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Episode Date: May 4, 2024

With friends like these who needs enemies amirite 0:00-01:07 Intro 01:08-11:37 I broke my friend’s MacBook and now she wants to sue me https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/641joo/sat_down_o...n_my_friends_macbook_and_broke_it/ 11:38-25:05 I kicked my boyfriend’s girl friend out of my Halloween party because of her costume https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/yhx5k3/comment/iujeii4/  25:06-38:59 I’m in love with my best friend of 24 years https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/wtisog/oop_best_friend_transitions_from_mtf_love_ensues/?share_id=iYaCfY1WYUyTK4fGnU2SO&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&utm_source=share&utm_term=4 39:00-53:47 My fiancé said I’m not the best at sex, am I wrong for calling off the engagement? https://www.reddit.com/r/amiwrong/comments/1bujtep/my_fiancee_told_her_friend_group_that_i_am_not/ 53:48-01:02:22 Flew 8 hours to see my friend and was mortified by his behavior https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/xeti4o/deleted_by_user/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share  01:02:23-01:05:45 I showed my friend their doppelgänger https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/109x6gz/tifu_by_showing_my_friend_their_doppelganger/  01:05:46-01:20:11 I asked my girlfriend to choose me or her friend https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/pdq5vz/aita_for_telling_my_girlfriend_to_choose_me_or/  SUBSCRIBE: https://smo.sh/Sub2SmoshPit WEAR OUR JOKES: https://smosh.com WHO YOU HEAR Anthony Padilla // https://www.instagram.com/anthonypadilla/ Courtney Miller // https://www.instagram.com/co_mill/ Shayne Topp // https://www.instagram.com/shaynetopp/ WHO YOU DON’T HEAR (usually) Director: Bailey Petracek Editor: Vida Robbins Director of Programming, Smosh Pit: Emily Rose Jacobson Associate Producer, Smosh Pit: Bailey Petracek Assistant Director: Amanda Barnes Art Director: Cassie Vance Assistant Art Director: Erin Kuschner Art Coordinator: Alex Aguilar, Josie Bellerby, Natalie Lewis Prop Assistant: Adam Mustafa Audio Mixer: Scott Neff Audio Utility: Dina Ramli Director of Photography: Eric Wann Videographer: James Hull Assistant Director: Amanda Barnes Director of Production: Amanda Barnes Production Coordinator: Marcus Munguia Operations & Production Coordinator: Oliver Wehlander Production Assistant: Ovsana Tsaturian Post Production Manager: Luke Baker DIT/Lead AE: Matt Duran IT: Tim Baker Director of Design: Brittany Hobbs Senior Manager, Channel & Strategy: Lizzy Jones Channel Operations Coordinator: Audrey Carganilla Social Creative Producer: Peter Ditzler, Tommy Bowe Social Strategist: Erica Noboa, Mallory Myers Social Media Coordinator: Kim Wilborn Talent Coordinator: Selina Garcia Operations PA: Katie Fink OTHER SMOSHES: Smosh: https://smo.sh/Sub2Smosh Smosh Games: https://smo.sh/Sub2SmoshGames El Smosh (Spanish Dub): https://smo.sh/Sub2ElSmosh SmoshCast: https://smo.sh/Sub2SmoshCast FOLLOW US: TikTok: https://smo.sh/TikTok Snapchat: http://smo.sh/OnSnapchat Instagram: https://instagram.com/smosh Facebook: https://facebook.com/smosh" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:01:05 How's it going? I'm still tie up on the friends. Sorry. Anthony, yeah, I mean, I feel like the whole, the brand here is friendship. Yeah, friendship always wins. That's right. We rooted in friendship.
Starting point is 00:01:16 That's right. Well, so a lot of these stories have to do with friendship. Some of them probably in a positive thah a lot of them going in a bad direction. Hmm. Well, I know first hand friendship can be this way and then it could be that way and they could come back. That's true. That's true. So maybe they're in their middle phases here. Okay. I don't know. Let's let's see if these friendships are going to work out or not. Okay. And let's just hop right in. We're friends. Yeah, friendship. Friendship. Mmm. Mmm.
Starting point is 00:01:47 Mmm. Mmm. Tattoo brothers. I can relate. Yeah, relatable. Yeah. Okay, first story. This comes from legal advice.
Starting point is 00:01:57 Sat down on my friend's Macbook and broke it. Offered to pay her the money for it, but now she wants more because she was upgrading anyway. So it's this or she will sue me in small claims court. What? I had some of my friends over at my house and one of my friends invited one of her other friends to come over. She had her Macbook on my couch when I sat on it and broke it. Since it was completely my fault, I offered to pay her the money for it and she agreed. She got it the the the the to to to to to to to to to to to their it their it their it their it their it their it their their their their their their. I their. I toe her. I their. I their. I was a their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, theau. Iau. Iaugh, too, tooomea, tooomea, thea, thooooooooomorrow, thea. I was. I was their her the money for it, and she agreed. She got it three years ago, and it cost $2,200 at the time. I told her I'd wire her the money in a week to her bank account. She's now emailed me saying that as per our conversation, she's expecting the
Starting point is 00:02:36 2,700 that I have agreed for. I didn't know why she added the extra money so I got her number from my friend and called her to find her telling me she's now expecting me to pay for her new upgraded Macbook since she was upgrading anyway. She said if I don't agree to it that she'll be suing me in small claims court. Can a judge agree to that? Should I wire her the 2,200 or should I just tell her to go sue me? Location is California. Whoa. Land of the suing. That's... Well, okay, so it sounds like... This isn't, this is a little bit off of the friendship stuff
Starting point is 00:03:13 because this is someone she sort of knows. It's a newer friend. Yeah, a newer friend. But it's more about just like the like logistics of that. I mean if I if someone broke my Macbook I the the most that I would expect and I feel like depending on the circumstances I'd be like it's okay. But you'd expect to get the money that it was worth. Right. No more than that. Yeah. I also feel like if they went to small claims court. That's exactly what the judge would say. Because they person didn't damage a new Macbook, they damaged an old one and if you're a sane person and this person broke, if someone broke my laptop I was planning on upgrading and if they were someone who was comfortable
Starting point is 00:03:57 enough financially to do that I'd be like okay sure thanks then I'll just pay for the difference on upgrading anyway like I'm not mad about this laptop, that's great. Yeah. Yeah, if anything, that Macbook's not worth what it was years ago. Exactly. You're already getting more. You're about to buy a new one anyways. You'd maybe, like, this is me. And if I knew it was truly an accident and I felt bad. And I don't want to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make to make. to make. to make. to make the to make. to make. to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the tho. the. the. thea. thea. thea. thea. thea. thea. tooooooooooooooooooo. to. the. to. to. to the Apple store and be like, how much would I have gotten if I traded this in? Probably would have been like a thousand?
Starting point is 00:04:25 Yeah. Maybe. And then I would have been like, hey, can you spot me that thousand? I am so caught up on two things. One, the Macbook was, it was a get-together and she just threw her a Mac of a conspiracy theory. I do think there's a lot of people who are very like an advantageous Of like what it's like oh, here's an opportunity for me to squeeze something out of some. They learned about capitalizing Yeah, like that's I do think there are people like that whether I mean that's what it seems to be here is like you're looking to get $500 extra Yeah, like that's I feel like they're th..... that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's th th th th thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi that's like that's like that's like that's like that's like that sue someone over it. Yeah. That's. Yeah. I feel
Starting point is 00:05:05 like they're bluffing. I think they're, it's also really weird that they're like, you agreed to pay this. Oh, but if you, if you don't agree to this, I'm going to sue you. It's like, so what did we agree on in the first place? Like, this part, it is very silly. thii. It's thi, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like is very thi. It's thi. It's thi. It's thi. It's thi. It's very thi. It's very thi. It's very thi. It's very thi. It's very very very very very thi. It's very thi, it's very they's very they's very they's very they're they're they're they're they're they're they's very they's very they's very they's very. Some comments, so since this is on legal advice, these are people giving some good advice here. You don't pay either of those amounts. You pay the depreciated value of the Macbook as of the date, your butt sat on it and not a dime more. If she wants to upgrade, she can pay for that upgrade and if she wants to sue, good luck to her. No judge is the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th is the the their their their th is their their their their their their th. to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be to be. to be to be. to be to be. to be. to be. to be. toe. toe. toe. toe. the toe. the the. the the the the the the the the toe. the the the the the the the the toea. toeat. toeat.e. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. toe. to her. No judge is going to award her more than the Macbook was currently worth. Someone else said you're pretty nice to be giving her 2,200 anyway. If she sued she would likely only be entitled to the value of the computer at the time it was broken. Not how much she paid for it three years ago. She's absolutely not entitled to 2, 7,000 just because she wants something nicer Lastly someone said I'm not even sure you are liable she put a computer in a place for sitting and it got sat on
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Starting point is 00:07:08 laptop and they're immediately like oh I'll give you 2,200 for it. It's like wow. I think if I'm the type that if someone offers like that quickly that nice I'm more likely to be like hey it's all good or like something. Obviously I'm not someone who's in a financial bind but I don't I that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that that's that's that's that's that's that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that that's that that that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's th. that's that's th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi that's thi that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's bind but I don't know that's that's just a that's a very kind thing for them to offer. Also I'm like maybe it is their fault if they like cannonballed on it like how did you destroy an entire laptop you didn't just break the top leg? I feel like I'm gonna was already broken. It was I'm gonna say like Laptops are pretty sturdy. I dropped yeah my work laptop recently Open faced down onto the concrete
Starting point is 00:07:51 Holy shit like I try I literally it fell out of my hands here With like open face bam and it was fine. What? Yeah, wow that a hundred percent fine. I'm a little shocked. I guess when it's flat. It's more likely the screen, I'm like, is it not fixable? I? I? Yeah? Yeah? Yeah? Yeah? Yeah? Yeah? Yeah? Yeah? Yeah? Yeah? Yeah? I? I? I? I? I? I? I? I? I? I? I? th? I? I? I? I? I? I? I? I? I? I? I? I? I? I? I? I? I? I'm? I'm? I'm? I'm? I'm? I? th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. I? I'm? I'm? I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the. the. the. the. th. th. the. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the th. the the th. I. percent fine. I'm a little shocked. I guess when it's flat, it's more likely the screen. But I'm like, is it not fixable at all? I'm actually surprised you did that. That's something I would do. I never drop shit. Yeah. I rarely drop shit and this was bad and I was lucky. And I think we need to cut to I don't think that laptop could break. I'm gonna... I'm gonna need to see O.P's ass.
Starting point is 00:08:27 I'm gonna need to see, understand if that's really... I need to see the Marquez Brownlee video. He's cannonballing onto laptops, you know? Make that. Yeah. But seriously, I feel like the, I was money. Right, yeah, that's usually like, oh, it's fine. That's right. I was gonna upgrade anyway. Yeah. Not, I was gonna upgrade anyway, so give me more. So give me the price of the new computer I wanted to buy.
Starting point is 00:08:50 Also, I, look, I think just threatening to sue is such a shitty thing to do. And also suing for something of this caliber, it's like, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, th. th. th. th. thi. thi. thi, thi, some. to bea, somea, some. the thi, somea, somea, some, some, some, some, some, some, some, some, some, some, some, some, some, some, some, some, some, some, some, some, some, some, some, some. So, some. So, so, so, so, so, so, some. So, so, so, so, so, so, some. So, so, some. the the the the the the the the the to. to. to to to to to to to to too, some. too, some. too, some, some, some, some, some. to to to to the the the the they're in the friend group, right? Yeah. Yeah. Also, suing is going to end up just costing you both more money. Yeah. Like you're gonna have to then hire lawyers? Like what what do you? That's why I think it's a block? Maybe small claims court you wouldn't? They were they're thinking. I'm taking you to judge Judy. It's like dude. Like, dude, just don't waste like that's so much time. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Like that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's so that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's so that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's th. th. th. th. the their. their. their. their. their. their their their their the their their the the the the the their their the their their their their their their their their their th. th. th. th. th. th.ically weren't even owed. This is a really shitty person. But... We have an update. Oh? Oh! I did some research specifically for repairing the screen for the Macbook and for her particular model it's around $310 for the screen plus labor costs so I wrote her back saying that since she didn't accept my initial offer of 2200 I'm withdrawing that offer and offering to pay for the repair cost. She sent me an email calling me a bitch in th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, the th, the th, th, the th, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, the thi, thi, we th. We have, we th. We have, we have, we have, we have, we have, we have, we have, we have, we have, we have, we have, we have, we have, we have, we th. We, we the, we th. We, we, we, we, we, we the, we, we, we, we, we the the the the the the the the the the the the, we, we, we, we, we, we, the the the the the thi, the, the. the. thea. thea'a'a'a'a'a'a'ea'a'a'-I'e. We'a, the. We'a, the. We'2,200, I'm withdrawing that offer and offering to pay for the repair cost. She sent me an email calling me a bitch in that she's going to take me to court. That'll be great.
Starting point is 00:09:50 Okay, that'll help you in court. Oh my God. Oh, yeah. Yeah, judge. They called me a bitch and they were taking me to to court. Oh shit, it happened. Really did it. It was not a bluff. I want to see that transcript. I need to see this. Yeah, oh my God.
Starting point is 00:10:09 Oh, that's probably public access. It's California, too. Oh, this is going to be. Okay, wait, wait. I told the judge I gave her three options to choose from. 2200, get her a refurbished one from Apple or a third party or even used with which would be around 1400, or 3, fix her current Macbook since the screen is the only thing affected here and it would cost around 300 plus money for labor. So the laptop's not broken.
Starting point is 00:10:36 The screen is broken. That's a completely different thing. That's so stupid. You can repair a screen. Yeah, no, if it's like I only owe you to the screen. I only broke the screen so that's all I owe you for. I printed out the email I sent her and and the mail she sent back refusing the 2,700 and calling me a bitch and saying we'll go to court plus screenshots for the price quotes from different websites for a new slash refurbist and screen fix for her particular model and gave it to the judge. I also I I I I I I I I I I I I I th. I the the the the the th. I the. I also also also also also also also also also also also also also. I also also also also. I also also also also. I also also also also also. I also also also. I also also also also also also also also also. I'm told. I'm told. I'm the told. I'm told. I'm told. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I'm. I'm. the the the the the the the to. the to. to. th. to. th. to. th. th. th. th. th. th. the th. the the the the the the the the the the the the judge. I also told him that when I offered to get her a new one from the Apple store, she said, no, I want the money in cash.
Starting point is 00:11:07 Whoa! Give me a break. When I told her I'd give her $2,200 for a new one, she said, okay, but later came asking for $2,700 because she wanted to upgrade. I tried to show him how almost the whole time which really pissed off the judge and helped my case I guess. After listening to both of us he ruled that I pay 50% of the repair cost since she negligently left her laptop on the couch. So I'll only be paying no more than 200 to 250 for the whole thing. If it weren't for you guys I would have paid 2200 $2,200 instead of around 200 and I honestly loved her look the to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to th. And I th. And I th. And I th. And I th. And I th. And I th. th. th. thi thi the thi thi th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. I thi. I th. I the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th. I was th. I was th. I was th. I was th. I was th. I was thi thi thi thi to to thi toe toe the the too too. I too too too too the the the the thi thi thi the end as we walked out. That's go! Legal slay! I think entitled people really, I guess in
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Starting point is 00:12:12 Yeah. Well, that was, that was delicious. That was tasty, a little more so. Thank you for the appetizer. All right. Alright, let's hop into this next story. Here we go. This comes from Am I the Asshole? Am I the asshole for kicking my boyfriend's girl best friend out of my Halloween party because of her costume? Okay.
Starting point is 00:12:34 Right, interesting. I hope there's picks. Hi everyone, I'll cut to the chase. I, a 19-year-old woman, had a Halloween party over the weekend. I invited my boyfriend, who's 21 and a bunch, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, tho, the the thi, the tho, the tho, the tho, I, I, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I's, I's, I's, I's, I's, I's, I's, I's, I, I's, I's, I's, I's, I's, I's, I's, I's, I's, I's, I's, I's, I'm the thi.a, I'm the thi.a, I'm the the thi.a, I'm the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the thi.ea, I'm I'm I'm I the chase. I, a 19-year-old woman, had a Halloween party over the weekend. I invited my boyfriend, who's 21, and a bunch of our friends over, including his girl best friend. I will call her, Agatha. My boyfriend and I had decided to dress up as Peter, Peter, pumpkin eater. If you haven't seen the costume, the guy just because I thought it was funny and a cute costume. Agatha texted me the night before the party and asked what my costume was going to be. I explained the couple's costume my boyfriend and I would be wearing, and she replied that
Starting point is 00:13:14 she would probably just come as a sexy cat. Fast forward to the night of the party, everyone is having fun and it's a nice time. Well it was, until Agatha walked in, dressed as a pumpkin. She went over and hugged my boyfriend. Whoa! Oh, okay, sorry. I'm sorry, I swear the room went silent. I was pissed. I asked if I could speak with her privately, and we went into my bedroom.
Starting point is 00:13:38 I asked why she chose that costume since she knew the details of the joint costume between my boyfriend and I. I. I. I. I. I the th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho- I was thus thus tho- I was tho- tho- tho- tho- tho- tho- tho- tho- tho- tho- tho- tho- tho--o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho tho-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo- I. I'm sorry, they're in pumpkin costumes, by the way. They're both, they're both... They're very serious conversation amongst pumpkins. I was supposed to be the pumpkin! Okay, sorry. Can I talk to you the patch? Can I talk to you the patch? Okay, sorry.
Starting point is 00:13:53 From one pumpkin told her I didn't think it was funny and I would prefer that she changed. I offered her a witch costume that she could borrow for the night. She turned red and started to yell that I don't get to control what she wears. I told her that she was disrespecting my relationship by insinuating that my boyfriend and her have sex. She kept screaming about how it was funny and I needed to lighten up. I ended up asking her to leave. She stormed out to the house and I returned to the party. The mood had shifted and the night felt ruined. My boyfriend agrees that she crossed the line and is planning on cutting her off completely. Whoa! But a few of our friends are saying that I was being dramatic and I should have let her stay. I guess I'm just wondering. Am I the assh-h-h-I-I'm the the the the the the the th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thin. th. th. th. the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. I th. I's-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I. th. theeeateateateateate. theate. thee. theeeate. theeeeeeat. theeeeeee by the title, I thought this was going to go a way different way.
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Starting point is 00:16:53 Either he puts up with that, nope, or kicks her to the curb. Same goes for the friends calling you dramatic. How would they like it if it happened to them? Ope said, he is planning on a a to. to. to. to. to. toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, toe, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, the the the the the the the the the the the the the the too, the too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, too, the the the the the, the, the, the, toooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.e, the the the too, toothem. O.P. said he is planning on cutting her off completely. I was just a little hesitant honestly because this is the first time she's ever done something like this and she has never shown interest before but I'm leaving it up to him and that will show how much he values our relationship. Someone else said some girl best friends don't actually want the guy but want to to prove to themselves that they can get him if they want. She seems like the one like. She the onethose people if she was yelling at you at your own party Then you were justified in asking her to leave friends should always respect their friends relationships Lastly someone said nope not the asshole she did this on purpose and was testing to see what she could get away with
Starting point is 00:17:36 thoub she found out that she couldn't get away with anything. It's also their party. Yeah, it's like that's that's a lot. I agree it feels like it was a test of control or ownership in some way, not necessarily that she like wants to be with him but in a sense it's almost like he's mine let's see what happens when I throw in this rent. That seems pretty valid. I do think there's a lot of people out there like that you know who just live for that like... Just serving the ego. Yeah. Just wanting to prove to themselves. And it's weird because like I have seen group costumes or there's a couple and a friend joining in a thing. Totally.
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Starting point is 00:18:53 I meant to post one a few months ago, but I really needed time to process the events that occurred after this whole ordeal. What a mature thing to say. But I'll thua thua thuuuuuuuuu. thu. thu. thu. thu. thu. thu. thu. thu. thu. thu. thu. thu. thu. thu. I'm thu. I'm too. I'm too. I'm too. thu. too. I'm too. I wasn't too. too. too. too. too. too. to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to too. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. too. too. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thu. thu. thu. thu. thu. too. too. the. too. te. te. te. te. too. too. too. too. too. too. too. too. too. to. to.. But I'll pretend you. I'm glad I waited though because you all need to hear this one. Oh fuck. Many people pointed out that my boyfriend must be sleeping with Agatha since she went absolutely bonkers for seemingly no reason. I thought since he immediately took my side and blocked her on everything that you were wrong. In hindsight it is also a little in ways it's just like yep yeah she's gone yeah don't worry about it. There was more yeah. Can't sleep that pumpkin. That pumpkin. That's that pumpkin. That's that pumpkin. That's that pumpkin. That's that pumpkin. That's that pumpkin. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. that pumpkin. Oh. that pumpkin. Oh. Oh. that pumpkin. that that that that that that that that that th. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. th. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. th. Oh. Oh. the th. Oh. Oh. Oh. th. Oh. the the th. Oh. the the the th. Oh. th. Oh. Oh. the the the the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. th. the. the. th. th. th. the. the. th. th. th. th. the. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the fish lady. She's like, yep, yeah, she's gone. Yeah, don't worry about it. There was more. Yeah. Can't sleep that pumpkin under the rug.
Starting point is 00:19:26 Oh God, oh God. Well, it was me who was wrong. Oh no. It turns out that Agatha and my boyfriend have been sleeping together for months. No. And they were just I was at his house and hanging out in his room. He was showering after a workout and I heard this vibrating noise. He had taken his phone and mine was right next to me so I couldn't figure out what it was.
Starting point is 00:19:54 I opened his bedside table drawer and found a second phone. My gut tole that something wasn't right. Why would he have a second phone? It's just for dealing drugs, right? Yeah, yeah, maybe... Maybe he's doing crime. It didn't take me long to guess his password, and my fears were confirmed. There was a missed call from Agatha. I looked through the messages and found out the truth.
Starting point is 00:20:18 Not only had they been sleeping together, she recently found out that she was, holy shit. No! Not only had they been sleeping together, she recently found out that she was pregnant. Oh, my God! This was the reason she pulled the stunt on Halloween. I'm the mom pumpkin. She was trying to force his hand. I also saw that he was messaging other girls as well. I was completely devastated. After his shower, he found me grabbing all th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She had th. She had th. She had th. She had the had thoing thoing the had thea thoomoom. She had toged thoom. She had had thoing thoing thoing thoing thoing thoing thoing thoing thoing thoing thoing thoing the. She the. She the. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She th. She was th. She was th. She was the. She was to, she was to' toge. She was toge. She was toge. She was toge. She was toge. She was toge. She was toge. She was t girls as well. I was completely devastated.
Starting point is 00:20:46 After his shower, he found me grabbing all of my belongings and putting them in my bag. He asked why I was leaving and I told him because we were finished. I threw his phone on the bed and he looked like he was going to vomit. He started pleading with me to hear him out, but I didn't want to hear it. He could have, he could have, he could have have have, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, to have, told, told, told, told, told, told, told, told, told, told, told, told, told, told, told, told, told, told, told, told, told, him anymore. He followed me out of the house, shaking and crying. He even crawled me all the way out to my car, trying to block my path. I went over the grass around him and didn't look back. He sent me a long message about how he never wanted to hurt me, that he wanted me back and how he was using his work phone to text all of these women so I thi......... And 't want to hurt you. I just wanted to keep a secret. She got someone pregnant.
Starting point is 00:21:26 I sent his boss a nice little message about how company property was being misused. I saw on LinkedIn he no longer works for that company anymore. He is blocked on everything now. I hope he and Agatha have a magical life with their baby. Oh, I heard through the great find that he got one of the other women pregnant too. This guy. I'm glad I dodged that bullet. As for me, I am currently in therapy working on my trust issues and learning how to love myself again after this situation. I've been putting myself out there again and have cut contact with anyone who knew what
Starting point is 00:21:56 was happening behind my back. Wow. That really shifts so much of this. Like, this guy is awful. Yeah, I mean, no, and it's just like the all of that is toxic. Oh God. Forcing his hand, him cheating in the first place and her being called the girl best friend. It's like, that is so, like, so messed up and like, ooh.
Starting point is 00:22:23 It's really messed up. And I wonder if Agatha even knows about the other other women. Yeah, no. I love that he was literally crying, shaking, throwing up as she was walking out of the house. I'm like, I'm hurting so much right now, baby. I'll never understand. I just can't comprehend once you've been caught to be like, no, no, no, no, like I can, we can make this work. I'm like, I can explain what, man? Oh, I cannot believe. He's like, so you, I had a lot of trauma in my life and this is the way that I hurt other people. Right. Oh, that's it, babe. Dude, that went so much worse than I was thinking like, okay, maybe, no, I was like, no, they're not, they're not sleeping together,
Starting point is 00:23:05 nothing happened, but maybe there's feelings or maybe. Maybe she's tried before. Maybe she has feelings for him, but for it to go that way. Yeah, no, she clearly dodged a bullet. The bullet being his seed, because he just be getting people pregnant and that are not his partner, that's crazy to me. And yeah, I agree. It is so strange when the cheater goes, no, no, no, I want to fix this, I want to make, like no, you only want to fix it now
Starting point is 00:23:30 because you've been caught. You are doing this at a crazy level. Yeah, like, the crying, like, oh, I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm the victim. I'm th, I'm th, I'm th, I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm thi. I'm thi. I'm thi. I'm thi. I'm thi. I'm thi. I'm thi. I'm thi. I'm thi. I'm thi. I'm thi. I'm thi. I'm thi. thi. thi, I'm thi. thi, thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. to to thi. to to thi. to to to to to to to to to to to to thi only only only only only only only only to thi only only only only the victim here, in a way. Wow. Wow. That's crazy. We have not been given much gray area to work with. No, this is pretty c- villains.
Starting point is 00:23:52 I'm gonna, I'm just gonna be, I just want like lots of comments on this video. I'm like, nope, that guy was in the right, bro. Actually, if you think about it, he's sending you to see. Sigma behavior. The stories that always blow my mind are the ones where you start off and you have a villain. And then another villain comes in. Oh yeah. So much bigger. The final boss.
Starting point is 00:24:12 Yeah, truly, like, it's like, okay. Um, damn. That's so sad. And like, I wonder if the friends who were defending the girl best friend knew what was going on. Probably not. Maybe though, because she said I cut out everyone who knew, implying that there were more people around her that she cut out. That sucks. That sucks. I'm like almost crying because that was such a disgusting situation. Yeah, it's like a freaking nightmare. Yeah, I mean, it's it's horrible that she showed up in the pumpkin costume but it needed to happen for all this to unfold, right?
Starting point is 00:24:47 Yes. And I wonder if she'll look back and be like, all right, I'm, because I wonder how long it would have gone otherwise. Yeah. Imagine if she just let it happen. I'm not, she's like, okay, yeah, you can wear the costume and stay here. Like what would have been the next situation, you know? Right, right. Well, she would have, the pregnancy. She would have started showing.
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Starting point is 00:25:29 We'll find out. Yeah, he has a strong seed. She has strong seeds. Maybe they're meant to be anyway. Gross. Yeah, I feel gross here in that. Yeah, I feel pretty bad. Strong seed is bad.
Starting point is 00:25:43 I look such a weird. A strong seed. It's like a line from Game of Thrones. Yeah, really, literally. Okay, next story, and I think this one's going to be a little more positive. I need this. I need this. I need this right now from from shitty people. Thank you. I believe. That's the hint I got. This comes from best of Reditor updates. So... None of this is posted by the original. A the original. A the original. A the original. A the original. A the original. A thia?? A thia. A thia. A thia? A thii? A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thine thine thine thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A thi. A the. A thee. A theeea theeeateateate the thi thi the thi thi thi thi thi. A thi. A thi. A that's the hint I got. This comes from Best of Reader Updates, so... None of this is posted by the original O.P. A lot of Best of Editor Updates is someone who found a bunch of posts
Starting point is 00:26:12 and they compile it. But here we go. The heroes. My best friend of 24 years, born a male is now a transgender woman. I'm in love with her and not sure if I should tell her. My friend and I, both 24 years old, have been best friends our entire lives. We're practically brothers. Our parents grew up together, went to the same school, so my friend and I were together ever since we were little babies. We've always had each other, we've always had each for each other. My friend is an amazing person, someone I can go to and trust
Starting point is 00:26:47 completely. I'm blessed to have this person in my life. My friend transitioned to female a few months ago, 100% completely physically a woman. She's been through hormone replacement therapy these past few years, seeing her become so happier is amazing to see. I'm absolutely proud of her. It's beautiful to see my friend now be so free, being comfortable with herself, and always having the greatest smile on her face. But I'm falling for her. And these feelings aren't going away. I'll admit that I'm in love with my friend. The friend I've known for 24 years is who is stealing my heart and I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose my friend, but my feelings, to love, and, the, their, but, and, their, and, and, and, and, the their, and, and, their, and, their, their, and, the their, their, and, their, their, and I their, and I their, and I their, and I to their, their, and I'm to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to their, and always, and always their, and their, and their, and their, and their, and their, and their, and their, and their, and I their, and I their, and I is their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their, their their their their their, their, their, their, my feelings of friendship for her are turning to romantic slash sexual feelings and attraction. After my friend transitioned, we continued hanging out and talking like nothing changed.
Starting point is 00:27:31 We continued going out to clubs slash bars, the movies, restaurants, playing video games. Nothing changed. We kept doing what we always did. During this time is when my feelings began to change. I started falling in love with her. You know what attracted me? Her, the way she is. My friend is now acting like herself, acting free and full of life, always laughing, dancing, and being goofy. It hurts me because this is someone I grew up with and I'm afraid my feelings are going to push her away or make this awkward. Like always, I'm insanely happy being with my friend, but my feelings for her are killing me right now
Starting point is 00:28:05 every time we're together again. I've fallen in love with her true self. Her truth self is absolutely beautiful. I've spoken to another close friend of mine about this. I just got made fun of. Ha ha, you want to fuck your bro, seriously? Ah! Is practically what I was coming from. They didn't understand what an insanely amazing person my friend is. This friend of mine feels it's creepy and nasty that I'm falling for my best friend.
Starting point is 00:28:31 They also aren't taking my friend's transition seriously, which is another reason why they're acting immature. All he did was make fun of me, so ever since then I haven't spoken to anyone else about how I feel. Also, aside from being scared of losing my friend, I'm afraid of what our families will think. What happens if my friend and I do end up together, and our families suddenly start to panic? I'm afraid of not only ruining my friendship,
Starting point is 00:28:53 but the friendship our parents have with themselves for many years. Both of our families were completely supportive when my friend transitioned, not a single negative comment. Everyone is proud of her, and the love our families have for her hasn't changed at all. I feel I'm overthinking all of this, especially because being friends is very different from being in a serious relationship. If anything, our families would be insanely happy we're together and be so annoying. Ha ha ha ha ha ha. How it's written.
Starting point is 00:29:20 Is that how you laugh, Shane? But I'm more worried about the negative tha, tha, tha, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, th-I, th-I, th-I, thi, thi, th-I, th-I, th-I, th-I, th-I, th-I, th-I, th-I, th-I, th-I, th-I, th-I, th-I, th-I, th-I, th-I, th-I, th-in, th-in, th-in, th-in, th-in, th-in, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thin, thin, thin, thin, thin, thin, thr-s. thr-s'''''' thr-s'n-s' thoan, th-s, thi, ha. But I'm more worried about the negative response, which is why I believe I'm overthinking this whole thing. Plus, if I plan to even confess my feelings for her, I have to do it soon. She's always been being asked out on dates, but she tells me she's looking for the right person to spend time with. I feel this is just want to confess how I feel about her. I want an actual relationship with my friend. If any of you have some advice, please definitely share it because I have no clue what to do. I'll love to tell my
Starting point is 00:29:51 friend how I feel about her but I don't want to lose or ruin our 24-year friendship. I also don't want to make it seem that I'm falling for her just because she's now a woman. I don't want her to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to feel to to to to to th th tho that that tho tho tho tho tho th th th th th the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the to thean. thean. tooooooooooooooooooooooooooo'' the the the the you all think I should do? I'll absolutely appreciate the advice slash input. I'll greatly appreciate it so much. Wow. That's so sweet. You know what it makes me think of? It's I give the advice a lot on the show when people are like really young, like 20 to 23, and they're in a relationship
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Starting point is 00:30:59 It's different for everyone, but I feel like your 20s, you're like figuring out who you are, or letting your true self come out and I think that's for obvious reasons here like that's what's happening is like you're young you're still figuring out who you are and then oh now that you're becoming who you are you're like oh I love this person now that they are fully like their 100% self you're falling for them regardless of gender or sex or anything like that can happen. Yeah, well. I just, I think this is, I think this is probably common.
Starting point is 00:31:29 Yeah. I mean common amongst people. I feel like we've heard a lot of stories on this show where, or like there's a lot of stories online where it's like a woman or a feminine presenting person has a guy friend who has been lying about their feelings and intentions the whole time where it's like, oh I thought we were friends like this sucks but that's but that's also why I feel like as these feelings have grown I think it is good to be honest because if he doesn't tell her then he's being dishonest and like obviously feelings can come and go but like he's known
Starting point is 00:32:06 this person his whole life and like he sees her and he you know he really truly feels like he loves her like I think it would be really great to say something because obviously the fact that their families were supportive of his friend for transitioning they just want that person to their families were supportive of his friend for transitioning, they just want that person to be happy. And like, I don't like, you know, it's common for you to be like, oh, what's everyone else going to think? They're going to be worried if we break up.
Starting point is 00:32:37 But it's like, you can't let those external things affect it. Especially since his friends were clearly being transphobic and and just all around toxic about it and being weird about it. It's like yeah well their feelings don't matter anyway. Yeah and I think it's a valid fear to think oh now they might think that now that I perceive them as a woman like that's the only reason. Right. I've seen many people who transition, you know that was one step in becoming their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their th. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. things. things. things. things. things. things and things and things and things and things and being. And, things and being. And, things and being. things and being. things and things and things and things and things and things. things. things. things. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I'm. I'm th. I'm thin. I'm thin. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm thin. I'm th. I'm th. I'm thin. I'm thin. I only reason. Right. But I've seen many people who transition, you know, that was one step in becoming their truer selves, not just externally or with their gender, but you know, it's how they realize who they really are and they start expressing themselves. It was even mentioned like they're always laughing and dancing.
Starting point is 00:33:19 that really stood out to me. It's like they're comfortable in their, and expressing themselves even through dancing and I feel like that can be just such an attractive trait to see someone coming into themselves as they're true identity. Yeah, which is why I said earlier like you know it's it's they've they've become you become a new person as you get older as you figure out you are and it's in many ways like and it sounds like they've they're like like like like like they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're they're th I th I th I'm to th I thi. thi. thi. thi. I thi. I thi. I'm thi. I'm thi. I thi. I thi. I thi. I th I I th I I I I I I I I I I I I th I I I I I I I I I th I th I I I I I th I th I th I th I th I th I th I th. th. th. I th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm thi. thi. thi. that's the thi the the the thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi th like they've like he's like he's saying like I'm in love with who she's become yeah who's this now that I get to see who she really is deep down I love that and and I so I think that's very valid and I think it's really cool that he's concerned about that right yeah I don't want to think that it's just because of that. Yeah. I mean, without knowing more, I agree with you, Courtney.
Starting point is 00:34:07 I feel like he should tell her, and there's so much history between them. You think that maybe there'd be some extra layers of understanding and maybe even, you know, maybe even, hey, if it doesn't go back both ways, I still want to be friends with you, you, you, you, you and I think there's a way that conversation can happen where it's like, hey, I'm feeling all these feelings, but I also, I'm scared to tell you this because our friendship means so much. I don't want to lose that too. I think that vulnerability would be like, okay. Yeah. I also think like, I can't the right person and like being in her position she might be assuming like oh he wouldn't want to date me because he
Starting point is 00:34:51 just views me as the person that he grew up with. Yeah so maybe she doesn't assume that and so like maybe maybe things might be a little more positive in the end. Yeah yeah there's a strong chance that she's thin. I I I I I I I I I I I I th. Yeah. Yeah. th. T. T. T. T. T. T th. T th. T th. T th. T thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thin, thin, thin, thin' th. thi thi thi thin' thin' thin' thin' thin' thin' thin' thin' thin' thin' thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi the. the. the. thi the thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi thi strong chance that she's thinking the same thing. I hope so. I'm such a hopeless romantic stuff. I definitely hope so. Update. Let's go. Go. Screw it, I'm going to ask out my friend. It's Saturday 1 p.m. right now. S-I'm going to see if she wants to go on a date tonight. Oh, wait, just ask out. Yes. Yes. I'm th. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm going. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm to ask to ask to ask to ask to ask to ask to ask to ask to ask to ask to ask to ask to ask to ask to ask to ask to ask. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm to ask. I'm to ask. I'm th. I. right now, I'm going to see if she wants to go on a date tonight. Oh wait, just ask out, not even talk about feelings, just ask out. Okay. I actually think, I actually kind of respect that because it's a little smaller than saying like, I'm in love with you. That's true. That's true. That's really sweet. Uh, first off, wow, to go for it or I'm going to regret it. My plan is to take her out on a fun date and I'll confess my feelings during the date.
Starting point is 00:35:47 I might even show her this post as I literally pour it all my feelings into this post. She's like, you're a Reditor? I like to today until that. Eww. Ehred. We live in the same neighborhood slash street. That's why we're pretty much always together 24-7 every week. I'm going to message her to see if she's home so I can stop by and while I'm there I'm going to ask her out.
Starting point is 00:36:10 Wish me luck. Oh, I like how the post is right before walking out the door. I know that's really crazy. I'm walking over there right now. the doormat. And also like learning now like how much they spend time together she has figured out who she is and the fact that like a lot has changed for her but the one thing that hasn't changed is she's still choosing to be around him all the time. She's still choosing him. Yeah. So I'm optimistic. Update number two. Let's go. Oh! I got a date to-night I was insanely nervous walking to my friend's house, but I can't stop smiling because wow, I actually got a yes for my friend. Ah ha! One issue I had was where the date was going to be. I had no idea, but I remembered she loves this 80s bar slash grill that has karaoke every night in tacos. So that's where we're going. So tonight is going to be tacos drinks, 80s music and karaoke. Sounds likedian. th. th. th. th. th. their. th. th. their. th. th. th. their. th. th. th. th. their. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. the thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. the thi. the the the the the the the the the the the the the the thi. thi. th. th. th. th. th. I I I I I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I it, showed up, started talking like usual, and that's when I asked her.
Starting point is 00:37:07 Told her I would love to take her out on a date tonight that I've been wanting to ask her out for the longest time. I definitely tried to hide my face from blushing, but she had a huge smile when I asked her. She's even extra excited because we're going toeheaaaa to ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex ex to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the to their out. to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to the to to the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the took. I. I took. I took. I took. I ta. I ta. I took. I today. I today. I today. I today. I told told to her favorite place. I feel asking her out has made her comfortable to flirt with me. She started complimenting me and even kissed me on the cheek before I left. She definitely felt more intimate if that makes sense. She even said she's going to get extra pretty for the date tonight. I'll admit I'm really looking forward to that. Although it's impossible for her post. Yeah, she's pretty, puky, sooop.
Starting point is 00:37:47 I'm still shaking, honestly, L-O-L. The shakes are more shakes of excitement. I'm going to pick her up in two to three hours, so I'll definitely be getting ready, ready soon. Haven't gone on a date in quite some time, so I'm really looking forward to tonight, especially with the date being the girl I really love. I'm still nervous, but I'll pass eventually. Wow, it'll pass eventually.
Starting point is 00:38:09 Wow. That's where it ends. Wow. I literally have never wanted to piss on the floor out of joy. I'm so excited for that. Why am I emotional? I'm like, oh, like that, like a movie story. And the poster, the OPE is so in tune with their emotions.
Starting point is 00:38:29 And I feel like that's really refreshing because a lot of times it's really like, here are the facts. But here they're like, I got butterflies in my tummy and it's like so cute. Yeah. Yeah. So great. That's awesome. There's a couple comments. She was literally waiting for him to ask her. L-O-L, 100%. Someone said, absolutely, just afraid to be herself, but now she can, amazing for all involved. Yeah, you called it. It does seem like she was also like, yeah, so I'm just waiting for the right guy. Oh, I love that she's excited.
Starting point is 00:38:58 I was so worried that the growing up like siblings part, irrespective of anyone's gender, would make the friend feel weird in a totally valid way. If for both people, it's really more like, we've always known each other so we have a strong foundation. That's lovely, good luck to these cuties. Lastly someone said, if this isn't the most textbook case of loving somebody for who they are, then I it ends up being a lifetime of happiness in the making. That's really great. That was amazing.
Starting point is 00:39:27 Really great story. Fantastic. Yeah, love that. Yeah. That's really cool. It's so funny. Like, love can be so scary. But for them, it's so funny.
Starting point is 00:39:39 They were friends. They literally grew up together. But when feelings like that come into play, it almost like changes everything you're in, you're just like, I don't know, I don't know, I'm too scared, I don't know, but it's like you just gotta trust sometimes. Yeah, and I mean at the end of the day,
Starting point is 00:39:55 romantic relationship still is like, it's not like friendship All that friendship has to be there, so they do have a great foundation for it. So it's lovely. Very, very cool. Epic friendship sleigh. Yeah, kind of a sleigh. Well, that was great. Next story, let's get into some shitty people again. Okay, great.
Starting point is 00:40:20 Too much positivity. Yeah, none of drama. This next story is one that I submitted. Oh, wait, what? Oh, I found this story and I was laughing at it and I sent it over Oh, we got Shane's special to this. This one I just thought this was like Since I've actually had time to think about this one, I have a lot of thoughts Okay. Chef's Choice, I believe This was curated by this one I have a lot of thoughts okay chef's choice I believe this was curated by this is from am I wrong is basically am I the asshole my fiance told her friend group that I am not the greatest at sex but she is
Starting point is 00:40:57 with me for the complete package am I wrong for calling off the engagement oh that's heavy okay okay yeah we got a lot of layers we got to learn what those layers are I have a lot of I have a lot of opinions th I have th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th the th the the the th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th the think the think thi thi think thi think think thi think thi thi thi thi theeeeeeeee the the the the the the the th engagement. Oh, that's heavy. Okay, okay. Yeah, we got a lot of layers. We got to learn what those layers are. I have a lot of opinions on this. Okay. I, a 27-year-old man have been engaged to my fiance, Amy, who's 26, for a year, and have been in a relationship with her
Starting point is 00:41:17 for five years. We were due to be married this August. I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I to to to to to, I to, Kylie, who's 26. We have been friends for a very long time, pretty much since we were babies, and we're almost like siblings at this point, because her mother and my mother were best friends since they were in high school. Anyways, Kylie is part of the same tight-knit friend group as Amy. I always try to ask Kylie what Amy tellows me about me. Because I know women like to discuss their boyfriends with their friend group. Kylie is usually tight-lipped, but if she does say anything,
Starting point is 00:41:45 she always says how Amy loves me a lot and how Amy is so excited about marriage. Last month, I hung out with Kylie and her boyfriend at their house. Amy and I usually hang out with them for dinners, but Amy had gone out for out of town for a couple days. Anyways, we all got pretty drunk and laughed a lot of was begging Kylie to tell me one bad thing Amy has told about me to her friends. After a lot of pleading, Kylie finally said that one thing Amy had joked about was how she had better sex before.
Starting point is 00:42:15 I picked that one. And I was not the greatest at sex, but that she was with me for the complete package, because she doesn't care about sex too much. I was drunk then so I just laughed it off, but I felt somewhat stung then. The next day when I got sober, I felt extremely stung. I thought about it a lot, and when Amy came back from her vacation, I asked her about it casually. She initially denied it and said we always have amazing sex and she's always satisfied. I told her it really wouldn't hurt me if she told me the truth and marriage was built on honesty so I asked her again a couple of times. Amy finally admitted that she did in fact say that I was not
Starting point is 00:42:53 the best at sex to her friend group, but she was just joking about it because I had so many other great qualities she wanted to highlight. I laughed it off initially, but that stung me even more. I couldn't hide my mood the next couple of days. I felt sad and I felt like shit. Amy apologized a lot and said she did not mean what she said. A couple of days later, I told Amy I could no longer be with her, and what she told her friend group hurt me too much. I informed everyone over the next week that I was calling off the wedding. Amy was distraught and tried to convince me multiple times and apologized a lot, but I was too mentally downtrodden.
Starting point is 00:43:29 Jesus, Canoly. I know. Uh, bro. Yeah. I have thoughts, but I want to hear yours. So, yeah. The first thing that really just struck me as being so weird, was just him always asking his friend if his girlfriend's, or if his fiance is talking shit.
Starting point is 00:43:48 And he's pleading. I'm like, I was like, if you're already, I think it's important to like, mentally kind of ask yourself questions a lot, right? As a person, I think it's important. I don't know. And if you have that desire, if you have this deep deep curiosity this deep this deep this deep this deep this deep deep deep deep deep deep this deep deep deep deep deep deep this deep this deep this deep curiosity of like, I know my fiance is saying bad things about me to you guys. So what is, I'm like, why do you think she's saying bad things about you?
Starting point is 00:44:10 Yeah. Why are you so desperately doing that? And also, why are you asking? Are you asking because you want to get better? What is, why do you want to know the bad shit? Yeah, what are you looking for here because and then so I'm like ultimately and I know some of the comments were like well man you shot yourself in the foot like you you you got what you asked for you're like I know she's got to say some bad
Starting point is 00:44:34 things let me know and he hears a bad thing and now he's calling off the engagement I'm like what did you want then you're then you're mad at her and saying well you're saying shit that you're mad at her and saying, well, you're saying shit that you're not saying to me. It's like, but that's what you said you knew was happening and you wanted to hear it. It reminds me of doom scrolling, right? You're like, you're like, orbit curiosity. Tell me the bad thing, tell me the thing, like, I feel like he was maybe feeling some doubt and he wanted confirmation of what it was. That's interesting. It's that's that's th me me me me me me me me me me me me me me me me th. It reminds me th. It reminds me th. It reminds me th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi, thi, thi, th. that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that's, that's, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, th. It's, th. It's, th. It's, thin. It's, th. It's, th. It's, th. It's, th. It's, the. It's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, th. That's interesting. That's interesting. It reminds me of this one story that we read on here where it was like this girl's brother or brother or sister was a wedding planner and the wedding planner is when they get together
Starting point is 00:45:13 sometimes we'll talk about like yeah I think this couple's gonna last this long this long and this this bride was like come on tell me how long. this bride was like the planner was like, the planner. The I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thin is thin is thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. this bride is this bride is this bride is like, this bride was like, thi. this bride was like, this bride was like, this bride was like, this bride was like, this bride was like, this bride was like, this bride was like, this bride was like, this bride was like, this bride was like, this b b b b. This b b b. This b. This b. This bride was like, this bride was like, this bride was like, th. th. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thr. this bride, thri. This bride, this bride, this bride, this bride, this br-a's brother, this bride, this br-a' this bride, this bride, the bride the planner was like no I'm not going to tell you that you're my sister I'm not going to tell you and this bride kept pushing and then finally the planner was like all right I give it six months and the bride was like what how do you say that it's like you want it to know yeah place where you lack that trust, where you're like, I need to ask my friend what she's saying, you shouldn't be getting married, like you shouldn't be engaged, like that's some work you got to do. And then even furthermore, like, I do think it's kind of sad that she was saying this
Starting point is 00:45:58 to her friends and she didn't feel comfortable to talk to him about like, hey, I think we can improve this. Yeah. Because that's not something like, it's not like, well, that's who you are and you're bad at sex and that's forever. It's like, no, like, you can have that conversation and like work together as a couple. I'm so disappointed that he kind of fell into the male fragility of like, don't like, thrown. sex and about your dick destroy you as a person because it's not all you are and it's not like something so like oh I just don't like that you have a third arm on your back like he can control this thing they can talk about it like why did he want to know if he wasn't willing to improve whatever bad thing that he clearly wanted to know he wouldn't accept the praise that this friend kept giving him when he asked he wanted something bad. Why? Yeah. Yeah, and it it it it it it it it it it it it it it it it it it it it it's that it's that it's th. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And it's th. Yeah. And it's th. th. th th th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. thi th thi thi's not thi. I's not th. I's not th. I's not. I's not. I's not. I's th. I's th. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I's. I. I's. I's. I's. I's. I's. I's. I's th. I's th. I's th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. I'm th. I'm th. that this friend kept giving him when he asked. He wanted something bad.
Starting point is 00:46:45 Why? Yeah, it's fixed mindset because it's just like, oh, I'm bad at sex. And that's a flat line. It's like there's no room to communicate with each other. It doesn't, I don't know. It just, there was clearly no trust there. Yeah, because it feels like if they had a really, really strong bond and the, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, the, the, A, he would have found out before him, but like, let's say it even got here.
Starting point is 00:47:08 He could have taken it to her and said, you know, is there any way that we can improve our sex life together? Yeah, literally. That's, that's a, I think that's an extremely normal thing. Yeah, especially for a married couple to like talk about these kinds of things. Yeah. No, it was truly like, I would say like a first test as a married couple and they failed it very badly. It almost seems like he just wasn't willing to grow with her.
Starting point is 00:47:37 I mean, it's just, it makes sense, like, why was he asking? Why? Like, it's clearly, like, and the fact that he was so willing to just break up and not even have a conversation to try and fix it, like, so clearly, maybe this relationship wasn't meant to be, because clearly he wasn't ready for it. The top comment is pretty much exactly what we're saying. Does it seem weird to anyone else that the OP is begging his friend to tell him bad things his fiance is saying about him. I'm just trying to imagine that happening in real life. If I thought my fiance, now wife, had been saying bad things about me behind my back, I wouldn't have married her. This whole
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Starting point is 00:49:32 to Kylie. If Amy had only told me and not her friends, I would have definitely still felt hurt, but at least this would have only been between us. I definitely wouldn't have broken up with her either and would have even tried to improve our sex life. I always asked Kylie what Amy thought about me because yes, I was insecure and I wanted to fix any of my flaws before marriage. But I never expected that it would have been about my sex life. I thought maybe a character flaw, maybe I wasn't romantic enough or not taking her out on enough dates or something along those lines, but never about my sex life. I felt even more hurt after hearing that that that th maybe maybe maybe maybe maybe maybe maybe maybe maybe maybe maybe maybe maybe th, maybe th, maybe th, maybe th, maybe th, maybe th, maybe th, maybe th, maybe th, maybe th, maybe th, maybe th, maybe th, maybe, maybe, maybe, maybe, maybe, what th, what th, what th, what that, what thi, what thi, what that, what that, what that, what that, what that, what that, what that, what thi, what that, what that, what that, what th, what th, what th, what th, what th, what th, what what th, what what th, what th, what th, what th, what th, what th, what th, what th, what th, what th, what th, what I thi, what I thi, what I thi, what I thi, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, what I that, but never about my sex life. I felt even more hurt after hearing that Amy said I wasn't great at sex because Amy never gave me any indication of that in five years. But now I'm too ashamed to face her friends, especially Kylie. Kylie has reached out to me many times, but I'm too embarrassed to even text her
Starting point is 00:50:18 now. I understand how my actions have had a lot of unintended cascading effects. I know Amy is hurting really bad now because she was really excited about our marriage and future. My family is hurting really bad, her family is hurting too. Kylie and Aime are no longer on speaking tea tea thau-a-li are no longer on speaking tea. I heard from one of my friends that Kylie broke up with her boyfriend but I'm not sure if that's related to this incident. I already I th I th I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I that th. I that's that's th. I that's thed that's the that's that's that's that's that's that's that's the the the the that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's that's th. that's th. th. th. that's th. th. th. th is th is th th th th is th th the the the the the the the the the the the the the the thr-a thr-a thr-a thr-a' thr-a' thr-a' thr-a'a' thr-a'a'a'a'a' thr-a' thr-a' th and I'm going to be moving to a different state in two months. I have lost not only my fiance but also my best friend who I've known my entire life. Yes I am not in the best of places now mentally but I will try to start fresh in two months. Oh my goodness. It seems like self-sabotagency. Completely huge. I mean, there's a separate conversation to be had of, and I've been kind of going back
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Starting point is 00:51:35 I think it's really important for friends to have people that they can talk to about their relationship in general. It's important to have that space to talk about deep private stuff in case things are going really badly in a relationship. So people can feel safe to talk about that stuff. And like, again, if a relationship is comfortable and secure enough, that shouldn't sway it. And like, yeah, I also the fact that he's like, I thought it was going to be a less, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, the fact that he's like, I thought it was gonna be a less, like a not as bad a problem, like the fact that I neglect her or something.
Starting point is 00:52:08 It's like, bro, sex is the least of your worries. Like it should, like, it, like, sometimes, like that can be the icing on the cake of a relationship. Some people, that is the entire foundation, but it's so interesting that he was like, I know I'm good at sex, so this hurts. Like, that's crazy. Although, you know, I do want to point out how, when he did ask her about initially, she was like, no, you're great.
Starting point is 00:52:34 You're fantastic. Like, they did not have very good communication. I think that they could both, or he could feel like, and he could feel like, he, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. to, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, that's, that's that's that's thi, that's that's tho. that's to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to, maybe he was just trying to figure out what it was. But I wonder if she lived, I wonder if she kind of knew like, oh, if I say one negative thing about him, it's gonna be a conversation. If he's highly insecure like that, he's probably shown signs that he can't necessarily handle hearing that. Um, because he completely uprooted his entire life over it. Yes. Over one, over him pleading for it.
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Starting point is 00:53:53 Oh man. That's so funny. Curious about your thoughts about that one in the comments because that guy... Who? Poor guy, dude. I don't know. He he th, I. Well, I don't know. He buried his own grave. He did, I mean, dug up his own grave and he buried himself in it.
Starting point is 00:54:07 I just think all of it comes down to trust of just like any, there's almost like everything is fine if the couple has trust in each other and know that they have each other and that they are going to be honest with each other and that they are going to be honest with to be honest with to be honest with to be honest with to be honest with to be honest with to be honest with to be honest with to be honest with to be honest with to through anything together. Like, then you almost don't care. Like, none of it's a problem. But this, they're operating on such a fragile state that this was gonna happen. Like, this is what happens. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:54:34 I hope the two best friends severing ties. I hope that's short-lived. Yeah. That's a really sad outcome. Yeah, yeah. I think they'll have to eventually, if they're both willing, make up because he really forced it out. Yeah, and they were drinking and stuff. There's, it's got a lot of layers to do it. So I, yeah, yeah. Much to think about.
Starting point is 00:54:59 But moving on, our next one comes from relationship advice. Flew eight hours to see my friend and I, a 28-year-old woman, am mortified by his behavior, 33-year-old man. I'm struggling to believe this just happened. I'm mortified and extremely embarrassed. Jason and I have been friends for many years. We met at university and we were in the same friendship group. We stayed in touch after he flew home to Canada.
Starting point is 00:55:25 I always had strong feelings for Jason after we spent hours a day talking. I adored this guy, thought he was intelligent, funny, endearing, and I got the feeling he felt the same way. He invited me to visit him and I agreed, as I've always wanted to check out his city. Book my flight in Airbnb and I still A weekend and I still haven't seen him. I asked about us meeting up and he eventually invited me out for drinks with him and his female friend I had never met before. I head to the restaurant and they're both finishing their dinner when I get there. We're in a booth and they're sitting together. I'm on the opposite side. The first hour was fine then thin thin thin thin. Then thin's th thi thin's thin's thin's thin's thin' thin' thin' thin' thin' thin' thin' thin' thin' thin' thin' thin' thin'-i's thi. thi. thi's thi. I thi. their their thi's thi' thi. I've thi. I've thi. I've thi. I've thi. I've thi. I've thi. I've thi. I've their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their their fi. I I's their fiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii' fi. I'm their fi'n'n'n'n'n'n'n' fi'n'n'n'n'-a'n'n'-a'- me. Every time I tried to signal to leave, Jason would order me another drink on his tab, but
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Starting point is 00:56:27 I said yes, since Jason and I have barely spoken since I arrived. Same thing happened there. I'm ignored and then Jason starts throwing random stuff at me. I was not to leave and he asked me to come out onto the balcony. I did so. I told him I've been asked on a date with someone in the city and he said nothing. He suddenly sprinted inside and left me alone on the balcony. Seriously, what is happening? I asked him when he is heading home. He said he is staying the night with her. Great. I then leave. Jason doesn't even look up from his phone to say goodbye. I walk home alone at 2 a.m. back to my Airbnb. He then messages me telling me to get home safe. I asked him if him him him him him him him him him. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, he, the th. He th. He th. He th. th. th. th. th. the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the th. th. th. th. the. the. the. the. the tod. the the. the the. the. the the. the the the the. the the the the then messages me telling me to get home safe. I asked him if I just third wheeled and he insisted I didn't, that she's just a friend. I asked if he wanted to meet up again. He declined saying he's too busy. I just flew eight hours for that. I am actually mortified. How could he treat me with such disregard and disrespect? How could he invite his fuck buddy along to dinner with us, then spend the night thoing thoing thoing thoing thoing thoing thoing the night thoing the night the night thoing the night the night the night tho. the night tho. I tho. I throwing throwing throw throw throw thrown't throwing the the the thr-n' thi. I'm thi. He's to to be to be told. He's. He's. He's. He's. He's. He's. He's. He's. He's. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He's, he. He's, he. He's, he's, he's, he's, he's, he's t. t. tttte. te. te. ttte. te. th. th. th. th. th. th. the. th. us? Then spend the night throwing ice cubes at me.
Starting point is 00:57:25 What in the... What? What is... My skin is crawling and I feel sick? What is the best way to look at this situation? Because right now, I am humiliated. What the hell? What? The fuck is going on? Yes, yes, they're three years old, right? Yeah. What the hell? And then he started throwing blocks at me, and then, like, what? And he was like, don't want to look at my beanie babies? What the hell is going on?
Starting point is 00:57:53 What the hell? That's, I can't even begin to respond to that. This has got to be the most confusing story I've ever read in my entire life. I'm like, I'm reading into a lot of things as I do. But like, the fact that she came out there and like almost a week goes by and he's just dodging her is so crazy. He invited her out there. Yeah. And then for them to be there and then him, they finished their dinner before she, like, like she's completely been the afterthought, the other other............... And, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like afterthought, the other, in this whole experience.
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Starting point is 00:58:57 like honestly it's important that that situation happened because she should run. Oh he is not emotionally intelligent enough to even like, like no way. I am super confused by the behavior because it's just weird. My only guess is like was he thinking there was gonna be some sort of sexual thing? Yeah, like did he think there's a three-so? Like some sort of, that's my, but I'm, I'm not even sure about that.
Starting point is 00:59:22 I'm like, is this guy on drugs, like, like, like, like, like, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, is, th, is, is, thi, thi, is, thi, is, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, sure about that. I'm like, is this guy on drugs? I'm like, nothing can be explained. This is just weird behavior. Um, a couple comments. That's a relationship slash friend friendship ender. I just ghost, never talked to him again. Yeah. I, I, I think I'd be at that boat at that point. I'm like, you basically always wanted to visit, and you know not to waste any more time on this guy.
Starting point is 00:59:47 He sounds massively immature and that he likes the attention he got from you. Put your energies into someone else and just enjoy the remaining time you have in the city, seeing as it's unlikely you'll have a reason to return. Someone said, honestly my gut instinct is telling me he me he was trying for a threesome and chickened out. Chickened out, yeah, the chickening out makes sense. Right, because throwing ice cubes is usually the first way to show someone that you want to have sex with them. Update. So we're about to, maybe we'll get an answer here because I need everything. I am legitimately scared. I don't know how this goes. So yeah, where do I even begin after this absolute nightmare? Unfortunately, I'm now remembering more of the night.
Starting point is 01:00:27 At one point we were in the girl's apartment. She grabbed his ass and started fondling his ass like I wasn't there while I awkwardly watched from about five feet away. I felt completely embarrassed and like I was third wheeling. He then proceeded to stay the night. I walked home alone across the city at 3 a.m. He texted me telling me to get home safe while I was in total disbelief. And I can't lie I'm in pain. I adored this guy. I wouldn't have accepted his invitation to fly eight hours to see him if I didn't. He told me to book a flight, hotel and to also let him know when it was done, just for him to humiliate me.
Starting point is 01:01:07 We've known each other for years at university. He has never acted like this before. He contacted mea after I flew home, insisting that this girl isn't a fuck buddy and said that I acted weird, then proceeded to block me on messenger so I couldn't respond. I acted weird. My head is that odd odd odd odd odd odd odd odd odd odd odd odd that I that I that I that I that I that I that I that I thia thia thia the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the. the. the. the. the' the' the' the. the. the. the. the the the. their to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to thu. thu. thu. to thu. thu. the. the. toldlde. thean. thean. thean. thean. thean. thea. thea thea the thea. My head is spinning. Is it odd that I feel a bit shell-shocked by this? What the hell was his game plan here? Why would anyone feel the need to act so cruel? Okay, so I'm just more confused now. That's crazy. Like gas lighting, too? Like actually, you were weird. It was weird,
Starting point is 01:01:40 it was weird that you weren't throwing ice tubes. This feels like, this is like the actual textbook definition of gas lighting, because it's like, what world did you warp me into? And it works, she's almost like, am I crazy? Yeah. Really? Like, um, stunning. I am so curious in the comments what your theories are because I got nothing. the thate.
Starting point is 01:02:03 . . I got nothing. I truly have nothing on this. I think she should have caught the ice cubes in her mouth and played along. It was a game. It was a game. It was a game. Yeah. No, I mean, because even if he was expecting some sort of behavior from her that she normally has, her showing up to a some, a meal that had already ended, she wasn't really
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Starting point is 01:03:26 Seed. Oh, God. And some knives and some ice cubes. Let me know in the comments. Give me, give me some answers. Okay. Next story. Okay.
Starting point is 01:03:38 This comes from today I fucked up. Today I fucked up by showing my friend their doppelganger. I was on the tube tthe way to see some friends in North London. Whilst looking around on the tube to pass the time, I noticed someone a few seats down that looked remarkably similar to an old friend of mine who I hadn't spoken to or seen for a while, although this person was a lot rougher round the edges and about 20 kilograms heavier than my friend is. As a resemblance was uncanny, I decided to sneak a quick photo of the person to send to my friend. When I got out of the tube and regained service on my phone, I sent them a message with the photo, with the caption,
Starting point is 01:04:11 This guy looks just like you if you packed on some pounds. Oh boy. The message was not what I was expecting! I haven't been able to respond yet. I'm too embarrassed. I feel truly awful about it, though. Serves me right for being a bit of a twat. Holy shit! Oh my God! I'm glad you didn't say like rough around the edges, but still, but still, it was implied.
Starting point is 01:04:49 This looks like you if you were a freaking ugly piece of shit. This is you if you were gross. Oh my god, that's so embarrassing. That sucks. Imagine receiving like a paparazzi stalker photo of you and someone saying this is you if you were... I just feel uncomfortable taking photos of strangers. Yeah, even that's just not right. I mean, that's not worth like starting a conversation with someone you haven't talked to in
Starting point is 01:05:16 a while. That's not the opener. Right. Right. Unless you go it in a joke, you go, you send the pick and you go, this you? And then if they go, yes, you go, cool. And if it wasn't, to be like, yeah, I didn't think so, ha ha ha. Maybe the way he comes back is like, yeah, yeah, well you look, and I like that. And I like that, you look good, you oh wow that was a that was just a little cringy yeah Yeah some comments lockdown got me too though you didn't even recognize me in
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Starting point is 01:06:27 That's rough. That sucks. That is really unfortunate. Yeah, I feel like the first one was, ah, no, there's no right way to respond to that. There's no right way to get yourself out. Oh, no. But also, like, it's been years and you haven't seen't thaged. It's been years and you haven't seen someone, you're like, oh, it's like, do you not think that maybe they've changed with time?
Starting point is 01:06:46 Yeah. People change with time. Especially lockdown, like, yeah. Rough. That's rough. That's just one, yeah, one big foot in mouth emoji. Who? Yeah.
Starting point is 01:06:59 Here's our last story comes from am I the asshole for telling my girlfriend to choose me or her best.. the th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, th, th, th, people people people people, th, th, people, people people people people people people people people, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, th Am I the asshole for telling my girlfriend to choose me or her best friend? Classic case. Classic. We know about this scenario. This is a good setup. Let's see how it unfolds. My girlfriend, who's 25 and I, a 26 year old man, have been together for four years. She's been best friends with her friend, also 25, since middle school, a 25-year-old woman. Before I came into the picture, they were attached at the hip, and then the best friend forever got jealous of how often my girlfriend and I were together. For our entire relationship, she's been manipulative of my girlfriend,
Starting point is 01:07:42 and not at all understanding, especially when my girlfriend cancels plans with the BFF to hang out with me. She has also said repeatedly that I'm abusive and controlling even though she exclusively dates guys who are assholes. It all came to a head tonight when we were all out together. The BFF was going on and on about her new job and my girlfriend finally interrupted to talk about our vacation instead. The BFF got upset and asked if my girlfriend even knew where she worked because my girlfriend was never around anymore. The BFF started crying in the middle of a bar and about how her feelings get hurt when my girlfriend cancels on their plans or doesn't reply to texts.
Starting point is 01:08:16 I had enough and asked why she was so obsessed with my girlfriend and always needed to get attention about me being controlling. Then her blow hard boyfriend got involved and threatened me with physical violence. Everyone split up after that and the BFF texted my girlfriend to try to manipulate her some more by saying sorry she started the fight and saying she wanted some space for a while. My girlfriend started crying about how much it all upsets her, and after four years I was just kind of tired of it and told her that she needed to choose between me and the BFF. She got upset with me and told me that she couldn't choose between us and it wasn't fair to ask her to, even though the BFF is always starting drama. Am I the asshole here or is the BFF just a psycho?
Starting point is 01:08:56 Oh, okay. Okay. Um, okay. My thought is like regardless of the friend's behavior, I just think you're an asshole if you make someone choose between. Like that's a bad, that's a horrible way to like solve problems. Yeah. It didn't have to go that way. Like, I think it's one thing, because then he made it about him when it's not.
Starting point is 01:09:18 He's not the issue. It's this BFF. Like, and I, if I was in his shoes, I would have been like, hey, you know, maybe this BFF isn't that great of a friend if they keep causing these problems for you, like, and be there to support the girlfriend, and not, rather than making her choose. She's already going through enough. She watched her choose. She's already going through enough. She watched her best friend's boyfriend threatened to assault her boyfriend. Like that's a lot and obviously that happened to him too, but like we don't need to add on to it and make more like emotional struggle. Yeah, a couple comments.
Starting point is 01:09:58 You're the asshole. What makes you think you have the right to give your girlfriend an ultimatum because you don't like her best friend? Her best friend is right. When you make plans with someone and then ditch them for your boyfriend even once, that's bad. But over and over again, is she ditching the plans because maybe you're the manipulator here? You don't seem like a reliable narrator at all. Oh. Interesting. I get that. I mean, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see, I see both, I see both, I see, I see, I th. I see, I see both, I th. I th. I th. I th. I. I th. I. I th. I th. I th. I that. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. I th. I th. I th. I th. I that. I also think like if like this girlfriend is part of this too.
Starting point is 01:10:25 She's the one making this choice so like I don't know I'm not I'm not defending the boyfriend but I'm also like I'm wondering like maybe this best friend wasn't like if the girlfriend was choosing her boyfriend maybe I don't know that happens a lot when people get into a relationship they kind of disappear from their friend group so she like you you know, if things get really serious, but we're all adults. I, I, a lot of his, I do agree that he's maybe an unreliable narrator though based on a lot of his wording, you know, he's, he's so like, he's so like, he's weird is, she has also said repeatedly that I'm abusive and controlling, even though she exclusively dates guys who are assholes.
Starting point is 01:11:06 It's like, that's a different thing? Not related at all. That is a separate thing, man. So what is your rebuttal actually? No. Actually. It's very true. It's very much like when you've read previous stories where it's like, you can tell by the way way, the way, the way, the way, the way, the way, the way, the way, the way, the way, the way, the way, the way, the way, the way, the way, the way, the best. He's just consistently throwing out that this friend is manipulative and controlling,
Starting point is 01:11:27 but not giving us examples. Yeah. Just trying to paint her away, it's like, hey man, with Reddit stories on Am I the asshole, it's like, it's very important from reading so many of them of just like, give us the events, give us the quotes. Don't just be like, oh, and this person's th, and th, and th, and th, and th, and thu, and th, and thu, and thi, and thi, and thi, and thi, and thi, and thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, th, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi, thi... thi. thri. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi, just, th quotes. Don't just be like, oh and this person's an asshole. It's like, that's not enough. I don't know. He threw in his interpretation and he's like, she's manipulative, or they're manipulative, and then he's now trying to justify that feeling that he has without necessarily giving evidence. She texted my girlfriend trying to manipulate her some more by saying, sorry she started the fight and saying she wanted some space. the space I'm like, that's so manipulative apologizing. Yeah and giving space. Yeah, having boundaries and apologizing don't ever do it. It's very true.
Starting point is 01:12:12 Okay, we have a comment here that's basically an update. It's a friend of the girlfriend. Not the friend in question that he's calling manipulative. This is just another perspective which is probably the most valid that we could get. Yeah. Because this is someone, this is someone uninvolved, technically. Third party perspective. Yes, I'm worried. I think I might be about to eat my words, huh?
Starting point is 01:12:34 I'm like, I'm like, let's see. Let's see, let's see. Let's see. th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th th thee. thee. thee. this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this is this. this. this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this this is this is this is this is this is this is this is this is this is this is this is th. th. th. th. thi. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. this is someone. this is someone. this is this is this is someone. this is someone. this Until now, I've been a casual reader of this sub, but after reading this one, I had to make an account and reply because I'm fairly certain, I'm part of this friend's circle and witnessed this all go down last night. Everyone is right that you are the most unreliable narrator who left out so many details.
Starting point is 01:12:58 Let me clear this up. First, we all asked about her new job and wanted to hear all the details. She's so excited about it because it's her dream job, which your girlfriend knows. That girl worked her ass off to get it, so she gets to talk about it as much as she wants to talk about it. You two don't like hearing about anything that isn't about yourselves. Specifically about you, Jake. Second, your girlfriend has never known how to balance a boyfriend with healthy friend relationships. I've known them both since college. She's insecure, immature, and self-centered.
Starting point is 01:13:28 That's how you're able to control her. The only reason you two get invited anywhere anymore is because her BFF and her boyfriend insist it would be rude not to invite her. Because you're a package deal. We're stuck with you too. Third, you were never threatened with physical violence. You're a six-four dude who got in a crying girl's face to scream at her and her boyfriend told you to back up and put himself in between the both of you. Fourth, she was only crying because you were calling her names. This also isn't the first time you've called her names.
Starting point is 01:13:56 You literally called her a psycho in your post. Fifth, you make your girlfriend cancel on this poor girl at least one to two times a month. Oh no! I've seen the text from your girlfriend cancelling because you came up with some bullshit about how you don't get enough time with her. Sixth, she only calls you a controlling asshole because you are one. You convinced your girlfriend to stop talking to her for a period of time when she was very depressed and suicidal because you said her being suicidal was also manipulation. Seventh, if anyone is manipulative in that friendship, it's your girlfriend. I've also seen the text where she told her BFF not to text her while she's with you at your request. Not to expect a response from her ever because she doesn't deserve one and not to get
Starting point is 01:14:38 upset when she cancels because she isn't owed any time. The girl apologizes so much because your girlfriend has convinced her she's a bad person slash needy slash clingy. Lastly, Jake, if this is you and I really don't see how it couldn't be unless there are two asshole guys who think they're related to Tony Stark and went off on their girlfriend's BFS in a bar last night, the entire friend group agrees, you're the asshole. I'll be sending them all screenshots of this post. His username is a Tony Stark. Oh my God.
Starting point is 01:15:08 Wow. O.P. responds. Jake responds. Mind your own business because you don't know half of what goes on. All right, he just lost. He just lost it. Wow. Hey, dude, stop saying the to say truth. My God! He just lost it. Wow! Wow!
Starting point is 01:15:25 Shut up. Hey dude, stop saying truth. Oh my God. Friend responds to that. Buddy, you made it the world's business, L-O-L. Now you're mad you, A, got caught, and B, got paged as the asshole. If you want to talk about it, text me because I'm not about to fight with you on here. Well, they're about to fight about it. Oh, God. Hope responds, I don't get why you had to come on here
Starting point is 01:15:49 and start drama. I was just venting because this always happens when we get together as a group. She goes nuts. He gets all big and tough, and you stick your nose where it doesn't belong. I feel like a high school. I'm I'm like like like like I'm like I'm like I'm like I'm like I'm like I'm like I'm like. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm watching. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. th. th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm th. I'm watching Mori Povey. This is Riverdale before it went fantasy. Yeah. First, you're the one who posted to start drama. Second, good thing it's Sunday because you need some quality time with Jesus and a therapist. Third, you were never threatened. You picked a fight with a girl who's a foot
Starting point is 01:16:18 shorter than you and her boyfriend told you to stop. Period. End of story. Everyone stay tuned for Jake's to. to. toe. toe. tha. tha. tha. thoe. tho. tho. tho. tho. tho. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. the the thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. the thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. thi. theeeeeeei. theiii. theiiii. theii. theeea. thi. the assul for lying on Reddit and getting caught oh fuck the friend then posted an update to add my god this is so hot the the BFF mentioned in this post is fine I told her that everyone is on her side which has made her feel a little better about it she's in a really good place in her life right now and is grateful for anyone who's reached out. The girlfriend is now single. This post and the backlash from everyone, including her mom, made her realize that he was such a shitty guy. I know some people were worried about domestic violence, but she's staying with people right now people are here if she wants to talk. Not sure where their friendship stands right now,
Starting point is 01:17:07 but that's for them to work out while everyone else supports them. Jake, the O.P., has been blocked on all social media by basically everyone. Hopefully he finds himself a good therapist. Thank you to everyone who has commented, message out. You're all amazing people for caring about two girls you don't even know. Keep standing up for those who need it. This isn't an uncommon situation, so don't be afraid to reach out if you need help or think
Starting point is 01:17:29 someone needs help. Wow! Wow, dude! Wow! That exploded! That got crazy. to feel justified in their actions. As they do. Yeah, like that was the only, I don't think they were actually wondering if they were the asshole.
Starting point is 01:17:47 They just wanted to know that like, yeah, they're in the right. They painted a nasty picture to make themselves look good. There are a lot of, you know, I always am curious with reddit posts of like, And the ones that get called out, it's a lot of times, it's people who use specific types of language. He's sitting here calling a woman a psycho, and it's like, but you're not giving us the actual
Starting point is 01:18:12 play-by-play of what happened. You're just using adjectives. And it's like, a lot of times when it's that, it's like, all right, I don't know if you're the real story. We're giving us all of it and it's very clear he's not. Yeah. I really like the these posts where they really are genuinely curious. Am I the asshole? Like genuinely wondering, I want your feedback? But people like this are just posting so that they can get like a jury to say not guilty or something. Yeah and it's also it's also poignant that he's really leaving out everything from his end. Exactly. You know, when they're not including what they said,
Starting point is 01:18:47 when they're not including what they've done, it's like, all right, so you're just saying the shitty things someone else did, but... That's tough. What, what's burned on these things? Just because they want the jury to say not guilty to them. They want to feel justified just justified justified justified justified justified justified justified justified justified justified justified just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just just. So that's it. Just once, yeah, just wants affirmation.
Starting point is 01:19:03 I really wanted to give the couple the benefit of the doubt, but like that sounded like a really toxic situation and that's, it's really awesome that that friend found the post and came in and like that clearly was the catalyst that finally broke up that relationship but also, yeah, I mean it is, like I said, like, I mean it is like, thii. thr-I th. th. thin, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, th. that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, is, like I said, when I was trying to almost in favor of the couple, I was like, yeah, you know, I think friends tend to like notice their friends slip away once they go into a relationship and there's always a thought in the back of your mind of like, is he controlling her time? And like, so that is what happened here clearly and she really fell into it it and like that sucks for that friend. I'm really glad that that friend had the support like wow. Bravo to this the the legend
Starting point is 01:19:52 here is the the the friend here who hopped in. Yeah like that person that person she popped up really went crazy. Bravo to them. Wow a lot of great stories today. Yeah lot of great stories. I tend to like forget to read into the wording. I did like you saw me react when he when he first called her a psych. I was like okay but I didn't read into that enough of like clearly he talks about people a certain way for a reason. Dang. No it's interesting stuff. I feel like today more than ever we had th. th. th. th. th. to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to th th th th th th th th to th th th the. to to th. to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to to th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. th. the. the. the. the. the. the. the. the the. the the the the try. try. toda. today, today, the. to to to to to to the it's interesting stuff. I feel today more than ever we had some cut and dry 100% assholes. Oh yeah, a lot of them and then a very wholesome story. Yeah. And I cried, Courtney, piss on the floor.
Starting point is 01:20:36 Yes. Yes. Yes. That was great. More friend stories. Yeah. Love friendship stories. Some good stuff. And also the most confusing story I've ever read. Yeah. Yeah friend stories. Yeah. Love friendship stories. Uh, some good stuff. And also the most confusing story I've ever read in the entire life. Really curious. I would throw some real quick. Yeah, yeah. I'm going to be reading the comments on that and figuring it out. Thank you both for being here. Thank you. That was fun. Friendship boy we. Wee. Yeah. Yeah. I'm going to be reading the comments. Yeah. Yeah. I'm the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the most. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I the most. Yeah. I the most. I the most the most the most the most the most. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I the most. I the most. I the most. I the most. I the the most. I the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the most. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I th. Yeah. Yeah. I th. I th. Yeah. Yeah. I th. Yeah. Yeah. I the the the the the the most. Yeah. I the the the Thank you. This was awesome. It's fun. Friendship Boys We! Yeah! Thank you guys for watching. Let us know what other themes, subreddits you want us to cover, and see you next Saturday. Goodbye. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

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