The Daily Stoic - Marcus Aurelius' Most Important Education Came From This Man

Episode Date: June 20, 2021

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challenging issues of our time. Here on the weekend, when you have a little bit more space when things have slowed down, be sure to take some time to think, to go for a walk, to sit with your journal, and most importantly, to prepare for what the week ahead may bring. Hi, I'm David Brown, the host of Wunderer's podcast business wars.

And in our new season, Walmart must fight off target, the new discounter that's both savvy and fashion forward. Listen to business wars on Amazon music or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, it's Ryan. Welcome to another episode of the Daily Stoic podcast here on Father's Day. What does that have to do with Stoicism? Exactly. Well, I think one of the most incredible stories in all of Stoicism is Marcus O'Reilly's relationship with his father. Actually, his stepfather, Marcus O'Reilly's father dies in an early age. His mother is the formative influence in his life until he is adopted by the emperor Hadrian,

who adopts Antoninus Pius, who in turn is put in charge of Marx's realist. So Marx's realist's stepfather Antoninus is inarguably the most important person in his life. It's this beautiful relationship. I mean, Antoninus Pius works his whole life in politics, becomes incredibly powerful, and suddenly he's thrust in this situation where he has to train this boy

who has no relation to for the throne. You know, historically these situations don't end well. There's a lot of jealousy and fighting and bloodshed. Instead, it became this beautiful, surrogate father-son relationship, and Antoneninus became everything that Marcus wanted to be. He taught so powerfully by example and by his decency and goodness and self-control how he embodied all those four virtues of stoicism.

In today's episode, we're going to talk about some of the things that Marcus learns from his stepfather Antoninus, who he learned to love philosophy from, and to read and study widely, how to be decisive, why you need to be humble, how to keep an open mind, how to work hard, how to take care of one's health, how to be a good friend, how to be self-reliant and self-sufficient, how to learn from the experts, how to take responsibility, not give excuses, how to control your temper, how to be great in every sense of the word. And this is what fathers are supposed to teach their sons. Unfortunately, it doesn't happen as often as it should, but in this case, it really worked

and I wanted to give you a picture of this extraordinary relationship. It inspires me always, inspires, you know, how I try to be a father to my own kids. It inspires a lot of what we do over at Daily Dad, which is the other Daily Email Daily Podcast we do, which you can check out at dailydad.com or DailyDad, wherever you listen and podcasts. Anyways, here is the most important influence in Mark Cerely's life and where the most important parts of his education came from. I think you're really going to like this. How did Marcus Aurelius become Marcus Aurelius?

How does a boy of ordinary bloodlines etch his name permanently into history. How did a man give an absolute power transcend precedent and become the philosopher king that every wise man since Plato had dreamed the world might one day see? It was not destiny or fate, it was not a fancy education. In fact, he was homeschooled by his grandparents for almost his entire early childhood. It wasn't until age 12 that a handful of tutors were selected by the emperor Hadrian who first saw something in this little boy. In fact, as one biographer tells us, his first teacher was a slave, and another rights of Marcus' education that if we were to judge it,

we'd predict he'd turn out to be the very worst. Tutors and masters were selected from every corner of the globe, couldn't explain the forming of such a man, the French philosopher Ernest Renon says. Instead, it was from Marcus's stepfather, Antoninus, whom he revered above all, whom he considered the most beautiful model of a perfect life that Marcus Aurelius became what he was. You see, Marcus's biological father

died when he was just three. He discovered philosophy a few years later. Perhaps he read Senika's advice to choose a cato, a model whose life could guide your own, or maybe it was from his favorite philosopher, Epictetus, who learned under Musoneus Rufus. We don't know for sure but we know that this young fatherless boy was searching for someone to hold up as his example. And when Hadrian settled on his succession plan, he adopted that man, Antoninus, who in turn adopted Marcus. What Hadrian saw in Antoninus and outstanding human being, as one historian says, Marcus clearly saw too, he found his model, he found his cato, and he spent the next four decades striving to be like him. Somewhere near the end of his life, Marcus sat down and wrote what he learned from his

stepfather and his father. It's an impressive list. If a father taught their child even half of what Marcus learned from Antinitis, he'd be guaranteed to raise a great son or daughter. So what were these things and how can we learn from them? Let us list them. First, to love philosophy. Antinitis as Marcus writes, honored those who were true philosophers and he did not reproach those who pretended to be philosophers, nor yet was he easily led by them. 2. To read and study widely, Antoninus had a liberal attitude to education. He thought

a person should seek to be useful, not just masters of their disciplines, but also well versed in politics and the problems of state. Three, to be decisive, Marcus tells us that Antoninus had a remarkably unwavering adherence to decisions. Once he reached them, there was no hesitation, only resolute action. Four, to be humble. On Hadrian's deathbed, he summoned Antoninus.

It was time to hand over the crown. Antoninus pushed back. This in difference to superficial honors, as Marcus said, reassure Hadrian with certainty that he had made the right decision. Marcus said that he revered this in Antoninus. His restrictions on acclimations and all attempts to flatter him.

Five, he learned to keep an open mind. Marcus says he liked the way that Antoninus listened to anyone who could contribute to the public good. 6. To work hard, Antoninus kept a strict diet so he could spend less time exercising, more time serving, the people of Rome. He limited even his bathroom breaks when he oversaw cases so that he could do more

for more people. Seven, to take care of his health. When we said that he spent less time, it wasn't no time exercising. Marcus would praise Antoninus's willingness to take adequate care of himself. He hardly ever needed medical attention or drugs or any sort of salve or ointment. By taking care of himself, he took care of his children and his country.

8. To be a good friend. Antoninus was what we would nowadays call a people person, one of his biographer's rights. He felt at ease with other people and could put them at ease, even towards those disingenuous social climbers. Antoninus was kind and Marcus Aurelius admired how Antoninus never got fed up with them. Got a quick message from one of our sponsors here and then we'll get right back to the show. Stay tuned. Why it happened and the repercussions? What does our obsession with these feuds say about us? The first season is packed with some pretty messy pop culture drama, but none is drawn out in

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He carried a Spartan attitude to money in his private life, taking frugal meals and reducing the pomp on state occasions to Republican simplicity. Frugality in industry was the only way to guarantee financial security. So when Marcus Aurelius wrote, self-reliance always, it was Antoninus, he was taking as his model. 10. To look to the experts, when the plague hit Rome in 165 AD, Marcus Aurelius knew what to do.

He immediately assembled a team of Rome's most brilliant minds. As McLean explains, his shrewd and careful personnel selection is worthy of study by any person in any position of leadership. But this in particular, Marcus said, he learned from Antoninus, the willingness to yield the Florida experts in speaking, in law, in psychology, whatever, and to support them energetically so that each could fulfill his potential. 11. To take responsibility with no excuses. Hadrian was known for his globetrotting and his tendency to seek peace and quiet abroad

when Rome was particularly chaotic. In a pointed disapproval, Marcus praised Antoninus' contrary example, his willingness to take responsibility and blame for the empire's needs and its problems. 12. To not lose your temper Antoninus is dubbed in some Roman history books as the man who never was. Marcus explains why. He never exhibited rudeness, lost control of himself or turned violent.

No one ever saw him sweat Marcus wrote. Everything was to be approached logically and with due consideration in calm and orderly fashion but decisively with no loose ends. And 13 to be self-controlled as Marcus wrote, Antonynes knew how to enjoy and abstain from the things that most people find it hard to abstain from, and all too easy to enjoy. Strength, perseverance, self-control in both areas, that was the mark of a soul and readiness. Marcus learned these things not because Antonynes told him about them, not because he received lectures or him about them, not because he received lectures or read about them in books. He learned them because Antoninus lived them. As Epictetus

said, we should not talk about our philosophy, we should embody it. When Marcus himself would say, let us waste no more time arguing what a good man is like, be one, what he was saying then is be like my father, be like Antoninus. These lessons guided that powerful man through many trying times. So much so that when he reflected back on his life, he could recite them from memory, he could recall their power. And we are still recounting these lessons close to 2000 years later. The things you teach your kids will shape their future and their children's future and

the future of every person. So make sure you're setting that example. Make sure you're not talking about what a good person is like, what a good father is like. Make sure you are being one. If your children were to write down what they learned from you on their own deathbed, what would they write? Would they take you like Marcus did as their model? Would they worship your example? Would they sing your praises? If the answer is no, it is not too late. You still have the ability to shape that. You still have the ability to inspire them, to call them to greatness, so you must start today of all days. Thanks for listening to the Daily Stoke Podcast. And if you didn't know, I also have another podcast and Daily Email.

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