The Adam and Dr. Drew Show - BEST OF: #504: Mr. Vaginismus
Episode Date: October 20, 2023Adam and Dr. Drew head straight to the phones this episode and speak to a variety of callers including one who has a question about getting his girlfriend to be more giving in the oral department as t...hey're having trouble with intercourse. They also speak to a gentlemen who is wondering about the effects of marijuana smoke on young children. They also speak to an alcoholic who is trying to figure out the way to get treatment given her work and family situation and a caller with questions about seizures in young people. Please Support Our Sponsors: SimpliSafe.com/Adam2 The Jordan Harbinger Show - Available everywhere you listen to podcasts
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Yeah, get it on. Got to get it on. No choice but to get it on.
Mandate, get it on. Welcome to the show. Thanks for tuning in.
Thanks for telling a friend. We love that, don't we, Drew?
Yeah.
What's going on with you, man?
Word of mouth is the best way, right?
Mm-hmm. It's the only way, really. What is going on with you, man? It goes word of mouth the best way, right? Mm-hmm.
It's the only way, really. What is going on with me?
A bit of New York and back.
Mm-hmm.
Calls.
I don't know.
Mm-hmm.
Kids.
Oh, look at that.
Have you seen that yet, that movie, La La Land?
No, but look at you saying the name of something on the air versus, hey, that thing.
That's good.
Yeah, hey, that's good, right?
That's funny, right?
No, not.
Because I've got a bunch of screeners now, too.
I spent the whole weekend going over these things.
And it's fun.
I have this theory that someone is pilfering my screeners because what ends up happening is every year everything gets sent to my manager, right?
And the manager just takes care of everything.
And then at some point, everyone starts talking about screeners.
And they go, and then they start coming.
And I go, I don't know where my screeners are.
Where are my screeners?
And everyone goes, yeah, I don't know.
We all got ours.
And I go, I didn't get my screeners.
Those are the ones I give you if you're in the academy or something.
I don't know what we are. But sag sag there you go and uh then they don't and then at some point i get a manila envelope it's like delivered by someone who works at the office and
there's like eight screeners yeah and and it's like and then i start going through them and this
one's well this is uh let's see what's this first movie it's called when oprah cried part one what do we got here when oprah cried part two then we got when gail
king and oprah cried that's part three i don't have then everyone goes oh hey have you seen uh
big tits on pogo sticks and i go huh and i go oh yeah It's awesome. And I go, what? Yeah, it was in my screening.
I got a whole packet.
You get the screeners?
Yeah, I got, no, I got the Oprah.
I got Oprah crying.
Oh, you don't get big tits on Pogo sticks?
No.
Is that a, I've heard about it.
Everyone's talking about it.
Well, you haven't?
Yeah, well, then someone else will chime in.
Oh, you saw big tits on Pogo sticks?
I got the screener.
Yeah, I do too.
Oh, no, it's awesome.
And I go, has anyone got these Oprah ones of them crying? Oh, you shot Big Tits on Pogo Sticks? I got the screener. Yeah, I do too. Oh, no, it's awesome.
And I go, has anyone got these Oprah ones of her crying?
Well, yeah, we got those.
We didn't bother with that. It is weird.
I've seen Big Tits on Pogo Sticks like five times.
I go, hold on.
I got them in the envelope.
Where's the movie that I want to see?
And it's like, I swear someone's in that office just fucking lifting these things.
I've had the same feeling where you get, I get those, but not those.
What?
Oh,
pig sticks on po-sticks.
A space oddity.
They met Star Wars.
No?
No.
I haven't seen that.
You're starring in that one.
I am?
Yeah.
You're nominated
for an Academy Award.
The performance was magnificent.
No,
I haven't seen,
a SAG Award.
I haven't seen that one.
Oh,
I got Oprah. Oh, wait a minute.'t seen that one. Oh, I got Oprah.
Oh, wait a minute.
Here's another one.
Oh, this is Stedman and Oprah hug.
It's running time 171 minutes.
Jesus.
No, I don't have this one.
Everyone's talking about La La Land.
Yeah, I saw that.
And then I do this one with Gina Grab.
She's lower down
the celebrity food chain
than I am.
And then I say to Gina Grad,
well, how do you,
would you,
well, she made a mistake.
She said,
I've seen it three times.
I mean,
it's a lot of going
to the theater.
And she said,
hold on,
I got the screener.
I said,
you have the screener.
You have the screener.
She's like,
yeah.
The monocle falls out of your eye.
Everyone's got the screener. Monocle fell right. The monocle falls out of your eye. Everyone's got the screener.
Monocle fell right into my old fashion.
Well, if it cushions the blow for you at all, it didn't show up to the house address to her.
Uh-oh.
No, it's her writer boyfriend, which I was thinking about.
But still, I'm higher in the food chain than him, too.
That's what I'm looking at.
He wrote First Kid.
So, First Kid.
So, anyway, Gina brought in this, so I may see it.
Ah, it's worth watching.
However, I watched The Crown before I watched that.
And the acting in The Crown is so ridiculously powerful.
I mean, it's just... John Lithgow,
I do not understand why he did not get an award.
He plays Winston Churchill.
I cannot recommend it strongly enough.
I can't get over it. And then
seeing these two goof around in La La Land
was sort of a disappointment by comparison.
That's all I'm saying. But I like La La Land.
Gina, bring me in The Crown.
I'll bring you in The Crown.
Bring The Crown.
Alright, there's Oprah... let's see. Forget the crown. Yeah. I'll bring you in the crown. I've got the whole story. Bring the crown. Watch the whole goddamn thing.
All right.
There's Oprah.
Let's see.
Forget about Oprah.
David.
David, yeah.
Yeah, 28.
What's going on?
New York.
Hello?
Yeah, what's going on?
Hey, thanks for taking my call.
Sure.
I have a question.
I, about six years ago, I was surprisingly diagnosed with herpes one.
I believe it's the oral herpes.
And I never had an outbreak.
I never had one before.
I never had one since.
And I know back, I was listening to a Theo Vaughn podcast with Dr. Drew,
and he said that the blood test for herpes is like a 50-50.
Yeah, they're worthless.
They're really worthless.
Finally, they put out a position paper.
The England Journal published a position paper.
Are you saying physician or position?
A position paper.
A position.
Say, taking a position that these are not worthwhile tests
unless there's a strong clinical likelihood.
Like you see an outbreak and you just want to confirm it.
You're as likely to be a false positive as a true positive.
My biggest concern is I've given up on monogamy.
So seeing more people and having this talk beforehand, it kind of sucks.
And I heard the podcast where you said there was a definitive test.
I didn't know what it was.
Yes, it's a viral culture.
Viral culture.
Yes.
And herpes 1 and herpes 2 both occur in the mouth and both occur on the genitals.
So there's no longer any distinction by where they occur.
Oh, that was a big deal.
Type 2 is a little more.
Can you get a culture when there's no outbreak?
You can, but they're less likely to be positive.
So, you know, having a negative culture tells you you're not producing virus right now,
but it doesn't guarantee you.
But if you haven't had any symptoms, I mean, why did they even test you, for God's sakes?
That's bizarre.
Well, I was with someone who we split up and got back together.
We both hooked up with someone.
So that was the first time I ever got tested.
And I'm like, give me everything.
So I got the blood drawn.
Well, they did a worthless test.
All right. So you've never had an outbreak.
And by the way, pretty much everybody has the type one in their mouth. So already, I mean, think about it. That's something that most people have. So why test for that?
Is it worth it? Would you say it's worth bringing up, though?
No.
You don't have that talk to try to be a dog.
No, no, no.
You could say somebody scared me once and I might have this, but I've never had any break.
What are we doing?
We're trying to get our dick sucked here.
David?
All right.
Yeah, he wants that dude to suck his dick.
Am I right, Ben?
So listen, David.
He's giving up on monogamy.
Well, you've given up on monogamy, fine.
You've never had a breakout, and this test has been proven to be not accurate,
so I wouldn't feel any moral obligation.
I don't.
Not without any outbreaks, and it's a tight way.
It's just, no.
I agree.
Speaking of getting your Johnson work done, look at line five.
Line five.
Hey, John, 25, New York york hey what's going on good
yeah so i've got a question about uh i've got a girl now yeah how was that
sorry the the are you talking about the random bark? Yeah.
Oh, that's nothing. Don't worry about it.
The Bobo boys know what I'm doing.
All right.
Anyway, so the question is,
I've had this girlfriend now for about a month and a half,
and things have been going well. However, there's nothing going on in the oral department in either way, which I think everyone can agree on is just enhancing the sexual experience.
So I'm wondering, what is your take on the sales job?
I like the maybe it's a new thing in life, the side commentary.
That's true.
I took my – I was talking about on ACS.
I took my daughter and her friend inner tubing up to top of Bear Mountain or whatever it was.
And I went into the – so I bought them the lift pass, and I was heading into the lodge, so to speak,
to hunker down for about four hours of watching NFL football.
So I went to the bar, and I said, can I order a drink?
And they said, well, we don't have any liquor on the mountain, but we have beer and wine.
And I said, oh, okay.
And then they said, because of the kids.
And I was like, yeah, because if I got some scotch, I'd definitely be fucking my daughter in a snowbank in a couple hours.
I mean, that's what I'd be doing.
But anyway.
And then she paused and went, there's no liquor on the whole mountain.
And I was like, well, as long as no one else is getting drunk, I'll be happy about this.
And you can't get drunk on beer and wine.
I understand.
I'll be happy about this.
And you can't get drunk on beer or wine.
I understand the concept.
Yeah, by the way, you got 9.5 IPA on tap that I can get an endless amount I can get a barrel of.
But here's the deal.
I understand the concept of places to just serve beer and wine quite well.
And I will accept your answer when you go, we just have beer and wine. And I'll go, okay, I won't go through all the different brands of liquors and all the different types of liquors.
All right.
You don't have gin.
But how about scotch?
Okay.
No scotch.
How about rye?
Okay.
No rye.
How about vodka?
And then I'm going to go through all the flavors.
All that.
I just got to go through it.
But you had to pause and go, because of the kids.
Which, by the way, made me feel unfit.
But also, it's like, not sure why all the information is being
thrown about you know what i'm saying the sidebars there's a lot of that there's more of that yeah i
agree a little too much you know what i think well all right chalk it up to the airport the oj trial
you know i'm gonna need you to do for me right now just go ahead and turn around real quick right
now for me i was at the burbank airport and the guy's like okay i'm gonna have to go ahead and
ask you for me right now just go ahead and turn around and i started to turn around
like i'm in the middle of turning around like i went real quick and it's like first off i'm done
turning around by the time you're done saying real quick and then secondly what what are you adding
this and by the way let's say if i let's say i did do it super quick so i made a real move where i
took my arm and i threw it hard like a pulling guard kick my legs up whipping around would you shoot me like real
quick like what what's all the extra my uh my uh my new thing is i'm trying to stop myself i try to
do with matt uh oftentimes find myself talking to matt while I'm walking the dog and I'm having to go somewhere,
be somewhere, and I ask him what time it is
and I keep saying right now
and I don't want to do that anymore.
I say, what time is it?
That's what I say right now.
We understand. You mean right now.
It feels a little curt. We understand you don't mean yesterday.
It feels curt.
John?
Yeah, so... Or oral feels good right of course everyone knows that uh don't know why
i had that random sidebar but anyway so well real reason is because the the lady is against it uh
she thinks it's weird it's not natural um so how do I make this conversation work in my favor?
Have you ever seen how dogs interact?
Well, no.
Listen, I will say this.
Can I say this, John?
There are some people that are this way, and they're just this way.
My wife, she likes steak.
She doesn't like hamburger.
She doesn't like ground meat.
Now, probably because it's cheaper, but she doesn't like the texture of it.
You know what I mean?
She's like, I just don't like, and you could say all day long, sweetie, it's the meat,
and they grind it up, and they pound it together, and this is how they do it.
She'll go, I don't like the ground up there.
I don't like the taste.
I don't like the way it is.
And you'll go, here's why you need to enjoy this or not have a problem with it.
And they go, I don't care.
I don't like the way it.
She doesn't like the meat sauce.
I guess her mom would make her spaghetti and meat sauce
and crumble up the meat and the meat sauce.
For me, it's like...
That sounds good.
Oh, my God.
My mom made me nothing.
We ate weeds.
I want any of this.
I'll take any of it.
It's like, I don't like all the pieces of meat.
And it's like, that's the best part.
But either way, there is no intelligent,
intellectual discussion or dialogue that can be had that is going to talk her out of this thing.
Yes?
Right.
I mean, you can maybe, if she's motivated for some reason, sort of expose her sufficiently so that she becomes accustomed to it.
But she's never going to be an enthusiast.
Right.
So, John.
Yeah. I'm looking for accustomed to it, but she's never going to be an enthusiast. Right. So, John... I'm looking for
a custom to it. I don't
care about enthusiasts. I just,
you know, I need a little something.
I think there's a thing that Drew
would always poo-poo,
but maybe he's not poo-pooing
so much anymore,
which is, look...
That's frankly shitting.
This can be your thing.
Your thing can be, I just don't like this thing.
And then your thing can be,
and I think Drew has said it many times,
look, fellas, there's a lot of stuff
you don't want to do in relationships.
Go ahead and do it.
Yeah, I mean, it's used to say,
it's three minutes of doing something you don't want to do,
and then the other person takes their turn,
does something they don't want to do to you for a while, right? Yeah, I mean, it's like there's three minutes of doing something you don't want to do, and then the other person takes their turn, does something they don't want to do to you for a little while, right?
Yeah.
I mean, it's like there's a part of it where, and again, I think we've done this.
I don't think we've done anyone a service by going, you never do anything you're not
100% comfortable with all the time, every time.
And it's like, it's just relaxing.
But let me talk, John, a little bit more, because there's a line of questioning here that we haven't gone, a path we've not gone down since the Loveline days.
So, John.
Yeah.
Does she orgasm with intercourse?
So that kind of leads to the whole issue, is there's a problem with the intercourse that she's been talking about with her doctor. I'm not sure of all of the technical terms,
but lamest terms, it hurts when she has intercourse,
when we have intercourse,
and I honestly can't get more than a finger,
like a fingertip or just the tip in.
Okay. And I'm wondering what all that could be.
So did she have any sexual trauma growing up he did in her first relationship i am actually her second uh boyfriend yeah drew's kind of going
earlier than that childhood trauma uh she hasn't ever described any childhood trauma, but she's 23 now, and her first boyfriend was from the ages of 18 until 22.
And during that time, she did open up to various amounts of forced sexual intercourse and variations of that.
But it's not so much what we're, it's not what Drew's thinking about.
So something is up.
There are pelvic physical therapists that can help her with this.
How's she doing with her dad?
Her home life, both mom and dad are great.
She has no issue with either of them.
life, both mom and dad are great.
She has no issue with either of them.
I've spoken with her dad and interacted
and everything seems very
normal.
Again, they're people who specialize
in helping with this. They're physical therapists
for her pelvic vaginismus.
The reason we bring this vaginismus,
I forgot about that. Is that a black holiday?
No. That's what this girl has.
Hmm? No.
That was an African-American holiday. Like their Christmas, wasn't it? I forgot about that. Isn't that a black holiday? No. It's what this girl has. Hmm? No. Hmm.
That was an African-American holiday.
Like their Christmas, wasn't it?
Yeah.
Well, somebody tried to make it that, but, you know, it was a professor from Wisconsin.
Oh, UC Davis, I think.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Back in the, what, 72, 73?
Yeah.
I can't remember.
Anyway, didn't catch on.
Mm-mm.
Mm-mm.
Hey, a lot of ceremonial garb that goes along with it.
Hey, John.
There's got to be a black chick named Vaginismus somewhere, right?
Look at that.
All right.
Hey, what we're...
All right.
That's Drew's thing.
True.
What I'm thinking about a little is the 18-year-old person who didn't say to their boyfriend,
hey, knock it off, and who went along with this repeatedly.
There's a reason for that.
And usually there's something in the background that caused that.
Not being a victim of rape, but what I mean being caused of
not dumping the guy after the first time he did this to you or calling the cops or laying the law down or whatever it is.
There's something going on that I believe is related to this.
And it'd be worthwhile to investigate.
I didn't want to say investigate.
I want to say get some therapy for.
But that'd be a good thing to look into.
Thanks, John.
Here's a gentleman where it's his last name.
Oh, yeah.
Mr. Vaginismus.
Wow.
Wow.
Mr. Vaginismus.
All right.
All right, Drew, who else do you like up there?
Let's keep rolling up the line.
Line four?
All right.
Let's talk to Chris.
Hey, I'm here.
Yeah, man.
What's going on?
I was pulling over.
Nice.
What's happening?
So I wanted to ask Dr. Drew if he knows anything on the subject of marijuana's effects on brain chemistry in younger children
in regards to, statistically, the differentiation between the odor of marijuana versus smoke.
Like, if you don't see any visible smoke, is there still potential detrimental effects to children?
I'd heard somebody mention some data on this, but I've not seen any good data on secondhand
cannabis.
Why?
You have some young kids floating around?
But think about it.
If all the safe secondhand cigarettes are going to cause cancer, it would make sense.
This is an herb, Drew.
This comes from the ground.
This grows in the ground.
Wait, doesn't tobacco grow in the ground?
No.
I mean, well, it starts off in the ground. Okay,
Drew.
They take the tobacco leaf, okay?
And then they strip it away.
They strip all...
The nutrients? All the nutrients.
All the fiber. All the
vitamins. All the minerals.
They add gluten.
Okay? Then they process it.
Okay? Now they process it. Okay?
Now they add formaldehyde.
Sure.
And other agents.
Okay?
Look it up.
These are all cancer-causing agents.
They add these stabilizers and these agencies, formaldehydes, to it and then pesticides.
Of course.
They add pesticides.
And then herbicides.
And herbicides.
As I was saying, pesticides and herbicides. Okay? That was saying pesticides and herbicides okay that gets added to the tobacco yes and then they roll it up in poison paper and then they sell it to your
children okay the marijuana is a naturally occurring herb okay did you know that washington
lewis je Louis Jefferson had an-
George Washington.
George Washington.
Had clothing.
That's what I said.
Yeah.
He made all of his own clothing, and the first flag was sewn on hemp.
Okay.
Hemp is a naturally occurring.
Do you know that rope made of hemp that's one inch in circumference is stronger than
seven inch wide anchor chain.
Wow, how about that? Okay, so this is a naturally occurring in nature.
Untreated only though.
It's all hemp is natural.
Yeah, yeah.
Okay, and it grows naturally in the ground.
Do you enjoy tomatoes?
I do.
Those grow in the ground.
No, you're kidding.
Do you enjoy lettuce?
Yes.
That's another vegetable that grows in the ground. But do they add horrible things to it? Do you enjoy lettuce? That's another vegetable
that grows on the ground.
Do they add horrible things to it?
Do you like avocados?
This is like that.
Without the horrible things.
No herbicides, no pesticides,
no toxins.
It grows
and then you ingest it
just like any other naturally occurring herb and it's good
for you oh nice okay you're good okay you ever feel tired yes sometimes when the alarm goes off
you don't want to get out of bed what are you toxins wow flushing oh oh yeah enemas oh yeah
right now.
Are you getting in there?
Are you being treated?
Look at that sludge coming out.
That's plaque.
Oh, that's building up.
That's building up.
Imagine your car's radiator, okay?
And imagine going through 28 Minnesota winters.
Yeah.
All of the sludge all of the you're putting you're putting municipal tap water in there it's got it's got it's got a lot of high content of a lot of heavy metals
all of that is filling up inside of all the arteries inside of your heat exchange or radiator
now that's slowing down the circulation.
And guess what?
The car's not running well.
The car feels tired.
The car feels tired.
It's not burning its fuel efficiency.
It's not being efficient.
So when you take in the fuel, it's not burning because all the plaque and toxins are inside of you.
Oh, that's why I feel worse now.
I need to shove a funnel up your ass and put a pot of Sanka up there because that medically is the only.
I feel like so much better.
It'll get all those toxins out of there.
I was taking a yoga class.
I started lying.
I had to like stifle myself.
It was like the beginning of the yoga class.
It was like, all right, everybody, breathe it in.
Breathe it in deep.
I lift those elbows. Clasp your hands. Put it on your chin. Get those elbows up, up, up it in. Breathe it in deep through the nose.
All right, lift those elbows.
Clasp your hands.
Put it on your chin.
Get those elbows up, up, up, up.
Now down.
Now exhale.
Exhale.
Blowing, blowing out hard.
Blowing.
Blowing out all.
Blowing it all out.
Blowing all the stale air.
Stale air.
Yeah.
Oh, yeah.
Getting the stale air out. Oh, my God.
How long has that air been sitting around in there? They even invented a new thing to worry about.
Stale air.
They're so lucky I shut up.
If I was like 31, I'd be like, what are you talking about?
I was like, all right, I'm going to blow.
Get that stale air out of there.
That air that's been in there since what, junior high?
Since you had your last smog alert in 78? Get that stale air out of there. That air that's been in there since what, junior high? Since you had your last smog alert in 78?
Get that stale air out of there.
That stale air.
Blow it out.
Blow.
Get it all.
That stale, that old stale air.
Now, instead of relaxing, I was thinking about you, and I was wanting to pop off, but I couldn't.
Get that stale air blown out off, but I couldn't.
Get that stale air blown out of there.
I'm sorry.
Yeah.
Chris?
I'm here.
You got to get that stale air out of those lungs, man.
I just got all of the stale air out of me.
Blow it all out.
Get it all out.
All right.
So exposing kids to weed, probably not the greatest thing.
On the other hand, it's been happening for quite a long time.
Everyone seems to have landed on their feet.
And I wouldn't look at it as a real, but as it applies to you, what's the situation?
Well, my roommates, they consume cannabis pretty much every day. I don't care about that, but they'll leave the doors open when they're out on the patio,
and the kid will be in the kitchen right there next door.
From what I've researched and from what I've heard and understood is that marijuana can potentially have permanent damage to a child's brain.
It can when there's direct exposure.
It's naturally occurring.
So, Chris, I would just say to them, I know it's a fucking weird thing.
I'm always really never done being disgusted.
But I would feel very self-conscious about closing the door behind me if there was a kid inside the apartment and or whatever that I would just naturally do it anyway.
But certainly after you've asked them, just wake up and do it.
I know you're dealing with guys who smoke a lot of weed.
So, you know, stuff gets through the cracks sometimes.
But
I think it's a pretty reasonable request.
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I'm just going to move up the line here and talk to Tina, 46, from Houston.
Tina?
Hi.
Hey there.
What's going on?
Well, I have something that I have not.
Well, first of all, long time, first time.
Thank you.
I'm an alcoholic that is suffering from, besides alcoholism, pseudo Cushing syndrome.
What's that, Drew?
Is that from the drinking?
Yes, it's from the drinking, definitely.
Okay, so you're just a Cushinoid from all the alcohol, so you have alcoholic liver disease.
Go ahead.
That's a cushion disease?
Yeah, it's created a horrible life for me.
I literally gained 85 pounds in less than nine months.
Okay, you need to...
And this was a year and a half after I had my son.
You need to stop drinking, so let's deal with that.
Absolutely.
Absolutely.
And, yeah. absolutely and um yeah and my and my son he's like i swear he's like funny he is sweetest most amazing individual
you'll ever know and he doesn't deserve this and like i know that how old is he? How old is your son? He's nine.
He's nine.
Okay.
I worry.
Yeah.
All right.
So what's going on now?
Are we drinking every day?
Yes, absolutely.
Okay.
Good treatment.
Any man around?
Where's the dad?
No, the dad is very much in his life.
He is the best dad in the world.
We have the best relationship.
Very much is actually living under the same roof.
I like the idea that you can be very much in a life and live across town.
But all right, he's trying to do what he should be doing.
All right.
Well, he should be helping get his baby mom into treatment.
All right, so we need treatment, Tina.
Yes, that's the thing. Maybe mom into treatment. He needs. All right. So we need treatment, Tina. He is not.
Yes, that's the thing.
I'm a contractor.
And I know everybody says, like, if you don't, like, do it, I'm like, you're going to lose everything anyway.
But I'm a contractor.
I don't get paid unless I make a lot of money.
But I don't get paid unless I work.
So taking a month or two months off of work is just impossible for me.
And I don't know how to do this.
I oftentimes think about this.
What kind of contracting do you do?
I am a computer programmer.
Okay.
What?
It's a computer programmer, but not like a general contractor or something.
So I know, Drew, hold on a second.
Drew does the, hey, you need 60 days and an in-house, whatever.
She can do two weeks.
I'd like her to do a month, yeah.
Okay, like two weeks.
I think we can manage for two weeks because I'm telling you, you get, and I know, but what are the consequences?
So you get these projects going and people
go take off some time and you're like i cannot i'm running these no projects and you're immersed
and it has to do with your income and you're an independent person so it's like oh just tell the
boss you need a couple weeks you need to have it's like when i used to, Jesus Christ, you know what used to get me pissed all the time?
When I used to do Catch a Contractor on Spike and Skip and Allison Bedell would come and work on a show.
And I love them both.
Allison works like a probation officer for like the city of New Jersey or something like that or the state of New Jersey.
And Long Island something. I don't remember state of New Jersey. And Long Island, something.
I don't remember what their municipality was.
They'll get pissed.
I always screw it up.
I can't remember if it's, I think it may have been Long Island.
But anyway.
It was somewhere in New York State.
Yeah.
I keep saying all the time.
Oh, wait a minute.
You're here this week?
Yeah.
Then we're flying back next week.
Then I'm flying in.
Then I'm flying back in.
Then I'm flying back.
How do you do that?
How do you do that? How do you do that?
You have a full-time job.
Well, I don't have to work on Friday.
What I do is I have my personal days.
And I build up my personal days.
And I'll get a whole bunch of personal days.
And I haven't taken a personal day in like four years.
So I have like 152 personal days.
So I can just take off all my personal.
And I'm like, okay, nothing in life works this way except for this.
You have to work for the city.
Like, when you realize that California's going broke because of all these pensions,
there's all these guys that are like, hey, there's a fire captain, makes $422,000 a year,
he's been retired for nine years, he gets full pay.
And then everyone goes, well, what do you want to do with these people?
What do you mean?
Cut them off?
Cut them off?
I don't know.
We're not going to cut them off, cut them off.
Like, I don't know what other job works this way where you, you know, I can't go tell Norm Pattis, hey, I'm going to take a few months off of podcasting.
I'm just, just go ahead and pay the full freight.
You know, I'm not going to like, you have to come in every other job.
You have to come in.
Even TV, you have to show up.
You work for the city and it's insane. And I I used to like we'd sit at lunch all the time
and I'd go so when are you guys going back
and we're going back Sunday and I'd go okay
so then we're shooting next week
so Allison I guess oh no I'm coming out
and I'd go
we just took three days off this week
no I have stuff I have backlogged
I have PTO days
I have personal days I have sick days I have this day I have backlogged stuff. I have PTO days. I have personal days. I have sick days.
I have this day.
I have that day.
And it's like, holy shit.
I used to marvel at it every time.
Like, how do you do it?
And it's like, I just don't have to show up.
But when you're the boss or you're the independent contractor, it's no go.
So, yeah, I know.
Hold on.
If you're anywhere but in a public union, anywhere else out in the real world, no, this does not exist.
You need to be part of a union and working for the city, and then you get this insanity.
So I've worked for – I've seen every excuse known to mankind over work, and I've had patients either – one of two things happen, and there's no in-between.
overwork. And I've had patients either one of two things happen, and there's
no in-between. They continue
drinking until the bottom falls out
and all hell breaks loose, something
terrible happens, or they die.
So those are the two places it goes.
All right, Tina. Two weeks
at least. Are you there?
Two weeks?
Well, at least. Well, you know
it's time, right?
I mean, I know. I know the inside and out.
I've heard everything you guys have ever put out there.
I know.
I know.
What do you do?
And you've got the Menninger Clinic right there in Houston.
I mean, I'm sure they have tremendous.
I haven't been able to find any good resources here in Houston.
Menninger's is right there.
Just check up the Menninger Clinic.
Menninger? Yeah. there. Just check up the Menninger. Menninger?
Yeah.
Yes.
Thanks, Tina.
And good luck and do it for your kid.
Come on now.
I know it's hard.
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All right, last one, Drew. Let's see.
Seth, 35, Pennsylvania. Seth?
Yeah, hey, guys. First time, long time.
Thanks.
Appreciate a lot of the things you do.
Listen to you for a long time and give a lot of good advice.
Yeah.
What's going on?
Thank you.
Thank you.
This morning I sorted out the day as I normally do,
and then I just turned that shower right to cold.
Good.
Do it.
Toughen up, baby.
Yeah.
So anyway, my son is uh two years old and he had a gi bug you know thrown up a lot and things like that and um a few days had passed and he hadn't really had a lot of
nutrients in him and whatnot and uh then this was last sunday he just dropped to the floor, had a seizure. And we had gone through all the process with the children's hospital,
gone through an EEG test.
Really, they kind of really concluded it to be nothing.
Which is very common.
Okay.
Yeah, and right now we're still, you know, still kind of, you know, go through an MRI and, you know, continue the process.
Yeah, you want to do a workup, but it's probably going to be nothing.
And even when it's nothing, you can't be guaranteed there can't be a recurrence.
So it will evolve as it evolves, but often it's nothing.
Well, I guess what I was kind of thinking was his sort of immune threshold was sort of lowered during this period of time.
No.
When the kids are sick, they have seizures.
And their brain is not fully developed.
It's not pruned.
There's a lot of extraneous activity, and sometimes it becomes generalized.
Let's just sort of put it that way.
And sometimes that generalizability is something that will continue because there's a focus, a seizure focus.
But the fact that they didn't see a seizure focus on the EEG is a good sign.
Definitely finish the neurological workup.
But oftentimes kids have seizures that amount to nothing.
There you go, Seth.
It's usually associated with illness, often fever.
You're doing everything one can do.
So you're a good dad.
And you're right to ask the questions.
They know what they're doing at Children's Hospital.
Yeah, they know what they're doing.
Okay.
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You can't blame him for that.
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