The Daily Stoic - Leaders Are Made Not Born | Keeping “The News” In Check

Episode Date: July 26, 2021

“Marcus Aurelius did not come out of the womb a leader. Nor was he an emperor ‘by blood.’ In fact, when first told he was to be king, he wept--thinking of all the bad and failed kings of history.”Ryan explains how becoming a great leader is a process, and reads this week’s meditation from The Daily Stoic Journal, on today’s Daily Stoic Podcast.If you want to become a better leader, sign up for our new 9-week live course The Daily Stoic Leadership Challenge today! This is a masterclass in leadership with the cadence and rigor of a boot camp. It is also a live course, which means all participants will join the course together and move through together at the same pace to their own version of the same goal—to be a great leader. Registration will close on Saturday, July 31st at midnight CST and the course will begin on Sunday, August 1st. We hope to have you join us at dailystoic.com/leadershipchallengeSign up for the Daily Stoic email: http://DailyStoic.com/signupFollow us: Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, and FacebookSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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So let's get into it. Leaders are made not born. Marcus Aurelius does not come out of the womb, a leader, nor was he emperor by blood. In fact, when first told he was to be king, he wept, thinking of all the bad and failed kings of history. So how does he get there to philosopher King? Book one of meditations shows us, in the first 10% of the book, Dez and Lessons, as it's called. He thanks people who groomed him into becoming

one of history's greatest leaders. He knew that without his philosophy teachers and rhetoric teachers, and most importantly his mentor Antoninus Pius, he wouldn't have become who he became. These first pages of the book are deceptive too because they compress a process which took 23 years. It was nearly two and a half decades between the time Hadrian first set in motion his plan for Marcus and the day he would become the emperor of Rome. That's what it takes because leaders aren't born.

They're made. And yet some of us recoil at this idea. Of course we understand that athletes and doctors and dentists and lawyers and engineers and accountants and contractors and cooks even go through a process to master their profession. The leadership, leaders don't do that. We think you either have it or you don't. But a look at some of history's greatest leaders tell you that leadership is a process, not a position. As the Pulitzer Prize historian Thomas Ricks writes

about George Washington, the process of becoming a valiant leader was Washington's work of a lifetime. While a few of us will be plucked by someone who has charted a course for us or be thrust into a position of leadership the way Marcus was, we all need to think of leadership

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Even the ancient news felt inundated with gossip and news. This week you will face a barrage like they couldn't have imagined. From texts, calls, emails to the incessant grind of the 24-7 news machine. Instead of responding to every status update, every urgent call or the latest trending incendiary news story, take a moment to remember the three ways that the Stokes used to keep their focus on their purpose and duty in the present moment.

Number one, step away from the noise. Two, remember that no news can throw you off the purpose of your present choices. Three, don't add something negative or positive to what's being reported. This is from this week's entry in the Daily Stoke Journal, 366 days of writing and reflection on the art of living by yours truly and my colleague, Steven Hanselman, who I also wrote the Daily Stoke with.

You can actually get signed copies of the Daily Stoke Journal in the Daily Stoke store at store.dailystoke.com. Or we've got copies here at the painted porch. My bookstore in Bastrop, Texas, always popular, people ask me to sign them all the time. Anyways, check out the Daily Stoke Journal. I'm on like my fourth year of doing it. You might like it as well. But here's two quotes from Marcus and one from Epictetus to guide you this week. Are you distracted by breaking news? Then take some leisure time to learn something good and stop bouncing around. But when you do keep in mind the other mistake, to be so distracted by getting control that you

wear yourself out and lose a purpose by which you can direct your thoughts and impulses. That's meditations 27. Epic Titus' Discourses 38 says, whenever disturbing news is delivered to you, bear in mind that no news can be relevant to your reasoned choice. Can anyone break news to you that your assumptions or desires are wrong no way? But they can tell you someone died. But even so, what is that to you? And then Marks realizes meditations, 849.

He says, don't tell yourself anything more than what the initial impressions report. It's been reported to you that someone is speaking badly about you. This is the report. The report wasn't that you've been harmed. I see that my son is sick, but not that his life is at risk. So always stay within your first impressions and don't add them to your head. This way, nothing can happen to you. The number one secret to a good, productive routine and personal happiness is to limit

your news consumption. Obviously, I'm biased as an author, but read books, don't watch the news. Read thoughtful perennial analysis, don't follow speculative news reports. Limit your news consumption. And like, honestly, if you do feel like you need the distraction, you need like a palakunzer, don't pull up CNN, pull up ESPN, like read about sports or something, right? Read celebrity gossip. Don't read the latest divisive piece of news. I'm not saying that it's not important to be informed. Of course, it's important to be informed. I would just argue that following the infinite news machine

is how one becomes informed. I think, as I've said before, the great influenza, a book that I read at the beginning of the pandemic, taught me much more about how to spend the last 15 months than, you know, any breaking news story, because the news story's never really changed anything. It's like, hey, this thing is real. Here's the scientific advice. Take it seriously. Wait for it to be over, right? The latest report is only adding to what we already know for the most part.

So step back. Don't consume so much news. Couple recommendations on that's front. Obviously, one, my book Trust Me I'm Lying is about how the news manipulates you. But there's a great book by Daniel Borsden called The Image that I suggest people read. There's also Neil Postman's amusing ourselves to death. These are two eye-opening books that will give you a sense

of why you should consume as little news as possible, and how manipulative it is, and how harmful it is. And then the other book, which inspired my book Trust Me I, I'm lying, if you read the jungle as a kid in high school or whatever, Epton Sinclair's exposé of the meat packing industry, then I strongly suggest you read his book, The Brass Check, which is actually an exposé of the news industry around the same time.

And sadly, almost nothing has changed. I'm not saying that reporters aren't good people. I'm not saying that they don't do an important public service. I'm not saying I read no news. I'm just saying, look, the most viral emotion is anger. Should it surprise us that the news perpetually makes us angry, right? Should it surprise us that news is always breaking

but never fully arrives, that they're always speculating? No, it's an enormous beast trying to capture as much attention as much attention as possible to then sell that attention to advertisers. You are the product that's being sold and you consume this free news. Gotta understand that. Listen to podcasts, podcasts are great conversations. Even this, like I'm recording this, but it has no real date on it. It should be relevant forever. So I'm not as incentivized to rile you up

the way that your news is. So I think it's interesting that even 2000 years ago, the Stokes were struggling with it. They'd be appalled at what our information diet is today. So step back, give yourself some space. Don't follow breaking news, don't let it change, who you are, don't let it rattle your equilibrium. Just keep doing you read books, study real wisdom and information that will make you smarter,

and able to respond to what's happening in the world and make you a better, more informed citizen. Hey, Prime Members, you can listen to the Daily Stoic early and ad-free on Amazon Music, download the Amazon Music app today, or you can listen early and ad-free with Wondery Plus in Apple Podcasts. today, or you can listen early and add free with Wondery Plus in Apple podcasts.