The Catechism in a Year (with Fr. Mike Schmitz) - Day 221: The Celebration of Marriage (2024)

Episode Date: August 8, 2024

What does a Catholic wedding look like? Today, we dive into the liturgical celebration of marriage and learn that the celebration must be valid, worthy, and fruitful. Additionally, we briefly cover virginity for the sake of the Kingdom and how this particular call highlights the beauty and goodness of marriage. Fr. Mike emphasizes that those called to celibacy can truly live joyful and fulfilling lives. Today's readings are Catechism paragraphs 1618-1624. This episode has been found to be in conformity with the Catechism by the Institute on the Catechism, under the Subcommittee on the Catechism, USCCB. For the complete reading plan, visit ascensionpress.com/ciy Please note: The Catechism of the Catholic Church contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children - parental discretion is advised.

Hi, my name is Father Mike Schmitz and you're listening to the Catechism in a Year podcast where we encounter God's plan of sheer goodness for us, revealed in scripture and passed down through the tradition of the Catholic faith. The Catechism in a Year is brought to you by Ascension. In 365 days, we'll read through the Catechism of the Catholic Church, discovering our identity and God's family as we journey together toward our heavenly home. This is day 221. We are reading paragraphs 16, 18 to 16, 24. As always, I'm using the Ascension edition of the Catechism,

which includes the Foundations of Faith approach, but you can follow along with any recent version of the Catechism of the Catholic Church. You can also download your own Catechism and a year reading plan by visiting ascensionpress.com slash C-I-Y. And lastly, you can click follow or subscribe in your podcast app for daily updates

and daily notifications because today is 221B Baker Street. It is day 221, reading paragraph 1618 to 1624. Yesterday we talked about the pedagogy of God's teaching us about what marriage is and how Jesus has established in an unequivocal way, the indissolubility of marriage, the original meaning of marriage.

Jesus recovers and gives back to us. And this is just the high call, the high call of marriage. Today, we're gonna take a couple of next steps. First next step is virginity for the sake of the kingdom. It might seem strange to talk about virginity for the sake of the kingdom when you're talking about holy matrimony,

but I don't think it's strange at all because here's the thing, sometimes people will say, and I'll say this again probably, sometimes people will say, oh, so you Catholics, you have people who give up or sell of it for the sake of the kingdom, right? Virginity for the sake of the kingdom. Well, isn't that prohibited in the New Testament?

Doesn't it say that the days will come when people will prohibit marriage, and that's what you're doing right now? No, no, no, no, no, no, that is not the case. Let me correct you. Virginity for the sake of the kingdom is not Catholics saying marriage is bad, I'm not gonna do it.

That's what was warned against in the New Testament. Virginity for the sake of the kingdom is, okay, marriage is so good, marriage is such a great good, I'm going to give up this great good for the sake of an even greater good, the kingdom of heaven. And so it's not giving up great good for the sake of an even greater good, the kingdom of heaven. And so it's not giving up a bad for the good because marriage is not bad. Marriage is a great good. I'm gonna give up this great good for an even greater good for the sake of the

kingdom of God. Now, the next thing we're talking about is we're going to launch into kind of some nuts and bolts-ish kind of things that on the celebration of marriage. And so we're going to have about, I don't know, three or four paragraphs just talk about the celebration of marriage. And so we're gonna have about, I don't know, three or four paragraphs just talk about the celebration of marriage, and then tomorrow we'll talk about that matrimonial consent and all those old kind of deets. We're gonna go talk about some details, but today we're gonna kick it off

by just kind of giving the intro to the celebration of marriage, and here's how marriages go. I know a lot of people that don't, haven't ever been to a Catholic wedding, and so we're gonna talk about some of those aspects today as well. So virginity for the sake of the kingdom

and celebration of marriage. Before that, let's pray. Father in heaven, oh God, you're so good. You're so good that you give us these gifts and we don't do anything to deserve them. You give us life and we did nothing to deserve it. You give us love and we did nothing to deserve it. You call us to be love in this world,

to give love to the people around us, to be like you. And we don't even realize so often the great gifts that you continue to pour out on us. So Lord, please open our eyes so we can see your gifts. Open our hearts that we can be grateful for your gifts. The gift of life, the gift of the heart that is in our chest, the breath that is in our lungs, the ability to know who you are

and to know that you have not forgotten us. And then even in our weakness and our woundedness, you've not abandoned us. Lord, help us to love well, help us to be like you. We make this prayer in the mighty name of Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen. It is day 221, reading paragraphs 16-18 to 16-24. Virginity for the sake of the Kingdom. Christ is the center of all Christian life. The bond with him takes precedence over all other bonds, familiar or social. From the

very beginning of the Church, there have been many women who have renounced the great good of marriage to follow the Lamb wherever He goes, to be intent on the things of the Lord, to seek to please Him, and to go out to meet the bridegroom who is coming. Christ Himself has invited certain persons to follow him in this way of life, of which he remains the model. As Jesus states in Matthew's gospel, "'For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth,

and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men. And there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. He who is able to receive this, let him receive it.'" Virginity for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven is an unfolding of baptismal grace, a powerful sign of the supremacy of the bond with Christ and of the ardent expectation of His return, a sign which also recalls that marriage is a reality of this present age which is passing away. Both the sacrament of matrimony and virginity for the Kingdom of God come from the Lord

Himself. It is He who gives them meaning and grants them the grace which is indispensable for living them out in conformity with His will. Esteem of virginity for the sake of the Kingdom and the Christian understanding of marriage are inseparable and they reinforce each other. As St. John Chrysostom wrote, whoever denigrates marriage also diminishes the glory of virginity. Whoever praises it makes virginity more admirable and resplendent. What appears good only in comparison with evil would not be truly good. The most excellent good is something even better than what is

admitted to be good." The Celebration of Marriage In the Latin rite, the celebration of marriage between two Catholic faithful normally takes place during Holy Mass, because of the connection of all the sacraments with the Paschal Mystery of Christ. In the Eucharist, the memorial of the New Covenant is realized, the New Covenant in which Christ has united himself forever to the Church, his beloved Bride for whom he gave himself up. It is therefore fitting that the spouses should seal their consent to give themselves to each

other through the offering of their own lives by uniting it to the offering of Christ for his church made present in the Eucharistic sacrifice, and by receiving the Eucharist, so that, communicating in the same body and the same blood of Christ, they may form but one body in Christ. Inasmuch as it is a sacramental action of sanctification, the liturgical celebration of marriage must be, per se, valid, worthy, and fruitful. It is therefore appropriate for the bride and groom to prepare themselves for the celebration of their marriage by receiving the sacrament of penance.

According to the Latin tradition, the spouses as ministers of Christ's grace mutually confer upon each other the sacrament of matrimony by expressing their consent before the Church. In the traditions of the Eastern Churches, the priests, bishops, or presbyters are witnesses to the mutual consent given by the spouses, but for the validity of the sacrament, their blessing is also necessary. The various liturgies abound in prayers of blessing and epiclesis asking God's grace and blessing on the new couple, especially the bride. In the epiclesis of this sacrament, the spouses receive the Holy Spirit as the

communion of love of Christ and the Church. The Holy Spirit is the seal of their covenant, the ever-available source of their love, and the strength to renew their fidelity Right in paragraph 16 18 to 16 24 talk about virginity for the sake of the kingdom We recognize that yes from the very beginning Jesus has talked about that there are those who give up marriage for the sake of the kingdom and this again does not Diminish the goodness of marriage. I love this quote from St. John Chrysostom. I love it so much I'm gonna read the whole thing once again because we have to understand that Catholics, when it comes to the call of celibacy, when it comes to people who will be consecrated for the service of

God's kingdom, that what they're saying is not marriage is bad, what they're saying is marriage is such a great good that I'm giving up this great good for the kingdom. And if I were to diminish marriage, I would also diminish virginity. And if I diminish virginity, I also diminish marriage. As I said, here's the quote from St. John Chrysostom one more time.

Whoever denigrates marriage also diminishes the glory of virginity. Whoever praises it makes virginity more admirable and resplendent. What appears good only in comparison with evil would not be truly good. The most excellent good is something even better than what is admitted to be good. It's just so good. And there are people, maybe even people who are listening to this podcast or part of this, who have done that.

They are virgins for the sake of the kingdom. They're consecrated for the sake of the kingdom. So good We need their witness especially not in a world where there's so much hedonism right in the world. There was so much I mean gosh, how could you possibly be happy if you're not having sex is kind of the message given by our world In response We have these people we have brothers and sisters. we have monks and nuns, we have priests, we have those who are consecrated in the world, right? All these people who have given up marriage

for the sake of the kingdom and they are living witnesses that have, oh no, no, you can have joy, even without a sexual relationship, you have joy and freedom, even in just giving yourself in love, in service, and in prayer with the Lord. And this is so good, so good. Again, we can have an argument about it,

but sometimes we just like, ah, look at the joy of those people who are living their celibacy well, who are living their consecrated life well. Those who are living marriage well, give witness to the goodness of marriage, and those who are living marriage not well, obviously don't give witness to marriage.

Same thing when it comes to celibacy, same thing when it comes to consecrated virginity for the sake of the kingdom. Those who are living it well, like yes, that's awesome. And those who don't live it well are bad examples, right? So we recognize that that's the model or the example to avoid, right? So moving on to the celebration of marriage. No, this is so good. The celebration of marriage. What is it? It usually takes place during Holy Mass. Why? Because the Eucharist is the source and summative

of all the Christian life, right? So it's most fitting that when there's a marriage between two Catholics, it's gonna be in the context of Mass. It's so, so important. Now, at the same time, paragraph 16-22 goes on to say that here is, in as much as this is a sacramental action of sanctification, the liturgical celebration of marriage

must be a couple things. By its very self, it has to be valid, worthy, and fruitful. Now, we're gonna talk about those three categories in the future, but just to kind of highlight what that means, it has to be valid. It has to be a valid marriage. That meaning, among other things, both members of the couple are free to marry.

There are no impediments to marriage. So for example, if one or both of the couple had been married before, without a declaration of nullity, they would not be free to marry, they would be impediment. If there's not full freedom, there would that be an impediment to marry. If there is not the intention for faithfulness, or not the intention for giving oneself totally

to the other, then that'd be an impediment to marriage. If someone did not have the intention or even openness to life, to new life, that would be an impediment to marriage. And if the couple was not able to consummate the marriage in the sexual embrace, that would not be a valid marriage. And so there are some categories or there are some things that need to be met here. Now moving on, paragraph 1623, this is an important thing to note as well. It says, according to the Latin tradition, the spouses as

ministers of Christ's grace mutually confer upon each other the sacrament of matrimony by expressing their consent before the church. So sometimes I'll meet people and say, oh yeah, you know, you married my sister, Father. I'm like, okay Father, like you married my sister, you married my brother. I'm like, I promise you, I've never married anybody. Like they're like, oh yeah, you know, you married my sister, Father. I'm like, okay, Father Mike, you married my sister, you married my brother. I'm like, I promise you, I've never married anybody. Like they're like, oh, you know what I mean. And I'm like, yes, I do know what you mean. But your sister married your brother-in-law

and your brother-in-law married your sister because the proper ministers of the sacrament of matrimony are the bride and groom. That the groom gives the sacrament of matrimony to his bride and the bride gives the sacrament of matrimony to her groom. Like this is, it's so cool. And the priest is there as a witness

and it says in the Eastern churches, the bishops and priests, whoever's witnessing there, the priests, yes, they witnessed that mutual consent, but for the validity of the sacrament, their blessing's also necessary. Last little note, here we are. There are so many aspects of the liturgy. There's some really beautiful prayers.

One of those beautiful prayers, it's highlighted in paragraph 1624. It talks about this blessing and epiclesis, asking God's grace and blessing on the new couple, especially the bride. Tell them the nuptial blessing. It happens right after the Our Father, before the sign of peace.

And I basically say, you know, I invite the congregation to remain standing as the bride and groom kneel and go over to the bride and groom and Extend this prayer blessing in in my bride of marriage book. There are three different options They could choose from I always allow the couple to choose whatever one they want But there's a special prayer it's just asking God to just you know praising God and asking out to bless this couple and then

you know the priest turns and says and God asked her a special blessing upon this woman and Christ turns and says, and God, ask for your special blessing upon this woman. And one of the lines that just is so powerful that may she be like those women whose praises are sung throughout the scriptures. That line always just sticks out to me and is so amazing. And then it goes on to say, may her husband entrust his heart to her, consider her his equal and realize that she is the joint heir with him to the life of grace. I just think again, he entrust his heart to her. Seer as his equal, realize that she is joint heir with him to the life of grace.

Just amazing. So beautiful. And the Holy Spirit, of course, is the seal of the covenant, the ever available source of their love and the strength to renew their fidelity. I think there's something remarkable about the fact that once a couple is married, everything they do, they do as a married person. And it's true become one, right?

Everything they do is a married couple. So one of the things that'll often happen, it's not strictly speaking in the marriage right, but right after the exchange of rings, it goes right into the universal prayer, right? The prayers of the faithful. But sometimes there's this pause pause like a moment of just I Don't want to rush past this moment because then that that moment their marriage has been ratified

We're gonna talk about that tomorrow at that moment. The sacrament is ratified And so I don't want to just rush off to the next piece So what I'll often invite couples to do is if you want to do this we can have a little song there just even the Instrumental thing where you just get to go and kneel before the tabernacle Sometimes people go over to the side chapel. Maybe bring flowers to the statue of Mary whatever but just just take this moment and take a breath take a beat and pray and It's not such an incredible sign that the first thing that these couples will do after their wedding as a married couple The first thing they'll do is pray. I think that's so powerful, it's such a powerful witness.

Because think about this, everything the couple will do from then on, they'll do as part of the sacrament. They'll do as embodying the sacrament. That's why that last line in paragraph 1624 says, the Holy Spirit is the seal of their covenant, the ever available source of their love and the strength to renew their fidelity. This truth that everything you do husband, you'll do as husband.

Everything you do wife is as wife. Everything you do is you're doing it. And some ways I like to think like this as a living, walking, breathing, choosing loving sacrament. And that's just so incredible. We'll talk about it more as the days go on, but I just, I'm a big fan, you guys. I'm a big fan of marriage. It's just the grace, the gift it is to this world. Okay, that's enough.

Enough me gushing about marriage. We're gonna talk more and more about matrimonial consent tomorrow, because that's gonna be big. And then going on from that, about some of the big questions. Like what about mixed marriages? What about when someone's not baptized can you get

married in this way or that way and and then we'll launch into the effects of the sacrament of matrimony like what's it actually do does it help us hopefully it does anyways that's it for today man you guys I am praying for you please pray for me my name is father Mike and I cannot wait to see you tomorrow God bless My name is Father Mike and I cannot wait to see you tomorrow. God bless.