Sex With Emily - Episode 275 - The 7 Deadly Daters

Episode Date: August 20, 2011

Forget gluttony, sloth, and lust, if there’s seven things to avoid, it’s the seven deadly dating personalities – find out how today. Also find out why Emily goes stag to weddings, how women set the price of sex, sperm facts, and if sexting can make you a sex offender. Emily discusses why it’s riskier to send your man to a wedding than a bachelor party, fun tips for sex during pregnancy, the basics of tantric sex, and why we date people like our parents. Finally, as a big gift to the listeners, Emily demonstrates her best phone sex. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I Look into his eyes They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that block our sacred institutions Betrull eyes they call them in a bygone way. Hey, Emily You got a boyfriend because my man he here. He just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair stand. Oh my the Who women know about shrinkage? Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean like laundry?

It's shrinkage? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god. I'm so, so, so. Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play good. You're listening to Sex with Emily.

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So if you've been wanting to explore porn or check something out new, we love our TV, FYRATV.com. I'm gonna say you don't not pay attention to me. Yeah, I'm just going for you to do your spill. What's going on with you on the show? Lots of stuff is going on for me. I'm low on the weather, sorry. So what's going on? It's always something with you.

Yeah. Weather, weather, you're tired, you're busy. What's going on? Things are good. It's the weekend. I'm really excited. I'm actually getting out of the city. I've talked about this before on the show and I don't want to like be like Debbie down or the weather sucks in San Francisco because I hate those people who talk about it. Like have you ever heard the quote from Mark Twain? We've all heard the quote from Mark Twain that the coldest winter I

ever spent was a summer in San Francisco. I'm going to say it. It is freezing cold here. It's like 54 degrees in cold all the time. So I for the last two months, and it's miserable. I'm personally not miserable. I'm okay with it, but I am leaving town. We're gonna go. I'm gonna go up to Sonoma for a friend's birth. First I'm going to Stinson Beach, which is about an hour outside the city. My friend is a house there.

We're gonna stay there with a bunch of friends. It might not be so warm, not sure yet. But then I'm gonna go up to Sonoma, which I hope for another friend's birthday. And I hope that it's very warm there. At least we get summer, because we don't get summer here. There's no sun. Are you gonna be making out of anybody? I hope so. I would if I'm not. Yeah. Are you bringing? I'm not. No. Okay. I can. I could bring one of these dudes. Yeah. But I'm not going to. I like to fly so low. Get a leave. Get

a leave. Get a leave. It options open. Exactly. I like to fly solo. Get a leader, get a leader, option's open. Exactly. I like to fly solo to things like weddings, never bring a date. That's not gonna bring a date. Hate it. Weddings are a great place to meet new people. And I don't mean like. You put everybody else's bring in.

Yeah, but then I get to talk to all the fun couples. I swear to God, my favorite thing is going somewhere without a date. Not that I don't like bringing dates sometimes, but I'd prefer, I default on the side of like, when they say, do you wanna bring a date, I say no. I bet all the women hate you. Why?

Because you're talking to their, no, I'm talking to them too. I'm my M.A. And there might be something new, and it's not just because I'm only looking for the bigger, better deal, or is there a different option, just easier for me to fly solo on the weekends.

I've got parties to go to, things to do, stuff going on. Cool. Well, I'm happy for you. Thanks. What are you doing? Are you gonna make out this Cool. Well done. I'm happy for you. Thanks. What are you doing? Are you going to make out this weekend? Probably not.

I'm probably going to. It's been like way too long. You should get your sex only car person to do. I might go to a show if I can make it tonight. This like you seem tired and under the weather. Why would you do that to yourself? Because it's this new artist I'm really excited about. Okay.

So I might go to that and then just kind of rest them and then the next weekend will be all parties and why? Because I'm going to the VMAs, the two things. Oh, in LA, awesome. Yeah. We got to get you all dressed up. Yeah, so I'll be there for four days and just I'm sure it'll just be just nonstop parties and drinking all day.

You hate that. I'm so sorry. I hate it. So sorry you do that sense awful, but see the thing with me is like some people they they don't know when to rest like It's the weekend. I need to go out. I need to go do something right can't stand those people that like it's Friday I can't stay home. I got over that years ago. You can stay home I used to feel the way but I love staying home on the weekends Yeah, but lately, I mean I've got stuff. got to go away, I've got to do things. And the next weekend is my big,

oaming weekend, my orgasmic meditation. And I have to say, like, I'm sort of blocked it, because it's so overwhelming to me. But I am going to be owned. My clitoris will be massaged by strangers for a weekend. That's all I gotta say. That's cool. So yeah, it'll be fun.

I'm gonna be sequestered in some room and be massaged. We had a guest on the show if you used to go in the cold. They don't. I hope so. From one taste, San Francisco, and I'm gonna come back and report on that, but that's next weekend, so we gotta wait a whole week for that. What if I'm a changed person? Apparently, you walk around in the state of orgasmic bliss all the time.

Like I'm always orgasming, which I feel like I always am anyway. I'm always happy and smiley and... I'm going to be really interested on the outcome of this. I know. I know you are. Maybe you'll take a course. I hope you video blog it. I hope I don't.

I hope I don't get to that point of video blogging. I really, really, really hope that I don't. So yeah. Anything else? I don't know. That's it. I was waiting for sex in the news because there's something I want to share. That's why. Oh, you've sex in the news to share. Before I leave my sex in the news, I can do either or. Okay.

What do you want to say? I was going to talk about, uh, I heard this morning that Kim Kardashian's wedding is going to cost 20 million dollars. Crazy. Okay. So what I did, I, I, I, she could self-cancer. I did some, uh, I did some I, She could self-cancer. I did some, I did some mathematical breakdowns and I posted on my blog today. You did? Yeah.

WhiteMennis.com. What $20 million, what you can do with $20 million. A lot. And I have like 10 different breakdowns. If you want to hear some, I think they're kind of funny. You can buy 1,300 Honda Civics. Wow. That's a lot of Honda Civics for people.

You can buy, sorry, I'm loading the page. It goes one by one. You can buy 6,666,666 big Macs. Okay. My Donald's. Right. It's so depressing. Why is it depressing? That she's spending 20 million million that anyone spends 20 million dollars on wedding watch one day

I'll do that but if you think if you can that's true and she's got like millions and millions of millions of dollars, right? Like she's this she's this empire. Yeah, I mean just for me for one day Why yes, she's worth 30 million 20 million are waiting but yeah, yeah, and then she's probably being sponsored by the network and stuff Yeah, you can buy you can buy 100,000 iPhones 20 million are waiting, but I guess I'm gonna. Yeah. And then she's probably being sponsored by the United Network and stuff. Yeah. You can buy. It's not her own money. You can buy 100,000 iPhones. Wow.

And I just think I won't win. You can fly to San Francisco and back 50,000 times. Right. But it's gonna be quite a party, I'm sure. It better be. That's all I'm saying. There's a thousand guests that are gonna be. It's a lot.

That are invited, just to be the who's who's, but they said that they have to cut 50 guests this. Why? In the next couple of days, because they over booked. Oh. Over a thousand. You think once you get past like 500, you're cool.

You're like, let's just invite everyone. We'll invite the mailman. We'll invite that nice person to dry cleaner on the street. Yeah. Yeah. I have some other ones that are not too interesting, but there's one that I want to find. Okay, you can buy one million pairs of van shoes. How many vibrators can you buy? That's what I want. I don't know, but this is this one I like. You can rent a studio apartment in San Francisco for 1,666 years.

Wow, that is crazy. What's $20 million? Oh my god, that's just yeah, that is amazing. That's a lot of money is bad on a wedding I mean, what's her wedding gonna why where's all the money going flowers? I'm sure you're gonna pay to have some artist Perform that cost a couple million, you know, I they paid JLo just did a wedding right after she got divorced for like a million to do two songs Right they get paid to do that stuff. It's amazing. I just think that the wedding thing, and granted, I'm not as celebrity without this money, I just think the money that you spend on a wedding, it's just like you don't have it, it's like about lay people, like, no commoners,

just put all that attention, all that energy into a wedding. It's like there's so many other things you could do with that money, like put a down payment on a house. Like have a little party with your friends, or why people go crazy on their wedding day, like it has to be this whole thing, I've never had that drive. Yeah. As we know. Oh, here's another one that I wrote down. Love your own vlog. Look how cute you are. No, no, because I did all the

math. I did the math. That's hard. Math is hard. So you could take a limousine from Los Angeles to the state of Maine and back 2,403 times. Oh my God. Just for this one night that no one's going to remember because they they're gonna blitz or whatever. Yeah, that's amazing. Menace. It's crazy. Crazy crazy crazy. But yeah, you can check out the rest of the rest. Check out the rest white menace.com. Yeah, we love white menace.com. There's so much happening there. Okay. Okay, so sex in the news on free Friday. How women set the price of sex? You'll like this, Menace. A new study argues that gender inequality causes women to withhold sex from men until they

get what they want. Which is probably what you already think. Okay, there's a study showing that people in countries with greater gender equality have more sex as defined by a number of lifetime partners, frequency of casual and premarital sex and attitudes towards abstinence. They theorize that inequality forced women to use sex in order to get various resources, meaning they'd have to restrain it until men provided these resources. By this logic, sexual activity was sent to be governed by

women's economic decisions. To recap, guys really want women to have sex with them, and if they don't, it's because women are enforcing a system where nobody gives it up unless you get something in return. Do you think this is true? I think that's just how it is here also, but the only thing is that they- There's just a lot of inequality everywhere. I think that they actually do give it up more, but they're still getting something out of it. Yeah, okay. So, here's this thing in salon. It says, women should engage in the artificial restriction of sex until later in the relationship

for a greater future goal. So, women just shouldn't jump into bed right away anyway. But I don't think it's nice to like withhold sex from your partner because you want something, but I guess people do that all the time. Oh my God. Have you been with the woman who's like, not tonight, honey, until you take out the trash?

No. No? No. No, okay. I've never thought you'd be like, I always want sex. So I'm not gonna do that because that hurts me. I'm never like, oh no. I'm never like oh no

I'm like oh we can leave the door behind you. This is commonplace that women think that to do this because if that's the A lot of women that's their only commodity that they have right so since the beginning of time Is there for China is their only commodity? If women like in third world countries women are doing a lot of it is their sexuality that they yeah They don't have a lot like the women sexuality is very over very powerful thing that it is very much needed to come on to me much much much desired commodity made Adam eat the apple exactly okay now girls and boys are starting puberty earlier I've heard this in the news lately studies have shown that girls are reaching puberty younger and younger to the point that co-tax now is aligned of maxi pads for eight-year-olds.

How do you relate out of having the sex talk with them when they're eight? And I only know that because my eight-year-old niece, by mistake, had to prematurely have the sex talk after staying at my house and seeing all my sex books, and that apparently was too early. You're terrible, aunt. There hasn't been as much discussion of when boys start puberty, but perhaps because it doesn't require an awkward tip to buy new undergarments and it's less noticeable to adults. However, new study says that like girls, they're maturing earlier than ever before.

So as you can tell, the spike in death are okay. He believes that the early causes of early maturity in both boys and girls are improvements in nutrition and our ability to fight diseases. So we're, I guess, we're healthier. But there's no cause for concern, I guess everything changes. They say it's diet, all the fast food and everything. Well, no, it says it's nutrition. Well, adolescents become drugs, but it's not saying this

is unhealthy, but I think that it is. Well, they're really causing maturity, both of those are improvements in nutrition. So they're saying it's not a bad thing. Important decisions in life are being made with an increasing distance from the recklessness of youth. So they read to adulthood later. I mean, I think it kind of messes you up.

I really think that it is really early. It's tough to be having that talk with someone. To have the sex talk? Yeah, you've appeared in this, what it means. That it messes them up. So where else is falling apart? I mean, they're going to find out eventually. I know, but that's it. But I don't So where else falling apart? I mean, they're gonna find out eventually. I know, but that's, I found out that age is very young.

Yeah, but I'm just saying, I mean, does it, I don't know, does it make you go through like, metapause earlier? It says there's some benefits. Well, adolescents become adults earlier in a biological sense, they reach adulthood later reaching their social and economic roles. Okay.

Yeah. So why are you knocking it then? I'm not knocking it on. In fact, I was expecting it to be knocking it, but it's not. Okay. Media representations of women have become more pornified. Guess we know this. A new study from University of Buffalo, tends to confirm that over the last decade, the

popular media portrayal of women has become increasingly sexualized, which seems to be self-evident. So they looked at this rolling stone covers from 67 to 2009 as fodder, with which to measure change in media representations of men and women. So there was a scale of sexualization to measure degrees of sexualization

and how graphic the sexual image was. So researchers found that in the 60s, 11% of men were sexualized compared to 44% of women, and the 2,017% of men were sexualized, compared to a whopping 83% of women. So from the 60s, where it was 40%, it doubled to 83% that women are completely sexualized. In fact, I think women are only sexualized.

Like very, very rarely you can see women on a magazine come from who's not being-sexualized, right? Instead of it's, unless it's country living magazine. Or something, right? So what is, what message are we sending? I don't know, I think people are over-analyzing all this stuff. People are analyzing all this stuff, then we'd have no sex in the news.

Yeah, but you're trying to say, are you saying that it's trying to, it's taking power away from women? I think it gives women power. Just saying that, for instance, parted lips, exposed tongues, partial or full nudity, and sexually explicit language could all justify receiving points, images were identified according to three categories, not sexualized hypersides. I just think that that's the way pop, pop culture is going to. Does it degrade women? Or I think it gives women, what's the whole other discussion? It gives women or I think it gives women a whole nother discussion it gives women I think it gives women power

because it didn't you just say I just said that the most powerful women that women's power for thousands of year hundred thousands of years has been repressed that women's power actually was like the leader of the world the women's vagina's yeah our power it's it's an all-knowing power once men realize that women so much power, they've for ever since the beginning of time, been trying to squash women's power. Now it's coming out again in the sense of,

because we scare men, our sexuality scares men. So it's always trying to be repressed and now women are coming. I don't think this is surprise, so that makes sense too. Yeah, well if you break down like everything that a guy does, it's just to get to a vagina. Everything is nonsense. Everything. Why you wore those glasses everything that a guy does, it's just to get to a vagina. Everything is nonsense.

Everything. Like why you wore those glasses today? You're hoping to get laid. Yeah, no, it is like, but maybe not that T-shirt. They want to get the, and the T-shirt. And the giant T-shirt?

I know a lot of hardcore germs. I don't know about that. Beautiful women that are hardcore. Whatever. Like men, they want to make a certain amount of money so they can buy the house, they can buy the car that impresses the woman that they want to. Right, everything. I mean, car, they want to make a certain amount of money so they can buy the house, they can buy the car, they can buy that impresses the woman that they want to. Right.

I believe that everything you can type, most major social, economic, political events, you can tie back to sex, romance, desire, jealousy, great works of art have been created because of jealousy, romance, great, great nations have crumbled under that. Yeah. Okay. The power of the V, as they say. Oh, no, that's amazing. Sexing punishment is unjust, says, magistrate, a senior Victorian magistrate who presided over a case in which a youth pleaded guilty to teenage sexing offenses as condemned as unjust. So the young man was to be registered as a sex offender because he was sending a sex.

They found pictures on his mobile phone and laptop. Was he sending it? Was he over the age and he was sending it to a minor? He presided over the case of the country that the youth then age 18 who was sent for uninvited texts, messed picture of girls between 15 and 17, top lists are in their underwear. So yeah, they found the pictures on his phone that he was getting from younger women.

Oh. Yeah, it says it's unjust though. I think we're in sexting. Kitchen. If he's responding to it, then yeah, I mean, not to be registered as sexist-fender, I don't know, but you know you can get in trouble if you're replying to these naked photos of our H-chicks.

Even though if you just turn 18. I don't even know where this was. Okay. I knew that right when I turned 18. You knew what? Not to mess with any chicks on our age. You never did? No.

Mark. Okay. We already did, we did this one by the way, every this game because I really liked it. Married men most likely to cheat at weddings. Didn't we talk about that a few weeks ago? Cheat at weddings? Yeah, maybe you weren't here. According to a dating site survey, over 2,000 men and women between the ages of 25 and

45, 32% of men today cheated on the partner at a wedding. This is why you never bring dates to a wedding. See, there's the guy that didn't bring the dates. Yeah, those are the kind of guys you want to hang out with huh I'm just kidding only 27% being unfaithful at a bachelor party these numbers show that women are on the wrong track and their suspicions so while you're at home freaking out because you're a boyfriend or your husband is invagants you should be really worrying about him going solo to the wedding

yeah because he's sleeping around at the wedding it gets all those chicks all horned up because they want to get married. How am I supposed to go to a wedding? Only 11% of women viewed wedding as a golden opportunity for their worst halves to hook up. God, men are doing on the sly at the weddings. You going to wedding alone? Do you want me to go to your date? I'm a really good date.

I was super fun date. It's in Boise, Idaho. Okay. Fun. How much fun. Let's go. We never do stuff like that, men. We never even like leave the studio and do anything. We want to party up in Bo Okay, fun. How much fun. Let's go. We never do stuff like that, men. You want to we never even like leave the studio and do anything. You want to party up and boys at home. I've never been. Yeah, I've been.

You're not taking me. You're like, yeah, yeah, yeah, whatever. Just like those movies we're going to see together. Which never happens. That's cool. I'm down with that. Okay. So Mary, man, cheating. Would you have any friends if you've been to wedding at that cheated? I'm trying to think if I've ever like been hit on by a married man. My type, my friends don't, my type of friends don't do that kind of style. What are your friends doing? I don't hang with those type of guys.

Um, so hanging out with quality people. Yeah, how are your quality friends? They're good. And there's no girls minus what the hell? What? No girls in the, in the spectrum. You still have your roommate situation going on? No.

That's what you're so, you're so lucid about that. What? I just don't even know like what's going on in my life. Yeah. When something's good going on, I'll share it. It's been a long time, let me just like let me just do a long time reality check. What are you talking about?

I don't know. I just can't be the only one having sex on the show. You don't share it anyways. I do share. Well, okay. One's the last time you had sex. A few days ago. A few days ago. How was it?

It was. The problem is that people watch the show sometimes that I have sex with. Oh, so. So I have to, it was amazing. It was the best sex I ever had. How's that? It was so good. It sounded like you were being sarcastic. I'm actually, I'm to, it was amazing. It was the best sex I ever had. How's that? It was so good.

I like, I, uh, You sound like you're being sarcastic. I'm actually, I'm actually, oh, when I think about it, I just, I have to, I can't, I can't, I can't, You're being so sarcastic right now. Must've been lame. There was birds chirping and like the scars,

the, the stars, the stars, the stars, the stars parted and it was amazing. I've got some fascinating sperm facts here. Okay, you share those. Okay, believe it or not, your semen only contains about 10% sperm. The rest consists of enzymes, vitamin C, calcium, protein, sodium, zinc, citric acid, and fructose sugar. So it's good for you? Yeah, totally. Subwomen complain of a taste of semen, and you can help. We did a whole show on this once about the foods that people can eat to make their

ejaculate taste better, or whatever. While there are no studies to support, it generally receives a kiwi fruit celery, pineapple, watermelon, and chemical mix, and even taste lighter. Heavy beer and coffee drinkers are said to produce bitter tasting ejaculate. I'm sure it is. Accline-based fish and meats make for a buttery taste, or if in doubt, an investment, a tasty flavored lube or a flavored deep throat spray. A healthy male produces about 70 to 150 million sperm a day.

When you jack that, you can use three times that. That's why you're so wiped out and fall asleep after sex. I'm drained out. When inside a woman's body, a sperm can last five days. There's some great sperm fat. Five days? Five days your sperm's swimming around. Just hanging out. Right. But your sperm swimming around just hanging out right

But your sperm's nowhere right now because you have no sex so you say Okay, average volume of semen per calculation is one teaspoon Which equates to about 200 to 500 million those little guys in the average amount of semen produce each time you release 200 the 500 million. Yeah The average speed of semen at the moment of ejaculation. Oh, yeah, I asked for these breakdowns. I'm giving it to you. Why don't you prepare me?

You want to know? I don't know. Because now you're excited. Yeah. The average speed of semen at the moment of ejaculation, what do you think it is? How fast you should know this being a dude who's 75 miles an hour.

31 miles an hour. Maybe you're 75. Yeah. Maybe you could go on some show. Like, you could be in the Guinness Book of World's Records. Maybe you're, is maybe we get one of those things, those timers that they have in the road when they measure the traffic. Radar gun.

Radar gun. The sperm gun. Your sperm is now going 52 miles an hour. And the human male ejaculates an average distance up to seven of seven to 10 inches. The world record for the farthest spoof is 18 feet. 18 feet. But on average, seven to 10 inches. Didn't you

ask this before? Like, yeah, that's why I was that's why they probably did the interns get this. Yeah, they did, but they probably why she just really she just had a sense Wait 10 inches is average and then the biggest one is like 18 feet Like that's not even that is like

That's crazy. I think you should start trying to break the record That just would be some kind of fun hobby take on then you could ejaculate a lot And you can use that a jacket that and you can use that masturbation toy that I want to give you. Oh yeah. When you think I'm gonna lose the contest that we're having, you're gonna have to use it, and you're gonna have to suck it around your penis.

That's like an NBA dunking contest. I know, it's like where they jump over Honda Civics. 18 feet. You, with 18 feet, you can probably shoot over a car. Ah, it's impressive. I haven't I'm just skilled. Oh, you're like, hey, my name's men as I can shoot 18 feet. Is that I turn you on? You have some chick on the other side of the room. I know I know I'm

I'm not sure if it would the right I think that he must have had some kind of people over Measuring I mean I do break a world record. Yeah, that would be interesting watching this guy try to break the world record. I think personally. You're going to watch this guy masturbate to see how far I can shoot. I don't know. Yeah, I don't believe them, but I don't believe it, but it is in the world's records. So, okay, we can get into some emails. Okay, what do you got?

This is what I got for you. Like I said, some of the topics on this show include G-Spot Organisms, Preignet Sex, Tantric Sex, and Phone Sex, and you can always email us at feedback at sexwithamely.com. You can also go on our website, our amazing website, sexwithamely.com, where you can, there's an Ask Emily thing, Form tab, and you can just send it that way, really easy to do.

And when you become a friend to bed, if it's a member, we answer your emails right away. Hi guys, the reason for my email is to ask you about the female G-Spot orgasm. Are there any different from normal orgasms? If so, what's the best way for me to give one to my wife? Is there a particular position that is better than another? Thanks for the show and cute, but the good work. Daniel from Florida.

Probably we're talking a lot about the G-spot lately. Big G-spot. You're working on that app, the G-spot locator. I am working on that app. Okay, rear-entry positions are some of the most reliable when it comes to stimuli in the G-spot during intercourse. But first I would use your fingers, I would say, or see if your partner knows

where her G-spot is, because a lot of times women have to do that work on their own. A lot of them are lucky, and they just kind of figure it out lot of times women have to do that work on their own to kind of a lot of them are lucky and they just kind of figure it out. But sometimes they have to do some work on their own. So rear entry positions are the most reliable when it comes to stimulating G spot. You can also try doggy style or the spooning position with both of you lying on your sides for a more relaxed option. And the penis should rub against the front wall of the vagina when she's on off-fours.

She should arch her back slightly and not put her head down on the bed. You can also try lifting her lips, her hips, her hips up a little, and thrusting in a downward motion to perfect the G-spot position. So lifting her hips up, or a doggie style. But, just so you know that women, in order, most women in order to feel

any kind of G-spot sensations that are good, they need to have clitoral stimulation first. I'm just saying it's not going to happen because they all work together. It's all part of the same thing. Any comments on that, Matt? So you've never seen a G-spot, so you came in. Oh, yeah, I never found a G-spot before in my life. So, the first thing.

But now that book, the book, what was the book, the guys' book's name? Billy Sunday Mars. Billy Sunday Mars. We did a great show this week. We did a great show. We did a great show. Mars. Billy Sunday Mars. We did a great show this week. You already have links on sexathomely.com. Yeah, but not everyone, if you're not a member, this is free Friday. They can't see it. It was an awesome show. And I think it was Monday. Billy Sunday Mars, he talked men. I've never seen men as so so focused before on a guest. And so he had pictures in his book. He liked it. He was a picture book about, if you like, all the pictures, not the drawings.

Yeah. And about how to please your woman and about exercises that you can do that actually open you up and opens up your G spot and makes it easier for you to women to have orgasms and mans. Because a lot of times I have to really tight. But yeah, my diagrams and all that stuff. His big diagrams, his book is called Fit for Love and it's Billy Sunday Mars. Check it out on the website. And it's Billy Sunday Mars.

Check it out on the website. And then become a member so you can watch the show because you'll really like it. Okay, also one more thing about the G-Spot. When she's on top, she's in control. So on top, positions like Cowgirl and its variations are great for having the G-Spot because the woman can angle her hips just right. That was the only thing I want to say. He had like some crazy positions.

Like what? Like, well there was like some special like sex wedge that he had. Oh the wedge, you love the wedge. But I don't know if it was the wedge, it was like, it was like kind of like a pillow box that I'm saying the right, where it's just like it shaped as a box and it's like two levels high. Right. And he was just like going crazy with some chick on there. They weren't naked, but like he would,

they're all crazy type of positions. It was cool. It's good to use prop stringing sex like that for women to let lift their hips up and to have like one of those wedges are used, you could just use a pillow. Yeah. Every day pillow, there are special sex wedges

that you can buy like at AdamNive.com. Where if you did go to AdamNive.com and you use coupon code Emily, you would get 50% off most items and three adult DVDs and a free gift. Good. Okay. Hi, Emily. Love your podcast. I've been listening for a couple months now. I also found you by accident as I was searching for fun podcasts to listen to. We always laugh at that. Yeah, right. You're searching for fisting and anal penetration. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you were just having fun in iTunes You're like either this or the Disney Channel My wife is no eight months pregnant

Prior to the pregnancy we had sex three to four times a week her drive increased during the pregnancy Oh, no, yeah for the first few months of pregnancy, well, she was smaller everything stayed normal I was able to get off every time like usual just with four-ply insects the pregnancy. Oh, no. Yet, for the first few months of pregnancy, while she was smaller, everything stayed normal. I was able to get her off every time, like usual, just with four-play and sex. As she got bigger, it was harder for us to find a comfortable position. We slumped for a while. Of course, being the wonderful wife she is, she always offered oral and manual stimulation for me.

To make a long story short, we got most of ours out of our slump by trying different positions and by going out and buying a toy. Thank you Emily for keeping the spark hot, the big O, sign the big O. So they went out and bought a toy. Awesome. Sex toys, sex toys during sex can help women who are having issues, problems, challenges, achieving orgasms, especially if she's pregnant. Yeah.

A good position though is this, for when you're pregnant, is a spooning sex position, it can be very comfortable for pregnancy your pregnant is a spooning sex position, it can be very comfortable for pregnancy sex when you're spooning. And your partner can position themselves behind you different angles to allow for penetration. So when you're lying on your side and you're spooning each other. Yeah, I don't really see any, I was thinking of there's any other positions, but I wouldn't recommend them. The spooning position.

Spooning position. Number one. Sounds good, right? Yes. Okay. Was up with you in the water. You should turn the fan on. I need more water. Do you want filling that up? I'm so thirsty today. What's wrong with you? Because I drank last night. Not a lot. Ah, I see. That's what's going on. I have a few glasses of wine. How many is a flute? I went to my friends restaurant and I have. How many friends do you have to have restaurants? A lot of friends have restaurants. That's why my restaurants that's why my friends know a lot of my friends own

restaurant I don't know why they just do not a lot but a few and they're good restaurants and we always have lots of wine I think that's what it is yeah and salt salty foods okay Italian just need water Emily okay here I am I'm a big fan of your show. I've been looking for an interesting podcast about sex and I think yours is one of the best if not the best one out there. Keep up the great work. Anyway, me, my friends. Anyway, me, my friends, we're having discussions about tantric sex. The girls were reading about this guy they knew who was a master at it and said he'd gone for hours and hours.

Me and the rest of the guys were skeptical. none of the girls had actually been with this guy. Is having sex for so long necessarily a good thing? Chafing would be a problem, surely. Wonder what your thoughts are on this work. Have you experienced tantric sex before? All the best, James from Singapore. We've gone over this, probably a few times. Tantric sex?

Chafing the big, oh,, the thing about tantric sex is, it's not about the orgasm. It's not about your typical orientation sex. We're like, she is an orgasm, he is an orgasm. Instead, you attempt to prolong our increasing potent sexual energy and intimacy with your partner. So tantric sex is really about cultivating this energetic swirl with each other that you actually use to kind of stay in an orgasmic heightened state,

but you don't actually have the orgasm. So if you, like, tantric sex, please, like if you focus on the grand finale, you'll miss the amazing range of feeling the rest has to offer. It's a lot about breath and breathing, and it says it's health enhancing. Sexual energy is one of our most powerful energies for creating health. In the West, we sometimes view sex as a source of recreation rather than means of transformation. And so, tantric sex is really about like transforming yourself.

It's more spiritual. I would love to try tantric sex. I've never have. Believe it or not. The most famous person. It's on my list. The most famous person in talking about this thing. I knew that.

But then he says like, he immediately just said recently, he goes, we're not like we're having sex the entire time. So I, now I don't get, there's not penetration the entire time. No, no, it's more like, it's more like you're creating these energy with each other. And you are having sex, but your breath is aligned and There's a lot of foreplay involved and there's a lot of like touching and staring into to their eyes well, and you're seriously it is about your energy becoming Sounds like a nightmare. I don't know explain it sounds like some focus focus hippie I mean to you this is gonna just like yet exactly. Yeah, yeah, but I have had opportunities to try to enter counter sex before courses take courses. I think I should do that as part of my

continued learning because like next week and I'm going to offer all these courses where people touch your vagina. Yeah, it's what I'm going to offer you a course, but I get to touch your vagina just FYI. It's all it's all for the job, honey. What have you done for your work? I'm just saying like if there was courses to say, hey, I'm going to give you this course. And by the way, you get a you get filet shell. How's life would you be? Maybe. Okay. So am I crazy for sending us to these things? Yeah, it gives your woman. I'm a woman who has a sex show. If I'm not a tantric sex, I don't think I have. I would remember, right?

It's just because the type of guy I'm busy. I'm like, I don't think I have. I would remember right? It's just because the time I'm busy. I got to relax. I got to meditate. I do a thing. I'm just thinking the type of guys that would be offering to chat. Ponytails? Ponytails. I knew you were going to say that. That's why I said that. Really old, great haired guys would like...

Not true. Beards, great beard. Don't stare type the whole tantric nation. And they got to air ring and then, you know, they're just, maybe they got a tie tied shirt, maybe, how many guys at one time are touching you for China? No, I'm not that kind of a toucher. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no How many guys at one time? It's not gonna be well it might be dude. It's might be girls too Women okay, so yeah women in there one at a time. Okay. Yes Missage they're not burnouts from like the hippie days No, no, no, no, no, they're like real people who are

Who I've met who are interested in and what type of people are they? I don't know the who's gonna be oh Why are you smiling because the people that I'm describing? No, no, the dude I met. I met two guys who are part of this thing. Describe them. Cute. Sure, here. Normal.

Dude's normal dudes with normal jobs. Like in technology and in, you know, finance or whatever. They're not like hippies. Some for sure. we live in Northern California for Christ's sake. Unfortunately. But that's going to be next week and the glitter is rubbing and that's going to be really exciting. I'm going to come in just exploding having an orgasm probably. I'm no, I won't do it on camera here. I haven't done that yet. Emily, I recently discovered your podcast and I was looking for something interesting to listen

to to get me through the 12-hour drive from my boyfriend's house to my own. I must say, definitely worked, and I've been listening to archived episodes ever since. As far as I can tell, you don't have an episode on phone sex, and I think it would make a great, make a great topic for your show. I'm currently in a long distance relationship

with, despite popular opinion, that long distance never worked. It's going great. My boyfriend and I have managed to find a couple of things to keep the spark despite the thousand miles distance between us. One night after I had a couple of drinks, she probably got that advice from you.

I called my boyfriend and we engaged in some pretty hot phone sex. Ever since then, he has been trying to initiate it again, but I keep backing off or changing the subject. For some reason, other than that one time I was able to, I can't seem to get comfortable enough or creative enough to rely on words. Do you have any tips for someone new to phone sex?

I love your show. I'm an officially a lawyer listener. Chelsea from Ontario, Ontario, Canada. We have been the show. Take more shots, Chelsea. What's going on? Why are you knocking it? Yeah, we actually have done a show on phone text.

You got to search for it on our site, which right now we are improving the search engine on our site, so you can find that show, I wish I could tell you when it was. Well, maybe we'll have someone email it to you. But, phone text, I think it just like, don't be overwhelmed by it. I mean, it's easy to become overwhelmed by it

because you think it has to be perfect, you need to sound like a porn star and say everything, right? But really, like, menace I talked about this before, we did our phone sex show. Like, it's really just about describing what you could describe last time we were together. You know, baby, last time we were together, that was so hot the way you took my clothes off

and touched my pride. I gave examples last time by can't remember. I'm giving them again. I know. No, but examples like, how you would do it. How I would do it? Yeah. I would start like, silly, by telling you what you would like to do. No, like, examples pretending you would do it. How I would do it? Yeah. I would start like silly by telling what you would like to do.

No, like examples pretending you were on the phone with the guy. I did? Yeah. I did not. I swear. You just want me to have phone sex. Okay, let me get in there. Okay.

Who am I having phone sex with? I got a picture person. I know. Some guy that has a lot of money in a company that he owns and He has a bother ready Okay, some guy that you really like Okay, so this is hard on demand I think I would say I would be okay. I'll set it. I'll set up the scene I'll set up the dude set up the scene. Okay. He's often, you're a dude. Set up the scene, okay. He's off on some business meeting, right? So he's out of the area.

It's a Saturday night. You've already had a, you know, one glass of wine. You're not too tipsy. Right. You know, you're usually bubbly self. And then he calls you. This is giving you an update, but you're feeling kind of sexy that night, you know,

because you're wearing some lingerie. Right, he told me. Yeah, and he got that yapping dog out of the house. And so you're having a good time. Yeah, yes, and maybe there's some porn on in the background. So you're really in the mood. So then you go and you say, Okay, so we call so okay, this guy calls the candle lit too and the lights are down. The lights are down, the candles lit, and I'm wearing something super sexy, or at least you tell them you are.

So, that's a good way to start. To say, hey, baby, so right now, I'm just lying here on my bed and I'm just like. That's how you talk to the guy. You're gonna give me the example. Hi, hi, so good to talk to you. I, yeah, I was just lying here thinking about you, and oh, what am I wearing?

I'm wearing that super sexy, you know how you think I look super hot in that white little tank thing that I wear? So I'm just wearing that. You're all over slow down. I'm just, we got stuff to take. Hold on.

This is more important. We have like 20 minutes. I can't do phone sex on demand without a real person. Should we call my, some dude that I've had phone sex with this year? I can't. No, I'm skinny. Okay, and then you're like, I talks with this year. I have no skin. Okay, and then you're like, I'm just sitting here, I'm just sitting here thinking about, okay, I'm just sitting here thinking about you and um.

This is how you would talk to the guy. Yes, would you stop interrupting? This is the tone that you would be taking with the guy. I'd say, um, yeah, that was so hot. I just can't stop thinking about you. Why are you laughing at me now? I'm trying. So mad at you. I was just getting into it. You're laughing. It was like last week, it was so hot when we had sex and you were, I keep thinking about being on top of you. And the way I was, I'm not going to, like, of being on top of you.

And I just know the way that you were looking at me, and the way I was like I'm not gonna, like, of being on top of you and I just know the way that you were looking at me and the way I was looking at you was super hot. It was, and I want to feel you inside of me. I don't talk that way on the show, how I talk. I would describe a scenario, I would describe what you want, something that you've done in the past, and then I would talk about what you would like to do to him. Why are you the hell are you laughing me so much? It's funny. It's funny. I'm glad I made you would like to do to him. Why are you the hell are you laughing so much? It's because it's funny.

It's funny. And glad I made that make you laugh. Yeah, it's hilarious. But really, you just kind of talk about past experiences, because you don't have to make anything up. You can be like, think of your favorite thing that you did, Chelsea, with your partner last time, and then just scribe it to him on the phone.

Just be like, last time we were together, I loved when you came up from behind, ripped off my clothes and kissed my neck and you slowly went down on me or something. And then I can't wait until your penis is erect again in my mouth or something like that. Yeah, but just down in that tone, where you're just having a problem. I'm not doing the tone now because I'm in my radio tone. I told you to give the example though. I did and you laughed at me the whole time. Because it's hilarious. Thanks. I've finished for the record. I have performed for phone text and I've never been laughed at and I've always had good results. Because they have it on mute. Shut up. On the other side. No, I'm really good at it. I'm really good at it and I'm sort of feel like you showed examples that you are really good at it. I did.

No, you left. I mean, let me go do that. You suck. Okay, I won't say anything. Let's go into the what? I'll turn off my mic. Go ahead. No, I can't. It's the moment. Go on. Redeem yourself. The moment's gone. We have to go into some sex sex. People are gonna be so pissed. Go ahead. Well, I'll do it another day. I'll do it later.

God, you ruined it though, because you laughed at me. I'm being vulnerable and open, and I'm about to have phone sex with my audience, and you laughed at me. Because it was funny. Well, that is not encouragement. I don't know, I don't know, come to your job, not to you. Next time, I won't laugh. Okay. This is not encouragement. I don't know. I don't know. Come to your job. Next time.

Next time. I won't laugh. Okay. This is really important. This is our topic today. Okay. So you got to pay attention. I'm paying attention.

This is like, okay, this is something that comes up a lot. Like why we fall into certain patterns that we do. Why we have certain types. Like do you have a type that you date typically date all the time? Um... Would you say you have a type? I would say either types that I like, yeah. Okay. So, a lot of times people have types and they're kind of like... They're kind of like, why do I keep dating the same kind of person again?

What you have to remember that it always starts out with you, right? So you track certain people in your life. So it's not like these people are happening to you. You are making these scenarios happen. So if you find yourself in a rut with the same guy, he doesn't have a job and like, sitting at his couch playing video games or whatever, that's not, that's you. So it's like taking responsibility for us.

And it's also like, a lot of the reasons why we date certain types has to do with our childhood, you know, how we erase, has to do with our relationship with our parents. Like if someone cheated on us in the past, like that's gonna mess up. So really a lot of it is like clearing up a lot of your past stuff.

And getting clear on what kind of person you really want to date. Like who, who's your perfect person? Like they always tell you to make lists, like make a list of like, really? Yeah, make a list of all the traits that you want in someone. Have you ever done that?

Have you ever made a list of like the perfect ones? Because still people that always make lists list we get made fun of because you'll never find everybody that anybody that you're not going to get everything but you're going to get a lot of it. So it's true. So people, so one of the first things you do is they always say we date our parents. So I'm on some time with this pepper. She's like, your dad was just like my dad that she got divorced with my father. And then we date our parents because they're the ones that are our main role models growing up. And we take off our pain. And like, do you feel like

you've dated anyone that felt like your mother? No, never. I stayed away from that. Right. Cause you don't like your mom. But that's usually why you would actually date someone like your mother. So as soon as we see that their behavior matches our unpleasant expectations, our subconscious mind, thinks they're a perfect match for us because we're so used to the behavior. So we might date someone really abusive. Like if our father or mother was abusive to us, we're used to that from the childhood growing up. So we keep dating people who are abusive. So just look at round your life and your patterns and there you attracting those kind of people

into your life. What would be on your list? My types that I've dated. You don't have to go on a long thing, but a couple things. A couple things. I would say that I've dated like, earlier like in my 20s, I dated a lot of like, for some reason Irish Catholic alcoholics, don't know why. Oh, sweet. They were super creative and smart and funny and whatever, but they weren't really like, like they just weren't my guy.

They were alcoholics, but they were romantic and sweet and kind and great. And I was kind of a type, was dating or I keep the artist type Who's like really trying to figure out his work? But doesn't really have a study job. It's like it's you know terrible So no one heard What I want to get locked down because you were in the early ages Your day nassholes. I wasn't eating assholes. I never ever did

We're gonna get into the seven deadly dating personality types assholes. We're going to get into them at the seven deadly dating personality types. Oh, okay. We're going to get into that in one second. Art people. No. No, no, no, these are more like psychological emotional. So why do we stay in destructive relationships? Because it's easier to blame people for their bad behavior than to face what is what what what we is that than to face the fact that we are looking for them seeking them out catching them and we're we're looking for these people fact that we are looking for them, seeking them out, catching them, and we're looking for these people.

So we must say it's them, it's their fault, but meeting the wrong people is not necessarily bad things. So if you're in a bad situation, now with bad wrong person, like pull yourself out of it and be like, what can I learn from this situation? What can I learn from this person? Okay. So we got to break the cycle,

and we got to just learn that we need to get into more healthy, loving relationships. So just to get a lot of the questions you were like, do you think this person's right for me and they break down all these negative bad things? Because I think people think they deserve certain type of things. And we're going to write up believing that we do, that we are supposed to like, take certain kinds of abuses or date certain type people, what really you have to, I think it's all of our jobs to figure out what we want.

And now what are parents want for us? And now what we're just replaying from our jobs to figure out what we want. And now what are parents want for us? And now what we're just replaying from our childhood issues, but what we want. Okay, let's get into the seven deadly dating personality types. All right. What do you think? I wonder how many of these you made it.

Can I guess, can I guess, or how many I fit in, you said? How many of these people you've bought? I'm dating. Okay, I'll tell you. Okay, ready? What were you gonna say? You were gonna guess one? The needy. I'll tell you. Okay, ready. What were you going to say? You were going to guess one?

The needy. Um, needy person. Nope. But maybe it's something actually I think I wrote something on this once. So it's top I did top 10 types of women you don't want to date. That's nice. So go ahead and go for it. Okay, the pleaser.

Yeah. The unfortunate reality is that some people tell lies are overexaggerated to seem better than they are. And they think they are, appeal more likeable. What I mean by this is pretending to be more honest, successful, kinder and younger, be a non-smoker when you're a smoker, more empathetic and more giving than you really are. So the pleaser is lying to you and exaggerating about who they are

because they want to just please you. Yeah, that's someone to avoid. But then there's parts of this in everyone. People have multiple persons, like people have, like they'll be a pleaser and a controller. This is someone who feels that the way they think and operate is the right way to live. Anyone who doesn't understand this or can fit

around their lifestyle and opinions of how they think others should behave towards them is the person way to live. Anyone who doesn't understand this or can fit around their lifestyle and opinions of how they think others should behave towards them is the raw, they think that the person's wrong needs to change. These people are overly sensitive about their own needs and think that they are incredibly kind of caring towards others. They will gently or otherwise demand

that you act the way you think they should. Okay, I know these people. I've dated the controllers. In fact, I actually have dated several controlling people because my life often feels like it needs to be controlled because there's so much going on. So I have, in the past gone towards more controlling man, I would say. That way it doesn't seem like that for me because I'm a very controlling person in

many ways. But when it comes to relationships, I've tended to date men because I thought I needed them to control me and really, you don't need anyone to control you, you have to control yourself. So I've definitely recognized that. The aesthetic, this is the type of data who chooses a potential date based on covertly analyzing via Google Facebook and other means,

their date's partner suitability status. Finding out if possible, the person's credit score, RM Candy score, social, business and lifestyle status and their vulnerability, psychological manipulation. Their catch cry, how can this person improve my lifestyle ambitions? So this is somebody just looking for like RM Candy, some hot chick researching like how much money her dad makes or whatever. I've never dated anyone like that. I think Have you that somebody is this dating for arm candy? Yeah, I was like searching out people who they think will up their status They're only in test that X in the superficial

I think I maybe dated one person like that. Yeah, okay Because you're so Handsome and Devon air no not that the code dependent person like that, yeah? Okay. Because you're so handsome and devinear. No, not that. The co-dependent. This is big. A lot of people fall into co-dependency and relationships. This person is constantly seeking your approval and reassurance that you like them and want

to be with them. They look for ways for you to pay them compliments as for your opinion as they don't seem to have a solid one of their own or indecisive and will be interested in being totally immersed in your life. And extreme cases negating their own are indecisive and will be interested in being totally immersed in your life, and extreme cases negating their own. They are like puppy seeking constant love and attention even before your second date. They call texts or email excessively prior to the first date if you've met in line. These are all stereotypes, really.

It's sweet in the beginning, but at the end of the two-large space invaders, they soon will soon get sick of their catch-cry-high. It's me again, the codependent. And I feel like codependents are more like people who are both going through the person who's suffering with the alcoholic, the typical situation is like being with an alcoholic and the wife, let's just dating a man who's alcoholic. And everything in her life, she's sort of the martyr and she's always like taking care of them and their friend, but she like, almost like his disease has become

her sole purpose in life. Like she makes his disease her own and with negating all of her other responsibilities unhealthy to be in a code dependent relationship. Great book for that code dependent, oh, more. Yeah, I mean, I definitely been in a relationship like that. You have. I remember. I remember.

Yeah. Or it just became more about taking care of that person then being in a relationship. Right. And it sucks. Sucks. You want to avoid these people. But everyone's got what I'm saying is no one's perfect and you're going to find some of these things, but it's just a matter of like recognizing.

The liar. This type of data is emotionally dangerous. They tell stories and have true scentsia what is really going on in their life. In general, they won't discuss in detail their past and their life is full of huge money making opportunities that are working on. Frequently, jacking names are influential people they know to make themselves so important. Keeping you away from meeting their family and only introduce you to select group of their friends is a way to ensure you don't get the inside story on them. They're catch-crying. It sounds like me. How can you not believe me? Sounds

like you? I'm not the liar, but I just which part of this sounds like you Not wanting to introduce people to what is that? Why do you keep people separate? You're not a liar. You just like to compartmentalize like a lot of me people do It depends until like I am I Don't want to give the situation. I go oh where I go. Oh, this is my girlfriend and blah blah And then something that I'm not too serious with I don't want to give the situation. I go oh where I go. Oh, this is my girlfriend and blah blah and then Something that I'm not too serious with but I do hang out with a lot Right and then eventually, you know that will die off and then I have to deal with

But you're not like inconsistent in lying and like you have your job and you have your thing. Yeah, so you're just you're just You just don't want girls to get too much up into your stuff. Because you want of your independence. Yeah, and I don't want to, unless I'm really serious about them, then I will evolve them into everything. You will? Yeah. It's been a long time since you've done that. Yeah, I've learned my lessons.

It's good. Yeah. Okay, then there is this serial data. This type of data is barely out of one relationship and looking for another. They hate being by themselves and see companionship at virtually every waking hour. They seek to get into a long-term relationship very quickly. Their relationships are usually short-lived as they haven't dealt with why the last relationship didn't work and the one before that. There was always something wrong with the last partner and nothing was ever their fault.

They would look to have commitment very quickly from you. They're catch-cry. Okay, that's enough about you and let's talk more about me. Serial data. I used to be a serial data, but I don't think. Yeah, I guess I did. I actually did this part of it. I did the part where I didn't want to deal with the pain of the last relationship and I would constantly move into the next relationship. So that's like being a serendip. I was more of a serendip. I would date for two years and then break up and then date someone else, like literally like, I break up with a guy and that night I got my girlfriends because I'm single again. I do that crazy, big girl. That's got a Vegas.

And I mean, the next guy that I date for two years literally like that night, like I was couldn't be stopped And I think I as a result that hurt that you should take time in between relationships I think I avoided dealing any pain. That's when I was in pain avoidance phase of my life. I know this girl from Ever since I've known her since a freshman high school has always had a boyfriend I do not know her Going more than a week without a boyfriend. I think everyone needs time in their life without a boyfriend. Like you just without a girlfriend or a boyfriend,

you just need time, I think, alone to like get to know yourself. There's a lot of people who do that. They stay with their, you know, they stay with their high school sweetheart. I don't know. I mean, it works for a lot of people, but I just think if you are someone who's dating a lot, like try not dating, try like my mandatory

on my took last year for six months where I did not have sex and I did not date for six months. Do you remember my mandatory? Yeah, I don't know what that was all about. Well, that was fun. That was such a good time of growth for me. I learned a lot about myself. What did you learn?

I was alone. I learned that I'm so fine without a man in my life, which I always kind of knew. And I am I just relied on myself more for entertainment. I wasn't like because there's always you can always have guys around if you're checked like you always say you can always have like a guy around you can always do something or see someone. But I but I think I a lot of us are oriented that way that we need to have it. We need something's wrong if there is not someone in our life. And I don't think I ever

felt like anything was wrong if there wasn't there just always was. And I don't think I ever felt like anything was wrong. If there wasn't, there was always was. So I was like, how interesting would it be to try something different? Let me try my life without a man in it. So I did. Look how healthy I am now. I know, perfect. See?

Okay, there's a few tips to spotting a deadly dating personality. So here's what you should do. Listen to what they're saying. When you speak with them, don't interrupt or think of what you're going to say next. Really listen for the cues. Like my mom says, all the issues that you have are on the third date. And they will keep repeating themselves forever. So you should be paying attention to your eyes open when you're going into a relationship. My mom says, it's just even third date you have forever. Try to think of third dates.

That's true. That's why you broke up with her. Like whatever it was on the third date, she talked to the waiter too long, which is what you hate. Hate that. Or she talked too much. Hate that. I want them to talk, but then there's people that don't talk, which annoy the hell out of me when you try to have a conversation with them. Like, they want to hang out with you all the time, but when you, you're on one on one with them. They don't talk at all. They don't talk at all. I don't even know people like that. I know people like that.

I can't even imagine living my life like that. Oh my God. Okay, ask questions, you think it. I have ask girlfriends like that. You do, you do quite a girl. Well, because you don't like people talking, which is ironic. No, but it's like, well, we'll talk on the internet

and then it's all good. And then when we get face to face and all that stuff, no talking at all at all. And then... Maybe they were shy. I mean some kind of conversation. Of course. But when I... When it's time, not talking... Things they were shy or nervous? I don't know. Be honest. Okay. Ask questions. Do you think they may be one of the seven deadly dating personalities? Ask them questions, then listen to the answers, then ask questions on their answers. Watch if they fidget or don't want to make eye contact. Eye contact is huge.

People who like talked up to the corner, whatever, are looking at you. You want to go to make eye contact, oh man, or women to make eye contact. Ask them to describe a couple that they know who represents the perfect couple and why they think they have a perfect relationship. These answers will give you an insight into what they expect

in a relationship. That's interesting. Like, do you look at any couple right now and you're like, they're the perfect couple. I would love to emulate their relationship. Yeah, I see a couple. A couple of couples. Good.

There's this one couple that's, they're actually musicians that I really like because they're always smiling, they're always happy. Every time I meet them, they're just having fun doing what they're doing. And they're married. Yeah. And they're in a band together. Yeah, they're called man Kim. Awesome. They're like the nicest people you ever meet. It's great. A couple of people can work together and play together. Asm to describe the worst couples relationship in wire. This will also give you views on what's not acceptable. Acceptable in a relationship. Ask them why they want to be in a relationship with some very carefully to this answer. Why?

These are all the questions like, you should ask them in any way, not the first date, not the second date. Not probably the third or fourth date. You can start having these. First and second date, just, you should still ask questions. But you don't have to get into like, what do you think about relationships? Cause that might freak someone out.

Anything. If the first date a girl was like, so. So. Menace, which your ideal relationship? So we need to talk. Menace, we need to talk. We need to have the talk. We actually have to go. We do. We got to wrap up on this Friday. It's Margarita clock right now. Oh my god. We got Margaritas. That's a great idea. That's a great freaking idea. Okay everyone, let me make sure I read all my announce.

Oh, okay, Monday, we'll be talking about how to seduce someone. I just wanna say that. If you don't know how to... Are you gonna give examples on how to seduce somebody? Yeah. Are you gonna do it in your sexy voice? You put the high-bosh on my sexy voice.

I was going there and you did not let me be sexy. And you made me ruin the whole mood for me. But it was hilarious. Okay honey. Um and then uh yeah that's all I got for you. So we can happy Friday, happy free Friday. Thanks everyone for listening to the show. Before we go, we're at the sister studios. We love Stitcher. You can download the app for your mobile phone, your smartphone, listen to the show every single day. The app is free. It's STIT, CHER. I know, I would never spell it right. Okay, download it. Download it now. Thanks everyone for listening to Sex with Emily. It was a good for you. Email me. Feedback at sexwithemily.com.