The Adam and Dr. Drew Show - #1717 Eric Adam's Woke World

Episode Date: May 10, 2023

Adam and Drew debate what it means to be annoying and if it can be fixed before getting into Mayor Eric Adams diving into the "woke world" when it comes to the migrant crisis. Please Support Our Sponsors: Angi.com

Recorded live at Corolla One Studios with Adam Corolla and board-certified physician and addiction medicine specialist, Dr. Drew Pinsky. You're listening to The Adam and Dr. Drew Show. Yeah, get it on, got to get on, get it on. Dr. Drew's with the board of surgeon special peoples andoples and is a Dixon Medicine Specialist. What's going on, Drew? You know, Adam, in some of our offline conversations, we'll occasionally come on some gems, some insights. And I think recently we came upon one.

And it is as it pertains to the phenomenon of – and by the way, driving in here today had an absolute classic experience with this. Well, I'll tell you about it before I frame it, after I frame it, which is that we realize that the word annoying is used by women all the time. And that neither of us had really ever identified somebody as annoying. And that seems to have great carriage for women. Like somebody who's annoying is not – dismissed. And this morning driving in, my wife is on the phone asking me to reschedule something. And I was literally in a part of – driving on the freeway. She's over the speaker. And I'm driving to the part of driving on the freeway. She's over the speaker.

And I'm driving to the part of the freeway where sometime my phone drops out. And I'm going, no, no, I can't think I can do this. But, you know, let's work on it. Phone goes silent. Okay. And I go, did you hear me? Not able to do that. Still silent.

Can we do – are you there? I'm not sure. Are you hearing me? Phone may be up. I'm texting! Don't be so annoying! Okay. Okay.

So there we are. There it is. Perfect. And go! And then the next phrase, the next command was, go! You're annoying. Right. You must be out of my field of influence, which is such an interesting thing that I don't know as a male I've ever

experienced. I've had people get aggressive and I'd like them to please move away. But annoying, you just sort of deal with that. You don't announce. You don't become irritated by it, agitated. The agitation is really the part that stands out. Well, it's also annoying is sort of global. And annoying is not specific enough for me.

I don't know what it means even. I don't really know what it means. I need – It's just impinging on them. Like she was texting and I was impinging. But it's kind of interesting in that I am by nature kind of a problem solver. Now, first things first, I understand Gavin Newsom would label himself a problem solver too. And a freedom fighter.

Yeah, a freedom fighter and a problem solver. But obviously if he is, he's wildly inept. But I hesitate sometimes to give myself these titles that are sort of people, universe. I care too much. That's my problem. People do that all the time. But I specifically want to solve the problems all the time. What is it?

Because I approach everything sort of mechanically. That's my background. So annoying is nothing that can be fixed. If you talk too much, I can tell you to listen. And if you eat too loud, I can tell you to close your mouth. And if you are late, I can tell you to be early. But you can't really tell people to not be annoying because annoying is sort of what they label you and it's nothing specific. And that's kind of the point. Yeah.

The point, what women do is they like to sort of paint with a global brush, right? And so they go, I don't like that person. You know, it's a lot of women tell me a lot, like, I got a bad feeling about that, but I don't like that part. And I'll go, I don't like that person. You know, it's a lot of women tell me a lot. Like, I got a bad feeling about that. I don't like that part. And I'll go, why? What are we basing this on? I believe then that goes back to their sort of clairvoyance.

You know, believe me, I can tell. Believe me, I can tell. They don't say that about men very often. Very often. Typically a female. It'll typically be female. Very often, but it'll typically be female, but it's some sort of global vibe, you know, like like in a. In a movie from the 90s, when there's a beautiful blind woman and she has a dog, her seeing eye dog, and she's going out on a date with a good looking guy who doesn't mind that she has a handicap.

And he comes over to the apartment to pick her up, and the dog starts growling. And she's like, Skipper never growls at anyone. You know at that point in that movie, that dog knows more than she knows, right? Women look at themselves as that dog. Yes. Except for they growl at everything, even the fucking UPS guy. And then announce they're never wrong.

So they have the feelings because women think they have instincts. They do. Yeah, but they're not always right. Correct. And they follow them. And that's the problem. Rochelle Walensky, head of the CDC, had a bad feeling about COVID as a mom. Yeah.

That'll fuck our shit up. Yeah. You understand? Yes. You don't want bad feelings or instincts in these kinds of positions of power. Now, it turned out Rochelle Walensky was wrong. Now, did she have a bad feeling as a mom? I have no idea. I just assume she's lying,

what she was doing most of the time. But maybe, maybe she did have a bad instinct as a mom. That bad instinct is not something you want like an airline pilot. Airline pilot nor a policymaker. A general. Yeah, general, People in charge. Setting very discreet policies that have objective components and objective results. So what happens is women kind of globally go at people, and annoying is global.

And they cannot parse out the good things, the bad things. They also do this weird kind of global thing where they'll go like, this guy, you know, my ex-husband, he doesn't do anything. He does nothing. Nothing. It's like, well, he does go to work every day and he does pay the mortgage on the house. He pays your child support. Yeah, that's something, right? He doesn't do anything. Nothing. Like they do that all the time. child support yeah that's something right he doesn't do anything yeah look at nothing like they do that all the time and then i get into trouble because i find myself going well he

doesn't do nothing oh boy he does things because he goes to work and he pays for your car insurance you know what i mean it's like okay goes under annoying i i guess. He's annoying. And therefore, I have to explain why he's annoying. And annoying, again, back to my example from this morning, is really just impinging upon in some way. Right? So I am legitimately concerned. I'm not communicating with my wife, so I'm reiterating. Are you hearing me? Are you hearing me?

She's in the middle of texting. I'm supposed to know that? Well, that in the middle of texting i'm supposed to know that well that's the other i'm magically supposed to the other thing is you're supposed to know you're supposed to know and then there's the other thing that i'll give you i'll give you a prime example this right yeah the amount of times i've said to a woman, I thought I told you we were going to be out of town this weekend. And she went, no, you never told me. Right. I immediately go, oh, sorry. I thought I told you. Yeah. Women a million times have not told me something and then told me they told me something. And I went, you did not tell me that. And the reason I know you didn't tell me that it's because how I'm reacting

now. Yes. You know what I mean? So I would have reacted similarly then, but I had no reaction because I didn't receive the info. Right. I, I am,

I am now saying to you this because it's what I would have said three days ago when you said you told me but you you never did yeah I've never heard them go oh well maybe I was mistaken they just go I told you and then I go my number one answer is what did I say and they go you weren't listening that's that's you never listen right that's like that's the go-to. It's outside of me. It's you. Yeah. No, and dates and times and stuff like that.

Like I'm pretty locked down on dates and times and that kind of stuff. But, yeah, and I'm – and I have hypervigilance. So I listen. I don't always react. I listen though. Well, I've been around you long enough to know not to question certain things. And why don't they learn that about you? Have they not been around you long enough?

You know what I mean? It takes a minute to – I'll give people a minute to look at the track record. You've got to get the scorecard out. It's like, oh, Adam's never wrong when he says shit like this. I should take a beat. No, you get no credit. get the scorecard out. It's like, Oh, Adam's never wrong when he says shit like this. I should take a beat. Nope. You get no credit. No,

because women and dumb people, but I'm not saying women are dumb. I'm just saying they share a trait with the dumb. Okay. Never study patterns and never learn. They go right back to it. You would think instincts would be in my patterns. You would think that would be in there.

Yeah, my pattern. So it really isn't an instinct. It's a feeling. Because instincts have sort of a wisdom, an experience attached to them typically. This is really just a feeling. You make me uncomfortable. That's really what it is. The annoying part?

Yeah, you make me uncomfortable. Yes. really what it is. The annoying part? Yeah. You make me uncomfortable. Yes. And uncomfortable has huge value because comfortable has huge value. So uncomfortable – Yeah, I put a very low price on comfort. Yeah. It's not really –

It's an interpersonal price, right? It's like you don't make – if you make me – I mean you can make me angry. You can make me sad. You can make me anxious. Comfortable? Not typically what I mean you can make me angry. You can make me sad. You can make me anxious. Comfortable? Not typically what I think about, particularly around men. Well, I have – I would have a list of people that I didn't want to have lunch with, many in the family, because it was like there's no there there. I didn't want to sit there and talk about nothing for an hour and a half.

And I guess that's uncomfortable. But they're not talking about that kind of uncomfortable. No, but you know what's kind of interesting as we think about it? You think about women and their friends. I base my friends or like who I want to go to lunch with on how dynamic and interesting that person is right um they do it mostly based on how if that person screwed them over in the past yeah like that's the negative part what's the positive part uh super nice just just comfortable yeah just, just comfortable. Just comfortable. Yeah. We don't have to talk about anything. So for me, I'm very much into, man, I want to have lunch with Dennis Prager because we're going to have a conversation. Yeah, I want to learn something.

You know what I mean? I want to see what's going on. Yeah, yeah. I have a list of super interesting guys who are super smart who I I sort of feel like blessed even know, like, you know, in the, in the world of who you get to talk to, you know, I get to talk to some world-class thinkers and they always show up loaded with a gunny sack of new ideas and stuff they want to lay on me, you know, and I want to lay ideas on them. And it's really interesting to me, but it doesn't really have to do with comfort.

Well, to defend women a bit on this is there is a value, and I mean a sort of overarching universal value, to being able to be around someone who can listen intently to your feelings and metabolize them and give you something back. Yes. That is a very important thing. And I would argue that we look for that too in some of the males we sit down with too because we want their thoughts. We want their feelings on what we were experiencing. What do you think about?

I'm having these experiences. And so they do that as well, but they only do that. We do that a little bit, and then we want to hear – we want to actually get away from that a little bit and hear more sort of things, more ideas, more inspiring. We want to be inspired in an interesting way with our conversation. But yes, only women can be annoyed. Maybe gay men can be annoyed. Oh, interesting. I've got a bunch of gay friends. I'm going to start asking them. If they can be annoyed. Oh, interesting. I've got a bunch of gay friends.

I'm going to start asking them. If they can be annoyed. About what they think of people who are annoying and just see what they say. And also, by the same token, I couldn't really picture lesbians being annoyed as easily as gay men, for instance, even though they're females. And also the transgender thing is going to have an interesting – Oh, are they annoyed? Right. So this is a core.

So if you're going from male to female, you better learn to be annoyed. By the same token, if you're going from female to male, maybe you have lots of annoying people. So we were watching 90 Day Fiancé and there's a transgender male couple. And the sister of this transgender man is very pushy and very intrusive. And we just were noticing my wife announced, oh, you can't erase this part. These are two sisters. This is how sisters relate. He's not just a male in a relationship.

He's not a brother. He's a sister who has male overlay. And I couldn't quite pick it all up, but she was like adamant about that. overlay. And I couldn't quite pick it all up, but she was adamant about that. But it'd be interesting, and by the way, this is an interesting guy in this series, because

the way they, you know, obviously I don't know him, and you're only seeing parts of who he is, but he seems to have more than gender dysmorphia, sort of body dysmorphia. He's very focused on every little piece of his body that reminds him of female. Everything has to be corrected, because it just, oh, oh, it of his body that reminds him of female everything has to be corrected because it just oh it's gross it reminds me of female

it's very interesting so i wonder how much of some people's uh gender stuff has a body component to it but anyway all right let me tell you that uh tony roberts this is the actor from the last episode. Yeah. And all the Woody Allen movies was in the Million Dollar Duck. There it is. The Disney movie. Oh, my. From 1973 or something.

I don't remember. I remember seeing it in the movie theaters. It's about all the joy I ever had. 71. 71. Dark, air conditioning. Yeah. You know what I mean i mean yes what could be better candy parents weren't there um candy only if you smuggled it in you brought your own candy yeah

you couldn't buy stuff at the concession because i'm sure it was 35 cents but uh what's the guy's first name jones uh something jones oh yeah. He was in everything. Yes. Yes. And he met, what if he replaced Bob Crane? Dean Jones. Yeah. Dean Jones was in Flubber. Oh, yeah. All right. Let me tell you. And Fred McMurray.

Oh, Fred McMurray. Oh, that's right. I'm not even sure if Dean Jones was in Flubber now. It's Fred McMurray. They're right. All right. So what is Tony Roberts' IMDb? I mean, did he do a bunch of Disney films before he started doing Woody Allen films? And why wasn't he sort of typecasted? I saw those movies as a kid, too.

And I didn't put it together that it was the same guy in the Woody Allen films, which is sort of interesting. Yeah, he always kind of played the same guy. Dirty Dancing? Here we go. Yeah, you can go back to the 70s is where we got to go. I mean, this guy just kept acting. Victor Victoria, he was in that? That was actually a great film. Well well that was 1995 was that 1990 i think i'm gonna re-watch that film and see if it's as good as i thought yeah

okay um yeah 1995 i thought that was even earlier switch hotel he was in that series it makes sense stardust memories using that one too. All right. So he was in Oh, The Love Boat. Well, wow. Three episodes of The Love Boat. But what about the Woody Allen films?

Let's see. You said Annie Hall. We said Stardust Memories already. Serpico. Serpico

in 73. Played against Sam. I did not remember him that. And love of American style. And so he goes from the million dollar duck to Serpico.

Yeah. That's crazy. Guy got range. Yeah. And then what do Woody Allen well Woody saw the swarmy guy from L.A. That was his role.

Right. Yeah. He was perfect in that. All right. There's a. He was perfect in that. Uh, all right. There's a funny clip. Emmy can look for that. Um,

is mayor Eric Adams of New York. Who's crying racism because Abbott is busing migrants to, uh, all the sanctuary States. And I'm, you know, that's a kind of a nuanced thought. I think Lori Lightfoot did the sanctuary states. And I'm, you know, that's a kind of a nuanced thought. I think Lori Lightfoot did the same thing.

Yeah. I don't know if she cried racism, but I'm sure she cried racism. She goes out and steps on an acorn. She calls the tree racist. So it's a funny clip of him saying black mayor, black mayor, black mayor, which out of context sounds like all these cities with black mayors are nightmares. Because Chicago, black mayor, L.A., black mayor, New York, black mayor. Like it beats the thing a racist would say about all these cities run by black mayors are nightmares. And we got another black mayor elected. that's going to be a black mayor. Like that's what it comically sounded like to me. So it's an interesting thought.

And I have some sort of room. This is like one of those things where it's like I kind of have room to be moved around a little. Room to be moved around a little like I'm in general. I'm I'm I'm on Abbott's side or anybody's side who ships illegals to places who boast that they're sanctuary cities. Because I think the problem with these assholes, whether it's Los Angeles or Chicago, is they come out and they make all these proclamations. No child should be left behind. Everyone gets a seat at the table.

Homeless need to be treated with dignity and respect. Nobody's illegal. Everyone should be treated with love. You come here, we will embrace you. So you make blowhard statements like that, which, by the way, are the are are the people who voted for you down with this? Like, do they want the fucking encampments in front of their house of the homeless people? Like, is that what they want? I think that kind of voted for you to do a job, but not announce your sanctuary. So you announce your sanctuary city because you're fucking blowhard.

Believe me, I've seen this a million times. Delia doesn't have a table to eat off of. Okay, grandma, then pay her. You're her only employer. Buy her a table. Buy her a table. Fuck no. This is that.

Yes. This is you announcing how good you are. And then the first busload of migrants show up at City Hall and you're like, we don't have the resources. This isn't fair. We can't take care of these people. Well, then why announce your sanctuary state? Because you shouted to the heavens that you were prepared to take care of anyone known as illegal. You wanted it.

You wanted it. Now you got it. So I kind of get that part. And the guys at the border are not sanctuary. They have announced the contrary. They don't want this. We don't want it. And they've been asking the federal government to do something about the border for five years,

and nothing's getting done at least three years. And whatever overwhelming feeling the mayors have in Chicago, Illinois, and here, it's got to be 50 times worse down there. They're just trickling them out by the busload. And they're smaller cities that can't absorb as much. Two and a half million people have come across the border. Right. Of course they're going to be overwhelmed down there.

So A, the fact that Lori Lightfoot said this is unthinkable because we're overwhelmed, we can't handle it. What do you think is going on down there? I think they can handle it too. You've got to say, well, we've welcomed them. We all have said we will welcome them. We will help you guys out in Texas. Here's the problem.

I completely sign off on everything that the Texans are doing except you're using humans as a means to an end. That's never good. That's what somebody needs to zero in on. That both sides, one side is using the whole border thing as a political ploy. Now the mayors are using it as a sort of a

kind of a weird political instrument. And then the Texans are using them however they have to to get them out of there. It's all using humans as a means to an end. That's the core issue in all this. Both sides are doing it. That's the problem.

Yeah. But in general, if you want to be a dick and announce you're in a sanctuary city and that's what the city you run, then you should be able to be entitled to as many illegal immigrants as possible. Well, either are you or not. You've announced you are. Yeah. So that has to come with some responsibility, it seems to me.

But this is the part that we always go at. The pragmatic component is – the human component, the motivational component, the pragmatic component, no thought, no consideration. Yes. Yes. Because they're annoyed. Now – so we have Eric Adams. This is, it's kind of funny.

So now he has turned to racism. You know, we, the city is being destroyed by the migrant crisis. And none of my folks. Hold on, pause it. Why is it being destroyed by the migrant crisis when you announced your sanctuary city and all were welcome? Yeah. Number one. Number two.

What about Texas? What's going on down there? Are they being destroyed then? Multiple cities being destroyed. Luck of the draw that they're on the border and you're away from the border, but the government's doing nothing about it. Yeah. All right. So here's his speech.

the government's doing nothing about it yeah all right so here's the speech sir you know we the city is being destroyed by the migrant crisis and none of my folks came to washington dc to fight for the resources that's going to undermine every agency in our city you know we i'm by the way a fan of fan of Eric Adams a little bit. I was when he was running. Now he just dove into the woke world pretty much. He does, he does, but I think... He wears bracelets, too. I think he's underneath a little more pragmatic.

Oh, he's a little better than nuts. Yeah, yeah. But he's still... And he plays the race card. Yeah, he does. Well, everyone's got to play the race card. It's 2023. Yeah.

All right. That was an interesting clip, Emmy, but not the clip. Well, he's talking about black mayor. He just repeats black mayor over and over. He just repeats black mayor over and over. He said, in part, Governor Abbott is once again deciding to play politics with people's lives by resuming the busing of asylum seekers. It is also impossible

to ignore the fact that Abbott is now targeting five cities run by black mayors. I see. Put plainly Abbott is using this crisis to hurt black run cities. I see. Okay. I get it. There's still footage of him saying black mayor, black mayor, black mayor. I should be able to find it. But anyway, there you go. We've got race. I get it. There's still footage of him saying black mayor, black mayor, black mayor.

He should be able to find it. But anyway, there you go. We've got race. There you go. Well, hey, man, they're all just playing politics. It works. That's a good political move. It may be true that they're all black mayors.

And he's trying to get money from Washington, if you notice. That's really what he wants. But they're all also sanctuary cities. So they have two things in common. Because I kind of live part of my time in New York City. It hurts black people. Listen to this. You'll like this.

And I think the reason I'm a mild fan of Eric Adams is it's so much better than Los Angeles. It's so much better. They're doing such a better job. Such a better job. It's so much better. They're doing such a better job. Such a better job. It's breathtaking. So whatever shortcomings he comes up with this, I'm grateful for all the things that they do well in New York City.

And we do none of that here. Zero. Literally zero here. He has a little bit of a 10-cent head, though. He doesn't, when he talks. You know what we've got to find for the next show, Emmy? little bit of a 10 cent head though. I can't, he doesn't, when he talks, you know, we got to find for the next show. I mean,

you can tell Chris or Ben, uh, I was telling me off the air that I was watching, uh, Michelle Obama and Oprah, like sit down for her becoming tour. You had a very good observation on that. And, and there's some things to some game film to break down from that okay i don't know

that eric adams thing i saw it earlier this morning and i feel like we get we got it it's it's ringing in our ears we get it i get yeah i know but always there's something funny there's something audibly funny about him saying black mayor yeah we're having trouble finding that specific video at least in its entirety the only thing I'm seeing from today is this rebuttal back to Governor Abbott. Maybe it was from yesterday. And I wonder if it were the mayor sending the immigrants up and not the governor, if it would make a difference. Just sort of like, hey, man, I'm a mayor, too, and my city is being destroyed. Share it with me.

You're the sanctuary. I don't think anything makes a difference to these people. This all boils down to Gavin Newsom coming out to L.A., standing on a pile of trash with graffiti everywhere and trains being robbed and yelling, what the hell is going on around here? Who's in charge? Who's in charge?

These are just idiots. Whatever – But I feel like if we were having this conversation two years ago, you and I would be like, oh my god, how long? This is crazy. How long? I feel people like would nod when you said things like that and I would go, yeah, these guys are nuts.

These guys are not good. These guys are not doing a job. Absolutely. All right. You can go to adamcarolla.com for all the live shows. I'll be in New York at Sony Hall. Maybe Dr. Drew, come by and say hi. I will.

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