Ten Percent Happier with Dan Harris - How To Escape Your Brain's Default Mode Network | Zindel Segal and Norman Farb
Episode Date: June 5, 2024Using your senses to reduce overthinking, turn down the voice in your head, and get out of what these scientists call "the house of habit."Dr. Zindel Segal is Distinguished Professor of Psych...ology in Mood Disorders at the University of Toronto Scarborough and a cofounder of Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy. Professor Norman Farb, PhD, is an Associate Professor of Psychology at the University of Toronto Mississauga, where he directs the Regulatory and Affective Dynamics laboratory. In this episode we talk about:How the brain’s default mode network is essential to our survival but also can keep us stuck in rumination and overthinking Segal and Farb’s simple practice of “sense foraging” and why they say it can help break patterns and thoughts that aren’t serving us The differences and the similarities between sense foraging and mindfulness Related Episodes:Depression and Anxiety: Your Old Enemies, Your Best Friends | Zindel SegalGretchen Rubin on: How To Use Your Five Senses To Reduce Anxiety, Increase Creativity, and Improve Your RelationshipsWhy You Can’t Pay Attention - And How to Think Deeply Again | Johann HariSign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/segal-farbAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/installSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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So much human suffering is caused by the fact
that we are stuck in our heads,
captured by our thoughts,
suckered by our habitual rumination
and ancient storylines.
Today, we're gonna talk about the science
of getting out of your head,
of escaping what is called the brain's default mode network,
which my guests today refer to as the house of habit. Of course, we need our default mode network which my guests today refer to as the house of habit.
Of course we need our default mode, our capacity to behave habitually in order to
survive and in order to brush our teeth and tie our shoes without undue
cognitive demands but if you are stuck in the default mode you are missing out
on quite a bit and you are susceptible to many, many varieties
of suffering and unhappiness.
My guests today are Dr. Sindel Siegel and Professor Norman Farb.
They have a new book out called Better in Every Sense and in it they describe something
they call sense foraging, which is a simple but very powerful practice designed to use
our senses to turn down the more noxious aspects of the default mode network,
like being overly focused on ourselves or not receptive to change or newness in the world around us.
We talk about what sense foraging is exactly and how it can help us go from languishing to flourishing,
how shutting down our senses can make us more vulnerable to depression,
the differences and similarities between sense foraging and mindfulness, why counter-intuitively
most of us could use a little bit more chaos in our lives, how radical acceptance can be a starting
point for sense foraging, and the nine simple rules to sense foraging. Just a little bit more
about our guests before we dive in.
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of Toronto Scarborough and a co-founder of mindfulness-based cognitive therapy.
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Dr. Zendel Siegel and Professor Norm Farb. Welcome to the show.
Thanks, Dan. Thanks for having us.
Pleasure to have you.
Zendul, let me start with you,
since you've been on the show before.
Can you give me the origin story
of how your friendship with Norm came about
and how it led to this book?
Sure.
A lot of my interest in working with mindfulness meditation
to help people dealing with depression
found its way into
neuroimaging because at that time there was a compelling story of antidepressants changing
the brain and serotonin deficiencies being a kind of ironclad argument for antidepressants.
And the idea that somehow meditation could also help people was bolstered by the
fact that the neuroimaging finding showed that people who practiced mindfulness, people
who practiced meditation also had changes in brain regions that were important in affect,
emotion regulation. I didn't have the expertise to conduct those kinds of studies, but I was
able to connect with a colleague
at the University of Toronto, Adam Anderson and his star graduate student happened to
be Norman Farb.
I think his star graduate student went to work for Apple, but I was like the back of
star guys.
His less well compensated graduate student is now your co-author.
Got it.
But maybe more psychologically stable.
Well, it remains to be seen.
A lot of that deep psychopathology emerges late in life, so playing a long game.
So Norm, now that we're picking on you a little bit, what's your version of the story?
How did this come about?
Yeah, so I would say like you, Dan,
I was not a meditation guy at all.
I really wanted to learn neuroimaging.
I'd done like psychophysiology,
like how the body responds to emotions
from a master's degree and functional neuroimaging,
or fMRI is really expensive.
And I knew that Adam, my supervisor,
had something cooking where he had a funded fMRI study and
I wanted to do nerve imaging and emotions for my PhD.
And I was already the guy in the lab who did yoga, like on the weekends.
So you know, it was mostly initially I would say like a marriage of convenience where there's
going to be this big imaging opportunity.
It's going to be something kind of new and out there, which appealed to me. And it was kind of scary meetings in Dull at the start. He's like a distinguished
professor at the biggest like mental health institution, the Center for Addiction to Mental
Health in Toronto. So, and there was quite a big power imbalance, I think, when we first
met, like a first or second year PhD student. So, at the start, I was just like the person
like grinding the scans and getting the analysis going. I think
over the course of then starting to try to write grants together and just like I don't know thousands of meetings. I think I heard you swear for the first time maybe five years into a
relationship. I was like, oh I'm getting somewhere with this guy. And then Adam ended up leaving to
Cornell. I ended up getting hired to stay on in Toronto as a professor and so now we're a bit
more equalized in our roles and we continue to meet and trade off clinical and
neuroimaging expertise as we write papers. So it was really an organic
relationship and I did start to sip and eventually bathe in the Kool-Aid of
meditation over the two decades as well, so we kind of grew together.
Well let's start with a foundational idea for this book you've written.
What is the default mode network?
Yeah, I'll take that one.
It's kind of a brain-oriented one.
The default mode network is a constellation or group of brain regions that are activated
when you let someone ostensibly relax in the scanner.
So they're doing arithmetic or some kind of mental rotation or memory task, and you say,
hey, just for a couple of minutes, just relax.
You don't have to do anything at all. And then all of these brain regions, especially on the midline say, hey, just for a couple of minutes, just relax, you don't have to do anything at all.
And then all of these brain regions,
especially on the midline of the brain
and then a couple little horns above the ears
light up when you tell the person
that they have nothing to do.
And so this led to this characterization
that this is what the brain does by default
when you're not up to anything in particular.
And ostensibly, you know,
because it does show up in earlier mammals and other
species. This was originally a network that kind of takes care of the interior state of the body,
but more and more we started to recognize that the default network can be activated intentionally
and it gets activated when you start thinking about whether things apply to you or not. So
you see a word like honest, you think, oh, am I honest or am I not honest? And you have those kinds of thoughts,
you can voluntarily activate the default network.
But that was discovered maybe four or five years
after the first publication showing that there's this
really consistent, very strong pattern of activity
that turns on when you ask people just to do nothing.
Why do you call it the house of habit?
So one thing that we noticed with the default network is whenever things kind of become business as usual
And it feels as though the person is no longer putting in a lot of effort to manipulate
Things out in the world the default network kind of takes over
So as an example if you had someone pressing a button for left arrow and a different button for right arrow
And they just started doing that task is the first time they've done it
They're a bit nervous about doing it right you get all all this other stuff happening in the top and front of the brain
so they can make sure they're getting the job done.
But after about 20 to 30 seconds, they're like,
oh, really, that's it? I'm just pressing arrows?
And that's all they're doing.
A lot of that activation kind of quiets down
and the default network kicks back in.
And part of that might be because they're starting to mind wander a little.
And a part of it is also that they've automated their response to the world.
They've created a model for the world
that exactly fits what they need to do
and no updating is needed.
And that's like the default networks, bread and butter.
And so what we've also started to see
is that people who have really deep self-evaluative habits
like rumination, people have depression
and show exaggerated activity of this default network.
And so these different like pieces of evidence
come together that it's on when we're not doing anything
in particular, that what people report doing a lot of times
when they're not doing anything in particular
is they think about themselves like what's for lunch?
What am I doing in this scanner?
And that sort of thing that when they do explicitly
think about themselves, the default network comes online.
And then when they start to automate behaviors,
the default network also comes online.
And it converged to create this impression that what the default network is doing is
instantiating and perpetuating our habits over time.
And not only that, that our habits tend to be predominantly self-referential or self-evaluated.
We're always worried about how things affect us in particular.
So Zindal, would you say our default mode is a happy place or an unhappy place?
I'd say it's an efficient place.
I'd say it's a very self-focused place.
And I think that if we ever need to step out of those habits, it becomes very hard because
we've relied on them and very often we have very few ways of thinking differently outside
of habit.
That's a huge focus in our book, which is to suggest that there are ways of stepping
out of habit that are actually quite close at hand, but it's almost like a failure of
imagination to be able to conceive them in the moments when we need them.
So is what you're saying that our default mode is adaptive and useful, and if we have no other option it can turn into an
unpleasant and even hellish way of being. Yeah I mean automatic pilot all of
these terms are very familiar to us because they've been used to help us
understand how we can do a lot of things and not have to devote much attention to them.
But when those things that we're doing
roll into problem solving emotional situations
or complex interpersonal relationships,
habits themselves may not serve us any longer
if we need to look at different options
or consider other ways of responding
that are different from ways
that we've responded in the past.
And I think that that's really where it starts to break down.
In those moments, what do we reach for?
Usually it's other habits.
There are other things we can do, but those are the first things that pop into our minds.
Let me quote you back to you.
There's a quote in the book that struck me. The DMN, that's your shorthand for default mode network,
the DMN's mental routines evolved to help us survive long enough to reproduce,
but they are agnostic when it comes to our individual well-being.
Yeah, I think that's great.
Hopefully that was us in honor, our editor.
Yeah, I'll take credit for that one.
The default mode network for sure.
It's absolutely essential.
I would say it's not voluntary that we have mental habits,
that we have an internal narrative,
that we have a sense of where we are in the world
and some personal sense of identity.
The fact that, you know, regardless of your philosophy,
identity occurs ubiquitously shows that it probably
has some necessary evolutionary and life preserving function.
So it's absolutely essential that we have some sense of purpose and knowledge of what we're up to.
And you can see in disorders where that breaks down that it's catastrophic.
Depersonalization or de-realization disorders, a person really has no function, no relation.
And at the same time, the things that we've learned just to get by in life are totally agnostic. The system doesn't care
at all about whether the model we have makes us happy or content or fulfilled or related,
unless there's some sort of threat to our ability to do those two main things that evolution wants
us to do, which is stay alive or at least stay alive long enough to procreate and pass on our
genes. So when we think there might be some threat to ourselves, the default mode network actually isn't agnostic. It will become even more active. It will tend to double
down on the habits we already have. And if that leads us into a really dark place, so
be it because survival trumps feeling good or connected or so on.
Okay. So we've established the default mode network. Let's move on to another key pair
of concepts because we're going to stay on the definitional tip
for the beginning of this interview before we get into the practical parts.
So as I said, we talked about the default mode network.
You then talk about the difference between languishing and flourishing.
So Zindal, why don't you pick up and describe what are these two states
and what is the difference?
Yeah, languishing is a term that actually was popularized during the COVID epidemic
to suggest the state in which people are just getting by, not a lot of satisfaction,
not a lot of engagement with what they're doing, but surviving difficult circumstances and often by retreating,
avoiding, and living lives of sort of quiet desperation.
This is linked to people making decisions about work choices that involved not willing
to return to previous routines, you know, something that was called the great resignation.
But basically it's a kind of deficit of the reward system, the ability to feel motivated
and incentivized by the same things that kept us moving.
It could be a low grade depressive reaction or a low-grade reaction of despair and hopelessness to
circumstances, often external circumstances, that keep people living in a way that's very constricted.
So that's languishing. It's kind of just day-to-day, not really going anywhere, waking up,
the whole thing repeats again. And it's in contrast to flourishing, which I think is also a bit of a new agey concept where
people can be seen to maximize passion, maximize engagement, pursue important values and goals,
and allow themselves to have a trajectory in their lives where they can see themselves
optimizing values and living in ways where they're both enriching and expanding their sense of self
and also contributing to those people around them. So they're sort of two contrasting views of lives
lived through periods of time when conditions were very challenging.
What is the connection between the default mode network and languishing versus flourishing?
The default mode network allows us to engage in routines that are working for us, that allow us
to get through the day, but often they also keep us trapped in solutions to problems that we face that have been kind
of tried and true.
And so it reduces novelty, it reduces curiosity, it reduces exploration, and it keeps us in
a sense running off the same scripts.
And I think as a result of that, the things that we're trying to put into the conversation
involve much more of a commitment to curiosity,
exploration and novelty as a way of trying to undo
some of these tendencies that are over-rehearsed
and often automatic.
Okay, so Norman, I think this brings us
to the central thesis of the book.
How do we move from languishing to flourishing?
How do we escape the more noxious aspects of the default mode network?
Yeah, I think it's useful, as Zendler already alluded to, to remember that the default mode network is absolutely essential.
Habits and the ability to automate our experiences is essential,
but to think of it as one of two major psychological forces
that are being perpetuated in our lives,
which is a force towards stability.
Right? So we're trying to find ways to have accurate models of the world,
and in doing so, we want to discount things
that are going to disrupt our models, right?
And try to have a sense that, you know,
we're in control, we know what's going on.
And that can come at the expense of surprise,
new connection and change in general.
And for us to really flourish,
one of the central sort of aspects of flourishing
is this feeling that we're growing and developing, right?
If we were to tell anyone
today is as good as it's ever going to get.
Nothing's ever going to get better than it is now.
You already know everything you're going to,
you're going to know about the world.
So yeah, good luck.
You know, it's probably wouldn't be
the best day of that person's life, right?
The best days of our lives are often days where we
feel like we've expanded,
grown, made a new connection, learn something. And so those are all aspects of change, which the default
mode network is trying desperately to minimize, trying desperately to minimize how often we
become surprised or have to update our own models or change ourselves to accommodate
the world. So the thesis is that if we really want to have lives where we have flourishing,
where we feel like we're growing and developing,
we have to undercut the dominance, the default mode now,
where it can develop a skillfulness
in toggling from a state of automaticity
when it serves us into a state of exploration,
where we're allowing the world to change us
instead of always making the priority,
having the world fall into line
with our expectations and our models.
So we have to learn to step out of the house of habit.
We have to learn to disengage from default, the default mode network as the
dominant mode and find a way to balance that with another state, which we think
is fundamentally distinct from moving towards automaticity and preserving habit,
which we call a state of sensation.
Okay. So say more about that. What call a state of sensation.
Okay, so say more about that. What is a state of sensation?
So if you think about the architecture of the brain
being somewhat wiggly between people,
there's still some very clearly delineated parts
of the brain that are almost exactly the same
for everyone, including where the default mode network is
and where the sensory cortices,
where the parts of our brain that first put together sensory information from our sense organs like the ear drums, the retina of the eye,
the surface of the skin and the feelings within our body. And these sensory neighborhoods are
geographically distinct from the default mode network. So you can think of the brain as being
this massive factory trying to send resources, the number one resource being oxygen, to different parts of
the factory depending on what it's trying to produce. And to the extent that we're putting
a ton of resources into the default mode network, we're somewhat impoverishing our ability to
accurately and dynamically represent sensory information. But the converse is also true.
If there were a way for us to prioritize sensory input
and integrating and exploring
and expanding upon sensory information,
we would be drawing resources away
from the default mode network.
But at a higher implicational level,
that means we're also drawing resources away
from the priority of stability
towards the prioritization
of change and growth.
So the fortunate thing for pretty much every person
on the planet is that we do have the ability to choose
where these resources are allocated.
And we call that ability attention.
And so if we pay attention to our senses
in a way that is genuine,
and we say that the point of the exercise right now
is actually to notice things,
like to notice the contours of my hand right now
as I look at it, the weight of my hand in the air,
the colors, the different textures.
And really that's the point of the exercise.
I'm not trying to do anything,
figure out what routine to activate
with my hand at this point.
Then what I'm doing in this very moment
is changing the priorities for the brain
to activate sensory cortices
and by doing so I'm necessarily pulling activity away from the nafau mode
network. So when we say engage in sensation we mean develop some sort of
basic skillfulness in intentionally attending to the senses.
Aren't you just describing mindfulness and meditation? No.
No.
I think what we're describing, and this is potentially disruptive, are some of the fruits
of mindfulness and meditation, but I would say that the bar for entry is much, much lower.
I mean, some of the motivation for writing this book has come from a kind of public health
realization,
you know, the success of your app and others notwithstanding, that many people, they don't
sign up for meditation or they try it, but they disengage pretty quickly.
And so we're trying to find a way of providing them with some of the sensory saturated experiences that some people who practice meditation can get without
the practice of meditation being required.
Now maybe that's a very short runway and without a continuous practice of meditation they won't
get very much further down the road.
But for the purposes of what we're trying to suggest, there is this natural
quieting response that happens when sensation is amplified through attention and the default
mode or other parts of the brain that are much more thinking oriented quiet down. And
to be able to provide that to a very large number of people might be an important starting point. It's kind of like putting fluoride in the water. It's something
that's going to touch very, very many mouths. It may not fully have the same impact as going
to the dentist in terms of dealing with cavities and other sorts of things. But I think what's
seductive to us is the reach of the possibility that
people can very easily and without much infrastructure have this experience of
sensation in a way that opens them up to the qualities of exploration, curiosity,
complexity, change that you can find in meditation but that might help them to
start to see things even differently on a moment by moment basis.
Yeah, I'm intrigued by that as well.
Meditation is a pain in the ass and a lot of, I mean, I do it regularly, a lot of people
do do it regularly, but it's hard to start a habit.
It's hard to find the time.
And even when you do start a habit, you can fall off the wagon.
And so, the fluoride analogy lands for me.
Perhaps you could say a little bit more about what exactly is the difference
between what you're proposing, the fluoride version, the widely accessible version.
What's the difference between what you're proposing and what I think a lot of people
listening to this show will recognize as meditation.
Yeah, I'll just take a crack at it.
So I think there is a way in which we're not trying to distance ourselves from the meditation
world.
In fact, and I've heard this a lot, people often stop meditating because they have misconceptions
of what meditation should be doing. So, for example,
people who start to meditate and find that they're not really good at emptying their minds
and so it turns them off and they stop. Or they're not very good at producing relaxation on command.
Meditation is not doing that for them, so they stop. These are, I think, barriers for people to engage in meditation. And so,
for us, what I would say is meditation practices that emphasize the sensory elements of the
practice rather than the conceptual elements are more likely to be tractable for people.
Now, on the other end, the disruption that I think people are picking
up from the book is that what we're suggesting to people when they practice sense foraging
is something akin to a shift of attention into the sensory world, but the barriers are
very, very thin because senses are ubiquitous, sensory information and the
possibility of immersion in any moment is right there, literally at our fingertips.
And so this shift can be made very easily, very quickly, very portably without having
paraphernalia of a cushion and a this and a that and a place. And not that those are bad things, but that we
can invite people into this theatre to see maybe the first act of a play that they might want to
continue to watch. But the price of admission is very, very low and they get a lot back from it.
They get the neural benefits of this natural quieting and they just start to realize, I think, over time
that sensing is not thinking.
Thinking is often the place where many of their problems
are cooked up, and yet sensing might be the place
where change is possible.
Norm, he just used, Zindel did a term that,
he just introduced it into the conversation for the first time,
sense foraging.
What does that mean?
So sense foraging is going to sound a lot like the John Kavitson definition for mindfulness,
but focusing specifically on sensation. So it's going to be paying attention on purpose.
That probably sounds familiar.
Stop right there.
To something sensory that you can notice right now. And to do it with, I would say, not an expectation,
but with an intention to find something that is interesting, surprising, or unusual.
So you can think of this as a refinement or a subsection of a broader mindfulness practice
where we're really trying to really sense forward to say,
I want to look for something that I can sense that I would ordinarily ignore, right?
That I would normally pass by.
Not that we are physically blind or deaf
to the world around us,
but we are intentionally blind to most things,
just so we can get through life, so we can get things done.
So sense foraging is saying, you know,
right here around me,
what is something that I would normally dismiss?
And how do I explore that for a moment or two?
And what we predict is what will happen is something surprising and you'll have
to step into kind of not knowing.
Right.
If you really don't know when you look at something, that's when you're getting
into sense foraging and it's more than just confirming, Oh, there's a table here.
It might be, I hadn't noticed the grains on this table before, or I hadn't noticed
how dirty it was, or I hadn't noticed, you know, that it has a smell to it, you know, whatever it is, you're waiting and trying to be receptive
for what's showing up in response to allocating your sensory attention.
But there is an expectation that it's going to be something surprising and probably something
that that might be of some use to you, right?
I think that's why we use the term foraging.
You don't go foraging in the forest, you know, saying, oh, it's all the same to me if I find a chanterelle mushroom or a baramals me.
You go foraging thinking like,
I'm hoping I find something useful.
So paying attention on purpose in the moment
to our senses, but with the intention
of finding something interesting, novel,
and potentially useful to us.
Well, let's get a little bit more concrete.
Can one of you just walk us through?
I know the book is loaded, larded with these exercise, sense foraging exercises.
Can you just give us a taste of what a sense foraging exercise would be like?
I mean, I think one that I really like is first take stock of like how much you actually
care about what the space around you is like.
So really just don't, you don't even start sense forging or anything, but we're just
trying to notice how much do I care about what this room around me is like.
Like right now we're in a studio space that we've never been in before.
Tons of novelty.
I'm really focused on this podcast.
So if I first check in, I'd say like, I don't care, right?
Cause I want to perform well in the podcast. So I noticed I don't, I don't care, right? Cause I want to perform well in the podcast.
So I notice I don't give a shit.
There's a lot of stuff to pick up right now.
And that's sort of what's true of me right now.
The second step would be then to say,
okay, I want to set this intention
that I'm going to give myself permission
to go out of doing and performing mode
and become receptive.
So I'm giving myself permission
to care about what's around me.
And then you can just take a few moments and actually look around the room.
And like what it's like to let go of the task set and actually, you know, care about like
interesting accoutrement of this studio space for instance. And so you can edit in or out as much time as you want, but I
would say give it, you know, five or 10 seconds at least.
And then you come back and say, so, you know, have I noticed
anything different?
So for me right now, I can notice actually feeling a bit
more relaxed because I've put down the weight of to some
degree, you know, a bit neurotic, so I'm not going to put
it down all the way of performing well in a podcast
environment.
And I realized I'm also kind of grounded in this space.
And so it's not a completely new exercise.
You can say, well, this sounds just like a grounding exercise that you might do if you
have anxiety and say, yeah, that's a sense foraging practice.
Right?
So I think what we're trying to introduce here is not like no one's ever heard of this
before, right?
This isn't not never described in mindfulness, right?
It's never been done in counseling and psychology or any other tradition.
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And what we're trying to do is really just show that there's this one mechanism that's really
important that I think is still vastly underappreciated, which is how quickly we lose
our ability to care about the space around us and within us.
And as Zindal was saying, how eminently available it is.
And without a lot of preciousness or, you know, bowing and kowtowing to tradition
or anything like that, it's available.
And there should be returns like immediately pretty much for most of us who are living
kind of stressed, over-automated, over-narrated lives.
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So let me just see if I can sum up where we are at this point in the interview.
Zindal, I'll throw this at you.
You acknowledge you're not saying something that these exercises, these sense forging exercises, and we'll explore
a few more of them as this interview continues. It's not something new in the universe per se,
but you're trying to make a very urgent point that if we can get in the habit of dropping out
of the spinning stories in our head, the spinning stories, the habitual thought patterns of the default mode network,
if we can create a habit of it doesn't involve a cushion, it doesn't involve candles,
it doesn't involve an altar, it's just you can do it wherever you are at any time
of dropping into your senses and out of your thoughts, this can have many, many salutary psychological consequences.
Is that a rough summary? Am I in the neighborhood?
Absolutely. I mean, even the well-worn phrase, just drop into your body body is still a concept. And so we're trying to take it a little bit
further by saying that caring, as Norm talked about, is really attending, but caring enough
to attend, I guess, to step out of what you're already attending to. But the body is a very
big place and we're trying to increase the resolution of that sort of idea by saying when you shift
your attention, shift it to sensations that are already present for you that you can identify
and that you can immerse yourself in because those are real, those are present moment oriented,
and those have this natural, you don't need to push it yourself, effect on the ruminating,
overthinking, self-referencing parts of the brain that can quiet down and then you find
yourself in a different space.
So you're saying there's a difference between sense foraging and quote unquote dropping
into the body generally?
Dropping into the body is an invitation to potentially sense forage.
To look in the body, maybe you notice some pressure in your chest,
maybe you notice that your temples are throbbing,
maybe you notice something going on.
But sense foraging can also be feeling some air conditioning breeze
pass by through your hair.
It can help you see colors that are more vivid, it can help you hear sounds that
are unanticipated and localize them in space. It's all of the senses without any kind of,
I guess, ulterior motive of looking for something that might connect to emotional state of mind or
something that you're experiencing. It really is foraging through the sensory
world through the senses themselves and being curious about that. And I would say that the
main shift is into a mode of receptiveness, allowing sounds to arrive, allowing sensations
to be noticed, allowing images to be recognized.
And in receiving, we're not really sure what we're going to be receiving until we start
to categorize them a little bit further down.
But that in itself is a very big shift, as Norm said, out of a task set.
What do I do with all this information?
What do I do next to just letting it wash over me and placing myself already in a very
different type of relationship to it.
Yeah, I think it's definitely modeled in meditation instructions, but I've personally, just being
from my own experience, I've done a body scan before where it's like a checklist.
The toes, yep.
Feet, yep.
Ankles, yep.
And like very little of that time is actually me in contact with my body.
So we have this idea like, well, I'm doing a body scan. Of course I'm censoring. I'm in the moment.
I'm not just using concepts, but you can completely like reify a body scan and just walk through to
be like, do I still have a knee? Got a knee. Okay. Did my body scan? Like I must be better
personnel. Right. And so, and that way all you're doing is model confirming. And of course, yeah,
it's important to notice
if there's something amiss in your body
or your expectations are wrong,
but you could also do a body scan in a way
that has very little receptivity, right?
And of course, if you listen to like a really skilled
meditation teacher, they will leave such big spaces
that you're just like, come on, why am I still on my toes?
I already found the toes.
And then like, exactly, you found the toes.
So you conceptualize, oh, here's the toe,
you got the thing, and now what?
Right, and then, and so what we're trying to do
is give our own, you know, Westernized,
scientific-y, clinical psychology take on why this might be.
And we have something I'd love to talk about
if we have time is a lot of evidence,
both that through mindfulness training,
these capacities are developed,
but also when these capacities atrophy, this is where we really see deep suffering, like specifically
the depression vulnerability.
Say more about that.
So I think one of the big themes we talk about in the book is how wrong we were about what
mindfulness meditation was doing and about what made people more vulnerable to depression.
We were wrong in almost the exact same way.
So we went into studying some of the very first neuroimaging trials of mindfulness-based
stress reduction in this eight-week course popularized by John Kabat-Zinn, probably the
cornerstone of the modern meditation science movement, thinking that what we're really
going to see is this very well-characterential network, the default mode network, was being
turned off by meditation and that's why people felt better, right? Because you
know like, oh they're doing this you know Buddhist drive practice, there's no self
so they're gonna realize there's no self when the self is out of the way or
problems go away. So cool, like we're gonna put them in the scanner, we know
what the self region looks like, we know it's actually a specific part in the
front of the brain of the default bone network
that's like some of the most involved in self judgment
and we should just see that turn right off.
And then we scan people who, you know, done in BSR,
mindfulness based stress reduction,
and we scan people who are waitlisted,
so they're equally weird and wanting to do meditation,
but they haven't done the training yet.
And we didn't see any difference in the activity in the self-referential region.
Even people without training could turn it down a little bit, but there was no training
effect there.
And by contrast, we finally sort of like stopped myopically just focusing on this one self-referential
region.
We saw there were big training effects and that they were not in the default mode network.
We saw that the training effects were that when people were thinking about themselves, they were starting to include
activation of sensory parts of the brain, especially parts
of the brain that map out what happens on the surface of our bodies
and inside of our bodies.
And so, the weakening of the dominance of the
conceptual evaluative self did not come from destroying or undercutting the ability
to have self-knowledge, as we know it, but rather by increasing the scope of self-knowledge
to include dynamic, momentary, sensory impressions
of the body in the world at the same time,
concurrently with conceptual knowledge.
Sorry to extend slightly,
but I'll let Zendel talk much more about this.
As we started to look at what happened
with negative emotions,
specifically with inducing sadness in people, we found a very parallel story that it wasn't so much the
fact that people started to conceptualize and judge when they were exposed to sadness that was
predicting the magnitude of their sadness and later in our larger studies, the likelihood of
their relapse into depression. The biggest predictor of depression at the time that there
being the scan or future depression in our larger
prospective studies was how much they were shutting down sensation of their bodies and to some extent even visual sensation of the film clips that they were viewing while they're in the scanner. That
was the real canary in the coal mine. But it wasn't something that the people were spontaneously
reporting. This was an effect we saw in the brain. So it was the loss of this dynamic changing signal from the sensory
cortices that was actually the risk marker.
Everyone ruminates a little bit when they get sad.
And it turned out that trying to just get rid of rumination was to ignore the
reason why rumination can be so destructive.
It's the echo chamber of those thoughts.
That's actually destructive, not the fact that we have those thoughts to begin with.
So I know that was, that was pretty dense. So we might want thoughts to begin with. So I know that was pretty dense,
so we might wanna unpack it a bit.
No, that was great.
Let me see if I can,
let me just be the dummy here
and see if I can restate it in ways
that might approximate accuracy.
I think what you're saying is that
the problem comes when we are cut off
from our body, from our senses.
And the problem isn't having sad or depressive thoughts,
it's that there's no release valve
when we're completely disconnected from our senses.
I think that's a great way to put it.
Like if our senses are where change comes from
and our thoughts are stabilizing crystallizing forces,
and all we have are the crystallizing forces
and they're negative, then we've condemned ourselves,
because I think, oh, I'm hopeless, I'm worthless,
I'm a screw up.
And then not receptive to new information.
So the last thing that happened was this fact.
And if it was competing with like,
oh, and there's a butterfly,
and it's a really different place, then that's all I have is this thought.
Right. And of course, how are we going to react if that's all there is?
Well, then more negative emotions spills up and then we turn even more away from it.
And all we've done is confirm. We've checked if the toe is there.
We checked. Oh, yep. Screw up. Thought is still there.
No competing information.
So one of the, one of your, part of your thesis here is that there's, I think you call sensation
the chaotic counterbalance or counterweight to the certainty, the habitual judgments of
the default mode network.
And chaos doesn't necessarily carry a positive connotation, but you really mean it in a positive way here that,
and you said something quite poetic earlier, Norm,
that in the default mode network,
it's kind of us as an isolated ego
trying to control the world.
In the sensory mode, we're letting the world change us.
And so that is this kind of beneficent chaos
that you're trying to
get us to open up to because then we're not so stuck in you know our inner
asshole. But yeah like if you take it too far right and this is stuff that I'm
not sure you've had around on the show Willoughby Britton and Jared Lindell have
studied if you take it too far and you go completely sensory and you come and
you find a way to completely undercut the default mode network, you also get pathology. Right? If you're like,
I'm going to become an agent of chaos and I will lose my ability to return to conceptual self
knowledge, then what you get is depersonalization and derealization disorder. The world isn't real
and I'm not real and there's no room for motivation because there's no models to be surprised.
There's no model of behavior at all.
Right, as Willoughby would often say,
you know, someone would see a red light
and they're driving and it wouldn't occur to them
that the red light meant they should do anything
with their foot, just keep driving.
So that's not good.
But I think our thesis is that most of us
aren't too close to the depersonalization,
derealization edge.
The problem is that most of us are really, really steeped
in self-concept and knowledge about the world
really is a certain way.
And so for the majority of us,
if we had to just guess from base rates,
which way would you wanna move first
to feel a bit more balanced between order and chaos,
which is like a fundamental tension.
Most of us could use a little bit more chaos in our lives.
And don't worry,
like you're still going to remember to be the selfish jerk that you are. That will come
back from us. We're not going to just like lose track of that and be like, Oh no, no,
I didn't realize that was at stake. Even though in rare cases it can happen.
Zinzl, what's going on in your head?
You know, I think that there are a lot of ways in which we're
trying to suggest to people that moving into uncertainty,
giving up the sense of knowing what's coming next,
categorization, labeling, all of these things
are very helpful until they're not.
But when people start to see that they're not,
what's their next step?
Where do they go?
And sensation is very close at hand. But the intention when we meet sensation is really one of being receptive.
I think being receptive is an important way of helping people understand what it is that
we're asking for. We're not asking for results. We're not asking for outcome because that's
still very task oriented. We're asking people to see what the next moment brings when they're able to pay attention
to sensation and very often we're richly rewarded because there's so much that can come at us.
And then as Norm said, you know, you're sitting there, you're castigating yourself, something
didn't go right, this went wrong.
And then it's like, wow, a butterfly.
If you can notice that and pay attention to it, there can be an interesting shift in loosening
the grip of the certainty and absolutism of a lot of the ways that we're conceiving that
moment.
And very often when we start to move into sensory enriched experiences, that's sort
of what comes up like, oh, I didn't expect
that to be there or wow, that's really vibrant or this is really strong or that's very faint.
And so now we're preoccupied with something else and we're expanding the space in which
our problems and our views of self can sit alongside the possibility that the world is changing
and moving at its own pace that isn't necessarily coordinated
with the way things are in our heads.
Sometimes that can leave a little bit of space
for people to start to see things or experience
or think things through differently.
You talk about radical acceptance or accepting turmoil.
Can you describe what you mean by that
and how it's relevant to everything we've been discussing
up until this point?
You know, the radical acceptance phrase
comes from the dialectical behavior therapy tradition
in which one of the ways of helping people
who have high intensity, impulsive behaviors
and acting out and often associated with borderline personality
disorder. There's a way in which radical acceptance tries to build the tolerance for distress
in people where circumstances cannot change. They can't be forced. Things can't be undone.
People can't go back into the past and change things that have happened
to them.
So the radical acceptance is a starting point that allows people to maybe let go of some
of those efforts and to start to script a different way of relating to those problems
when they come up in their minds.
And I think the radical acceptance that we're talking about
isn't limited to those more clinical situations.
I think what we're talking about is this letting go
of expectation and being willing to explore situations
from the perspective of not having an answer at first,
but making a move into sensation at first
as a place in which to stand, even if some
of those sensations may be difficult to bear, even if those sensations can be challenging.
The radical acceptance is a way of moving into that receptivity and seeing that sometimes
putting a pause on answering, figuring out, generating outcomes can itself be an important step
or an important strategy. And does radical acceptance happen in sense
foraging? I think it's a skill that can build up. I think accepting the
physical or sensory world is it is a radical act in the sense that you're
moving out of business as usual and narrating and judging but it's not not, it's probably relatively achievable, right? Like I can accept that
I have a feeling in my body in this moment. I can accept that I see something around me
in this moment and I can question like, you know, what else am I ignoring? I think where
it really gets radical in the sense of like, like out there is when we think about where
this becomes not just oh a butterfly,
but you know what I'm seeing the hurt
in my partner co-workers face
and I didn't notice it before, right?
Or like I'm willing to start looking at the fact
that I have misgivings about something that I'm doing
or I feel that I don't have integrity
in a certain part of my life.
These are places that are,
it would be more of a radical act to accept
because it would be threatening to the idea
that like everything's fine, like let's just keep going.
Right, which is sort of the default network process.
So we're modeling a behavior in,
or scaffolding a process of receptivity
in a place where probably it's gonna start off
at the level of like look a butterfly.
And that's why, and people can dismiss it for that reason
and say, well, okay, so I'm just distracting myself.
Like whatever, what's the difference between this
and potato chips.
And if you're really foraging into the savory, fatty,
salty goodness of potato chips,
like that can be a sense foraging practice.
What we're also doing is creating a space
where we can notice the kind of things
that we deep down habitually have learned to navigate around
so that maybe I'm harming someone else
with the way I'm used to being in the situation.
Maybe the things I'm doing to get be successful or get things done in the world are actually really causing problems for me at a level that I'm putting off that I don't start to acknowledge those things is the same act of foraging.
Just that what we've seen from the neuroscience side is as soon as this negative information
comes in, many of us have a deep-seated habit of closing those gates to sensation and immediately
trying to fix the thinnest wedge of the thing that we saw.
Right?
So what I talk about from my personal experience sometimes is that having developed some arthritis
in my hip after doing too much like alternate frisbee
and taekwondo and stuff like that
and realizing I couldn't do those sports anymore
and even yoga now has gone in kind of compromised.
And the initial thing is like, well,
how am I gonna fix this?
Right, like do I need to do surgery?
You know, physio probably isn't totally gonna fix it.
Do I have to take painkillers?
How am I gonna fix the fact that I have this sensation
that's not supposed to be there?
And every time I come into contact with it,
like I don't like it, I need to find a way to fix it.
This is what we call kind of an active influence.
Like I'm supposed to change the world
because my model of my body is a model where,
you know, I feel fine, I don't have pain.
You know, it's like, we, a lot of us have the model
of our bodies like, like we're 18, right?
And we're just trying to keep that model going
by any means necessary. And so where acceptance comes in our bodies like we're 18, right? And we're just trying to keep that model going by any means necessary.
And so where acceptance comes in is saying like,
I'm actually suffering in some way,
or at least tiring myself, it's exhausting getting upset
and angry and frustrated and avoiding all the fact
that my hip doesn't work the same as it did
even 10 years ago and that it may never be fixable
in the way that I you know, I had ideally aspired to.
What if my model was that now this hip doesn't turn as much and it kind of gives me twinges
during the day and that was really like who I was and I was really okay with the fact
that's how I was.
Like not that I would like a twinge of pain or wouldn't be annoyed sometimes with a loss
of mobility, but I was really okay with that.
That's my, that's now my model.
I've accepted that's the model of my body. So now all of this like wearying, you know, how am I going to
fix this hip? It's not necessary. Like maybe at some point I wouldn't, I will need to have a hip
replacement, but I don't have to stress over it every single time it shows up as though like, oh,
I have to deal with this problem all over again. It's not a problem anymore. And so I'm talking
about a physical like a example here, because I think, you know, all of us who, as we get older, realize that there's this sort of ill-kept secret that
like things don't feel great all the time as you get older. And this is a major place where
culturally we don't have the ability to, we don't have a skill set for approaching these changes in
a way that gives us eventually a place of satisfaction and peace. And we argue that this act of sense foraging and learning to be
receptive to way things are is the beginning of letting ourselves change
in the sense that our models of the world including the models of our own
bodies and ourselves and our behavior get updated by the things that we really
let ourselves notice. But it sounds like your argument for sense foraging is, at least in part, it can start
as a way to help you press eject from the less helpful parts of the default mode network.
And then, but over time, it can morph into really changing the way you handle a world that is constantly in flux, often in ways
that might produce discomfort.
Yeah, I think that the shift out of certainty and control is a tough one.
I think that certainty and control and our models of the world being a certain way, we
have a huge investment in keeping them going and then the models themselves get invested because in terms of forward feedback loops, we're often getting
confirmatory information that says, yeah, this is the way things are working. Then things break down,
things change, things shift, and that kind of straight-jacket strategy really isn't very effective.
So when we let in new information, we let in the possibility of updating our models
so that there is some room for breakdown, there is some room for getting older, there
is some room for the inevitable kind of impermanence of life that starts to seep in.
And with it, the possibility that our struggle against these things can be tempered because
we don't see them as an absolute challenge to our models.
We see them as something which we have to negotiate with, we have to come to terms with
and find a way of living with some of that in a way that's a little bit less contentious.
Coming up, Zindal and Norm talk about the nine simple rules for sense forging and what
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Let's talk a little bit more in our remaining time
about how to do this sense foraging
that's at the heart of your book.
You've got these nine simple rules.
I'm gonna list them and then maybe you guys can jump in
and unpack whatever you think might be,
might require some more explanation.
So here are the nine rules.
One, you can't force it.
Two, you can choose it.
Three, ubiquity.
Four, completeness.
Five, concreteness.
Six, immersion.
Seven, safety.
Eight, you own it.
Nine, it's awesome.
Say more about these if you don't mind.
So, I'll take a crack at this.
So, you're going shopping at the local grocery store.
You've got to be somewhere afterwards,
you've got a shopping list, you've done this a thousand times
and you've read the book and it's like,
oh, so they're just saying, go for a walk,
that's sense foraging.
And I think it's easy to dismiss or to see something
about the book suggesting that,
but the possibility
even in a kind of mundane and frequent setting like a grocery store still allows us to meet
I think all of these principles. So for example, ubiquity, it's right there. Look at the color
of every pepper that's on display and try to define, sorry, try to label three of them to yourself.
Try to look at the texture of the skin of some of the fruit on display. Those are ways
of trying to leverage what's available in front of us for the purposes of sense foraging.
So that's ubiquity. Immersion, instead of the shopping list and what you've got to put into your shopping cart,
allow yourself to see that you're
in this highly stimulating environment with all
of these things around you.
You can't force it, meaning don't expect
to get something out of this, but allow yourself
to fall into it and see what comes at you.
Once again, the receptive mode.
Safety, going to be pretty safe in a grocery
store, but if you're doing this with psychedelics or something like that, make sure that you
know what you're doing. At times it can be awesome. All of these things and these kinds
of settings, I think, are kind of available. And because they are, that's sort of what
I meant earlier when I said the bar to entry is quite low because you can pretty much find it anywhere
Norm anything else you want to say about the list of nine?
Yeah, I think
Part I'd like to pick up on is just this idea of you can't force it, but you can't choose it
It's not that like it's not a transaction right like I'm looking at peppers. So give me happiness
Right? Like, I'm looking at peppers, so give me happiness. Right? It's more that it's a commitment to understanding that like,
I am always, always kind of committed to a certain perspective that is largely invisible to me.
And I only really notice it when I make space for another way of being or
being relating to my experience to creep in. So I can't force my perspective to change because
all of my motivation comes from the perspective I'm stuck in.
I can't force my perspective to change because all of my motivation comes from the perspective I'm stuck in.
But at the same time, if I choose to take in other information, like I move from thinking
about my relationship with my students, let's say, to the textures of the oranges, then
all of a sudden things can kind of pop up.
I'm not in this problem solving mode.
My emotions shift, my thoughts shift.
I might end up having other insights I come back to
the next time I come back to thinking about, you know,
my relationship with my grad student or something like that.
But I've created a space, like I've given myself permission
to shift, right?
And I think that's where things can kind of get awesome.
Like I just, I often think like how much of my time
when I'm upset about something, is there nothing
about that upset anywhere around me, except for the fact that I'm holding
onto it in my head.
Right, like there are times that someone is physically
like in your face and is causing harm.
And some of us are privileged to not have it as much
as often as other people.
But I dare say that for many of us, most of the time
like you have a bad weekend, you're sitting around
on the couch or something and you're holding onto something, you're carrying it with you and you have a bad weekend, you're sitting around on the couch or something, and you're holding onto something, you're carrying it with you, and you have permission to choose to do something
else.
Like as opposed to just saying, no, like I'm bad for doing this.
And then you're repeating the thing you're bad for also as you're rehearsing it.
Like I can choose to just let myself relate to life as it unfolds in a way that's offered to me by the world around me.
So when we say it's awesome, it's like when you get that something you can do,
like that you can put yourself into a space to receive change from the world,
it's like a superpower in the same way that realizing that you can actually plan your day
and not completely screw it up with the superpower.
It's like you can also unplanned your mind in a way. And so even if it doesn't always feel good, it's like awesome that you have this
capacity just to unlock your mind. And I really think it is a skill that we could co-develop along
with all the analytic and confirmatory and model building skills that we already venerate in our
current culture. There's a poem by Mary Oliver, Wild Geese.
I don't know it by heart, but there's a great line in it
that I think tries to capture exactly what we're saying,
which is, I think it starts like, you don't have to be good.
You don't have to crawl through the desert
on your knees repenting.
Tell me about loss, I'll tell you about mine.
And then there's this awesome line,
meanwhile the world goes on.
And it's like, all of these gears can be rotating
in your head, all of these things, loss and I'm good, I'm no good and you're underneath.
Meanwhile, the world goes on. Like all of these sensory things are going on regardless
of what you're doing in your own mind and they're also available for you to plug into.
And that sometimes can actually pull you out of that.
You list a bunch of access points for this sensory mode. You list them and then you
conclude with a great line. Some of the access points are nature, exercise, art,
travel, meditation, psychedelics. These are places where these are target rich environments
for the senses, for sense foraging.
And then you say, then you admit,
this may sound a little obvious,
and here's the great line,
it's not rocket science, but it is neuroscience.
And I'm going to steal that and use it all the time.
Perfect, yeah, as long as there's some takeaway, right?
Yeah.
I mean, it's like Bill Hader, the comedian,
was on this podcast a couple months ago
and he said this really funny thing,
which was, you know, he's started meditating,
he's pretty committed to it, and yoga and being in nature,
all these other things that he's doing
to work on his anxiety.
And he said the worst part of it is just admitting
that the hippies were right.
Yeah, I think there's something to that.
I think part of even talking about access points was like,
you don't have to give your fealty to any one guru
or someone like that.
Like if you have a really, you know,
divergent personality and you're just like, I don't
want to subscribe to someone else's stuff, man.
Like that kind of attitude.
It's just like, once you understand the principle, you might grudgingly accept like, oh, you
know, this is what they were talking about.
And at the same time, you can still like flex your individualism and be like, and here's
the way I sense for it.
Right?
Like, and it can be something totally weird.
Because once you understand that it really is like a deep,
the entrenched human principle that we can toggle between these modes of moving
towards automaticity and moving towards receptivity and change. And yeah,
like the hippies were right. And at the same time,
like you get to make up your own weird way of doing it that works for you.
As long as it's kind of safe, you know,
hurting yourself for someone else and you kind of get it and you know, more power to you, right? And yeah, I guess it's kind of safe, you're not hurting yourself or someone else and you kind of get it, then more power to you, right?
And yeah, I guess that's kind of the idea.
Everyone gets to have their own brand of sense foraging.
No one gets to put the trademark on it.
Norm, you just used a word, a key word,
and I wanna close on this word and Zindal,
maybe I'll let you talk about it, toggling.
Toward the end of the book, you say,
toggling is at the heart of it all.
What do you mean by that?
You know, in the meditation world, there is often description of being and doing.
The idea that there are two modes available to us, almost like two gears, most people
function in their lives on one gear.
The revelation in meditation can be that there is this second gear, there is this other mode,
this is this other way of being, and it has characteristics fundamentally different than
our habitual modes.
And also it can be a mode in which there is less suffering because the principles of,
say, impermanence, unsatisfactoriness, selflessness are more available to us in that mode. So I think this is a kind of nod to the notion of two different modes, sense foraging versus
house of habit.
But the notion of toggling is that there is a vehicle that can transport us between these
two modes and the fare is not very high.
The fare is essentially paying the price of a ticket via attention and via
intention to carry enough to recognize that at our fingertips, there are lots of sensations
that we can plug into, that we can start to receive.
In addition to that, receive the messages that may be coming through with them that
can give us a moment of respite. Norman said earlier that
we don't want to leave ourselves there bathing in sensation, but really not knowing whether
up is up and down is down. We want to have a way to go back, changed, enhanced perhaps,
touched in some ways to the world that we've chosen to create and live in. And so the notion of toggling is once again,
two modes and availability and the capacity
to transfer knowledge from one to the other.
Is there some place either of you was hoping
we would get to that we didn't get to?
Not for me.
Norm, let me just ask the last question for you,
which is can you just remind everybody
of the name of the book and whatever website you've made
or other resources that are out there
that people can go check out?
Certainly, yeah, the book is called Better in Every Sense
and the website is www.betterineversense.com
and the book's available kind of everywhere.
You can search for it and order it online.
It's in a lot of bookstores also.
So yeah, hopefully you can check it out.
We have lots of little essays popping up in different media outlets and we'll try to make
sure those are all linked to on the book website as well.
Excellent.
Norman Zindal, thank you very much for coming on.
Thanks for having us, Dan.
Take care.
Thanks so much for your time.
Thanks again to Dr. Zindel Siegel and Professor Norman Farb.
If you want to hear Zindel's previous episode on the show
where he talks about depression and anxiety specifically,
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