Smosh Reads Reddit Stories - Did They Go Too Far? | Reading Reddit Stories

Episode Date: May 6, 2023

0:00-0:33 Intro 0:34-7:44 My Wife Has No Friends https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/12ecag0/they_have_7_kids_including_a_newborn_op_refuses/ 7:45-16:38 My SIL Needs To Grow Up https://www.r...eddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/12apyj2/aita_for_telling_my_sil_to_grow_and_stop_coping/ 16:39-24:14 Accidentally Ruined My GF's Career https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11vmxhc/aita_for_accidentally_ruining_my_girlfriends/ 24:15-31:29 Took A Raccoon To My Sister's Wedding https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/12m3dtn/aita_for_bringing_a_raccoon_to_my_sisters_wedding/ 31:30-39:31 Husband Posted Pics of Daughter's Bday https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/12br226/aita_for_blowing_up_at_my_husband_for_sharing/ 39:31-44:38 My GF's Coffee is TOO HOT https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/12fqoj6/aita_for_getting_annoyed_that_my_girlfriend_makes/ 44:39-54:52 My Friend's Partner Doesn't Like Me https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/12qyzfj/aita_for_assuming_my_friend_was_keeping_her/ 54:53- Am I Too Old For Easter https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/12mmcyw/i_cant_really_call_them_the_devil_but_the_is_the/ WEAR OUR JOKES: https://smosh.com WHO YOU HEAR Ian Hecox // https://www.instagram.com/ianhecox/ Shayne Topp // https://www.instagram.com/shaynetopp/ Arasha Lalani // https://www.instagram.com/arashalalani_/ WHO YOU DON’T HEAR (usually) Director: Kiana Parker Editor: Ed Vilderman Director Of Programming, Smosh Pit: Kiana Parker Pit - AP: Kimmy Jimenez EVP of Programming: Joel Rubin AD: Jacqi Jones Art Director: Cassie Vance Art - Asst Dir.: Erin Kuschner Art Coord.: Alex Aguilar Art PA: Adam Mustafa Audio Mixer: Greg Jones Camera Operator: Vida Robbins Camera Operator: Jon Wong Content Manager: Lizzy Jones Dir. Audience Dev & Distro: Rachel Evans DIT/AE: Matt Duran Dir. Of Photography: Brennan Iketani GFX: Brittany Hobbs Post Manager: Luke Baker Production Coord: Heidi Ha Production Asst: Marcus Munguia Production Manager: Jacqi Jones Sr. Dir. Of Production: Zoe Moacanin Talent Coord: Selina Garcia Wardrobe Supervisor: Alicia Balderas OTHER SMOSHES: Smosh: https://smo.sh/Sub2Smosh Smosh Games: https://smo.sh/Sub2SmoshGames El Smosh (Spanish Dub): https://smo.sh/Sub2ElSmosh FOLLOW US: TikTok: https://smo.sh/TikTok Snapchat: http://smo.sh/OnSnapchat Instagram: https://instagram.com/smosh Facebook: https://facebook.com/smosh Twitter: https://twitter.com/smosh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:00:58 Yes, that's true. That's true. And I brought my dad. Hello. Me and my, I'm taking, bring your son to work day. Arasha, do you use Reddit a lot? I'm not a regular Redditor. Sure, yeah. But I definitely have heard some very wacky things on here, so I'm prepared. Well, let's get started then.
Starting point is 00:01:19 Am I the asshole for telling my wife why she doesn't have friends? Oh. First, my wife is an amazing to thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi. I'm thi. I'm thi. I'm thi. I'm thi th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I've th. I'm the. I'm to to to theea. I'm to toea. I'm toea. I'm toea. I'm toea. I'm thea. I'm the. I'm the. I've the. I'm telling my wife why she doesn't have friends. Oh. First, my wife is an amazing mom to our kids. However, she makes her entire life about them. To the point I ended up telling her that's why she doesn't have any real friends. It's like every day of the week she's running to kids' events or something of the sort. Basically, being a mom is her whole personality, which, in my opinion, comes off as extremely off-putting to others. I, on the other hand, make time for friends and to socialize. One weekend a month, I go with my buddies on a camping slash fishing trip. I fit in game night one night each week for a few hours. We rotate whose house, which to which bar we go to with a board game. And one night per week, I also go to networking
Starting point is 00:02:00 events, which not only helps me build connections in my professional life, but also gives me adult socialization time. For me, this time is super important as it allows me to be my own independent person and more than just a parent when I'm not at work. My wife does none of that. She always uses the kids as an excuse. They have tutoring, theater, music lessons, sports, martial arts, etc. She has herself so busy trying rying to be a supermom that she's driving away potential friendships by making herself constantly unavailable. I've offered to get a sitter if she'd like a few hours
Starting point is 00:02:31 to go out now and then, but she insists if I do, she just used that time to catch up on chores around the house and try to get a nap. I finally told her that she is that she is that she is the number the number that she is the number that she is the number that she is the number the number that she is the number that she is the number the number is the number is that she is the number one reason why she has no friends and I do. Wow. So maybe he could reword this as, why isn't my wife as much of a neglectful parent as me? Yeah. Literally. Oh my God.
Starting point is 00:02:54 So some context, I guess that this was in the comments, they have seven kids. What? What? Okay, so when I said neglectful parent, I said that as a joke, but now... For a second, I thought maybe they had like, uh, like kids who were like 13 and 15. Yeah, or something like, yeah, you don't have to be. But like, no, these are little kids in a newborn. Holy shit. He has, can you imagine having a newborn and having time to go to two different events every single week? A fishing th. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. they. the. they. the. th. the. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi. th. th. thi. th. th. th. thi. th. thi. th. th. th. th. th. having time to go to two different events every single week? A fishing trip? Like, no.
Starting point is 00:03:27 Also, networking? What the? What the? This guy is such an asshole. Oh my god. It sounds like, I don't know. They just really don't want to be around their children. This sounds like, thrown.
Starting point is 00:03:38 This sounds like, I'm like, know when I initially read this, I'm like, oh, and I'm thinking like, maybe they have like two kids who are older. I was like, maybe she's also an introvert and just doesn't want to. But she's exhausted when she's like, oh, I need time to do chores or take a nap. It's like, this guy doesn't do anything. one kid is a full-time job. I can't imagine the logistics that are required to
Starting point is 00:04:08 keep seven children alive and functioning and yeah I think it's good to like be able to like step away like I think there's a nice balance and it doesn't seem like they have that balance. And I think he already pointed out the flaw too like even if she did have free time, she's like, I'm not going to go out and make friends because I need to sleep. Yeah, I'm exhausted. That's what I'm going to do if I have any free time. I have no time.
Starting point is 00:04:34 There's a comment that refers there is a lot of work she's working multiple jobs essentially. Yeah. And he's oblivious to that fact. Well in a way he's also kind of addressing it by being like martial arts, tennis, dance class, whatever. Like are they magically going to get themselves there? Like somebody's got to. That's what strange. She seems to be aware but also unaware, like he's really, really dumb. He has probably gotten so used to like, things just being done. Yep. Like, dishes are done. The bedsheets are made, everything.
Starting point is 00:05:10 And he's just, he just thinks it probably just happens magically. Yeah, and he doesn't realize, no, she's doing everything. Do you know you have to feed kids three times a day at least? And you know what, though, he he he he he he he he he's th th tho he's tho he's tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho. He's tho. He's tho tho that is making tho th make friends because being the mother of our seven children isn't enough. It's really sad. I hope she's probably just too exhausted to like to have the emotional toll of like telling him she needs his help and that he's a fuckhead. And for probably like most of their marriage she's been pregnant also! I know man. So, oh my gosh.
Starting point is 00:05:46 So the O P left a comment. There's only so much I can take hearing about the kids without ending the conversation. I can't imagine how boring any else would find it. Every day it's 15 did A, 13 did B, 10 did D, 8 did D, 6 did E, 3 did E, and baby did G. It's like, yeah, because they're actually doing that shit, and that's her job is to handle it. Six is asking, where's dad? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:06:12 Her role in the family is essentially like, CEO of humans, you know? Like, she has to manage. Seven is like the max that I would ever do. Wait, seriously? You would get it up to seven? I don't know. I feel like I've always said that. And that's only if my partner was like, I need seven kids. If they were like, I need eight, I'd be like, look, I'd give you seven. Wow. That's I would that that that's that's that's that's that's th. that's that's that's th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. that. that that that that that that that that that. that that that. that. that se that se that se. that se that. that. that. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. tha. tha. Seven, tha. Seven, thi. Seven, thi. Seven, thi. Seven, that's that's that's like, that's like, that's like, that that's like, that thee. Seven. Seven. Seven, that that th And that's as much that I could do. I would not know.
Starting point is 00:06:45 No way. Well, hopefully, my partner isn't this asshole. Yeah. Well, yeah, no, nobody should. Well, just don't marry a dugger. Yes, dad. Seven kids. And I don't know if any of them are going to talk to him once they've even met him. Someone else said, Am I the asshole for rubbing my social life in my wife's face?
Starting point is 00:07:06 He legit does not understand what the problem is. She's been married to this clown for 17 years. I wouldn't even have one of his kids, let alone seven. Makes me glad I have no uterus. What a gaping asshole. Well, I mean, he is a clown because her vagina is clearly a clown tear. Sorry, I had to say it. I've heard this discussed that there are certain numbers of children that are easier than others, right?
Starting point is 00:07:32 Once you have, it's a certain amount of kids, the older kids start having to take care of the younger kids. So I guarantee you, the 15 and 13 year old have more responsibilities in this house than the dad. Yeah, but that also leads to like to like tha tha tha thiiiiii thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi their thi their their their thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi tho tho thi thi, thi thi thi, tho- tho- tho- tho- tho- tho- tho- thi, th. I th. I th. I thi, th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi the the the the an the an thean thean thean thean thean the an thean the an the an the an the an the anthan the dad. Yeah. But that also leads to like issues later on. Oh, they fucking hate him. I suspect he's coming from a certain culture that expects the women to take care of all that stuff and the men to do this. Yeah. To do the work and then that's it.
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Starting point is 00:08:46 Now because of TikTok, she has a five-step skin care routine. God only knows how much money she threw away on snake oil products. She spends hours following makeup routine she's seen on there. She now wakes up at 5 a.m. to do a workout plan from an account she follows. She is constantly cooking recipes from Tick Tock, going to restaurants she found on there. Everything is from Tick-Tock. I don't think she has ever had an original thought in her life. She is 35 for God's sakes. It's an app for teenagers. Now with Easter coming up, she is asking to bring some butterboard she saw on Tick-Tock. It honestly sounded ridiculous. I finally decided to say something to her. I explained her how it's to to th. th. th. th. th. th. th. to th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi, thi, thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. th. th. th. th. the the the their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, she. She. She. She. She. She. She. She. She. She. She. She's. She's, she's, she's, thi. I's thi. I's thr. I's thr-I. I's thr-I. I's thr-I. I's th. thr-I. I's thi. I's thi. I's thi. I's thi. I's th her how it's embarrassing, how she is still trying to act like a teenager. No amount of skin care and 5 AM workouts will stop her from aging. She is 35.
Starting point is 00:09:29 She is going to have wrinkles. We all went through it. Now it's her turn. She is just wasting money and it's time to grow up and accept how old she is thirty-five. She is no longer a teenager and that her life is flying by. She is married with no children. She is 35. I fear she is going to wake up in a few years and regret not having children and wasting so much of her time worrying about what she looks like. I don't know how old she is.
Starting point is 00:09:53 She told me to forget it and she won't even come to Easter. She told me, just because incredibly rude and unnecessary. Sorry, I have two kids to take care of. I don't have time to worry about wrinkles or if my outfit is perfect. She then hung up. Now my in-laws are pissed and they have decided to do Easter at their house since sister-in-law now feels too uncomfortable coming to our house. And of course she will be making her ridiculous butterboard. My husband agrees that she needs to grow up but thinks I should have kept my mouth shut and should apologize so we can have a nice Easter.
Starting point is 00:10:29 But I'm looking out for her. She is no longer a teenager and it's time to accept that. Oh, she is acting like 35 is the oldest of ages in this. Yeah, it's time you are now an old hermit. Yeah. And you must go live. the old. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi. thi. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. to to to. to to to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. the. the. the. th. th go live in the woods. You're going to get wrinkles. And you need kids. How old is the O.P.? 42. I get it like you have other priorities. Sometimes the priorities are not on yourself. But it sounds like OP let themselves go. And they're a little bit bitter that this person's taking care of themselves in the way that they want to take care of the so. I'm jealous. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. gotten older it's like oh I'm getting older I need to have a skin care routine yeah I need to work out yeah I need to stretch I need to use it or lose it. She's actually acting her age. She is me yeah I think my skin care routine is probably five steps.
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Starting point is 00:11:52 she's getting angry at her for trying new things and like evolving and changing as a person, where it seems like her take is like, no, you should decide who you are at 30 and never change. This feels very much like projection. That middle paragraph is psychotic. The one where she keeps saying she's 35. Like she is 35, she's 35. It feels like there's a lot of inner turmoil.
Starting point is 00:12:22 It sounds, look, this is my, this is something I can assess from this small little story. It almost sounds like she resents having kids. Like it almost sounds like she's upset at her life and she's trying to be like, you're, can't be happy. I don't want you to be happy. And then she kind of talks shit about having, like, she points out she's like, thii. She's like, and I, and she's th. She's th. She's th. She's th. She's th. She's, th. She's, th. She's, th. She's, thi. She's, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, like, like, like, thi, like, like, thinks, thi, thinks, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, thi's, thi's, thi's, thi's, thi's, thi's, thi's, thi's, thi's, thi's almost, thi's almost like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, I don't have time to do any. She's married with no kids, right? She thinks that out. You're married and you have no kids. It's like, okay, like, what is this? She's trying to like justify like, you're, no, you actually failed because you don't have kids, like me.
Starting point is 00:12:53 And I don't have time to do all it. She's like insecure and she's looking for like validation that when she was 35, she was having kids. So she was like, you have to be doing that. You can't be doing all the cool hip things that all the kids are doing because I didn't get to do that. So if she could, I'm sure she would take the option to go back and cook all of these recipes, get up early and work out, but clearly she didn't go to restaurants. Like, yeah, all of that sounds like really cool stuff that she's taking off of TikTok,
Starting point is 00:13:28 despite it definitely having its bad influences, she's taking it from like an educational standpoint and actually really bettering her life. Something I've noticed as I've gotten older is that so much of like aging is, like, it's people like, it was like in my th and like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, th............... that, th..................................... that, that, that, like, like, like, like, it's people's concept of what they need to be at that age. And a lot of people like, it was, it was at, like in my mid to late 20s when I was like, I was really having this existential thing of like, well, I'm getting older and like, fuck, everything's gonna be different.
Starting point is 00:13:54 It's like, oh, no, nothing really changes. Like, you're still allowed to do that shit. You can't experiment and try new recipes and stuff and have go on new adventures. You're in your 35. You're gonna stop. It's like, you'll have to do whatever you want. I do want to say that that timeline thing is so interesting to think about because it's just something that is ultimately created. Sure, there's like a window in which you can actually have children. I guess that that that makes a the their. their. their. their. their. their. to have a their. their. to have a to have a their. th. th. th. thi. to have a to have a th. to have a th. to have, th. to have, to have, thi. thi. th. to be, you're, you're, you're, you're, you're, you're, you're, you're, you're, you're, you're, you're, you're, th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thirty, you're, you're, you're, you're, you're thirty, you're thirty, thirty, thirty, thirty, thirty, thirty, thirty, thirty, thirty thirty thirty-a. 35. 35. 35. 35. 35. 35. 35. 35. 35. 35 guess that that makes sense, but who made up the like right age to get married? Who made up the right age to have children and all of that? You know what I actually think is the cringiest thing out of all of this? And it's something I used to do that I don't do anymore,
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Starting point is 00:15:13 that's scary maybe, or you just don't get it, and then you're angry because you don't get it. Yeah. And also, TikTok is, yes, a majority of teenagers are using it because, you know, it's any social platform that's the most popular, teenagers are going to be mostly there. There are tons of old people doing awesome shit on TikTok and they're my favorites, man. Yeah, yeah. At the basis of it with a lot of things, you could say this, like, just let people do what
Starting point is 00:15:40 they want. Like seriously, why does it make you uncomfortable to watch somebody else thrive? It comes from a place of insecurity. Yeah. So it's just not helpful to anybody around. It's not a vibe. Insecurity isn't a vibe. Are you throwns by social media? I mean we are, all of us are, whether we realize it or not. Yeah. But like are you blatantly influenced? Like if you get told directly to do something by social media, do you go and do it? You know what, honestly, I would say so. I'm not, I wouldn't say easily influenced, but I'm influenced. Like restaurants, for sure, I have had such
Starting point is 00:16:17 great experiences. Like people being like, oh, like go check out this pasta place in LA. And then I'll go there and I'll be like, I am so glad that I discovered this place through TikTok. Literally the purpose of social media. You're just sharing the greatness. Exactly. Yeah. I did, on Instagram, I got served like an ad for this shirt, this t-shirt, and I was like, that t-shirt about it. And I was, I, I, I, I, and I, I, and I, and I, and I, and I, and I, and I, and I, and I, and I, and I, and I, and I, and I'm, and I'm, and I'm, and I'm, and I'm, and I'm, and I'm, and I'm, th. th. th. th. thi. thi. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th.. th.... th. th.. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. toeeeea. toea. toea. toea. t. toe. t. t. t. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. t-shirt and I was like that t-shirt's really sick and I bought it and I was like really stoked about it and then I went to this YouTube event and Ted Nifison walks up to me and he goes oh I see you're influenced by Instagram and I
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Starting point is 00:17:27 Oh, let's go. Okay, buddy. Hi, everyone. I'm in a tough spot right now and I'm not sure if I'm the asshole or not. My girlfriend, 27, let's call her Sarah and I, 26, have been together for three years. tho' thii, th. to to to to to to to to to to th. to thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the, tho, th. the, the, that that, let's th. th. th. th. th. th. Let's to to to to to to to th, let's th, let's to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the, to the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the thooooo thoo tho teacher and has worked really hard to build up her career. However, a few weeks ago, I accidentally stumbled upon some photos of Sarah on Instagram that I had never seen before. There are pictures of her theat. There are pictures of her clothing, and some of them were even nude.
Starting point is 00:17:54 I was shocked and confronted her about it. And she told me that she used to affect her career, and she thought I knew about it already. I didn't know how to react at first, but eventually I told a few of my friends about it. One of my friends is a gossip and ended up telling someone who works at the school where Sarah teaches. Long story short, the photos somehow got into the I should have kept my mouth shut and that I betrayed her trust. I feel terrible about what happened but I didn't know that it would lead to this. Am I the asshole for accidentally ruining my girlfriend's career? There's an
Starting point is 00:18:35 update. Hello this has been a stressful day but I do want to provide an update. Firstly Sarah and I are still together. I have taken full responsibility for my actions and I'm doing everything I can to help her financially until she finds a new job. She would be on her own if she decided to dump me so the best I can do is to help her for now. Secondly, we are still considering moving to another state since I work remotely. It's been a difficult decision but we both feel that a fresh start and a new environment could be beneficial for us. Lastly, I wanted to clarify that the photos I stumbled upon were not on Sarah's main Instagram account, but rather an alt account that she had. While this doesn't excuse my actions, I wanted to provide some context to the situation. Never thought the post would blow up, but here
Starting point is 00:19:14 we are. So I wouldn't say it was his fault. Yeah. And I think that's I think that's really cool that he's willing to move move to move to move to move to move to move to move to move to move to move to move to move to move to move to move to move to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the the the the the to the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. their. S. S. S. S. S. S. to. S. to. S. to. to. to. to. to. to. to move states with her to, you know, start over. I think that's pretty neat. Yeah. I think he stepped the fric up and that friend sucks for telling somebody involved in the school. There's a quote in here that is that I think stands out. She would be on her own if she decided to dump me. Does feel a little weird. Yeah, I was also going to point out that line. Like it feels like he's almost like, you need to stay with me because you have nothing. Well, yeah, she just got fired and like,
Starting point is 00:19:54 she has no job and she's kind of screwed. Like, this one is not as blatantly obvious as the first situations, which are just like, you should know that you're being an asshole. With this one it feels more of like obviously it seems clear like his intention was not to have her lose her job but maybe his reaction led to him making decisions that he wouldn't have otherwise done if he was in a more rational mindset. Like sharing with your friends if you're having a problem with your relationship, like, you know, that's fine, I think,
Starting point is 00:20:28 you know, getting some advice, but with material that is so sensitive, if it gets out, you know, that kind of stuff, I'm sure, had to be discussed between the two of them, and breaching that trust had to be. Okay, so that that is that is that is that is that is that is that is that is that is that is that is that is that is that is true. that is true. So like if she has if she works a job where having something out out there like that Is dangerous Then yeah, he shouldn't have told anybody it should have been agreed upon that like this is something that has to stay under wraps because this is my job. Yeah, blah blah blah and you know, I don't know if they had that discussion. I think there's some information being left out. Yes, what I tell the thrown. I th. I th. I th. I don. I don. I don. I don't th. I don't th. I don't th. I don't th. I don't th. I don't th. I don't th. I don't th. I don't th. I don't th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. tho. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the tho the the the the th left out. And what I really think is being left out is like, How did he find them?
Starting point is 00:21:05 I told a few of my friends about it. And I'm like, he told the bros. A few of my friends and he already knew that one of its friends is a gossip. And ended up telling someone who works at her school. I'm like, you knewthink inconsiderate of her. My take on this is that he's more of an asshole than this is appearing, and that he's leaving out information. Totally, because it's the whole manipulative part of it is that he is the one telling this story.
Starting point is 00:21:35 So it's approaching it from his truth. Yeah, his point of view. And the tricky thing too with intention is, of course, that's that's that's that's that's that's that's something to consider when you know considering if the relationship should stay together but ultimately the impact is what we're looking at here and she lost her job and that's a huge huge thing so it's got to be hard for her to forgive him I'm sure I do think it's really my personal take is I think that rule is really unfair. Like, you know, she was doing a legal job before this and like the fact that, I don't know,
Starting point is 00:22:14 it just feels unfair. Maybe, maybe too, like if she came out with it beforehand, like maybe the school wouldn't have been like as touchy about it. Maybe because they heard it from this outside source that they were like, oh well, if this person found it, the kids could find it. Like anybody might be able to get these photos and then it became more of a sensitive thing. I think this kind of thing happens a lot. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:22:39 Yeah. I think it does happen a lot. Especially in the teaching, in the teaching realm, like, you know, somebody's like secret, like only fans will come out. Because like, teachers aren't getting paid shit. Only fans pays pretty well. Yeah. So like, I mean, I don't have any issue with that. And it's like, if they weren't saying like, hi, I'm Miss Windy, a blah, blah, and here's my titties. Like, or am I dong, whatever, then I think it's fine.
Starting point is 00:23:05 Like it's the parents that are the fucking weirdos that are going and finding these photos. It sucks because it, and you know, this is a change that will take, I don't know if it could ever happen like, I don't know if it could ever happen like centuries, but it lends into shaming any, and this is such light, but shaming any form of sex work and being like, yeah, no, you can't work any respectable job. Like, you know, you're because you're, you're like that.
Starting point is 00:23:30 It's like something she did years ago. Also, that was just modeling. I know, it's like, it's like, it's not even sex work. It's like, it's societally something that I hope changes eventually. But like I said, that stuff doesn't change overnight. Yeah. Walking it back to the original thing, I'm also just a little suss on how this guy came across these photos
Starting point is 00:23:54 because he's like, I stumbled across her secret. And I'm like, did you though? I think he's a weirdo personally. Yeah, comment, accidental is a stretchee can't be so clueless to know you opened up the can of worms that led to this. We have a teacher's contract from 1923. They have to agree not to get married, not to keep company with men, to be at home between the hours of 8 p.m. and 6 a.m. and less at school functions, not to loiter in downtown ice cream stores, not to leave town at any time without the permission of the chairman of the board of trustees, not to smoke cigarettes,
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Starting point is 00:25:16 Let me explain, I have a pet raccoon named Pebble. He is very friendly and well trained, and I love him like a son. He goes everywhere with me and he has his own harness and leash. He is also vaccinated and has all the necessary papers. I was invited to my sister's wedding which was held at a fancy hotel. I asked her if I could bring Pebble and she said no. She said it was inappropriate and disrespectful to bring a wild animal to such an important event. She also said that some of the guests might be allergic or scared of him. I was hurt by her response, but I didn't want to argue with her. I decided to respect her wishes and leave Pebble at home with a friend. However, on the day of the wedding, my friend called me and said that he had an emergency
Starting point is 00:25:53 and couldn't take care of Pebble. I panicked. I didn't have anyone else who my sister's wedding, so I decided to bring Pebble with me. I thought it wouldn't be a big deal. I put him in his harness and leash and put a bow tie on him to make him look more formal. I also brought some treats and toys to keep him entertained. I figured I could just sneak him in and keep him in a corner where he wouldn't bother anyone. Boy was I wrong. Boy was I wrong. the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the to. the to. I. I. I. I. I. th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm t. I'm t. I'm t. I'm t. I'm t. I'm. I'm. tie. I'm tie. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I...................................... t.. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. t. people started noticing Pebble. Some of them thought he was cute and wanted to pet him, but others were horrified and disgusted. They started whispering and pointing at me at Pebble. Some of them even complained to the staff. My sister saw me in Pebble and freaked out. She came over to me and yelled at me for bringing him.
Starting point is 00:26:37 She said I was selfish and irresponsible get out or she would call security. She also said that I was no longer her brother and that she never wanted to see me or Pebble again. I was shocked and hurt by her reaction. I felt like she was overreacting and being unreasonable. Pebble. Pebble didn't do anything wrong. He was just sitting quietly in his harness, looking adorable. He didn't bite anyone or make a mess or cause any trouble. I decided to leave with Pebble, but not before me telling my sister that she was being a bridezilla
Starting point is 00:27:08 and that she owed me an apology. I also told her that Pebble was more family to me than she ever was. Now my whole family is mad at me. They say I was rude and disrespectful to me. thi to their sister and told me. their. I. I. I. I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I tho, I thrown, I thrown, I thrown, I thrown, I thrown, I thrown, I thr-a, thr-s, tho, thr-s, thr-s, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, thr-s, thr-s, thr-s, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, thr-s thr-s, thr-s thr-s, thr-s, thr-s, thr-s, thr-s, thr-s, thr-s, toda, toda, toda, toda, toda, toda, toda, toda, to my sister and beg for her forgiveness, but I don't think I did anything wrong. I think my sister was being unfair and cruel to me in Pebble. I think she should apologize to me for treating me like dirt. So am I the asshole? Yeah. I mean, he put Pebble in a bowtie. Yeah, so like, I don't know, he's in a bowtie. He's. He's before I say anything, if I was at anywhere and I saw a raccoon and a bowtie,
Starting point is 00:27:48 that'd make my day. That would make my day. Oh yeah. I'd be so happy. I would be, I would be stoked to see a raccoon at a wedding. I would be stoked, but he was told no and he did it. That makes you, I'm sorry, it makes it yes, at a wedding too. At a wedding. If it was any other kind of event, it would be a little more like, all right.
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Starting point is 00:30:09 Yeah. You know, I don't know what the deal is with raccoons if you can't leave them alone or not, like, I don't have a raccoon. Yeah, yeah, yeah I yeah I mean I'm I'm sure many people did and in another video I talked about opossum and everyone was like opossum are so cute and I'm scared. Opossoms look freaky but they're cute. I'm I'm horrified I'm very scared. Look most almost any animal I'm done with as I've said chimpanzees. Ch chimpanze. Ch chimpanze. Ch chimpanze. Ch chimpanze. Ch chimpanze. I'm to. I'm the ch ch ch ch ch-a. I'm s. I'm s. I'm s. I'm s. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. I'm. I'm. I'm so. I'm so. I'm so. I'm so. I'm so. I'm so. I'm so. I'm so. I'm so. I'm the. I'm the. I'm the. I'm the. I'm the. I'm the. I'm. I'm the. I'm. I'm the. I'm. the. I'm. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. th. I'm. I'm. the. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm the. I'm the. I'm the. I'm scared. Look, most, almost any animal I'm down with, as I've said, chimpanzees. If someone brought a chimpanzee to a wedding, I'm leaving that wedding, even if it's my
Starting point is 00:30:48 own. What if it's a flower champ? I don't care. I don't trust any chimpanzee. Gorillas, fine. Huh? Gorrh-aulahs are totally fine. I'll respect you. I just, I didn't grow up with like any pets, so I just have a hard time trusting animals. I didn't grow up, you know, with pet chimpanzees in my house.
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Starting point is 00:31:30 O.P is an asshole, but he made me think of a raccoon wearing a bowtie, so I can not really be angry at him. I get why the sister legend in this show. Like some characters you come across are legends. I think Pebble is a legend. You know what I kind of imagine Pebble as? It's a little bit like baby Yoda, like Grogu. Sure, sure.
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Starting point is 00:32:32 If he had a top hat, the sister wouldn't have been mad. I bet. Right. She wouldn't have seen him. Probably just thought it was like a little boy I the asshole for blowing up at my husband for sharing picks of our daughter's birthday celebration, resulting in my family finding out about it? Ever since my brother passed away at the age of 17 on his birthday, my family decided to never celebrate birthdays ever again. Oh, what the fuck? It was mom and dad's decision, but because of how much the family loved my brother, the extended family decided to do the same and stand in agreement with this decision.
Starting point is 00:33:08 My husband would refuse to follow this decision and kept celebrating his birthday. Me and the family didn't say a thing about it since he's not blood family. But when I first got pregnant, the argument about celebrating our daughter's birthdays my family to just not celebrate her birthday since she's a baby and won't even remember anyway. I agreed, but my husband threw a fit and insisted that we celebrate our daughter's first birthday. I caved in eventually but told him we'd have a small secret celebration so that my family would not find out. He agreed. The next day, I got a call for my mom and she was so upset saying that my word meant and that I have no respect for my brother's memory nor the family family thamamamamamamamamamamamamamamamamamamamam, I tham, I tham, I tham, I thia, I thia, I to thus, thus, thus, to to thus, thus, thus, thus, thus, thus, thus, thus, thus, told, and I told, and I told me told me told me, and I told, and I told, and I told, and I th. I th. I th. I th. I th, and I th, and I th, and I th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the told me told me told me told me told told told told told the told theeeeeeeee, thr-a, and that I have no respect for my brother's memory, nor the family. I asked what she meant, and she told me she saw the birthday party picks my husband posted on social media.
Starting point is 00:33:50 I was too shocked to even argue. I hung up and went straight to my husband to confront him about it. He got defensive and said that he didn't need my permission to post picks, and that he wanted to show his family the birthday celebration picks since I insisted we have a small secret party and exclude them. I explained to him how this made me look bad and a liar to my family, but he said they can get over it and called my mom snobby. I blew up at him and we had a huge fight about it. He started sulking later and said I ruined the memory of our daughter's first birthday for him and verbally abused him with how I lashed out, but I solely did it out of frustration knowing that what
Starting point is 00:34:28 happened caused a massive problem between me and my family. Now is expecting an apology from me. Am I the asshole? Is this how generational trauma happens? Yeah. It sounds like it. He died so nobody, nobody gets birthdays anymore forever. What the fuck? Yeah, that's intense. And I understand like, you know, if someone passes away on a birthday or Christmas, I understand that like puts a shroud over that.
Starting point is 00:34:58 But I think to declare a rule that not only for yourselves but anyone who comes into the family and next generations. Yeah, you know, you know, that's, you know, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, the, the f- the f- the f- the f- the f- the f- the f- the f- the f- the f- the f- the f- the f- the f- the f. Yeah, the f. Yeah, the f. Yeah, the f. Yeah, the f. Yeah, the f. That's, the f. That's, the f. That's, the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the f-f-f-f-fa. the-fa. the-fa. that's-fa. that's-fa. that's, that's, the f-I's, the f-tha. the f-he-hea, that's, that not only for yourselves but anyone who comes into the family and next generation. Yeah, that's, you know, that's, I think that is too far personally. And I understand if the parents are like, hey, I'm very sorry, we can't go to birthday parties. Like, we're not going to go to birthday parties, it's just too hard for us. We can't celebrate with you because it's too much. That is different. They're mad that they had a celebration on their own, in their own house, on their own time. That's
Starting point is 00:35:30 controlling behavior and I think the wife's, the way she's talking about this makes it sound like she's, they have, she has very controlling parents and she's afraid of her parents and it's like she's clearly okay with having a birthday party. That's the issue to me me me me me me me me me me me me. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. to to, to th. to, th. to, to, th. to, to, to, to, to, to be, to be, thi, thi, thi, to, thi, thi, to, thi, to, thi, to, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. I, th. I, th. I, th. I, th. I, th. I, th. I, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, the. I, they, toe. I's, toe. I's, toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. they. they. having a birthday party. That's the issue to me is her grief is not being like, she's not going, I can't because my brother passed away on his birthday and it's too hard for me. That's not so much she's saying to her, but she's going, my parents can't find out. Right. No, she wants to have this celebration.
Starting point is 00:35:59 Yeah, that's so sad. It is really sad. They've they they they's, this trauma that's just kind of carried on and now this, instead of like the memories of the brother that passed. It's honestly like really fucked up. They've made the grieving process more difficult and prolonged. And it's not even like honoring the person that was lost either. No. It's like, it's not even like on the day that that that that that person was that that that person was that that that person was that that th was that was lost either. Like, no. It's like, it's not even like on the day that that person was, that was lost.
Starting point is 00:36:27 It's almost like they feel like birthdays is the reason that they lost them. So they're like, there's probably something there. Birthdays will never be around anymore. People grieve differently. I don't have much experience with grief. I've been very fortunate that way that that know of and and from what I've seen from other people, I know that grief is completely different for every person. So to be like, you have to grieve like how I'm grieving.
Starting point is 00:36:53 Is he just fucking lame? The verdict was was asshole. She added in the comments, to be frankly honest, I don't entirely agree with my parents on this decision. But seeing many family members willing to support and follow this decision, I figured it had caused issues if I don't do the same. Also, I did agree that we have a celebration. This wasn't the issue. The issue was with my husband's posting picks. My two siblings did get grief counseling. They were young when it happened, but me, my parents, an extended family didn't. We used to attend church at the time and spent time with the community there.
Starting point is 00:37:27 Yeah, no, you need to get counseling. You definitely need to therapy. You definitely need to actually go through some actual psychological help with that, because it is debilitating. And of course, you're going to find some sort of outlet to help support yourself, which in this case is banishing birthdays. Yeah, and they'd have to let up on this eventually because someday their daughter is going to be five or six, and they're going to be like, no, you can't celebrate because of someone you never met, passed away.
Starting point is 00:37:58 And she's going to have no real feelings to that. That's not an experience of her life. She's gonna grow up being like, oh, I'm not allowed to have birthdays because of- That's death day. Like, yeah, it's like, what's that? What are you doing? Like, don't do that. The point of a birthday is to celebrate. Like, it's to celebrate life. And specifically too, with the husband, like I feel like I want to, sure, the baby won't remember it. But I think it's more than just celebrating the baby reaching one year.
Starting point is 00:38:26 It's also just like, hey, we did it for a whole year. We've been parents for a full year. We're celebrating, bringing our baby into this world. So it clearly means a lot to the husband as well, which is why he was like, I want to post about my gratitude and show the world how happy I am to have to have to have to have to have to have to have to have to have to have to have to have to have to have to have to have to have to have to have the to have to have the the the world how happy I am to have this baby. Because to him it's not about sadness and loss and it might be for somebody else but they're trying to just toss over their grief onto everybody's birthday to somehow make it better for that. There's comments here. You're the asshole so hard. So any kids you have are never allowed birthdays because your brother died, your family all needs counseling. You're the asshole and your family. This is out of control.
Starting point is 00:39:08 That is an insane thing to agree to concerning people who weren't even born at the time. Your children and husband did not consent to this. It honestly sounds like your family might need some therapy all around. It is sad someone died, but the living should not have to pay a price for it every the the the the the to be a to be a to be a to be a to be a to be a price for it every to be a to be a to be a to be a to be a to be a to be a to be a toe for it every year. Birthdays are about celebrating the life of the person born that day, not about the death of a person born a different day.
Starting point is 00:39:28 I bet your brother would be appalled that this was his legacy, telling everyone that their life isn't as important as his. You do look bad, and you are a liar. You should have stood up and said, we are celebrating the life of my daughter to your family. Go apologize to your husband." It's so hard to name this family an asshole because of what they are going through and I'm sure that again to them it makes sense and that's why she's originally on this page being like am I wrong? So I think hopefully she's using other people's
Starting point is 00:40:03 words in some way to make sense of it and actually reach the conclusion of the pain that they are causing other people. I just agree with that. I think where people typically in these stories become assholes is when they try to control or compel other people. You know, you're allowed to handle things and do things however you want. When you start dictating other people, you're almost thiiiiiiiii. thi. thi. thi. to to to to to the thi. to thi. to thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. toe,things and do things however you want. Totally. When you start dictating other people, you're almost always the asshole. Yeah, yeah. Just let people do their thing.
Starting point is 00:40:31 Yeah, let people be comfortable. And it sounds like this person's afraid to like go against their parents. Yeah. Well, they don't know any better, you know. It's what you're taught. And they've only only tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho that that that that thathea thathea thathea thathea thathea. thate. thate. that that that that that that that tho tho tho that that. that. that. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. tha. th. th. th. th. th. th. tha. th. tha. tha. tha. tha. tha. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. tha. tha. to toa. toa. toa. toa. toa. toa. toa. toa. toa. toa. toa. tha. tha. tha. tha. tha. taught and they've only had these people as examples for them. All right, moving on. Am I the asshole for getting annoyed that my girlfriend makes such hot coffee? And we're back, ladies and gentlemen, let's go. Let's go.
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Starting point is 00:41:31 Okay, you're so fucking cool. Yeah, so I woke up like this. Okay, am I the asshole for getting annoyed that my girlfriend makes such hot coffee? I, 32 year old man, am a software dev currently working remotely, while my girlfriend works as a sales rep and doesn't have the option so she goes to work. She doesn't have that option remotely. I usually wake up at 7.30, while my girlfriend wakes up at 5. the tryla.
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Starting point is 00:42:28 I pointed out that it's a little annoying that she doesn't care about me enough to be a little flexible about her routine. And I told her that she doesn't need to get her exercise in so rigidly, that she could maybe make my coffee and breakfast earlier so that it could cool down a bit. But when I said that, she got really pissed at me and said I was super controlling. I am honestly failing to see where I went wrong, because I only got a little annoyed, and I was very polite and level-headed throughout the entire conversation, because I just feel like bouts of anger are unproductive to the discussion at hand. At the same time, though, she ended up telling her best friend who told me I was a huge jerk for expecting my girlfriend to change her morning routine to accommodate me, but it's merely
Starting point is 00:43:09 a small ask that shows she cares about me. I literally disassociated. It's so funny that hearing all of these, I think this one somehow makes me the most flabbergasted. Oh, well, we've had these types before. It's shocking, how extremely common it is for men to be like, she needs to cook dinner sooner for me, she needs to make coffee sooner. Like this is just such an inherent thing that they, the idea of making their own coffee isn't in the realm of possibility. Yeah, that's that's it. That's it like how does somebody type those words out and actually that that that that that that th is th is th is thi the thi thi the thi. thi thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi, thi, like thi, like thi, like thi, like thi, like that is thi, like their their their their their their thi, like thi, like thi, like thi, like thi, like thi, thi, thi, the the the the thi, the the th is th is th is th is th is th is th is th is th is thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, theeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee their their thi, thi, that's that's it like how does somebody type those words
Starting point is 00:43:45 out and actually think that that is okay? Like am I the asshole for asking my wife to do whatever I want? Like is what I hear that is so ridiculous. She is he did say girlfriend so there's a chance she could get away from this. There's no way she's married. There's no way she's marrying that child of a person. I don't know why she tolerates this in the first place. I don't understand, okay, okay. So I make my coffee at 205 degrees, right? I, you know, do the pour over and it goes in there, and then I pour like a little the to' the toy. I th th th th th in th in th in th and then th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, the th, the th, the tho, the the the the, tho, tho, thin, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, th, th, th, th, I'm th, I'm th, I th, I th, I th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, thin thin thin thin thin thin, thin, thin, tho, thoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo. th, th, th, th And then I keep the other bit warm. I have a little seal on it, have a little caraf, and put a little seal on it. And that coffee will go cold. So fast. Within like five minutes. So it's not possible for that coffee to not be like still hot. Yeah. If he just leaves it in a mug for like 10 minutes. Yeah, there's a comment.
Starting point is 00:44:44 He wants the coffee to cool for two hours before he'll leaves it in a mug for like 10 minutes. Yeah, there's a comment. He wants the coffee to cool for two hours before he'll drink it. This is the dumbest post I've read on this sub. He can't make his own coffee. He can't wait five minutes for the coffee to cool, and he took this nonsense to read it. Someone else to said, this is a man who has never heard of ice. Yeah, or like if it really... Or like putting it in the fridge. Seriously.
Starting point is 00:45:07 There are so many easier solutions than everything that he is proposing. I hate that he was like, oh, like, she's so rigid about her workout routine. Because I guarantee you in another post he's probably like, my girlfriend needs to change a workout routine because she's not hot. Like, it the exact same language that these men are using and I don't appreciate any of it. I can't tell you how common this shit is. I mean look in one of these Reddit's story videos, a guy brought a cutting board, his wife was sick and in bed.
Starting point is 00:45:37 He brought a cutting board to bed. Nice. No, she could cut vegetables and back. I hope she took that knife. And I hope she put him on the cutting board. No, she did it. She was like, uh-huh. Here we go. Next story.
Starting point is 00:45:53 Am I the asshole for assuming my friend was keeping her partner away because I didn't like him when actually he didn't like me. I, a 38-year-old woman have known Ali, who's 40, for 15 years. We first met at work when we were single and the youngest people there. We became good friends and socialized together and still do. Ali then met her partner, Matt, who she still is with years later. He does not share her interests.
Starting point is 00:46:18 He is an avid football supporter, UK, and very anti-the-rival football team. Even when he doesn't go to watch matches live, he watches at the pub with male friends. He plays sports with his friends, she's a football widow. A football widow is when he, during the football season he's so dedicated, it's like he's dead to her. He's gone. He's got to go with his mates. To the pub. It's dead serious over there. Like, we think NFL's crazy, bro.
Starting point is 00:46:47 She likes going to the theater and to dinner. He'll go to dinner with her, but doesn't much enjoy the theater unless it's a serious play. She likes musicals, and she ends up going with female friends. She says she doesn't mind they aren't joinedto the theater with her and that she doesn't want to go to football. I wonder. I am known for being brutally honest. When she introduced me to Matt she asked my opinion and I gave it. I didn't really see them together. I didn't like that he drinks and swears. He has a professional job but isn't very refined. Unlike her and I found him a bit difficult to connect to. That's the most British things. I. I. I. That's British that. That's British that. That's British that. That's British that. I. That's British that. I. I. That's British that's British that's British that's British that's British th. I is British that's British that's British that's British that's that's that's that's that's that's British that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that. I is. I is. I is. I is. I is. I is. I is. I is. I is. I is. I is that's th. I is th. I is th. I is th. I is th. I is th. I's British thing. I's British thing. I's British thing. I's British thing. I's th. I's the the the the the most British. I's the the Matt? He's not very refined.
Starting point is 00:47:26 At the time she was hurt, but got over it, and generally just engineered it, so I never really saw him. He was always busy when I organized a party, et cetera. They now have two young boys, and he looks after them when she comes out with her friends. To be honest, more recently, my opinion of him has improved. He seems to be a really good daddy to those to the boys and they clearly adore him. They are also football mad. It took me longer to meet my S.O. Edward, but I now have and we have just got engaged. Ali and Matt both attended
Starting point is 00:47:55 our engagement party. Edward actually also likes football and ended up getting on really well. Later I asked Ali if she'd be up for doing something as couples as Edward and Matt got on well. She was non-committal. A few weeks later I tried to arrange something and she accepted for herself but Matt was busy. I explained I wanted to do something with the four of us when he was free. She kept stalling. I pushed it. Maybe I shouldn't have. And she said it wasn't a good idea because he and I didn't get on. I said it was th it was my opinion more recently and Edward liked him. She looked surprised and then awkwardly let me know it was because he didn't really like me me. She thought I knew. I didn't and I was upset. This was news. I asked her why. She was embarrassed but said he found me judgmental and too much. I don't even know what that means. A few other examples as well. I was hurt and told her I had assumed
Starting point is 00:48:45 she kept us apart because I didn't like him, not the reverse. She said that she said that we didn't get on, so what difference did it make? I'm beyond hurt and I did react badly and told her some more truths about him. I regret this now and tried to apologize, but she won't return to apologize to apologize to apologize to apologize to apologize to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to toa toa the the the the told told told told the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the thoananan.., thooooooananananananananananan., tooanananan., too.augn. tooanananan. the an the an the an the an this might be the first case in human history of Brits being open about their feelings. Yeah I really I really had to try to channel Shane Reading Lit like you know we didn't get on we didn't get on. We didn't get on yeah. Yeah I thought she was like so much. Yeah so gutted you know it's
Starting point is 00:49:17 still early days well she didn't understand she was like too much what? What does that mean? She's a bit much? Oh what what? It it? It's too? It's too? It's too? It's too? It's too? It's too too too too too too too too too? It's too too too too too too too too too too too too too too to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to they? Yeah? I's their? Yeah? I's their their their their their their their their their their their their their tho. their their their their to the. I to to to to the. I's to to much what? What does that mean? She's a bit much. I'm too much what? What am I too much? They weren't cracking on. They weren't cracking on at first. Interesting. So the verdict was asshole. You're the asshole.
Starting point is 00:49:36 Brutally honest is always code for excuse to be an ass. And now you're butt hurt that your very own behavior got flipped on you and you doubled down when told so? Maybe this is the time for some honest self-reflection. Someone else said, let me get this straight. You said a bunch of incredibly rude things to someone's new partner. Then one day decided you like them actually and didn't realize that everything you've ever done to them cause them to form an opinion of you. My girl, every person who is th that th that is th th that is th th thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, tho-a tho-a tho-a tho-a tho-a tho, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi thi, thi thi thi thi thi thi thiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii thi thi thi th every person who is not you in the world has a mind of their own and exists in the world outside of how they relate to your life.
Starting point is 00:50:09 They all have deep inner worlds just as complex as your own. Not everything is about you. Oh, and you're the assel. Yeah, yeah, she wanted to take back seas. Yeah. And you know what, she did what a lot of people do which ends up you know breaking friendships apart which is sharing her opinion where it was not asked. That's true. You know that is very true. This was a new partner and a lot of the times if you say something bad to a friend about their partner what are you
Starting point is 00:50:37 going to do with their wedding you know I mean like because then beginning that she asked yeah well I'm no very brutal when she introduced me to Matt she asked my opinion and I gave it oh okay okay okay it is our roles as like good longtime friends to give our opinions on on a new significant other that comes into the fold if you feel like you, you might not get on. Yeah, I mean, it sounds like maybe this person just is a more judgmental person in general, maybe comes from a different, comes from like a different kind of background,
Starting point is 00:51:17 as this guy does. Well, she never gave a good reason for a not, he's not refined. He's not refined, or like that they like different things, which is okay. He's just a lad. He's just a lad. He likes his mad lad. If anything, I always think it's a great sign of somebody is super passionate about something and clearly he felt that way about football. So I think it's okay and it's also, I think a little jarring that she only was ready to accept him.......... He, I, I, I, I, I, I, I's, I, I's, I, I's, I's, I's, I's, I's, I's, I's, I's, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi, th. th. th. the the the the the the the th, he's, he's, he's, he's, he's, he's, he's, he's, he's, he's the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th, he, he, he, he, he, he, he. He, th, th, th. He, th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi, thi, thi, the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. thethat she only was ready to accept him after her new partner Edward. I know, she's like, well, Edward likes you, so okay, I'll like you. So, okay, yeah, let's be couple friends. It does seem strange, it does seem all over the place.
Starting point is 00:51:53 Yeah, and hopefully her opinion should have changed a little, a little earlier, along the way before they ended up getting married, having two young boys. At some point I feel, I, the th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, well, thi, I thi, I thi, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, well, th. So, th. So, th. So, th. So, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, thooo, like, thoo. So, tho. So, tho, tho, th boys. Like, at some point, I feel like she would have been like, okay, clearly he's got to be a good guy if I trust my friend to make good judgment. Right. Yeah, I mean, I don't really see, like, from the information that we have, I don't see anyone being the asshole or not being the asshole.
Starting point is 00:52:16 This is just like people that she's the asshole and I do agree with this is that she was totally fine with I don't want to hang out with him because I don't really like him so I don't want him around but when she suddenly it was flipped and oh he doesn't want to hang out with me what the fuck how dare he? No that's not fair if she was like if she was like okay I'm cool with that that's fair totally cool that. Yeah. the th's th's th's th's th's th's th's th's th's th's th's th's th's th's th's th's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's the. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. the. the. the. the. I's the. I's th. I's th. I I I's th. I I's th. I I's th. I I I's th. I I's the the the the the the the th. I I I I's th. I's. Yeah. I I's. Yeah. I's. I's. I's. I's. I's. I'm. I'm th. I'm the. I'm the. I'm the. I don't the. I don't theeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. I don't the. I don't the. I don't get on like whatever like it's not a big deal it doesn't change anything yeah she's like now it's a personal insult to her and the friend was so clear about it yeah it's the friend's not like I'm she's not gonna stop being her friend she's just like I'm sorry he's not gonna be around like yeah whatever we have a comment here from OP I got a lot I got a lot more comments here than I expected I mean a lot to thr-I th I th I th I th I th I th I th I th th th th th th th th th the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the to to to to to to to to the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th th th th the the the the the the the the the the the the thou the thou the the the thou the the the thou the the to the to to the to the the to the the really a lot and I've been reflecting on them. So yes I was brutally honest initially when my friend asked me what I thought. I thought she wanted me to be honest. I now get she probably didn't. She probably didn't to say he was great but I suppose I think I I think well
Starting point is 00:53:15 don't ask me then anyways. I didn't constantly slag him when I saw her and on the odd occasions I did see him we were polite. If if I to to to to to the the to to the the to. I to. I the the to. I'm the the. I'm to. I'm to. I'm to. I'm to. I'm to. I'm to be. I'm to be. I'm to be to be to be toe. I'm toe. I'm toe. I'm toe. I'm toe. I'm toe. I'm the. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be th. I was th. I was th. I was th. I was the. I was the. I was the. I'm the. I'm the. I'm thean. I'm theeean. I'm throwneeeeeeeeeeee. I thought. I thought. I thought. I thought. I thought. I thought. I thought. I thought me my opinion I gave it. I'm now thinking I should have not done that. When she was honest with me I lashed out because well I wasn't expecting it. She's had years to tell me how he they felt and never did. Yes I reacted badly and really regret that now. So no I I don't think that was okay. I was caught unawares and have tried to apologize. Anyway, I posted this for some feedback and certainly got it. I will do what I can to make it right with them. Maybe I can, but who knows? Thanks for your involvement. Yeah, it's also tough.
Starting point is 00:53:52 She says lash out. I'm like, I'm curious what she said. Yeah. That's also makes you more of an ass or not. Well, if she was brutally to brutally to brutally to brutally to brutally to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to be to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. th second conversation. I agree with that comment. Of course, you should be honest. And again, if she did ask, like, what do you think of him, be honest? There's a way to go about it. To be like, honestly, I'm not so sure you guys mesh, rather than being like, he's not refined,
Starting point is 00:54:18 or whatever you have to say about him. There's also that teetering thing of people people, like, like, like, like, thae, thaer, thaer, thiiiiiiii and people, thiaer, thiaer, thioling, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, like, like, like, thi, thi, thi, thi, like, thi, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. that's that's that's that's that's that's thi. that, that, that, thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thetering thing of like people who are like, I'm bold. I'm just really honest. It's like, or are you an asshole? Are you a mean person? Yeah, whenever somebody says they're blunt, it's a little suss. It's tough. Is it important for you guys that your partners like past future to mesh with your friends? For me it is, just because one of the most important things that I believe in my life is when people that are important to me meet people that are important to me and then we can all be present in a space together, like that just brings me so much joy.
Starting point is 00:54:54 I don't know that I would necessarily be stressed out if my partner didn't get along with a particular friend because of course that happens and having that understanding is what will carry on for smooth interactions in the future. But I mean definitely it would be ideal if everybody I loved loved everybody I love. Totally. I don't, yeah, I don't need everybody to be like best friends, but I think it's definitely weird if like, you know, somebody doesn't get along with somebody. And it's like, what's wrong in this equation? Because I really like the things about this person. I like, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, I, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, I, definitely, I, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, it, it, definitely, it, it, definitely, it, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I th, definitely, definitely, I th, definitely, definitely, I th, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, th, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, th, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, definitely, th, definitely, definitely, I th, definitely, I th, I th, I, somebody. And it's like, what's wrong in this equation? Because I really like the things about this person,
Starting point is 00:55:30 and I really like the things about this person. What's going on here? If there's like issues, then I think that is a problem for me. Yeah. It'd be curious. And, you know, depending on the situation, it would make me either question the relationship or the friend. I'd be like, wait, hold on, like, what's going on? Yeah, yeah. Well, in this case, the friend, who has the partner and the friend, like, I think she's handling everything so smoothly, you know?
Starting point is 00:55:55 With the couple interactions, she was like, Matt's busy, but Matt could be there or anything. Like, she is handling it on her own, which I respect. Here is our last story. Am I the asshole for participating in my neighborhood's Easter egg hunt that was meant for children? Ha ha ha ha, hell yeah. Legend. I hope he dressed up like a little thinnigh for a tapet.
Starting point is 00:56:21 And my little boy, you mean little raccoon with a tie and a top hat? That too. I thought this was going to be a guy. I, 25 year old woman, have always loved Easter and my family would participate in egg hunts every year as I was growing up. I always love Easter candy which makes the hunts even more fun for me. I recently moved to a new city with my partner, a 25 year old man and we saw that our neighborhood as neighborhood th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi thi thi. thi. thi. I thi. I thi. I'm thi. thi. to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to th. I, th. I, th. I, the the. the the the. the the te. the thee. the thea. thea. thea. thea. thea. thea. I, thea. I that our neighborhood association was throwing an Easter egg extra egg stravaganza. We thought this would be a good opportunity to get more involved in the community, so we signed up to volunteer. I asked the president of the association if I could also sign up for the Easter egg hunt, due to my love for the holiday, and she said it would be fine.
Starting point is 00:56:57 Turns out nobody of the kids parents were staring at me by this point but I brushed it off. When the hunt began I didn't mean to go too crazy but after I filled my basket then looked back my path to their the tauas grass. Yes. Some of the kids definitely didn't get as much candy as me but everyone seemed happy to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. to. the their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, thea, their, theaugh, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, the kids definitely didn't get as much candy as me, but everyone seemed happy enough. As I made my way back to my partner, though, the parents were making comments that they knew I would overhear about how the egg hunt was for children. My partner suggested I give back some of the eggs, and so I returned some to the kids who were nearby, until enough parents seemed to be off my back. However, I didn't want to give every kid an egg because that would take too long and I would basically be out. Nobody else said anything before we left,
Starting point is 00:57:50 but in the week since I've seen some of the parents and they've been much colder to me. Am I the asshole? You know what? I would say? Should we all say it together? One, two, three? Legend? A little bit of a legend. Because this, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, I thi, I would thate, thate, that, that, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, tho, th. th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th. th. thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, tha, that, that, tha, tha, tha. tooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo. tha, tha, tha, two, three, legend. A little bit of a legend, because this person is a Danny McBride character. I feel like, I don't care about these freaking kids, I'm gonna get some ice. I love that she like cleaned the floor with them. Just wrecked him. Look, she asked if it was okay for her to do it, and they said yes, so then what's the big deal? I would never in a million years do this, but if I'm ever at any sort of event like this, like, if I was ever watching like a soccer game with my like, my like seven to nine-year-old
Starting point is 00:58:38 like nieces and nephews all like watch them playing soccer and stuff, I definitely have the thought of just like if I was out there. I would just like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like like to be like to be like to be like to be like to be like to be like to be like to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to be like to be like to be like to be like to be like to be like to be like to be like to be like to be like to be like to be like to be like to be like to be like to be like to be like to be like to be like to to be like to the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the to the to to to to to to the to to and stuff. I definitely have the thought of just like, if I was out there, I could kick them down. I would be scoring so many boys. Which is why I think the act of her asking if she could is a little irrelevant to me. Yeah. Because you could score on your nieces and nephews. You very much could. I would never do it, but it would be so fun to dunk on a bunch of five-year-olds.
Starting point is 00:59:06 That'd be so funny. To participate, there are tons of parents who do that, who participate. Totally. But you don't fricking the children. Absolutely no. Why not? They got to learn that you can't, you can't sweep the floor with the thoooo' the the the the floor...... the the the th.. th. th. thee. thee. thee. thee. thee. thee. thee. thee. thee. thee. thee. thee. thee. thee. th. th. the. the theat, th. th. Don't th. Don't, th. Don't, th. Don't, th. Don't, th. Don't, th. Don't, the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th. th. th.. thee. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. theat theat thea. to. thea. to. thea. to. to. to. to. to.. the. to. to. the. the. that she is with mom and care. Easter is bullshit anyway. It's a holiday stolen from the pagans. But Easter candy is the best holiday candy in existence.
Starting point is 00:59:32 I will go to bat for that, that Easter candy, next level. Cadbury cream eggs. I fucking love peeps. I know most people don't agree with that. This is what sucks. This is why she's an asshole, in my opinion. I love Easter candy. I can go to CVS and fucking buy some. Exactly.
Starting point is 00:59:48 These kids, under 10, can't easily buy that candy. You get an excuse to eat a ton of candy. Hold on. Because I will actually contend that she paid for that candy. Because she said it's her neighborhood association. That's a homeowner's association. She's is is is is is is is is is is is is is is is is is is is paying is is paying is paying is paying is paying is paying is paying is paying is paying is paying is. She's th. She's th. She's th. She's th. She's th. That's a homeowners association. She's paying out the fucking ass for nothing. Fuck homeowners associations. Eat that candy. She earned that candy. Those kids live in that neighborhood. Those kids did not pay for that candy.
Starting point is 01:00:17 She paid, she's paying $500 a month. It's at the least she can get some free Easter candy. No, no, Ian's an asshole too. That's... I love this, I love this story so much. This is like the funniest shit on the planet to me. I think what she should have done is maybe played a little bit less competitively. Yeah, very much so. H-O-A fees are BS. Yeah, I don't like homeowners associations, but don't literally steal candy from babies. Don't steal candy from children. And again, I think she approached everything correctly until then. Like she asked permission. She definitely had enough cues to be like, okay, I'm definitely the oldest person here.
Starting point is 01:01:00 She should have clocked that and moved forward accordingly. That is true. Like she did, like to be competitive about Easter Candy is kind of hilarious. It's really funny. And you know what? A total Reditor move. And then again, let's go back to when she was like,
Starting point is 01:01:15 I didn't want to give it to everybody, because then I'd be out. Yeah. I can't take the L. Yeah. I mean at the very least she taught those kids an important lesson, you know? Like, they just got to get good. Yeah, okay. Or that they got to stop 25-year-olds from entering into these things. But the point is you're supposed to fight your own weight class.
Starting point is 01:01:36 Like they can't compete against a 25-year-old. Like they need the world. Sorry, dude. That's the world, man. It's not fair. Sorry, dude. Some comments, damn, how big was the basket OOP was using? Dude, I brought my four-year-old to a local brewery's egg hunt, and once she got like 15 eggs, we stopped, so the other kids would be able to get some to. If my preschool child could limit her, the joy than a fully grown adult should know better. Go to an adult egg hunt or buy your own Easter candy. Wait a week and get all the candy you can handle for pennies. O.P. needs to grow up.
Starting point is 01:02:10 That's so true, man. If you wait until right after Easter, you could go and you can buy it all. Yeah. You can have an all man. But I honestly, I didn't even think abouted up that much, like even then we would be like, oh no, like you should share with everybody. Like that is still the fundamental thing that we want to pull out of this. I think it just comes back to the typical thing. The continuing theme with a lot of these is,
Starting point is 01:02:35 these people just lacking so much self-awareness. Yeah, I'm being like, wait. I got all the Easter candy and everyone else's children. Okay. Right, right. Yeah, so there's an edit that she wrote. She says, way more people responded to this than I expected. That's what they say every time. Whatever.
Starting point is 01:02:54 I now realize how bad I drop the ball on this one. Also, a lot of people are questioning my social awareness, and now I am too. Yeah, I've never been diagnosed with the personality disorder, but I have been diagnosed with ADHD. How can I repair my relationships with my neighbors? I really don't want to move, but now I'm feeling pretty embarrassed. That is tough, if she now realizes, I was the asshole, that sucks.
Starting point is 01:03:16 That's a tough one to come back from. Most people never admit that, you guys just don't get it. She's like, no, I guess. That's what makes it funny to me is that, like, she just truly was in the zone. She was in the zone, man. Look for other ways maybe to enjoy, like, be the Easter Bunny and hand out all of these if you love Easter. I would have so much more fun hiding the eggs. Dude, oh, they would have th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi. thi. thi. that. that's just just just just just just just that's just that that that thus. thus thus. thus. thus. thus. thathea just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi. thi. thi. the. the. true. true. truly, truly, truly, truly, truly, truly, truly. truly. truly. tru never find them. And then I would come back later and I would take them all. Ooh, yeah. See, that's how she, that's what she, she should have thought about that. There you should have had all the eggs. You should comment to your original post.
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Starting point is 01:04:30 and just destroy them. Just annihilate. We could sweep. Yeah. Well, thank you both for being here. This has been a lot of fun, a lot of really silly stuff. guys for watching. Comment down below any themes or subredits that we should check out because we want to cover more than just Am I the Assul if possible. We'll be back next Saturday with an episode where we'll be doing Best of
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