The Daily Stoic - Don't Lose Your Connection to the Outdoor/Build Up, Don't Tear Down

Episode Date: October 26, 2020

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Hey, prime members, you can listen to the Daily Stoke Podcast early and add free on Amazon Music. Download the app today. Hi, I'm David Brown, the host of Wondery's podcast business wars. And in our new season, Walmart must fight off target. The new discounter that's both savvy and fashion forward. Listen to business wars on Amazon Music or wherever you get your podcasts. on music or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome to the Daily Stoic Podcast. Each day we bring you a meditation inspired by the ancient Stoics, illustrated with stories from history, current events, and literature to help you be better at what you do. And at the beginning of the week, we try to do a deeper dive, setting a kind of Stoic

intention for the week, something to meditate on, something to think on, something to leave you with, to journal about whatever it is you're happened to be doing. So let's get into it. Don't lose your connection to the outdoors. Many of the most beautiful passages in Seneca's writing come from the time he spent outside, outside Rome, in the country, outdoors, whether he's talking about his estate in the countryside, the power of taking long walks, or perfectly capturing the joy of a child building sandcastles at the beach, we can feel the joy

coming through the past and on to the page. Epicurus, for his part, talked about cherishing country life, an idea to which Seneca clearly nodded his head. Cato the elder wrote only one thing on agriculture, depending on how busy or overwhelmed your life is these days reading the descriptions in Sennaka or Cicero who famously said that all a man needed for a happy life was a library in a garden. This evocative imagery about nature can strike a strange feeling in us today. There's a great line in one of F. Scott Fitzgerald's stories where he writes that a character had a little flicker of envy that city people feel towards the men who live in the open. Isn't that exactly right? We hear about someone who lives a few miles from Tan who has a nice porch they can sit on

who has space to move and stretch and we feel, because we know it's a more natural way to live than these cramped, dirty, noisy quarters that most of us live and work in. Well, no one says it has to be that way. A philosopher for all their love of books knows that there is something special about the outdoors. That's why Marcus really is hunted. It's why Sennaqa took his walks. It's why Epochetus never returned to Rome after his banishment. That's why Rutilius Rufus didn't

either. We must cherish this connection to country living even if we live in the city, even during the COVID-19 pandemic, when it's the most responsible thing to sequester ourselves from other people to prevent the spread of the virus. It's still important, perhaps even more so, to continue to spend time in nature, both because of the safety of the outdoors and to retain some of the freedom of which we have been robbed. We must remain in constant dialogue with nature, taking regular forest baths, observing wildlife, visiting natural wonders, playing sports outside. This restores our happiness, it gives us joy, it humbles us, and it makes life worth living.

Build up, don't tear down. Is there a worse environment to work in than one where bullying and one upsmanship is the norm? Sometimes leaders seem to think that that is a part of the job description, that they are there to regulate and keep people in line. In truth, tearing people down is incredibly counterproductive. Pete Carroll, coach of the Seattle Seahawks, poses a question. His self-confidence is so important for players. Why would a coach ever do anything to damage it? Marcus Arelius, who had the power to take anyone down at will, almost never did. important for players, why would a coach ever do anything to damage it? Marcus

Arelius who had the power to take anyone down at will almost never did. Instead he reminded himself that it was better to build up, be community-minded, modest, prepared, and tolerant of others. We are made for cooperation, he said, and to render works held in common. Let's think about that going forward this week. How can we help build the self-confidence this week. How can we help build the self-confidence of others? How can we help find some of our own in doing so? And that's what Mark is really just talking about when he says, so someone's good at taking down an opponent, but that doesn't make them more

community-minded or modest or well prepared for any circumstance or more tolerant of the faults of others. That's from Meditations 752. And then he also says, wherever you have trouble getting up in the morning, remind yourself that you've been made by nature for the purpose of working with others. And it's our own natural purpose that is more fitting, more satisfying. That's Meditations 812. I've been thinking about this expression lately.

I think I'm going to write about it in the next book, but I was saying that what a great leader does is make people bigger. John Wooden was saying, I don't care how tall you are. I care how tall you play. And I was thinking about that recently. It's like, how tall do you make the people you work with? How tall do you make the people around you? I think what's so incredible about Amarcus Relius is how great he's made people through his writings, how the historians tell us that he got the most out of flawed, even problematic subordinates. Also think about Junius Rousticus,

Marcus Relius's mentor. Think about how great Junius was able to make Marcus. And think about how Epictetus made Rousticus, Marcus Reales's mentor. Think about how great Junius was able to make Marcus. And think about how Epic Titus made Rousticus better, who in turn made Marcus better. So this idea of our impact on other people, that it's not about us, but it's about what we make other people capable of. That's something I find myself asking the people that work for me pretty regularly is like, what can I do for you? How can I help you? That's I help you? That's my job as a leader. It's not to tell them what to do,

but it's to help them do what they are supposed to be doing to help them get better at it. So I think for this week, let's spend some time thinking about not just how we're contributing to the common good generally, like are we being good person or we're letting someone go in traffic? Are we donating money to charity here there if we can or just generally being courteous and kind? But how are we making the people immediately around us?

Our colleagues, our co-workers, our subordinates, even our bosses? How are we making those people better? And I think obviously in Ego's the enemy, I talk about the idea of the canvas strategy, the idea of finding canvases for other people to paint on up as opposed to just tear down, which unfortunately is all too common today. So I'll leave you there and get after it. If you like the podcast that we do here and you want to get it via email every morning, you can sign up at dailystog.com slash email. Hey, prime members. You can listen to the Daily Stoic early and ad-free on Amazon music. Download the Amazon music app today, or you can listen early and ad-free with Wondery Plus in Apple podcasts.

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