deal with that. I already knew you would say that. Okay. Reasons why women cheat.

Familiarity has bred in difference. The most common justification for women's infidelity is that they feel taken for granted. So they feel like their husbands just not appreciating them and therefore them. You're leading parallel lives. Number two, Y women cheat. You use a travel the same path side by side but lately you're intras of a diverged. Number three, the passion has fizzled. A casual affair may put some zing back in her days. Your ego needs a boost. Sleeping with someone else is an easy way to remind yourself

that you're desirable. I think that's huge for women. Especially as women get older and they have kids and they're like, am I still desirable? And then they find a guy who finds them attractive. Women want to feel attractive all the time. And if their husband's not complimenting them 10 times a day. Oh God, 10 times a day.

Yeah. Five times a day? Once a day, hey baby, look beautiful today, that's all you need. But if he never says it, I can't tell you how many women are with guys who have never told them they were attractive, and they found them attractive, and it is a problem with every single one of them. I joke that you should do it 10 times a day, but it's not really a joke. But once I said it, it's not so ridiculous.

10 times is ridiculous. 10 times is a lot, but it's awesome. a joke. But once I said it, it's not so ridiculous. 10 times is ridiculous. 10 times is a lot, but it's awesome. Okay, number six, it's payback time. Same thing, if she finds out her significant others been cheating, she may have sexual another man. Okay. I think actually that's fine.

What? Revenge cheating? If the person you're with is cheating and you're dumbass and you're not dumping them, then I think if- Have you ever had a woman cheat on you? Not that I- The person you're with is cheating and you're dumbass and you're not dumping them. Right. Right. Then I think of you. Have you ever had a woman cheat on you?

Not that I know of. Nothing, no. I know where I was getting out of a relationship. They started talking to somebody else. Right. But the way it's already. Right. And I've said this before that I have cheated in my past.

Yeah. And I'm a reformed cheater. I did cheat in my past and I was never an ongoing thing. I never had like great affairs, but I used to travel a lot for work. I was an international political consultant and I would travel to a lot of different countries and this is usually what would happen. I'd like meet some businessman and Singapore in a hotel. Not proud, had a boyfriend.

So never not caught, but like, would stop doing that because I felt like I'm not going to commit and have sex with other people. But I'm just telling you that I'm, I've cheated and I'm not proud commit and have sex with other people. But I'm just telling you, but I'm, I've cheated. And I'm not proud. I don't do it anymore though. I never would do it again because I don't think it's, I'm just,

and I'll commit as much. Right. Okay, before you make a move on someone else, ask yourself this. Picture your partner doing the same thing and ask yourself, what did upset you? If she was flirting with another guy to bar, would I be upset? If he was dirty dancing and a nightclub with another

girl, would I think he was cheating? 74% if guys think cheating starts with the kids that most women believe cheating can start before a kiss. Oh, the emotional cheating. There's the emotional cheating, the emotional affairs. Okay, here's some signs that your partner is cheating. Okay. Okay, what? No, I your partner is cheating. Okay. Okay, what?

No, I want to hear them. What are the signs? He or she says something to the effect of, I love you, but I'm not in love with you. This is one of the most consistent things that cheating partner will say. Your partner may have a deep loving bond with you, but intense feelings of passion can override the bond with you and cause your partner to lose sight of his

or her two feelings. You see that one in your, your people are trying to get in with it. You're trying to get a relationship with you or something. It's not a really midway in the relationship. I guess so, but if someone said that to me, I love you and I love you, I'd be like, we're done. If I wanted to be too beloved by them. Okay, now signs are part of cheating.

Number two, we are just friends. If your partner is spending more and more time with this new friend, then there's probably more to it than the mere friendship. If he has a new friend of the opposite sex and they're together all the time, that could be a sign that he's thinking of cheating or having an emotional affair.

You guys go crazy over that. The problem is, I'm friends with more women than guys. I know, I'm friends with, why? I got both. But you're right, I could see women. Yeah, you have dated women who go crazy. Yes, I have. Right.

And you've like random women sending you like lingerie and birthday cakes and that's not what I'm going to sign your bed. A woman asked me out today. So what are you doing when you get off the radio? Oh, I'm going to bed. Right. I'd rather go to bed. Okay, sign your partner's cheating number three a sudden need for privacy.

If things the two of you used to share openly suddenly become private, he puts a lock on his phone. For example, pay attention because something is probably up. If you ask why or attempt to find an information that used to become a knowledge between the two of you, you will be accused of snooping or trying to control your partner. So if all of a sudden he's like locked down, like has a lock on his briefcase, has a lock on his phone, find out information that used to become a knowledge between the two of you will be accused of snooping or trying to control your partner. So for all of a sudden, he's like locked down, like has a lock on his briefcase, has a lock on his phone, like changes his passwords.

Can't be some change, or she, I don't mean he. I know it seems weird, but even like in relationships, like I'll get messages from people, and I'll just delete them because they can be twisted around. But what do you mean if you're in a... Like I'll get a message like, oh hey, around Wait, what do you mean if you if you're in a message like oh, hey? What's up? You miss you right miss you and stuff like that like delete because I don't Because why because the person I'm with like you have a girlfriend I don't want them to see that exactly exactly. I'm never gonna cheat on anyone looked at my phone

Like if I was dating them, they'd be like what the fuck? So I just like hide my phone for my like if I was dating them, they'd be like, what the fuck is going on? So I just need to like hide my phone from everyone. Just keep it with me all the time. Okay. My phone needs to be buried in the desert somewhere. For sure. Oh my God. Okay, sign your partner's cheating number four.

I need some space to figure out my feelings. Oh God, you're done. Your relationship is done right now. Many women who are involved with someone else will request more space time alone away from the family. This can be a sign that there is someone else in the partner trying to figure out ways to have more freedom. Yeah, I need space because.

I just need a little bit of space. I need to go have. I need to go have. I have to go have sex with somebody right now. So I'll be right back. OK, regular work habits change. Working late, going to work at hour, is putting in more time and is normal and work related issues

Can be indications that your partner is cheating. I would always see that's a problem But that's not you could you work all the time and just come cheating? I'll get in trouble for that all the time because see the problem the worst person in life For a woman is their best friend because their best friend friend is doom and gloom, will like overanalyze everything. Oh yeah, he's cheating on you. Oh, where is he at? Buh, blah, blah, blah.

Like in her ear, like destroying a relationship is the woman's best friend. Right. And the woman's best friend will also give you a blowjob. What? The woman's a... She might. She would.

I see. We're gonna have to devil. Didn't you know this? No honey, they're not. What? The woman's a... She might. She would. I'm gonna have a devil. Didn't you know this? No honey, they're not. She has these tricksters and cheaters. It's nice. It's cool, but I gotta live with her. I love your massage on this side.

When it comes out, it's hot. No, it's just... It's just a treat with what you still got to live with them anyway. So you just gotta deal with it. Right. That's all. Exactly. Nothing wrong with that.

You don't have the treatment like crap. That's all. No, do you even like respect? Yeah, respect I've got to stand at the crazy and they just want Gucci bags. Do you know? Yeah, and if those bitches are keen on you, then they can get to the curvy. Whatever. Who are you? What? Nothing. Who are you? I'm just being real. Speaking of the truth, you can say a million things. How's your relationship going? Oh, that's right. You don't have one. Because I don't want to be in one. I Could be in I would love to be actually be in a relationship. I would love to be in love. I would love to do that But it'd be cool. I'll be happy. I know you were happy when you were in love. Yeah

But just like right now I got it. I got to find somebody that can just deal with you right I got it me too. Dude. It's hard to, what'd you say? And what? I gotta shut the fuck up when I want to. And shut the fuck up and never friend give me head all of that. Okay. Spending a large amount of time on the computer in today's world of the bottom of technology,

a person looking for an affair doesn't have to leave their home. If your partner's online more than usual, hanging out in chat rooms and visiting pornographic websites, you can be alarmed. I don't know about that. Everyone's on porn. How the Facebook, the Facebook is. Secretive phone calls and more time spent on the phone.

Obviously if you see them sneaking away in their own phones, it's problem behavior that just doesn't add up. Not being where he's supposed to be, missing times it can't explain, being caught in little lies or the details of the day, they could be cheating. Okay, here's how you confront.

Oh, we don't really have time, I don't think. Okay, two minutes. We got a few minutes. We got a few minutes. We got a few minutes. Two minutes. Okay. Confronting your possible cheating partner. Just so you confront them.

They're never going to cop to it. I'm like, I we've got so much here. Okay. I love all this. We have to continue this another day. I'll say 80% of them won't cop to it, but go. Right. I agree.

They always say no at first. Yeah. If you do decide to confront your spouse, you need to do it in a place that will provide you the most safety and comfort. Don't surround your friends that would definitely change the power dynamic. Your partner could be exceptionally angry at the accusation, especially if the accusation is true. Have proof. If you decide to confront your spouse about his or her infidelity, have proof. An accusation without proof is only accusation based on a feeling. So like lipstick on the collar. Text messages that you can probably erase.

I don't know. How do you have proof, whatever your proof is? It's pretty easy to prove. I know. I've had some good proof. Okay. I caught a guy once and it was so easy because he wrote it down.

He wrote a story about it. Okay. Idiot. Have support. When and if you decide to confront your partner, realize that it may be the end of your relationship. It's possible that your spouse will beg for forgiveness. They always do.

It is possible that your partner will look you in the eyes, admit that he or she has had an affair and initiate the breakoff. Whatever the case, you should have emotional support at hand. That's what you should do. Forms of cheating according to women. Let me just read a few of these, okay? Okay. Confiding in other women. a few of these, okay? Okay. Confiding in other women,

36% of women think it's cheating. So if you've got a BFF and you're like, oh yeah, today, Marcy and I, we're gonna, she's gonna think you're cheating. Well, dancing closely, dirty dancing with another woman is like a form of sex, 41% think that's cheating. What?

I bump and grind with people, that doesn't mean that I'm cheating. What? I bump in grind with people. That doesn't mean that I'm cheating. What the hell? Everything you would say would be I'm not cheating. I'm not. Okay. Getting private dances, shift joints, 79% of women think it's cheating. What? Yep. Crazy. Master baiting people think engaging in cyber sex, 80% of women think it's cheating. Engaging any sort of sexual contact. If you kiss, cress, if you kiss, cress, or go down 100% of women think that's cheating. Okay. One more thing is, oh god, I think we got to do this later. Because I want to talk about it's cheating okay to bachelor party.

Tomorrow. Tomorrow. Okay everyone, thanks so much for listening. Let me tell you what I guess tomorrow. Guess is Billy Sunday Mars author of Fit for Love. It's about understanding your body and physical exercises to enhance your performance of bed. Oh, I love it.

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