Something Was Wrong - S18 E11: [Tyler] Don't Tell Anyone

Episode Date: November 30, 2023

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Don't be alone You don't know anybody until you turn to one more time. Hi, my name is Tyler Porter. I am 27, been tattooing for almost nine years. I started in this industry because I've been drawing my whole life. I just wanted to do something art related with my career. My mom tells me this story all the time about when I was two. I was really crazy. All two year olds are crazy, but I was abnormally crazy. They actually thought I had epilepsy at first because I would have these seizures all throughout the day,

but it turns out that it was just me getting so pissed off that I would hold my breath until I passed out and started to seize my mom. I could never find a way to like get me to calm down, but she would have me draw on the wall. That was the only time I'd be in my zone. I think a large part of the reason why I was like that as a kid was because I was trans

and I wasn't able to articulate that. So when I was 13, I was able to start transitioning and that's when I started to relax a bit and was able to be more of myself. Now I'm lead opposite. I'm super mellow. Thank you for sharing that. Do you feel comfortable if I ask you a few questions about being trans? Yeah, absolutely. Can you explain what the decision to transition was like for you? Everyone's different, but for me, I was pretty textbook transgender. I guess I should more say like, transexual for me personally because I truly want to change my biological sex. When I was a little kid, I'm talking two years old.

I would tell my mom and my dad, I'm gonna grow up to be a boy one day and I'd even ask why don't I have a penis yet. As I got older, not that my parents were ever purposely trying to shame me, they're incredibly supportive parents, but back in the 90s when that was happening, they're like, no, no, you're a girl, you gotta act this way. Unintentionally, it kind of added some shame to it, so I stopped talking about it and was trying to conform as much as possible, but I was so visibly uncomfortable in it. I would look at myself in the mirror and especially when puberty was starting, I mean, it felt like my body was betraying me every day. I'd cry anytime I had to wear girl clothes.

And then when I was 13, I finally came out to my dad. They kind of always just thought I was a lesbian. One day he sat me down was like, your friend, who at the time was a girl. And he's like, are you attracted to her? And started crying. And I was like, yes, but that's not all it is. I don't know how to explain it.

This is like 2000s. People didn't even know what being transgender was. I had no words to describe it. So I was just like, I don't know. I just feel like I've always been a boy. I feel like I'm in the wrong body. I don't know how to explain it. I know it's not crazy.

And he was like, no, I get it. Luckily, he's gay. So like, he's in the community. He's like, I think you're transgender. And he was telling me about it. I was like, yes, that's exactly what it is. We're in the middle of Indiana and the Midwest. So there was not a lot of resources for like transitioning,

especially as a minor. I started transitioning hormonally. My top surgery was so much easier because of it. I didn't have to get a double mastectomy. I was able to get like a guy, no surgery ever since then. I've been much happier, feel at home in my body. It's a huge relief to not be living in constant dysphoria every day. I'm so thankful that I was able to have a supportive family and to be able to start my transition when I did and I don't regret

a thing. What do you think the most common misconception is about trans persons. Not a lot. I think since it's been a hot topic issue in the media, the big one honestly is people transitioning when they're young. There's this weird thing where people are trying to paint it as some form of grooming as if parents are just out there trying to force their children to transition. My parents never tried to force it on me. They went the most moderate path where they were really trying to get me to not be trans, not on purpose really, but they were just like, no, no, no, you're a girl. It just never worked.

The only treatment for it is through transition. I understand that there's issues with consent on some things when it comes to age and stuff, but when you're talking about a child's own body, I do think children at a certain age do have're talking about a child's own body, I do think children at a certain age do have a level of autonomy over their own body and can make choices on their own behalf. Even cisgendered men who have a kind of comastia, which is where young men develop breast

tissue, if they're allowed to get surgery to remove their breasts, why am I not allowed to? Or circumcision, young boys definitely don't get a say in that. When it comes to a minor's own body, I do think you have to take into consideration some level of autonomy. I know it's a nuanced conversation, but I really don't think anyone's trying to groom their children into transitioning. I appreciate you so much for sharing and being willing. So if you don't mind talking a little bit about where you were at leading up to Lyons Paw Tattoo and what the early days were like.

The first shop I worked at, I did my apprenticeship there. There was a five year contract, there was a non-compete contract, which it's not enforceable, but I honored it. I'm thankful for it because it definitely made me a stronger person, but at the time, it was a very not-good work environment for me. It was like if you turned a tattoo shop into a factory, overworked, underpaid, toxic work dynamics, and also a weird thing where

it's, or technically self-employed. So you should be getting certain benefits of being self-employed. You get to choose your own hours. You get to have some level of autonomy with that since we're just subcontracting, but we had a schedule made for us that we had to abide by, which was very grueling at times. We were not paid consistently. Sometimes they would just pay us whenever they were in, but sometimes they wouldn't. Sometimes if they went on a three-week vacation, we just went without pay. There was a lot more to it than that, but it resulted in me having a lot of anxiety and I also developed a pretty bad alcohol problem. I ended up having to go to rehab for it.

And when I got done with rehab, I had to go right back to work. I relapsed again. I eventually quit and it was a few months shy of the five-year non-compete contract. I had mixed up the time frame and thought that my contract was over, so I tried to get a job at Lion's Pa, which was within the 25 mile radius of the contract. Next thing you know, I'm getting threatened that it's going to take me a court, which again, it's not enforceable, but without going too much into it, this guy was the owner pretty intimidating guy with a large group of people who actually legitimately could have caused me some harm, so I was like, I'm just going to stay out of it.

So I didn't work for three months, got into a lot of debt, which was pretty awful. I got through that, then ended up moving to Lyons, Paw Tattoo. My current boss, Jimmy, it's just the most wonderful guy. We always have a really amazing crew, such a warm, supportive environment. It's really helped me grow a lot as a person. My mental health really improved when I got there. I ride away, was able to sober up. It was only like a month in that I got sober and have not drank since.

I was able to save up enough money to pay back all my debt. It's been a wonderful experience working at Lions Poth. I was there for a couple years when I got the opportunity to work at Blood Orange Tattoo as Archie Bronson. I met Archie, it was kind of like an online thing at first, right? I don't know who followed who first, but at some point I realized that we were following each other and that he was interacting with my stuff. I'll give him the credit where it's due. I mean like his style, he did glitchy realism. It's a cool style, it's very trendy, so it doesn't surprise me that a lot of people flock to his work. But any comment

on tattoos that I did, like wow this is amazing. This is like pretty big name artist in the industry that's liking my stuff, this is really cool. I was a little guy in a big pond, and so getting that validation from the much bigger name artist was really flattering and exciting, and I followed him pretty closely, and like all the stuff that he posted online Was very in line with the values that I have we were following each other during 2020 he was very pro BLM and on top of the COVID stuff, which I really appreciated He was very outspoken about these things I was attracted to that because me being a trans person coming from a very diverse and colorful family and having lots of diverse friend groups

It was nice seeing a big name artist that quite frankly didn't seem like a piece of shit. At least at the time, one day he had messaged me and was like, hey, you want to come and hang out and have like a drawing night at this bar. And I was like, yeah, I would love to. I don't drink, but I'll come to the bar, I'll draw, hang out with you. I drove down there. It was kind of mundane if I'm going to be honest. I couldn't tell if it was because there was a little bit of a language barrier. I wasn't that familiar with a fairly thick Russian accent. He was nice, no inherent red flags.

He did kind of remind me of someone from my childhood who had assaulted me, but I've had that feeling before and have not always been right. So I was like, I can't judge this person. They seem like a nice guy. I can't just assume that this guy's a predator based on nothing. So I ignored that. A few days later, he has to do it again.

I was probably four or five times, we'd hung out. And that's when he told me, I'm looking to open up a shop. This is why I've wanted to hang out with you so that I could get a feel for you and see if maybe you'd be a good fit. Art wise and everything, we seem to go lie on our values. I would like to have you at my shop if you're interested. Of course, I was immensely flattered.

Not only is this artist liking my stuff wanting to hang out with me, but now he's wanting to hire me personally. Out of all the people that he could hire, he's wanting to hire me. Like I said, I mean, I love Lion Spot. That's like my family. And my current boss, Jimmy, I consider him to be like a father. He was done so much for me. I told Archie that I'm incredibly flattered.

Now I'd love to do this, but honestly, I don't know if I'm really ready to leave the shop that I'm at. I'm very bonded with everyone there. Maybe I could do guest spots or something, or maybe I could even work part-time. And he was like, well, let me just tell you what I'm offering. And he gave me the whole business model idea that he had. I was laying my options.

I talked to my girlfriend about it. And there were some benefits. She worked in a similar area. So we could carpool. I could make probably a little bit more money. I got a slightly higher percentage working with an artist of his caliber with his following. It'll teach me a lot about how to charge properly for tattoos because by an ad in issue where I undercharge a lot.

Maybe this will be good to build my confidence like if he can do it, why can't I kind of thing? He can coach me through it. He's got a much bigger following. I can network better, get my name out there. So it did seem like a really good opportunity. And I remembered that when I started working at Lions' Paw, my boss, Jimmy, had told me there's going to be a day where it's time for you to leave and you're going to get an opportunity. I never want to get in the

way of that. So when it is time, you can always come and tell me I'm going to support you and even when you leave, always be there, have me as a resource, you can always reach out and you can always come back. I just want you to follow your heart. So when I had that offer from Archie, I was like, this must be my time. I still tried to be like, maybe I can just do part time. And he was like, well, I'll give you a bigger cut if you just do full time. And I was like, yeah, all right. Well, I guess this is goodbye to Lions paw. So I went to Lions paw, told them I was going to be moving. Everyone was very excited for me.

Of course, we were all sad. I hung out with the Lions paw crew a lot. I was always staying connected with them. Before Blood Orange was actually truly built. There was one day where he was picking out a spot for it and he had found the location so he had me drive down to come look at it. I was like, yeah, this is awesome.

One problem though, we are literally within 200 feet of another shop. Another shop that's been open for a long time that's got a big name in the industry. So I was like, you should probably reach out to them and make sure that's okay. And he was like, well, we're gonna be a private studio. It's not like we're gonna be taking their foot traffic

or anything, we have our own clients. And I was like, it's just kind of the right thing to do to make sure that's okay. I'm like, I would really appreciate it if he just talked to him. He's like, yeah, I'll do that. Even when the shop opened up, I was like, hey, did you talk to him? They're okay with it.

And he was like, oh yeah, I talked to him. They're fine. And then every day when I'd walk from the shop opened up, I was like, hey, did you talk to him? They're okay with it. And he was like, oh yeah, I talked to him. They're fine. And then every day when I'd walk from the shop to my car, I would see them and wave and they would ignore me. For shadowing, he did not do that. I found that out after all this stuff blew up a year and a half later or something that he never actually talked to the shop that I'd never talked to him before. And some of the people there were kind of mad about it.

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I don't think anyone can argue with that. The interior design was immaculate, it was very swanky, pretty inviting environment, in my opinion. Lots of natural lighting. This was a combination of our ideas, even before the shop opened. He had mentioned that he wanted to have some kind of shop pet, something that's not kind of smell though. And I was like, oh, I have experienced with lots of reptiles. A frog is going to be a great idea. You want something that's pretty low maintenance and doesn't smell, white tree frogs, they're not aquatic,

arboreal species, it's gonna be probably your best bet. I ended up buying this huge set up for these frogs and everyone loved the frogs. Environment-wise, no complaints on that. In hindsight, once everything started to come out, I did talk to some people, especially clients that had been tattooed by me at Lion's Pauv versus Blood Orange. I did have to some people, especially clients that had been tattooed by me at Lions Pob versus Blood Orange.

I did have a lot of people say that they absolutely prefer Lions Pob to Blood Orange. They feel much more comfortable at Lions Pob. Blood Orange could feel like a little sterile, a little stiff. At worst, there were some people that straight up were like, I did not trust that guy, he creeped me out. I did not feel comfortable there. But at the time, most people had pretty good reviews of the place. When I moved in to Blood Ornge, right off the bat, I started to notice there were some things that were

a little strange. I've been doing a lot of research into tattoo artist red flags, like if your artist is hitting on you, it's probably a pretty big red flag. If they're charging you thousands of dollars up front or if they're sending you nude, obviously those are huge red flags. But there are some that it's hard to say blood orange. The shop claimed to be a safe space an LGBTQ friendly place, which is one of the reasons why I was attracted to it. Now in hindsight, I had a strong gut feeling about this, but at the time, I couldn't articulate it, and I was questioning if I was overthinking things, comparing blood orange to lion's pot. I had such an amazing time at lion's pot,

maybe I have unrealistic expectations of what a tattoo shop should be. In the beginning, I couldn't tell you completely why. I just never fully let my guard down. I felt like I could never fully connect with Archie. I really try with everyone to be friendly with them, but it was just really hard. I felt like we didn't really have as much in common as I thought, based on the things that he would post about I assume are values aligned,

but I can tell you as soon as I started, he almost immediately switched. And it would depend on the conversation. Sometimes he would argue for the sake of arguing. So even if he had just posted something about women's bodily autonomy or something. Almost immediately switched and it would depend on the conversation. Sometimes he would argue for the sake of arguing So even if he had just posted something about women's bodily autonomy or something We would be talking about it and I'd be like I really agree with that and then he'd be like well actually And then he kind of switched it up, and I'm like what I could never tell where exactly he was at None of it was really consistent. I'm like well, that's half the reason I work here is I thought that you were an agreeance with these things. I kind of started to feel like he had baited me.

There was other weird things, like a lot of his views on women and sex. I mean, on paper, the values themselves, they might seem like they're progressive ideas, but then when you really dig into it, it's actually kind of exploitive, depending on the context. It was just us that worked at the shop, and we had different days, so there was only two or three days out of the week where we worked together. A big chunk of the time, it was just us that worked at the shop and we had different days. So there was only two or three days out of the week where we worked together. A big chunk of the time I was just with my clients alone in this private studio which had doors that locked automatically. I told him I had very valid concerns.

I'm in this locked private studio with like an 18 year old girl. She could be incredibly uncomfortable for all I know and too scared to say anything. So it would be really nice if we had more people working here. I also was thinking, I don't think I'm going to be here long-term. I'm going to try and make it a year. I don't want to seem like an artist who just hops from shop to shop. So I tried to give it as much time as I could. If I leave, I don't want to totally screw him over.

So I was like, hey, you need to start hiring people. I told him, it gets lonely here and I have concerns that if someone's uncomfortable, they wouldn't even feel comfortable telling me that and I have concerns that if someone's uncomfortable, they wouldn't even feel comfortable telling me that and I don't want to give someone a bad experience. He was like, yeah, okay, and you know, he made a post about it. Nothing seemed to come of it. A few weeks later, I was like, so what's the update? And he's like, well, I got a lot of people that messaged me, but I'm going to be honest.

A lot of the people that messaged me were non-binary and I just don't know if I really want a bunch of non-binary people working here. And I can't make this up. He literally was like, I don't want them posting all their go-fun mies to pay for their rent and stuff. If he meant it as a joke, that's a joke that he cannot make. He's basically insinuating that non-binary people have a victim mentality. And they just need to pick themselves up by their bootstraps. It's beneath stereotype against non-binary people

in the queer community, but it is a very harmful stereotype. He was clearly serious because he didn't hire anyone. And there were amazing artists who were very talented. And so I'm like, you're literally discriminating against non-binary people. He would though have them as guest artists, which I thought was interesting, but in hindsight,

some of it might have been more of him using it as like a dating pool, but not truly wanting to give them a job opportunity. Targeting sex workers is a strategy for a lot of serial predators. A lot of the times the law itself really doesn't even bother with sex workers coming to them saying that they've been assaulted. It's a lot easier for predators to get away with assaulting people when they do target sex workers. And it's really heartbreaking before I knew the extent of everything, back when it was just me having weird feelings about it, I had noticed that so many of his clients were some type of sex worker. There's nothing inherently wrong with that. I noticed that it was weird because me and him have the exact same booking process. He is the one that taught me how to do the booking the way I do it. He literally was like, we're going to leave our books open for the exact same amount of time.

We're going to schedule people on the same days. He orchestrated all of that, even sending it to the same email service. So we're going through our books together, scheduling people. I know that we are hand selecting the clients that we want. I'm picking them based on the projects themselves. I'm sure he was doing that too, but what are the odds that like 70% of his clients seem to be some type of sex worker, whether that's an only fans model, or a bikini barista, or a stripper, or an escort? What are the odds? You know, in my whole career, which at the time was about eight

years or so of tattooing, I've tattooed less than 10 sex workers, at least that I know of. So I thought that was a bit alarming, honestly. I feel like you're hand picking these people and he's trying to form a certain kind of clientele and it could be for a multitude of different factors. Some artists argue to be doing this where they try and sell the client on their portfolio

more so than the tattoo itself. Have you ever seen a tattoo or who most of their pictures on their portfolio or some tattoo that they did on a girl's butt or on their breasts? When you start seeing that, they're selling a woman's body not so much the artwork in self. So I mean, there could have been that, but it also could be, he wants to be in close proximity to women that he's attracted to. That shouldn't even be a factor.

My clients are so diverse. And I will give a little bit of credit. I think most tattooers do have more female clientele, as opposed to male clients, because women do typically get tattooed more. It's not uncommon to have more female clients, but to have a certain type of woman every time, I think I only saw him tattoo someone over 40 twice

in the whole year that I was there. But if you're like an only fans model, boom, you got an appointment. The side note too is that he has admitted to me that he subscribes to a lot of these. I've talked to different people and some people think that that's actually a good thing that at least he's supporting them,

but I see that as a little bit more devious. I personally as an artist would never subscribe to a client's only fans. I think that's wildly inappropriate. I think if your doctor subscribed to your only fans, that's wildly inappropriate. If your therapist did that, wildly inappropriate. But for some reason tattooing, I'm not trying to advocate that this industry should be super corporate, but we should have some stronger about this. This whole industry is supposed to be built on trust, so when people

break that trust, the client is in such a vulnerable position. They're not only trusting you with a permanent body modification that they're gonna wear in theory for the rest of their life. This is a right of passage through some really important period of their life. Even if you're a client who's getting a tattoo, Willie Nilly, and you're just doing it because it's fun, you're still a part of your journey, you're still supposed to be a fun, memorable experience, you shouldn't be creeped out, but in it's really sad when there's people that take advantage of that, one of which being he was Polly, which no shade to anyone who's Polly, I know that it can be a wonderful

thing for certain people. He made lots of weird comments to me about how me and my partner should try being poly. I was like, we're monogamous, we're happy with our monogamous relationship. And he would bring that up constantly, pressuring us. There were even times where it started to get offensive because there was a time where I was confiding

that me and my partner's sex life was not really in the best place because we were going through a lot, there's a lot of stress. And he's like, well, maybe you should open your relationship up. I was like, if she's having libido issues, why would fucking someone else fix our problems? That's essentially saying that I'm the problem

because we're comments, well, we should be poly as if I'm not enough for her personally offended me in regards to being trans, because that's already an insecurity I have, I don't think he meant it that way, but for me, I went to that place. My girlfriend, Danielle already told me that she's got a weird feeling about him.

She's like, I feel like he's hating on me. When the shop was opening, he started sending pictures of the shop. She's like, oh, that's exciting. And then he sent to me, and then she sent to me back. And then at any of the shop parties we'd have, he would go out of his way to go hug her and touch her and stuff. Really intimate hugs squeezing her physically turning her around from what she's doing to like give him a hug, long ass hugs. Archie had invited us to the bar. There was a guest

artist. They weren't attached tattooer, but they did paintings when they were from Portland, so they were in from out of town. I don't drink, but I'm okay with going to bars. It's not really a trigger for me. Me and my girlfriend went to the bar. Danielle drinks. She got one drink, finished it, and then was like, I'm gonna go get another one, so she starts walking over to the bar. From where we were sitting to the line to the bar was a somewhat narrow passage, but it wasn't super crowded. There was plenty of room.

So Archie gets up and he's like, oh, I'm going to get one too. So I let him out, wasn't thinking anything of it at the time. I was unaware of this until we got back in the car, but apparently when he was up there, he scooched by her, went out of this way to like rub up against her so closely that he rubbed his dick on her butt and she could feel it. Once dinner's over and we get in the car, Daniel tells me about it and then she's also telling me about all the stuff leading up to that. She feels like it's more than the coincidence and I was like, that's definitely weird.

We've been together for like nine years now and she's never had an encounter like that. She was super excited to have me work at the shop where I could grow my career. It would make no sense for her to just make that shit up. I had asked her, I was like, do you want me to say something? I'll fucking call him out. She's like, no, there's the whole plausible deny ability thing. He could just be like, I did not do that. And it's my word against his. She was worried she was going to get painted as lying.

She's like, it's just weird. And of course, I was mad about it. It's like, it's my word against his. She was worried she was going to get painted as lying. She's like, it's just weird. And of course, I was mad about it. It's like, it's dude making a microphone to come from. Of course, I wanted to say something, but she doesn't want me to say anything. The whole drive home, which was like 45 minutes, we're just kind of weighing it. He's got such a huge platform, and he's a much more well-known artist. There's this power dynamic where even if I did call him out, he could single-handedly destroy my career. Unfortunately, we just didn't really have enough to like

incriminate him or anything. There's even parts to you that downplays it yourself when you go through something like that. Okay, like maybe we're just overreacting. Definitely seems weird. You shouldn't have done that. You just second-guess yourself. So we're like, whatever. We'll just let it go. Another time, there was a dinner that we went to a couple months later, and it was kind of similar situation. We were invited to hang out with a couple of guest artists. Danielle came along. She was sitting next to him.

I was on Danielle's other side. We didn't think about it. I don't know. Yeah, we were creeped out by him, but when you're in this big group setting in a public area, sometimes you're just not thinking, this guy's gonna creep on me right now. She's sitting next to him and apparently onto the table,

started with Putsy. She was moving away because she's like maybe it's an accident. With her body language it just moves away and then you like keeps moving it back and then he grabbed her thigh under the table. She like swatted him away. I'm unaware of all of this. We leave the restaurant and she tells me that in the car and I'm like what the fuck? I kind of want to call this guy out. She's like no. It's just gonna escalate and I either get into an altercation with him or I quit or get fired and then maybe get painted as a strange jealous coworker

because he's done that to people before. Everyone that he's worked with, he's got some issue with and oh, they're just crazy and they hate me. When I was younger, I lived in Washington. Me and Nathan arrived in the bus home one day, Nathan being my brother, were the last kids on the bus, and there was a bus driver assistant and the bus driver. The bus driver was apparently drinking and driving, and obviously we didn't know. She drove off the cliff, I cannot make that up. We just drove off the mountain cliffs, completely were airborne and fell on the next set of road.

Ever since then, I am terrified of long drives. Which is kind of funny because it wasn't really a long drive, but the longer I drive, the more the anxiety kicks in and I'm scared of crashing. So, the convention from hell, there's so many things that happened during that trip. The big part was from where I was at in Seattle all the way to Portland for the convention, I was petrified. Even though it's a really safe drive I hate doing the drives I literally have to like peel my hands off the steering wheel because I'm ripping it so hard So I was like maybe I can hit you ride with Archie Archie was driving another artist to flew in who is a guest artist So he's like I don't got room on my car. Sorry, and I was like all right

That's fine. I found another artist from another shop who was very nice. He was like, I'm gonna get a rental car. I'm a very safe driver. If you wanna just drive with me, I can take your stuff. And I was like, oh my gosh, yes, thank you. My road with him, he was very sweet. Got me there safely. He was not lying.

He's a very safe driver. That was the best driving experience I've ever had. It was wonderful. So I get to the convention. I wanted to leave Sunday night and everyone else was gonna stay until Monday night, including our team. I was like, the guy who drove me here, he else was gonna stay until Monday night, including Archie. I was like the guy who drove me here, he also wants to stay until Monday night.

I think I'm just gonna take the bus back. There was like a whole thing at the hotel. I went to the hotel and they're like, we don't have anything under Archie Bronson. I was like, what are you talking about? This has to be it. He's not answering his phone. I'm running through what I think his legal name is and eventually we got it and I was able to get the hotel room. Archie had brought his own massage table and for some reason decided to take mine so he hogged my massage table all three days, would not let me use his, didn't even offer. I didn't say anything about it at the time, we're in the middle of a convention with all these other artists. I'm really not trying to look crazy in front of these people by being like, why do you take my massage table? Since all this stuff has happened, I'm not as tolerant.

When I see behavior like that, I'm just calling it out. And then he, like, also pressured me to go to a strip club, which personal beliefs I do not like going to strip clubs. I think they're very exploitive. I know that some people maybe have good experiences, but I know people who don't have good experiences with working there I think at the end of the day is the place where you are inherently Commodifying women's bodies and you're objectifying them I have always from the get go made it very clear

I'm not okay with those places I've told him that before and he's like come on We just go because a bunch of other artists are going and I was like I guess I'll go but no lap dances And he's like yeah, yeah, yeah, no, that's fine. That's fine. I go. I was in there for like 15 minutes As soon as I walk in the door, there's a stripper crying the door person's freaking out And there's a fight that broke out I get in there and I panic I hate being here the vibes are off So I go out the smoking section and I'm just vaping trying to get away from all the commotion Archie comes out, already pissed drunk and he's like, I'm gonna get you a lap, dance!

And I was like, no, I told you, I don't wanna be here. Pretty shortly after that, I mean, again, I was only there for like 15 minutes, and I got an Uber and went back to my hotel room without saying anything to anyone I just left. And then I get a text from Archie, and he's like, why'd you leave? And I was like, I told you, I don't like those places, I really didn't wanna go.

He told me it was gonna to be a nice place. I'm seeing these poor women just crying because they've been assaulted. And I especially told you I didn't want to lap dance. He has the audacity to send me this thing back. And I think it's just because it was in writing. I think if I told that in person, his response would have been different. He would have been more defensive, but through text, since it was in writing, he's like, oh, I totally understand.

I hate these places too. I only went because everyone else was going. And I was like, what? You're the one that pressured me to go. I was already pissed about that. I go and talk to Archie and Archie's like, so what's the plan? I was like, well, I'm going to be leaving Sunday night. I'm just going to have my stuff go back with the guy who drove me and he was like like, so what's the plan? I was like, well, I'm gonna be leaving Sunday night. I'm just gonna have my stuff go back with the guy who drove me and he was like, I can take your stuff. And I was like, he's already got it. I thought you were already driving the other guy.

I thought, you didn't have any room in your car. He's like, I'm gonna be taking to the airport. So I'll have room and I was like, are you sure? I already got a ride and he's like, no, no, let me take care of it. It makes way more sense. We worked the same shop. I'll just take it right to the shop.

So I went and talked to the other guy and was like, all right, Archie wants to do it. And he's like, okay, this one. The convention happens. I only brought three things. It was my tattooing stool, my toolbox that had all of my equipment in it, which might use thousands of dollars worth of equipment.

That is my whole career in a box and my massage tables. So it was just those three things. And then on the last day when I was finally ready to leave, I finished tattooing and I put all my stuff in one spot. I'm like, do you want me to just load your car up right now? And he's like, no, no, I got it. I was like, are you sure? Because I can load it up right now.

I'm not tattooing. I have time before my bus leaves. And he's like, no, no, don't worry. I have you. I was like, all right. Well, it's just my three things in the corner there. I cannot explain to you like how abundantly clear I was. It's these things. And then I start walking to the bus and I text them. And I was like, don't forget my stuff. It's just three things in the corner there, I cannot explain to you how abundantly clear I was. These things.

And then I start walking to the bus and I text them and I was like, don't forget my stuff. It's just three things and he's like, yep, got it. I get my bus right home, go to bed, wake up in the morning and I get a text from the shop that was in the booth next to us and there like, it appears Archie forgot your stuff. So we went ahead and grabbed it so that it wouldn't get left behind. You can come pick it up today. Just to check my own bias, I was like, are you sure he forgot it? He didn't like how it set up to go with anyone else, nothing like that.

They were like, no, it was just sitting here and he was already gone and your stuff was in the booth alone. They were closing the whole building down. Alright, that's all I need to know. Thanks. I picked up my stuff from them. I kind of trauma dumped on them about the whole experience with working with Archie and they knew him after all this stuff has happened.

They're like, I remember that day you told us all that stuff and they're like it definitely really made us question who this guy was. Then the next day I was gonna go confront Archie. I know a lot of people are like you confronted him on your toolbox but not him growing your girlfriend I'm like well one my girlfriend did not want me to say anything. And two unfortunately no one questions whether he fucked me over with the toolbox or not. No one is questioning whether he disrespected my property, but unfortunately people will question if he assaulted my girlfriend or if he disrespected her body, which really just kind of highlights how little we view women, I guess, which is really sad. One of the

only ways that I was able to get my frustration out on him was to call him the fuck out on my equipment I had all this pent up anger. I go into the shop and I'm ready to confront him He's sitting in the shop alone and I open the door and I was like do you have a client here? And he was like no and I was like cool because we need to frickin talk about some shit I went off on him. I was like what the fuck between like the pressure me to go to the strip club and leaving all my shit at the convention Taking my massage table when you already had one. I had to tattoo in the most awkward positions Why do you feel so entitled to my shit? And anytime you have a guest artist here You let them use my shit without asking so there's been times where I just didn't have a power supply when I was about statue

For my appointment because he just let people use my shit or he moved it So I'm bringing all this up to him and he's like, whoa, it's not really like that, man. I had actually asked her if she would take it back because I realized I didn't have any room in my car. And I was like, that's funny, because I already asked her if he had arranged for it to go back with you. And they said, no, you didn't say shit.

I don't know why they would lie about that, but I'm like, even if you did set it up to go with someone else, why didn't you tell me? Why did you not communicate with me and play and change? This is my whole career. You should be communicating with me. I would never do that to you. You are an artist.

You should know damn well how important this shit is. I was just going off. He was still trying to flip it on her. He never fully admitted to it. Even though I caught him red handed and then caught him lying about it, he still insists. After that interaction, it was definitely validated for me. This is not the kind of person that I can call out on anything. He tried to seem like, yeah, I guess I should have communicated a little better, sorry.

Maybe what we can do now is have monthly meetings where we discuss things. I was like, yeah, sure. And then it just turned into him nitpicking everything I did. This really just feels more like a way for him to be like, you're not so great either. Clearly he's a liar. He will throw other people under the bus to save himself. Never fully takes accountability. But we'll try and make it seem like he's doing that so that people will think you're being too harsh. Maybe you should just work with him on it. He's trying. He knows better. What blows me away about all this is people who are like

He's foreign cultures are different. I can understand there are cultural differences and if you are neurodivergent Maybe you do have a hard time with social cues. He's admitted in private that he's not autistic He literally has admitted that he tells people that so that he doesn't have to explain his behavior to people He's been here for 14 years at at least, as of right now. He posts all this stuff virtue signaling about respecting people's boundaries and how to take accountability for when you're getting called out. It's just odd that he's pretending to not understand

these things, you're the one who posts about this stuff all the time. But at that point, I was like, I have to quit. I have to find another way out. The next thing that happened, I think it was a month later, there was a tax issue. He had promised me when we started working there, and this is how every other shop I've ever worked at

operates, and this is how our CPAs and our bookkeepers tell us to do it. The Department of Revenue told us to do it. The artist collects the sales tax from the client, gives that to the shop, and the shop can pay it. So all the sales tax gets to the Department of Revenue. I had asked him before working there, is that how it's gonna be?

And he was like, yes, the whole year I'm giving him all the sales tax that I've collected from the customers. All of a sudden he was like, I talked to my CPA and they said, that's not how we do it. I have the money, I can just give it back to you. And then you can pay it. And I was like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, wait. You're supposed to pay those things monthly though,

and it's been almost a year. This could be a crewing late fees, you clearly haven't checked in. He's like, well, I don't know this, what they're telling me, so I was like, this is gonna be my way out. I don't wanna just up and quit randomly, I feel like I need to have the concrete reason.

I wanted to catch him doing something, I could have some kind of actual proof over the tax thing. I like that was a really easy one that had to be my way out I've been telling my old co-workers about all this throughout working there But especially around that time this is creepy. There's so many red flags. I need to get out He's gonna like hit on the wrong person or something and get canceled And I definitely don't want to be there for that which in hindsight sounds really bad I'm gonna take ownership of that and sounds like I didn't care I only put myself first. I didn't have enough evidence that the time to fully be like this guy

is a predator. I only had enough to just be like, yeah, he's fucking creepy and weird and I don't like it and I need to get out. I'm still one person. I can't defeat misogyny myself. I still unfortunately have to navigate my way through it. The alternative could have absolutely been me having my career destroyed for me to go out before I knew that there were others. I also didn't know the extent of it. Yeah, Kimmy and I was like, I'm sorry. Between this and some other shit, I'm just over it.

And he's like, what other stuff? I had a thrown in. Him not respecting my boundaries in multiple different ways. Anytime I would try and communicate with him, he would put up a fight. I'm really getting tired of being accused of being aggressive. The tax issue was the nail in the coffin and all that other stuff led up to it. That's how I ended up leaving. I remember when I quit. I gave him a 30-day notice and said, this is gonna be my last day. I'm done. He tried to say, I think you owe me staying until

I hire someone else. To which I was like, no, I've been telling you for months that you need to hire someone and you point blank told me that you didn't like any of the options even though you apparently had this plethora of artists, some of which I've even seen that were incredibly talented artists and you just decided you didn't like them. That's not my problem. My last day is on the 30th, I'm leaving. Right after I quit, he made some comment within the same conversation. He's like if I can't even manage to keep you here being as tolerant

as you are, how am I gonna get anyone else to work with me. It's funny at the time I almost kind of took as a compliment. I thought about it even in that moment. Last kind of backhanded. This is obviously thinking he'd walk all over me. Did you handpick me because you thought that I would tolerate more which unfortunately I did? That's awful. That itself to me seemed weird that he would say that. During that month, he would like make comments how it's gonna be run in the place by himself. Then he would also do weird bragging things where I guess you just got sponsored, but can't you equip me? A lot of people have tried to discredit me and accuse me of lying about this stuff,

because you went to a convention with him after you quit, so it must not have been that bad. For one, the convention was already booked prior to me quitting, and it was in a group of multiple other artists. Artists just happened to be there. I did not know what the sleeping arrangements were gonna be.

We all were gonna get an Airbnb together, and when I got to the Airbnb, I was trying to sleep out on the couch because no one else was there at the time. They were all out partying and I'm sober, so I was chilling at the house, already about to sleep in the couch. They're like, you know, I have to sleep out here, you're gonna sleep up with Archie or whatever, and I was like, fuck, I bet stuck in a room with him. He had pressured the fuck out of me the whole time, like, for months, months and months. Let me tattoo you Why won't you let me tattoo you are you mad at me? I was trying to push it off. I still know what I want, you know

He tattooed me on that trip. I think since I wasn't working with him at the time It honestly wasn't that bad. I drove down there myself this time had all my stuff in order And I definitely made sure to like keep track of all my belongings not trusting with anything It was a much better experience, but still not particularly fun, having to room with him. He did have me lie. I almost didn't really mind, because at that point, I just wanted out.

I wanted to leave at least somewhat peacefully. He did make me lie and be like, well, just tell people that you're leaving because the commute, which is kind of true. It wasn't really long commute for me, but also I was carploned with my girlfriend, so it was fine either way. But I was like, yeah, that's what I'll tell people.

In my post when I was like, I'm leaving here guys, commute was a little crazy, huh? That was him being like, don't tell anyone about convention, don't tell anyone about. He definitely wanted me to keep it really hush hush on his bath, so that was kind of silly. He's also expecting loyalty of you, but never gives you that in return. Yeah, well, I think the whole thing was his public image, and that's what I think is so ironic. Me, unfortunately, being the face of this whole thing, which I want to say, it wasn't just me who came out about this. There was actually a lot of other artists that we collectively decided we needed to do this. actually a lot of other artists that we collectively decided we needed to do this.

Next time on something was wrong. I got a text from Shane like, hey, can you talk real quick? And he confided in me. I said, Archie assaulted me and he was like, I knew it. I knew that he was this type of person. They had their own evidence against him. They were like, we saw graffiti on a wall that said Archie Bronson sexually assault people and we had confronted him about it. And he was like, oh, it's just my crazy ex. I ended up deciding to make a police report.

They were like, wow, this is obviously really messed up. What are we gonna do about this? I had quite a lot of people come in forward telling me their experiences, people in the tattoo community and in this ex-work community in Seattle. You are this pullier than now person and yet you're doing all this terrible stuff

behind the scenes like fuck you, fuck this thing that you did to this person and fuck you for also doing this again in our industry when this is a prevalent problem. Thank you so much for listening. Until next time, stay safe friends. Something was wrong is a broken cycle media production created and hosted by me, Tiffany Rees.

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