Something Was Wrong - S12 E2: People Are Watching

Episode Date: April 7, 2022

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Hey, prime members, you can listen to something was wrong early and add free on Amazon music. Download the app today. I'm Candace DeLong, and on my new podcast, Killer Psychie Daily, I share a quick 10-minute rundown every weekday on the motivations and behaviors of the cold-butter killers you read about in the news. Listen to the Amazon Music Exclusive Podcast Killer Psychie Daily in the Amazon Music exclusive podcast killer psyche daily in the Amazon music app. Download the app today. Something was wrong is intended for mature audiences. Episodes can discuss topics that can be triggering such as emotional, physical, and sexual
Starting point is 00:00:36 violence, suicide, and murder. I am not a therapist or a doctor. If you're in need of support, please visit something was wrong.com slash resources. For a list of nonprofit organizations that can help, some names have been changed for anonymity purposes. Opinions expressed by the guests on the show are their own and do not necessarily represent the views of myself or audio chuck. Resources and source material are linked in the episode notes. Thank you so much for listening. I didn't sleep that whole night. I had these weird lucid dreams of the government coming
Starting point is 00:01:43 for me. I also sat up and was doing research all night, what to expect. So I was like, okay, so you can come over. So he came over the next morning and he sat down with me on the couch and he laid out his story and he's like, here's what happened. When Rusmam was pregnant with her, she was about eight months in, and I was out at a coffee shop, and he's like, I don't even drink coffee, and he doesn't drink coffee, and he's like, that's probably why I don't drink it anymore.
Starting point is 00:02:13 I was out at a coffee shop in the city, and there was a table of five people near me, and these guys, these two guys, parked their car in front of the place, and walked in and shot the five people next to me. All five of them. And left. And he's like, and I hit under a table.
Starting point is 00:02:31 And I was close enough that literally blood splattered on me. And not long after that, within a 12-hour period, the government showed up and spoke to me and two other people, maybe three other people, that also witnessed this and explained that these guys were dangerous. They were part of a, I think it was a drug cartel, is what he told me. And that they were taking him into witness protection and that they needed him to testify
Starting point is 00:03:00 because putting this one guy behind bars is gonna help them out a lot. And that now you're in this, and he's like, and then they showed up at Ruth's mom's door to tell her, it's amazing. And so, me and Ruth and her mom have been in this program ever since. It's me, mostly.
Starting point is 00:03:16 And he's like, but Ruth and her mother are unfortunately catalysts of this whole thing. They also have to be kept safe because, you know, it's all kind of crazy and dangerous. And so I'm sitting there like, what the hell? I'm wide-eyed. Now, I come from a family of cops and firefighters.
Starting point is 00:03:34 So I have heard stories from my dad who was a detective in a big city. I grew up hearing crazy stories from him. So it wasn't totally far, it's wild, but at the same time these things do happen. People get shot every day, and I sat there knowing that. This stuff does happen. When he's sitting there looking me in the eyes
Starting point is 00:03:58 and telling me this whole story, I mean, it's wild, but it's not the wildest thing in the world. So now he's like, that's why you can't find me online. Because all of my stuff, I cannot be on the internet. I have to keep my stuff really, really private. It's just how it is. That's also why I was on your doorstep early. I have agents that are with me and sometimes they're schedules
Starting point is 00:04:19 when they have to switch over or a little bit off. And they have to make sure I get into a location safely before they switch. I'm sorry if that kind of threw you off. That's also why I don't drive anywhere. They drive me everywhere currently. This has been going on for a couple of years. The court case is happening at the end of this year
Starting point is 00:04:35 and after that, this is all gonna be over. There is a light at the end of this tunnel. I'm not gonna be in this program forever, but I needed to light all of that out for you so that you understand. And then he goes, if you do not want anything to do with me, I totally do not blame you. This is a lot to take in. You have every right to step away right now.
Starting point is 00:04:54 It's like this is a lot to take in. I'm not going to lie. I told him I was going to think about it. And that I needed to learn a lot more. If I was going to stick with him and sign up for this, I needed to learn a lot more. If I was gonna stick with him and sign up for this, I needed to do a lot of learning. I wasn't sure how I felt about it. It's scary and it's dangerous.
Starting point is 00:05:14 And what does that mean for me? There's a lot of questions that are involved. Do I need to talk to the feds? Like, how is this gonna go? He was like, I completely understand. So he left, and that was how he ended that conversation. Kenzie found out about Joe being in witness protection right before he was set to leave for Thailand with his brother for a few weeks early in March 2020.
Starting point is 00:05:35 I had time to think while he was away, which was good. He made me promise not to tell anybody, and I did keep that promise because I was afraid that I was getting tracked. What if the government's listening to my shit right now? What if their eavesdropping on me right now? They could hack into my phone, my computer, my security system, like anything and be listening to me. I'm going to be good because that's what I feel like I need to be doing.
Starting point is 00:06:05 But at the same time, I'm also not completely naive. I wasn't gonna not tell anybody. He's getting ready to leave for Thailand and I'm in this place where I have to think about this. And I decide I need to talk to somebody in a smart way. I decide that I'm gonna go to my really good friends house down the street. I have a key to her place. I'm gonna go to my really good friend's house down the street, I have a key to her place.
Starting point is 00:06:27 I'm gonna let myself in. I'm gonna have a note in my hand that says, leave your phone, we're going for a walk, and I'm gonna tell her everything. I didn't want any electronics with us. Kenzie decided to walk to her friend, Josie's house to share what Joe had told her about being in the witness protection program.
Starting point is 00:06:45 I fly myself at it, it's like 10 o'clock, and I get in there and she wakes up and she was like, what are you doing here? I was like, I need to talk to you. So she's like, okay, and then I like, okay, be quiet. And then I give her this note, and it basically says, I wanna go for a walk, leave your phone, it's important. It was pretty straightforward. She knows me well enough. I want to go for a walk, leave your phone, it's important, it was pretty straightforward.
Starting point is 00:07:06 She knows me well enough, I am the opposite of a drama queen, I'm like the peacemaker of everybody, I'm the one who makes situations more chill, we go for a walk and I tell her everything. And she gives me her honest friend opinion, I chose because she was the one that I knew was going to be the most level-headed and really look at this like realistically. What are the odds of this? Is this real? Is this worth like this connection that I felt the last two months where we're already seeing I love you? I'm really enjoying this person. And she was in a similar boat as me as like these things do actually
Starting point is 00:07:42 happen. We're not supposed to know about them, but more than anything, I want you to be safe. And I'm glad that you have told me, so just like, I'll be the friend that you keep in the loop. That's why I told my friend Josie about all of this because I knew that she was gonna be a good sounding board for me. Finally, it was time for him to head out to Thailand.
Starting point is 00:08:02 And we are still chatting. I haven't written him off. I'm still not quite comfortable. I'm asking a lot of questions. He's sort of giving me the lowdown of what to expect with this situation. He says, I want to call you before I get on the plane. I want to chat with you. I miss you. Sure, great. We talked for like 45 minutes. It was like my whole lunch break. And while we're chatting, he's like, okay, one of the feds is calling me over, I gotta go. I'm getting the look right now, and I was like, okay, no problem. He was really particularly excited about this trip, because he told me that when he was gonna be over in Thailand, that the feds don't actually have to follow him over there, because it's so far away that there's no threat of danger.
Starting point is 00:08:40 And this was gonna be the first time in years that he's really gotten to like be on his own and spend time with his brother, and he was really excited about that freedom. While away, Joe set up a chat app for them to be able to communicate for free internationally. The entire time that he was there, he was in touch with me. We were on 12-hour differences, like you know, it's 12 a.m. here and it's 12 p.m. there. So it was really only half the day that we could chat, but when we could, he was constantly in touch, sending me things the whole time, showing me the room he was staying in, showing me the beach that he was on. I felt so good with how in touch he was with me. Early in a relationship, you don't usually
Starting point is 00:09:22 get that kind of attention, let alone when somebody's halfway across the world And I really appreciated that and that made me feel so Affectionate towards him. I thought we were gonna potentially fizzle out when he left a Thailand Especially after he dropped that bomb on me about witness protection But really we were chatting just as good as ever Being the person that I am who is attracted to personalities, I really liked that. And that was what I was looking for. As he's in Thailand, COVID began, which was terrifying.
Starting point is 00:09:54 I'm here living alone. The pandemic is starting, as we all know, absolutely terrifying. And he's over in Thailand where there was a couple cases there first before they were in America. But in the two weeks that he was there, all of a sudden we had hundreds of cases here in America. They had a case there in Thailand and then they had like four cases in Thailand. It didn't spread as quickly. We were talking about it and we thought maybe because people weren't as in contact there
Starting point is 00:10:19 or just their way of life, they don't shake hands naturally. They stay more of a distance. But it was spreading here very, very quickly. Breaking news tonight, the coronavirus forcing millions more Americans into virtual lockdown over 75 million people in New York, California, Illinois, and Connecticut ordered to stay at home. The U.S. borders to Mexico and Canada set to close to non-essential travel. A spring break crackdown down Florida communities closing beaches in Europe the crisis growing inside the ICU in Italy. I'm sending him photos of the empty grocery stores. I'm telling him what's going
Starting point is 00:10:54 on. He's worried he can't get home so we're getting really really nervous about what is this going to mean. Are you going to be stuck over there? Are they going to close the borders? had started to get crazy here, and we were like, oh no! Yeah, that would be scary when you're traveling. So he was for sure there. Yes, he was for sure there. We did FaceTime.
Starting point is 00:11:16 Did you see his brother on any of the FaceTime's? No, I did not see his brother, and I asked him about that, and he said, my brother's just not a big picture guy He had told me about his brother before his brother was in the military and his brother was like a Shudden totally introverted and so he was like we're not the picture taking kinds of guys like my brother doesn't want me to sit there and like Take a selfie with him So I believed that but he did face time me from the beach and from his hotel and show me around and walk around and
Starting point is 00:11:44 He was like here I am. Everything was shutting down. It was there for two weeks and so much happened in two weeks and he was like, oh my God, I hope I can get back. And he said he had one small plane. They had to de-board and then they had to sterilize the plane and these guys came in with hazmat suits and stuff. And then they could get on the plane and I was like, this sounds bad.
Starting point is 00:12:07 He ended up making it back to the US and everything was fine but by the skin of his teeth. That first lockdown happened maybe like five days after he showed up. When he got back, it was lockdown time and that also really altered my decision on staying because I was alone and I didn't want to be alone for a pandemic. I wanted somebody to be here with me and keep me company and be that other person. So despite the witness protection being terrifying
Starting point is 00:12:34 in the back of my head, it wasn't as scary as being alone for a pandemic. And I was like, you know what? If the feds have kept you alive for three years, I'm sure it'll be fine. Then I was like, I'll sign up for this with you. Let's see how this goes. Because there was just a lot of factors at play
Starting point is 00:12:51 and they were like really intense, weird factors. I remember standing in my kitchen one night, I was spinning. I felt like the room was actually spinning. And my brain was thinking, there's no way this is real life because this doesn't make any sense. This is the shit you see in movies. You're in a global pandemic, you can't leave your
Starting point is 00:13:11 fucking house, you haven't seen anybody you've loved in months, you're in witness protection now. This isn't real. None of this can possibly be real. That moment, I actually felt my brain detached from my body and have a weird out-of-body experience. And I remember thinking to myself, I think I'm about to have a mental breakdown. I think I am right on the verge of things not going well for me mentally. But, like, all worked in his favor. It all worked really great for him. So we're at Tiger King pandemic point. How are you guys spending the time together? We started to get into a pretty good COVID routine. I was working from home and him being
Starting point is 00:13:53 in the film industry meant that his work was non-existent at the time because everything was shut down. And so he was with me every day. He was with me from six in the morning into the night. And we would be watching things like Tiger King and reality TV And we would be drinking during the day because who wasn't doing that at that time? And we found all sorts of ways to keep ourselves busy and have fun I know that the relationship didn't go the way I hoped it would but at the time our relationship was beautiful We moved to the furniture out of the way and he taught me how to dance because he was a dancer.
Starting point is 00:14:29 And we played games and we would take these morning coffee walks together and listen to podcasts and talk about our day. We would get drunk at night and then listen to Broadway and perform in the street. We would just walk up and down the street and perform the songs to each other. We totally kept ourselves completely entertained the entire time. We had so much fun together. I was constantly smiling despite being
Starting point is 00:14:54 in a very scary situation, scary pandemic, and scary with the whole witness protection thing. When I decided that I was gonna stick it all out with him and stay, very consciously decided that. I also really wanted to tell my sister because my sister is my best friend and I tell her everything. But I didn't think I was able to call her and tell her my calls are being tracked.
Starting point is 00:15:18 It's gonna get him in trouble, it's gonna get me in trouble. Keyhead said it could get us arrested, it could get Ruth taken away from him, all sorts of things. I didn't want to do that. When I spoke to Josie, it was perfect, because I was able to see her in person and tell her, and I knew that my information was safe, but once COVID happened, I couldn't see anybody in person.
Starting point is 00:15:35 My friends were very safe about it, very cautious. Most of them fled the city and went home to be with their extended families and whatnot. It left me to have to trust him and trust what was going on. What our daily days looked like is that he, a lot of times, had to stay in different hotels because they moved him around. And the cars would drop him off in the morning.
Starting point is 00:15:57 And he would come from different directions of the house. Sometimes they would have different routes. He would have to walk up different ways to the house to make it not look obvious that a car was dropping him off every day and they would change all the time. We were spending a lot of time together. They would drive by to check on things and sometimes message him and text him. They would have a code word every once in a while that he would have to pick up the phone and say back.
Starting point is 00:16:22 And then we would have to get permission if we wanted to go anywhere, which wasn't really anywhere to go anyway, because of COVID. So we were mostly just taking walks around the neighborhood. And then the cars would follow us. If we were walking around the neighborhood, they would be parked and watching us or they would be following us.
Starting point is 00:16:36 Holy shit. What if you were trafficked into a cult over shot nine times, or fell in love with a vampire, or went into a minor surgery and woke up one week later, paralyzed? What would you do? I'm Whit Missildine, the creator of this is actually happening, a podcast from Wondry that brings you extraordinary true stories of life-changing events told by the people who lived them. From a young man that dooms his entire future with one choice, to a woman who survived a notorious serial killer. You'll hear their first-person account of how they overcame remarkable circumstances.
Starting point is 00:17:20 Each episode is an exploration of the human spirit and personal discovery. These haunting accounts sound like Hollywood movies, but I assure you this is actually happening. Follow this is actually happening wherever you get your podcasts. You can listen ad-free on the Amazon Music or Wondery app. It was a weird time because they started dating during COVID. And at that time, we were all in the lockdown. So I was going back and forth from home, talking to Kenzie through text and her keeping me updated. And then I would come back and I was home. And I could tell that Kenzie was feeling like
Starting point is 00:18:06 she wears her heart on her sleeve. You can tell when she's upset or if something's going on. I was on my way back home and she had texted me asking if she could come over for a wine night and she came in just bawling. I was really scared for her and she didn't want to tell me I was really scared for her and she didn't want to tell me at first what was going on. Then after a couple glasses of wine,
Starting point is 00:18:30 she finally let it out that Joe had experienced this huge trauma. He had seen a mass shooting and he was in witness protection and that the FBI was following her and she was scared. My first reaction was fear for my friend. Seeing her that scared was really scary. I'm mostly worried for her. And the only thing I'd known about witness protection was everything I'd seen on movies. I thought it was weird, some of the stuff.
Starting point is 00:18:59 Like, that he kept his first name. I thought that was weird. That he stayed in the same city. I thought was weird. His daughter was in the same city. I thought was weird. His daughter was in witness protection, but kind of not in witness protection. All of that to me was bizarre. And I remembered Kenzie being like, don't tell anyone.
Starting point is 00:19:15 His phones are bugged, my phone is bugged. People are watching. Summer of 2020, the couple began hanging out with Kenzie's friends at Outdoor Gatherings. We had like a beer pong game going on, so I think by the time I met him, he was already playing a game with everyone, but he was super nice, very pleasant, nothing creepy. And this again might be more hindsight, but definitely looking back, there was a little bit of bragging, talking about his career, what he was working on. I found it acceptable because this is our first time meeting
Starting point is 00:19:53 and we're asking you questions and it's about you. So yeah, you're talking about yourself. Sometimes I felt like he was kind of defensive or trying to put on airs and appeal to your friends, but you know, you kind of take that with the great insult, like it's great. You want to impress me. That means a lot to me trying to make a good impression
Starting point is 00:20:13 on her and everybody. I remember at one point in time, I asked her, who were his friends? I'd love to meet them, build some like color random because I felt like I knew him on a surface level, but I didn't get that in depth like kind of few. He didn't really talk about his work in great detail. In the first time I met him, he was charming, he was nice, but definitely off like I think from the whole time I've always kind of just like had an unsure feeling about him. Did you feel like
Starting point is 00:20:43 he was disingenuous? Yes, and when I met him, Kenzie had told me about him being in witness protection. So I think meeting him in person the first time I was unsure about him. How many times would you say that you were around one another in person, you and Joe? Probably good handful. He had come over to my place a few times for pool parties or game nights, because it was the summer. Probably like 10 times. He came to my birthday and I think we had the party in June.
Starting point is 00:21:17 And that was the first time he ever acted really like weird. We had gone to a brewery. And this brewery is really cool. It has a bunch of picnic tables outside. He can grab a beer and sit outside and chat and we were all sitting at this big picnic table and you looked over at Joe and he was really shifty like his eyes were kind of looking from side to side and he looked like he was about to cry like he was scared. Later, he had pulled me aside and said that he thought he had seen this car pull up and he was scared that it was someone looking for him.
Starting point is 00:21:51 And he was crying to me while he was telling me this. And then he opened up about the trauma he had gone through. And he was crying and he was like, oh, you know, just imagine if you're sitting at this coffee shop and everyone around you is dead, you're covered in their blood and you don't know why you weren't killed and all the trauma he's experienced and how it was so scary for him to be out at the brewery that night. The United States Federal Witness Protection Program, also known as the Witness Security Program
Starting point is 00:22:23 or WITSEC, is a witness protection program administered by the United States Department of Justice and the United States Marshall Service. According to the U.S. Marshall Service, they provide security, health, and safety of government witnesses and their immediate dependents, whose lives are in danger as a result of their testimony against drug traffickers, terrorists, organized crime members, and other major criminals. The Witness Security Program was authorized by the Organized Crime Control Act of 1970 and amended by the Comprehensive Crime Control Act of 1984.
Starting point is 00:23:01 The Witness Security Program has successfully protected approximately 19,000 participants, including victim witnesses and cooperating defendants and their dependent family members, from intimidation and retribution since the program began in 1971. The successful operation of this program is widely recognized as providing a unique and valuable tool in the government's battle against major criminal conspirators and organized crime. Witnesses and their families typically get new identities with authentic documentation. Housing, sub-assistance for basic living expenses and medical care are provided to the witnesses. Job training and employment assistance may also be provided. The U.S. Marshals provide 24-hour protection to all witnesses. Job training and employment assistance may also be provided.
Starting point is 00:23:45 The U.S. Marshals provide 24-hour protection to all witnesses, while they are in a high threat environment, including pre-trial conferences, trial testimonials, and other court appearances. Kenzie really wanted to share with her sister and brother-in-law about the witness protection program, but since she needed to do so in person, the couple decided to fly to her house to deliver the news. Now I'm watching my family and friends be involved in all of it, and I'm feeling much more comfortable. We stayed up there a week and he was like, it's really important to me. He comes to me with this stuff, by the way. he goes, it's really important to me that I have a night where I sit down with your family, especially your sister, and I talk to her, and I tell them what's going on with me, what you've endured being with me because I know it's
Starting point is 00:24:36 been hard on you, and you deserve credit, and yada yada. I want to tell them everything what I witnessed, and what's going on, especially as your family, I think they need to be involved, it's good for you, it's good for us, and I was like, okay, and so he did that, and he sat down with them. And that's a story my sister will tell you. I thought it was insane. It made me really paranoid, because she was saying they watch anybody who's watching him. In any way, like if you're Googling him, they know that you're Googling him,
Starting point is 00:25:06 which as her older sister, I'm Googling the hell out of this guy because I wanna know what he's about, you know? But immediately put me into this place of being totally paranoid about him being under this witness protection thing and these federal agents hacking into my computer to see if I'm Googling this guy. It scared the crap out of me at first,
Starting point is 00:25:26 but the more she told me about the story, the more it seemed, even though it was outrageous, the more it seemed a little bit more believable as the whole thing unfolded. It was like not anything that I've ever experienced or come close to before, but, you know, I don't obviously don't know anything about witness protection.
Starting point is 00:25:43 I thought it was nuts, but I don't know. It's sort of explained a lot of things like why he didn't have any presence whatsoever on social media. I couldn't find a photo of him anywhere. I started researching witness protection and from what I understood, if someone's in witness protection,
Starting point is 00:26:01 it's usually because they've been involved in some sort of crime. We sat down with them, cried at the table, told them what we've been going through, explained that I've been such an amazing support system for him. Now everyone's in on it. And it just is like, okay, so this is just like now. This isn't weird. Why would it be weird?
Starting point is 00:26:22 We all know who's gonna just tell everybody. Looking back, I think he got a high off of that attention. I think it gave him that same kind of high of like, this is my moment. I'm in the spotlight right now and I'm sort of getting all this attention for this. So weird. About five months into our relationship,
Starting point is 00:26:41 he didn't respond to me one night after I texted him, which was not like him. He was always so great at communicating. And it was weird. The next day I texted him and I said, hey, are you okay? That wasn't like you. And he was like, oh my gosh, I'm so sorry I fell asleep. I was in a call with all my siblings. There's something I haven't told you and I was like, okay, it's everything okay. And he was like my mom actually Has cancer. She has cervical cancer and she's been battling it for about two years now and it's getting really bad So all of us did a zoom call together and it's tough because some of them are in England and some of them are here
Starting point is 00:27:30 so we all got together and did a Zoom call and decided that it would be best for her to finish treatment here in the US and she could probably get some better doctors here in the city and that I was gonna, I isn't him, fly her private here and get her, get her set up so that she's taken care of. And I was like, oh my God, I'm so sorry you're dealing with that. And he was like, I didn't want to say anything to you. We've already got so much going on that it was like the last thing I wanted to bring up and I've been hopeful that it was going to get better. So I didn't want to mention it.
Starting point is 00:27:57 And I was like, yeah, I'm so sorry. Within about a couple of weeks, he flew her in. He went and picked her up from the airport. And he was like, she's so frail, she's so skinny. This is heartbreaking. This makes me want to throw up. I haven't seen her in maybe like a year or now, and it's just amazing how much weight she's lost from the chemo. It's killing me.
Starting point is 00:28:16 I was like, I'm so sorry. They brought her right to the hospital. They set her up. He got a nice, sweet thing. And it was tough, because it's COVID, so that meant no real visitors. They were really strict about the siblings coming in, and obviously, if you weren't family, a nice, sweet thing. And it was tough because it's COVID. So that meant no real visitors. They were really strict about the siblings coming in. And obviously, if you weren't family,
Starting point is 00:28:29 you couldn't see that person. That kind of sucked for me because I wanted a meter. And I couldn't, because of COVID. And that was pretty upsetting. We went through this grueling couple months. She was declining when she came here. And the first thing they did was a surgery when she was here and they were pretty hopeful that it was gonna help. He gave me the exact details about it. I cannot remember anymore. But it didn't go as well as they planned
Starting point is 00:28:58 and they couldn't get all the cancer out and she's got sick or sicker. Her being sick was devastating to him. He would come over and just cry, just cry. He would get really emotional telling memories about her when they would go golfing and she had these pink golf clubs and how she is who got him into dancing. She was a dancing tractor and he remembered watching her dance for the first time and loving it and asking if he could do that too. She was so proud of him that her son was asking
Starting point is 00:29:29 to dance. He really loved his mom a lot. He would sit by her bedside and watch TV with her and as things started to progress he was explaining how she was on a ventilator and he would be sitting in the room, and all he could hear would be the ventilator, and her, the beeps from the machines, and how it was really depressing him, and all of it was just a lot, it was really awful. So that was always also going on in the background.
Starting point is 00:29:59 He had to go stay with her and check on her, and that was pretty tough. Through all of this, he wasn't really seeing Ruth because there was way too much going on. His mom, COVID, us, it was just way too much. And also with the pandemic now being in play, people were being more protective about their families and their kids and stuff.
Starting point is 00:30:17 And so, Ruth's mom was like, you're out and about, you're in and out of a hospital. I'm not going to let Ruth be around you. This is just not worth risking any of us getting sick. Had you met his daughter or spoken with her? At this point, I had still not met his daughter or spoken with her. He was very protective of her,
Starting point is 00:30:35 one, because of witness protection, two, because we were so fairly early on in our relationship. I've been around kids a lot and have a lot of friends who have kids and I understood being reserved in introducing your kid to somebody new. We were six months in and I could see that still being on the sooner side. If we were starting to talk about things like marriage and stuff which we were not talking
Starting point is 00:30:59 about those things, then yes, I should meet her by now, but it was still pretty early on. So I wasn't too stressed about it, and with everything going on too, my mind was definitely completely distracted. When I first started talking to him, his assistant told me, this man never dates.
Starting point is 00:31:16 I don't know what it is that you did that made him wanna turn this into a date instead of an interview, because he never, ever dates. He just works and he's with his daughter. You must have put some kind of spell on him because this is not like him at all. I remember thinking, I wonder why?
Starting point is 00:31:32 He's got a lot going for him. He's got a good job. He's handsome. He's easy to be around. He's funny. Why did this man not date? And later I found out it was because of witness protection. He was like, I can't date, I can't date in this program.
Starting point is 00:31:46 Are you kidding me? This is terrible putting somebody through this. This is stressful, it's not fair. I myself have been dealing with it mentally. I've been focusing on my job and my daughter. Ruth had never met anyone. There had never been a girlfriend. There had never been a potential stepmother figure.
Starting point is 00:32:02 So that was another reason he was really protective of her because he had never done this before. He had only known life being a single dad for the last four years. He didn't know what it was like to introduce somebody else. And I made him really nervous. I get that. It's a lot.
Starting point is 00:32:15 I was always very patient about it. It's not my place to say how people should parent. After a few months of Joe's mom receiving medical treatment in the United States, he shared with Kenzie that her health had worsened. As she was deteriorating, they were given their six weeks to live. And he was like, mom's last wish was to see the ocean before she passes away. He's like, I don't know how I'm going to pull this off with COVID because people can't fly right now, but we're going to see if we can get her down to Mexico with all the siblings and just somewhere so that we can give her that last wish. She really wanted to, she had never seen
Starting point is 00:32:53 Mexico. She wanted to go down there. He had a lot of money and he had access to a private plane and he was like, I'm going to use the perks and money I have and see if I can swing this despite it being COVID. He got all the siblings together and they went down there and he sent pictures. Now he never sent pictures with the siblings in them again because of all of his boundaries that he had with witness protection and whatnot, but he was like, yeah, we're down here for our final days. It was really emotional. He called me and told me about sitting on the beach with her and some of his last conversation, some of his siblings' last conversations.
Starting point is 00:33:31 It was all definitely very emotional for him. There was only so much I could do, but I was emotionally and mentally supportive and always there when he needed to talk and call and chat and we chat it all the time. They were in Mexico for maybe four or five days. It wasn't super long, and came back in about a week after that, she ended up on the ventilator,
Starting point is 00:33:50 and then she was on the ventilator for maybe a week and a half, everyone kind of knew, and it's sort of like, you know, you get your last wind, and you hear about that when people are passing away, they get their last wind, then she passed away,
Starting point is 00:34:01 and he was devastated. I remember him and I were kind of arguing about something the night she passed away and I don't remember what it was, but we were kind of arguing about something and then all hell broke loose and he was like, I gotta go to the hospital. She ended up passing away that night. They decided to cremate her and they were gonna put
Starting point is 00:34:23 most of her ashes in England, but they were also spreading them in a couple places in the US, so he had a little bit of traveling to do. He was kind of doing a lot of traveling for it being COVID, but he had the resources to be able to do that. And he was able to get back into England because he was a citizen. So he went, he was like, I'm gonna bring Ruth because it's her grandmother, and she should be there. And I baked brownies for their flight and sent a little video message to Ruth for her
Starting point is 00:34:49 to see because she was starting to learn that I existed. He would tell me, I told Ruth this story, I told Ruth about you, I'm slowly easing the idea of you into Ruth's life. I knew her favorite movies and I knew what she liked. He would tell me about conversations they had back and forth about like little jokes and animals and foods and all sorts of things. Throughout their relationship, Kenzie did her best to research the witness protection program, but by design, there's not a lot of information available to the public. It's not resurchable, which is the point. So there was only so much I could look up.
Starting point is 00:35:28 I had to trust him and take it from what he was saying. Often he told me not to worry, don't be afraid, don't stress out. He was always trying to make me feel good about it. But I would have dreams of men taking me in the middle of the night, of them finding me, of whoever's after him, finding out he has a girlfriend, and coming and stealing me, or the government showing up,
Starting point is 00:35:49 or me doing something wrong. I actually started to use CBD gummies because I was super anxious. The process itself became very routine, and I did get very used to it. There was just like some rules intact that were, if you were gonna go somewhere, ask permission 15 minutes before, so we can have two two cars there and keep an eye on you guys.
Starting point is 00:36:08 Rarely, did we ever get the know, we could always go somewhere, but he always had to ask first. There was a moment one time when I remember watching he was coming over and they drove him everywhere. A lot of times they would park around the corner and drop him off and then he would walk up. They wouldn't park in front of my place and they wouldn't pull into the driveway. So I would like watch him walking up the street and I remember him walking up one time.
Starting point is 00:36:36 He had no idea that I was looking out the window. I just happened to be looking out the window at this point and I saw him signaling left like this way, like that, like signaling a direction. And he walked in I saw him signalling left, like this way, like that, like signalling a direction. And he walked in the house and I was like, what was that? And he was like, oh, they have to tell me which way to leave when I leave out of here. So I'm going to leave out that way. And I was like, oh, okay, weird little things would happen all the time where we'd be sitting on the couch and his phone would ring. And he'd pick up the phone and be like,
Starting point is 00:37:02 okay, yeah, the word today is whatever, and he would give the code word for the day or something like that. And then eventually I was like, am I gonna get vetted in? And he was like, well, they've been vetting you in since the beginning. They've done background checks on you
Starting point is 00:37:15 and everybody in your life to make sure everything's fine. And I was like, well, but like, are they gonna talk to me or anything? Should I be talking to someone? I don't know, there be some kind of meeting. And he's like, not really. You're not fully involved. Like that no one's after you.
Starting point is 00:37:30 And I was like, I feel kind of involved. He would have like a weekly debriefing with them. And he's like, I can talk to them in the next debrief and see if we can have an agent reach out to you so that you feel better. And I was like, I would really like that. That's next time on Something was Wrong. Thank you as always for listening.
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