Sex With Emily - SWE: No More Minute Men

Episode Date: January 11, 2012

Emily dedicates this show to the worthy pursuit of preventing premature ejaculation and some rules about it: Never apologize for premature ejaculation. Instead stay calm, carry on and figure out how to last longer in the future. Emily shares tips. Also, the science of infidelity, cunninglingus, swingers, and getting out of the friend zone. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I Look into his eyes Then the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that block our sacred institutions Betrubized they call them a lie gone. Hey, Emily You got a boyfriend because my man E here. He just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair stand. Oh my the The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry?

It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god. I'm all for a sound. I'm all for a sound. Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

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right, Manus? Yes. And if you go to sexathomley.com right now, your penis will grow. Your penis, it's so weird. It's the weirdest. It was sort of an afterthought. It was sort of a bonus. Is it a new technology?

A new technology, it's really weird. All these big penises just for going to the website. Amazing things happen there. How you doing, Messe? I'm good. Also, you know, you have your daily blog up there. Yeah. Where it could be your daily sex newspaper, basically.

Yesterday's blog was really popular. It was oral sex tips and it was off the roof because we put pictures of there of a woman eating a banana. I don't know if that was it or what, but we get crazy crazy. Is it a picture of you eating a banana? Not me eating a banana,

speaking of which, I'm supposed to eat a banana because of our lost bet, but we'll get to that one day soon. Today's show was all about premature ejaculation. Fun. That is one of the top questions we could ask by man like,

do I last long enough, do I not? How do we cure it? Why am I premature to do that? What can I do about it? We are giving you some sure-fire ways to make sure you don't fire prematurely. That's what we are going to be doing today. We are also talking about, we have got some sex in the news, we have got your emails, we are answering lots of emails, but you try to answer all your questions.

If you are friends with benefits members, we do four shows a week, we'd be happy to answer your questions above everyone else's. So that's what we do. Also, I'm giving away a few copies of my book. I've got this great book that came out, if I do say so myself, called Hot Sex, over 200 things you can try tonight. And it really has helped people sex life. We're in the second printing of it already.

And I want to know, why do you think that you need a copy of this book? Email me feedback at sexesupemily.com. We've got amazing illustrations. It's beautiful. You will love it. I promise you and just email me and let me know why you think you deserve a copy of the book. And I'll let you know if you win. How's that? And I also have some big news here that I just got my iPhone. No way. It's not here yet. It just arrived. I'm the only person on the planet. I have two iPhone apps and I don't have an iPhone, but I just got it. So I'm excited. It's a white one. It's super pretty shiny.

Just showed up. There's so many apps that need you to download. There's so much that I need to do with my life. And I want to do the chatting, the FaceTime. Mm-hmm. Do people have any sex using that? I don't know. I've used FaceTime maybe five times since I've got it.

And you didn't have sex? I did not have sex. I was talking to my buddies. I haven't talked to a girl on it though. Oh, do you want to talk? Maybe we can do some things. We can FaceTime. We can FaceTime.

I'll show you. I see your face every day. I know. But I can show you like, you know, when I'm cooking dinner and stuff. I'm like, oh, this is what the food looks like when you cook it in your kitchen. You actually cook?

Because you don't. You don't do that. I'm so embarrassed because you know I've never cooked anything in my life. And this is embarrassing. food looks like when you cook it in your kitchen. You actually cook? Because you don't. I'm so embarrassed because you know I've never cooked anything in my life. And this is embarrassing. I'm just going to say it because it is. And I just put it all out there. I was at a breakfast the other day. It was a brunch for my friend's birthday.

And my friend, I'm like, how can I help? Which I always like I ask how I can help. But I know that I actually can't help because I don't want to do anything. She said, can you cut this avocado? Yeah, cut avocado. Can't cut an avocado. Don't know how. Yeah, cut avocado. Can't cut an avocado. Don't know how I literally do not know how to cut an avocado. I mean, I can do a lot of other things in life.

I've spent my time perfecting the art of sex and explaining sex, but avocados I was stunted. I was stunned. I stunned couldn't do it avocado. Do you know that a cottage you got slices of in some ways? I've seen people do it, but I was like, you really don't want me touching your avocado. Wow. And then you just went and sat down.

And then I went and sat down and ate the breakfast. It was really good. I contributed nothing. I made the table. I sat the table. So I'm also going to, so what are you up to this weekend? This weekend, I am probably going to go hang out with some friends and work on websites.

And I'm going to help, I'm going to like probably work on a new layout for sexandemwe.com. Just like a front page a new lay out for sex envy.com Just like a front page. Oh, I would love that drink alcohol and work on that That sounds like a fun. I'm gonna do I love when you're my slave It's so I have girl dates this weekend all weekend long. I'm going on girl dates and I'm not real dates But not like you know, we're not gonna make out of the end of the night But my friends and I are going out. I'm like new hot. You never know what's gonna happen Just some new hot places in San Francisco going to dinners and really you're giving at night out in the end of the night, but my friends and I are going out. I'm like, new hot. You never know what's going to happen. Just some new hot places in San Francisco going to dinners and check in at night out in

the town. Night out in the town. That's what I'm going to do. Damn it. What type of places are you going to? Restaurants, we take reservations in the mission. There's some new places and I just think people are single and it's fun going out with friends and you meet people and people be out and having a good time and go to a new

fun restaurant So I'm gonna do yeah, maybe I'll have sex eventually. We'll see what happens You never never know my friends are upset like people who if anybody visits San Francisco, California There is a part of the area of the city called the mission and it's basically I don't know What do you say Spanish dominated?, lots of hipsters now. It's been gentrified. Yeah, that's what my friends are upset with because they're like original residents of the mission.

The mission is like hipsters is like the cool place to hang out. Yeah, but it's like everywhere. Like it's in New York, it's like Brooklyn. Things become gentrified and people just move out and people, there's always, there's always some of that's angry and life changes. It progresses. You move on. You do different things. So what? So it becomes, there's always, there's always something that's angry. And life changes, it progresses, you move on, you do different things, so what? So it becomes, there's more hipsters.

Hipsters are everywhere, so what? F that. F that. Okay, I've got a little bit of sex in the news here. I'd like to share with you. Okay, what do you got? We don't have a lot of pop culture stuff in this, you have anything from your TMZ perusing

that you'd like to announce. Nothing really is sticking out too much. Okay. Just Katy Perry, Russell Brand, no one cares anymore. No, I did read about it. Yeah. I know what's going on. They're really pressuring now about the Ambrose,

who's the ex-girlfriend of Kanye West, and how Kanye West hooked up with Kim Kardashian. Like, that's like the number one thing people can't afford. Did they really hook up or were they just flirting? She, Amber Rose, the chick was on video today on TMZ that they hooked up. So she was with Kanye West for a while, right? Yeah, she's like, I broke up with Kanye West

because he was getting with Kim Kardashian. Right, who doesn't want to get with Kim Kardashian, right? And I don't think that she has anything to hide because she's already engaged to another guy. Oh, okay, so she was like, they did hook up. That's not gonna last. That'll last about three minutes. I think by the end of the show's over, it'll be over.

But that's a good little hook up. Why not, right? She's been single now for six minutes. Yeah. Okay, so sex in the news, anal sex is more popular than once thought According to the Center for Disease Control and in intercourse appears to be anal intercourse appears to be more popular than possibly expected among heterosexual couples under at 45

They found that 44% of straight men and 30% 36% of straight women admitted they've engaged anal sex Don't you feel it's kind of true that it's become more trendy lately? They're anal sex. I feel like it didn't come up here. It's definitely in the public. Don't you feel it's kind of true that it's become more trendy lately that anal sex? I feel like it didn't come up here. It's definitely in the public eye. And, you know, pop culture and news and television shows and stuff like that. There was almost like a whole episode

of entourage on that. Like how? Like how? The couple wanted to try it and stuff like that. Right, it's kind of a whole big thing. So we've done some shows in that. We've got tips for anal sex. And so yeah, more people are doing it

Happy to hear it use protection and be careful and start solely use lots of loop. That's my tip for you Menace is afraid of it. I'm sorry to bring it up DNA testing will test your girlfriend's underwear to find out if she is cheating. Yes How about that for $200 in fidelity DNA testing will test a pair of your partners underwear for traces of semen or vaginal fluids. Both men and women can benefit from the service. The company promotes itself as providing indisputable evidence of partners infidelity. So there's some like, aren't sperm in there that's not your own sperm, I guess you can tell

that it's ours. Just change your underwear. All you hos and hores look out because we got science on our side now. I know, That's interesting. You're going to mail it onto the crusty underwear and the mail to these people for 200 bucks and they're going to tell you if they cheated or not. Hell yeah. I guess it's not a bad idea.

Oh man, you guys need to, you guys better watch out because you will take that stuff to your grave. You'll tell your girlfriends all day, but when you're face to face with a man, you'll never admit that you did. But it says your girlfriend, okay, the headline is, we'll test your girlfriends all day, but when you're facing the face with a man, you'll never admit that he did. But it says your girlfriend, okay, the headline is, we'll test your girlfriend's underwear, and then it says men and women can testify. I think boyfriends underwear too, I think.

Yeah, go for it. I just want to do it just for fun. For all someone's underwear and see how much semen is in it. That would be awesome. Okay, penis tattoo leaves man with a permanent boner. What? A, why get a tattoo in your penis? Why get a tattoo anywhere down there?

Why get a piercing? Why get a tattoo? You might risk the chance of having a permanent boner, I suppose. A 20-year-old Iranian man has a permanent semi-boner after getting the phrase, ready? Good luck on your journeys, along with his girlfriend's initials on his penis. According to the journal, the tattoo artist punctured two deep holes, the damaged vessels in his penis. Since he can achieve full

erections in F-Sex, he more or less cares and has rejected any treatment. He's kind of like, hey, I got a boner. I'm always ready to go. Yeah. See, that'd be annoying because men are already always ready to go. It seems. And now you're with a guy who's like literally always ready to go, it seems. And now you're with a guy who's literally always ready to go. I think there'd be a lot of pressure. I'm like, you got a boner again. Oh, yeah, you always have a boner. It would be winning me.

What, you wouldn't like that? No, I'd like to know that I had something to do with the boner. That the boner didn't come because of your tattoo. The boner came because of my feminine wiles. Because you saw me and you were like, boner. It goes back to the ego again. But now it's, of course, it always goes back to the ego. Oh, I love you. It's all about you. of my feminine wiles because you saw me and you were like, ee-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e Man, there's some stuff online that you should see of where people have tattoos down there. It's crazy I know this girl. She oh my god. She got like was with this guy for like I don't know three weeks And then she got her name tattooed right above her

Her what's a clinical term so you don't get upset vagina? Oh, Oh, Volga does a better. But Gina's fine. Yeah. It's a vagina. Her vagina. Like, I'm gonna like, belly like her naval. Just like right above her vagina says the dude's name. And then of course they break up like two weeks later. People do not get tattoos with people's name on it ever.

Especially on your vagina. Jesus, because other guy goes down there, you can make up what are you gonna say that it stands for. Oh, well, see. Oh, it's my favorite rock band. See, if I was the next guy to explore that area, I go, look, you need to get tattooed where you cross out that guy's name and then my name goes on top. Or something.

I mean, really, that is if they were together three weeks or something, that is a dumb thing to do. So don't people don't do that? Watch your tattoos. And just if they could get a tattoo, I would say spend the time truly thinking that this is what you want, because you change over time. And you definitely break up over time. People always break up, right? Not that I don't think there is not true love,

but how many celebrities and people do we know who we have like tattoos and they got to cross it out and make like a big mermaid or something on their own? Yeah. So I would say not to do that. That's what I got for sex in the news today. Oh, speaking about tattoos, I was just talking with my friend and they told me that Kat Von D's tattoo

of Jessie James, she's not gonna get removed. She's just gonna keep it. She got a tattoo too of the biggest cheater on the planet. Now that's smart. What are these people like idiots? Can you just round up all these people. I don't know, I've been cat many times and she's such a sweetheart,

but it's like, I don't know what was going on there. Well, how would have all people, let me think, hmm, Jessie James, like he cheated on, he cheated on Sandra Bullock with like 86 women or something. Maybe like 20 women. I think it was hundreds. I bet you that's what we find out.

And then I also, they say that Aston Kutcher, I was reading, because you know I'm getting, I'm reading more and watching more, but that he was cheating on Demi Moore with like, on, like that one woman was just like, tip of the iceberg. Yeah, but they supposedly had an open relationship. Like, that was cool. Then why was this one woman not cool? Because it's a public embarrassment. Because he got sloppy and then he got out in the public. Yeah. Well, if you have an open relationship, you have to be mindful of your partner and you have to rules and you want to be you want to be courteous. Yeah, you can't just be hooking up with some random chicks off the street when you're famous like that because

all those chicks that are hooking up with you are hooking up with you because you're famous. Right. So they're fame horrors and they're just gonna run to the media and tell people. But you think that people would have learned this lesson after all these years. Yeah, but when you're drunk and famous, you just wanna have sex with somebody. It's when you're drunk and that's when all your inhibitions go down.

Yeah, because they said they had footage of him like partying that night in a club and then Supposedly that was the night he hooked up with this one chick. Right. Well, though both be fine Well, it just teaches you that you can't trust women Exactly right men. That's exactly it. Can't trust women. You can't tell them nothing Can't tell no those women nothing. What about men? You want to tell them the cheating rate though? They say between men and women is about 50% it's equal now.

You see men cheating more, but I mean, I think it's like 50, 50, they're everyone's cheating. Yeah. Sounds fun. That's a nice question. Just tell them as much as they need to know. What do you mean? Like you don't need to give them unnecessary information.

If you cheated or just in life. No, just in life in general, it'll make your life a lot easier. Why does it just give up? This just, it goes back to the thing you shouldn't tell people how many people you've slept with. Never. Should we go through that list of all the things that you should never tell your partner? If you want to, I mean, I think it just goes hand in hand with telling women information

because it goes back to they have hard drives in their brain. No matter what argument you're gonna have, somehow they're gonna pull up some information and use that information against you. When it has nothing to do with the argument that you're having at the current time. But I think men do that too, men remember everything. Yeah, but they don't lose.

But more slutes, like women, like you go through your email, your phone, whatever we figured it all out, we know why. Yeah, but we, we remember everything, but we don't, we don't bring it up in arguments. Right, I'm gonna use the same thing. You guys will bring up everything. I was talking to this woman who works in my building and she's 70 plus and she's been married

over 30 plus years. And she was telling me the exact same thing we're talking about right now, that she will bring up stuff when they were married year two. Yeah, well, if you pissed her off, she's gonna remember. Like, there I've been married 30 plus years, like, yeah, we remember everything. Let it go.

But some of the things that you should never talk about in a relationship is your number. We talk about that. If anyone ever asks you how many people you've slept with, don't answer, just politely change the conversation. That information is never useful for anybody. There is no way that that number helps. It's either too much, too little.

And like I say, men are visual creatures. Visual creatures, they remember it. All they can think about is if I said, let's say I said I slept with 10 people. All you think about those 10 other penises that I've slept with. You slept with over 10 people? Well, like maybe, I don't know.

You're flusier. No, but really, you just did the fact that never helps. And then the other thing is, what's the other thing we always say should never talk about that? And you should never access access on the first. Just don't talk about your past relationships a lot. Don't get into great detail. Or don't talk about, oh my god, we had this amazing, my ex and I had the amazing sex one

time on the balcony. Like women, we don't want to hear that. You think it's going to be cool, and you think it's going to be good information that you're sharing with us, but it's not. Because we're picturing you with this other girl. Was she better than I was? Was she skinnier than I was?

Was she hotter? Why can't we just stay present moment when we talk about our own sex life? Which is what most people don't talk about, which is why we do this show. Because most people don't even talk to their partner about their own sex life. So why, if you're not talking about,

that's what you should do. When you're in the moment where you're like, I really want to know about his past sexual exploits, why don't you just think that time to talk about your own sex life with your partner and what's going on with you guys currently? Are we having good sex? Are you having orgasms? What turns you on? What turns you off?

Is there a fantasy you'd like to share? Just do that instead. Swap it out. Also, if you got like a 10 grand bonus from work, don't tell your significant other about that. Oh, right. Keep the money, because they're just gonna spend it on unnecessary things.

I don't know what women you date, but I would never spend my man's bonus, but hopefully he would genuinely. Oh, he's been it on you and taking someone. I would generously, you know, take me to a nice meal and take me shopping. Keep that 10 grand people, keep it, you know, take me to a nice meal and take me shopping. Keep that 10 grand people. Keep it, hide it, bury it somewhere in the backyard.

Okay, good to know. For any time, for when your significant other leaves you for somebody else. When she gets famous. And then you got that 10 grand buried in the backyard and then you can go to Vegas and get a hooker. See? You got it all worked out.

That's what you would do with your bonus. You would not get a hooker in Vegas. Would you? No, I'll try and get it. I'll probably get a laptop in a camera. Exactly. You get a laptop in a camera and it'll be game over with money's gone babe. Sorry. Yeah. We're going to Taco Bell. Did you ever go to Taco Bell? Hell yeah, I want to Taco Bell. I want to talk about the other night. Oh my god. It was It's better than going to a strip club like seriously. Seriously talk about for you It's better than strip club. You're the only person I know who's like still to talk about you actually get something out of it You know what like beans and rice?

Beans rice meat All for two bucks all wrapped into a delicious Flower tortilla. It's like a delicious flower tortilla. It's like a gift from Jesus. It's not good for your sex life. It is. It is.

First of all, if you smell like Taco Bell and if you got some crusties. I posted, I'm going to talk about on Facebook and I could tell you there was over like 30 people that liked my status and there was a bunch of hot chicks on there too. I wish I could be like concern for your status. Because there's a bunch where I can check

I'm concerned for your status, instead of like your status. People have been trying to get dislike for a long time. But the internet is so. But that's so mean, dislike. The internet is. The internet is. The internet is already so negative anyways.

You know where the worst part of the internet is, is on YouTube when it comes to comments. People are brutal on there. You can make one of the best cinematic films of all time and post it on YouTube and they'll be like some of the worst negative comments. Really? I never know how to set on my YouTube page. Never post anything on there if you want to build your own. You don't post on YouTube. If you want to find my YouTube videos there at Sex of

Family, you can also find me on Twitter and Facebook sex with Emily and where can we find you menace everything just Google white menace white menace okay you can find out of our various going on that we do all the things that we post and whatnot yeah I I uh... google myself last night i'll bet you did not last night two nights ago I google myself and there was a video of me and my ex-girlfriend on there. Having sex? No, but there was a video of me and my ex-girlfriend

on there talking in the camera and joking around. This is like my girlfriend from three years ago. Oh, really? So I contacted the website and got it taken down. Okay. What were you guys doing? Were you fighting? No, we're just on there joking around.

But I feel bad for any girl that I'm currently dating and then they Google No, you got I got you got a goo yourself and get rid of that stuff. I I'd rather not go How many pornos do you have no porn? I've never been in a sex movie, but I was in the XLB that's online they're all their private libraries But no, I was in the movie. I'm a sex addict Which is a feature film about but I don't get naked and I don't have sex I have simulated sex, but I don't actually have sex. Well, yeah, you know if you google Emily Morris Yeah, more like the code. Yeah, right? You say Morris like the cat. Sorry. Do you remember Morris cat? No, I don't you don't this is like the cat. Do you remember Morse Cat? No, I don't.

You don't? This is like the thing yesterday, we'll break what is it, the third wall, the fourth wall, is something. We went and recorded a commercial yesterday. And you were trying to give me to say something, and I heard you say it a billion times, but every time I went to record it, I was saying it differently. I know. Remember that? Yeah, it was like you were in another planet I went to record it, I was saying it differently. I know. You remember that?

Yeah, it was like you were in another planet or something, like you've been possessed by the devil. I was so tired. I couldn't say I in, do I do I? Do I? Do I? Do I? Do I?

No, I do. I thought you were possessed. You wanted me to say I do, and I didn't want to say it. Maybe I'm just, me as a man, maybe I just reject that. You reject any, you reject any women. I do. I do exactly. That You reject any women. You reject any women. I do. Yeah, I do exactly. That might be it too.

Fear of marriage. Okay, we got some emails to read. Okay, what do you got? Okay, so these are from the peeps. You emailed me at feedback at sex with mme.com. Also, if you go to sex.com, there's an ask Emily button. You get asked Emily button, supposedly. It is a button.

What do you call it? No, it is a button. It's a tab. Yeah, a tab. Sure, it's tab. And you can just easily, it's a link. It you call it no it is a tab yeah tap uh... sure tab and you can just be a link it's a link it's a tab it's whatever and you can just write a question there or email a feedback at sex at me dot com okay first one is eating peaches

dear amalie was trying to remember the name of one of your guests and which shows she was on she was talking about conlingus being like eating a peach and i believe she taught some kind of class to help men get better at it. Pretty sure it was in the last say eight months. Can you help me out? This is from Marvin. He's a premium friends with benefits member

from Nashville, Tennessee. So I believe that this was a show with Sarah that we did. She's in my sex school class. But also, I can just tell you more about that eating a peach and oral socks is that I and I have a guy friend who says that he says whenever I go down on a woman it you have to think of like you're eating a peach you've got to get your face in there you're going to get some juice on it it's going to get juicy and drippy and there could be

pulp coming down your face and you just eat it like you eat a peach you lick it you do bite it you whatever and you can't afraid to get in there you know when you're eating a peach and sometimes you just got to like you try to start slowly but then you just get into it and you get to lick it, you bite it, you, whatever, and you can't afraid to get in there. You know when you're eating a peach and something, you just gotta like, you try to start sling, but then you just get into it and you get into the peach and the juice and you get your face on there, that's what you have to do in your performing or all of sex on a woman. It's not every time, not the whole hour and a half

that you're down there. Sounds like I need a scuba gear. You don't need a scuba gear, but really, like get into the pussy. Like when you are performing or performing oral sex on a woman, don't be afraid to get in there. Don't do little darts with your tongue, dive in. And I know a lot of guys are going,

ooh, and I like it to then. If you don't, then don't even try. And don't do the prerequisite. The requisite one minute, I'm gonna do it for a minute. Cause you might as well have just gotten me glass of water at that time and brought it back to me, then gone down to me for a minute, because that does does nothing we need you down there for at least 15 minutes Now should I get those glasses that have the lights on the end of them and then so I can just like spelunking or something

Or maybe like a little laser you know those laser pointers just maybe a laser pointer straight at the forgina You could sure would you like me to get one of those? Gets you one of those. Yeah, we still haven't made the app where it's the G-Spot locator. The G-Spot locator, that's true. We've not done that yet. That is my next app, I will do a G-Spot, but it's different for women.

It's different to the G-Spot, it's hard to find. Yeah, of course. You guys never make it easy, you always gotta hide it somewhere. Women, we are very, very difficult. I agree that our bodies are really difficult, and I'm just telling you that some oral sex tips, we're going to do a show. I think we'll do next week about oral sex tips for men not performing on a woman because every woman is different. And I know from a lot of friends that they like it, every woman likes it a little differently.

So that's why when you are performing oral sex and women you should do lots of try up a lot of different things and see what works. Fast, movement, your tongue in there get your tongue out maybe stick a finger in or two you see if you like that see if she mones groans and don't forget when you are performing all sex to ask her say hey does this feel good what else do you want because she'll tell you hopefully from the conversation yesterday that we're talking about champagne and breast yes I seen a lot of videos where they pour champagne on the vagina during oral sex. Do you think that's a good thing to do?

That is not a good thing to do. Seriously, you never put anything of sugary substances in the vagina. But I see them all the time. And we're all in pornography. But I see them all the time. And we're all in pornography. If you learn anything about sex, you will not learn it from porn. If you want to learn the right sex moves and what turns a woman on, it is not from pornography. This pornography is a visual medium and it's made to look good and look hot, but those

positions that you see are not necessarily what is going to get her off. And let me tell you why champagne is bad. It's acidic and it has sugar in it. And anytime you put that inside of a woman's vagina, it is not good. It is the bacterial. She get bacterial infections, she can get a lot of infections. Just keep the, if you wanted you champagne

during your love making, menace, you can pour it on her breasts. All right, fine. We were gonna tweet about that yesterday, actually. We were gonna tweet about menace pouring champagne on women's breasts. I don't know why, we never got the tweet out, but we, we should have tweeted it.

We're gonna tweet it today. Menace wishes to pour champagne on women's women's it was something funnier than that. Okay, it was more snappy in Twitter. Oh Trader Joe 699 Yeah, yeah, menace only likes a 699, but I don't care if you're drinking it off my breasts I'm fine with that. Have you ever eaten any food off of a woman's body? No, it's too messy I always think about the sheets. You know, you gotta clean the sheets and stuff like that. I don't wanna get some chocolate.

Put a tarp down. Or she stains people would think I put some doo-doo stains in my sheets. I'm gonna put a big beach towel down on your bed and get over it. That's a lot of work. Why would you wanna do all that stuff? Because, that's what you do.

Because whipped cream can be really sensitive, to really sensual and sensitive put on our breasts. What about if a guy was like really into eating like, I don't know, it really rare meat. And you wanted to put it on your breasts and eat it off your breasts. Would you be inside like a filet? Yeah, you know, maybe nice flamingion or something. Yeah, yeah, what I I be into him like,

would he be like cutting it with a fork and knife over my breasts? Yeah, he's laying on your breasts and tying it up. Not hot. That goes in the not hot meter. Weird. Yeah, no meat. What about if it was like really expensive meat? No.

Like the top, like great A. No, no meat on my breasts. No, just wanted to have your steak and then you can come visit my breasts. What about if he ate lobster off your breasts? No fishy lobster. No, I don't want that But I don't know my feel good look kind of cold People like sushi off people's bodies don't they do that or that is gross because the kind of chicks that they get to eat The sushi off the body like because that's cool for like cool trendy parties and stuff like that, but they never get a hot chick

No, you know, you know,, it was in sex in the city movie. Yeah, but they look like in the movie, of course, but when you see it on reality shows and stuff like that, it looks like they got some stripper and I don't want to be eating, eating sushi off a stripper. Okay. I don't want to eat any type of food in a stripper, only when I'm intoxicated and that's only happened one time. The, the evade food off a stripper?

No, where I ate food at a strip club. I told you I was in Las Vegas, and they had a buffet at the strip club. A buffet? A buffet at the strip club. And I was kind of wasted, I go in line to eat from the buffet and behind me were two ladies with Gene Simmons,

and he was waiting in line behind me. Wow. To get some food too. Really? I guess he was really hungry. Yeah, you get hungry with all those strippers there. They have buffets everywhere in Vegas, right? We're supposed to be in Vegas right now, PS, but we're not for the EVN and the show and

the CES and next year, for sure. Okay, we've got another email here. It's about swingers. Okay. Do you remember? I bought your book and it was wrapped under the tree for my wife to open on Christmas morning. My book is Hot Sex. It's called Hot Sex.

Why the note? Just to say you are amazing and I appreciate all you do. I've been listening for years and have been a friend of benefits members since you started the program. One more thing, my wife and I are swingers. Though we hate the term and I don't have a ponytail. Suck it, Menace. Whenever you probably have some leather pants somewhere. Menace thinks that every swinger has a ponytail. I'm sending you this on Facebook so you can see it for yourself. My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for nearly 10 years

and our marriage is stronger than ever. Well, it's not for everyone. If you get a trust and communication right, it can be an incredible adventure. Cheers, Ben. All right, Ben, I am happy that you're a fan of the show right and thank you for the note and thank you for getting Emily's book just real quick I've yet to see a stripper or me stripper maybe it's just the ones that are in San Francisco

that don't look weathered you know like like what's that actress's name that we're talking about the other day that was the blonde chick. She was in Van Wilder. You haven't seen any movies like that. No. Anyways, she looks weathered. They just look weathered. They look weathered. That's so not true. They're stripper. They mean strippers. There's swingers in the 20s, 30s, 40s. I don't know. I mean, I know what you're saying, like the image, the scale type,

super, super tan and just weathered. Yeah. Are you sure you're not talking about like perverts or something or pedophiles? No, swingers, not all have ponytails, but you know, the swinging life that we've done a lot of shows on swinging. And I think that it does work for a lot of couples opening up their relationship after they've been together a while or maybe they started out the relationship being swingers, but I think you really can help couples

who always wanted to try it, but you have to communicate. It's all about what are the rules, what are the communication, it's not like you just are like, oh, tonight I'm going to go out with so-and-so, you have to sit laid on the lawn, the rules, and then you can do it, but you need a lot of communication around it. Mm-hmm. What?

And he doesn't have a ponytail. Suck it. I love that. Right. He had a ponytail. He just cut it before you wrote that email. No Although I did have there are some swingers of point tells I agree that I agree that but there's lots of people with point tells and all different genres of life Okay, this one This email is about I haven't seen many CEOs of major companies at bone details. Just wanted to throw that out there

That's true, but they could be swingers anyway. Do you think that I'm trying to think about the swinger thing in the ponytails that they don't, why would a swinger have a ponytail? Does it mean they're hippie? Just so they can see, they can recognize other swingers. That's why. Right. Okay. It's like the code. Once they see that ponytail, like, oh, swing her. They know so they can see each other. Okay. Yeah. Even though they should just see each other about how weathered their face is from all that

true sex that they're doing. That's so not true, man. I said, don't believe you. Okay. First, I'm before I get to the next one because the next email actually leads us into our topic, which is premature ejaculation. We have a survey that we just put out, because we were just wondering what people want to hear. We know we do a show four days a week,

and at sexathamily.com. And we want to hear from people what you like about the show, what you'd like to improve, what kind of topics you want to hear. And so some people have given us some ideas here, and I just wanted to read some of our books. Oh, really? Yes, of course. Oh really? Yes, of course.

We have like lots of people answer it. And if you want to take the survey, we can email it to you. It's at feedback at sexily.com or just go to my Facebook page, sex with Emily and you'll find the survey there. Okay. So this is what one person wrote. This is from a man. He said, I want to know signals women give out to let you know they are interested.

I'm the guy who is internally in the friend zone because I can talk to women and become their friends as easy as breathing, but usually find out later that they were interested in me and I know idea because I just can't figure out women's signs. You ladies suck. Just tell a guy with your words that you like him if you do, he'll appreciate it. This is what someone filled in on our survey. So I think that that is really interesting that a lot of guys do fall into the friend zones because they don't let it be known that they are interested

as well. So I think that the next time you're out with a woman and you're in, and it's like your first day and maybe it's a friend, one of those friend dates and you're interested in her, I would say that you should put that out there or you should try to kiss her. First or second date. What is the worst thing that happens if you try to kiss a woman? Either she turns her head...

You'll die, you'll die. You'll die, you'll die. See, this is the thing. Guys think they're gonna die. And I think that a woman, this will prevent you from falling into the friend's own. Try to kiss her. See what happens.

So the worst thing that happens is that A, she turns her head and how bad is that? That means that maybe she doesn't kiss on the first date or she wants to kiss you later or she says I'm interested. Then you know, then you're not in the friend zone and then you can decide, am I gonna be friends with her? Am I gonna not be friends with her? Or she makes out with you.

She kisses you back. And like, how great is that? I feel like there were many times where I'm sort of surprised and taking it back when a guy does kiss me. I'm like, oh really is that? I feel like there were many times where I'm sort of surprised and taking it back when a guy does kiss me. I'm like, oh, really? We're there. And then I'm like, oh, this is kind of hot.

So sometimes that kiss has flipped somebody out of the potential friend zone into the dating zone. So I think that guy should just kind of go in and make the move. Or the danger zone. The danger zone. So I mean, don't you think that a lot of times like how many percentage of time you don't,

you wait for women to fall on your lap? What do you mean? Like when I go in to kiss them? Yeah, like how do you mean? I've only had to happen one time in my life. That a woman rejected you. Yeah, and then that was because she had a boyfriend too. So I give a respect for not kissing me.

Right, but don't you think that a lot of times women are, and then it just shows, I think that women like to a man who takes Initiative and it's all about when you're in the friend zone It's because you're not taking the initiative. You're not showing her that you're interested you let yourself You put yourself in the friend zone. So this guy you said you ladies suck No, he sucks. Why isn't he making the moves and being a man like take the initiative and do it That's what I got to say because we want to know We're gonna stay in the friends home with you

if you're just kinda like, hey, yeah, it's going on. Are you dating anyone? How's your life? Let's go to yoga, you know, you're the friends home. How many guys have you denied in your lifetime do you think? A lot, probably, but I've also kissed more guys than I should have. Yeah, like I think there's a lot of guys that I was like, eh, you know what I think it is?

A lot of women, I don't know if you're gonna agree with me or not, but I've kind of been like, had this, why not? Like, why not? I'm not like, you know, getting down my knees and it's like, my penis are jumping in bed with them. It's like a kiss. So sometimes I think, you know what? I'm kind of on the fence with this guy,

but he wants to kiss me, why not try and get out of the way and see how it goes? And a lot of times I'm happily, I happily kiss the guy, because it's like, why not? It's not so bad to kiss and it tells you, gives you more information about him. Maybe there is an attraction. Maybe I'm not sure if I'm attracted to you,

but you kissed me. And so, then I was. Like women sometimes, like men decide in two minutes if they're gonna see for someone. Well women sometimes takes a little longer, might take us a little swapping a fluids to know, kissing, they're talking, you know, that weren't you. So take initiative.

Yeah, I, again, yeah, I just go back to where you're not gonna die, nothing bad is gonna happen to you. And then also, if she does reject you, then you just saved yourself a whole lot of time and your life because you're not gonna waste your time being in the front zone. And then maybe if you can get over her rejecting you, you can be cool for us. Right.

And just because she turned her head over rejected you the first time, doesn't mean she will. The next time. Yeah. But he wants to know after five shots, you're out. You're out. Yeah, after five times. But he also wants to know what that he also saying that he wants women to give you

out signals to know that they're going to get. Yeah. See, you guys don't give out signals. And then like ten years years later you tell us, oh, I was still into you, but you never made a move. I mean, well, no, there was a study that came out a few years ago that showed that men actually, physiologically, are unable to read signals from women,

that there's like some kind of disconnect in their brain, that they can't, it's not a good or bad thing. Like really, it was like, it was like a scientific study that men have a hard time reading signals from women that there's like some kind of disconnect in their brain that they can't. It's not a good or bad thing. Like really it was like, it was like a scientific study that men have a hard time reading signals from women and interpreting them. So sometimes you just got to like do something physical or make the move or ask and to find out. Because I think women give signals all the time. We're touching you.

We're looking at you. We're playing with our hair. We're doing for flirting. And you just don't know. So sometimes we are giving you signals and you're just not reading them. Yeah. Okay. I just I cannot pick up on signals. You can't at all. I know you can't. Okay. So another person would like to hear about I personally would like to hear more about how guys, how guys and heterosexual relationships can increase their lovers sexual creativity without pushing them to try something new. You know?

Alcohol. Getting them to surprise you with new ideas for the bedroom. I find it incredibly sexy when my girlfriend brings up sexy new ideas to try out rather than having me bring it up first. Okay, so that is a great idea. First of all, one of the number one, I'd say it's a complaint that we get from men is that women don't initiate sex enough. Would you say that's true?

Yeah. That it's mostly the guy. It's all in hand. Which I think is really hard. My heart goes out to the men in the world that women don't. But how can you get them? I think that it starts by talking about what turns you well done, like having a frank conversation. What's your fantasy?

What turns you on? Asker. Also you can bring some sex toys into the relationship. You can dress up, have a dress that isn't something sexy. But you could tell her, you can be like, I want you to play out one of your fantasies on me, or buy or something sexy and be like, where are that?

Try it, you know, try something new in the bedroom. You can buy my book. Not mention my book again, but actually, it's called The Hat Sex Over 200 Things You Can Try at night. And it really does have 200 things that are totally doable, not like crazy weird sex positions, though there are some of those,

not crazy weird, there are sex positions, but there's like little things like going to a bar and like flirting and dressing up and pretending you're different people and strangers, meaning for the first time or things like that. It, you know what's funny? You hate that one, No, no, no. But you know what's funny?

We brought up a while back. We bring it up once in a while. I asked you, at the love of your life, one of you dressed up as the McDonald's hamburger, would you do it? Just because for some reason, through his childhood, he has this sick and twisted thing and the hamburger gets him off Right, and you said he want to do it. Well at the first thought of it I would do can it be a sexy hamburger? Can it be like a hamburger and a dress In a skirt maybe yeah, well, what if it was a fuzzy hamburger thing?

I'd wear the big hamburger head if he wanted but I'd like to like show off my legs or something Yeah, no hamburger just looks like a bandit because he hamburger thing, I'd wear the big hamburger head if he wanted, but I'd like to like show off my legs or something. No, hamburger just looks like a bandit. It's not, you know, like a burger. Oh, he's the bandit, he's the bandit. Could I wear a sexy striped uniform, a ticket jail bait thing? See, now you're in. No, no, but at first I was like hamburger, not hot, I'm not going to do that, but I could

totally see that. And do you know what's funny? I swear that the family guy must have listened to the show because They did that what with a hamburger, but like another McDonald's character Like the the wife she dressed up as a McDonald's Character and went into bed. Why no McDonald not wrong McDonald, but the big purple thing What is that purple thing? I don't know what the purple thing is called. I don't either But the purple they she walked in dressed as him for like sexual fantasy.

Like, no, we just that, we were talking about that. That was so weird. They totally still, I hate when family guys steal from us. I know. They should pay us royalties. Stop listening. Stop listening to our show.

But another thing is when he says that I find incredibly sexy when my girlfriend brings up sexy new ideas, I always like it when a guy tells me like, I think like this is totally cliche, but very, I think you'll understand it. He was like, I'm really into the schoolgirl thing. He's like, I think that's so hot when a girl wears a schoolgirl.

So like, I wore my, I have this really cute little schoolgirl thing and I wore a little plaid skirt and I one day I just like surprised him and wore it and he was totally psyched because like he told me what he liked and then I surprised him with it so it's just communication. I wanted to have to wait before you surprise them. It's take me a while because I couldn't find the right skirt that I liked and all that stuff but I had to get like a plaid skirt with a little it's really cute I still have it if I'm with any guys that happen to be into the school girl thing I've

got the costume ready to go. You need to take photos and put it on live, live, sorry, other website, sex-only.com. Of me and a sexy schoolgirl. I should do more sexy photos online. I don't though. I don't have to. No, nothing, no sexy photos. People pay a good amount of money. They want some sexy photos on sex-only.com.

Well, I do have some. This don't be the ridiculous cheesy ones. They look like you took pictures at the mall or something. Don't do that. Don't do pictures of the mall. I see I see women do that all the time. Where it looks like they try to be sexy. But the background looks like they're out of like one of those mall photos.

Right. We're still like the like the background is like that. Yeah. Oh, you're your high school photos. Yeah, you're your prom that. Yeah, yeah. Oh, you're your house. Yeah, you're your problem photos. Your problem photos. Yeah, don't do that. But you can hire people that you do Boudoir photographs and stuff for women.

Yeah, just have me take the photos. I mean, I don't want to take. I don't want to like, you know, is your next career going to be sexy photographer taking pictures, sexy photos for women? That'd be a good gig for you. Probably get laid all the time. Yeah, and I'll be good be a good gig for you. Probably get laid all the time. Yeah, and I would be good at two. Not that you don't get laid all the time.

I would allow them to take pictures. Thank you, remember. Cheesy photos. Because you know, every single woman these days, anybody that goes on the internet, if a chick is halfway decent, they think they're a freaking model. Like they have all these modeling photos

up on their Facebook and it's effing annoying because like I know it isn't like I know some women who post like 20 photos a day of just themselves. Yeah, frallicking. What the F? I know. Why do they do that? Why the self portrait? I see I see like people posting self portraits 10 times a day. It's women 10 times a day. I know you're doing it for attention, but I know what the F you look like. Everybody else that it's listening right now, do this to the person that because you know somebody that does this where they they post all the self portraits. Just comment under the photo. Thanks for posting this because I forgot what you look like. That's what I do.

Without you doing. Yeah. And then people I missed your photo from six minutes ago. Yeah, and people do it. I had to stop following people online that do that. Release that when you do you de-friend them? Yeah, on Instagram. On Instagram, right? Okay. Oh, I'm going to start Instagram this week.

I'm very excited. Okay, let's move into our topic. Okay. Because it's very topical. No, it's a very important topic. It's about premature ejaculation. Okay, so it's every man's biggest worry. Do I last long enough in bed?

Survey show that most men believe they do not last long enough in bed. And if your climax comes after only a few minutes of intercourse, you can try some of these tips to last longer in bed. Why are you laughing? I heard if you just put rubber bands around your penis really tight then you don't ejaculate. Yeah, exactly. Don't try this at home.

Or put your penis in a vice and you're good. Okay, so menace, you'll like this one because this is what menace does. The first tip so you can last longer in bed is warming up or pre-gaming. Just like you would stretch your football game warm up before sex. This is also called pre-gaming. So masturbate before you go on a date that night. Get the timing right now when you're doing this. So you feel like you can last longer.

Don't masturbate to reach climax, masturbate to warm up. So you can masturbate up until the point of climax, but don't actually let yourself climax. Oh, you're supposed to make yourself climax. What are you talking about? Wow. Because if you bring yourself to the point, then you're just going to be excited through the whole date. Well, we're going to get something about Mary. They break it down in the movie that you have to get all the way to that point. And then you're just hanging out. Right. I know this is hard to do. I know this is hard to do. Okay, but we're gonna get to more exercises that you should do where you actually don't panic. So yes, you can master weight decline max,

but it's actually better to not. Another thing you could do is you can wait, wait a while before you penetrate your partner. So this is all about foreplay, which is my favorite topic. So steam things up and get her turned on. Participate in foreplay, go down on her, play with her breasts. Make sure you give her a lot of attention

so she's ready for you. This will delay your pre-adjaculatory issues and increase the quality of your sexual connection. So foreplay, men are like a really foreplay, but really if you are getting her off first, however you have to do it. Kiss her, go down on her, do whatever. This will be delaying it and you will know that you've already delivered to her and then

you can stick it in. But that's just my biggest pet peeve with men is that they just go right for the stick it in and then they jack you. They all are even two minutes and I'm like, were you even in? Did we even start? What's happening? What? I mean, I'm hungry. Yeah, men, do that. They don't, they don't do foreplay, especially couples

who've been together a long time. They stopped the whole foreplay thing. They just stop even doing it. True. I don't know about the four, the four, the four play, the floor, I can't even say it. You don't like far play. No, I do like four play in the beginning. Okay. Another, another thing. I don't want to do it anymore. Well, because people stop having for play. Well, thing is, okay, this is this is what happens with the guys. Tell me what happens. I want to know why men don't do enough for play. Tell me why men is now because it goes back to where we can get erect immediately and then we're ready. We want to we want to jump in and stick it in to the keep it going. When we started doing some for play, sometimes we're ready. We want to jump in and stick it in to keep it going.

When we started doing some for play, sometimes we were afraid like, oh my, my, my, uh, my team. Yeah, my weener. I knew you were going to say weener. My weener. I knew you wanted to say weener. So I said, my weener is going to get too excited. And it's just going to conquer out.

And then I have to get back up again. And when I get back up again, and then, I put it in on the one minute man, because it goes back there like you've been teasing me this whole time. And now I'm super excited. Now I actually get to go inside you and I only lasted two minutes. But the problem is that if you let me get to Palantown

right away, I'm gonna put it down for at least four and a half minutes. Let's see, we're not. Versus the two minutes that you let me get to Pound Town right away, I'm gonna put it down for at least four and a half minutes. Let's see, we're not. Versus the two minutes that we're gonna get. You really think you can go the whole four and a half minutes man, is that amazing? You ain't got no problem. See?

So don't be greedy with the kissing when I can give you an extra two minutes of pleasure. But here's a problem, you wanna go to Pound Town, and we haven't even arrived yet. We're just crossing state lines. We're not in Pound Town yet and we haven't even arrived yet. We're just crossing state lines. We're not in Pound Town yet. We are not warmed up yet. We can't go from zero to 60 like men can.

You're turned on, you want to go to Pound Town. We see the year turned on and we're still thinking about our day. We're like filing our nails. We're not ready yet. We're not turned on yet. So we need that. We need it to get turned on. So the thing is you're not going to lose a lot of men actually, many men get turned on by the foreplay. So they maintain

their erection because they see that I'm the woman is getting turned on by performing oral sex or teasing her or kissing her neck. She's getting turned on. So therefore, you still are turned on. So it doesn't mean that your erection has to go away during foreplay. Yeah. But you just are connected I think with women. Like I don't think that you you get turned on by that. Like doesn't it turn you on if a woman is turned on and you're going down in her and she's getting all hot bother doesn't that make you turned on?

Makes me. No, aren't you don't she doesn't that maintain your erection because she's so hot that she's turned on? Uh, it maintains my erection because she's hot but I'm not getting hot that she's turned on. It may take us right direction because she's hot, but I'm not getting hot because she's turned on. Like that doesn't make me excited. That's a bummer. Because a lot of men do.

Because my winner is ready to go and you're doing nothing to it. I'm spending all my time like. We could be good. I could pleasure you. But I could pleasure you for a while. You pleasure me for a while goes back and forth. Okay, the net won't go back to you. Just take a couple shots at the key line everybody ready to go.

It does not all go back to alcohol. It's not true. Yeah, right. You give a you give a girl a shot at the key. The downstairs. She's ready to go. She doesn't need much floor for play. That's not true. She is just slavering all of your alcohol and Taco love that alcohol and Taco Bell is your answer to everything. And I just don't think that's true. You ever know those really sloppy drunk kissers, they're just like all over your face. And it's just like slaver on the side of your cheek. I hate that.

What do you do? You still sleep with that person? If he slappers all over me, would I sleep with them? I don't know. I don't know I don't know me Do you get out your wipies? Do you tell them? You're a little dribbly down my

You just want to see with them, you just kick them out don't let the door hit you in the ass that kind of thing That's hot I got to treat them hose Emily Shut up, man Okay, the next thing we're talking about premature ejaculation your favorite topic That's hot. That's hot. I got to treat them, Hose. Emily. Shut up, menace. Okay, the next thing, we're talking about premature ejaculation, your favorite topic. Okay, know what gets you off. What are you telling me, my favorite topic?

I don't have a problem with that. Everyone's favorite topic. I'm pretty ejaculating. I'm sure you don't. I'm sure you don't. I go through methods and meditation. Right. And yoga should make sure that doesn't happen.

Next thing we're going to want to tell. I don't do yoga, that's for wackos. But here's what's really important about premature jackedition. Know what gets you off. So guys should know what position turns them on and then take notice of it. So it wasn't their position where you orgasm quicker. Yes. Right.

So if you're a premature jackedater, don't go in that position yet. Like if you know that doing her from behind is gonna make you orgasm right away, then save that position for later. Like, don't, this is my piece kind of obvious, but don't go there just because it feels really good. Try letting her get on top because a lot of times when she's on top,

that was a lay. Just go forever. Right? Can't you go forever when she's on top? So think about these things. Like, and then you can do the position when you want to organize them. So just mix up the positions.

The other thing is, is you know one of my favorites. The next thing you can do to prevent premature adeculation is one of my favorite topics. It is working it out. It is the most important sex or size that you are not doing. And this is your Kagle exercises. Okay.

They are not just for women, they're for men. I have an app called Kegel Camp. You can get in the iTunes Store, it's for iPhones. And I'm telling you that it has changed people's lives because it helps men maintain longer and stronger orgasms. It strengthens your PC muscles, which are those peace-stopping muscles.

So you know when you stop and start the flow of urine. So you do that. And the more you build up PC muscles, which are those peace-stopping muscles. So you know when you stop and start the flow of urine. So you do that, and the more you build up these muscles, the more stamina you have during intercourse. So they're actual muscles. But if you do these exercises, say five times a day for 30 seconds at a time, stop, start, stop. You hold, you release, you contract, you release, you contract those muscles.

You actually, the studies of doctors recommend this. Like if you went to your doctor and you're like, I'm a one minute man, he would tell you to do your K-gal exercises. So you can also check out my app. It'll remind you to do it like 10 times a day. And take a few minutes a day and it'll help you last longer.

And you never do the best settling point ever. Okay, do it. You guide them through it. I guide you through your K-gels. With your voice. Exactly. Can you do an example formagels. With your voice. Exactly. Can you do an example? Yes, I say, okay, we're going to get ready now.

And we're going to do our kagel exercises. And then, here we go. Tents. Relax. Tents. Relax. How much is it? How much is that?

It's like a dollar. I mean, I downloaded it, but a dollar, a dollar, a dollar, a dollar. See, you can get all that for a dollar, a dollar, a dollar. All that. And people are like crazy about it. Like, it's top selling app in the iTunes store. So, who knows, you know, you make an app, you create a piece of art, you don't know people like it because it really actually, and women. And so for women, it helps women have longer, stronger orgasms too. Because we cleanse those muscles. And when women have exercised their PC muscles,

you've been with, we've talked about this, the women who clench your penis when you're inside of them. Have you felt a woman do that? She's got like the kung fu grip on your penis for the vaginal muscle. It's frightening. There's a movie out there. There's a movie out there.

But it feels good, right? Yeah, there's a movie out there where for some reason this chick has teeth down there. Oh, right. It's called teeth. Yeah, the this chick has teeth down there. Oh right. It's called teeth. Yeah, the movie's called teeth. He talked about this. What kind of movie is this?

I don't know, but it bites men's wieners off. It's terrible. Okay, well, I'm not talking about that, but I'm talking about the cat. But yeah, yeah, but it's like, yeah, super grip on it. Yeah, I think you should do your kegels too. Okay, this is one that is not, that sounds really painful and really hard, not painful, but it sounds challenging because it is challenging. But this is the method that helps men, I'd say, one of the top methods, and it's the

start, stop method. And it can help teach yourself a jack literary control and helps you last longer. So basically what you do is, while you're masturbating alone, so this is without the woman. No, okay. Or your partner, if you're with a man, whatever it is, you start masturbating and you get to the point, you start to recognize the point where you're about to have an orgasm and you stop. So you get very, very in touch with what that feeling is. Like right now, you

probably have the feeling and then you go over and you have the orgasm. But if you stop and start, stop and start, then you start to learn to control those muscles so you don't actually have the orgasm when you're having sex. So it sounds like torture, but by using this method,

you will find your point of no return the moment for orgasm, and you're teaching your body and mind to be comfortable with a heightened sense of arousal. So it's not easy. Like you might go over the few might have the orgasm the first time, but if you practice this, and this is another really good book for people if you want to learn more about this is the multi orgasmic man. I can't really remember whatever you can get on Amazon or wherever, but it's the multi orgasmic man and it helps men with

premature ejaculation And by the way a lot of men don't think they last long enough and they do so I'm just saying that not all of you Have this issue, but if you'd like to last longer, this might be something that you want to do And what's up with the chicks that do you want to go forever? I think what do you mean? They just want to you know, they want to go to Pound Town all day all day every day Seven days a week 24 hours a day when you say long time how long do you mean like Hours yeah, that's exhausting. Yeah, it's pretty exhausting. There's a lot of women. You're out of shape Like there's a lot of women that want to do that. I don't know some do and some don't The ones that don't

Thank you. I love you the ones I can you're up for you is the ideal amount. Oh, this is a good poll question. We've got polls on our site. We'd love you to go to our website right now and take our current poll. But this is a great one. We straight this down about how long would you like sex to last? A, 10 minutes, B, 20 minutes, C, 30 minutes,

B, D, 40 minutes. How long would you look sex to laugh? Last. Actual penetration. The actual penetration, not just the four, well, no. Actual penetration, four play. I know you want to laugh. I'd say between 20 and 30 minutes.

Okay. What do you think? I agree. I have minimum, yeah. And minimum, yeah. But I'm saying on average, we're all busy. We've got things to do, whatever, 20, 30 minutes. But I'd like to Yeah, and minimum. Yeah, but I'm saying on average. We're all busy. We've got things to do Whatever 20 30 minutes, but I'd like to know what people think so we're gonna do that as a poll

so Don't remember this and then after sex. I want it. I just want to grow to buy me something like what He's running a buy something talk about what I want to see how it feels to be able to give it up and then be able to receive something afterwards. What do you mean? Because women do that all the time. Because the guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, they want a man to buy or something because they slept together?

No. Well, I mean, men do that. Maybe I want like, take out, like, order me a pizza. I'm starving. Is that what you mean? Maybe I want a coach purse. Oh, right. A Gucci purse.

I love that. God damn it. Okay, so these are some tips for women, if they're dealing with this, because if you get into an argument about the premature ejaculation, it'll put you fast on the split up track. Like you will break up with your partner

because what happens is, you can deal with this with your man without letting him know that you even think it's a problem. Because I know that I was with a guy once, many years ago, who, how was a premature ejaculator? And we actually talked about it, and he knew that he was, and he was like, he literally was the minute man, if not the 52 second man, like it was quick.

And he did buy this book, The Multi-Orgetic Man, but he wouldn't do the exercise like he bought it. You know, he did, like when you're like starting the new year and you're like, I'm gonna try all these things and you buy books and whatever, he didn't't do the exercise like he bought it. You know, he does, like, when you're like starting the new year and you're like, I'm gonna try these things and you buy books and whatever. He didn't actually do the exercises and he never made it a priority.

But you have to make it a priority. So you could, for women, you could make it a game. Tell your guy, for example, that you might want him to experience the ecstatic pleasures of male multiple orgasms and that you will be bringing him to the edge. But he needs to tell you he needs about the climax. So you can do that whole stop start thing with him by bringing him close

to the point of ejaculatory inevitability, but not past it. He'll experience one or two pleasurable orgasmic contractions. So you can actually feel orgasm, like you don't mean it feels to feel as good when you're about to orgasm, but what if we can help you get there? So you'll be you take them to the edge and then you bring them back and you take them to the edge So you're about to orgasm and then I get like let's say I'm riding you and I'm gonna tap you Mm-hmm. It's that gross. Yeah. Just kidding. You'd love that right? So I'm gonna tap you and then you stop and start and then I stop it So you're about to go and then you stop. Is that annoying or does that could that feel good?

Oh, no, it's not too annoying. I, I can deal with it. It's all right. I mean, if you want to keep it going. Yeah. So women can be a part of the solution. Don't just say it's your problem. Mirror, minute, man, two minute, man, whatever it is. Yeah, that would just destroy the guy. It does destroy a guy. It really does. And honestly, most guys listen, you're probably doing fine. You are. And if it happens once, I think another thing that happens is a lot of guys, it happens once or twice.

And then a lot of times it becomes psychological. They're like, oh no, I'm going to go. I'm going to come. I'm going to go. I'm going to go. And I think you just have to get out of your mind. And a lot of this comes back to breath. And you focus on breathing. And you focus like the sensations that you're feeling but not

on the worry and the stress in your mind because that is going to make you have the orgasm. Yeah, just think about like grandma's like nasty grandma's and then they'll be able to like keep it in. That's what you do. You think about nasty grandmother's? Just the worst heinous missing teeth grandma's you can think of and then you want to ejaculate. I don't know if that works for everyone.

I think guys who have the ex-serious pumps premature ejaculation, I think that the whole grandmother think about baseball thing doesn't necessarily work. Yeah, it kind of doesn't. It doesn't. Okay, well, we got to wrap it. Thanks everyone for listening to Sex with Emily. You can find me on Facebook and Twitter, Sex with Emily. You can find Menace White Menace everywhere.

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