The Daily Stoic - If You Had The World Enough and Time… | The Stoic Guide To Freedom And Power (From Epictetus)

Episode Date: April 16, 2024

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Search and follow The Price of Paradise now to listen to the full trailer. Welcome to the Daily Stoic Podcast, where each day we read a passage of ancient wisdom designed to help you in your everyday life. On Tuesdays, we take a closer look at these stoic ideas and how we can apply them in our actual lives. Thanks for listening, and I hope you enjoy. If you had the world enough and time. Look maybe if things were different, maybe then you could afford to get in pointless arguments with strangers.

Maybe then you could afford to think that things would always go your way. Maybe then you could follow every urge and impulse. Maybe you could put off getting better, put off making better choices until tomorrow. But the thing is, things are the way they are. Life is short. Fortune is unpredictable. Consequences are real. If you had the world enough in time, perhaps you could afford to be irresponsible. You could be lazy. You could be lazy. You could be entitled. You could give yourself over to your passions. You do not. Death hangs over you. Marks really said fortune behaves exactly as

she pleases. Seneca said, tomorrow is not promised. Nothing is certain. Nothing can be taken for granted. Nothing is worth choosing more than the right thing. Not later, but now. All the Stoics talk about freedom. Epictetus would have known what it really meant. And more importantly, he knew how to find it inside literal slavery. He said, a podium and a prison are each a place. And in each one of those places, we have a certain amount of freedom of will. I'm Ryan Holliday. I've written a number of books about stoic philosophy. I've spoken about it to

everyone from the NBA to the NFL, sitting senators and special forces leaders and I want to give you some strategies for finding freedom wherever you live, whatever you do, whatever kind of life you have from the one and only Epictetus. You have two options. You can want things to turn out a certain way, or you could welcome them the way they happen, Epictetus says. He says you could want them to turn out as you want them to, or you could decide that you want them to turn out how they've turned out.

For the Stoics, this is the discipline of ascent. Are you going to wish things are a certain way? Are you going to accept them how they've turned out. For the Stoics, this is the discipline of ascent. Are you gonna wish things are a certain way? Are you gonna accept them as they are? That doesn't mean you accept the injustices of the world per se, but it means if it's raining, you're happy that it's raining. If it's cloudy, you're happy that it's cloudy. If it's sunny and hot, you're happy that it's sunny and hot.

If you're born short, you're happy that you're short. If you're tall, you're happy that you're born tall. You accept things as they are. You make the most of it. This is what the idea of a more haki is. Accept thing, be happy that things are the way that they are, you were given what you've been given and then get to work using it.

That's what stoicism is about. So my favorite thing about Epictetus is he's born a slave and he finds himself a slave in the court of Nero. So here you have this guy, he has no power, no freedom amidst incredible wealth, power and opulence. But he comes to realize watching how people act in Nero's court that these supposedly free people aren't nearly as free as he thinks. He watches a man suck up to Nero's cobbler.

He's brown-nosing the guy who makes Nero's shoes because he wants to get in Nero's favor. One man comes to Nero and says, I'm down to my last million dollars. And then Nero says, oh my God, how can you bear it? Epictetus realizes, although he's been deprived of his physical freedom, he's actually less of a slave than all of these people who are a slave to their ambition, slave to power, slave to keeping up, slave to impressing other people, a slave to appearances, a slave to urges or mistresses.

And so Epictetus realizes that freedom comes from the inside. Yes, people can bind us up in chains, he says. They can't remove our power of says. They can't remove our power choice. They can't change our ability to make our decisions, to set our own priorities. That's what Stoicism is actually about, and that's why the philosophy is popular, not just with Epictetus a slave, but Marcus Aurelius, who's an emperor later in that same court. The Stoics were fond of sports metaphors, just like we are today. Epictetus, one of the great Stoics, would say that this is what life is. He compares them to ballplayers, some version of an athlete.

He says a ballplayer doesn't categorize a throw as good or bad. They're too busy trying to catch it and throw it back. He compares Socrates to being the ultimate athlete or ball player because that's what Socrates was. Not only in the course of a discussion could he ping it back and forth, that he didn't get offended, he wasn't challenged, he would always just try to respond, but that Socrates responds to persecution, he responds to war, he responds to being doubted, he responds to all the difficulties of his life not in thinking of whether they're good or bad, but in how he's gonna respond, how he's going to deal with them.

This is the essence then of Stoicism. It's a very simple idea. We don't control what happens. We control how we respond to what happens. We don't control other people. We control how we respond to other people. You can't trust appearances. to other people. You can't trust appearances. Epictetus says that what studying philosophy gives you,

he says it makes you like a money changer who can know from the way they bang a coin on the table whether it's counterfeit or not. Stoicism is about putting every impression to the test. And as you try to make money in life, as you try to invest in life, it's not just finding the good investments, finding the good vehicles. It's about avoiding being scammed. It's about avoiding fads. It's about avoiding false promises. Mark Cerellis says you can't fall for every smooth talker. That's what Epictetus is saying. You put the impression to the test. You can trust, but you have to verify.

If it seems too good to be true, whether it's an emotion or an investment, it probably is. Epictetus says that when you look outside yourself for approval, you have settled, you've handed over your happiness or your autonomy. And this is such a critical stoic idea when we talk about what's in our control, what's not in our control,

how you should judge yourself, whether you're getting better, whether you're a success, whether you're rich, whatever it is, it can't be determined by other people. What you've done is hand over your life on a platter to other people. Obviously this is wonderful when people are celebrating you and saying you're awesome,

but what happens when that turns? What happens if the crowd is wrong? What happens if the times that you're in are valuing the wrong things? So Epictetus is saying that you want to look inward, you want to create your own standards, your own scorecard for what's important to you. So a Stoic doesn't look to outside sources, outside people, outside benchmarks for their success, for their happiness, for the self-worth, you find that internal. A cold plunge is something you do physically, but it's really about a mindset shift. It's about embracing discomfort, it's about getting comfortable with adversity, it's about

pushing your boundaries, it's about challenging yourself. It's about being present in the moment. In meditations, Marcus Aurelius talks about washing off the dust of earthly life. We know that Romans had bath houses. They had cold plunges. They would alternate between the hot and the cold. And it's hard to be anything but present

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which you think you already know. Whenever I'm around people that are much better than me at something, when I'm embarrassingly bad at something, I have no fear or shame about asking really stupid questions. If I'm remotely unsure about something, I'll ask. I don't care if I look stupid, which is actually another really important lesson

from Epictetus. He says if you want to improve, you have to be content, you have to be okay with looking stupid or foolish. You have to be willing to be embarrassed or to be awkward or be uncomfortable with something, or you can't get any better. I'm not afraid to ask questions. I'm not afraid to look like an idiot. I'd rather look like an idiot than chop off my hand or have something fall on me or screw it up. So that's how I think about it. I'm not afraid to ask dumb questions. Epictetus sees power up close and he learns

something very important. He learns that most powerful people are not free at all. He says because to be free you have to be in control of yourself. He says no man is free who is not master of himself. So even though Epictetus is a slave and his life is so circumscribed compared to the rich powerful people he's owned by who he sees every day in the palace, he knows he's owned by, who he sees every day in the palace, he knows he's actually freer, that he has a better life because he controls his urges, his desires, his thoughts.

He directs his mind. He knows what he wants. He knows what's important. And if you don't know those things, it doesn't matter how rich you are, it doesn't matter how famous you are, it doesn't matter what you have, how big your platform is, how important your job is, you are not free. You become free when you master yourself

and you master your mind, then you master your life and you master the world. When life deals you a problem, you can complain. When you're facing a challenge, you can resent it, or you can look at it as Epictetus did. You can say to yourself, life has paired me with a strong sparring partner and I'm gonna be better for wrestling with it, for fighting it, for beating it. And look, Epictetus isn't talking about this theoretically. He spends 30 years in

Roman slavery, but he chooses to see the adversity, big and small, in his life as a challenge. So instead of being dealt an unfair advantage, he's stepping up and taking advantage of the opportunity to grow by struggling with this resistance, by wrestling with it, by sparring with it, by learning from it. And this is how we can face the adversity in our own lives. Instead of feeling like we're unlucky, instead of feeling like we've been screwed over, we say life dealt me something and I'm gonna be better for sparring with it. Epictetus says every situation has two handles. One will bear weight, the other won't. So what are you gonna grab this by? How are you gonna choose to see it? How are you going to choose to try to carry it? It's the same thing, a different

perspective. Life is like that. We can look at it one way or going to choose to try to carry it? It's the same thing, a different perspective. Life is like that. We can look at it one way or we can choose to look at it another way. We can choose to look at something as an obstacle or we can choose to look at something as an opportunity. We can see chaos if we look close. We can see order if we look from afar.

We can see disadvantage if we look at it one way. We can see advantage if we look the other. We can see obstacle from this perspective, opportunity from the other. Well actually Epictetus talks about this, he says you know someone's working out lifting weights, you don't say show me your muscles, you say show me what you can lift. As far as your insights go, or your breakthroughs go, or your disparities go, or the philosophy you studied goes, that's great. But what matters is what you can do in the present moment.

What matters is what you can do in moments big and small in your actual life. I would add, though, that people shouldn't expect that these ordinary contractions into negative states of mind won't keep occurring. The crucial difference between freedom and bondage is how quickly you can wake up from them and whether you can really wake the Daily Stoic early and ad free on Amazon Music, download the Amazon Music app today, or you can listen early and ad free with Wondery Plus in Apple podcasts. Okay, so if you had a time machine,

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