Something Was Wrong - S18 E10: [Chris Williams] Silence is Ridiculous

Episode Date: November 22, 2023

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And I know anybody Until you turn to someone I'm Chris Williams. I am an actor. I am an adventure. I'm a traveler. I'm known for curburentusiasm, crazy eyes killer, movie dodgeball, Silicon Valley, and a bunch of other stuff I've been acting for 30 years. I'm originally from New York. I've been here temporarily for 34 years. I consider myself a secondary citizen, even though I live here, but I'm not from here. I came out here for the business, for the entertainment business, film and TV, and this

was the place to be. My parents were both music teachers. My sister is Vanessa Williams, so she's a famous singer actress. I was going to go to law school after college but I'm not a lawyer. All my friends are going to be business people and doctors and lawyers and I didn't start acting professionally until I was 25 so I even started late. But I was going to be in the record industry for for a while doing a and r Which is like music scouting finding new groups around the time of Tony Tony Tony

I had vanilla ice is demo tape Brian Mcnight around that era Then I did a play because I wanted to get back to acting and they were like, well, are you gonna do this or not? But as a actor you got to start somewhere so I decided that if I was gonna do it, I was gonna invest like it was my grad school. For six to seven years, as long as I saw forward progress, I would fund my acting career with credit cards. I had 10 credit cards,

and over the course of seven years, I accumulated about $55,000 with a debt. I was paying this one with this one and paying this one with that one, and essentially burning $5,000 to $6,000 a year in interest charges. But as long as I kept working, I could eventually pay it off. It was hard. I have video of myself, like a little bit of video diary with my little camcorder before there was iPhones and stuff. I used to talk about the day and how much of a struggle it was to pursue this dream being

completely broke. And trying to date completely broke too, which is a really tough thing. You have to find some creative ways to date when you have no money, like the Getty Museum and Malibu. Free. Picnic. And then I got a TV series called Hype on the Warner Brothers Network.

And we did 17 episodes, and I knocked my whole dead out in one fell swoop. I am a big foodie. I like to bake and eat different things. I'm a big gardener. I have about 40, 45 orchids that I'm a little obsessed with. Now, if Costco had orchids, it'd be over. I'd spend all my money in Costco.

I love my orchids, I like flowers. I just like beautiful things and beautiful food, just like beauty in general. Single, never married and no kids. I'm very old school. I like to open the doors, walking on the outside of the thing. I think that's important. Whoever asks the person out should pay for the date. If a woman asks you out, even if they're going to pay for the date, you should at least offer to pay for the date, if not insist on paying

for the date. But if you ask a woman out on the date, you should be paying for the date, and hope that they at least reach for or offer to help pay for just as a sign of courtesy. I dated a woman several times and paid for the dates all the time and there was never mention of next time i'll take you or let me get this one for you and that really bother me and i stop dating her because of that that shows a little bit of respect for someone else. Courtship is one thing, but respect for someone else. And we went on four or five dates. I just wanted to reach. I just wanted someone to be like, no, no, no, it's okay.

She never even reached. And I was waiting for the reach. The last time I even left it there, just to see if she would be like, do you want me to get this one? The things that I've learned for a healthy relationship is for me, I need to feel acknowledged. I need to feel that even if you don't agree with what I say, you're acknowledging what I'm saying. Putting yourself into someone else's shoes really helps.

Even if you don't agree with them, at least saying, let me see where you're coming from in this. In a relationship, if I can't understand where you're coming from or you don't have an explanation for me, that's clear to me, that's frustrating. That to me is a big thing I do ask for a lot, but I don't think I ask for too much. I want a relationship to be easy and simple and that's not easy to do. One of the hardest things about dating in LA I would say is being accepted for who you are and not what you have. I may have a nice house but I drive a pickup truck and a Vespa.

If you can like me in my pickup truck then we're good to go. I've had lots of adventures dating and this is one of the ones that stuck out. I just couldn't believe it. So here we are. First of all, thank you. I'm such a huge fan of yours. We could start with how you and Amy know each other because that would probably help the listeners understand how we got here. We met through a mutual friend on Instagram and we started following each other and yeah. I remember her telling me the story and I was like, wait what? It's definitely a cautionary tale, which we tell a lot of on the show. I love that you're willing to do this because we don't get a lot of submissions from men.

Even though I know that they go through things on dating apps and deal with romance scams the same things that women do, I think a good place to start would be where you were at in life. It was fall of 2021. I was on hinge. My friend had told me to get on hinge to start dating. When I initially went on the apps, I wasn't as sure what I was looking for. I don't have a job that takes me to the same place all the time where I can meet people after pandemic. How are you gonna meet people, really? So I decided to get on the apps and to see what would be interesting to me.

So there wasn't any specific goal. I was open anything. I really have a type. It's all a vibe and it's all a connection like personality. I'm attracted to how people think. Is it hard to date as a celebrity on dating apps? I don't think I'm a celebrity to a certain extent.

Every now and then I'll have people, they'll look at me and recognize me on a dating app. I maybe they just don't say it, but mostly we'll don't. I was dating and I actually took a break from it for a while. When I met this person, we corresponded over hinge and then texting, you know, you go to the next level. She seemed really nice. She had like four or five kids.

She was divorced. She was attractive. She said she was in investments, I think Bitcoin and that kind of stuff. We talked back and forth. I think it took maybe a couple of weeks to coordinate. And then around the time of my birthday, she's like, I'd love to take you to dinner wherever you want to go. My birthday is November 2nd.

I'm a double Scorpio, Virgo Rising. If anyone knows what that is, it's just a lot of Scorpio. She was gracious enough to say, let me take you out for your birthday. Wherever you want to go. I was like, I want to go to Odeum, which is my favorite restaurant downtown. It's so delicious. So I was like, great. And that was a nice foray in the dating this woman because if she's willing to take me to my favorite restaurant,

I mean, why not? So she started off really, really good. She pulled up. She drove a really nice car. I think it was a Tesla. We went to dinner and we had a really nice dinner. Great conversation. We talked back and forth and it was not awkward really. It was nice. We just had all the basic points of like, where you from, what do you like to do. She lived in Hawaii for a while. Thought that was interesting.

She talked about her kids. I talked about being an actor. We had a really nice conversation. There was no real lows. We got along really well. I don't know how much of a sexual connection there was, but we liked each other. There's nothing more to it. It was just two people having dinner. I liked her. We didn't kiss or anything at that date. I liked who she was. I got along with her. It was just a really nice birthday dinner. It was just a nice

interaction. And then I put a caboch on it and just said we're gonna be friends I didn't think it was something that I really wanted to pursue because the holidays were coming up From November to January is always a tough time in general for me just because it's by birthday Thanksgiving Christmas It's all like a stressful time. We talked a little bit more and then I was like let me just not talk for a while We kept in touch a little bit more and then I was like, let me just not talk for a while. We kept in touch a little bit through November and December. In December, she said, Mary Christmas, hope Santa gave you everything you wanted. Then Jane, your ice-sinterer happy New Year's,

that she said, happy New Year. February, I was going to, one of my best friends, Mazdrubrani, who's a comedian, who was his 50th birthday party, up in Napa. So it was a big trip to go away. I had asked someone else to go with me and they pulled out at the last minute and I was like, okay, and then out of the blue, she hit me up in February. She just checked in with me and said, hey, Chris, hope that you're doing well in life

is good. I decided to industry work and some damn jobs are sketchy of fuck. She's not trying to be an actress. She's just like, it's fun. It's Hollywood. I have nothing else to do. And I was like, hey there. So funny. I was just thinking about you. I said, I'm good, what about you? I said, you know why? Because she was in a while. I was like, or here, she's like, here in LA. I said, here's my orchid bathroom.

She said orchids are like women, beautiful and hard to maintain. She said, are you free for dinner? Want to catch up? It's terrific. We can do casual. The way Napa came up was we kept talking about having that dinner. I said, you have any dietary restrictions to have this quick casual meal. She said, anything but Chinese will be great to see you catch up.

Is it tomorrow better? Either work. So I'm like, I'm headed to Napa tomorrow. I said, you're welcome to come. Going solo. Oh, so tempting. I was like, I'd be a perfect gentleman. It's a great group of people. She's like, send me info. I may actually take you up on that. I don't mind paying my share. I'm like, great. I love that. She's like, let me ask my kids, and you know, I'd love to. And I was like, if you want to get a separate room,

I wasn't trying to like, stay with me. But just to have someone I've already had met, I already have a connection with, and have a companion, and just have fun for the weekend and Napa. I remember our interaction was really nice, and we had a good time, so why not entertain maybe going someplace together. I'm like, this is my flight, this is what I'm leaving, we're all going as a group, on

this one flight, we all had a caravan going from Burbank all the way to Napa. She's like, sounds like a blast, I'm in. I say yes, I'm booking my flight. Yippee, I'm excited. We'll send my flight deets. Chris, what hotel did you book? Gave her the hotel. You're welcome to stay with me and I can get two queen beds if you like, or just want

you to be full comfortable. That's awesome and I appreciate it. I need to provide all the details to my boys. Her kids, perfect. They are proactive. I'm happy right now. I totally understand. I said, they can have my numbers well.

And let them know I'll take care of you. She's like, I will. Remember, one is a crazy fan of dodgeball. So that helps. He watched 25 times when he was little. After I book my flight, I'm gonna ask about clothes, although I have some dresses in mind to wear,

and you can say yay or nay. We'll also be bringing jeans, or I have dressier, I send her the invite, says cocktail, she said perfect, just what I needed, thank you. I'm definitely attending. I got the green light.

Thank you for inviting me, funny how things work. She's like, I got my flight. As you're coming back earlier, she's gonna do this job, I've purchased a flexible time, if I wanna change like, I got my flight. So you're coming back earlier, she's going to do this job. I purchased a flexible time if I want to change. I can change my flight time the same day I've needed. Good to have that option. So the meat is set so and so and then we'll coordinate.

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She had gotten her own room. She was going to meet us at the airport and then fly up there and then drive with us to Napa to where the party was. She said she had to leave a day early, which is that Sunday morning as opposed to Monday. She was going to get her own transportation back and fly out early because she had some work to do or something along those lines. As I said, I had that one dinner with her before and it was a really nice pleasant dinner. No real red flags. I enjoyed spending time with her.

It would have been really interesting to see who she was on a trip around my friends and the sun the other, but she seemed like she could handle herself and she seemed like a fun person, leading up to the thing. I was making sure everything was okay for a flight tomorrow. We were supposed to have dinner just to re-equaint ourselves with each other. Something quick, but something came up with her that she could not do it, but she still was gonna come on the trip. She's apologized for it, I was like, no problem, I'll see you tomorrow.

Looking forward to seeing you, it's gonna be a fun weekend. That's the finish, so I have no worries for tomorrow. Hope you're well, and that's it. And then the seeing you. It's gonna be a fun weekend. Last to finish, so I have no worries for tomorrow. Hope you're well. And that's it. And then the next day, she was gonna meet us. My friends are very open to her coming or anybody coming because everyone was gonna be coupled up as it was. They knew I could have maybe a plus one, but they not be a plus one.

I told them right before we were going, that was gonna be the situation. She was texting when she's on a way to the airport. She's like, won't get to the flight on time. I'm gonna be late, I'm not gonna be able to make the flight. I'm like, do you want me to wait and take the later flight with you or land and wait and then go up to Napa with you? And she's like, I'll get a car, I won't get there in time. She was at the airport and got there too late

to board our flight. That's what happened. And I was like, you make it, just landing now, are you sure you don't want me to wait? I gladly did. She's like, I'm here with the airport. I can't check in. Security sent me back to ticketing. I'm like, fuck. And she sent me a picture of her at the airport. Can you use the key? Yes. I try. Don't worry. I will get a car. Please don't wait.

Okay. They think I have to go to LAX. This is crazy. She's going to fly out of LAX now. Because there was a couple flights. Burbank to Napa. Now I was getting worried. She's like, I will get a car. Please don't wait. Don't worry. I'm on my way. Then sends a picture of her bag and her jacket on the back. So she sends me a text. I'm getting an Uber to LAX to get the flight. She's getting in the Uber and she says there was a different car than what she picked up in her Uber. And she says, why a different car? And he says, my car was a lemon. I just got this car. Uber is still updating my car.

It says three days. I don't want to wait those three days and miss work basically. What time did she send that second screenshot? Those are at 240? I'm like, that's a weird thing. Why do you have a different car for your Uber? Why would you get in a car that is different

from a car than Uber? She also said, please don't wait. I'm not sure why he's driving so slow so I couldn't understand what was going on. And that was it. So now I'm an extra alert. I knew she would be coming or that everything seemed to be fine. She sent me a picture of her with her mask on. But I believe she sent me a picture of her bag, her suitcase. She sent me a picture of the airport itself when she had missed her first flight. And then she sent me a screenshot of the conversation

with her and the nefarious Uber driver. So I was pretty much up to date with texts as well as photos that she was coming, and I would have given myself a 95% sure that she was coming. Now I'm in Napa waiting to see what she's doing. At 4.45 I said how you doing? I said I just landed. Is everything okay? I'm getting to the hotel. Now I'm waiting for her at the hotel. There was a party at 7 but whatever I'll just wait. So at 6 o'clock I'm feeling a little bit jiggly. I don't know exactly what's going on. I've checked in the room.

Everyone's like, we're going to meet to go at seven for a pre-party to a bar before the dinner. And I was like, OK, well, I guess I should go. She's not here yet, but she's coming. At six 26, I said, I'm worried. Please text me back. You sent me everything. You said you're coming.

And then nothing. So at seven o'clock, I go to the first party. I'm talking to all the wives, there's like five wives. We're just at the barn, we're drinking, and the ladies are sitting there, like, who is your friend? Well, who is she? I'm like, oh, it's just someone I've met once, and I don't really know that well. And I'm like, I've got this text, I'm getting a little worried.

Now, all the women are like, oh, oh, you need something's wrong. Something's wrong, you need to call a police make sure she's okay. I don't want to be that dude of like, something's wrong, I know something's wrong, I don't want to overreact. 826 is that I'm worried. 926 is that, are you okay? Please text me back. I'm worried about this person that I feel responsible for inviting up here and protective of, and I don't know what's going on, I get this last text of just,

I'm getting in an Uber, and it's a different car. Which is the number one thing they tell you not to do, is get in the Uber that doesn't match the place. And I'm like, fuck. Now everyone's partying, now we're at dinner, and I'm like, I gotta get up and kinda, and I'm like, I can't even relax because everyone's having a good time.

Now everyone's laughing about you. Oh, she just ghosted you. She just wanted to become a comic comic. It didn't, I never got the feeling of, this is not a good idea. All the women were like, you gotta call the police. I'm like, okay, well, I guess I gotta call the police. I call Burbank police.

And they're like, okay, what do I do? Who is this? And I'm trying to explain, have a friend, I'm in a hand, and I'm like, I'm not going, you know, it's weird. And they're like, okay, okay, well, that's none of us. You have to call Burbank Airport Security, because that's who that jurisdiction is. It's like, okay, so I call Burbank Airport Security.

I'm gonna go help you with, let me explain. Well, do you know this moment? I'm like, I wanna date with her, and I don her bank airport security. I'm gonna go help you with, let me explain. Well, do you know this woman? I'm like, I wanna date with her and I don't really know her, but you know, I figured, and when the police officer asked me if she had made it to LAX, I said I didn't know because she had got into the car and I never heard from her again. He's even going, oh, did she make it to Burbank?

And I'm being like, no, she never got here. Oh, then are you sure she didn't get there? I'm like, I don't have any record of her getting there. She's not at the hotel. Well, did she ask you for money? I'm like, no, it's not even like it. It wasn't even like that. Well, how do you know her?

Who are you? Send me your driver's license to the Fairfathers you're a real person, and then start telling me what's going on. I'm gonna cooperate, because I'm curious of what's going on. At 9.30, send me all this stuff. So I send any pictures that I have of her, I'm curious of what's going on. At 9.30, he said, send me all this stuff. So I sent any pictures that I have of her, any other images of her.

This one does not show much. I talked to him for a while and then they assigned a, we'll look into it. So they're gonna wait and call me back. He said, thank you, Chris. Let me do some quick work and I'll get back to you with this case number. Please be patient because I'll need to review video surveillance. And that was at 9.44. I sent her a text at 9.58.9 when I'm just to review video surveillance. And that was at 944. I send her a text at 958.9. When I'm just speaking to the cop,

the last thing I send to her is I call the police and file the report. It's green. She didn't read it, so she blocked you. She blocked me or her phone is off. Her phone is off and dead and she's or on a plane. That's the only other time it goes green.

There's many. It says census text message. So it went through. Now I wait all that now on the not the butt of jokes, but everyone's like, Oh, Chris got fucking ghosted. You know, maybe she doesn't really want to see you or I'm like, I whatever. So we have dinner. Now go back to the hotel. I'm waiting the officer. He said, Chris, do you have an email from her? Also, what was your screen name on the hinge? Also, what was her name? And I sent it and he's like, did she ever ask for money? What is your relationship with her again?

I didn't know her last name at the time. I'm like, this is what I have. I said, I don't have an email and she's no longer on hinge, but her name was, you know, I found some things. I even found her son. I found her old wedding registry from her and her ex-husband. I've never been to her house, I don't know her address, I don't know much about her except for her name

and pictures, we went on one date so trying to explain that to the police officer, he's kind of like, hmm, that's all I got. And now it's waiting, I'm waiting, waiting and then at three in the morning, you thank you, we're still working on this case and I'm still up. I just don't know what's going on.

I finally get a text from him. I think anything from surveillance, that was at 341. Because he said he was taking surveillance. And now I'm up all night and he goes, she was definitely was here and got into a vehicle at the right share island, still working on it. So the Uber thing was real? She got in a car, right?

We just don't know where it was headed. I said, thank thank you your diligence. So I go to sleep now this is 8th or in the morning I wake up I'm serious scared because now I'm like am I responsible for something that happened? So instead of just being like, I'm okay, thank you for your concern. Anything. Nothing. Anything.

Nothing. So I get a text on the 26th at 5 o'clock. This is the cop. We have located her and she said, home in good health. Because she is an adult, I can't release any additional information about her. It is up to her to reach out to you. There should be more people like you who share genuine concern for the well-being of others. Let me know if you have any additional questions not related to her personal information. I called them and I told them he's like, they would have gone over to her house and check on

her well-being at 4 or 5 in the morning and knock on the door, because they have her address now, she's okay, I guess. So 48 hours of worry, oh my. Right, and I'm like, why? Why? Why? Why? So I say back to the top, hey officer, I appreciate your hard work and fast response

to whatever questions I had on the work you had to do. You should be committed for your execution and attention and I still have not heard from her. It is absolutely bizarre. I don't plan on ever speaking to her again. So I never know the reason why which has me and everyone baffled. You would think that if a police contacts you and you're whereabouts, you let the person know you're either okay or to fuck off but silence is ridiculous. There was an absolutely no location that she did not want to come with all the reservations and arrangements. People are nuts. I guess I dodged the bullet. He said,

back in text. I agree with you, Chris. It was nice to meet you. I said, and the strangest thing is, I still haven't heard a peep since all those picks in the Uber were sent to me. I bet she was married and was trying to cheat. That's my guess. He says, I think you said it well in the previous email, you dodged a bullet. She was not married though. A dendum, as I land in Burbank Airport, I went out and sought out the police officer that helped me. And I said, is officer so and so here? And they're like, he's down there. So I get down there. He's like, can I help you? And I'm like, yeah, I just want to say you helped me with something. He's like, oh, okay. But at least I was like,

I changed the thank him for, you know want to say you help me with something. He's like, oh, okay, but at least I was like, I changed the thank him for, you know, for taking the time to do it. And that was the guy who was making the calls and doing the mid like the email in the middle of the night and all that. We saw each other almost the next day or like right after. And you told me the story. You seem to distressed. Like it was stressful.

I was so worried. That's crazy. Still don't know. So there's always this little thing in the back of my head going, right? Why? But why? Why?

I started doing a little research on her. She wrote a blog. She was in a really contentious divorce at that time. She wrote a whole thing talking about he's been lying to, they got divorced in 2021. This is 321-2121. So airing all of this stuff and then all the petition for her.

So, she has everything. So confirmed that she was divorced. Like a hundred percent confirmed. But still in like. Getting with his shit, because they have kids. No. They don't have kids. This is her, this is a second marriage for her.

Or something like that. No. So, I don't know. But all of her, all her divorce stuff is in here. All of her personal property furnished. All of this shit is out here. How much of her background had she shared? She talked about her kids and how she loves

being with her kids and she was divorced and- Did she talk to it would say it was contentious at all? No, nothing. Nothing would redpacks like, oh, that's probably, what was shit- That's why I was talking, maybe she was married and was like a caught, you know, he caught me going to Napa for the weekend. The most egregious is leaving it where she left it to never close the loop.

How long has it been a year and a half now to never follow up? No point has she had access to be like, hey, Chris, I'm really sorry that I made you worried. And if the police contact you come to your house, someone is worried about your whereabouts. And then, enough for the police to come to your door and check on your health or your wellbeing. Are you okay? Police showed up at your door and ask you, are you okay?

And you still don't even, anywhere in a pod, it's just respond. Nothing, three words, you would think, I just don't even, anywhere opposed, it's just respond. Nothing, three words, you would think. I just don't get it. What would you do if you like ran into where it traitors goes? I'd be like, why? I'm always curious, just why? I was responsible.

I thought responsible for- You were mostly distressed over this. Yeah. You know, saying that I'm calling the police, you know, I could have been like, oh, fuck it, I don't give a shit about you. Right. She ain't coming, I guess it's just me. I never did anything to you that would make you girl

that he's an asshole. And if you didn't want to come, then don't go through all the pictures, flight arrangements. It's okay. Just say I'm sorry, something came up. Like it takes nothing. Anything. Sorry, goodbye.

Goodbye, right. Hate you. Getting that sorry, you know, it takes nothing. Anything. Sorry. Goodbye. Goodbye. Right. Hate you. Getting that sorry. You know, I thought that did, however, but I would want is like a thank you. Thank you. You are worrying about worrying. Yeah.

And taking those steps, do you think she had intention to come or do you think it was relatively manipulative from the get up? She bought a, she bought a flight and showed me me the Uber she's getting into. But why would you go through all of that for why? I know. I mean, I'm gonna show him. Why show me a picture of you at the airport? Well, ghosting in general is such a dumb move. Honestly, and that's something I tell Amy all the time. She's very upfront with people. And I often tell her like, I really admire how she breaks up with people. She'll just be very upfront. Be like, I wasn't feeling the connection. Thank you so much for dinner. If you're emotionally available enough to go on a date, you can be adult enough to end a

relationship. Like, why be a shitty person when you could just send a text? It's possible to just say, no, thank you. It's the kind thank you. Yeah, I'm sorry. I want to hear this. She might L.A.'s our number one listening city Should we call her? Hey, you blocked Chris. We just want to know why you go to Have you had good dating experiences since like on dating like have you returned to the apps? Did it keep you from the apps? No, no, I got on yeah, yeah How do you feel going back into the dating pool? I feel like you could. I bet it's I take things on an individual basis though. You can't you can't judge everyone. What would your best advice be to someone who is new to dating apps? If you're on a dating app, you should try to put your best foot forward but be real on who you are because eventually

they're going to see you anyway. If you say you're six feet and you're actually five nine, they're going to see that eventually. So why lie early on? Just say what you anyway. If you say you're six feet and you're actually five nine, they're going to see that eventually. So why lie early on, just say what you are. You might as well be a front with who you are and what you want. You also have to look at what they say sometimes and how they're saying it, something else besides how they look, try to think about if that's someone you want to be involved with. Interests, hobbies, dating etiquette? If you're thinking about ghosting someone, there's really no reason to go someone just say, I'm not interested, ghosting and never talking again is not going to be respectful,

as well as kind, because the person, especially if they liked you, is always going to be wondering where do they go? So my words of advice for someone who just got ghost would be like, fuck that. I'm not. It would be, it's not you, it's them. I know that sounds ridiculous or played out, but it really is not you. If they can't have the respect and courtesy to let you know they're not interested anymore, then you needn't want to be with them in the first place. Even if they were everything that you wanted. But you don't need them. We always like to ask, is there anything else that you want to share that you think would be important? I'm very trusting as it is, and probably too trusting of people. Even the fact that I hadn't vetted her maybe enough before I invited her away on a vacation or a trip, even if she's paying for everything,

not really knowing who she is before. That's being trusting. You got to be at least a little bit more aware of random trust, as opposed to specific earned trust. Just be careful out there. And don't let it stop you from being concerned about other people, just because one person acted in a weird way. It's not going to make me stop caring about someone, as you can't let it stop you from being concerned about other people. Just because one person acted in a weird way, it's not going to make me stop caring about someone as you can't let that stop you. Where can people find you on social media? You can find me on Instagram at chris.williams underscore. I also have a travel page because I just went to my 52nd country, San Marino, which is a

really small country in Italy that I was obsessed with going to just because I don't know anyone who's ever going, San Marino, which is a really small country in Italy, but I was obsessed with going to just because I don't know anyone who's ever gone to San Marino. And it's at the adventures of CW Instagram. A trip always serves me deeply, period. When a relationship ends, it definitely helps getting out of your space and into some new space. So when you come back, you have a little bit of a refreshed attitude about where you are and who you are. Well, thank you again so, so, so much. Thanks for having me. Thanks for having me. So cool. And thank you Amy for connecting us.

Next time on something was wrong. I met Archie online. I don't know who followed who first, but at some point I realized that we were following each other and that he was interacting with my stuff. We could comment on tattoos that I did and be like, wow, this is amazing. This is like pretty big name artist in the industry that's liking my stuff. This is really cool. I was a little guy in a big pond. So getting that validation from the much bigger name artist was really flattering and exciting.

Within a few months of working there, just the red flags alone, the really early ones. And I had told Danielle, I'm like, I don't think I'm going to be working here all that long. Hi, this is Amy B. Chessler of the Broken Cycle Media team. I wanted to take a moment to remind you to head to what came next on your preferred podcast platform for part one and part two of something was wrong season 14 updates with Tiffany as well as two of the ladies from season 14, Kaylyn and Melissa. Don't forget to follow what came next to hear future something was wrong updates and from other powerful victims and advocates. Thank you so much for listening.

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