Sex With Emily - SWE: Casual Encounters

Episode Date: February 2, 2012

Emily was up late last night making jello shots and Menace wants a ride to the Sex With Emily party, how to meet women, the stop and start method and casual sex etiquette: cuddling, oral sex and swapping numbers Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I Look into his eyes Then the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that block our sacred institutions Betrified they call them a lie gone. Hey, Emily You got a boyfriend because my man E here. He just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair stand. Oh my the women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common all the way? What do you mean like laundry?

It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god. I'm so, so, so. Being bad feels pretty good. But you know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexthemely.com where it will certainly improve your sex life. If you spend some time poking around our site, listening to our podcast, watching our podcast, our videos, our blogs, all that stuff. Sex life will improve. Thanks everyone for listening to the show. Today's show is about casual sex and we'll also be answering your emails with some very pertinent sex and

relationship questions. I have to mention our valentine, our big, sexual, and I spread the love Valentine's Day contest launch tomorrow. We are giving away so many toys and so many cool presents and prizes that I literally need to move out of my office now because it's filled with prizes. We're going to be giving away, there's going to be lots of winners. And all you have to do to enter the contest is to follow us on Twitter, or Sex with Emily, or Facebook, Sex with Emily,

and retweet any of our tweets from February 1st to the 14th. And you will be entered to win. The more you retweet, or you reshare on Facebook. And you can go to our, it'll all be up in our website. Tomorrow, all the sponsors and all the gifts were given away. It's friggin crazy.

Hi, Dennis. What's up? How you doing? I'm good. How are you? As a social media director of a company, of a major broadcasting company, I suggest for you tomorrow saying, I'm giving out free sex toys and then just put the link with all the information.

Okay. No need to feed people with all. All I'm doing all this Valentine's Day giveaways. Just the link with all the information. Okay. No need to feed people with all. All I'm doing all this Valentine's Day giveaways. Just the link to my website that explains that. Yeah. Yeah. And that's what you should do. And just announcement, I'm doing that now

I'm a community manager, which means another social media director for a startup company. You are? Oh, that's cool. You guys share it. Yeah. That's really cool. Well, so that's what we'll do. I'll run a past you first, but all I know is I've got tons of stuff to give away, and all

we need your help is following us on Facebook and Twitter, section, then we then retweeting and resharing, and you can win so many prizes. It's ridiculous. So also, I want to say Valentine's Day is coming up. So we've got some special shows coming up in the next two weeks. We've got guests. We've got reviews. We've got like what to do with your single,

what to do if you've got someone that you're with, what to do if you are, you know, if you want to play with sex toys, if you're single on real time, say whatever, get mine, things. And hello, we have Candy from Real Housewives of Atlanta coming on. That's one of the guys. Exactly. Yeah.

Friday, we've got Candy from Real Housewives of Atlanta, and you're gonna to hear that show and it's going to be awesome. That's our Free Friday show. Yeah, it was really good. And it was a great show. But some of my favorite things that we're giving away are the Jimmy Jane toys. They're sending us.

They make the most amazing products. And if you go to Jimmy Jane and you put in $25, you get $25 off purchases over $100. If you use coupon code Emily25, I would check out. And they've got this feature on their website because literally these are the toys that you would want to buy your girlfriend and your partner. They have the gift wizard. And the gift wizard tells who's it's for,

the price range and the level of naughty, nice, and it picks out the present for you. So guys don't have to do all the work. So it is really cool. And yeah, we talk about casual sex today, email. That's what I'm doing. And tonight is the big sex with Emily party for all, So it is really cool. And yeah, we try to casual sex today, email. That's what I'm doing. And tonight is the big sex with Emily Party for all.

The workers, interns, you, there's gonna be like 10 of us. I'm afraid. At my house, I was up late last night making jello shots. Nice serious. Yeah, because I thought they would be fun. And it's hard to do. Get all the jello, get it mixed in, board in, but I have like 60 of them

60 60 jello shots seven bottles of wine a whole new thing it's Bartlett Keela vodka Snacks ordering typhoon. They'll be ten people Ten people okay, that's enough. Is that good? Is that gonna be enough? Yeah, that's a way I just want to make sure that everybody has a good time Yeah, I'm gonna shoot some videos. It's the you know, I like it's the sex more than that. I just want to make sure that everybody has a good time. And we're going to shoot some videos. It's the, you know, I like it's the sex-themed reunion because it's interns who have come and gone, you know, who went on to other jobs and stuff.

Some interns have stayed around and menace in myself and my part of my house is going to be a party house. And we're going to make some videos. What happened last time you guys had a party? We had so much fun last time. One of our, we went a little crazy. We made a video, we were using Fire TV. We have a porn box with like 150,000 titles.

So we watched porn. We actually made a video of this on the website. And we all guessed when the, the, the, cum shot was gonna happen. We all guessed like breast, boobs, thighs, where he was gonna do it. And then someone, but somebody won. So it was fun. It was gonna do it and then someone but somebody won

So it's fun. It was us watching it and we don't have to watch porn this time We could do other things too. I might feel uncomfortable. I don't want you to feel uncomfortable But didn't you say there was a movie we should watch? Yeah, I don't want to relax. I think everyone would sit watch a watch movie. Yeah, yeah, it's it's a comedy. It's hilarious That's so fun. We get to read and have yeah Yeah, okay, it's all about it's hilarious. That's so fun. We get to have a drink. We're drinking and have, yeah, it's awesome. Okay.

It's all about, it has so many conversations in that movie that you and I already have. Okay, I love it. I've never heard of it, but I will totally go, we can watch movie tonight. So I'm really, really excited about that. And I believe that you're gonna be like,

bullshit, bullshit, like yelling out the TV. Okay, let's do it. And if you could think of some other fun things we could shoot and we'll have pictures on our website and our Facebook page. So also, I think, we've a new poll, do you enjoy casual sex? Yes, I'm a man, no, I'm a man, yes, I'm a woman,

no, I'm a woman, that's what the answers are. Okay. Yeah, because we need to know of male female. So do enjoy casual sex. We're gonna be talking more about the rules and etiquette around casual sex shortly. We've also got a little bit of sex than news. And, um, yeah, what else is new with you? New with me. Um, I'm really excited. Yeah, I'm going. I finally got a call today. I'm

totally confirmed for the Grammy. So I'm really excited about that. I have to give out, like, all my personal information to them. Like my ideas. Oh background. Because you know, you're gonna be hanging on the stars. Yeah, you've been crazy. Exactly. Can't be some letch. So I'm really excited about that.

That's awesome. And how about you? How about me? I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. I'm good.

I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. dinners this weekend, whatever, but this weekend I am, what am I doing this weekend? I feel like there was something fun that I was going to do. I can't remember, nothing that exciting. I kind of got a date maybe, hold on, I'm looking at my calendar.

Nothing like crazy, crazy. Yeah, but tonight's going to be fun. I know I'm going to be hungover, and we're not doing a show tomorrow. We are doing a show tomorrow. Then, we've got our show on Friday night on Extreme talk 165, XM, which is very exciting. I have a birthday party on Saturday night for a friend of mine who, it's like a goddess celebration with all these women coming around celebrating her. Sounds really fun, kind of a hippie-dippy thing. Oh, I talked to my buddy last night. I forgot about that. Which buddy and see how he's doing. My best friend, he lives in Los Angeles.

Okay. What is that? He had a baby. And so we're just talking about, Oh, how's it having a baby and stuff like that? And we just went into the conversations. He's like, Yeah, now because he was living in a condo with his, his wife, right? And, you know, living the young, you know, 20 somethings. and now they have to look into you buying a bigger place. Exactly. Because it only happened to a baby, right?

They only had a one bedroom place. Right. And then he told me about his brother. And his brother already has two babies. And his brother is younger than him. Oh my God. His brother had to go buy a house and another part of the Bay area.

Right, because you can't live in the city of your baby. So that's stress. So it's stressing you out. Because you feel like you got to get pumping out some babies. Uh, this halfway, I just don't want to be. I don't want to be the old, old father that's out of touch and that has the really young, like, I know, but you just got to start asking people out.

Yeah, true. Gotta do that. Are you going to do it? Uh, when I'm not busy. Okay. When you're not busy. When that all's that gonna happen, your life is never not gonna get busy. You said you just got another new job at some startup. Everyone, if you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend, have you been making effort? Have you been making the effort to go out and meet someone? If you haven't, if you have't told everyone that you're single, if you haven't been hitting on people, not in a left-right way, but like, you know, you're not gonna find anyone.

I just, I just hope this happens one day. I'll be more comfortable if, you know, I was more like financially stable. I felt like comfortable with what I was doing, you know? That's what I'm like to make. But do you make room to make more money with your jobs. With my current position, not really. I mean, I would just have to get a break doing a big role on a morning show like that.

That would be it. But that's it. Okay, so then you need to get some more cash. I need to get more cash. And I don't know. I don't know. Become a friend to the benefits member. We love our friends benefits members. You get three shows a week.

You get special perks. So become a friend to benefit's member now, ASAP. But are we like A-holes for wanting to do more? Because so many because I talk to I have friends in the Midwest and they don't get caught up in this, you know, coast life right no one's happy with what they're doing We need a lot of money to make a living here to artists the you know the excess right I have so many friends are just happy This living normal lives working normal jobs, and they don't have to go You know right the next big thing or anything.

But you and I are very driven to create things and just for our own, just because we love them and we're passionate about it. And I do hope that book I read when I was 22, do what you love, the money will follow. That was the first book I read for college and I thought, okay, I'm gonna find what I love. And it took me all these years

so I did this like seven years ago to find what I love and I love it and the money is not coming yet, but hopefully it will come. I believe it will. You believe that your passion will lead to paying for your rent. That's what they said in the book so I'm just hoping that happens. Okay, I've got some sex in the news. Okay. Not a lot of celebrity stuff so you might have to add that in if you're watching. I watched a Kardashian final last night. Oh, would you think of the Kardashian final? to add that in a few years. I watched the Kardashian final last night. Oh, would you think of the Kardashian final? I was thought it was kind of lame.

The head didn't want the ending. The ending. I thought the end they're driving in the car. Yeah, I thought that could have been done a lot a little bit better because that didn't air to way after the news or I broke that they, right. They could have like reedited or something totally exactly. Or at least went back to Kim and had you know post interviews or whatever post interview instead you know what happened yeah you could so obviously I can after shell I can't believe she lasted 72 days with him he just seems awful do you think he seems

awful he just seems immature to me really immature not emotionally evolved at all, like very like Midwestern kid who left and got caught up in the shiny lights. Yeah, he's very, he's very ogre-ish. Yeah, exactly. And I kind of got obsessed with Real Housewives of Beverly Hills reunion last night, and the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Oh man, yeah. Did you watch that? I watched a little bit of that. That was crazy. They all fight. They're all fighting. I don't even get it. They all look alike and they're fighting about...

Yeah, in the beginning, they all looked alike to me, but now I can but now you got it bright exactly so I've been watching a lot of you Who's your favorite character? I don't have a real if you care favorite character. I'm gonna have always about the hills now Do you? I Like made off If I made off yeah, whatever. I mean I made up Bernie made off Maloof Maloof. Yeah, I like her Because she's I think she's like kind of the real deal. Yeah. You know, she doesn't need to put on a front.

She's like part owner of the palms, you know, like, I don't have to deal with you. Exactly. I don't even know why they do it if they're, they have so much money, why they do it just for fame. Yeah, probably, because you know, you could have like everything in the world and still be bored. That's true. So that's why, you know, we might have all the money we want, but at least our lives are interesting. Yeah. Okay. So you think you can dance rapist

a sentence to 10 years in prison. Now what is this? Alex De Silva, the slimy, so you can think you dance choreographer has been sent to prison for raping a former dance student and assaulting another one. So he works, he's like the choreographer for So You Think You Can Dance, which my parents love that show. He was, yeah, they got rid of him. He hasn't been on, I think the past two seasons. Okay, that's good. It was so weird because he was like such a main... Was he a main character in the show?

He was like, they bring out the choreographer and stuff. It was him and like one other choreographer who's called Little Mama, who were the main ones. And then, well, there's JC Shazay, who was from InSync, but he was the most outspoken one. And I was shocked when I found out about all that stuff. It's crazy. It's crazy. So he raped a student and assaulting another one.

Yeah, people got to be kidding. Idiot. You like. You like send my famous. You're on. I know I know, but I wonder if it happened before he became famous. Maybe. And then that's usually when all the dirt comes out. Exactly.

Just wait. Okay. There's a new law on porn and condoms. See, this is good. We're not too famous. We're not famous. Yeah. And all of our stuff's going to come out.

I've got some stuff. New law on porn and pouring in condoms. Last week, the Los Angeles City Council approved a city audience that requires a use of condoms on adult movie sets. So this has been going on and on and on. Like, should they not have condoms, should they have condoms? Because they're saying if they get tested, they don't necessarily need the condoms,

but now they're saying they need condoms. That's good. Everyone should use condoms. We're giving away some condoms too and our little gift Valentine's Day part. Contents from like thousand. Do you think you're gonna get a hundred thousand? Do you want some? I want to take a picture of a some condoms too, and our little gift Valentine's Day part. Contest from like thousand. Do you want some? Do you want some?

I want to take a picture of a thousand condoms. Come over. Come over. Come to the office. Okay, study show that vegetarians more likely to enjoy giving oral sex, which is ironic, sticking a big piece of meat in your mouth. But a recent study conducted by dating site,

okay, Q would reveal that the odds of a person enjoying giving oral sex increases if that person is a vegetarian. I don't know what that means. What? I don't know. If you're a vegetarian, you're more open to giving oral sex. That's cool.

So if you're looking for someone who wants to go downtown, then find out if they're vegetarian. That's what this says to me. I got to hang out with some more vegetarians. Exactly. I've got a lot of vegetarian friends. Seems like a lonely life, a sad life. I miss chicken. I love chicken. I want chicken. Wow. I did. I did

data vegetarian for a while. And she was pretty good at Flasio. Was she? Yeah. What made it good? She, um, she, he wasn't just, she wasn't too soft and she wasn't too hard. She just, you know, just right, just right, just perfect. Mm, yeah. I love it. Try and think, there was any other vegetarians.

No, only the data was there. We're running a thing about blow-dopped. What? I know. Oh, I was like, damn, that was a good one. And the worst ones weren't vegetarians. Right, exactly. Okay, there's a sex poster banned from the library.

A sex coach has complained after a poster advertising one of her workshops is banned from the central library. So Marisa Blaza 31 was told she could not advertise her class discovering yourself masturbation and feebellgenitalia because children might see it. So I think this was in New York. That's what I got for the next news. Oh, you don't wanna get a read off a gocker?

What, I love gocker. I love it too. I follow them on Twitter. I get a lot of stories from them. And they're calling them the father of the year. This guy in Arizona, actually, he's a stepdad to this teenage girl. And somehow he found out there was a nude photos of the girl on her cell phone. So to teach her a lesson, he mass texted the photo to everybody on her cell phone so to teach her a lesson, he massed, uh, uh, texted the photo to everybody

on her contact list. The dad did? The shame hurt, yeah. What an idiot. And he's not even getting in trouble for it. Apparently. How old is his daughter? Uh, teenage daughter.

Oh my god. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That's crazy. It's Arizona. So that's probably why he's not getting busted. If you did it here, oh my God, they would burn you up to say Arizona's crazy. But

Arizona is one of the crazy states. But that's bad. He should have a talk with his daughter. You don't go in the phone and send up the picture. But that would teach a lesson. Yeah. That's mortifying. Yeah, I'd be so much to get that age like 15 or something and your dad's in there on naked pictures of you. That's kind of creepy Yeah, I'd be so ambitious. I should get that age like 15 or something and your dad's sending our naked pictures of you. That's kind of creepy. Yeah, yeah. He said there was like 45 contacts on the phone. Okay, I see.

Mine was like 5,000. That would be bad. I'm glad my dad didn't find any pictures of me. Okay. So that's crazy. Anything else on the inter-web that we need to know about? No, but I am excited for the Chloe and the Mar show. When is it a launch?

I think it's like right away, because you know, one, I told you once one question and another one, I think so, yeah, I think it starts this week. Yeah, I'm really excited about it, because I mean, all the promos actually shows a little bit of conflict because the first season, it was all in the honeymoon phase. Right, of course. There are all lovey-dovey and everything's all great.

And what's cool is I want to see the transition also from them moving from LA to Dallas and see how that is. Right, is that what they're showing now? Like in the promos. In the promos, right. Okay. And because I mean, Chloe's more open to moving, that was a big deal for Kim. Like she didn't want to move anywhere.

She didn't want anybody to move into her like space and stuff like that. I saw that. He was like, her Chris was like, I'm gonna send stuff to your house and she's like, no. Yeah. Yeah. That was not cool. She wasn't ready for marriage to him. So yeah, I did see the Chloe and the Marth, the previous and they had to be good. And the Bethany getting Bethany ever after is her second ear married, which apparently their advertising was not, is more challenging too. All I heard was, they keep on playing the,

his penis has cobwebs. Yeah, I saw that too. She says his penis has cobwebs. That's all the time. I know. I know, that's a bummer. I've heard like a thousand times a day. Like when we met candy,

like if there's a sound bite, like that sound bite just gets run like all day long. How was our sound? Do we have a sound bite? A sound bite for her? Oh, her sound bite is candy coated nights. Right. Her show because there's a sound bite where there she has her, her, her guests, there's like five people standing in a row and they all say that way and it's kept on running and running and running Wow, that's good. Every time someone's standing, yeah, they say candy coated nights. That's so funny. I didn't miss that because I just started watching Television. Okay, we've got some emails from the people good. What do you got? I've got um, hi Emily my question for you is Is it normal for guys not to last long? My boyfriend is really quick and bad.

Is it me and what can help that? We tried pills and sprays and nothing seems to work. Sarah from Bradford, Ontario. We've got a lot of questions lately about men and less. I mean, we always get questions about men less and longer, but I have to say that the most important thing you could do is there's a great book called The Multi-Orgasmic Man. You can get it on Amazon,

and it really helps men with premature ejaculation. It's normal. You're asking me if it's normal. They can sexually, that's like normal, but this is a common question we get asked that guys don't ask that long. It's a last that long. It's a multitude of reasons why it could be because of upbringing. It could be feelings of shame around sex.

It could be that is used to masturbating, anything he has to get over really quick. It could be stress, it could be anxiety, it could be this fear that he's gonna pre-mitter directly and then he does, it can be a lot of it, it can be psychological. But one of the most important things to do is to practice through masturbation. So you can, this book will teach you that,

the stop and the start method. Kegel exercises really help man, like doctors prescribe this. You could download my app Kegel Camp from the iTunes store and it sets a timer every day that you can do your Kegel exercises and you do the stop and start a method and slow-sack. And practice some slow-sacks. But we've talked a lot about this in the show.

Yeah, I've seen her voice in a sexy voice. My sexy voice walks you through Kegel Camp. Yes. And I would say that there are, that I'm glad you're writing out this. It's not you. She asks if it's me. Because a lot of women might think it's me. And I would say that there are, that I'm glad you're writing out this. It's not you. She asks if it's me.

Because a lot of women might think it's me. It's not that you're doing. It's something that he needs to deal with. And a lot of men don't want to deal with it because it's complicated process. It doesn't happen overnight, but you've got to deal with it. He needs to masturbate a lot. Build up his talk. No, but see, sometimes it doesn't work.

But he does. It masturbation does help. But what they tell you to do is this masturbate to the point where you're about to have an orgasm and then you don't, and then you start again, and then you don't, and then you practice reaching, you practice recognizing that point of no return when you're about to have an orgasm,

so then during sex, you can pull back when that's gonna happen. That's the whole trick. I'm glad I'm with penis right now. Okay, Emily, I'm listening to you on Stitcher. I'm my blackberry. I love watching porn. We love Stitcher.

I love watching porn, but I have to watch it by myself. I don't have a partner, and I do believe in the G-Spot, and even a man has a G-Spot, and it's a lot better than a regular orgasm when you have a G-Spot orgasm. But how can I get women? I've tried the internet dating spot, and they've only found matches that are not local. So I'm resorted to masturbation. I'm desperately seeking a vagina, cordially yours, Byron from Lexington, Kentucky. I'm so glad you're listening on Stitcher.

We love Stitcher. Okay. So you don't have a partner. You leave in the G spot. Well, first off, I have an idea. He has to get off a blackberry. They said, we did that on the test. Yes, that more people get laid with an iPhone.

Yeah. And you can just do Blackberry. I get it. People are attached to the keyboard. I went through that where I do not want to get in. You just have a Blackberry. I'm like, I don't want to get rid of it. You get used to that.

You just do. You don't think about the keyboard anymore. And why am I saying this? You need to get an iPhone because they have this other thing that they've been advertising everywhere. And apparently it's doing really well. It's called, how about we? I've heard of it. What is that?

Okay, right. It's a geolocating. It's like the grinder. It's like the grinder at right. You can find someone local just to get together with at that moment. How about we as a good app to do that? But I'm saying, I'm glad that you're still masturbating, but you, I think you need to find some other sites that work for you locally. If they're matching you with the out of towners and you need to I'm glad that you're still masturbating, but I think you need to find some other sites

that work for you locally if they're matching you with the out of towners, and you need to take a class that you're interested in. Again, I hate saying this because it all sounds so cliche, but I'm gonna be honest. Take a class that interests you. Sign up for like night school. Take a course on mind tasting class.

Take a, you know, do some, join some kind of league. I mean, places where you'll meet women, and you have to infuse your life with those kinds of activities. You can't just sit in your couch, like masturbating and bemoaning the fact that you don't have a woman if you're not trying to find one. Yeah, and get an iPhone, man. Get off that blackberry. Exactly. You don't see people getting laid with the blackberry.

You walk down the street, you'll find that billion chicks playing with an iPhone, and then here's the, here's the instant in. Hey, is there any apps you recommend? I just got my iPhone. Yeah, oh, that's a good one. Boom, there you go. Conversation. That's why I need to get an iPhone.

Sorry to bother you. Now, do you recommend any apps? I just got my iPhone. Yeah. Yeah. That's a good one. I asked you that, but I didn just got my iPhone. Yeah. That's a good one. I asked you that, but I didn't do it to get it. Okay, now we're going to move into our topic. All right, what's the topic?

Our topic is casual sex etiquette. Casual sex can sometimes be considered like Sunday morning regrets. However, it depends on how if you feel like you're really ready to have sex with someone. And so it depends on what you're comfortable with. If you enjoy having casual sex and find a pleasure ball, then go for it as long like you're really ready to have sex with someone. And so it depends on what you're comfortable with if you enjoy having casual sex and find a pleasure ball, then go for it as long as you're safe. If you feel bad after having casual sex,

make an effort to get to know someone better before getting intimate. But if you are gonna engage in casual sex, it seems to be more common these days, right? People looking up through or wherever. Here's some etiquette for casual sex. You like casual sex, right? I think you prefer casual sex, right? People hook it up through or ever. Here's some etiquette for casual sex. You like casual sex, right? I think you prefer casual sex. Yeah. Right? It's way better than committed sex. Committed sex because it costs less money. Right. Because it's like booty calls.

And it takes up less time. Right. Yeah. casual sex is booty calls. Right. So do not feel pressure to do anything that you don't want to do. It's all about you and your pleasure. So don't, if you're with someone for the first time, don't feel like, I gotta do it all or whatever, it might not happen again and have fun, but don't really know this person if it's casual and it's new. I'm just thinking if it's new, but if it's someone you already like, but again, don't feel pressured.

But it is the good thing about casual sex when you're not totally emotionally attached to someone. It can be a good time to try out new things. It can be a good time to try out new things. It can be a good time to live out of fantasy and having sex with a stranger may allow you to explore fantasies that you might feel reluctant to initiate in a relationship. So it might be like you're having casual sex with this guy, you're not emotionally attached but you can practice some other things. What do you think about that? Or do you feel like you

don't feel as safe with someone? No, no, I'm just it's just kind of hard, harder for a man though. To what? To try those things with someone? Yeah, yeah, but she might be down because she's like, oh, it's casual. I can tell menace is kind of a player. What? No, I'm a sweet heart. Yeah, but you can still be a player. Never apologize. You are the player in the room. Why do you think I'm a sweetheart. Yeah, but you can still be a player. Never apologize. You are the player in the room. Why do you think I'm a player? Because you are.

You will never, ever commit. Yes, I will. Never apologize for your performance. That is the worst thing you can do whether you're having casual sex or committed sex. You're assuming your performance was bad and the other person isn't satisfied and it tells that person

that you have a low sexual confidence. What? Yeah, but sometimes you know you did a bad performance. Yeah, but what do you mean the same? What doesn't that like you know you did a bad performance? What's the bad performance? Prima-Tur-Ejectulated? Yeah, you're just too quick.

You just make oops. Oops. Oh, that happened and happened and we're out. But don't apologize. I'll do better next time. I'll do better next time. You can do it. Oops. Oh, that happened and happened and we're out. But don't apologize. I'll do better next time. I'll do better next time. You can say that, but don't apologize. I'll say next time I'll be much better.

I was just very excited to be with you for the first time. Yeah, exactly, that's what we all believe. But then when it happens over and over again, we know there's a problem with the guy dated for two years. He was a premature ejaculator and that was a big problem. If you have a great time with a person and you want to see them again, ask them for breakfast or get their phone number, some relationships actually do begin with casual sex. I think a lot of relationships begin with casual sex.

A lot of mine I have. I mean, that's how it is. It's casual sex inside your committed, but don't expect, except for them to take you up on your offer, even if you think you're a strong connection. So they might be like, no to breakfast, no to like the phone number. I mean, they could say I don't want your phone number. I mean, it might just be a one night stand of its casual. And that's always a bummer.

Yeah, there's a new television show just based on that. On casual sex? Yeah, it's on MTV. It's called, I just want my pants back. And this guy like, I don't know, I guess the premise is he has one I stand with this, this shit. No, he keeps on having casual sex with this one chick, but she doesn't give up any of her information, like her phone or anything.

Oh, really? And then he goes, oh, can I have your number? And then the next scene that shows like he's calling to get a talk to her and he's calling like a Chinese restaurant or something like that. Oh my god, she can't the wrong number. That's so funny. Yeah, yeah. I mean you might not want it might just be casual sex and you know Like I have a friend who went away Vacation with a bunch of our friends met this guy in Mexico. They were all Mexico for Thanksgiving

And she looked up at this guy all week long like for six days They had this amazing thing and he's like I'm not a committer blah blah blah And she hasn't really heard from him since and she tried to read dot Tim or he reached out to her and he's like we'll get together And then she ran into him but he's not interested. Like basically he was interested in the six days on vacation but he has not made effort and he lives like right in the Bay Area. So she's kind of bombed a butt. She knew that he told her he's like, I'm not that into commitment.

I'm here. It's sort of sad. I'm excited to take you to Pound Town, lady. I'm taking you to Pound Town. Okay. We haven't said Pound Town in like a couple of shows. I know. I love pound town.

Taking you to pound town. If you have no intention of seeing the other person, don't ask for their number. This is my pet peeve. It's so true that you guys are like, can I get your number or girls can get your number and then you don't use it. Don't ask. If you think you're not going to want to see this person again, but it's always polite to ask because you really know right after if you're not interested, I guess you do sometimes

if the sex is bad enough. Kind of. Have you set up with people not asked for the number? No, never that. Oh, because you usually have the number to get them to your house in the first place. Yeah, yeah, I don't, I never go and meet people at bars and like take them home. Right, I never did either. I never really did that.

I mean, I must have done it once, but I don't think I can remember. I can't do that in the movies. Yeah, in the movies, but it's not safe because if you have, if you have no intention of seeing other personalized for them, but also be safe, always wear a condom, even if she's on birth control and she's like, that's cool. I'm on the pill. It's not cool. She could have a sexually transmitted disease.

You should definitely use a condom during casual sex, 100% of the time, not even like one in a few hundred percent. And you can have, you can give her a baby too, you know, on top of all that. Yeah, exactly. That could even be worse than a special. She says she's pregnant, but really she wants a baby, so be careful with that.

Yeah. Tell the person what you want. You don't know what the person likes or what their turnons are. You probably have only one night with them, make a count by asking for what they like. Yeah, go all in. Do you think as long as you're there, like, if you, like, would you take more risks if you

were having casual sex with someone that you just like knew, that you just met? I don't know, it's kind of a good time. I thought it was really into them. Right. Maybe like when you're like, otherwise, you don't care. You're like, this is what I like. Or I just want to, you know, just get in my score up. Right.

Exactly. Now, do you perform oral sucks on this kind of thing and on a casual sex? Hell no. No, some people do. I mean, women can, if they want to. Right, of course. Do you cuddle?

Yeah, you cuddle. I feel it into that. It's always one of cuddle. I don't care who it is that even if I don't like and we get sex, I want to cuddle. Even if it was bad sex, I want to cuddle. I love the cuddling. The cuddling is a sex is a vehicle to get to cuddling.

That might be like, I got a dog. It's scary, it's scary. I'm kidding, I'm not all over them. I'm not all over the people. They don't see that I want to cuddle, but I really want to cuddle. I love cuddle.

Oh my God, has your dog jumped in bed with you? Yes. That's so gross. I know, my dog is taking a hiatus right now. She's with the baby daddy. Really? Yeah, for like a week or two. I needed a break.

Or a free or four or five. I need a break. It's been two weeks. No, it's been a week. And I think it's been a really good thing. There's so much in covered in dog hair. That hate. Including me.

I hate that. I know. I hate that. Like if I go hang out with a chick. Oh no. You're coming over my house tonight. It's not dog hair everywhere. And you're like, my house tonight. It's not the out care everywhere. And you're like, cars has dog hair all over it.

My car does. My car does. My car does. Okay fine, I'm not driving you my house. No, I need you driving. I don't have my car. Can you come to my office? One right now.

No, because you really don't want to pick me up. Well, I would do, but I. Well, he always offered to pick me up. No, no, no, no, no, I'll pick you up, but it's, can you meet me halfway? When it comes time to pick me up, you go, oh, can you get a cab? I to pick you up and then when it comes time, but it's can you meet me halfway? What when it comes time to pick me up you go oh, can you get a cat? I will pick you up, but can you help me? We'll talk about the site or tonight is our intern sex tour or intern sex tour intern party Emily is Oh my god, you always offer but you never really want it's far

It's not far. We live in the same city. The city is somebody. I'm just saying to go to your house with all the interns in my car. Already, if you can meet, well, this is how we're different. Because if you were like stuck in L.A., I would drive L.A. Go pick you up. Okay. I'll come pick you up.

You want to do that. You would like, oh, I'm just saying where you can be at five. Maybe you'll be, I'll pick you up. Done. You're being picked up tonight because we're having a raging party with jealous. No No I'm totally picking can't wait to pick you up. Okay is there anything else to say that's what we got for you today. Can you guys have sex? We've got some lots of things going on. We love everybody. We are excited for the benefits of fantastic fantastic. Keep emailing us. Feedbackitsextrethemely.com. We want to answer your questions. We want

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