Sex With Emily - Episode 280 - Whaddya Want (in bed)???
Episode Date: August 26, 2011Emily gets her intern to talk candidly about what she really wants in bed, and tells you how to handle it when your partner “doesn’t know” what they want. There’s advances in 3D porn, and an $...800 sex doll you can race. Men’s issues get addressed, such as orgasm dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and how to change one’s mindset when masturbating in order to have better sex. Then for the ladies, we talk about when you need to realize he's not the one, and the best breast play techniques there are. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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It shrinks.
And we not talk about sex so much.
Are you kidding me?
Oh my god.
I'm so drunk.
Being bad feels pretty good.
You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.
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I'm so excited for today's show.
Man, this isn't here today. He's at the VMA.
So hopefully he'll come back having slept with a celebrity and tell us a story.
But we don't know about that.
That's just what I requested of him.
But I'm so excited because I've interned Lauren here.
She's a new intern on the show.
And she's going to be talking all about her sex life,
sharing details, what women really want in bed.
This is a series that I've been doing over the last few years.
I don't know if you've caught any of these shows,
but I kind of like you're overhearing a conversation
between two girlfriends just kind of talking about
their sex life.
So we're gonna get into what turns around,
what makes her feel good, best sex-shaper-head,
the mistakes guys are making,
the mistakes, you know, things that she's learned,
masturbation, just everything, everything, everything.
We're also, of course, gonna do sex in the news
and read your emails.
Some of the topics of your emails include
getting into the game, premature
regulation, and how to touch a woman's breasts.
Plus some sex in the news.
So happy Friday.
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if you have nothing else to do.
I mean, it's Friday, though.
I don't know what you're doing this weekend.
I'm getting my clitoris rubbed for three days.
I'm going on an orgasmic meditation retreat.
We had a guest on the show a few weeks ago in Nicole Day Don.
She's part of one taste, which is an organization
in San Francisco that I've been hearing about for years.
And I've always been really intrigued by her orgasmic
meditation practice.
Basically, you massage the woman's clitoris
and it's supposed to be very meditative
and I don't actually don't really know what it entails
except for the fact that she's been on the show
if we could go and talk about it.
I've never actually experienced it.
So I'm going on a three day retreat,
I'm giving it up, I don't know what it means. I don't know what's going to happen. All I
know is that some strangers are going to be touching my clitoris, the quadrants of my
clitoris. I always thought it's amazing if someone can just find the clitoris, but they're
breaking the clitoris into quadrants. So I will report back on Monday and let you know
everything that I learn, and I like it. If I don't like it, I don't know, but I figured, misogy my
clothes for three days, why not, right? And it's for you too, because whatever I
learn, you learn. So okay, we have, okay, what else do I want to say? What else I've
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Okay, sex in the news.
Here we go.
Lots of sex in the news.
Okay, this is kind of depressing.
Finally, the cure for female masturbation.
There's always these people who think masturbation is wrong.
A group called dirty-grow ministries
claims to treat women for porn addiction, but their
definition of addiction appears to include what most people would do completely normal.
They seem to be convincing women that nearly all forms of sexual thought are dirty.
26-year-old Christopher Rhodes started dirty girls in 2009 after suffering from her own
self-described pornography addiction.
The growing group of 100-plus members, which isn't that big, thank God, who participate
in the forum, say that they masturbate or view porn twice a week or less.
Really, that's not a big deal.
These people should be finding something else to do.
There should not be a cure for masturbation.
Women should masturbate more to figure out what makes them feel good.
Of course, there is such thing as addiction to pornography.
Doing it twice a week, non-indiction.
The only thing you're doing it 100 times a day is non-indiction.
Let me tell you that.
How you know if you have an addiction to pornography or to anything is if it's ruining, if it's
wreaking havoc on your daily life.
Are you not able to go to work because you're masturbating with porn?
Has it ruined your relationship?
Are you no longer able to have sex because all you can think about is porn? Are you late to work? Are you doing it at work? Whatever it is, if it's having
negative repercussions on your life, you have an addiction. Otherwise, I don't know what these women
are doing, but I mean, really nothing wrong with porn. You should watch more porn. You should go
to fire TV, FYRATV. We love them. Okay, this is hilarious. I had to read it like three times because I didn't even really know that this kind of thing existed.
Both sperm, spillage, forces, police to shut a Tennessee highway. Apparently a heavily traffic Tennessee highway was shut down after police discovered four large canisters of bullsemen on the road. Why are they transferring four canisters of bullsemen? I wasn't sure
either, but apparently they're on route to a breeding facility, but I just
would not want to be driving through all that semen splashing onto my windshield.
So I'm so glad I was not in Tennessee when this happened a few days ago.
Yeah, that's all there is to say about that. Bullsemen does not sound good.
Does not start attractive. Okay. The naked rambler Stephen Goff was jailed again.
So he's been jailed, so Stephen Goff had 60 seconds of freedom.
The 52 year old royal marine was arrested outside
Perth Prison almost immediately after he was released
from a 21 month sentence.
You think, you think if you're in jail for 21 months,
you might have, you know have learned a thing or two.
No, he was found guilty of breach of the piece
at the court right after when he got naked in court.
So he had a contempt of court.
He basically showed her up naked at his court date
and he was put in jail for the same thing.
So some people just want to be naked, I guess.
That's what happened to him.
Okay, so we've got porn industry goes 3D to lift
sagging skin flick sales.
So the porn industry is suffering now
because the internet piracy is taking a major bite
out of the bottom line.
And adult film producers are going through three
dimensional effort to effort to lure paying customers.
Well, now they're thinking 3D porn is the way to dose.
They've adopted 3D technology.
So they invested 1.5 million euros in the production
of 100 3D films that are about 23-30 minutes long.
I've never seen a porn film in 3D, but I'm not sure,
like, can you imagine, like, the Oraxians 3D
and the Breast 3D, like, Thrig Penises?
Does it feel like the penis?
Like, you could reach out and touch it. Do I want that? I don't know. I've never seen porn in 3D and the breast 3D like thick penises. Does it feel like the penis? Like you could reach out and touch it.
Do I want that?
I don't know.
I've never seen point of 3D, but I appreciate their creativity.
Okay, the harder they don't come, findings from the largest ever study of orgasmic and
ejaculatory dysfunction suggests that orgasmic dysfunction could be as prevalent among men
as it is among women.
The British Journal followed more than 12,000 men with mild to severe erectile dysfunction
and found that two-thirds of those men were unable to have an orgasm and more than half
had problems with the ejaculation.
So a lot of them take medications like Viagra and Cialis and they've been successful in
helping many of these men.
But the study notes that it can also be caused,
because this is a huge, I get asked this question all the time
about premature ejaculation, orgasmic issues,
orgasmic dysfunction.
It can be caused by low testosterone and a minor brain injury,
such as that sustained by a motor cycle accident victims.
Football player sufferings from concussion,
or soldiers by combat-related head injuries.
So you might be taking a bag or whatever, but you might have another issue.
So I'm always saying you should get checked.
Don't just pop the pills.
Get checked by your doctor.
It's always a good thing to do.
You know what I mean?
Right.
So, okay.
This is a return to crazy people in the world.
There's a sex sex craze loser.
He crashes into an adult store and steals an $800 vagina.
I don't know.
I don't know if he's like sitting around.
How do these things happen?
Because he's sitting around and how and we say, that was a hot $800 vagina I saw.
And I think I'm going to crash my car into the adult store and steal the vagina.
And he did it.
Okay.
It was an 800 life like masturbator complete with female genitalia legs and steal the vagina. And he did it. Okay, it was an 800 life-like masturbator
complete with female genitalia legs and buttocks.
Well, I guess it was pretty complete.
It wasn't just a vagina,
so maybe you would crash your car for that.
The thief seemed to have had the expensive toy
precisely in mind when he crashed his red stolen semi
into the adult mart at around 2am Monday morning.
He only got a quarter mile from the mart
when police caught up to him still in the truck,
but with a sex toy missing, somehow he made a quick getaway in foot and now local authorities
are looking for him and the toy. You'd think they'd be able to find the toy and him,
but I don't understand this at all. These people are crazy. You think, but I don't know,
maybe he hasn't had sex in a while and he really wanted to eat 100 dollar vagina.
Clearly, he did really want it. Okay, meanwhile, in Russia, there is a sex doll river race.
Two sex doll stories today.
I don't know what to make of it.
What does it mean?
What does it all mean?
800 spectators started up at the ninth annual bubble
Baba 2011 Challenge, which placed near St. Petersburg.
The participants stroked their way down the river rapids
on male and female inflatable sex dolls.
The entire event lasted three minutes, like a lot of men I know, just getting okay.
And was conceived by organizer Demetri someone.
It was started as a joke where the men got drunk and the women didn't show up.
So it was a bunch of dudes on inflatable dolls going down the river.
Sounds like a fun day. Sorry missed it.
And more sperm stories.
Swedish police have a sperm sniffing dog to help them find sexual predators. So these
dogs are trained to sniff out semen. Now I just got a dog and I'm glad my dog is not
trained to sniff out semen because the dog when you have sex in there there and you
have sex in your room and it's on your bed and whatever, I wouldn't want my dog to sniff out semen.
Not that there's a lot of semen in my house,
I'm just saying, but that's what they're doing.
Okay.
A Switzerland, this is interesting.
We're always talking about sex ad on the show,
like there's not enough sex ad, there's too much sex ad,
and wherever there is sex ad,
you're always gonna find people complaining about sex ad.
But all I can say is we do need more sex ad
in the world, more realistic sex ed that's not like those old films
from the 60s and where you can learn real information.
In Switzerland, kids ages 4 to 10 get their sex education
with a wooden penis and a fabric for dino,
which teachers use to show that contacting body parts can be pleasurable.
Another part of this teacher's guide instructs kids to learn
about pleasure while they rub themselves with warm sad sandbags while listening
to soft music. That makes me a little nervous. I guess the kids are sitting
there clutching sandbags and rubbing themselves in the classroom age four to
ten. So the Swiss are not happy about this. They're sending mean and angry
letters to the government. Children should be encouraged to develop an experience or sexuality in a pleasurable way.
And they are not happy about that. But I do not feel like kids in there with the sandbag listening to soft music.
But I do think we need better sex education. I have no problem with the fabric vagina or wooden penis.
But I do not know about the listening to soft music. But I am not going to criticize. I'm just happy that there is sex education out there.
So that's my sex in the news.
That was a rapid fire sex in the news.
And now we're gonna move into some emails.
Yay, emails.
And then did you hear that my sexy intern Lauren
is going to be sharing all the intimate details
of her sex life in just a few minutes?
And these are the shows that I love to think.
It's like the conversation overheard. It's like what you want to know about women her sex life in just a few minutes. And these are the shows that I love to think it's like, it's like the conversation overheard.
It's like what you want to know about women's sex life
that you were afraid to ask, that you didn't know,
that it's gonna be really revealing and hot.
So just hang out for that.
But first we gotta answer your emails.
Thanks everyone for emailing me at feedbackatsexwithemley.com.
I love hearing from you.
There's also a really easy way to ask me a question on
my website. There's the Q&A. At the top, bar, you click a semi-question. I'll answer it. If your
friend's been a member, your emails go right to the top and we answer yours. And we love hearing
from you. So thank you. Okay, dear Emily, I love your show and I listen on my iPod often. I've
been seeing a guy for almost a year now.
He continues to tell me he likes me and is interested but needs baby steps.
We spend time together but every time we get to the bedroom he can't get in the game.
I attempt to make the best of it and then I will go home and finish what I need to satisfy
myself.
He seems to have commitment issues.
I don't feel that he is connected to me
He says he he says it is because his previous relationship had no sex and no touching
I made it clear. I made it clear that that is not me
I want to touch more at times. I think he tries but other times I feel no connection from him
How long does the person tread lightly with the person trying to get into the game?
He's not any minute medications and there's no drinking involved when the failure occurs. I've
been more than open about what I want. Where do I draw the line? Thanks for your help
Kathy. Kathy's a premium member from Evington, Illinois. Okay, so he can't get into
the game. It sounds like he's a premature
ejaculator because you're saying that there's a failure. So I'm assuming either you can't get hard or you premature ejaculator.
Any of its treatment issues, and you don't feel connected to them intimately.
There's some issues here, Kathy.
Okay, the sexual issues, it's a, I'm glad that you told me that these are not any
medications, these are not a heavy drinker because those two things really can impact orgasm issues in men, premature ejaculation or inability to
get an erection.
There's steps that he can take.
There's a great book called the multi-organic man that teaches men how to deal with that.
There's exercises you can do.
There's masturbation techniques he can do where he gets himself right to the point of orgasm and then he stops so you learn so men can learn to know their
own bodies when they, so men can learn when they're about to orgasm and then they can train
themselves to stop at that point. There's a bunch of things. I'm actually going to get into that
next with another email and when you get really into premature ejaculation. But I don't like that
there's no sex and no touching. I've been with men like that.
It's really kind of cold.
Like when there's men that have intimacy issues
and they're not as warm and cuddly as I like,
let me just say like I love to cuddle and to touch
and I make excuses for those men
because they're great in other ways.
But honestly, if you, it sounds like a lot
of your needs aren't getting met here.
It sounds like intimately, you don't have intimacy intimacy you want you don't have the sexual satisfaction you want
You're going home and pleasing yourself and you feel like his commitment issues
So I'm not really sure if this is your dude. I mean you've been dating for a year
People can change but they only change if they want to change
So you can try to talk to them about all these issues. And I don't know how old you are either.
I don't think you said how old you are,
but a lot of times, like, I don't know,
maybe in your 20s, 30s, like men have a lot of work to do.
Women tend to mature faster than men.
And if he's ever any, I don't know if he said any therapy,
but that can help men open up.
You can try to open them up.
But if he's already like telling you
that he's got human issues, he's got some sexual issues,
and you feel no connection from him.
I'm wondering what the benefits that you are,
what that you are feeling from this relationship,
like what are the good things?
Because these seem to be in my book major.
Tap a list, things that you need, non-negotiables,
and I wanna know what the pluses are.
So maybe you should do a little pro and con list.
I've done that with men. I'm like, pro, use this, use he's this, he's that. And so when the con list is really long, like, what are the benefits that you're getting?
Are you just kind of moving along? Because let me tell you this, Kathy. And I just said this by mistake. I got because if you're hoping that he's going to change,
he is not going to change men don't change women don't change unless they want to change. Now you can tell them and you can talk to him
and you can say,
I wish we were more connected and I wish you touched you more
and I wish you pleased me more and all this stuff.
But he doesn't really see the problem.
And maybe you can convince him and then he'll want to change
but if he's just kind of going along with the motions
and it's been a year, I mean, I would say, I'm not saying Dupam.
I'm saying try to talk to him, try to express your needs to him.
But if he doesn't come around, I give yourself a deadline.
I give it like another two months. And you talk to him now about all these things and if he doesn't come around, I give yourself a deadline. I give it like another two months.
And talk to him now about all these things.
And if he doesn't change, it's time to move on.
Because life is too short to waste your time
in a relationship where you're not getting
your basic human needs met.
Okay, Kathy, thanks.
Very thirsty today.
It's Friday.
It's hot in San Francisco finally.
Okay.
And it's free Friday.
You're all watching the show for free. Isn't it
fun? Don't you wish that you could have sex with them every day? You can if you become
a friend's benefit's member. Every day but Wednesday and Saturday and Sunday. But it's
awesome. So you're going to really like it when you join. Okay. Dear Emily, thanks for
the tips. I read I read that you are, you are some, you are an expert in
so many sexual topics. I want to ask you about early ejaculation. I'm pretty sure that
any tip could help me with that besides kegels. Thanks for your time Esteban. Well, kegels
can help with that kegels exercises. I'm not sure why you said besides kegels, but I'll
just say that kegels exercises are for men and women and just real quickly.
That is when you isolate your PC muscles, which is those P-stapping muscles.
So you know when you're going to the bathroom and you're peeing and you want to stop and
start and start.
That's the PC muscles.
And you just learn to contract and release.
You hold and release and you hold and release and you do it.
You hold for a second and you release.
You hold and release.
I actually have an app called Kagel Camp, you can get it on your iPhone,
and it reminds you to do your exercises, and I've gotten so many emails people have said that it's
like totally changed their sex life. But if you don't want your back, I've got some more ideas for you.
First, okay. Before your penis even comes into play, we've got to talk about anxiety reduction.
A lot with premature ejaculation has to do with performance anxiety levels because a lot
of times we're just anxious and anxiety has a lot to do with it.
It's not like there's anything wrong with you, it's just that you're anxious about it
because maybe in the past you've been a premature ejaculator.
So what happens is you're thinking, I'm going to ejaculate.
Oh my god, what if I ejaculate?
I'm going to go, and there you go.
And you ejaculate it because you're afraid.
So you fear around it and you're thinking anxiety.
It's associated with a lot of times premature ejaculation
is associated with infrequent sex and metamethyl low frequencies
of sexual activity get extra excited in the rouse, which
can manifest in performance anxiety when sex prevents itself. Even men with frequent sex get extra rouse. So reducing anxiety is
different for everyone. A lot of things that work as meditation, hypnosis, imagery,
just like an athlete works out with a sports psychologist, you can do the same
sexual imagery in the bedroom. So you can imagine positive sexual
scenarios, envision your interactions and what behaviors you would change. Imagery is like a positive mental plan.
So you can like in your mind kind of picture walk through the scenario that you would like
to happen.
Visualization is huge.
Visualization is huge in our life.
Visualization is really big.
Like if we're trying to picture our life goals and where we want to go, what we want to
manifest in our life, like the things that we want to happen. It's all about visualization.
So if you can do some meditation and think about
what you want it to be, that's something that can help you.
Also helps talk to a partner or a friend or a therapist
about it.
Don't keep it to yourself.
Guys are not like chicks.
Like if girls were premature decculators,
I'd be like, hey, I just premature decculated.
What do I do?
We'd all be talking to our friends.
We'd post it on Facebook.
You guys don't talk as much.
So this is why it's good to talk to a friend or therapist.
There's also the start stop method,
I just mentioned in Kathy's email.
This is a tried and true tested method
that really works for men.
It's learning ejaculatory control in lasting longer.
So what happens is a male stimulates his penis
until he's ready to have an orgasm and then he stops.
So why this self-administrated torture? and then he's still in the middle of the day. So, when you're in the middle of the day, you're in the middle of the day.
So, when you're in the middle of the day,
you're in the middle of the day,
you're in the middle of the day,
you're in the middle of the day,
you're in the middle of the day,
you're in the middle of the day,
you're in the middle of the day,
you're in the middle of the day,
you're in the middle of the day,
you're in the middle of the day, you're become really, really in touch with that. And then when you're having actual intercourse with someone, you'll be able to recognize
that part of your body when you're about to orgasm and then you can stop yourself.
And this also involves, so this is the moment.
So basically, it's a point of no return, the moment before you're when you're about to
explode.
So instead of ejaculating, you refrain from stimulation and allow the feeling of
orgasm to subside, subside. So you can pull out and people often squeeze their PC muscles
at this point to help hold back the orgasm and ejaculation. Basically, you're teaching
your mind and body to be comfortable with heightened states of arousal and learning to stop
the ejaculation. And also, a lot of things to do with premature ejaculation have to do with masturbation.
A lot of times masturbation is a learned form of behavior, so maybe you learn to masturbate
really quickly because you're afraid your mom is going to come home or you live in a house
with a lot of kids.
And guys have a fast track approach to orgasm.
And so to masturbation.
So you need to change your mentality of
the way you masturbate and it's really is the best practice of sex. So try to take
20 minutes before allowing yourself to ejaculate. So this would mean you would be doing
the start and stop method. So hopefully one of these will work for you. Oh one more
thing, sex positions. Man on top, more likely to orgasm. Women on top, more likely to orgasm. Women on top less likely to orgasm.
So put the woman on top. Man on top also other things are side to side
spooning and rear entry doggy style is another way to kind of help prevent
manage calculating but usually manage calculate easier when they're on top.
So hopefully some of those tips helped you.
Those were a lot of tips.
I'm feeling very tip friendly today.
Okay.
Hey, Emily and Menace, I love the show.
I found you in iTunes about a year ago
when I was looking for podcasts about,
wait for it, sex.
Imagine that.
You was searching for sex and you found us.
We are a top podcast on iTunes
and you should go review us right now.
As a side note, review us on iTunes and give us five stars if you feel like it.
Okay, so he found us on iTunes.
My fiance has glorious boobs.
So glorious in fact that she turned me from a but man to a boob man.
She's never really told me what she likes for breastplace so I'm very interested in hearing
about it so I can surprise her with a few new tricks.
Also, her absolute favorite thing is when I go down in her while inserting a finger or two.
So I'd love to hear more about fingering.
So how about a show dedicated to breastplay and fingering?
A foreplay extravaganza.
Love that idea.
That's right, that down and do a show on that.
Lastly, I know this is played out,
but I really don't understand why there is a hand job debate. Any guy who thinks it feels
better to do it himself should stay home to play with himself and leave all the willing
ladies to those of us who enjoy the touch of a woman.
Keep up the great work done from New York City. Wow, this is Chuck Fuldon. Lots here. We
got lots of tackler here. So first, let's just take it in order. Boom, boom, boom, boom, your wife, your fiancee,
has glorious breasts.
Awesome.
And turned you into a breast man.
That's so cool.
What are some tips?
Start slow.
Here's a thing.
A lot of men are like, wow, boobies.
I want to like pinch them and squeeze them
and pull them and need them and, no.
Start slow and soft.
Anytime you want to touch the breast,
you want to start slow and soft, because it's different for every woman, she might like, like
nipple clamps eventually. She might like all that stuff and a lot of women actually can
orgasm through their breasts. So I would just start by asking her like what feels good,
what feels good is this feel and you can just start by, I mean, literally licking, sucking,
squeezing, pinching, all women are different. So, you know, cupping your hands and don't ignore a lot of men do this.
This is annoying.
This is a pet peeve of mine.
They just touch one breast.
They're like, oh, one breast is enough.
Touch both breasts.
Not if it doesn't to be the same time, but pay attention to them.
Use your mouth.
Use your fingers.
You know, wet your fingers like, like, use saliva on your fingertips and like,
sort of make circles around her nipples and have her nipples get hard.
That is the second most common orgasm is women through their nipples.
So honestly tips, I don't know, put cream on them, lick the whipped cream off.
That would probably feel amazing to her, but don't do it on a vagina because
it's not good to put sugar in the vagina because you're gonna back to your own
infection. And maybe you could eventually advance, maybe she does like more pulling.
So what I'm saying is start slowly with some light pinching, light nibbling, light sucking,
like light, okay, do you hear me light?
Five times lighter than you think you should do.
It's five times lighter than you want to do is what you should start with.
And she might tell you, like ask her, say what do you want?
Like does that feel good?
Would you like it harder?
Like talk her through it.
And she might not even know.
She might not have, she might have glorious breaths,
and I'm, that's amazing.
But she may never have had a man who really took the time
to understand her breath.
So she might not even know what makes herself feel good.
So I look at this as like a journey you two can take
together with her breasts to explore what makes her feel good.
But all those things, like sucking, nippling, nippling,
sucking, pinching, lightly, lightly biting,
could all feel good for her.
Okay, so you want to talk about fingering.
You'd love to hear more about fingering.
Okay, fingering.
Some women can ornaz them that way.
You can reach the G-spot that way.
A lot of women, which is, it's located
in the upper two-thirds of the vagina, and we've done a bunch of
shows on the G-spot, hopefully you can, you know where the G-spot is, but that's how a lot
of women can orgasm, so it might not be the first or second time, it's when you, it's
like when you, when you do find it, it might make her feel good, it might make her feel
like she has to pee, but a lot of women like G-spot simulations, so you can try to, you
and her, you and she can try to have a like G-spot simulations, so you can try to, you and her, you and she
can try to have a little G-spot located or weekend. A lot of women like really hard pressure,
they want like tons of fingers in there and they want like three fingers and they want
hard and fast, they can't necessarily orgasm that way maybe, but they really like think
it feels good. Some women just want you to, you know, touch them on their clitoris. It
sounds like she likes to insert a finger too. That sounds great I would explore with three fingers four fingers if you
want to explore. I would start with I would again, it sounds like if she likes it
when you insert a finger that again it might be about the G-spot so maybe I would
try to like make sure you find her G-spot and you guys can do that together.
And lastly the handout debate so if you're just joining us and you haven't
heard about the handout debate it's been you're just joining us and you haven't heard about the handout debate,
it's been going on with menace and I for about three years now.
And since he's not here, I'm going to tell you the truth about it.
Here's the handout debate.
So one day, we were talking on the show about hand jobs.
And I thought hand jobs are something that you kind of do in high school when you're younger. And then you kind of move on to blow jobs and you stop giving hand jobs. And I was like, I want to bring back the hand jobs. And I thought hand jobs is something that you kind of do in high school when you're younger
and then you kind of move on to blow jobs
and you start giving hand jobs.
And I was like, I wanna bring back the hand job.
I think that women should start giving
my hand jobs more because hand jobs
like you guys give yourself hand jobs, you masturbate,
but if you use lots of lube, it can feel like amazing, okay?
It can feel so good for a guy and you can use two hands.
Women can do like all these different things to a man's penis
that he doesn't normally do because he's usually doing masturbating the same way. So I said, let's
bring back the hand job. Like let's just let's just have women start giving hand jobs.
No, I was not saying I was not saying he's gonna hate me over here just because he's got
all of it there. But I was not saying that you should stop performing oral sex and I wasn't
saying you should stop having intercourse. I was saying it's a nice accoutrement. It's something that you should add to your sexual
repertoire, that you should throw in a hand job every once in a while. Grab some lube and do it,
and I think it's fun, and I think that people stop doing it after a while. Menist things on the
other hand that a woman could never give as good of a hand job as a guy can. And so what's the point?
And I think that's stupid.
I think that's just like why not just, okay, maybe your hand job dude is the best, but
what if hers feels really, really good?
And I love that Don from New York City agrees with me.
He says, the man that thinks that it feels better to do it himself should stay home and
play with himself.
So I agree.
And maybe they're not for everyone.
But how could you not want to woman with lots of loop touching your penis?
I'm not saying, like, stop doing blow jobs.
That's my story.
That's the handout debate.
If you'd like to come back into the handout debate, it would on for years, we've been like answering
literally hundreds of thousands of emails about it.
But it hasn't come up in a while.
So now I feel like I'm stimulating it again.
But I would like to bring the handout back. If it's been gone. Maybe it's been, maybe't come up in a while. So now I feel like I'm stimulating it again. But I would like to bring the hand job back
if it's been gone.
Maybe it's been, maybe it's been in your life.
Maybe you have had hand jobs and that's awesome.
But a lot of women maybe forget to do the hand job.
So I'm just saying, reminder, do a hand job.
Give a hand job.
Okay, what time is it here?
Okay, so I think we've got time for one more email here.
Okay.
Okay.
Hi, Emily and Menace.
I love the podcast and I always look forward to your advice every day.
In all things, sex and relationships.
I'm very inexperienced in relationships, so please excuse me if the situation
sounds silly.
I've been interested in this girl, I met at work.
We text each other every day for the past couple months.
I eventually told her how I felt about her
and she felt the same way about me,
except she wanted things slow
because her last relationship ended very badly.
As weeks went by, she had been very distant.
As weeks went by, she was very distant.
Every time we talked, it was about all the problems she's going through.
We've never been on a date despite my efforts to get her to go with me.
There's always an excuse not to go.
I asked her if she's still interested in me,
and she says she does not know what she wants.
Her indecisive answer leaves me feeling that maybe something could develop later on.
I really like this girl, but I don't know what to do.
Any advice, guys?
Keep the great work, Darren from Toronto, he is a premium,
friends with benefits member,
and we are answering the email now,
because that's what we do in your premium,
friends with benefits member.
Okay, here's the deal, Darren.
She wants to take things slow.
There's always an excuse not to go.
She doesn't know what she wants
and she's complaining to you about all the problems in
her life.
She sounds like a real treat.
She doesn't sound that great.
I understand that you have a crush on her.
I understand that but she's getting out of a relationship with you and making excuses
and you've never been out of date and she's always an excuse.
So I would just have to say she's just not that into it right now.
I would say that you need to diversify and start dating.
And don't be hung up.
Sounds like you might be a little borderline upsasser
with her right now.
And I would just say that you've tried.
You've asked her out.
You have, you work together.
You've been texting her.
You told her she felt.
OK, she tells you she felt the same way,
but she wants to take things slow. And now she never wants to make plans with you.
So either A, she's lying or B, that's true, but even if she wants to take it slow,
you're a young, you're a virile male. You probably want to go out and start dating.
So I would say don't put all your eggs in one basket.
And in fact, she might find this more attractive if you just start dating and you're out there.
I wouldn't obsess about it too much because people are pretty truthful in their actions and her actions are saying I'm not available.
She's saying I'm not open for business now. She's saying I like you and if that's true,
she's not open for business. So you can't force it. And in fact, by trying to force it and if you
keep taxing and you keep asking her out, it might kind of annoy her a little bit. And she might
not like you anymore because sometimes when we get a little annoyed when guys are a little bit. And she might not like you anymore. Because sometimes when we get a little annoyed,
when guys are a little too pushy.
So, and then you said you asked her,
she still interests you.
And she said, I don't know what I want.
So I kind of feel like we have to listen to what people say.
It's so funny because sometimes like,
I had a guest in the show recently and he was saying,
you know what I'm like?
He's a dating coach and he said,
you know, I had someone say to me once.
He had a woman say to him once.
Tell me what this means.
I'm dating a guy and he said to me,
I don't want a relationship.
What do you think he means by that?
The woman asked.
He doesn't want a relationship.
The answers are there.
They're telling you what they want.
She's telling you she's not sure if she's still interested in you.
So I'm saying it might be time to move on.
And just to like, I know what hurts.
It's hard, harsh, move on.
But just start seeing other people, keep yourself busy, and kind of step away.
I would start to pull back.
I wouldn't keep texting or asking her anymore.
I think you've done that.
And I think it's time to take care of yourself.
And she's not going to change that much.
So that's what I got for you. Those are emails for today and right now, yay!
Sexy intern Lauren, come over here. This is what we talk about.
Okay. Lauren, okay, come over here. So this is what we do. This is the deal.
I've done several shows like this. I haven't done it since we've been doing
the Friends with Benefits Show,
but I think that we are all interested in men and women
in learning about the sex lives of women.
Because we're fascinated by it, right?
It's complicated, like men,
not that we don't want to learn about your sex life,
but women, we've got a lot to share.
And I kind of feel like these shows are just kind of like,
you're over here in conversation between two women talking
about what makes them feel good, what turns them on,
how they learned about sex, how they learned about masturbation.
And Lauren here is going to share that with us.
Hi Lauren.
Hello Emily.
How are you?
Good, how are you?
I'm good, you excited? Yeah. How are we doing? We how are you? I'm good, excited.
Yeah.
How are we doing?
We both on camera, let's clap.
It's hard to talk because we don't have other people in here
right now.
What do you think?
I think we look freaking great.
OK, so.
I'm glad that we have this topic because you
don't know how many times I wish I could hear just how
guys talk about sex.
I know me too.
Do they talk about one boy?
You know what men said yesterday, you weren't here,
but he said that guys don't talk about sex.
I don't believe that.
They're like, I banger.
This is what they say.
I banger, I didn't banger.
I'd like to banger or I want to banger friend.
I think that's all the guys talk about,
but women, we get into it.
I'm like, with all my friends, I'm like,
how do you orgasm when you want to tap,
when you want to bottom, was a tutorial, did he come?
Like, don't you think with your girlfriends,
you get into it all?
Oh yeah, my girls know every deep,
probably a lot more than they should.
They do, I feel like a lot of girls have those though.
And so we want to, do you, is your experience
that you think that men do talk about sex more?
I feel like they do because, you know, sometimes, you know, people let things slip and it's like, how would you experience that, you think that men do talk about sex more? I feel like they do because sometimes people let things slip and it's like, how would
you know that?
Right, exactly.
But I think this is a great thing to do because I think that men, I think it's a great
way to learn from a real woman about sex and what to do, what turns her on.
So we're just going to just throw out some questions, we're just going to start a conversation
and just hang out with us, hang out with us for a little bit.
Because it's free Friday and taxidemily.
OK.
So first tell me how old are you?
I am 20.
I am 20 years old.
I go to college here in San Francisco.
OK.
20 years old.
That's awesome.
OK.
Now, how did you first learn about masturbation or when did you first masturbate?
I feel like I was pretty old. I feel like I really didn't do it until I was 16. Okay. That's not
that's that's pretty good. And how did you did you have an orgasm? Did you use your hands or
so I didn't orgasm and I thought for the longest time I was one of those girls who hasn't
yet reached orgasms pre orgasmic and this is the word.
Right, pre orgasmic.
So I was so nervous and so scared.
I actually bought my first sex toy because of that.
Got it.
So the sex toy is what helped you have an orgasm?
Actually no, because I wasn't sure how to use it at the time.
Oh, wow.
I had my first orgasm after I thought I would never have an orgasm.
I kind of just gave up.
And I had it with the guy I was dating.
Wow.
Which was awesome.
Wow.
Yeah, we celebrated a little cupcake with an O on it.
That's awesome.
A cupcake with, was it during intercourse?
Yes, it was.
Yeah.
I believe it was like G-spot orgasm.
Wow.
Which I hear is not as easy as the...
No.
You hit the friggin orgasm jackpot.
I did.
Your first orgasm was a G-spot orgasm.
I think I don't want to talk to you anymore.
I think this interview's over.
I'm done.
That's awesome.
OK, that's good.
That it is rare for women to have these things.
So since then, have you, is that how
you continue to orgasm?
Yeah, I didn't have an orgasm from like
clitoris stimulation until much later.
OK.
So you can have both kinds of orgasms.
Yeah.
I've never had a breast orgasm.
No, don't you want one?
I want to see what that's like.
I know.
I have several friends.
You can do it.
Like, it's the second most common type of orgasm
is a breast orgasm.
And I want one so bad.
And I have a lot of friends who can not a lot,
but a few friends who have it.
And I think that would be amazing.
I almost had one once.
Really?
Yeah.
I'm going to go with once. Really? Yeah. How long ago was that?
Few years ago, the sky that I wasn't even that into and I don't know what happened.
You just kept playing with my breasts, playing with my breasts, playing with my breasts,
and I didn't have one, but I felt like I was close. But yeah, I would love that.
So how old were you and you lost your virginity?
I was 18.
So it's not that long ago. I know it's great because I feel like, you know,
every experience is like a whole new learning. Yeah.
Everything's new. Everything's new. It's still new, but right, of course, you're 20.
Jesus. Um, okay. okay so so you lost your
virginity and you had orgasm the first time was that when you know okay first
oh that would be so nice yeah then I'd really end the show right now I feel like
everyone just be like no um thankfully the guy I was with happened to have been a
quite the ladies man which is sometimes a good thing.
Because he was really into the other person,
so to speak, he was really into pleasing me.
Right.
So he was one of those few guys
who goes out and researches and researches
and finds out what's good and tests the hours.
Love it.
It was amazing.
I've got really lucky, I feel like.
So what did he do that was so,
like what were his tricks and tips that we could share
with people that he did that was the kind of unique and special?
You can think.
He was really, he never kind of bumbled around.
He knew exactly what he was doing.
Like, there was always so much confidence in him, which is probably my favorite part of
a partner now. Oh my god, confidence. Like when I have confidence in bed, which is probably my favorite part of a partner now. Oh my God confidence.
Like when I have this confidence in bed.
Right.
It's so attractive.
It turns around so much.
I know.
It's so attractive.
And so many men don't.
That's why they listen to the show.
Now, what do you mean by confidence?
What exactly did he do?
Like, if you give me one thing, like, did he know how to touch your clitoris?
Did he know how to touch your brother?
Did he kiss?
Well, what did he do?
Surprisingly, he wasn't even that good of a kisser.
Yes, sometimes they're not. Yeah, but like I did not mind in the least.
Right. So what did he do that was so that he made what what did he do? This is a good way.
You said that confidence in bed is and that is so true that you do we do polls on this all
the time. Like the thing the number one thing that women find sexy about a man is confidence.
So you just nailed it.
Like that is what, I've interviewed porn stars,
I've interviewed whatever, and they're all like confidence.
What is that confidence?
What did that look like to you?
To me it was like, he would like,
he would try these new positions,
like just right off the bat, like no,
like hesitation, you know know like never pushing boundaries like unless like we talked about it, but
Like I remember we were talking one day just hanging out and I was wearing this cute outfit
I was about to go out and he was just like sitting down on the bed
He's like I can't even deal with this right now. I was like what are you talking about and he like
Stands up goes past me,
like throws the door close and just grabs me.
And he was just like, it's so hot.
Oh, women want to be, they grabbed sometimes
and thrown against the wall and rip our clothes off.
Don't you think?
Yeah.
And guys don't do that enough.
Now all the time, let's say rape, I'm not saying like inappropriate,
but I'm saying there is nothing harder than a guy
just being like, I want you now.
I have to have you.
If you're wearing a little skirt and you just like pulled up your skirt and just kind
of, it's so hot.
It's so hot.
Why don't guys do that enough?
I have no idea.
Guys do that more.
Not every time, but women want to feel adored.
We want to feel desired.
We want to feel worshipored. We want to feel desired. We want to feel we want to feel
worshiped and cherished
Yeah, I didn't really appreciate it at the time. Right and it's never gonna happen again
Oh, I was saying this guy and like he wants asked me like oh
Can we have sex now just like
You just ask just like that, what do you mean he said
can we sell sex? No, like, can we just have someone else? This is later like, he was just so
timid and so like unsure and with the first guy I was talking about, every sexual encounter was
a seduction. Like, he never hinted that we were gonna have sex. He never liked anything like that.
It was just more like, it was always just him,
you know, making moves like so, like, you know,
slowing down the voice, like getting close,
like never sleazy, never creepy, like yesterday's show.
Mm-hmm.
Are you a creep, listen to the yesterday's show,
you might be.
So, what happened to this guy? Um, he loved the sound of his voice more than anything else.
So he, I can't relate to that at all.
He kind of went a little too far with the confidence, but.
Okay, but it was a good start.
It was, I, it was so good that even after all the, you know,
breaking up, I can still respect the fact that he was awesome in bed.
Okay.
That's great that you had such a good experience.
Oh, yeah.
I didn't even realize how good it was until like, until you had bad, right,
until you have bad sex.
You're like, oh, yeah, that was really good.
Damn, it's hard, but we have, as women, we have as women, we have to teach men and tell them what feels good
and they have to be receptive.
A lot of men don't like asking for directions.
They don't wanna hear from you.
They don't wanna hear directions.
So what about performing oral sex on the man?
Do you like it?
I like it.
I like it.
A lot of guys think that women don't like it
and they're like, okay, here I go.
Yeah, I know, I think it's great,
because I mean,
it may not give like women pleasure,
like, you know, sexually, like at the time,
maybe like mentally, yeah.
But I think it's great because you're in control.
You're the one giving the guy you're into all this pleasure.
It's all you're doing.
Right.
And guys love it.
Yeah, you're controlling that.'s and guys love it. Yeah, you're controlling that right
I love that right so what would you say turns you on the most like during sex?
There's something like a pop body part or something that I can do like kiss your ear or
There's something that the guy does that's just like rock your world. I
Love it when a guy gets really
Hands on our I guess I don't say this just like, rock-sure world. I love it when a guy gets really hands-on.
I guess, I don't wanna say this.
If he uses his fingers or just touches your body all over. I don't wanna say rough, but I kinda like,
I love it.
I get so turned on when all of a sudden,
yeah, we are up against the wall.
I know, it is so awesome.
It's so like, you know, cinematic,
like theatrical but still like sexy.
We want men to be men sometimes,
and we want you to take control,
and we don't want you to be timid,
and we don't want to ask if it's okay,
if we have sex now, we want you to like,
throw a second the wall.
Can we, are we, are we, we're that clear?
Okay, so do you have fantasies, excuse master
right now? Yes. Okay. Oh, Lauren is going to be doing a
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Okay, back to masturbation.
So how often do masturbate?
Well, now that I broke up with my boyfriend,
probably once a really week. Once a really week? Okay. Um, well now that I broke up with my boyfriend, probably,
like once a really week. Once a really week, okay. Women don't masturbate as much. Do you feel like you go and phases sometimes? Yeah, I go and phases. Like I've had times where it's been like
like three months and I haven't masturbated and I have times where it's like been like three times a week.
Right, right, right. And do you use a sex toy or do you use your hands? Well, ever since I got this fabulous new sex toy
from AdamEve.com, I've been using that
and that has just changed everything.
What was it?
What is the toy?
We can do a little preview of the toy.
It was called the Underwater Jack Rabbit.
The Underwater Jack Rabbit.
So you know the rabbit, everyone, from Sex and the City,
the rabbit.
This is like the under, this is like,
the rabbit on steroids. Yeah, it really was. Nocturnal rabbit there. Not a
tonal. That's it. Not a cool. There we go. Not a cool. Right. Because it's under water, it can be,
it's waterproof. Yeah, I was kind of nervous at first. Like, I didn't know if that's like,
should I bring this electronic device on top of me? Right, right, right. But it totally worked. Oh,
it was awesome. It changed right. But it totally worked.
Oh, it was awesome.
It changed the experience, yeah.
Wow.
So you had powerful organisms and stuff on that.
But I had to, like, keep it down,
load up roommates.
roommates.
Full of masturbation with the roommates.
It's tough with the roommates.
I know.
There's actually silent.
You can actually search for this when you go to buy your toys at Adam and Eve right now as you're doing.
You can search by toys that are silent if you want silent toys.
We will get you that next.
It was pretty quiet for, like, I had two settings vibrating and then, I guess we'll talk
about that next week.
We'll talk about the next week.
We'll get into it.
But when you're masturbating, do you fantasize?
What do you think about?
Yes, I do.
You do.
What do you think about?
It really changes.
Sometimes, usually it's like a guy that I haven't had sex with.
Oh, like someone that you want to have sex with.
Yeah.
Okay.
But, and then it's been times where it's like someone you have,
but I feel like.
Do you need to fantasize to orgasm?
No.
I don't need to fantasize.
Okay, just curious about that.
And are there, are you dating now?
I'm actually going on a first date tonight.
Oh, you are?
So it's been like my first date in a while,
like since I did break up with that last guy.
Oh my god, that's so exciting.
Very exciting.
What you got, do you know what you guys are doing?
I have no idea yet.
He's gonna call me after I get off.
I'm sorry, I don't work.
And he hit me up this morning.
Okay.
Said he's excited.
Oh, that's good.
I like when guys are like, I'm psyched to see you.
I don't like the guys are like playing games
and whatever, but he's like, I'm psyched to see you tonight.
Yeah, because he said he, he messaged me yesterday
and he was like, so, like I'll call you tonight. Because he said he messaged me yesterday. And he was like, so I'll call you tomorrow.
And we'll talk about what we're going to do.
And I was like, OK, and then I was getting nervous.
I was like, what if he doesn't call?
And the fact that he hit me and he's like, hey,
I'm excited about tonight.
It's like, OK, so I know this is for sure.
You know it's for sure.
That's awesome.
What made you, why are you attracted to this guy?
He's really cute.
And he is 64.
I love that.
I love that too.
So I like tall guys.
How tall are you?
I'm 5'11".
Are you?
That's awesome.
See, I'm only 5'2", but I love tall men.
Love tall.
OK, so what do you think is a worse move a guy can make?
The worst move a guy.
Like, have a guy ever done anything?
And you're like, really?
Like, is there anything, even if it's like a,
yeah, like, it doesn't have to be even a sexual thing,
but just like,
on a date, or is there something bad, like a turn-off,
like a guy, something that the guy does
that totally turned you off?
As soon as a guy gets kind of like,
whiny, I wanna say.
Oh, okay.
Oh my god, big is turn-off. Like, as soon as he starts like complaining or things that I wanna say. Oh, okay. Oh my God, big, it's, big as turn off.
Like, as soon as you start complaining,
or things that he can't do something,
to me, thinking that you can do something
is like the ultimate, like,
so why am I wasting my time with someone
who has no confidence in themselves?
Exactly, so we're saying it's a flip side of confidence, you know?
It's so important.
Right, so would you, what would you say is a good, oh wait,
I was gonna ask you this one more thing.
What was I just thinking to ask you?
Okay, what would you say is,
what would you say is your biggest turn on?
Turn on?
Copy throwing you against the wall.
Yeah, that was great.
But if it's someone that I haven't had sex with and you know
things are just starting probably the biggest turn on would be that kind of like underlying like
mystery about how it's going to be like they don't really leave all their cards on the table.
Exactly. You're open about everything you kind of have that you're holding something back and
it's like what is that? That's what they say, like, seduction and chemistry
and all that stuff and how you maintain that in a relationship
because a lot of times after you were someone for a few months,
sex life wanes and it's like when you still keep your cards
a little bit close to you and you still keep that mystery,
that mystery is what is so can be so hot.
So, okay, what is, you have any good dating tips?
Have you gotten a really good dates?
Or are like, you were like, wow, that was an awesome date.
I really haven't been on that many.
Like, great dates. Like, I haven't dated them.
No, maybe tonight.
Yeah, hopefully. I, I want to date once. I ended up in a graveyard.
I don't know how that happened.
Did you go on a second date with him?
No. No, okay.
I'm really not. But hopefully tonight we're keeping fingers crossed. I don't know how that happens. Did you go on a second date with him? No. No, okay.
I'm really not.
But hopefully tonight we're keeping fingers crossed.
I can't wait to hear about it.
I almost feel like you need to report on money now
because everyone's going to be curious what happens
on your date.
So you got a tune on Monday.
Okay, do you, what else can I ask you?
There's so many things.
Oh, what about when a man performs oral sex on you?
How do you feel about that?
So I'm not in all honesty, I'm not completely comfortable.
That totally makes sense.
Younger women, I wasn't either.
When I was your age, I, yeah, I think it's common, not comfortable.
Yeah, like I like it.
Like it depends on, I guess, the situation.
Like when we're really into it, then yeah, it's great.
But sometimes I'm just like, we're really into it then yeah it's great but sometimes I'm just like
okay because you feel like he doesn't want to do it or it's not you feel like it's like not clean
or not I'm sure you're clean but you know you know women have I just remember when I was 20
same thing I was any guy and he went and I was like I remember it was the first time I put
it's probably 21 a guy performed for all sex.
I mean, I was freaked out.
I think it has a lot to do with the guy who's doing it though.
Like some guys like, like for girls,
like do you like when a girl just looks like she's,
you know, doing manual labor when she's giving you all sex?
Like, do you like when she's into it?
Right.
And what you're like, whole thing in that one,
you really into it. And it's not good whole thing in there. We want you to be really into it.
And it's not good when they don't know what they're doing.
I know.
I mean, just think, OK, all I have to do is go wild down there.
Right.
Or you know what the worst is when they do it for a minute.
And it's like, why did you even bother when you could have
been getting me a glass of water or something at this moment?
Why did you even go down for a minute?
We need like 10 minutes.
I hate that. That's just a little pee by the hand. So did you even go down for a minute? We need like 10 minutes. I hate that.
That's just a little pee by hand.
So have you ever hooked up with a woman?
A woman.
I think it's a yes, because she has a dated.
You don't have to go there with me, but.
I had an interesting experience.
OK.
And yeah.
That's all you can say.
That's all you have to say about.
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