Stavvy's World - Bonus #71 - Gavin Matts [PATREON PREVIEW]

Episode Date: April 14, 2024

Patreon preview. Unlock full episode at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworld Gavin Matts joins the pod to discuss his special 'Progression,' harvesting salmon eggs, Sam Bankman-Fried, twisted nuts, Ms. Krabappel, and much more. Gavin and Stav help callers including a guy who went too far with an off-color joke in a group chat, and a man whose Japanese wife is fine with him cheating. Watch Gavin Matts special 'Progression' out now: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sXswAbQYPDE Follow Gavin Matts on social media: https://gavinmatts.com/ http://www.instagram.com/gavinmatts http://www.youtube.com/gavinmatts https://twitter.com/gavinmatts https://www.tiktok.com/@gavinmatts Wanna be part of the show? Call 904-800-STAV and leave a voicemail to get advice!

Hey, savvy, I just called in and I want to redo that because they didn't give enough contact. Oh first off 38 years old at three year old boy. I'm married to a Japanese woman I'm going to get there for about five six years. That sounds like what I'd like to Don't have sex. Yeah, you don't have sex Then about six months and the last time he had sex and for most people that be a deal-breaker But I don't know if you know anything about Japanese culture She doesn't care if I fuck other women like that. That's nice show up to the marriage Provided family. She's not gonna divorce me and

That's my question to you Eldest book a first-class ticket to Tokyo Eldest get Delta on the horn. What is the next JFK to Tokyo? Anyway, all right. Sorry. let's keep going here. I know in the Western sense, you want to have a woman that will put out for you that you're one and only. In the Western sense, relax. How would you feel if you were in my situation?

In personal context, that's the reason I broke up with my ex. You know, I wanted fucking women and now I have that. I'm sorry. For some context, my last relationship didn't work because I wanted more pussy. The fucking academic language and being like, no no I know in the Western sense like relax I don't like judging anybody off like the tone of their voice, but I'm like I don't think you should be around Yeah, anyone yeah, this guy just feel maybe he's not like this But he feels like a fucking just like some way too skinny white guy in a kimono Who knows like who sweat has jet who has samurai swords?

Who knows like who sweat has jet who has samurai swords? Who's really feeling himself and he talks about how he he connects more with east the eastern ways And it's like he's some fucking guy from Ohio Anyway, let's finish. Let's finish You know I wanted fuck with women and now And I kind of get everything that I wanted to like I got a wife I got a good mother and I can fuck the people I want who are these people but I'm conflicted you know I grew up in the west I grew up Catholic not Eastern Orthodox like you but yeah that's the sect of religion is the problem that's how you feel about it, you know. Anyway, um,

curiousness is the way you think. Um, thanks. Looking forward to your response. Oh man. Dude. This is so interesting. I got everything I ever wanted. I got a good mother, I got a good wife. I can fuck the people I want. That was kind of like

going into like life. I was like, I need three things. I need three things good wife Who raises my half Japanese son? Well and some some put strange pussy um I mean look What is the this is just a brag? He's calling in to brag yeah, he wasn't being like there's no real question Yeah, how do I get my wife it to like be sexually active with me, right? It's it's it's just like he seems like fucking fuck. Oh the problem. Yeah, the problem is you grew up Catholic

That's your problem. That's the only like what in this voicemail is an issue I think I don't think I don't think he got everything he wants I think he's uncomfortable with how much like she's just turning a blind eye and because because What are you talking? I'm also like did she move here? Where is she from when he's saying Japanese like she's got a she lives there No, she's a Japanese woman. Yeah, she's a Japanese woman I feel like I have a three-year-old son but I'm like is this like I cuz my dad had a friend Paul who he like was like

worked in like travel and he had like a Chinese wife that he brought over to Canada and then They had a son and then they later like divorced. Mm-hmm. And my I remember being like this is weird Yeah, and this isn't gonna last last. And it didn't. Right. She just wanted to take it to America. Yeah, is that the situation? Which I'm like, that's a come up. And you paid your dues if you had a son with this guy. Absolutely.

You know what I mean? Absolutely. Yeah. I also like, also, I'm not super familiar with Japanese culture. But I also feel like from what? From the movies I've watched I'm like it is very controlling from men

Like over women like talking about sex like the handmaiden or something. Yeah, they fuck octopuses or some Well, like I know I know they don't see well according to like for tik-toks I've seen I know they don't see Well according to like four tik-toks I've seen I know they don't see Prostitution is like cheating they see it as like yeah. Oh, yeah, you're just knocking it out which and so that's references in the show Yeah, yeah, yeah, and and then but I don't know like she just lets you fuck other like are there parameters? Is it a don't ask don't tell do you want to have a fucking do you have a girl for you? I have a girlfriend like what do you mean you're allowed to fuck other people also? He hasn't brought up that he's fucked anyone right

I mean, maybe he has but I feel like he'd bring it up if he's already like who are you fucking? Where are these women and no other people man? You don't know I don't know him he could be fucking you're right I do kind of want a list of like I'm fucking people like this and I meet them here I'm like how are you going about this and like wins the last how often are you having sex with other people and it's not feels very like in a way you're trying to control a sex addiction almost well yeah that's but I'm like six months is a long time six months is long that's the other things like you don't I guess my question this guy is that's cool but

do you not want to fuck your wife like that doesn't to me sound like the best setup like it sounds like you're just Partners now like in a business venture Even if I had a wife who occasionally let me fuck other women which you know I think if I really thought about it my dream would be like my wife like it would be by and wants to fuck a woman with me every like two three years, you know Spice it up. Maybe yeah, yeah, like an eclipse or something We get pussy together But like but like even if I had something like that

The idea that my I wouldn't fuck my wife ever and I would just complain He acts like he's a king who was forced into a political marriage and he has to have concubines now like Are you like truly? Are you happy even him saying also you might not get this because you're Eastern Orthodox Yeah, right, right, right the culture might be too different But like is this what you want like he said for some context my last relationship didn't work because I wanted to fuck other women I Think like it's just it's a little weird. I know so then is it like cuz you want it I'm just not sure what he's even fucking asking I

Think he's just like kind of uncomfortable with like get being like a white guy who probably Exclusively like dates Asian women or something not uncomfortable about that, but but I think I think he is I think it I think what he's what do you Where do you see that? I think what he's saying is well He did point out that she was Japanese, but that's only to give us because why do we even need that contact? What's Japanese culture because it wouldn't it wouldn't matter if we were like oh? It's a I'm married to someone who wants me to fuck other people does want to fuck well I think to be clear that it's not a weird poly Setup it's like a traditional It's almost like you're so misogynistic. It's your polyamorous. And so that's traditional over there? Huh? That's traditional

That's the other thing. I don't even know that that's true. Yeah The thing that he's saying is normalized in Japanese culture is not just that your wife lets you fuck whoever you want It's that I feel like in their culture like it's so based on like shame or something that you would rather turn a blind eye than like getting a divorce or something and I think I think like I Think why don't they fuck here's the thing that I don't get Like but he's a white guy. He's not Japanese. So he doesn't have honor, you know Like, but he's a white guy. He's not Japanese so he doesn't have honor. You know yeah exactly They probably fucking like she resents him or something because she knows he's like fucking around

But he's playing a little less marriage. I just don't this just seems like a weird setup to me This is not a big enough window into his life. We don't know enough I'm like what's the one with lack of context because I still don't I We don't know enough. I'm like what's the one with lack of context because I still don't I Still don't understand like are you happy like scroll all the way down? What's even fucking? That's what I'm saying What the fuck is this question? He wants he's it's not even anything. He wants to know what we feel about it Okay, we think I think it's weird Yeah, I think it's weird unless your wife is either cool like she's because she's basically saying You can fuck other women as long as you provide right which again I'm not even sure is exactly what Japanese culture is I think

like to just say this because of Japanese culture like are you in a good marriage do you want to be fucking married does your wife your wife doesn't want to fuck you is she just not interested in sex like that to me is weird it is like a fuck it's one thing to be an open thing or like she likes it, but she just don't ask don't tell I Handle raising our son you bring in the checks. We don't fuck ever anymore and you get to fuck whoever you want That's not a real. That's just a weird setup to me. I don't get it And I wouldn't like it to be complete if you're asking how I feel about it. I wouldn't like that I'm like, how do I explain that? Why am I with this woman? Why are we just divorced? Yeah, is it? Yeah, exactly

He's now forming memories as I'm should I fuck other people? Well, that's the thing It's like I guess the idea is he has to cheat. It's not an open relationship. He just has to do his shit Clandestinely it's like why do you want to get that way? Yeah, then I guess it's just you sex work and you get go get that head Doesn't sound bad actually now you say that But you have to pick up a couple extra shifts to buy pussy I mean what he's describing sounds norm not healthy, but like normal just in like an old-fashioned like I'm sure there's plenty of like Albanian that I've known who are probably absolutely Loveless marriages where we're talking about. Yeah, like you know the wife turns a blind eye but they're not happy about it

he almost makes it seem like it's just part of cult like that's my thing i don't think he's happy about it because if she's not happy about it then you have to figure something yourself a pass and saying well she's japanese i get side because if she's not happy about it is what he's doing so if she's not happy about it is what he's doing So if she's not happy about it then like to me and maybe that's why she's not having Sex with him is because she knows he cheated but it's also like and then why are you trying to get side? Yes, he's like or he wants to cheat. It's like yeah Why if she's not happy about this? Why don't you try and repair your fucking relationship and fuck your wife?

I just don't get that yeah, isn't that awesome because to have a wife and you fuck that's the whole point. Yeah, that's like the dream Yeah, it's like I just don't yes, so I guess I need a little more Could you imagine just having sex with your best friend? Yeah, that's fucking awesome, dude, but they're obviously not close You know, I don't want to fuck like I don't think I don't think they have like inside jokes Yeah, that's a good point. Maybe this is just some kind of weird Yeah, I don't know. Sorry. I need to know more jokes. Yeah, I mean I need to know more cuz like what's even the point of this Setup. Yeah, just feel like you're a 30. He's kind of fucking you know, it's probably some fucking anime fan got himself some Japanese pussy

Yeah, I think I for me I don't have a hard time imagining like this setup is like weird in that it's not healthy, but I can totally see it Oh guy animes cool, but I can't like binge it, you know Yeah, okay, so I guess my my if if we're reading this right and she's not into it Then I don't know man try and fix your fucking marriage or I don't and you know Don't cheat that much and this is crazy to get me to be anti cheating I'm usually pretty pro cheating but this feels there's something just feels bad. Yeah Understand if she feels comfortable with this or not because here's the other thing is like she's you know

I have friends with young children. It's like Your life is fucking chaos when you're when you have a child. It's like ages one to like four Yeah, and it's the first time they've done it because it's their first kid Yeah, and it's like do you help with that or she just completely overwhelmed? Yes, she doesn't want to fuck cuz she's like tired tired Yeah, you work and all and what are you even doing? You come back after I provide for my family I want to smell like pussy. Yeah Anyway, that's what I think of it if that's your question Sorry, I don't f- whatever, fuck this guy.