Ten Percent Happier with Dan Harris - 445: The Science of Sleep | Dr. Sara Mednick
Episode Date: May 4, 2022If you’re trying to improve your sleep, thinking about doing so right before you get into bed might not be the best approach. Dr. Sara Mednick, is a cognitive neuroscientist at the Uni...versity of California, Irvine, and the author of the new book The Power of the Downstate. This episode is part of our month-long “Mental Health Reboot” series to mark Mental Health Awareness Month. According to her research, Dr. Mednick says that we need to take a more holistic approach to getting better sleep, and that sleep is just one of the ways that our bodies rest and restore. In this conversation, we talk about:The nuances of nappingDr. Mednick’s definition of the “downstate”Whether there are practices that can compensate for poor sleepWhy heart rate variability is an important measurement of healthWhy sex is so helpful for sleepAnd when to take melatonin to best effectFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/sara-mednick-445See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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This is the 10% happier podcast.
I'm Dan Harris.
Hey gang, if you're interested in getting more and better sleep, there may be a temptation
to think about this as a strictly night time endeavor.
But my guest today says, you can't think about improving your sleep just in the minutes
before you go to bed. Her neuroscientific research has led her to conclude that we need to think about
sleep more holistically as just one of the body's ways of resting and restoring. Dr. Sarah Mednik is
the author of the new book, The Hidden Power of the Downstate. She's a cognitive neuroscientist at the University of California Irvine.
Her seven bedroom sleep lab
works literally around the clock
to discover methods for boosting cognition,
by napping, stimulating the brain with electricity,
sound, and light, and pharmacology.
In this conversation, we talk about the nuances
of napping, what the science says about who should and should not indulge.
Her definition of the down state and why it includes more than just sleep, whether there
are practices we can do that would compensate for poor sleep, why heart rate variability
is an important measurement of health, why sex is so helpful for sleep, and when to take
melatonin for the best effects.
If you missed the first part of our sleep series, go back and check out Monday's episode
with my friend and former colleague, Diane Maseito, and ABC News journalist who wrote a rather
comprehensive book about what she learned on her own Odyssey and the land of insomnia and other
sleep disorders. I have to say in the week since we recorded both of these interviews,
my own sleep has improved a lot.
Also just to say we're in the midst of a four week series,
we're calling the Mental Health Reboot.
This is the longest and really most ambitious series we've ever launched here on the show.
Every week on Monday, we're bringing you a series of brand new interviews with
mental health memoirists,
people who have personal stories on everything from shame to grief to trauma, and then on Wednesdays,
we'll bring on top notch scientists to help contextualize the story you've just heard
and provide some evidence-based advice.
One quick note, as mentioned above, there is a rather tame discussion of sex in this interview, but if you're listening with kids, this is your heads up.
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Dr. Sarah Mennek, welcome to the show.
Thanks very much for having me.
It's a pleasure.
I'd be curious to start with a little bit of
backstory from you about how and why you got interested in sleep. Well, there's a long story
in a short story and I think I'll stick with the short story, which is that I got into the Harvard
Graduate PC program to work with one person and that person turned out to not be a good
person for me to work with.
And I had to leave her lab and go to a new lab that accepted me, but they were doing vision
research and I didn't really understand really what kind of vision research they were doing,
but I knew I had to suddenly start doing vision research.
But I happened to sit through a lecture
by a guy named Robert Stickgold,
and he has just begun doing research in sleep and memory.
He was the first person to truly put together
the experimental methods that we use today
to understand how sleep affects memory.
And he was showing all sorts of strong results
about different sleep stages,
affecting different memory processing.
But he was doing it a full night of sleep.
And so I contacted him and said,
hey, I do vision research,
and you're kind of doing vision research,
but with sleep, how about if we work together?
So I was at the vision lab at Harvard,
and they let me change the
copy room into a little sleep lab and I got a caught from the Harvard dorms and
I got a bunch of sheets from the Salvation Army and a little portable EEG
system and I started doing nap research for multiple reasons. One was that I didn't want to sit through watching people sleep while, you know, a full
night of sleep while I had to just sit there and watch them sleep.
That seemed really like a bad idea.
But also because all of Bob's Tickled's work was about nighttime sleep and showing that
you needed around eight hours of sleep to really get any benefits of sleep.
And I thought, well, that's weird because because I know a lot of people, my dad included,
that were really avid nappers, and they got a lot out of sleep
and they woke up feeling great.
So why don't we try to do the same exact studies
that he was doing, but then put them in a nap design?
And surprisingly, we showed these really strong effects
where the same magnitude of benefit
that Bob was showing with a full night of sleep for memory results, memory performance,
we found the same magnitude with NAP results.
And the second paper we published was a NAP is as good as a night for perceptual learning.
And that sort of started my career really looking at sleep, but specifically using NAPS as
a tool.
It's interesting we got to NAPS pretty quickly because I've heard that NAPS can be problematic
because it could mean that you have more trouble following a sleep that night because you've
reduced, I believe, the technical term is your sleep drive.
So I have a lot of trouble sleeping
and have tried to stay away from naps
even though I love them
because I don't wanna mess up the coming evening.
Yeah, I think that you sound like
you've been talking to all the reviewers
I've ever had on my scientific journals.
A lot of sleep scientists who are clinicians
really don't believe that naps are good because usually these people are talking to people who have real
insomnia problems. And so one of the main treatments is to restrict sleeping to a
very short period of time in the middle of the night and definitely not allow
sleeping in the middle of the day. And then hopefully that will train your system to just sleep at night.
And I think that for people with severe insomnia, that really is a helpful practice because
it just trains your body that you're so exhausted that you just sleep at night.
Now about 50% of the population sound like they're actually like you, that they enjoy
naps and they get a lot out of napping.
And when they nap, they don't actually have sleep problems at night.
I've done a bunch of research looking at nappers and non-nappers.
And it turns out that people who are nappers and non-nappers don't really have a big difference
in their nighttime sleep.
And that people who are nappers have the ability to get into sleep, stay there and enjoy their sleep, but wake up feeling really refreshed
and stay in kind of lighter sleep.
So when they wake up, they're not feeling that heavy sleep inertia that people who hate
naps often feel because they wake up and they feel like crap.
So I think that there's a lot of nuance to the question of our NAPS. Good for you. Should you NAP?
Depends on a lot of questions about what is your intention to NAP? I don't know if you saw this
recent study that came out I think last week where they were showing that NAPS can predict
increased risk for dementia and Alzheimer's. And so, of course, I was asked to comment on this finding.
And the truth is that a lot of these studies
don't really separate why people are napping.
And when we get older, we have muted circadian rhythm
signals.
Our arousal signals are actually dampened.
And so people start to accidentally fall asleep in the middle of the day. And then there's
people who are nappers who just like, I take a nap every day, I take a nap three times a week, this is
the time, I take a 20 minute nap, I'm in, I'm out, I feel great, no problem sleeping at night. So when
you're doing these sort of epidemiology studies, a lot of the time people don't separate the different
reasons why people nap.
And what you find is that the people who are napping because it feels good, they feel
smarter, they have better emotion regulation, they get lumped in with the people who are
actually having some comorbidities and sort of pathologies that are just starting to show
by this accidental napping during the day.
So I think it's a complicated question
about whether it's a good idea to nap
because I think for some people it isn't,
and you should not nap,
but for other people it's great and it can save your life.
Complicated, but you just did, I think quite nicely.
The answer depends on what's going on with you
and how your body is and how your system is
and that makes a lot of sense.
You use a term that I wanna get into the down state.
And I'm curious what you mean by the down state
and where does sleep fit into that?
Yeah, that's a great question.
So when I started doing the nap research,
we were in the very primitive stages of this
field of sleep and memory.
People have been setting sleep for a long time, but this particular field of sleep and
memory and sleep in general had been pretty primitive in terms of just looking at minutes
of sleep, minutes of slow-wave sleep, minutes of REM sleep.
And what we found in the next 15 years was this massive technological advancement in all
of neuroscience.
And the way that that got passed down to sleep is that we started using more engineering
type of tools, like signal processing tools, to start doing more sophisticated analysis
of the EEG.
And what we found were these things called slow waves.
And slow waves turn out to be the strongest indicator for the most restorative part of your sleep.
They are the time where you're in your deepest sleep and they basically have an upstate and a
downstate. They're one second long and you go through a period where all of the neurons start
firing in the upstate and then bam everything silences in the down state. And you see the entire brain go through these waves
of all the neurons firing together,
and then all the neurons basically go braided.
And these slow waves turned out to be very important
for all of those things that we know are sleeper,
important for memory, restorative processes,
growth hormone increases, decreases in cortisol,
but also then the glymphatic system, right? This whole new research showing that during deep
slow-wave sleep, you have these waves of liquid that are washing your brain, all of the toxins
that build up across the day with increased neural transmission,
you get these proteins that need to get washed out
of your brain every night,
because if they don't, they build these plaques.
And those plaques later become,
especially with dimension Alzheimer's.
So these slow waves obviously became
sort of a central feature of sleep research.
And that made me think about this idea of upstates
and downstates.
And then I started doing research in my lab
on not just the brain, but also the autonomic nervous system.
And I started looking at the relationship
between the parasympathetic nervous system,
which is that rest and digest, and the sympathetic nervous
system, which is the fight or flight.
And I know that when we're awake,
we have very high sympathetic arousal,
which in my book I call Rev,
that you're rev really high during the day.
And when you go to sleep,
you have very strong, peri-sympathetic response to that high rev,
and I call that restore.
So you have your revving during the day,
and you have this strong restorative system
during the night.
And that's when the light bulb started to go on
that it seemed like this idea of having rhythms
where nature creates this time for energetic output.
And then a very concerted effort to have a time for a restorative down
state where you can restore all of the energy and nutrients that the previous upstate used
up and get yourself ready for the next upstate, that that turned out to be a central principle
of all of our biological systems.
And that's when the book idea came to me
is to really say, well, why don't I tie all these ideas together
because you can see upstates and downstates
in exercise, in nutrition, in sleep, and circadian rhythms
in our autonomic nervous system.
And in fact, conceiving of yourself
as being rhythmic and having these ideal times for output
and ideal times for prioritizing restorative processes actually is the most natural way to live
and the healthiest way to live. And that's where the downstate really came to be.
It started with sleep and then it kind of mushroomed.
sleep and it kind of mushroomed. So the down state, if I understand you correctly, is a broad term that encompasses all of the
ways in which our body naturally relaxes, inclusive of sleep.
That's right.
Yeah.
I mean, I think that one of the things to think about is that we are not
a bunch of separate systems that are disconnected from each other, that all of our little sub-systems,
you know, the cardiovascular system, the metabolic system, the sleep system, our muscular system,
everything needs a downstate. And you can think about them as individual down states that all day long your
your heart is pumping blood against gravity to make sure you have enough nutrient rich blood in
your system. And then you need to give it some breaks. And the most natural break that you can
give it is during sleep because this is when nature is forced you to go into this deep sleep
relaxation state that is a huge break for your heart. It's called a cardiovascular holiday,
actually, slow-wave sleepers. But there's also down states that occur outside of sleep
that you can actually decide to engage with, right? You know, slow, deep breathing is a down state that you can create for your heart to get it
into a deep, relaxed state and to cool down rev and turn up restore processes.
And doing inversion poses just like lying on your back with the legs up the wall or
just having your heart lower than your hips and your legs, for just 10 minutes a day, can have very similar
effects because that turns down rev and turns on restore.
Definitely sleep is the way in which most animals use to flip that balance between your updates
and down states.
But as you know, with your own sleep problems, there's many of us that don't sleep
as well as we would like.
And so the question is, how can we also bring these down states into our daytime and really
intentionally make time for restorative processes?
We're going to talk about the down state generally in this conversation, but now that we're
talking about people with sleep problems,
I think one psychology that I find myself slipping into
and I suspect I'm not alone in this is,
I get freaked out because I see all the data
that show that if you don't sleep well,
you're susceptible to all kinds of terrible diseases.
So I guess when I hear you talking about the down state
generally and sleep as a part of it
and the notion that we can have other practices that would help us get into this rhythm that allows us to perform at our best.
I'm just wondering do these other practices inversion, debriefing, truly compensate for poor sleep?
truly compensate for poor sleep? Obviously, there's a lot of different places that poor sleep can be coming from, right?
There can be levels of over arousal, you know, one of the strongest ways to prevent yourself
from getting into sleep is being worried that you can't get to sleep, right?
So the common problem is that people start obsessing over the thought of, I won't be
able to get to sleep tonight and low and behold, the worry prevents them from getting to sleep at night.
So there's psychological and atomical physiological problems that can contribute to poor sleep.
I think that one of the things that's important also to think about is that sleep doesn't
work on its own, right?
So sleep isn't just its own thing, that if you just think about your sleep, that's going
to solve all your problems. What you do during the day and all of the
ways in which you're leading yourself up to the point of getting to bed and
going to sleep is directly contributing to how well you're going to get to sleep.
So it's not just, you know, that one hour before bed that matters. It's, what time did you exercise that day?
Did you exercise?
And what time of day did you exercise?
Because exercise is a huge increase in rev sympathetic
arousal.
And if you are somebody who exercises later in the evening,
you're going to have a very hard time
getting your rev system to calm down and allow the restore
system to take over and bring on that deep sleep.
If you are someone who is eating, later and later in the evening, eating, later in the evening,
is going to delay your melatonin onset.
Melatonin is a circadian hormone that helps you tell when it's time to
decrease your arousal and go into sleep mode. What you're doing during the day and these kind of
rhythms of how deep you're breathing, how much you're relaxing, how much you're spending time
away from the desk, taking a walk, having an intimate conversation with somebody or a hug, something that calms you down during the day.
If you don't do those things during the day,
you just have an increased system that is just
sort of increasing potential, increasing its stress.
So by the end of the day,
it's quite difficult to really get to the place
where you can calm down enough.
So if you think about your day as part of quite difficult to really get to the place where you can calm down enough.
So if you think about your day as part of the whole picture, if the main goal is to get
good sleep, then think about how you're eating, think about how you're breathing during
the day, think about how stressed you are, think about what time and what kind of exercise
you're getting.
And that has a huge contribution that I think we don't often
think about because we think of these things as kind of siloed.
It's a really good point that we need to take a holistic approach to sleep that is more
than the 15 minutes leading up to bedtime. It's how are you living? The rest of your life
can really have a direct bearing on whether you're able to fall asleep and the quality of that sleep.
But I didn't hear you address whether some of these other downstate practices can make up for poor sleep. It sounds I'm just going to guess that maybe not.
I mean, that's a good question, right? So if you had really crappy sleep, but you were doing
everything else, would there be some sort of a balance there?
Would you be able to stay in the right ratio of upstates and downstates if you did everything
during the day but still had crappy sleep at night?
I don't know if we really know the answer to that.
I mean, I think it's really hard to say that that would still be true, right?
That if you really were taking care of yourself during the day, that your sleep would still
be really bad.
And taking care of yourself also means treating that your sleep would still be really bad. And taking care of yourself also means
treating all the medical issues around
that are preventing you from sleeping well.
Sleep is golden.
Sleep is a very important part of the system cleaning itself
and the system making connections and memorizing
and regulating our emotions, all those things.
But there is also evidence to say that it's not necessarily
the slow wave itself.
The slow wave is really the most optimal time for all this restorative stuff to happen.
But there's a recent study was looking at the glimphatic clearance question
and saying it actually looks like it's the autonomic nervous system
that is running the show in terms of the glimphatic clearance, and that just
happens to usually occur during deep sleep. But you can find ways to dissociate
these things and see actually deep parasympathetic activity, vagal activity, is
really very important for this kind of, you know, cleaning out the toxins.
And so, is it possible? We don't really know, but is it possible that we could shift some of the burden off of sleep to do things that we, you know, that most animals just need to regulate getting to sleep, right? Because then they just go to sleep and they stay asleep. But for us, because we have these ways in which we really have problem sleeping, maybe
there's ways that we could shift the burden to daytime.
You used a few scientific terms of art there, so let me see if I can restate it in a way
that clarifies it for people. There's this brainwashing in a positive sense that happens when we were deep sleep where the toxins get washed out.
And you're musing aloud about whether perhaps other down state practices or practices that activate
the parasympathetic nervous system, or I think you use the term vagus nerve. We've talked about
that before on the show, whether activating the parasympathetic
nervous system and the Vegas nerve can actually put us in a state where we're doing the brain
washing when we're not sleeping.
Do I have that roughly, correct?
That's really exactly right.
And the thing is, there is a lot of research that's conducted during wake on people who
are improving, say, their heart rate
variability, right? So heart rate variability is a really key concept when you're talking
about the parasympathetic restore system. So the restore system is basically doing everything
to make sure that your body is ready for whatever comes. So both the rev and the restore, the sympathetic
and parasympathetic, I call them rev and restore, they're reacting to the
environment and then they're calming you down. So it's the proverbial tiger and
the jungle that if you is at a tiger, suddenly your heart races, sending nutrient
rich blood to all of your muscles and away from digestive systems and all
different other non-necessary systems
to make sure you can bolt out of there if they're actually as a tiger.
And when you suddenly realize, oh no, that's just a bird or a domesticated cat, you need
something that's going to calm you right down.
And that's the restore system, right?
So you want to rev up and immediately calm down.
You don't want to stay at that hyper aroused level with your heart pumping needlessly because it takes a lot of energy.
So when we talk about heart rate variability, what we're talking about is the variability between your heartbeats.
And when you have a high variability, that means that your system is very good at speeding up your heart rate when you need to and slowing it down right when you don't, right when you need to calm down.
So high variability means that you have a very strong restore, a parasympathetic system
that can calm you down very quickly.
You stop running and suddenly you're back to normal, right?
People with low heart rate variability are people that have their heart rates set either very low and so when they need to activate they can't get their heart rates
pumping very fast. Or once their heart rate starts pumping they just stay super fast and
they stay in that overly stressed state for too long. So that system can be trained.
You can increase your heart rate variability. You can do that through many different
parasympathetic practices, such as slow deep breathing,
meditation, yoga.
These are all practices that include deep slow breathing
with every movement.
You can also do it with heart rate variability
biofeedback where you actually use a system
that is basically helping you figure out how to
slow your breathing down, how to calm yourself down.
And the more you do that, the more you see the same benefits as you see with sleep, which
is better executive functioning, right?
Better attention, working memory, inhibitory processing, all these kind of strong frontal
lobe functions.
And it's bi-directional, right?
So you can increase your heart rate variability and see these benefits that you usually see
with sleep.
And you can also do all these working memory training tasks that people are constantly
doing now as they get older, brain training games.
And that also increases your heart rate variability because your brain and your body are connected.
And yes, this natural process does happen during sleep as well, but there's online waking
experiences that do create similar effects.
I apologize if there's obtuseness woven deeply into this question.
Can you draw the connection between heart rate variability and sleep?
Yes.
So the heart rate variability is your ability to calm yourself down.
It's your ability to calm down your heart rate.
That system is controlled by your
parasympathetic restore system. So when you go to sleep, because you've
been spending your whole day in this high arousal, high sympathetic rev state,
the natural upstate, downstate pattern pattern is that sleep is the domain of parasympathetic activity.
So right when you go to sleep, you see this massive increase in heart rate variability.
You see this very strong, basically, the brain is doing a lot of restorative work.
And you see this effect of increasing heart rate variability from waking to sleep. That's because the sleep system
is very restorative, so it helps activate the restore system. So people who sleep well have high
heart rate variability. Got it. And it seems like given the importance of heart rate variability,
even if you're not sleeping well, which obviously that should be treated. There are other ways to improve it.
Absolutely.
Absolutely.
Coming up, Dr. Mednik talks about when to exercise for optimal sleep and the powerful benefits
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Let me go back to a few nuggets you dropped along the way.
One of them is this freak out that happens nightly for people like me who have trouble sleeping.
I believe the term is orthorexia, which is you start worrying about the quality of your
sleep just when you're trying to fall asleep, which prevents you from falling asleep.
Now, asking for a friend here, what do you recommend in moments like that?
I mean, there's so many things that people can do. I want to just kind of take a macro look at it
before I get into sort of, here's this trick.
I think the macro view is that our brains,
their habitual machines, right?
They're looking for consistent schedules.
They're looking for ways to create habits.
And I have a friend who I talk about in the book,
Carlos, who is a big guy in some energy corporation,
and he had a horrible problem with sleep.
And he was in this situation where he was doing
international flying, and he would have to take
these middle of the night flights and wake up really early
and then take this flight. And basically his brain learned that, oh, at 3 a.m., I need to wake up
because I need to catch a flight, right? That's what you keep doing. So now I'm going to,
I'm going to set it up for you. Great. It's 3 a.m. let's wake up. And he went to many sleep doctors
and they had him doing the sleep restriction that we talked about before and all sorts of kind of sleep hygiene changes.
And for him, there was something that was beyond just making small changes.
He had created a whole sort of conditioning around his bedroom, his family, his son that
would wake up in the middle of the night when he was a baby, and everything suddenly became this reminder for him to wake up at 3 a.m.
Because that's what our brains are looking for.
They're looking for consistent patterns.
And it actually took something much larger to change his sort of conditioning.
And it took the pandemic, which is that he basically didn't have to travel anymore.
He moved to a different house and he started exercising every morning, 30 minutes in the
pool.
And his sleep problems completely went away.
It was like night and day.
So I use that example to say that we think about these kind of sleep problems as being
things that are, what's the quick fix, what's the biohack, this kind
of quick and dirty way to change a pattern.
And sometimes those quick and dirty things do work.
I think sleep hygiene is very powerful.
I think that listening to what sleep doctors say is very important.
But I think sometimes there are patterns that we've learned that we need to actually take a look at and
say, what can I do to really reverse something that has been sort of set like a groove in
a record that has been set and jump that groove?
So the macro answer is, let's look at the reminders and the patterns that have developed
that make it such that when you get into that bed,
you start worrying, right?
What can be changed there?
And then let's get into also all of the details, right?
Get into sort of what can we do?
If you're lying there, you know, get out of bed
and there's a practice of writing,
write down everything that you are concerned about,
write down everything that you are concerned about, write down everything that you are thinking
about and worrying about, and write until you're tired.
And eventually something will shift and you'll get to a place where there's nothing else
I can say, I'm really tired, I'm going to go to bed.
There's all sorts of gratitude practices that bring your mind away from this impending drama with your night time, like, right down
ten things that happen today that you feel really grateful for.
Shift the whole focus of your mental state into a state of happiness, gratitude, and open-heartedness.
That's a very powerful trick of the mind.
And I also find that finding a book that is very dense
and that you can find yourself really trying to read
and it's a little beyond your capacity at the moment,
like a good history novel.
Maybe something with a little bit of math in it,
or something like this, a little engineering or something of that kind.
Something that will make your mind just kind of poop out.
You have to listen to your patterns, right?
You have to feel that the second you start to get tired and that probably happens way
before you get into bed, right?
The second you start to really feel that drowsy feeling, it could be at 9 p.m.
And you think, what's wrong with me? I feel so lame for falling asleep at 9 p.m.
But the second you feel that sleepiness, stop whatever you're doing and go to sleep.
And the second you're reading, you know, Wolf Hall or whatever it is that is driving you to drows,
close the book, turn off a light and let it take you.
There are many things we're advising people to do often on this show.
One of them is you know, you should get a good night's sleep.
We also talk a lot about meditation.
But a third of many is the relationships in your life are really important and you should
be deliberate about making
and maintaining friendships.
I'm going out with my wife tonight
to go see a concert with some friends.
We're probably not gonna get home until 12 or one.
We usually go to bed at 11 or 10.30.
So is that on wise or is that like a okay trade off
or what's your take on this?
Well, I think, you know, it really depends on the person. So I think that any time that
you get super regimented about anything, fanaticism is liable to lead to some problems. So any time
that you freak out about if you're doing time restricted eating and you suddenly have to go out
to dinner and it doesn't fit in your schedule, let it go.
You know, just eat and enjoy yourself and be part of the world. And the same thing goes for
sleep, right? So I would say we need to be really mindful of the fact that we are habitual animals
and our brains have little clocks in them. Every cell has a little clock and it's looking for you to
do the same thing twice in a row, three times in a row, four times in little clock and it's looking for you to do the same thing twice
in a row, three times in a row, four times in a row, and say, like, oh, good, a pattern. Okay, I will
set up everything to abide by that. And that's why sticking with upstates and downstates that are
natural rhythms are really important because then you set yourself up to have your metabolic system
be at its prime for all the food that you're gonna give it.
And then when you stick with having a window of time
where you're eating and then a long window of time
where you're not eating,
then your body can do all this deeply restorative stuff
and not suddenly get this burst of sympathetic activity
when you start eating and just destroy
all the restorative stuff that you were doing.
The same thing goes for sleep.
This is why people who take naps every day,
they get tired every day before they're supposed
to take a nap because their bodies tell them,
you know, for the past 10 years,
you've been taking a nap at this time.
And if you suddenly move into a situation
where you can't take a nap,
it's really hard on your system
because it learns that this is when you should be sleeping.
So in general, stick with a pattern.
But also have fun, right?
No one single experience is going to prevent you from following your pattern, right?
Even if you go on a trip and you're changing your circadian rhythm completely, you can
still adjust back to your old rhythm.
We're very adaptive, but we have to really also be consistent.
I'm going to get looped back to a few other little bread crumbs you've dropped along the way.
You talked earlier about the timing of your exercise.
So you're saying we should never work out late in the day if we can avoid it,
or is there a difference between cardio and weights?
And like maybe weights is okay in the afternoon, but cardio probably not great,
given that it revs you up too much.
Yeah, once you start really getting into
it's sophisticated kind of thinking around this,
there are times in which it's best for you
to do things like cardio,
where your cardio workout is gonna be at its peak
and that is in the mid-day morning time.
And if you're doing strength training, there's a circadian rhythm that means that you're
going to be strongest with weight training and with anything to do with strength in the
afternoon.
And that's why you see all these differences in metals, you know, one, whether the competition
is in the morning or the evening.
And then there's also, you know, your own circadian rhythm chronotype. Like, are you a morning morning or the evening. And then there's also your own circadian rhythm,
chronotype, like, are you a morning person or an evening person?
All these things actually, once you really get into them
and you're dealing with amateur professional sports,
these things really come into play
because they can cut seconds, milliseconds off of your time.
But just as a regular person,
definitely the cardio stuff that revs you up
should be done as early as possible.
And the strength training is great to have it in the afternoon, but definitely nothing
should be within, say, four hours of bedtime.
Another thing to restrict, as you get closer to bedtime, is liquids.
Can you say a little bit about that?
Yeah, I mean, this is particularly true as we get older. So one of the systems that controls
our urine production is our circadian rhythm. And it allows us to pee all day long and suddenly
not have to pee at night. And this is very strong when we're young. But as we get older, this
circadian rhythm just becomes dampened. And that means that people who are older
start to fall asleep incidentally during the day, right?
And they start to have a little bit of hard time
staying asleep at night.
One of the things that contributes to people waking up at night
is having to pee more as you get older.
So there's a lot of things you can do to sort of strengthen
your circadian rhythm and make sure that you're getting
a lot of bright light in the morning and really pump up the arousal systems in the morning and then really monitor your nighttime systems at night in terms of light and in terms of eating and in terms of exercise and all those things we talked about.
But another way is to refrain from having liquids. Can you say a little bit more about how we can use light support or sleep?
I mean, this is something that I think is such a simple thing, and I think that we don't
hear enough about it.
The arousal system, which is the circadian rhythm that tells us to be aroused during the
day and to be sleeping at night is the circadian rhythm. And we have sensors in our retina
that detect visual information, but they're also sensors that just detect what time of day it is by
the color of light coming into the retina. And it's specifically only interested in whether there's
blue light coming into your retina. And in the morning, the light that the sun is shining
the morning and all day long,
it's an all spectrum light with a lot of blue light.
So from dawn till before dusk,
you have this very strong sun that gives you
a lot of blue light and that's basically,
the rooster in the morning for your brain to say,
it's the morning, it's the daytime, get up,
this is the time where we're going to be
aroused all day long. As the sun starts to set, the blue light decreases and the majority of the
light that you're getting in natural lighting is more orange and red. And that absence of blue light
tells your brain it's time to turn down the arousal system and it's time to
turn on melatonin, it's time to turn on all of that sleep related systems. And so this is why
exposing yourself to light early in the morning, not just light indoors because that doesn't suffice
at all unless you have like a real all spectrum lamp that's made to really jumpstart
your circadian rhythm, but just going outside early in the morning and getting real sunlight.
What about standing next to a window?
Windows actually block a lot of wavelengths, so if that's what you got, great, but I would
say the best thing is to just get outside or use an all spectrum light, because modern
windows specifically are made to block a lot of wavelengths.
So you definitely want to be really purposeful about this.
And, you know, 15 minutes of an all spectrum light has been shown particularly.
There's a whole bunch of studies in women who have just gotten over cancer.
And they have this very strong chemo effects where their sleep is super fragmented.
And what they found is that 15 minutes
was an all spectrum light in the morning,
improve their sleep, decrease their fragmentation,
decrease the amount of sort of random arousals
that they would have, and increase their sleep time.
So literally first thing when you wake up,
after you go to the bathroom, go outside.
You don't want to be too freaky about it. Just be in the daytime. Don't stay indoors.
You don't want to say I'll have to eat outside if it's the middle of winter. But definitely have
that light be the important source of some time that you're spending while you're having your
morning coffee or reading the paper, whatever it is. It's not enough to stay indoors in front of
just regular lights. You need to have a really powerful light or just the sun.
How do you control your light on the other side of the day
as it becomes night without being too,
I think you use the word freaky or regimented about it?
There's a lot of ways that we can control the light.
It's really just the blue light.
There's anything from just filtering the computer screen
and the evening and your phone to make sure
that you have the night shift on so that it goes
to completely yellow.
You want to really make the shift all the way
to the yellow part of the screen.
And use more candlelight.
Candlelight is exactly the type of light
that you should be using.
That's the type that our ancestors used, right?
You can buy circadian light bulbs now
that change with the hours of the day.
There's some really great glasses that you can buy
that are yellow filter glasses
and they have been shown experimentally
to help people with their sleep
and with well-being during work.
So I think that there's more and more understanding
of the importance of regulating light
and particularly at night.
Coming up, Dr. Mednik talks about sex as a way to get better sleep, the concept of
skin hunger and why we should all be training ourselves in nose breathing.
Right after this.
You're from what I can tell a big advocate of sex as a way to help you sleep.
I'd love to hear more about that.
You know, there's so many aspects of sex that are important.
There's the aspect of sex as exercise.
Sex is a huge stimulator of the sympathetic rev system that you really get extremely
pumped while you're having sex and the burst
of all of the rev system when you're reaching the climax is met with a massive restore
response, right? Suddenly you become kind of incapable of speaking, you know, and that system
is the one that is shutting the whole system down saying, oh my god, what just happened?
Let's go into restore mode.
So this is why many people actually just fall right asleep
after they've had their climax.
So just naturally, timing sex to occur
right when you want to really go into sleep
is actually a great way to have sex be sort of a helper
for sleep onset.
But also, there's the whole emotional intimacy aspect of sex because
just like any kind of, you know, really consensual physical touch, what that is doing, you know,
just a hug holding hands, sitting next to each other, watching a movie all the way up to sex,
what that's doing is turning on your restore system. It's basically telling your rev system,
doing is turning on your restore system. It's basically telling your rev system,
I'm okay. Look, I have somebody right next to me who I'm so close with that they're touching me, that they're hugging me. That means that that kind of guard dog, rev, who's constantly
kind of watching out for you and ready for the fight or flight response, can calm down.
And even just a conversation with a fight or flight response can calm down.
And even just a conversation with a friend on the phone can do that.
This is not something that happens with texting or liking something on social media.
It really happens with a deep connection where you feel like somebody's got my back.
Somebody loves me.
That is a whole system that turns on, restore, and increases heart rate variability, and increases
that down state stuff.
It's interesting that you brought that up because I was going to ask when you were
exiling the virtues of sex in terms of helping with sleep onset, I was thinking about single
people, but it sounds like one way that single people can benefit at least in part is to have a conversation with somebody.
Absolutely.
I mean, there's also just masturbation,
like you can still have the orgasm
when you're by yourself, particularly it's still exercise
and it still gives you that restore response,
but I think the emotional connection,
the feeling of safety, the feeling of not being alone,
we're pack animals. So any kind of sense of being on our own, which is why the pandemic was so hard for so many people.
Not only did we not see people, we didn't touch people. And there's this concept of skin hunger that after a while, you actually just need to touch. You need to have some intimacy so that your brain doesn't think that you're actually
all by yourself on the planet.
It's not healthy.
Anytime we can organically get to the subject of masturbation, that's a clear win for this
show.
You're handling this with a lot of patients and good humor, but I'm kind of peppering
you with questions here.
Well, I love this topic, obviously. Melatonin.
You've brought that up a couple times,
as something that our body releases
as a way to let us know it's time to sleep.
Of course, we can take melatonin.
What do you recommend there?
So I actually take melatonin regularly,
and I recommend people try it in the book
because I can't find a downside.
I've looked at all the safety studies
and different dosages.
There's a major issue around dosing of melatonin
because people are taking way more than they need.
But even in children, older adults,
the studies show that supplementing sleep with melatonin,
it doesn't seem to hurt.
And our rates of melatonin decrease as we get older.
So if sleep onset is a problem or sleep maintenance, maintaining your sleep is a problem, giving
melatonin a try, I would say start at one milligram.
Do it for a couple weeks and because it's not a sleeping pill, it's not something that
is like an ambient that you put in your system and just stay in bed or your all sorts of crazy stuff is going to happen, right?
It's just a gentle kind of push of your is the signal to start releasing melatonin.
So melatonin actually gets released quite early before your bedtime. So taking it say two hours
or one hour before bed is what I would recommend because it's not something that you want to take
when you're already in bed because then that release is going to take a while
to turn on, right?
You want it as much as possible, mimic the natural times
in which melatonin would be released.
Another thing you've mentioned is breathing
through your nose all night long.
And I read that and I was thinking,
well, how can I control that?
So one of my favorite books recently is Breath by James Nestor.
Yeah, we're trying to get James Nestor on the show. James, if you're listening, you're
invited.
He's doing my book release interview with me with oblong books on August 19th. I'll
just put that little plug in there. but that guy really mind some powerful information
there showing that we've become a society of mouth breeders.
And it's changed our anatomy, it's changed our physiology, and it's changed our disease
risk.
And so I really took it to heart, understanding that there's a natural system that is the nose and it gives you filtered moist, slow breaths.
That is the natural way to synchronize your breathing and your heart rate so that your ability
to get as much out of your inhale is that it's most efficient if you're breathing through your nose.
I started breathing through my nose for everything I do,
including having my kids breathe through their nose,
hiking, running, it's really hard to learn
to breathe through your nose for everything,
but you become a more efficient athlete.
You become a more efficient breather,
because it takes a lot less energy and mouth breathing is very shallow,
so you don't get enough oxygen, and it's too quick.
You know, this is all talking about how to breathe through your nose during the day and
really make that intentional, but there's a really important aspect of nose breathing
for sleep.
Because the mouth breathing, you have all sorts of sleep apnea that occurs through mouth
breathing, and you get very sore throat, dry throat through mouth breathing, and you can
have more collapse in the airways through mouth breathing and you can have more collapse in the airways through mouth breathing.
So, training yourself to really engage in nose breathing, either by, I haven't actually
advanced to this level yet, but either by just making sure that you're always sleeping
in a position that accentuates nose breathing over mouth breathing.
I think lying on your back is a very hard way to nose breathe because your mouth just naturally relaxes and opens.
So sleeping on your side is preferable to kind of inducing nose breathing, but also you
can just take a little piece of tape.
And it's just, it's not going to seal your mouth shut, but it's going to be just a gentle
reminder throughout the night to keep your mouth shut.
And if you feel like your mouth breathing,
you'll know it, right?
Because you'll sort of be pushing the tape
and maybe even let go of the tape
and that might wake you up or something.
But that is one of the things that he recommends.
Also, getting the sleep apnea treated,
there's many ways in which sleep apnea
is causing a lot of mouth breathing.
So highly recommend no-sbreathing.
This is a bit of great conversation.
Is there anything I
should have asked but didn't? I mean, I
can tell you so many more things.
There's the idea of resonance that I
also really like to talk about this
is that we talk about individual
rhythms of our sleep system or our
exercise system. Each metabolic system
has its own rhythm. but there's this idea
in physics, which is that if you have these two rhythms that have their upstates and
downstairs synchronized, that they become more powerful, they resonate.
And I think that's a key way of thinking about these rhythms of your own body, that when
you set up these rhythms to actually become in sync with each other, both systems resonate.
When you're eating within your daytime circadian upstate,
you get way more out of your nutrition,
and then your downstate is much more powerful
in terms of giving yourself a break and replenishing.
When you exercise in the morning during the upstate of the day,
your downstate from the exercise corresponds
with the downstate of sleep,
allowing for that restore response to be even more powerful.
Once you start to get into the idea of thinking yourself
as a rhythmic animal that you can start to really get sophisticated
and start aligning your daytime, nighttime processes
to get the most out of yourself on your day. And you can learn more about how to do that in your book. and start aligning your daytime, nighttime processes
to get the most out of yourself and your day.
And you can learn more about how to do that in your book.
Speaking of which, can you just plug everything
you've got or that you feel like plugging?
Yes, my website is SarahSARAMednicMEDNICK.com.
All my talks are there and different types of podcasts,
but there you can read about my book,
The Power of the Downstate, and you can see my other book, Take a Nap Change Your Life,
which is all about how naps can be used as not just restorative system, but also to make you
smarter and happier and all sorts of stuff. And I'm on Twitter, Sarah, underscore it,
MedNic.
You're a star. Thank you so much for doing this, really appreciate it.
Thank you so much, it was such a pleasure talking to you.
Thanks again to Dr. Mednic, great conversation.
Quick notes to say that in my conversation with Dr. Mednic,
we both did a little bit of geeking out over James Nestor
and his book Breath, and apparently,
since we take this interview,
my team has managed to make
contact with his team and he has agreed to come on the show in the very near future,
so be on the lookout for that.
This show is made by Gabrielle Zuckerman, DJ Cashmere, Justine Davy, Kim Baikama, Maria
Whartell, Samuel Johns, and Jen Poehlt with Audio Engineering from Ultraviolet Audio.
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