The Daily Stoic - Helping Others Helps You | Three Areas of Training

Episode Date: January 27, 2022

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Hey, prime members, you can listen to the Daily Stoic Podcast early and add free on Amazon Music. Download the app today. Welcome to another episode of the Daily Stoic Podcast. On Thursdays, we do double duty, not just reading our daily meditation, but also reading a passage from the book, The Daily Stoic, 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance in the Art of Living, which I wrote with my wonderful co-author and collaborator, Stephen Hanselman. And so today we'll give you a quick meditation from one of the Stoics, from Epipetus Markus, really a Seneca, then some analysis for me, and then we send you out into the world to do your best to turn these words into works. Hi, I'm David Brown,

the host of Wundery's podcast business wars. And in our new season, Walmart must fight off target, the new discounter that's both savvy and fashion forward. Listen to business wars on Amazon music or wherever you get your podcasts. Helping others helps you. Someone wounds you and so you wanna wound them back with a harsh remark by cutting them out of the next project

by putting the word out about them. Maybe they hold an important political view and have done something selfish or mean. So you wanna punish them, you wanna shame them, you wanna draw attention to their awfulness to send a message. But anyone who's actually done this, you feel there's something that feels wrong afterwards, you feel dirty, you feel unpleasant, you feel somehow associated, you feel implicated in like you've been dragged down to their level. The Vietnamese and Zen Buddhist monk

Tik Nhat Hanh, who just recently passed away, he cautions us. He says, punishing the other person is self-punishment. And that is true in every circumstance. And that's why he was a peace activist. That's why he was a non-violent civil rights activist. And he also found something out in pursuit of those causes and in his journey to enlightenment that helping others is self-help. His life and his legacy bears this out. Tick-Mat Han who died this past Saturday was exiled from Vietnam after he

published an anti-war poem in 1964. So how did he respond? He started an organization that rebuilt war-torn villages and reunited war-torn families. He toured the world to speak out about the people suffering in his country. He became one of the great stewards of Buddhism, making the principles more accessible and applicable to millions of readers worldwide, including myself. And words of his brave and selfless efforts spread to the likes of Martin Luther King Jr. who would apply what he learned to his own peace movements. And markets have really, indeed indeed all the Stokes believe that we are part of this large,

interconnected organism that you couldn't help another person without helping yourself, and you couldn't hurt another person without hurting yourself. We are all bees of the same hive. He said, have I done something for the common good than I share and the benefits? Just as the converse is true. And that is why the Stokes believed that a good life hinges on justice, on helping others, on being a good steward of the hive and of the common good. And this was true for Marcus. It was true for tip-mat-hahn.

May he rest in peace, and it will be true for you. If you want to help yourself, you have to help others. Indeed, this is true in every circumstance. Three areas of training that I'm reading to you today from the Daily Stoke, 366 Meditations on Wisdom Perseverance in the Art of Living by yours truly. My co-author and translator, Steve Enhancelman, you can get signed copies, by the way, in the Daily Stoke store, over a million copies of the Daily Stoke and print now.

It's been just such a lovely experience to watch it. It's been more than 250 weeks, consecutive weeks on the best cell, it's just an awesome experience. But I hope you check it out. We have a premium leather edition at store.dailystoke.com as well. But let's get on with today's reading.

There are three areas in which the person who would be wise and good must be trained, a picked tea just tells us. The first has to do with desires and aversions. That a person may never miss the mark and desires or fall into what repels them. The second has to do with impulses to act and not to act, and we're broadly with duty, that a person may not deliberately act for good reasons and not carelessly. The third has to do with freedom from deception and composure in our whole area of judgment, the ascent of our mind that gives it its perceptions. Of these areas, the chief and most urgent has to do with the passions. For strong

emotions arise only when we fail in our desires and aversion. That's epictetus's discourses. Three, two. So today, let's focus on those three areas of training that epictetus laid out. First, we must consider what we should desire and what we should be a verse to so that we want what is good and avoid what is bad. It's not just enough to listen to your body because our attractions can often lead us astray. Next, we must examine our impulses to act that is our motivations. Are we doing things for the right reasons? Or do we act because we haven't stopped to think? Or do we believe that we have to do something? And finally, there is our judgment,

our ability to see things clearly and properly when we use that great gift we've gotten from nature, our reason. These are three distinct areas of training, but in practice, they are inextricably intertwined. Our judgment affects what we desire, our desires affect how we act, just as our judgment determines how we act. But we can't just expect that to happen.

We must put real thought and energy into each area of our lives. And if we do, we'll find clarity and hopefully success. You know, it's funny. People talk a lot about trusting themselves. Say, I trust in my gut or I trust myself or I believe myself. One of the things I've come to, I took this from somewhere, I'm borrowing it from someone.

The idea is that's something you have to earn. That's something that comes with time. That comes from doing the work, developing the training. You don't just magically know what to desire and what to avoid. You don't just magically have the right impulses. You don't magically have good judgment. This is something you cultivate, right? Like even me as a writer, my sense of what is good on the page is not some gift from the muses. It comes from a couple of things. It comes from having read very widely.

It comes from having interacted with the audience and editors over times. We've got lots of feedback. And then it also comes from having written a lot. I've spent a lot of time with the pages with writing. So what I would have thought was good or what I was capable of on my first book is not where I am with my tenth book or my eleventh book or whatever number I'm on now. So the idea, you have to see this as a thing you are training at. It's a skill. It's something you cultivate.

Aristotle says this about virtue. Virtue is something you do. It's not something you have. You become a builder by building. Come a craftsman by practicing the craft. You become good at judgment, controlling the passions that knowing what is right and not right, what you should have and what you should avoid.

By being out there in the battlefield of life, by testing yourself, by challenging yourself, by reflecting, by thinking, by reading, by doing stuff like listening to this podcast right now, by sitting down with a journal, having conversations with wise people, having a mentor, reflecting on your day, all of that is training, right? Stoicism isn't this philosophy you magically pick up or that's not the right word. It's not a philosophy that you magically just understand by reading it. It's something you practice, you study, you work at over a

course of a lifetime, the way that you would learn a dance or learn a martial art or learn any craft. So I'd like to think I'm getting better at it as I go. If I was looking at myself objectively from the outside, progress is probably slower than I would like. Probably does not begin to come close to the standards that I set with even my own writing. But then, even then, when I see my own progress as a writer, I know that progress in these other domains is possible. And I know it's possible for you. And so that's today's message. I hope that lands with you and I'll talk to you soon.

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