Sex With Emily - The Ultimate Pleasure Guide

Starting point is 00:00:00 Remember this when picking out toys? It's important to see something that makes you feel good. You want to like the color, you want to like the way it looks, you want to like what it does, like there's a little bit more to it. You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. I know, I can't believe it either. The holidays are upon us. And that means it's time to give gifts to all the people that we love in our life. And every year for many many years we have done the Sex with Emily gift guide, which I love. And my team does a lot of work on this because we really want to find the top gifts, the top pleasure essentials that you can give to everyone on your list. Listen, I get it though, buying gifts can be challenging and overwhelming. In fact, I would say it's one of my biggest pain points in life. I really want to get people the perfect gift.

Starting point is 00:00:55 I try to take notes on my phone throughout the year if I think of something and then often I'm like, that person, I don't have anything for them. It stresses me out. But what I have found that whenever I have given the gift of pleasure, a vibrator, a lube, you know, just depending on whoever the person is in our life, everybody is very happy to receive something.

Starting point is 00:01:14 We also have stuff on the list this year that isn't necessarily sex related, but could be great for couples, even your parents, even your grandparents. We don't discriminate here. Please rate and review Sex with Emily wherever you listen to the show. It just helps get the show out to more people and it only takes a few seconds. You can do it right now. You can also find me on Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, X, Facebook, all at Sex with Emily. Before we dive into the episode, if you haven't heard the news, I

Starting point is 00:01:40 have to tell you about my brand new membership community, Smart SX. It is officially live and I've had a blast the last few weeks. Cause this membership is everything I've ever dreamed of and more. We're talking exclusive content, interactive workshops with top minds in sexual health, there's polls and so much more,

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Starting point is 00:02:21 Just head over to SexWithEmily.com, click on the membership tab, or head straight to SexWithEmily.com, click on the membership tab or head straight to SexWithEmily.com slash Smart S X. Alright everyone, enjoy this episode. Did you know that as men age, the quality and volume of their ejaculate can decline? And recent studies show that sperm quality has been steadily declining for decades. And then over the past 50 years, human sperm counts appear to have fallen by more than 50% around the globe.

Starting point is 00:02:52 This is where Popstar comes in. Popstar has two different amazing supplements. So first, there's Popstar Volume and Taste. This one supports sperm health, promotes semen volume, and enhances the taste of semen. Now we've all heard that age-old rumor you gotta eat pineapple to taste better. Well, this supplement actually uses the bromelain

Starting point is 00:03:10 from pineapple along with zinc and L-arginine to improve your overall taste in just two to three weeks. Not to mention your semen volume will increase, you know, if you're into that kind of thing. And then there's pop star fertility for men, so if you're trying to make a baby, well, this just makes your sperm healthier all around. It's more agile.

Starting point is 00:03:28 I mean, these are the sperms that are actually gonna reach the egg to fertilize. They're not like stopping at the grocery store, taking a pit stop. It's gonna be healthier, quality sperm, and more likely to work. Popstar was created by the country's top urologist and these physician developed supplements are made

Starting point is 00:03:44 from non-GMO organic ingredients so you got the highest quality for your sexual wellness. Ready to give it a shot? Their annual load-up holiday sale starts today and you can get three bottles for only $99. This is valid through December 15th. In addition to this, starting on November 25th if you use code EMILY, you'll get a free lube with your purchase. Your choice of silicone or water-based, that's code EMILY at P-O-P-S-T-A-R-L-A-B-S.com slash Emily. That's popstarlabs.com slash Emily. And use code EMILY for a free lube. Today, I wanna talk to you about a part of the body

Starting point is 00:04:19 that influences everything, the G-spot. Well, not that G-spot, your gut. Yep, your gut health can impact everything from your mood, sleep, energy levels, and even your sex life. So I've tried tons of probiotics over the years. Refrigerated ones, drinks, you name it. But then I discovered Just Thrive. Here's the game changer. It is the only probiotic that survives stomach acid and reaches your gut 100% alive. And let me tell you, I have felt the difference.

Starting point is 00:04:47 No more bloating, more energy levels after meals, and my sleep? So much better. I get it, trying out a million different probiotics can be exhausting. I have been there. But the great thing about Just Thrive is they offer you a 100% money back guarantee if you're not satisfied, because they're so confident you're going to love it and you're going gonna love the results. And for a limited time, you can save 20% off site wide

Starting point is 00:05:08 at JustThriveHealth.com with promo code SexWithEmily. That's JustThriveHealth.com and use promo code SexWithEmily. We go to the gym to work different muscle groups. I mean, you've got leg day and arm day, butt day, but what about penis day? Okay, I know that sounds silly, but it is an important muscle in your body.

Starting point is 00:05:27 So why would you not have a routine for overall upkeep and improvement? So if you want heart erections that last longer, you gotta check out Bathmate. It is the world's best-selling penis pump. Bathmate uses the power of water through a hydraulic vacuum acting as a secondary pump to your heart. So basically, you are drawing blood safely into the penis. Listen, most 18 year old men get erections around three

Starting point is 00:05:49 to five times per night lasting up to an hour. This actually is nothing to do with sex. This is the body regulating and maintaining tissue health. Well, after 18 the frequency of these nocturnal erections can decrease leading to a decline in your penis's health and that's's where Bathmate comes in to do the work. So the pump is powered by water, so you can use it in the bath or shower as part of your maintenance routine three to five times per week, and it helps flush toxins and maintain tissue health. Bathmate is so confident that after two weeks of regular usage, you would be thrilled with

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Starting point is 00:07:14 or something that I read about. I think it's called Giftology because I just want to understand the science of giving gifts. I'm in that home mode right now. But again, I've never given anyone something from this list that they were not happy about. Just saying. And I think we can all agree that we all want more pleasure this season. Don't you? I know I do.

Starting point is 00:07:36 So I'm gonna make the challenge of shopping one step easier for you with my highly anticipated annual holiday gift guide. And here's a fact I wanna share with you. Research from the American Psychological Association or the APA found that givers experience more happiness from giving gifts than receivers do from receiving them. Unless your love language is gifts, because then you probably receive a lot of love that way. And I think there's a lot to be said for like nailing it

Starting point is 00:08:01 and finding someone the perfect gift. That does feel good. And I think that is relatable. I do love someone the perfect gift. That does feel good. And I think that is relatable. I do love finding the perfect gift and it does give me joy. And I'm just someone who's like, I love a gift. It's a nice gesture, but it doesn't necessarily raise my joy or happiness level.

Starting point is 00:08:15 I think I always just, I feel grateful, but I don't need anything. I need connection. I need pleasure, friendship, but you want to give someone something that they definitely are going to use for sure. I think that's part of the thing I obsess about. I'm like, are they going to use this?

Starting point is 00:08:30 What if they already have one? What if they don't like the color? What if they can't return it? And so I just lean into pleasure, lots of pleasure. This is a list of my favorite pleasure products that range from lifestyle, health, tech, and it wouldn't be my gift guide without sexual pleasure, right? So this guide is accessible to everyone regardless of your budget.

Starting point is 00:08:49 There is a wide range of products that are perfect for you and your loved ones. And get this, according to the National Retail Federation, the average American consumer plans to spend $875 on gifts. That's a lot of money. How much you spend does not equate to pleasure. You can buy a little bullet vibe and someone's going to be very happy for years to come.

Starting point is 00:09:10 Today I'm discussing some of my favorite pleasure-filled gifts for each person in your life. But before I get into the gift guide, these are some questions that led me into my gift guide this year. This is from Cindy in Indiana. She said, hey Emily, long time listener, I'm super ashamed to admit this,

Starting point is 00:09:24 but I hate giving my husband oral. I know I'm an awful partner, but he just does not taste great. I've had oral with past partners. It's been manageable. My husband's taste is different. What should I do? I totally understand that it's really hard to give our partners feedback around these kinds of things, especially around taste or hygiene. We just sometimes don't say anything. We just think, okay, you know what? I would rather, I don't think this is conscious, but we think I'd rather just suffer through it than embarrass my partner and make them feel bad. But I'm telling you, there are ways to have these conversations with our partners so they don't feel bad about it. And it's more like, I think you should know

Starting point is 00:10:03 that there is a taste you didn't always taste this way but now I'm noticing there's a change because I'm gonna guess that this hasn't been going on forever Cindy. Usually it's a change in our diet foods we're eating are not eating we're not exercising we're not sweating enough could be medications we're taking there's a lot that goes into it and what I like to recommend here, along with the conversation you could have with them, is the Popstar Volume and Taste Supplement. This is a great option.

Starting point is 00:10:30 You probably heard Dr. Josh Gonzalez on the show. He was talking about this product. It uses bromelain, which is the chemical found in pineapples to improve your taste. But not only that, but also the volume. As we age or certain foods we eat, there's a lot of things that can go into it, but I don't have a penis. But I've heard that when you have a penis, it's thrilling when you have a large load. I'll just say it. It like you love when you see it

Starting point is 00:10:54 chewed across the room. Like that's important to you. As you get older, that might change. It might just be like, like a little bit fizzles out and that doesn't feel as good. So Popstar can do both of those. And from now until December 15th, you can get a three pack of Popstar volume and taste supplement for only $99. You can use code EMILY for 20% off. That's a great gift. You can buy it for yourself too.

Starting point is 00:11:18 Remember, nothing wrong with giving a gift of pleasure to yourself. Here's another question. This is from Brianna from New York. She said, hey Emily, I've listened to podcasts for the past three years, and I've used my first ever sex toy because of you. And now I'm trying to get my girlfriends

Starting point is 00:11:31 into the sex toy game as well, but I don't know how to get them into it. Oh yeah, you know, I still know those people too. In fact, I just came back from a retreat and there were women there who had been with their partners for a long time. And they're like, no, we just, we don't need it. I have a lot of pleasure, I don't need it,

Starting point is 00:11:46 but I don't think like you need a vibrator, no one needs a vibrator, you're gonna live, you've lived this long without one, but probably sharing your experience, Brianna, with them and letting them know why you like the toy and how it feels good to you, what it does for you, how you use it with a partner and why that's so fun. I mean, again, I've said this a lot,

Starting point is 00:12:02 but your partners will also enjoy this sex toy, it'll feel great on their bodies. Here's a great toy. I mean, again, I've said this a lot, but your partners will also enjoy this sex toy. It'll feel great on their bodies. Here's a great toy that I love. I've talked about Jeju for almost 20 years. I love all Jeju products. Those were the first toys that had that smooth silicone that feels so good. And they have this deep, rumbly motors

Starting point is 00:12:19 that they use in other toys. But the ILY, I Love You Pebble, it's perfect for on the go pleasure. It's discreet, it's fun, it's quiet, fits in your bag. And if you just want to explore more of your own pleasure or your partners, it's amazing. What I love, this is a great one for clitoral stimulation, which is why it's great. Use it during penetrative intercourse or just on your own. So if you want the ILY Pebble, you can get up to 25% offsellers and an additional 20% off, holy shit, with code EMILY20. And if

Starting point is 00:12:50 you're just starting out with toys I often recommend getting something like a little pebble vibe because sometimes it can be overwhelming to get one of the more larger vibrators with all the bells and whistles because they just haven't started before. This is a great starter vibe. And if you don't feel comfortable picking out a vibrator for your friend, I got it. You can also get them a gift card. You can buy that at sexwithemily.com at our shop site because then they could peruse and find something that they love. Remember this when picking out toys? It's important to see something that makes you feel good. You want to like the color, you want to

Starting point is 00:13:22 like the way it looks, you want to like what it does. Like there's a little bit more to it than that, so gift cards also great, but everybody has always loved everything I've given them from Jeju. Just saying. Next question, this is from James in Montana. Hamily, I've been dating my girlfriend for three weeks now and I'm looking for something fun to introduce something naughty into our sex life. No sex toys yet. I think it's too early. Thank you." Well, if you just started dating three weeks ago, I mean, this isn't me because it was

Starting point is 00:13:50 me. I'd be like, here's all my vibes and my loops. Let's fucking go. But James, if you are looking to improve it early on, I recommend our guilty pleasures couples card game. I love these card games that ask you questions that you wouldn't think to ask somebody about their life, their sex life. It's really about a lot about their intimate life and just like their personal life. This is how you get to know somebody.

Starting point is 00:14:15 Sometimes we can't think of the things that we wanna know about each other, but I can tell you, I just got back from a teaching in a seminar and I had everybody actually practice asking for what they want. They took a moment they really practiced thinking about their fantasies and intimacy and they had these really powerful conversations and some of them were with their partners for 10-15 years and

Starting point is 00:14:36 they said it was like a next-level conversation that they never had had before about the specifics. So this could be a great way to get started. It's great for date night, you know pull a card, ask each other questions, and then you'll find out then you'll be able to know like are we sexually compatible? Where do we want to take this? What's next on our list? It's like really fun foreplay. I love a card game. So that is our guilty pleasures coupled card game. And if you want to check out the gift guide and you want to read it for yourself, you have to check it out at sexwithemily.com slash gift guide. We also linked it in the show notes.

Starting point is 00:15:08 We'll be right back after a quick message from our sponsors. So don't go away. If you've been listening to the podcast, you already know that I'm a huge fan of sex toys. And you know the story that one of my very first loves was the magic wand. And in fact, when I got my magic wand original, it had a cord attached to it. I loved it so much that I drilled a hole in my nightstand just so I could have the cord reach through it

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Starting point is 00:16:57 you can put something into the stocking, okay? So it doesn't mean more pleasure if it's bigger. Remember that too. These are some mini stocking stuffers. Okay, these are super fun. The Dame massage oil candle. I love a massage candle. The massage candle is looks like a regular candle, but it's not because it's made of a massage oil. You actually burn it, you light it, you let it burn for like 20 minutes and then it turns into the most like luxurious warm oil you can pour over a partner's body. It is so fun.

Starting point is 00:17:30 I also love VIA high love gummies and vape bundle. I don't think I've ever experienced a company that makes cannabis that everybody loves. I give these to everybody, the high love gummies, all my friends. If I go to party, I don't bring wine. I bring like a handful of high-love libido gummies. They come in these little packs too, but you can also get the bottle. And I took them to a party recently and everybody had them and they were like, this was the best end of our life.

Starting point is 00:17:57 So anyway, this is a very fun gift. You get their gummies and you get the vape bundle. If you're 21 and over, head to Viahump.com to shop for their huge holiday sale. For a limited time, Via is offering up to 25% off site-wide plus up to 50% off select items and bundle. And if you're hearing this, add post-sale, you can still save by using code EMILY for 15% off.

Starting point is 00:18:16 That's V-I-I-A-H-E-M-P.com, ViaHemp.com. Take your passion and pleasure to a whole new level with high love from ViaHemp. All, Morgasm CBD infused lube and Morgasm O lube. These are just perfect for increasing sensitivity and pleasure. They have CBD in them and so if you're someone with pain, someone who's not orgasming as easily as you want to, you want more blood flow, Morgasm is the gift for you, your partner, for everyone. More lube is the best. I think there should be a lube on every night stand and you can never have too much lube, in my opinion. And I have to tell you that lube is a game changer for any sexual

Starting point is 00:18:59 situation. The more we use lube, the more pleasure we have. We might not always be as wet as we want. Our wetness level changes different times a month and so if you just have lube, the more pleasure we have. We might not always be as wet as we want. Our wetness level changes different times a month. And so if you just have lube right there, you add it each and every time, you will have more pleasure. So, and orgasm, it says it in the name. Need I say more? So those are three of my mini stocking stuffers,

Starting point is 00:19:20 but for the rest of them, you can check out sexwithemily.com slash gift guide. Next up, wellness. You know how I feel about our wellness. It's so important to take care of ourselves, but our wellness is our sexual wellness. Like the more we take care of ourselves overall, it's gonna impact our sexual wellness and vice versa.

Starting point is 00:19:39 We can't separate them, we can't silo that. So I am super, super passionate about you taking care of yourself and your sexual health. So here's some wellness products that we put in the gift guide I think you're gonna enjoy. So we have the Women S Merry and Bright Holiday Gift. I love Women S, they were actually the first women's like sexual health perimenopause menopause brand

Starting point is 00:19:59 in Target a few years ago. They are one of the leaders in the space. They have their cult favorite, Let's Neck, and it helps to instantly tighten and smooth. It has this like roller on it that you roll on your neck. They have their best seller eye opener to help instantly brighten, smooth, and de-puff. I love this one too.

Starting point is 00:20:19 I love that it has this little roller on it. It's like a little metal roller. So you feel like it's actually like doing more than just rubbing cream on you. You can even like store it in your refrigerator. And then they have these brand new reusable eye patches to help boost vibrance and deeply hydrate. I know this isn't gonna sound very sexy,

Starting point is 00:20:39 but this changed my life this year, and so I want to give this to friends so they feel good in their bodies too. I love Just Thrive. They make this probiotic that literally did change my life this year. I've not been great at taking supplements all the time but this one it helps your gut if you feel bloated. It makes you more regular. So this is a duo they have. You can get both for the holidays. Just Thrive Total Body Boost.

Starting point is 00:21:05 They have their probiotic that reaches your gut alive, which is major. And then it also has vitamin K2-7, and expert advise you need this K2 for total body health. And just so you know, 97% of people in the Western world are K2 deficient. It's nearly impossible to get through a diet alone unless you eat like a lot of organ meats or multiple bowls of the Japanese dish

Starting point is 00:21:28 natto. That's why they created it and so you can get this bundle together. Show someone that you care about their wellness or get it for yourself. Bath made penis pumps. I'm telling you there is such a curiosity about penis pumps. I've had so many guy friends come over after I've told them about it they're like can I get a penis pump? Cause I had a few here to give to them, but they're a great choice. They enhance pleasure.

Starting point is 00:21:49 They can increase size. They can help you with erection strength. I mean, it actually is a medical device that doctors recommend all the time. It can boost your confidence. And from 11.25 to 12.4, they're having up to 35% off all pumps. So there's no code, but use our link in the show notes. After December 4th, use code EMILY for 10% off all pumps. So there's no code, but use our link in the show notes.

Starting point is 00:22:05 After December 4th, use code EMILY for 10% off your order. And from 1123 to 123, use code SWE for 25% off site-wide. And for the rest of the recommendations of the wellness products, just go to sexwithemily.com slash gift guide. Finally, sex toys. I know you're waiting for this. It wouldn't be my gift guide without some sex toys and these are some perfect ones for the holidays of

Starting point is 00:22:27 season. Jeju makes the Hera Flex Rabbit Vibe. This is one of the best dual stim vibrators, meaning you can stimulate internally and externally. It is just an adorable little rabbit vibe. It bends, it's flexible, you can make it so it actually works for your body, which is really cool by now with 30% off using code Emily30 at sexwithemily.com slash Hera that's sexwithemily.com slash H-E-R-A with code Emily30. Then we have the womanizer wave showerhead Masturbator. I know a lot of you had your first orgasms with the showerhead. I've heard from you

Starting point is 00:23:01 Well, this one is actually made for that you put it in your shower you screw it in and you have a built-in masturbator as long as you're showering you might have an incredible orgasm as well and then there's the Laylo Enigma double sonic so this is a spectacular new vibrator from Laylo they're always innovating at Laylo this one can get to your a spot so the a spot is located slightly behind the G spot and it uses this unique sonic tip. This has like sonic waves of pleasure. It has suction, it has insertion,

Starting point is 00:23:34 it has external stimulation. It can be hard to find the A spot with fingers alone and you can't really guide the penis towards there. So this toy is for the explorer in your life. Somebody who realizes that it's so important to expand your sexual pleasure and try new ways to feel good. This is your toy. Up to 25% off bestsellers and an additional 20% off with code EMILY20. And for the rest of my recommendations of sex toys

Starting point is 00:23:59 go to SexEmily.com slash guide. Of course I've added all the codes and discounts in the gift guide because I got you. I want you all to have an incredible holiday season. Give the gift of pleasure to yourself or someone you love. So that is my Sex with Emily holiday gift guide for 2024. You will find something in here that's gonna give you joy, pleasure, and a lot of fun this holiday season and years to come.

Starting point is 00:24:22 These literally are the gifts that keep on giving. Happy holidays. That's it for today's episode. Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily and be sure to like, subscribe, and give us a review wherever you listen to the podcast and share this with a friend or a partner. You can find me on Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, Twitter, or X and Facebook. It's all at Sex With Emily. Oh, and

Starting point is 00:24:50 I've been told I give really good email. So sign up on SexWithEmily.com and while you're there, check out my free guides and articles for more ways to prioritize your pleasure. And if you'd like to ask me about your sex life, dating or relationships relationships, call my hotline 559-TALK-SEX. That's 559-825-5739 or just go to SexWithEmily.com slash Ask Emily. Was it good for you? Email me, feedback at SexWithEmily.com.

Sex With Emily - The Ultimate Pleasure Guide

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