The Daily Stoic - Help Them Be Better | Role Models

Episode Date: June 5, 2023

One evening Epictetus woke up to hear someone in his house. Walking towards the noise, he found a criminal had stolen the iron lamp he kept burning in a shrine in his front hallway. As always, Epictetus handled the situation with calmness and humor. “Tomorrow,” he said to himself, “you will find an earthenware lamp; for a man can only lose what he has.”But what if Epictetus had been awake when the man walked in? What if he had caught the thief red handed? Would he have beaten the criminal up?--And in today's Daily Stoic Journal excerpt, Ryan discusses what the Stoics have to say about the idea of choosing one's family, and being worth chosen as family.✉️ Sign up for the Daily Stoic email: https://dailystoic.com/dailyemail🏛 Check out the Daily Stoic Store for Stoic inspired products, signed books, and more.📱 Follow us: Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, FacebookSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey, prime members, you can listen to the Daily Stoke Podcast early and add free on Amazon music. Download the app today. Welcome to the Daily Stoke Podcast. Each day we bring you a meditation inspired by the ancient Stokes, illustrated with stories from history, current events, and literature to help you be better at what you do. And at the beginning of the week, we try to do a deeper dive, setting a kind of stoic intention for the week,

something to meditate on, something to think on, something to leave you with, to journal about, whatever it is you're happy to be doing. So let's get into it. Help them be better. One evening, Epic Titus woke up to hear someone in his house, walking towards the noise he found a criminal had stolen the iron lamp he kept burning in a shrine in his front hallway. As always, Epic Titus handled the situation with calmness and humor. Tomorrow, he said to himself, you will find an earthenware lamp for a man can only lose what he has. But what if

Epic Titus had been awake when the man walked in? What if he'd caught the thief red-handed? What do you have beaten the criminal up? What do you have fought for his prized lamp? Press charges after demanded restitution? Actually, if we know anything about Epic Titus, we can say confidently that the situation would have gone almost exactly as it did. To him, the theft was a reminder from fate that we don't truly possess anything. It was also a reminder we can guess that human beings, out of desperation or greed, do unvertuous things. That is something we don't control, but we do control how we respond. We can imagine that Epochetus that he caught the thief and got into talk to the man

might have responded as the bishop does so beautifully in laymirs when he catches the thief and he says, take this stolen silver and use it to become an honest man. People will betray us in life. They will take from us. We can be hurt and angry and broken about it, or we can use it as epictetus did as a reminder of the transient nature of possession. We can use it as an opportunity as they did in that famous play to be merciful, to let them think better of it, to forgive, as Marcus tried to do when he was betrayed by Evidius Cassius. We can get better, and we can get better and we can try to make them better too. Life can get you down. I'm no stranger to that. When I find things are piling up, I'm struggling to deal with something. Obviously, I use my journal. Obviously, I turn to stochism, but I also turn to my therapist, which I've had for a long time and has helped me through a bunch of stuff.

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That's Talkspace.com.com. Slash Stoic. Adoption was a widespread practice in Roman society, especially the senatorial class, and as a provision for imperial succession, Marcus Aurelius was himself the adopted son of the Emperor Antoninus Pius, who himself was adopted by the Emperor Hadrian, so that Marcus could one day succeed them both to the purple. While Seneca was never adopted, his brother Novatus was,

becoming Gio, who in the New Testament refuses to press charges against Saint Paul. But Sennaka liked to look at the phenomenon of adoption the other way around, saying that we can always choose whose children we want to be. For him, Cato, the towering Resolute Stoic, who railed against Julius Caesar in defense of the Republic, was always standing by in his mind. The first book of Marcus

releases meditations, in fact, is a catalog of all the people that Marcus had learned from, and the lessons he had taken from their lives. So this week take a minute to think of the models that you can follow, wise and admirable people that you can measure yourself against. And this is from this week's entry in the Daily Stoke Journal. We like to say that we don't get to choose our parents, Seneca said, that they were given to us by chance. Yet truly, we can choose whose children we'd like to be. That's in on the brevity of life. But then in more a letter, Seneca said, we can remove most sins if we have a witness standing by as we are about to go wrong.

The soul should have someone it can respect. By whose example it can make its inner sanctum more invaluable. Happy is the person who can improve others, not only one present, but even when in their thoughts. I think for me, this idea of choosing whose children you wanna be is great, right?

Whether you had amazing parents or the world's worst parents, you can also choose to be the children of the greats of history. We did a daily daddy Milnallongo, where Bruce Springsteen is talking about being an ancestor or a ghost. Who are the ghosts that haunt you and who are the ancestors that inspire you? And how can you choose to follow in the right footsteps?

For me, Robert Green is kind of an adopted father. He's about my father's age. But he's who I want to be as a person in many ways. Professionally, he's deeply inspiring to me. The way even that he has spent so much time and energy and patience shaping me into the writer that I became, that unit of itself has been inspiring and is an example I try to follow in. So like, I've never met Marcus Aurelius.

I'm not related to Seneca. I have no lineage that puts me back into ancient Rome with Epic Titus. But we can still be the descendants of these people. We can, we can still be their children. James Baldwin was famously talking to his nephew and he said, you come from steady, peasant stock, people who built the railroads, people who escaped via the underground railroad, people who responded to the blows of fate in life with dignity and poise and creativity and perseverance.

Now, is this literally true? Does you know for a fact about the railroads or the underground railroads? No, but we choose what tradition we hail from. We choose whose child we want to be by the example that we follow, by the heroes we give ourselves in our mind. And that's what today's entry is about. And I hope you take a minute to think about

whose footsteps you're following in. And what example you are setting so that perhaps someday someone else might choose to be adopted by you. Hey, Prime Members, you can listen to the Daily Stoic early and ad-free on Amazon Music, download the Amazon Music app today, or you can listen early and ad-free with Wondery Plus in Apple Podcasts. Ah, the Bahamas.

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