The Daily Stoic - It's Ok To Stumble | A Little Better Every Day

Episode Date: January 24, 2022

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Hey, prime members, you can listen to the Daily Stoke podcast early and add free on Amazon music download the app today Welcome to the Daily Stoke podcast each day. We bring you a meditation inspired by the ancient Stoics Illustrated with stories from history current events and literature to help you be better at what you do. And at the beginning of the week, we try to do a deeper dive, setting a kind of stoke, intention for the week, something to meditate on, something to think on, something to leave you with, to journal about whatever it is you happen to be doing. So let's get into it. Hi, I'm David Brown, the host of Wunderree's podcast business wars.

And in our new season, Walmart must fight off target, the new discounter that's both savvy and fashion forward. Listen to business wars on Amazon music or wherever you get your podcasts. It's okay to stumble. Marcus Arellius wasn't perfect. He screwed up a lot, a lot, a lot, and we know this from meditations. That's why it's filled with admonishments for losing his temper, for being lazy, for temptations, for all sorts of bad habits or destructive thought patterns. With so many responsibilities competing for his time and attention, he was guilty as we all have been of letting his good intentions slide.

Despite our better judgment or best intentions, life has a nasty habit of getting in the way and sending us on accidental hiatuses or exiles from our good habits and resolutions. Well, what then? As Marcus really writes to himself, as always, when jared unavoidably by circumstance, revert at once to yourself and don't lose the rhythm more than you can help, to himself, as always, when jard unavoidably by circumstance,

revert at once to yourself and don't lose the rhythm more than you can help. You'll have a better grasp of harmony if you keep going back to it. The path to self-improvement is rocky and stumbling is inevitable. You'll forget to do the push-ups, you'll cheat on your diet, you'll get sucked into the rabbit hole of Twitter, but you'll go weeks without doing your journaling. That's okay. Does it mean you're a bad person?

The stomachs would have liked the advice from Oprah. If you catch yourself eating an Oreo, don't beat yourself up. Just try to stop before you finish the whole sleeve. And then try to do better tomorrow. In other words, it's okay to stumble, it's okay to mess up. Just don't let a stumble turn into a catastrophic fall. Catch yourself.

Revert back to yourself. Come back to the rhythm. Don't lose it. Go back to those good habits. Do what you know you need to do. And look, if you're stumbling and you want to get back on track, maybe you had a bunch of resolutions for the year, you said, I got this.

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It's not too late. Let's get back to the rhythm. Let's have a great year. A little better every day. And this is from this week's entry in the daily stoke Journal, 366 days of writing and reflection on the art of living, by yours truly and my co-writer and translator, Steve Enhancelman. I actually do this journal every single day. There's a question in the morning, a question in the afternoon, and there's these sort of weekly meditations. As Epictetus says, every day and night, we keep thoughts like this at

hand, write them, read them aloud, and talk to yourself, and others about them. You can check out the Daily Stoke Journal, anywhere books are sold, you can also get a signed personalized copy from me in the Daily Stoke store at store.dailystoke.com. The Stoics saw their lives as works and progress. They didn't believe they were born perfect, but they believed that with work and dedication, they could get a little better each day. There is real delight in this progress as Epictetus quoted by Way of Socrates. Marcus Aurelius avidly pursued his own education and improvement, eagerly looking for advice from mentors, books,

and historical examples. Follow that example this week and see how you can get a little better each day. We must keep constant watch over ourselves and Ascentech have raised it. Put each day up for review. Looking back on our day helps us to better understand where we may have fallen short and gives us tangible feedback for how to improve and how to grow. Only what you measure and record can be monitored. Only what you put up for reflection can be learned from.

I will keep constant watch over myself and most usefully will put each day up for review. For this is what makes evil that none of us looks back upon our own lives. We reflect only on that which we are about to do, and yet our plans for the future descend from the past. That's Seneca Moral Letters 83.2. Marcus Aurelius, from Rousticus, I learned to read carefully and not be satisfied with the rough understanding of the whole and not to agree too quickly with those who have a lot to say about something. That's Marcus Aurelius meditation 7-1-1-7. What does Socrates

say just as one person delights in improving this farm and another is horse, so I delight in attending to my own improvement day by day. Epithetists' discourse is three-five. When I sign copies of the Daily Stoke Journal, which is what this is obviously from, one of the things I, the inscription I've taken to do, I say, prepare, review, and reflect. That's sort of what I think journaling is, what the practice of this sort of stoic meditation is. It's the preparing for what's to come, but then also reviewing what's happened, and then also taking some time just to think, just to really, really reflect. How's it going? What could you do better? What are the trends you notice? That's what this is about. You know, I talked

about my practice that you could do the stoic journaling in the morning, the stoic journaling in the evening. I tend to, in the morning, reflect a little bit on the day just past and then set my intentions for the day going forward. So, like, there's no right or wrong way to do that. I've just found with kids and all the stuff I have going on and the fact that I spend so much time writing

and thinking anyway, you know, sort of two rounds of journaling doesn't work for me, but at this current moment, but it has in the past. And so this idea of setting time, not just to, what do I want, what are my hopes, what are my dreams, that sort of, that sort of part of journaling. But there should also be the review and the reflection,

you know, the, the analysis, you know, in the army you go in a mission, they brief you before the mission, but then you get back and then they debrief the mission. But then you also have performance reviews throughout the year, and then at each posting, right? So it's this sort of process of stepping back and looking at these things from all angles.

That's how we get better, that's how we improve. Sena is saying, we must keep constant watch over ourselves, put ourselves up for review. We have to look back upon our lives. You hear people, and I've been through this, you sort of wake up and go, whew, who am I? What am I doing? What is this? Obviously, the longer that goes on, the harder it's going to be to unravel, to undo.

The more likely you've done something that can't be undone. And so I think this sort of little progress of trying to get better every day, a little improvement, maybe it's just listening to this podcast, maybe it's having a few minutes to talk to a partner in the morning with the evening, maybe it's reading that you do. I don't know, but the point is we get better by taking these small steps by working on ourselves a little by little. And we should remember what Zeno said. You know, we said, well being is realized by small steps, but it is no small things.

But it is no small thing. And we underestimate the progress we can make, you know, a little chunk at a time. We want to have these sort of radical epiphanies, these huge breakthroughs. We want to go to therapy and figure it all out. But actually, it's the act of going to therapy week overies, these huge breakthroughs, want to go to therapy and figure it all out. But actually, it's the act of going to therapy week over week, the routine of it, the little revelations that culminate over time into that, you know,

state of wisdom or peace or tranquility. So don't despair that you're not magically transforming. In fact, set your expectations as such that that won't, maybe that won't ever happen. It's the little progress, the little gains. That's how you get better. It's like your hair, you know, you don't, you get a haircut, and then you don't notice

it's growing day by day, and then one day you look up and you're like, man, I need a haircut. And you wanna have that in a good way. Man, I'm making a lot of progress, I'm happier. I'm less bothered, I'm more content, I'm more in my lane, I'm really chugging away on this project I'm working. That's where you want to get, that's where the Stokes want you to get, and they want you to learn how to delight in those kinds of improvements as Socrates did and as Epictetus did.

So, well, here's to another day of that. I wish you the best. Hey, prime members, you can listen to the Daily Stoic early and add free on Amazon music. Download the Amazon music app today, or you can listen early and add free with Wondery Plus in Apple Podcasts. I keep a bad glove. But if you ask me, I'm just getting started. And there's so much I still want to do. So I decided I want to be a podcast host. I'm proud to introduce you to the Baby Mrs. Kiki Palmer podcast. I'm putting my friends, family, and some of the dopest experts in the hot seat to ask them the questions that have been burning in my mind.

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