The Daily Stoic - Rich Roll - Ultra-Endurance Athlete On How to Be Healthy

Episode Date: November 21, 2020

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Listen to business wars on Amazon music or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, it's Ryan Holiday. Welcome to another episode of the Daily Stoke podcast. My guest today is one of my favorite people in the whole world. Rich Rool, endurance athlete, vegan, bestselling author, amazing podcaster, I've had an amazing time, some of the longest best conversations I've ever had in my life with Rich Rull over the years, at his amazing house in California.

Unfortunately, didn't get to do that one at his place. We had to do it remotely, which you're seeing right now, or you're listening right now. But Rich has a new book out called Voicing Change, to do it remotely, which you're seeing right now or you're listening right now. But Rich has a new book out called Voicing Change and it's sort of a best of greatest hits, book, coffee table book built around the podcast. I contributed a special essay to it, a bunch of awesome people I know did as well. Anytime Rich does something, you know, it's going to be thoughtful, you know, it's going

to be wise, you know, it's going to give you a different perspective on things. And I think most of all, it's going to be really inspiring. A couple years ago, I was teasing Rich on Instagram, like I worked out early and I said, take that ritual. And then he proceeded to, I think, swim 3600 yards three times further than I had swam just to rub it in my face. Ritual is a machine. He was the first person to do an Ironman on consecutive days of every single one of the Hawaiian Islands. And he did it as a vegan, which is just incredible. If you know anything about endurance athletes, he's really thoughtful. He's always compassionate. He always makes me think

his father, as it happens, is also an amazing writer. He wrote a brilliant book about George Marshall, which I've recommended on the reading list news that are so check that out as well. Richel's first book, Finding Ultra, is a long time favorite of mine as well. Took a bunch of notes on it. He's a great guy. So Rich and I talk about creating change, not so much in the political sense, but in oneself, in one's own life, as the Stoic say, Epic Teed is quote, Socrates, he says, some people delight in improving their farm, I delight improving myself. And I think that's really where change comes from, and that's where I think Rich is coming

from in this new book. So if you check out that new book at richroll.com, you can check out the podcast there, or anywhere you get your podcast. And you can also check out this on YouTube. You can check out our interviews on YouTube as well, which is awesome. And I'm going to have another episode with Rich, either before or after this. I'm not sure on the order. Rich was nice enough to interview me for LA Live Talks.

And so that will be coming soon. We did an event for Lives of the Stokes, which was supposed to be in person, but again was remote. So that's awesome in coming up as well. And I can't wait for you to listen to this, my interview with Ritual in coming soon, ritual interview and meet. And enjoy. So how you hold not? How's it been? Overall, I would say that I'm better than most. You know, I get hit with waves of, you know, mild despair from time to time. I don't like not being able to travel. I don't like not being able to plan adventures, the uncertainty of all of it, and then trying to

the uncertainty of all of it, and then trying to parent to teenage daughters through all of this has definitely challenged my dad toolkit. Yeah, and I feel like I have two sort of warning signs that friends may be going off the deep end. Number one is, is I hear they've started writing fiction. That's always something wrong. It's really getting bad if that's happening. And then the other is, are they growing a beard? And so I just thought I'd check in. Yeah, I started growing this beard the day that the NBA canceled its season.

In protest? Well, basically, all right, well, I'm in home now. Here's a moment, So let's do this. I'm now entering Jack Dorsey, Respeutin Territory, or David Letterman Territory. I don't know how much longer I can hang with this, but it's been kind of a fun little thing. It actually hit me this morning that my son,

my youngest son has now been a lot half of his life has been spent in some sort of quarantine pandemic. That's so crazy. What is his awareness around all of it? I mean, obviously the good news, bad news there is like a tap his life, but that means he's only 18 months old. But like he wasn't walking at the beginning and now he's walking. So it's just, it's sort of, it's so weird how long eight months is and then also how short it is and how much can happen within eight months. And when you're young, time, your relationship with time is different. Weeks and months can feel like years. I have a 13 year old daughter. And I think all the time about how this is impacting her.

I check in with her constantly. But I can't help but wonder five years from now, 10 years from now, how this experience is going to impact an entire generation of young people and how they interface with the world. Yeah, my wife was saying something she was like, they can't tell us that they're having a hard time because they're four and two, you know, they don't actually know that they're having a hard time. They obviously know.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Well, my teenage daughters have figured that part out. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Well, my teenage daughters have figured that part out. Yeah. They're not afraid to let me know how they're doing. Although I was talking to a college basketball coach and he was saying he was like, you know, how do I get them to understand? But you know, whatever, we're going back and forth about it. And I was like, you got to understand, like, I think it only been like three, four months of it at this point, at this point, but it was like, even this like three or four months was like two percent of their

entire life, like if you're a college basketball player right now, to take like, like a four months off or whatever it had been at that time. That's to, as you get older, you get more and more comfortable dealing with large amounts of time because you have large amounts of time. Like, it wasn't now that I have a four-year-old, like, other than college, I really haven't done very many things that lasted four years, you know? But as you get older, you have a better understanding of time, but the younger you are, the harder it is to wrap your head around, how long this has gone on. Yeah, 100%. I mean, I can't fathom the experience of the college athlete

where their whole life is, you know, in this funnel to this moment, and then it gets pulled out from underneath them. And there's just nothing you can do about it. Like the sense of powerlessness and the lack of control over your own personal destiny is unprecedented in our lifetimes. And I think the repercussions of this are going to be felt for decades to come in what way, you know, we're not sure right now.

But certainly it's profound for so many people. It's like we always underestimate the consequences of things in a long, long term. I feel like what we're going to really have trouble wrapping our heads around as we go forward is like how, how does a generation go through the world having been so utterly and completely failed from a leadership standpoint. Right? So like, let's say you're a college athlete and college athletics, as you know, are already morally complex, ethically fraught.

It's a complicated messed up world that you're lucky to get out of the line. And then how do you add to that? Like something like the big 10 looking at the data, cancelling, then seeing other people do it, and then getting pressure, and then deciding to reverse course. And then obviously it's, I mean, look at all the kids who've gotten six. And it's like, how are those kids gonna understand

what leadership looks like going forward when they've been so, they've seen such a lack of leadership in all facets of life in the last eight months. Yeah, I mean, I think that's a great point. I think that we've never seen this level of distrust in our institutions and disappointment in the leadership. And what does that mean going forward with a whole generation of people that don't have the kind of relationship to democratic institutionalism that we do? And how does that then play out

in terms of not only government, but corporate structure and just culture at large? I think it's massive. It would be interesting to look back into the historical record and track what the generation of young people who survived the 1918 pandemic ended up doing and how you know how that kind of informed how they lived their lives. Although I was thinking about the history too is I remember I listened to your episode with your dad and he was talking about how it was the aftermath of Watergate that sent

him to Washington and sort of shaped his understanding of the law. And so maybe the potential silver lining in all this is that from this colossal failure of leadership and moral leadership and just incompetence across the board. And I think you can say that, a, politically, what will come out of it is a strong sense of like, hey, nobody's coming to save us. This is gonna be like a real,

like I was looking at the super spreader event at the White House. And again, I think you can look at this non politically. One of the things that bothered me the most about it was actually not just the lack of mass and the lack of precautions and the arrogance and all that, but it was how old everyone was. Do you know what I mean?

It was just like, it was dangerous. And then you add on top of this that most of these people should have retired a very long time ago. And so maybe one of the upsides of all this is that a new generation of leaders steps forward into the breach. Well, certainly, I've never seen this level of activism in young people, I was too young in the 60s to have any relationship with what that must have been like. But I can just speak from personal experience, having a 13 year old daughter and how plugged in she is

to the issues of the day. And I think we're seeing that across the board, social media has been a tool in that regard as much as it is a distraction, kind of a dumpster fire. But, you know, we are seeing a level of engagement with young people at levels I've never seen before in my life. And I do think that that is a good thing. There's a sense of it's our time now. You know, we're frustrated.

This has been, you know, screwed up to, screwed up to an extent that is completely unfair. And we're going to now step in and take the reins. And I think that that is, that's what history is. And I think that that's a good thing and that we should welcome that. And so I was curious with the new book, when you're talking about change, are you thinking that kind of change, or are you thinking internal change, or is it both?

It's both, but I think all change begins with the self, kind of harkening to traditions e-stern. The change you want to see in the world begins with your relationship with yourself. And I think when we start from that place and try to you know, perfect that so that we can become the best version of who we are and you know, the most fully expressed authentic, grounded, capable, individual, then we are able to see the world more clearly through, you know, a more objective lens. And we become better, you know, better partners, better neighbors, better servants and better citizens. I was curious, what do you,

it's been a weird thing, like because you and I both know so many people in the health and wellness space and sort of self-improved and space, is it been interesting for you to sort of watch either from afar in your conversations with them, like sort of how they've dealt with the last eight months because I've sort of seen people go in a couple different directions.

Yeah. We've talked about this a little bit. I find this to be utterly fascinating. You know, the health and wellness space is something that I think germinated out of a more feminine sensibility, kind of taking care of yourself and your kids. And it's also born out of an alternative perspective on healthcare, like a nod to traditions ancient from Ayurveda to yoga to all of these breathing practices

that Wim Hof talks about. They all date back quite a long time. And the wellness space has been about kind of reconnecting with a lot of those traditions, which is interesting. And I think there's a lot to be gleaned from how those work in our modern culture. But what we've seen over the last year has been really interesting because there's a fracture within the community.

And a certain contingent of this community has gone full conspiracy mode. And I think that you could track that back. Like the antecedent of that, I think, is the anti-vax movement. Like this distrust of institutions that is part and parcel of an aspect of the health and wellness space has been kind of blown up and exacerbated mushroom clouding into all kinds of spurious theories about, everything from Dr. Fauci's relationship to Bill Gates to 5G to you name it and to see a lot of to you name it and to see a lot of, you know, friends of mine and seemingly intelligent grounded individuals embrace ideas that really aren't based in fact because of this predisposition

or this kind of distrust of institutions in general has been something I would have never predicted, but now seems to make sense, and I find utterly fascinating. To also say, as a blanket statement, most of the health and wellness space tends to lean left, but some of these ideas that are now percolating up are ideas that are more endemic to the alt-right movement and to see that health and wellness space move towards the alt-right and be embraced by the alt-right and be amplified by the alt-right is really kind of an interesting cultural experiment that's unfolding. What do you think it is? Because it struck me, it's sort of maybe three possibilities or more or some combination

therein. But it's one, hey, maybe these people aren't as smart as you think they are. Two, these people are a lot more mercenary than you think you are. They're looking at it algorithmically and going, hey, this will be better for my audience. And then the other, it struck me, this is probably the more sympathetic view, is that, hey, this will be better for my audience. And then the other, it struck me, this is probably the more sympathetic view, is that, hey, these people are under a lot of stress, their business is suffering, their life is suffering,

maybe they've lost someone, and they're just sort of disoriented and confused and have been, I don't know, manipulated or broken in some way, and that's what led them astray. What's your read on it? I mean, I think that there's a combination of all of those things.

And it's based on the individual and their experience. To be certain, there's a contingent of the health and wellness universe that understands that when they post something about the new cure to disease acts or the new supplement that's going to help you lose belly fat or increase your athletic performance, that those types of social posts are going to perform better. And we're in a world where the algorithm favors stuff that is exclamatory in that regard. And they're gonna get more traffic

and they're gonna get more business and they're gonna get more attention in our attention economy. So there's a built-in incentive for people to spread that kind of information. I also think that to your more cynical point, you know, I think there's certain individuals that have that perhaps aren't as mentally balanced as they could

be. There's a glee when they get the kind of attention that they know they're going to get when they post something controversial. Then I think there's very well-intentioned people who believe that what they're saying is correct because it's being supported by their new silo. And I think it bears repeating that we believe that we're less manipulatable than we actually are. And if you watch the social dilemma, I'm sure you have, and you're well versed in all

the things that Tristan Harris talks about, these tools have been weaponized to such an extent. And we have an algorithm that is favoring, pushing messages that lean towards that kind of outrageous material. And this is a virus much more potent and dangerous in many ways than the coronavirus because it's poisoning our minds. It's making us incapable of finding common ground with each other and it's causing an utter and complete breakdown in our ability to communicate with each other. And I think about that a lot and I'm deeply, deeply concerned about it.

I was thinking about that too. There's a great Marcus Aurelius quote, which he wrote during the plague, where he says, there's two kinds of plague. There's a plague that can affect your character and a plague that can affect your life. And being that, you know, the plague of his time could kill you, but what was really dangerous was what it could do to you as a person. And I feel like we almost have

these sort of three viruses going on right now, we have four. So you have the actual COVID-19 virus, which thankfully, although it's killed and I'm godly amount of people is as a relatively low death rate and seems mercifully to have spared young people most of all, the exact opposite of the 1918 pandemic. But the three I've been thinking about, I mean, think about writing it, I've been writing about it,

I'm curious what your thoughts are. So I'd say the number one virus is conspiratorial thinking. So this is plannedemic, this is Bill Gates, you know, this is all this nonsense. This is a, you know, a genetic weapon unleashed on us by the Chinese. But there seems to be this also this sort of indifference, right? Like you'd think if you were someone who was like, Hey, this is a virus given to us by the Chinese. Also, you'd be taking it very seriously. But somehow those those are not the same, right? It's like the anti-maskers also believe it's a biological weapon, right? It's like the anti-maskers also believe it's a biological weapon, right? It's like, those are, but you have this sort of

the callus indifference, right? That's like a different virus. Like, oh, I don't want this to affect my life. I have a wedding that I have, you know, I have a gender reveal that I wanna give. So obviously I shouldn't be affected. So first we have conspiratorial, then we have this sort of callous indifference. And then third, I think that I've seen this more

commonly in good people that I know is more of a sort of a magical thinking that like, oh, this will just magically go away by the summer or oh, well, it's important that it's important to me that my kids go to school. So I'm going to send them to school and obviously we'll be exempted because it's important to me. You know what I'm like? And again, I'm not making a statement on whether you should or shouldn't send your kids to school. But there seems to be a sort of fantasy world that some people live in where they're like,

oh, this is true and real. It just affects everybody but me and the party I'm throwing on a private island with my friends or the event I'm hosting on the lawn of the White House. Yeah. Well, I think a couple things. I mean, first of all, there's something uniquely American about all of this that perhaps we can trace back to our tradition of rugged individualism and don't tread on me and all of that kind of stuff. This idea that we're solely responsible for our future in this manifest destiny sort of way and government's role is to get out of the way so I can do what I want to do. And built into that is a lack of kind of communitarianism or sense of social responsibility to think about how our So, I think it's important to say that people are really afraid and people really are hurting.

And instead of being able to do something, I think that's the most important thing to do. And I think that's the most important thing to do. And I think that's the most important thing to do. And I think that's the most important thing to do. And I think that's the most. And I think on top of that, it's important to say that people are really afraid and people really are hurting. And institutions have let us down. And people with power have lied to us and tried to manipulate us.

And I think all of that goes into our psyche. And when we're in that panic state and we're not sure how to move forward or how we're going to pay the bills or if I'm going to have a job, unless you have a copious set of tools or some experience with personal development or a lifetime immersed in stoicism, chances are you're going to lash out and you're going to look for an enemy or somebody to be a receivership for your for your bile and your frustration and a virus doesn't really fit the bill. We can't see it. It's invisible. So we need an individual. So who's gonna be the bad guy here? And I think that creates an environment that

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but you haven't actually internalized it because if you really understood what you're saying right now, you would be a gas that the horrifying implications of either the remark or the decisions that you're making. It sort of struck me as like, what's the point of all of this reading and writing and watching these videos and working on this reading and writing and watching these videos and working on this, this self-improvement stuff, if when you are subjected to something like this, it makes you worse and not better. That's the thing, right? I mean, that's part of my whole thing with the whole self-help industry at large. And as somebody's been hosting a podcast for many years, I'm now on these lists with the publishing houses.

So I get all the galley's in the mail. And it's just unbelievable. Every week I'll get a dozen self-help books. And it makes you kind of callous to all of it. You're like, this is all bullshit. It's all nonsense. Of course, that's not true. Every single one of these books,

I'm sure, has wisdom in it that if applied is going to make your life better. But there is this gap between the information and the application of the information. And I think there's this sense that if you're reading these books that it's making you better and you're unconscious of the fact that you're not actually practicing any of the tools in the literature that you're consuming. It's the same thing when you scroll through Instagram or Twitter and you see a quote that inspires you and you get this little rush and then you feel like you've actually done something when you actually haven't done anything. So how have you been thinking about this in your own

life? I'm just sort of curious like how you felt like you've gotten better over the the interim period and where do you feel like you've maybe fallen short? That's a great question. I mean, I think I entered into this thinking I was incredibly well equipped to navigate all of it being, you know, fundamentally a pretty introvert introverted individual whose life that has been the nice part of it. It's like my dream is just to be left alone and like not have anyone bother me. So, you know, the, the quieting down of, you know, all the travel and the emails and the obligations and the phone calls. I was like, this is going to be great. I can sit in this container studio and I can write and I can do my thing and no one's going to bug me and I don't have to go to dinner parties and stuff. But what I've realized, you know, what are we in month seven or eight of this whole thing is that is that even though that is my, you know, my character, I miss human interaction, you know, I really do and it's made me appreciate that no matter how much you feel

like you're an island, that it's important as a human being to have connection with other people in the three-dimensional world. So that's been sort of a sobering revelation. Actually, I need people in my life. But I think I've done a pretty good job of practicing a principle that I think is fundamental to stoicism, but also to the 12 steps, this idea of trying to control the controllables and letting go of the rest, like detaching from outcomes, emotionally divorcing myself from expectations around how things are going to turn out. And I think that that principle is absolutely key in keeping you grounded in an era in which we can't make plans and we don't know what's going to happen.

So, I feel quite fit in that regard, like all of my training over the years is working out well. But I have been throwing curveballs as a parent. I help parent, I have two stepsons who are now 25 and 24. They're amazing kids, and they've moved back home at the beginning of quarantine, and they just spent a dream, and helping to parent them into adulthood was a learning experience, but it went pretty smoothly. It did not prepare me for the strange foreign genus of human being called the teenage girl.

That's been very destabilizing, trying to sort of surf the emotional vicissitudes and the kind of hormonal pangs of my daughters has been an incredible teacher because I will get triggered and then I'll react and we'll end up in some arguments and it's just everything goes off the rails and then I have to regroup and assess and try to do better the next time. And so that's why Mathis, my 16-year-old, she really is my guru right now because she's pushing me and testing me in ways

that I've never been tested before. You said no man is an island or whatever. Have you actually read that poem recently? No, I haven't. I'm gonna read it to you because I read it last night to my son. I've been reading poems to my son before bed. And I honestly, I feel like there's

no better poem for this moment. It's only like one stand, this I'll do it. It says, no man is an island entire of himself. Every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clot be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a prometary were, as well as any manner of thy friends or of thine own were, any man's death diminishes me because I am involved in mankind. And therefore, never send to know for whom the bell tolls, it tolls for thee. That's incredible. That is. I think our culture could use a heavy dose of that right now. I feel like we're proceeding in a way that is completely contradictory to that idea right now.

I would totally agree. I mean, I think that that line that hit me, it's a if any clawed washes away the the the whole is less. I think nothing has sat in me more and I think nothing has sat in me more and sat in me more when I've seen people who are fans of my stuff. So let's call it self identified still expressing it. But some idea of like most of these people would have died anyway. They were also they were already old, you know, they had pre-existing conditions of some, you know, any attempt to rationalize the immense tragedy of what's happened, I think of all the things that have caused me to lose my cool. It's not been not being able to travel, it's not been the money that I've lost,

it's not been the opportunities that I missed out on. It's watching regular human being say something so shitty. I think it's fear, you know, I think people are afraid and they're worried about how they're going to get theirs, right? And that's what's so disappointing. It's like, you know, we're all in this together. We're all suffering to some extent, some more than others. But that lashing out, you know, comes from this idea that we live in a zero-sum game and the pie is

limited and somebody else is going to get my slice. And I need to do something about that. But because they're afraid, and I think the only way it is upsetting, and I share that with you, but my practice has been to try to go behind the, you know, what is the layer behind that? Like what's motivating that statement? What is going on with that individual that has put them in that frame of mind? And the more I can listen more and talk less and understand that, you know, every man is right from his point of view, I'm able to connect with

a little bit of compassion, and I do that selfishly, selfishly, because I just don't want to walk around angry, frustrated, and resentful, because that's, you know, denigrating the quality of my day. Yeah, I think even your idea that that's coming from a place of fear and worried about how they're going to get theirs is itself somewhat of a compassionate act? And I mean, I get it, right? It's like, it's very easy to say, somebody shouldn't be doing X, Y, or Z. And then you get a speaking offer

or you get a really cool opportunity to go do something with someone. And now, all of a sudden, you're having to sacrifice something in a way that, you know, it's very easy for you to say other people should sacrifice. It's hard to go, I'm going to miss out. I was, I was telling you about a gig I got offered and it was like, I was like, look, I'll do it if there's rapid testing at the door. If everyone wears masks, you know, these things and they were like, they came back and they said,

well, we're not gonna do like the testing, but we'll pay you more money. And it was like, okay, so it's good for me. It's better for me, but I have to, it has to do the exact opposite of what you're saying. We can very naturally go through the world, zero sum, and it's much harder to think, okay, I'm gonna actually sacrifice.

I'm not gonna get something that's good for me because I think it would be bad for other people. And there's a line from James Stockton, he says, the flip side of what's in it for me has to be, I am my brother's keeper. And so you have to be able to think like, hey, what if everyone did what I'm about to be, I am my brother's keeper. And so you have to be able to think like, hey, if I do, what if everyone did what I'm about to do, what would the implications of that be?

Yeah, it's a perfect test case, right? For you to practice all these things that you talk about, and are you going to be able to fulfill your promise to yourself and live that life, right? It's easy when it's academic, it's difficult when they're dangling a big paycheck in front of you. I was thinking more about this health and wellness thing. I think you and I have talked about it offline, but I thought it might be interesting to talk about, especially if your book is about change. I feel like the other thing that I've seen become really common in our community

among people who are mutual friends with as well. And I'm not talking about anyone specific. It's a trend that I'm talking about. But there also seems to be this idea of sort of meditation and wisdom and learning and all of that. That almost seems to have become a bit passe with people. And now the magical way to insight is with this psychedelic or that psychedelic or this psychedelic enhanced therapy for that one.

Curious what you think as a sober guy, what's your reaction to that? Because it tends to be much more, I think in your world of the sort of Eastern stuff more than my world as well. Yeah. It's fascinating.

I would say first and foremost, somebody who's been in recovery for a very long time, I'm recovering alcoholic, when somebody tells me the, you know, my spiritual evolution can be achieved through a mind-altering substance. My immediate response is, I'm all in on that. That's exactly what my alcoholism wants to feed itself, right? So there's a huge part of me that just wants to go explore that to the hilt. But I know well enough that that is not in my best interest. At the same time, I acknowledge that there's amazing science being performed right now

in the world of psychedelics. They're seeing positive impacts on people's depression and PTSD, et cetera. So there is, you know, I'm not going to dismiss it. I'm just not sure it's correct for me. And I think it's important for myself and for anybody who's listening to understand that that journey towards self-connection, that path to self-actualization, your own personal evolution is not something that can be shortcut, and you shouldn't be looking for shortcuts. It's only through weathering obstacles and grappling with difficulties and making mistakes that we truly learn who we are and as a consequence grow. But it's tricky, like I've got a very good friend,

somebody who's also been sober a very long time who recently went to one of these labs and did a psilocybin experiment with like the top got you scientist in this field. And he basically said, there was before and now there's after. And I can't put in words how profound it was. And you've got to do this. Right. So that rents a lot of space in my mind because this isn't somebody who's, you know, you know, flying down to South America all the time to sit with shamans. This is a guy who's been in 12-step for decades.

That messes me up. I want to approach it from a perspective of first principles with a learner's mind. I haven't said absolutely no to it, but I'm not the guy who's going to go on Iowaska trips like I'm on my own journey and I just don't think that that would be in service to me and I also think not to you know spin things too mystically, but when you're taking in a really powerful mind altering substance, you've got to be really careful like if you're not if you're not

substance, you've got to be really careful. Like if you're not emotionally fit, that can really mess you up. And I've seen it mess up a lot of other people. And even though it's not technically an addictive substance, I also have friends that are doing it all the time. Like I know one guy who does an ayahuasca trip like almost every week, he did like 50 ayahuasca trips in a year.

And I'm like, you're not enlightened yet. So what is this doing for you? He calls it the work, right? And I'm like, well, I'm gonna pursue the work in a different manner. In a different manner. I think it's a very human tendency to think that enlightenment or wisdom

is a place that you arrive at. And so that you can do a shortcut or that you can get it. You know what I mean? Like the idea that there's this kind of work and there's that kind of work. And this is just a more technologically advanced form of it or something. It strikes me as maybe missing the point a little bit as well.

Like it's supposed to take a long time and be a lifelong process because it's not a thing that you get. Right. The idea that it can be purchased is anathema to the very idea itself. Was it the Buddha who said something like what he was asked, what happens if and when you become enlightened? Like chop wood, you know, carry water, then you become enlightened. Then what? You chop wood and you carry water.

Like this is, it's not, you don't arrive at the bodhi tree. You continue to live your life. And maybe this is my, your point about sort of being leery from a sober perspective. I think also my, my sort of cynicism kicks in where it's like whenever I see something become very trendy with a group of people who have also been on different bandwaggins that didn't work out, I'm very suspicious. You know what I mean? It's like a few months ago these were the same

people telling this polyamory was the future and then this was the future and then this was the future and it's it reminds me of this thing. Santaica talks about sort of people who flee from place to place looking for enlightenment or happiness. He says it's like the person who thinks that flipping over their pillow is gonna finally make them comfortable and let them sleep. And so I'm suspicious too that like the people

who are shouting that this is the next big thing, a couple months ago or years ago, were convinced some other thing was the next big thing. In A, it's called pulling a geographic. And the geographic can be emotional or mental as you know, as well as physical. The idea that you know, I'm going to find solace or the answers that I seek or peace of mind if I go to this place or I adopt this habit. And what it overlooks is that you're bringing yourself with you and all of your baggage and your problems. So it's not your geographic location or this new biohack that's going to do the trick. Fundamentally, it's the heavy lifting of really facing yourself in the most objective way possible and grappling with your character defects,

taking inventory, doing all the work that's required so that you can look people on the eye and live a life of integrity and purpose. and live a life of integrity and purpose. I think Epicureus said, thus every man flees himself. And I think that you can do it mentally, figuratively, or you can do it literally, but it's all some form of the same escape. Yeah, I mean, isn't that what drug addiction is

in certain respects? Like you're running away from yourself because you're so uncomfortable with who you are. But it's also a bit of a spiritual seeking thing because you're trying to find answers, you're trying to find comfort, you're doing it in a very unhealthy way. But there is that component of like trying to get out of yourself to find a solution to what ails you. Yeah, it's like I empathize with it and then I'm suspicious of it at the same time. The older you get, you have more of a 10,000 foot view on all of these trends because you've weathered a lot of them and you've seen them come and go. And you've seen the people who have

stayed true to what their core philosophy is. And then you see the people that blow in the wind and and align themselves whatever the whatever the new thing is and it goes back to what we were talking about originally which is the difference between somebody who's really carrying you know a message that is meaningful versus the person who's trying to get the clicks or trying to play the attention game. Yeah, it's like, I think, and maybe this is a silly way to think about it, but I sort of go, when in all of history has someone come back and said, I have the medical solution to this spiritual or psychological issue and it not blown up horribly in our faces. Yeah, never, right? But the human mind is wired to desire that.

There's something about that that's so compelling and appealing. And I think it's also important to point out that all of these things that are happening right now are happening against a backdrop in which we've lost appreciation for nuance, right? Like we're in a black and white clickbait world. Everybody has to align their views with one particular tribe, and it's not okay to have complex ideas that span the spectrum. And so the simpler solutions are the ones that people are going to gravitate towards, because not only can they understand that, but ultimately they're easier to communicate and that's why they're getting traction. Well, and to go to your point earlier about that sort of health and wellness space, it's like if you built your brand, your identity on going, hey, everyone's telling, like in your case,

it's veganism, it's like, hey, everything, you know, the food industries are telling you about health is totally wrong. And you're right. In that case, like you have a lot of evidence that, hey, we are being deceived. You know, the truth is being kept from us. It makes you a lot more susceptible to think that you found a magical solution or a hidden truth or uncovered a secret that is being kept. It's like when leadership in science and in politics and in culture and in spirituality have so grievously failed us,

it drives people to search underground solutions to these problems. And I think that's part of where we are right now as well. Yeah, I mean, I think you just nailed it because there have been lies propagated. And when you, if you have a personal experience where you have somewhat of an epiphany about that, does that not make you more susceptible to the next piece of information being untruthful, right? And that's why it's complicated.

It's not black or white because there are vested interests that profit from you being confused about whether it's health and fitness or politics or what have you. But the trick is trying to remain grounded and objective enough so that you still become a reliable, you know, barometer of things that are true versus partisan versus complete outright, unbased conspiracy theory. I wanted to talk to you about the new book a little bit. One, what was, what we threw the decision to self publish. That's fascinating and interesting and something I've been kicking around a little bit myself too. So this new book is called Voicing Change.

And it's basically, you know, wisdom and inspiration from the podcast. This podcast that I've been doing for over eight years now, I've interviewed 550 plus people at this point spend thousands of hours talking to people, you know, you've been on four times I think. No, I was just thinking I was just doing the math as you were saying that if you have 500 guests I think each one of the episodes I've done is almost two or three hours that really is thousands of hours that you spend on these conversations. I mean, an unbelievable amount of time spent, in deep reflective conversation with people that I respect, people that I want to learn from, and I wanted to be able to canonize that a little bit, to, basically to respect all these amazing individuals

and the time that they've gifted me, but also as a thank you to the audience as well to have kind of a keepsake. And that's why it's in kind of a coffee book form. You can put it out on a table. It looks beautiful. We have amazing photographs. Your display is wonderful and you contributed an essay. So thank you for that. So that you can read, you know, not everybody listens to every episode, they can, you know, discover new people or, or, or, you know, share it with their friends. And, you know, I wanted to package it in a really aesthetically pleasing way. With that, of course, it becomes an expensive book, right? It's tons of photographs. And, and I just thought, this is not the kind of book that a publisher is going to be able to justify giving me the kind of advance that I would demand for something like this. Like financially, it doesn't make a lot of sense for them. Also, this is something that could turn into a series.

Like I could put one of these out every single year. And I just thought it would be a cool experiment to try to do this ourselves and control it, soup to nuts. So we're doing that. We created the whole thing in-house. It is really, I'm super proud of it. It really is a beautiful book. And we're selling it exclusively through our website.

And now we're starting to figure out what the challenge is without our, because we want to ship globally. But of course, shipping is crazy expensive. And if we're not going to put it on Amazon who takes 40% of the revenue, then we're basically placing that burden on the consumer who's so acclimated to free shipping

or significantly reduce shipping costs. So now it becomes a customer service thing. Like people are like, you gotta be kidding me, it costs $30 a ship to this book. And it's like, well, it is what it is. Like you're glad that we're not on Amazon. But this is the true financial picture of what it means

to create a product and control it yourself. So we're in the early stages of it so far. I'm super thrilled. And the idea of having a book out in the world where there isn't any kind of middleman involved is pretty cool, but you do have to take responsibility for all the little things and you become aware of all the things that the publisher handles for you. But ultimately, there is a different sense of satisfaction with it.

We haven't even, we start shipping on November 10th, but we've already broken even on our first printing. And the idea that like, you know, years from now, you're not going to be making one dollar on your book, but you're actually going to be making, you know, what you should be getting paid for your book that you created is a cool thing. So I'll keep you posted. But it is really interesting, because I've been sort of experimenting with some of that stuff with Daily Stilk and it's like, one, I think there's, there's something really important and powerful about like actually figuring out how the whole process works. If you said from soup to nuts, like actually understanding, like, oh, these are all the different phases of it. I think that's really interesting. And then yeah, the economics are fascinating too. You're like, so I was, it's like, okay, so I've sold roughly three million books. Let's say that's $15 a book, like somebody made $45 million. But it wasn't me, you know. Right. Right. Not even close, right? And you're like, oh, I see why Penguin Random House has a building in Manhattan, you know?

Right. And, and, and, but you also realize, as you said, let's like, oh, there's a lot, there was a lot of people taking care of stuff for me that I was not aware of, customer service being the most uh, significant, uh, of, of those obstacles. And of course, your book is actually underwriting a lot of other books at Penguin Random House

because it's the rare book that breaks out in that kind of way. Most books don't earn out their advances or are not profitable. So for every obstacles the way or daily stoic, there's 30 books that they have to, you know, pay for. So you're paying for those people. When I think anytime you have a direct connection with your audience, that's really powerful too.

Like the idea, even that it's like, you sort of realize it's like, oh, I like, and I wrote the book then I sold it to a publisher and then that publisher sold it to, in some cases, a sub publisher or who then sold it to a bookstore, who then sold it to a customer, you're like, whoa, there's a lot of intermediaries between me and the customer. And that's not to say, that's the problem with that is not just that each one of those people is taking a piece of it. It's just you realize you're very alienated from the people that you're actually making stuff for. And, and I think the more connected you are, and that's what's so great about podcasts is that like, it's like you and I recording this and sure it'll be edited by someone. But then it goes like directly to the people who are hearing

it, you know, as these words are coming out of my mouth. And that's like a really special thing. Yeah, it's super cool and powerful. And for somebody like yourself who has such a vast audience and people that are, you know, so loyal to the things that you talk about, it would be interesting for you to take a stab at a self-published book to see what that looks like. Like how I think when you're actually asking somebody to buy something, that's the true test of just how engaged that community is, and we're learning that we have a super-engaged community, and it's making me rethink like, well, we can just do this ourselves. Do we really need anybody else

involved here? And that's not to say that this was, you know, this book was a massive undertit. It was a team of people. Like, I, I'm able at this point to create some infrastructure around this because you're really running a side business. It's almost like a whole new thing that, you know, requires a lot of time and attention. And for somebody like yourself, you have to balance that against your sensibility, which is like, I just want to write books and move on to the next book, and I'll let all these other people handle that. And I'll happily take that bargain.

So I'm not making $45 million, but I'm making a good amount. And I can just focus on doing the thing that I do best. Although when you express it that way, it doesn't sound like a great bargain. You make the 45 million. I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll, I said, they were like, well, that math doesn't really make sense to us. We don't want to do an addition that's going to sell a few thousand copies a year. And I said, well, can I just buy the rights back

to this addition of my own book? And they said, sure. And we did it. And it's like, it was incredible to go like, I made this. And I sold it directly to people who wanted it. I didn't have to sell it for half price to someone else who then marked it up to X. It's like that's so inefficient. And there's just something I think special

about making something. That's why platforms like Etsy are powerful. That's why co-ops are cool. Anytime you're like directly going to the audience, it's cool. And I think we're really still in the infancy of all of this, right? Like we're, you know, both making a living, you know, essentially in certain respects, like by dent of the internet, but we're at the starting gate of all of this. Like what does this

look like in 10 years, in 15 years, in 20 years? And I think we're just going to see more and more people realizing, you know, to kind of, you know, coin what James Altature talks about all the time, like this choose yourself economy where a lot of these gatekeepers and middle people were starting to realize like, hey, maybe we don't need them as much as we thought that we did. And I think psychologically that shifts your perspective to the creation process because you're no longer seeking permission you're just more in that creative place of purity

But I think this goes to the idea in the book which is like That requires some change it requires one to undergo a certain change to be in a position to do that especially if Up until this point your entire career has been getting permission, working with gatekeepers, you know, doing it through the traditional system. Like, you have to go, no, I'm going to do it a totally different way. Yeah, and there is no right or wrong, I should say. Like, I've done it the other way also, and with our first cookbook, the Plant Power Way, like we created that in-house as well,

and the idea was we were gonna self-publish it. But at the last minute, after it was essentially done, I was like, I gotta, I have to see, how the marketplace is gonna value this, and they valued it highly. And we made the decision to do it the traditional way, also because it was the first time my wife's name was going to end up on a book.

And I just thought it would be better to help legitimize her to go that route initially rather than try to do it the other way around. And I'm glad we did it that way. We would have made more money if we had self-published it, but that book would not have made its way into the hands of as many people, which was much more important to me at that time.

Yeah, I like the idea too. I think it's a little bit more ancient. You know, it's like part of what our sort of mass culture has become is like that you have to have a huge audience that you have to reach so many, many, many people. And like the economy of scale is it works, but it actually doesn't work that well for the individual. Because it's sort of a winner take all kind of a thing. The idea of like, hey, we broke even on this book selling probably, you probably

only had to sell a few hundred copies to break even on it. I think that's what's been cool about Daily Stalkings on the products we've done is you're playing at a smaller scale. So you're able to make something much more niche, but therefore much more valuable in some ways because it doesn't have to please everyone and it doesn't have to be palatable for a mass audience. Yeah, I mean, that's been the really refreshing aspect of of this latest book. I mean, I think when you put a book out and you know this as well as anyone, there's this sort of perversion that occurs. Like it has to, you know, the pre-order campaign has to,

you know, you got to sell all these books in the pre-order window because that's what dictates bookseller orders and all of these lists that we put all this importance on. And so much of it is bullshit. And that system is gained so often by people who have means that it's become meaningless. And with this book, to opt out of all of that is so refreshing. It's like, I don't care. Preorder order, like, I don't care. Like, and I'm not trying to sell this book to a billion people. Like, I just want

to get it to the people who care about what I'm doing. And I'm super awesome with that. It doesn't have to be anything beyond that. And to kind of let go of those expectations, or that I should say the pressure that you place upon yourself as an author, and how the book is going to be not only received, but perceived by the ecosystem that cares about publishing to just opt out of that completely has been really nice. When you brought up the social dilemma earlier, I thought it was a couple months ago, Instagram made that decision to take away likes

from posts, although weirdly for us, like people with the blue check, they didn't do it. So we're still suffering under the tyranny of the numbers, but I think one of the things that I found about doing the leather bound edition or doing the other products I was sold is that because you're handling the business side of it

and it's not public, a lot of the vanity comes away because you're like, it's like when I put this up on YouTube, I'm gonna see how many views it does. And because I can see how many views it does, naturally you want it to be as many as possible. But if it was a private video, or somehow a site that didn't track views, that thought would never occur to you

and you would only think, is this good? Have the people that I showed it to said that they appreciated it, yes or no? And in a weird way, podcasts are the same way. Although there are download numbers for podcasts, I wonder if one of the reasons the medium has thrived is that nobody really knows how anyone else is doing and the numbers are so delayed and not public,

you're not tracking it, you're just like, was it a good episode or not? Yeah, that's been really refreshing. I mean, there are algorithms in like rankings and all that kind of stuff, but they can't even agree upon what a listen is. It's like there's this whole war going on and podcasting about what constitutes

a download or a stream. So there isn't even any agreement, which is kind of nice too, because it's like, I don't wanna care about that. All I wanna do is try to have a present authentic experience, make it as good as I can, and then I put it on the internet. But I put mine up on YouTube too,

so not only are you seeing that, and then you know, want it to be a certain way, or you want it to have, you know, you want it to get traction, everybody else can see it, right? So then they're making that decision about your inherent value based upon the amount of attention that you're getting. And I think that that's, you know, it's really damaging to culture. Yeah, it's inherently corruptive. It's like you put a number on it and it suddenly becomes less good. Like I just imagine,

because this is where I thought we'd wrap up as I was thinking about your idea of like, a sort of a book about these conversations. It's like the greatest conversationalist and history of Socrates, imagine what Socrates' conversations would have been if you also had this other eye towards how they're performing. Well, that would require application

of the stoic principles to divorce yourself from caring about that kind of stuff, right? But we're all human beings. And, you know, it's almost refreshing to hear you say that you, you know, struggle, you know, with how to interact with this attention economy and do it in a healthy way. Because it's why I kind of have just an an abstinence policy about it, where it's like most of the numbers are just kept from me in one form or another. And so I don't know. And then I think it's like whenever you make a habit of checking, it's when you get into trouble, there used to be a website called novel rank. And you would put in the

ISBN of your book. And it would tell you not just how it's doing in the US, but all the different translations on all the different Amazon's at the same time. And maybe like five years ago, it closed like the guy who made the website closed. And I swear this guy gave me like, cumulatively hours, days of my life back because now that it doesn't exist, that energy goes somewhere else. I can't check it anymore. Right. Yeah. You're much better off, right? It's difficult, man. You know, I think that I have found myself, I wouldn't say editing myself, but more self-conscious in podcasts over maybe the last six months, then I ever remember in the past.

I don't know whether that's a function of this hair trigger climate that we're in right now, this fear of like, I don't want to say the thing that's going to make people mad. I think it tracks back to this fear around audience reaction. And so the work that I'm doing right now is to completely divorce myself from all comments. Like, I don't want any of that interfering with my thought process. Like, I want to be able to speak authentically.

I want to be able to speak with conviction. And I can't, in the minute I start thinking about like, how is this going to land with conviction. And I can't, the minute I start thinking about, how is this going to land with a certain individual, your history, right? Like the whole value of what I'm trying to do becomes denigrated as a result of that process. And I think it's because of this infection of vitriol and acrimony that is making nuanced conversation

so difficult right now. All you have to do is look at your comment section or what people say in response to whatever Sam Harris decides to tweak that day or anything like that. You realize it's really a sewer out there and that stuff will mess with you psychologically if you're not really careful and create healthy boundaries around it. No, I think you've got to put up boundaries there. For me, the boundary I have to work on more, I'd be curious what you think is it's like, if I, like, let's say I do look at the numbers for something, usually I'm just pretty pleased.

I'm like, oh, wow, people care. This is great. It's when you, that, it's, when those numbers are relative to someone else, that's when you get in trouble. So it's like, if you look and you're like, oh, hey, you know, 200,000 people listen to this interview, they're like, that's amazing. I would have killed for that five years ago.

The problem is then you see in the rankings, somebody else did 200,000 in one, and now all of a sudden, it's not good enough, right? And so I think, I think as a competitive person, one of the things you almost have to do in creative pursuits is almost put those like horse blinders on so you don't actually know who and what you're competing with

because it doesn't take you to a good place. No, it never does. And it never ends either. And it doesn't matter how well you do because somebody else is out there doing better and you will continually be measuring yourself up against that individual on this habit trail. Like I think I've heard you talk about this. Maybe it was with James Altature about the Forbes list, right? Like these billionaires who just couldn't possibly spend all the money that they have, you know, get irate when one individual is above them

and the top 10, you know, richest people in the world. Like it's utter insanity, and it's, you know, that makes for an easy example to illustrate how preposterous the whole thing is, but then we have to reflect back on ourselves and realize that we're all doing some version of that every single day. Yeah, right. It doesn't matter if you're in the 1% or the 0.01% or the 10%, you're judging yourself

compared to the other people. And there's that there's that theater Roosevelt quote, that comparison is the thief of joy, which I think is about as beautifully as it could possibly be expressed. Yeah. And also the the the enemy of of creative expression, because if you're doing it from a place of trying to measure up against someone else other than from, you know, a purity of heart, it's not going to be good anyway. Right. It's I think about it is, are you doing it from a place of still a fullness or a place of emptiness? And the fullness is where you want to be coming from. The sense of enough. And in order to do that, you have to live your life,

which means you gotta put the phone down and go outside and interact with the world. Exactly. Rich, thanks so much. This was amazing. Thank you, I appreciate it, thanks Ryan. Don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on iTunes or your favorite podcast app. And if you don't get the daily stoke email, go to dailystoke.com slash email.

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