The Daily Stoic - BONUS: 10 Stoic Habits To Practice In 2025

Episode Date: December 31, 2024

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Welcome to the Daily Stoic Podcast, where each day we read a passage of ancient wisdom designed to help you in your everyday life. On Tuesdays, we take a closer look at these stoic ideas, how we can apply them in our actual lives. Thanks for listening, and I hope you enjoy. ["The Daily Stoic Podcast"] Hey, it's Ryan.

Welcome to an extra bonus episode of the Daily Stoic Podcast. I have some exciting news, which is I'm going to be sending in the draft of my next book probably tomorrow. I finished like the first draft of the wisdom book in November. It was like 99,000 words, like 99,000, like 900 words.

So way too long. It's down now just below 80,000. That's the benchmark I hit today. I got a little more work to do. There's a few sections, the cuts were too painful. And so I was like, I'll wait a second until I dig into it. So that's what my to-do list tomorrow. And then I got a stack of some extra note cards,

little pickups here, there I wanna add. And then that's gonna go into production. So I'm really excited about that. So that's not really what today's episode is about though. Today's episode, Here We Are, A New Year is Upon Us and we put together some stoic habits that you should practice in 2025. I think you'll like this. We'll get right into it but just a note, this is your last chance to join us in the Daily Stoic New Year, New You Challenge. Dailystoic.com slash challenge, thousands of Stoics all over the world are doing this.

We kick the year off with 21 days of Stoic inspired challenges. And if you haven't signed up yet, but have been meaning to, well, let's start the new year with the most sort of important meta habit there is, which is following through on things that you want to do, right? Like we all have these kind of vague commitments, hopes like, hey, I want to do that, I want to think about this, and then we don't, we don't do it, but we should. And I would love to see you in the daily stoic new year, new challenge. It's not too late. We start on the first, but we're just, everyone's getting settled and just getting going now.

So we can bring you up to speed really quickly. And I would love to have you join us, dailystoic.com slash challenge. And then remember, if you want to get this challenge and all our challenges for free, you can do that by signing up for Daily Stoic Life, which one of the awesome benefits is, you get all of our Daily Stoic Life, which one of the awesome benefits is you get all

of our Daily Stoic challenges as part of it. So it more than pays for itself. Dailystoic.com slash challenge, or just go to DailyStoicLife.com and let's get into it. Here's 10 stoic habits to practice this year. I'll see you on the other side. ["Days of Stoic Life"] See you on the other side. How much longer are you going to wait to demand the best of yourselves?

We all know we have potential. We all know we have things we need to stop doing. We all know we have things that we should start doing, but we tell ourselves we'll do it later. But will you? At the end of the year, everyone thinks about how the year went and how they want the new year to go better. What they're really talking about is habits.

Epictetus once encapsulated all of Stoke philosophy in just two words, persist and resist, meaning there were some things we had to keep doing. And as we look out here at the beginning of a new year, it's the perfect time to start quitting some destructive habits. What are you day to day in your actions, big and small? That's how we become better. I'm Ryan Holliday. I've written books about Stoic philosophy. I've been lucky enough to speak

about it to the NBA and the NFL sitting senators and special forces leader. But I'm also just a regular person who's trying to get a little bit better every single year. And in today's episode, I wanna talk about some Stoic inspired habits that you can look at as we go into a new year, habits to stop doing, habits to start doing, who the Stoics want you to be to create hopefully a new you.

I think the first place to start is the idea of thinking really, really small. George Washington's favorite saying was, many mickels make a muckle. This is an old Scottish proverb. It basically just means like things add up. Zeno, the founder of Stoicism says, well-being is realized by small steps, but it's no small thing. You don't promise yourself that you're gonna read more. You decide you're gonna read a page a day.

You don't decide that you're gonna transform your diet or your exercise. Like you start going for a walk, make a small decision and then you build on it. About this, I love James Clear's book, Atomic Habits. I got to see him put this book together. We go way back. We sell this book at my bookstore, The Painted Portrait.

But I think the idea of atomic habits is like, as the subtitle says, tiny changes, remarkable results. But even think about what an atomic, what it means to say an atomic habit. It's not just explosive. Like an atom is the smallest possible building block you can think of. So when we think about habits, let's start really, really small. Don't lie to yourself. Don't get ahead of yourself, just think of the smallest thing you can start with. Don't give in to your anxiety this year. You have to stop letting anxiety rule you.

In one of the passages in Meditations, Marcus Aurelius says, "'Today I escaped anxiety,' and said, "'Well, wait, no, that's not right.' He says, "'Actually actually I discarded it It was within me the plane the airport. That's not responsible for your anxiety. You're responsible for anxiety

You're responsible for your feelings. You're responsible for the worry that you're projecting at this thing and it's not helping you It's not making you better. It's not doing anything about the problem You're just torturing yourself in anticipation of what might happen or might not happen I've never been in the thrall of anxiety, right? Traveling somewhere or some big project. And then afterwards, I'm like, I'm so glad I was so anxious about that. No, it made people around me upset. It made me upset.

It made me miserable. It didn't do anything for me and it's not going to do anything for you this year. I think it's impossible to have good habits without a routine. So you have to develop and build a routine. Habits and routines, they work together. So for me, I wake up early, I take my kids outside, we run or we go on a walk. One of my rules, I don't touch my phone for the first one hour that I'm awake. I journal in the morning.

Then one of my big habits is I tackle my big for the first one hour that I'm awake, I journal in the morning. Then one of my big habits is I tackle my big creative project first. I don't get sucked into email first, I don't have a meeting first, I don't watch TV first. I tackle the big creative project first. Again, that's one of the things I identify with, that I own the morning. I'm a morning person.

I tackle the morning, I kick the shit out of the morning, I am successful in the morning. I'm a morning person. I tackle the morning, I kick the shit out of the morning. I am successful in the morning. That wasn't just naturally who I was. This is something I had to develop and build. So you need a routine. You cannot wing it. Seneca says that life without design is erratic. He says principles are necessary.

There's nothing more shameful than uncertain chaos and disorder. So build a routine and stick to it. Stick to the routine. And again, these are little things. What time do you wake up? What time do you go to bed? What time do you have lunch?

What do you do? What do you not do? Build a routine and stick to it. One of the stories I was most moved by, that I was most excited about when I was writing Discipline is Destiny is the story of Dwight D. Eisenhower. He had a four pack a day, 40 year smoking habit. And his doctor said, you're gonna die if you don't stop.

It's screwing with your heart, it's screwing with your lungs. If you want to continue to be of service to the country, you gotta stop. And so Eisenhower famously said, I gave myself an order and I stopped. He quit cold turkey after 40 years. It's actually a very stoic idea. Epictetus says, no man is free who is not master of himself. Seneca said, we're all slaves to something.

Some people are slaves to sex or they're mistresses. He says, other people are slaves to power or ambition. Maybe some of us are slaves to that cup of coffee in the morning. We all have things that we do that we know we need to stop doing to be the person that we wanna be. One foundational habit for next year,

free up precious resources. People say, oh, I don't have time, but pull up the Screen Time app on your phone. You have time. You just choose to spend it on things that don't matter. You watch too much news, you spend too much time doom scrolling. You say you don't have time. You just choose to spend it on things that don't matter. You watch too much news, you spend too much time doom scrolling. You say you don't have time, but here you are watching this video. We spend too much time on things that don't matter. So one of the best habits changes I've made

is sort of winnowing my worldview. Of course, you have to know what's going on in the world, but you don't have to obsess about it in real time. You don't have to consume things that make you feel crappy or awful or suck you into this catastrophizing mindset. If you wish to improve, Epictetus says, you have to be willing to not know about some things, right? So focus on what matters, lock in time to focus on making better habits

by eliminating things that are sucking up too much of your time now. better habits by eliminating things that are sucking up too much of your time now. Every new year, Seneca started the year off with the same thing. He would throw himself into the Tiber River, the freezing river in Rome on the 1st of January. She's saying, I'm in charge, I'm so in charge, I'm hurling myself into this freezing river even though I really don't want to. I'm hurling myself into this freezing river even though I really don't want to. Who do you associate with? Studies show like if you have unhealthy friends, you're going to be unhealthy. If you have ambitious friends, you're going to be ambitious. My father said this to me as a kid. He said, Ryan, you become like your friends. So associate with people that make you

better. If you dwell with a lame man, was the old expression, you will learn how to limp. Now, so who do you surround yourself with? Who is your peer group? Who are the people you spend the most time with and how do you become the average of them? We have the Daily Stokes Life Community, by the way, which I'd love to have you join.

It's like a private Facebook group. You get extra emails, you get Q and A's with me. I think it's one of the best things we do. But the idea is who's your community? In the ancient world, the Stokesics had the Scipionic Circle, a group of Stoics who would get together and have dinner parties and events and debate philosophy and read books

and share with each other. Even the relationship between Seneca and Lucilius, which we get in Seneca's letters of a Stoic, it's them talking to each other. He says, we learn as we teach. By having this peer group, they both get better. So who are you spending time with this year? That's a foundational, basic habit

that will make you better. This year, you can't fear change. In one of the beautiful passages in Meditations, Marcus Rulis reminds himself that everything in life comes from change, good and bad. And by trying to keep things the same, not only are you, of course, focused on something that you don't control, but you're preventing yourself from all the wonderful opportunities that exist that could come your way.

Look, we live in a time of disruption, we live in a time of institutions that are falling apart, we live in a time of innovation, new institutions that are being created, so you can't fear what's gonna come of that. The Stokes would say all you could focus on this year is embracing those things, adapting yourself to change, acquiescing to that change rather than fighting it, rather than fearing it, rather than resenting it, because it's gonna happen regardless of how you feel about it. So what you should focus on, Stokes would say, is what you're going to do about it.

So what you should focus on, Stokes would say, is what you're going to do about it. You have to say no to the inessential. Marcus really says most of what we do is not essential. But when we say no to those inessential things, when we eliminate them, it gives us a double benefit, he says, because then we can do the essential things better. So you have to realize that everything you say yes to means you're saying no to something else. But conversely and most importantly when you

say no to the things that don't matter it gives you the opportunity to say yes to the things that really do matter and not a little yes not a soft yes but an emphatic both feet yes and that's what you need to be successful and happy and good. and happy and good. And it is inevitable that we will fall short. Marcus did, I do, everyone does. Antoninus Pius probably did too, which is why in meditations,

Marcus really says to pick yourself back up when you fall. But he also says to celebrate the fact that you're a human being. What matters, he says, is that you come back to the rhythm of it. We're gonna be jarred by circumstances. We're gonna rhythm of it. We're going to be jarred by circumstances. We're going to be messed up. We're going to slip on our diet, on our New Year's resolution, on the progress we were making. That's okay. What matters is that you get back up. What

matters is that more often than not, you stick to it, that you always come back home to it. If you like The Daily Stoic, and thanks for listening, you can listen early and ad free right now by joining Wondery Plus in the Wondery app or on Apple podcasts. Prime members can listen ad free on Amazon Music. And before you go, would you tell us about yourself by filling out a short survey on Wondery.com slash survey.

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