Ten Percent Happier with Dan Harris - How Not To Be Owned By Your Emotions | Bonus Meditation with Joseph Goldstein
Episode Date: November 19, 2021Joseph teaches you how to authentically accept difficult emotions to make them more manageable and less overwhelming.Joseph is one of the most respected meditation teachers in the world -- a ...key architect of the rise of mindfulness in our modern society -- with a sense of humor to boot. In the 1970's, he co-founded the Insight Meditation Society (IMS) alongside Sharon Salzberg and Jack Kornfield. Since its founding, thousands of people from around the world have come to IMS to learn mindfulness from leaders in the field. Joseph has been a teacher there since its founding and continues as the resident guiding teacher.To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “It’s Okay to Feel This,” or click here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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I'm Dan Harris.
Greetings, my fellow suffering beings.
It's Friday.
It's time for a bonus.
Today, we're bringing on fan favorite meditation teacher, Joseph Goldstein, great friend of mine,
and somebody who I've worked with as a meditation teacher for many years.
And today, we're talking about something all of us struggle with, whether we admit it
or not, difficult emotions.
As Joseph is going to teach us in this meditation, though, difficult emotions do not have to lead
all the way to suffering.
How does that work?
Well, I'm going to shut up and let Joseph explain that.
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Hello, this is Joseph.
Good to be with you.
This meditation is helpful for being with difficult
or strong emotions.
And one way of doing this is practicing seeing the difference between recognition and mindfulness.
As we begin the practice, settle into the awareness of your body posture, sit and know you're sitting.
Become aware of the body breathing, breathing in, know your breathing in, breathing out, know your breathing out. If it's helpful, you can make a soft mental note of in and out with each
breath. Become aware of predominant bodily sensations,
noticing or noting the particular sensation, and also whether it's pleasant or unpleasant. At times you might become aware of disturbing emotions. When these mind states arise, open to the feeling of them. Make a note of what
the emotion is. And at this point, it's helpful to check the attitude in the mind in relationship
to that emotion. Because it is possible to recognize what's arising, but still be
resistant to it. Noting it, but wanting it to go away.
Using the phrase, it's okay. It's a way of balancing the recognition with a genuine acceptance of what is there.
It's okay.
It's okay to feel this.
Staying connected with the body,
with the feeling of the body sitting, connecting with the natural rhythm of the breath,
aware of predominant sensations that may arise in the body. And then once again, if you notice a difficult or challenging emotion, use the phrase,
it's okay. As a reminder, it's okay to feel this. Let me be with it. We often experience challenging emotions in our lives, but not necessarily noticing that
we're in conflict with them.
It's okay, can be a magic phrase, for settling the mind into an acceptance of whatever
the emotion might be.
And this acceptance becomes the foundation then for appropriate response.
When you're ready, you can open your eyes and reconnect with the world around you.
It's been great being with you today.
I look forward to seeing you next time.
Thank you, Joseph, and we'll see you all back here on Monday for a brand new episode.
We're talking to an academic by the name of Paul Bloom about the right kind of suffering,
the good kind of suffering.
See you all on Monday for that. [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪
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