The Daily Stoic - The Self-Discipline of Running | Matt Choi

Episode Date: May 29, 2024

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I can only do these sort of smaller, this smaller loop near my house because I got to worry about some not so nice dogs on my street that are not always secured in the morning, but I did about five miles. So I did my miles. And the reason I had to do it super early this morning is because I'm flying, I'm doing a talk in Vancouver tomorrow. So I'll get up probably early then do that run before I go on stage. It's part of my ritual, it's part of my life.

It's an active daily discipline. Like if I don't do it, I feel something about myself. If I don't do it, I not just feel physically different, but I feel mentally different, right? Running is where I sort of regulate my emotions. It's where I plan out my day. It's where I sort through the kinds of things that are going on in my life. And it's a habit, it's a routine.

I ran in middle school. I ran track and cross country in high school. I really got into running though, I would say voluntarily in college. And it's been part of my routine in life, basically ever since. It's not always running like this weekend, I ran and rode my bike.

Last week I got a couple of good swims in. You know, who knows if I land in Vancouver tonight, I get to the hotel and it's got an amazing pool, I always throw goggles in my bag, maybe I'll swim instead. But I'm always doing some sort of hard physical thing every single day. And I think that's a big part of Stoke philosophy. I've said this quote many, many times from Seneca,

the idea that we treat the body rigorously so that it's not disobedient to the mind. And that's what I talk about in today's episode with Matt Choi. Matt's an entrepreneur, a fitness enthusiast. He was a former D1 football player who was working as a personal trainer and he got really into running

and he's been doing all these interesting physical challenges ever since, I think, last year or the year before, he did a marathon every month for 12 months. He ran the length of South Korea and he's just got an awesome social media presence. He's a fun guy to follow. I got connected to him

because he tagged some Daily Stoic stuff. I think he posts or talks about the Daily Stoic entry for the day almost every single day, which I've always been flattered to see. So I had him drive out from Austin to the Painted Porch here in Bastrop, Texas. And we talked about discipline, talked about comparison. We talked about the joys of running, the hard parts about running, and just trying to make it in the world to do difficult things that challenge us while still remaining, as the Stoics say, in command of oneself. I think that's the flip side of what I'm talking about. The discipline I have about running is great, but am I free to not do it?

Right? And unfortunately, that's less true sometimes than I would like it to be. And I thought Matt had some interesting things to say about that. It's funny. So I had Matt Choi come to Bastrop, Texas here at the Painted Porch to do the interview. Funny little side note, we go in and we're interviewing.

We have a nice conversation. Then I bring him back out to show him some books in the bookstore and who walks in, but the one and only Chris Bosch who was in town and wanted to say hi. So you'd never know who's gonna pop in at the Painted Porch.ch who was in town and wanted to say hi. So you never know who's gonna pop in at the painted porch. I thought that was a really cool experience. Chris and I talked books. Chris and I actually did a

book together which I always recommend to people called Letters to a Young Athlete because he had been talking about the ideas in the obstacleless way which one of his coaches had given him. So anyways it's a great conversation. So here is my interview with Matt Choi. You can follow him on Instagram at Matt Choi, underscore six on TikTok he's Matt Choi six and on YouTube he's at Matt Choi. Also, I'll link to all those in today's show notes and I hope you enjoy this episode.

So you did what you did 12 marathons in 12 months? Last year. So you did what? You did 12 marathons in 12 months? Last year. Are you a streak guy? Like are you like- That's not going anymore. No, no, but do you know what I mean? Like when you have a streak and you're like, I got to keep this thing.

I like, I have trouble breaking streaks when they're positive. Fair. I think part of me actually last year finishing that cause I finished the last one on the last day of the year. Oh. And part of that was I was kind of dealing with some injuries after I had a trip in Korea. Yeah.

So I was in my head, I was like, man, I'd rather like, I don't want to risk injury. So I kind of was like, do I need to do it? But then part of it was like, yo, you said you were gonna do 12 months, 12 months, 12 months. I was like, damn, I did it. So that is, I think that's something I struggle with also.

Like you have to push past pain, I was like, damn, I did it. So that is, I think that's something I struggle with also. You have to push past pain, but you're not supposed to push past injuries, right? It's a tough balance. Yes, how do you think about that? It's funny, because I've recently, I'm dealing with injury. I pulled my hamstring four weeks ago and I pulled out of running at the Speed Project,

which is the LA to Las Vegas run. And that was just a tough decision, but I just knew my body wasn't ready to run. I could barely run seven minute miles. I'm like, it's just gonna make it worse. I think how I think about it is just showing myself grace and realizing that I could try to push through this, but it's just gonna make it worse.

And now I'm trying to run in Boston and London. I wouldn't be able to feel good going into these races. So I think it's just sacrifice a little bit of like, what's like the whole- But how do you know? You said you knew, how do you know? I could, like, it was painful to run one mile. Okay.

And like the goal of Speed Project is you're trying to run 300 miles as fast as possible, right? It's like, I'm like, I'm gonna let my team down. It's like a, it's like a six person team and you're rotating in every couple of miles and you're running pretty fast. So I just, I knew that I wasn't physically there. Mentally I could like break through and like try to do it,

but it was just like a, it was like a gut feeling almost. I don't know. Cause it's like, every run starts painfully. Do you know what I mean? Like get it, doing anything is like, it's easier to not do stuff than to do stuff, right? So you have to have this kind of willpower that makes you push through the resistance

or the hesitation or the aches and pains. And then I think it's hard to then know, like that's directionally helpful, but then how do you know when you're pushing through into real injury? Yeah. Yeah. It's a hard balance. It is.

I think honestly knowing your body and putting yourself through discomfort can get you to understand it a little bit better for anyone, right? It's like, I know what it feels like to run on a bad hamstring through college football, but then to do that through running, it's like, it feels a little different

because actually in running, you don't have to sprint. You're just kind of running at a steady pace. Yeah, yeah. You can kind of compensate for it. 100%. But like, if you try to sprint and you're trying to go get a touchdown, like you're gonna be compromised.

In running to your point, like there's ways to kind of mitigate it, change your form, change your gait, where you can maybe handle it. I honestly thought about it too. It's like, could I have run the Speed Project? Like probably. Yeah.

I probably wouldn't feel like good though going into Boston and then running London six days later. So I had to kind of make like a business decision on like, which one do I want to suffer for? I was talking to this Olympic mountain bike racer named Kate Courtney, I think, and she was saying her coach said to her once, do you want to be fast now or fast later? And I kind of think about that a lot. You know what he's saying? It's like, cause they're like,

hey, today's like a slow workout. And you're like, fuck that. Like, yeah. And he's like, do you want to be like fast now or do you want to be fast in the Olympics? Like when it matters. Yeah, yeah. I love that.

No, I think it's a, part of that is like having coaches that can kind of like know when to pull you back. Yeah. And I think as athletes at times, it's like, you always want to be on the go and you think that like every day has to be maximized where sometimes the maximization is actually slowing down and going at an easier effort so your body could recover.

And I don't know, I think going through injuries, I've learned that also like that's like, it's a balance that you have to play. That's the tricky part of discipline. Cause discipline for most people is just like doing the thing. Yes. And, or doing the thing longer or harder, faster, whatever. Or doing it, yeah, at all.

Like for writing, it's like, you gotta put your ass in the chair and do the thing. Yeah. But then there's this other element of discipline, which is more about balance, more about sustainability, more about recovery, more about not forcing it. Like the unsexy thing. Yeah, yeah, yeah, the discipline of the discipline.

I think Ryan, that's like, it's funny you say that because so many people were like, Matt, they were giving me like my flowers of saying like, I'm glad that you pulled out of the race because it was like, yeah, I feel like online people always like, dude, how do you do all these things? How do you like not get hurt, all this stuff? And like, at the end there, I'm human as well. So it's like, are always like, dude, how do you do all these things? How do you like not get hurt? All this stuff.

And like at the end of it, I'm human as well. So it's like in that moment, like internally, did I want to do it? Of course. Yeah. Externally, I kind of knew that it wasn't gonna be the best thing. So I kind of was like, let me just pull out of it and also show up in a positive way for my team.

Cause I felt like I brought these people together. I'm like, it's kind of like my duty to kind of still be like the glue of it, even though I wasn't running it and showing up as best that I could in that way. Yeah, I think people don't think about what, there's not much empathy from like fans, followers, et cetera. Like I think the culture is changing a little bit,

but I don't think, like I remember when, remember when like Simone Biles pulled out of the Olympics and all these people were like, she's soft, it's weak, all these like, and you're like, I don't think you understand how fucking hard that must have been. Like if you're a competitor, if you're like, I don't think you understand how fucking hard that must have been. Like if you're a competitor, if you're like world-class or something,

you never wanna not do it. I remember Robert Greene is my writing mentor. He had this stroke before one of his books came out. And I was talking to his publisher. I was like, you guys gotta, you gotta push this book. Like you gotta push it. You can't force this guy to do marketing. And they were like, well, we're gonna give him the choice. And I was like, if you give him the choice, of course,

he's going to choose to do it. You know, like, this is what competitors, like driven, ambitious people do. They always do the thing, you know? And so when, I think it's really important when you see people have, like treat themselves with grace or kindness or like decide to do the actually harder thing to like not do it, when you're like, when people on the sidelines question that or impugn the motives of that, I don't think they realize what a fucked up signal they are sending.

Cause it was already so hard to be like, hey, I'm gonna sit out a competition and watch other people do a thing that I probably could still win or compete in or might not have other shots at. Like that's just, it's hard to turn that muscle off. I agree. And when you're at the highest stage

and like that's your reputation, that's your identity, that's how you make a living. It's, I can only imagine like that's a challenging spot. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. It's challenging. Yeah, and. I can only imagine, that's a challenging spot. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. It's challenging. Yeah, and so I think good organizations, good cultures, and then good fan bases, they have to be able to encourage that impulse.

If you want the person to be around for a while, you know what I mean? I mean, Goggins has changed my life, mentally. I think some of the things I disagree with, Goggins' message is that framework around, just push through all of that and just do it. Where like for most people,

like it's actually not conducive for your own health. Because I mean, if you even look at David, like he's gone through so many injuries that have set him back and he still finds ways to be resilient. But like for the regular person, it's not ideal to push through some stress fractures and broken bones.

Like it's just not, it's not smart. Yeah, I mean, look, if you had to, you know, like it, sure, but you don't have to. And ideally I think about running as something I wanna do my whole life. I think about writing as something I wanna do my whole life. So if I'm making short-term decisions

that come at a long-term cost, like that's actually really stupid. Yeah. That's tough. It is. Injuries showcase who you are. What do you mean? I think injuries show, it can show an imbalance

in your own internal psyche if you don't know how to handle them well. Like I had a friend recently that told me that he's like pulling out a Eugene marathon and he's like beating himself up. He's like, dude, I see all these people online that are doing all these races. They run way more than me.

I don't know why I can't stay healthy. And I think that internal dialogue changes a lot of the recovery process in addition to like how you can overcome the next race. Yeah. And I think it showcases, it showcases some vulnerability as well of like how someone deals with one adversity,

but being at a low. Yeah. It's so funny, cause now I'm like, I'm around a lot of running creators and influencers and like, it's so easy to get your I'm around a lot of running creators and influencers and like, it's so easy to get your validation through doing the effort, doing something hard. And I think there's now an imbalance of people

when they can't do that hard thing. It's like, how do you treat yourself then? Yes, sure. Yeah, you get the rewards for the accomplishments or the doing the thing, but nobody goes, hey, you saved yourself five years of knee pain or something by dialing it back today. The virtue of temperance

is a part of the virtue of discipline. Do you know what I mean? The knowing when to push and when not to push is maybe the more elite skill. I was actually thinking about this on my drive here. Is that like a confidence thing internally or is that practicing that as well? Well, I think, yeah, I think it's a huge part of confidence

because if your identity is tied up only in achievements or recognition or frankly, other people seeing you a certain way, you're gonna be really vulnerable, right? So like, if you don't think you're tough and you need other people to think you're tough, you're gonna rush back out there to prove, to grit your teeth and get through it. Whereas if you go like, I know who I am,

I know what I do, I know how disciplined I am, so I'm gonna sit on the bench here or I'm gonna stay in today. It's like, hey, I got up every day in a row and did this thing, but I'm so insecure and fragile about it that if I don't do it for one day, I'm nothing? Like that is like an incredibly insecure place to be.

Like I think about this in baseball, right? So like you're gonna have streaks, hitting streaks in baseball, but you're also gonna have hitting slumps in baseball. So if the hitting streak is something you identify with, like I'm the best, I'm amazing, look how great I am, I'm chasing records, whatever, you're gonna get devastated by the slump.

You wanna get to a place where like, you're focused on how you're swinging, not so much like how you're hitting, yeah. I love that. I think it's been a major component even the past couple of years as I've been in this content game. It's like not letting the opinions of negativity

or the admiration get to you. The problem with being content creator is you have a quantifiable number about how it did, right? I'll give you an example of how I've noticed this as a creator. Okay, so posting stuff every day, I don't post it. number about how it did, right? I'll give you an example of how I've noticed this as a creator, okay. So posting stuff every day, I don't post it. I don't try, I try not to look at it,

but like I see that we post, Taylor Stowe posted some video I shot six months ago and I see, I don't know, it didn't do that well. I go, fuck, sucked, what'd I do? And then I'll get like a monthly report or annual report of like how we did. And that video will be in like a top performance. It just didn't do well at first.

It was a slow going thing, but it got put by the, like I didn't see that. It took time for it to be discovered, right? And so it's just for me, a reminder, like don't look at the numbers. The numbers are only telling you a snapshot, like image of how something is doing. And by the way, some of the stuff I'm most proud of

that I think is my best work, hasn't done well, short-term or long-term. And some of the things that's done the best, I'm like, that did well? So the problem with being a content creator is you just, you're getting literal thumbs up and thumbs down, and then you're getting an exact number of how many people gave it a thumbs up or thumbs down.

And so it's very easy to go, what I think about this doesn't matter. What matters is what they think about it. And what the crowd thinks, it's not that it doesn't matter at all, but what you think about it has to matter the most. That's why you're the creator. There's a reason you're the creator and they're in the audience, right? Like it's your show, you know, it's your thing. And it's easy to forget that

and to let them collectively tell you how to do what you do. It's interesting, cause I always think about, like when I think about content, I think about the end consumer. How can I provide value that this is going to resonate with someone on the screen, right? But equally to exactly what you just said, you can think like that, but then as you get the result,

knowing that your intent is in a good spot, it's not allowing the opinions of people, whether they're keyboard warriors or not, whether they love it or hate it, to then change how you thought about providing value to the end consumer. Well, providing value to the consumer, like doing something that's good, smart, insightful, helpful, whatever,

is an independent variable from how many views it did. The views would simply tell you, did a lot of people see it or not, or did it provide value for a lot of people or not? But what if you made, if I told you, okay, this video you did, it's gonna totally flop, but it's gonna completely change the life of one person. Like utterly transform their life.

They're going through cancer, they're going through this. You'd be like, huge success, but you don't know that. You don't know that. So instead you go, ah, but it did less views than this one. And therefore it was a failure. And so I think I try to just generally not look at things as much as possible. You have to, but also you can't.

So back to that tension. I love that. Has that been something that early on that was probably, is it easier said than done now, but early on that was something that maybe you struggle with or no? I've said this before, but so like on my first book, I was like 10%, like, this is a great book.

I did the best I was capable of doing. And then 90%, like, how's it gonna do? Best seller list, how many copies is it gonna sell? And then week in and week out, how's it selling? How's it doing? And I'd like to think that over every subsequent book, that's changed. So my last book, I actually found this out recently,

is my fastest selling book. It hasn't sold the most because it's been out for the least amount of time, right? But I know the least about those numbers. So for me, to culminate in like caring less and less and checking less and less. And then when I did check or, you know, my agent sent me like a statement

cause we were negotiating something to be like, oh, it's doing like the best that they've done. That I was like, oh, fuck. When people talk about effort, not the, you know, outcome or Zen in their Art of Archery, they talk about ignoring the target. It feels very like, well, that must be nice, but it's not until you actually do it at an indie level

and you go, oh, I'm being less intentional, caring less about outcomes and I'm actually getting better outcomes. That's like a really mind blowing place to get to. Yeah, it's like when you stop trying to focus on just money and then more money comes. Yes, yes. Because there's a thirst to it, I think,

but also an inauthenticity to it. And then I would also say, there's just a finite amount of resources. So the time, like if I could quantify all the time that I have spent checking stats or sales figures or royalty statements, I'm not saying I could write another book with that time, but I could do some shit with that time.

You know, like I could write some good articles, I could make some good videos with that time. And what ultimately moves the needle? Like when you're checking numbers, first off, what you're not doing is work, right? And then how often are you even actually taking any concrete information? Like, you're just like, that did well, that's good.

Like very rarely do I see something crush and then I actually get like real insights as to what to do more or less of. I don't know about you. Yeah, no, I think about when I look through old videos that have done well and some that haven't, it's easy to be like, oh, like, why did this one get 10 X of views?

But then like tactically, what am I gonna apply to the next video to make it actually do that? Yeah. So I think it's, I mean, there's pieces of like frameworks. Like I noticed that when I do like what I eat in a day videos, like these crush for some reason, and like maybe I do more of those around big projects.

And those are good tactics, but most of the times it's not, it's not that beneficial to look at the past work that you've done. Yes. ["Once Upon a Beat"] Once upon a beat, remember those stories and fables that would capture your imagination and you couldn't wait to see how they would unfold?

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Wondry. Wondry. Wondry. Wondry. Wondry. Wondry. Wondry. Yeah, in the Bible, Jesus talks about how you're not supposed to look backwards to see the field you've plowed. And it's because when you do it, the team drifts, right? So like if you're, you know, the old school plow, right? You're like, yeah, plow. So if you go like this, right?

Yeah. To look behind you, it turns the plow. And so yeah, you're just supposed to stay forward. It's like when you learn this in racing, right? Like the time you spent to see how far the person's behind you is allowing them to catch up. Like you're just supposed to run as fast as you fucking can.

I couldn't anymore. That did happen. You know, that happened recently. I think it was in the Olympics. It might've been mountain bike racing where that woman thought she was in first place, but she was in second place. And she looked back? No, no, she thought she was in first place. Okay. So she's competing-

For like second and third, technically. Yes. So she thought she's winning. So she's racing at the, like, if she thought she's in second place, she would go faster. Yes. She was in second place, if she thought she's in second place, she would go faster. Yes. She was in second place,

but she thought she was in first place. So she wasn't pushing herself. Yeah. And she ended up getting beat by more, potentially not catching the person in first place because you know what I mean? You should just always act as if you are trying to do your absolute best,

not your absolute best in context of how you compare against other people. Like I think about this, people will tell me like, oh, I'm trying to write this book and I want it to sell X copies. That's like a bad, you don't wanna do that. You should just try to do the best thing that you can do. Fair, I think it's like Kipchoge.

It's like any of those, like when they make that move at like mile 21, they're setting the precedent, like, yo, I'm just gonna take this race over and run a world record time potentially. Yes. Versus thinking that you're, it's actually very interesting.

Cause I think you're not in the same competitive, like juice, like it's a different fire. Well, what's hard too in competitive running is like you actually are all running the same race, right? But like, if you're just out in the world running, and like somebody passes you, there's that part of you that's like, I gotta keep up. And you're like, dude, they could be running,

you could be on mile 20, and they could be on mile 0.5, or like you could be about to finish and they could be just starting or whatever. Like you do, I think you do learn a kind of a tunnel vision or bubble, like in Austin, when you're running on the trail. There's people running the opposite direction than you, running, they're gonna turn on this bridge.

Like the town loop trail has all those bridges for people to know. There's basically one long, thin 10 mile loop that's crossed by what, Like five bridges, maybe? Yeah, like five, I think five is right, yeah. Yeah, they're building a new one, I think. But, so yeah, you're running and this person's passing you or you're passing this person,

but like, you don't know what loop they're doing. They could be turning on this bridge or then they come back behind you, like, are they lapping me? And you're like, no, they just- They're doing loops. They're just doing short loops, you know? And so I think I've tried to cultivate just to like,

I'm running my thing. I don't really give a shit what you're doing. I think it's like, it's the same, right? Comparisons at Thief of Joy. It's like, if you think that, if you try to enter yourself into what they're doing, you're already now starting to let doubt creep in where it's like, when you're on a long run,

there's already so many variables. It's like not allowing that to happen is a better thing than worrying about like, oh my God, did they just pass me three times? Can you think about this also though, like as a creator, it's not just like how your individual posts to, but you go like, okay, I have this many followers.

And then here this just like mediocre model has like 10 X the, like understanding even where you fit in the niche that you've chosen, I think it takes a certain amount of discipline. Yeah, I think it's interesting because obviously with like, with how much the landscape has changed over the years, like models versus creators, I think professional athletes versus creators.

It's now kind of like in terms of brands, I think they tend to work with creators more than the athlete or the person that just looks good. And part of that is obviously how they represent the brand itself. In terms of actually comparison, I think it's natural for every, most humans to maybe from like the vanity metrics,

like see that, but I just, I think it's like not allowing it to consume you. And I think like it's understanding who you are and what value you're trying to bring or following your own purpose. And like leaning into the things that are actually in your control versus like how someone else is doing or how many likes or views or things that they're getting. I think it's, that's just a bad rabbit hole to go down.

And especially if you're playing the long game of this, it's like someone's always doing more than you, better than you. Yeah. At the end of the day. And then there's people are doing less. So it's like, you have to just find the balance that works for you. Yeah, it's hard because the internet essentially opens you up

to every person in the world. So you're like, well, this person has 100 million followers. I only have 100,000. And it's like, okay, but that person is playing a very different game than you're playing. You know what I mean? It's hard to go like, I'm a classical musician. There's a ceiling on how, like to go like,

hey, I have 200,000 followers as a classical musician. That's insane. Instead you're going, I only have 200,000 because this person who does ASMR videos has 2 million or this person who has cars or bikini photos or whatever. It's like, I try to remind myself, it's like, you write about an obscure school of ancient philosophy and more than 10 followers is a lot.

I mean, look, Ryan, the fact that running has taken off this much, I was thinking about it on my right hand. I'm like, yeah, I'm super fortunate, I'm blessed. And I put myself in that mindset. It's like, it'd be easy, but like, oh my God, you don't have as big a following as Logan Paul or like Mr. Beast.

But like, it's kind of ludicrous because they're pandering to a much larger demographic than someone that wants to run marathons. Like that's 1% of the world. Very few people want to run marathons. It's like you chose to play the cello or the cello chose you. It's silly to feel insecure that you're not like selling out

Madison Square Garden. You're not like a boy band or a rock group or whatever. Like understanding that you make choices and those choices come with certain things, right? Like in running, it's like, hey, like you ran this race. Even if you're the most successful in the world, you're probably not gonna be faster than this. And you do have to be faster.

This is like, this is your scope, you know? You chose the Javelin, you know, you're probably not gonna be as well known as the Sprinter. Fair. But I think it's funny because now as like running has like really taken off, I think the reason that like my brand has become brandable for a lot of other businesses is that

that general pop that you're talking about, right? The people that run three hours to five hours is most of the people that run marathons. The Kipchoge's of the world, people that are running even Olympic qualifying times is very minuscule. Like maybe a couple hundred every race, right? That are running 218 or 210.

It's almost unrelatable for a lot of people to be like, how are they running four miles, four, 50 miles or five, 20 miles? It's almost unrelatable for a lot of people to be like, how are they running four miles, four, four 50 miles or five 20 miles? It's almost impossible for most. So to your point of like that three to five hour group, which is where most people finish, that's speaking to most of the people that I feel like my content talks to.

And if you're Nike, Adidas, any of these major brands, it's like, if you want them to wear your shoe, it probably makes more sense to work with a creator like myself than someone that's running a 210 marathon. Yeah, and also it's a lot harder to run a 210 marathon. So it consumes your life. Do you know what I mean? You can't make videos and run that fast.

Yes, exactly, exactly. So I also think about this, it's like people who are just naturally great at something or blessed with supernatural height or whatever. Emerson has this great essay, he talks about compensation. He says, there's a compensation for everything. So like, yeah, you're supernaturally gifted or charismatic. You're not so good at explaining how those things work.

Right? Because like, you're just like, what do you mean? Yeah. And so, in some ways we curse ourselves for not being naturally gifted and then also see our strength as being like communicators or relatability or hard work, like these compensations we made up for that.

You can't have both. It is extremely unlikely that you're gonna be like naturally gifted at something and then be really good at teaching people how to do it. It's like the really good player doesn't always become a great coach. Exactly. I actually resonate with that a lot.

But Ryan, I think there's certain skillsets that are like developable. Like someone can develop discipline, even though you're not the most like discipline doesn't come easy to you. Yeah. So I think it's like finding that fine line where it's like what are the things that you can actually work on

that might not come natural that you can build skillsets on? Yeah, yeah. There's definitely, you're not fixed. I'm just thinking that somebody who's enormous is not gonna have to develop the same fundamentals in boxing or basketball that somebody who shouldn't be able to compete is gonna have to figure out.

Like someone with great stories doesn't have to be as good of a stylist as someone who's an incredible writer, but doesn't have that much to say. You gotta figure out, ideally you want a nice balance of both, but we get mad that we don't have certain gifts and we don't understand that those gifts come with costs too. It's a sacrifice. Did you always love running?

No. So I mean, when I'm playing college football, it's just like, you run for punishment. Yeah, yeah. So running came for me during the pandemic and it was just available. Oh, that recent? Yeah.

So it's been fairly new for me. And like, obviously it's funny that you say all that because like, you know, like I think about football a lot. And like, for me, my North star was like, I wanted to go see if I could play in the NFL, be the first like full Asian American to go do that and inspire other Asian Americans to have someone that they can kind of follow.

Obviously it never happened. But then Ryan, for me to get into running and to your point, much smaller sport compared to the NFL. Sure, the biggest sport. 100%, but having impact in this space now, which is now getting people that aren't just Caucasian to get into the sport as well as a different level of impact that I feel like at times,

I feel like God's working my story in different ways to make impact, but maybe not how I thought. But it's been me staying curious and open-minded to something else that now has allowed that to happen. And I think that's the obsession I've got through running is now obviously triggered for other people, but it's still really new for me. Like I stay, and I feel like it's why I stumble sometimes

and like, I don't always follow the rules. And I like, I do things kind of my own way. And it's like, it rubs some runners the wrong way, which I totally understand. Equally, it's getting a lot of new people into the sport. Yeah, it's funny, you don't realize, like you think you're developing these skills or experiences or learning these lessons

to apply them in the domain you're learning in them. And you don't realize that actually it's all this training ground for this thing you haven't even tried to do yet. That's like a weird humbling kind of mind blowing thing. Like how did you know that all the things you were learning over here were actually gonna be applied in a totally different domain?

I think part of it is we learn by doing as humans. Sure. I was a very poor student and I've over the years became a better student, but like through football, it's like we study film, we study the playbook and they have to go execute it. I think for running for me, it was like, oh, I can read about it.

I can watch other guys like Goggins and that are doing it. But it's like, if I never take the action of putting my shoes on and starting with that one mile, I would never have known that this is even possible. So I think for a lot of people, it's like, how do you then put yourself into the arena? Right, it's like the Theodore Roosevelt. It's like, instead of just being the critique on the sideline

and judging what the quarterback is doing when you're watching Sunday Night Football, it's like, actually, if you understood what they're going through and how difficult it is, obviously not everyone can play in the NFL, but everyone can run, everyone can do these other activities that are pickleball, that are golf, whatever it might be, that might challenge someone.

I think by doing and putting yourself in an environment to fail is the best way to find that. What was it like for you going from effectively a team, sport and culture to a solo activity? I mean, learning discipline through a team is much different than self-discipline. Right. Coach is expecting you to be at a certain meeting

at a certain time. There's rules on that. If you're not 10 minutes early, if you're not 10 minutes there before the meeting, then you're late. Party time? Yeah. So it's like, there's rules on that. If you're not 10 minutes early, if you're not 10 minutes there before the meeting, then you're late. Party time? Yeah, so it's like, there's obviously like cause and effect of all of that stuff when you're relying on other people

as well to do a job, like as a receiver, if the line doesn't block and the quarterback can't get the throw off, like it's irrelevant if I ran a good route. In running, obviously it's just, it's all internal. And there's community and team building around running. But when you're stowing the line, you're there on your own and you're in your own internal thoughts.

It's a different challenge, but I think it's the best way to actually develop self-discipline. Yes. You're in your own head with your own thoughts. That's who you're primarily running and competing with. Correct. Which I think is actually the best like similarity to life where it's yes, I mean, you have an awesome space here,

great team, I'm sure, but ultimately, that game is still an internal battle that you have to win to then allow everyone around you to do their thing. So I think it's taking, it's so funny because the ultimate team sport to a very solo sport, you take tendencies of leadership from being on a team sport that can translate into running, but at the core of it, it is you against yourself.

And I think that's something that a lot of people are scared of actually. I wonder too though, like the idea to do 12 marathons in 12 months, football has kind of a schedule and a long grind to it in the way that running, like people are training for a marathon, right? Or like they go for jogs occasionally, but the sort of signing up for the system or the season

that strikes is maybe something you brought from your other world into running. Like you made up kind of a set of games that you have to play. Yeah, in a way, Ron, 100%. I think what's the funniest thing about it though, is that like, you know, last year I got a little slack because I was a bib mule at a race.

And that was, a bib mule is when someone runs in a race that isn't under your name. Oh. I was running in the Houston Marathon, but like the race had like gotten sold out and four weeks prior, three weeks prior, I didn't have a bib. So I had to kind of ask around friends

in the running community. I was like, dude, like does anyone have, is anyone not going to the race? Ended up having a friend that wasn't, I used his bib to run in. I ended up running sub three, which qualifies with Boston. And then there was this whole article of like running influencer is a bib mule

and it's in a fraud and all this stuff. So I got a lot of shit on for it. And I started looking at my race calendar and I was running in Austin cause it's just like the hometown race. And I was looking at my race calendar. And I was running in Austin because it's just like the hometown race and I was doing Boston and all these and like I had like the first three out of the four months. I then almost asked myself, I was like, imagine if I actually could do one every single month and stay in enough shape to do that. One was kind of like,

throw it into the running community's face of like, yo, a petty rule that I did not follow, I got shit on for, I'm kind of going to throw it in your face. But then equally to your point of making these games where it's like, I think a lot of people run marathon once and they're like a one-timer. I wanted to almost prove to myself that like, you could do this, like that it's not something that you just kind of do once a year, which is how most people treat a marathon.

It's like, imagine you stay in enough shape where you can do it year round. And every single race, you learn something different. Like, and for me, I'm not racing every single one of them. So whether it's doing things more for content or for the community or spreading positivity just during the race, like, I feel like every race I do is like, it provides different challenges.

And you have to respect the distance. How did you handle people not liking you? It was challenging initially, which I think everyone, it's easy for someone to be like, oh, I love the haters, but until you're actually getting hated on, it's hard to actually realize like how you treat yourself. I think the biggest thing I learned was that, and to answer your question,

the initial couple of days were tough. I talked to a mentor and he was like, Matt, this is great. He's like, this is like your eight mile moment. It's like, yo, own it. And like, now you own the narrative. Like someone's reading this article, they might have 20,000 reads on that article. If you actually publicly make a video on it,

you're gonna make it actually more available for people. And in that same level of humility of showcasing people that like you're human, you made a mistake, but then you can actually change the trajectory of how other people treat being a bib-mule. Yeah. Do you, what do you think of the criticism? I think there's some validity in the criticism

in the sense of if I was someone that had a thousand followers, I think it would get brushed under the rug. I mean, Ryan, honestly, this happens at many races. Of course. It's just that I was obviously documenting it and showcasing it. Yeah, as an outsider, I'm trying to wrap my head around why anyone gives a shit. But.

Well, the guy that wrote it is from this thing called MarathonInvestigation.com, which he basically, his goal is to basically find people that are cheating races. And obviously for Boston or specific races, you have to qualify for. Oh, so someone might have like a ringer, run a race for them

so they could qualify for a faster thing. 100%. But that's obviously not what you were doing. Yeah. I mean, from the vanity, it could look like that, but like, if that was a case, like making content around it would be stupid. And also building up all the content I did prior to that six weeks, seven weeks, it would be stupid. But I think to answer your question, I mean, it was tough in the moment, but I think you said it earlier. It's like how I saw myself and the intent that I actually had, I knew that it wasn't getting correlated

in that article and it wasn't right from the one person's POV. So I just, I couldn't beat myself up too much after that. Like it was harder for like, I had brands that were pissed because from a PR standpoint, it's like, it doesn't, it doesn't look good. It's like, oh, you have a athlete that you're working with and it's Nike and Dick's Sporting,

which are major corporations. And they're wondering like, yo, what's happening here? And they didn't really wanna hear my side of the story. And it kind of became something where the relationship kind of got disgruntled. But by far, Ryan, it was like, it was a learning lesson of am I actually about what I say I am in the sense of not valuing the criticism

as much as the admiration. And in that moment, like I knew my intent wasn't in that place. So it was easy for me to kind of just brush it off after making the content around it. It's also hard. It's like, okay, you know, objectively, how many fans you have, how many people like what you do, right? You know, you're creating value and people view you with affection. That's what all the quantifiable thing over here is. And then there's this part of you that's like, but 10 people over here don't like me. Or I got 99 positive articles

and then there's one negative article. And the inability to accept that that is actually an appropriate, if not generous ratio. You know? That's like, it's impossibly vain, conceited and entitled to think that everyone's gonna like you and all publicity is going to be positive.

But so you can understand that rationally. And then you see, there's this exercise in Mark's theory as he goes like, he's speaking of annoying people. He's like, is a world without annoying people possible? And he goes, no, of course not. He's like, so this is one of those people. Like, you know, 10 out of a hundred are gonna be this way. Why are you surprised when you meet one?

Like, you know that not every person who sees your stuff is gonna like it. You know, some people are really not gonna like it. You know, and then you know a percentage of, if you get to a certain level, that's gonna attract a media attention. And some of that media attention, if not a lot of it, is gonna be negative.

So when you see the negative one, or the person doesn't like you, you have to go, this is one of those people. They're not all gonna like me. But that's, like someone just sent me this, like there's this big Washington Post piece about stoicism. They were like, check it out or whatever. So I went to Google it.

And not only was there that negative one, Google showed me like another newspaper had written like the same day, another nasty one about me. And I was like, great. But I had to go like, hey, why would everyone like me? And also, isn't that what happens when you get to a certain level? Is that people are incentivized to try to take you down.

This is how it works. But that requires swallowing some unpleasant things. 100%. I love how you said that. The 10 out of 11, I think that's the most important thing. I think that's the most important thing. I think that's the most important thing. I think that's the most important thing. I love how you said that.

The 10 out of 100, I mean, to your point, the amount of ego that one needs to have to think that they're going to be loved by everyone is ludicrous. And I think as a creator, it's like if you're someone out there that's just starting out, it's easy when you're starting out because you think that. Internally, you don't really understand what it's like to have quote unquote haters or people that don't like your stuff for whatever reason. But it's kind of accepting it and it's showing them love.

I think now, I had a friend recently, my buddy Danny, he was always in my ear about like, you know, how do you show up to those people? Yeah. And more and more, there's a worship song where one of the vocals is, Lord, give me vision to see the world like you do. And even in those moments, Ryan, it's hard for me at times

when someone's got the balls to actually come and say it to your face. I'm like, oh, I'm a little shocked actually that like, I'm like, if anything, I'm proud that this person wants to say it in person versus over a screen. And in those moments, you do have to like swallow your pride and just like show up and give these people and show them grace, even though they don't wanna hear it. They don't want-

And they're not showing you any. 100% and it's tough. You have to swallow that pride. I've had that moment happen to me and every single time I feel like I'm moving a little closer to understanding how to better handle that. Tim Ferriss said to me once, he's like, okay, let's say like you have 10 million fans

or 10 million people have heard of you. And let's say 10% of the people that have heard of you don't like you. That means there's like, okay, let's say like, you have 10 million fans or 10 million people have heard of you. And let's say 10% of the people that have heard of you don't like you. That means there's like a million people that don't like you. That in itself would be a top 10 city in the United States. So like an entire city of people. Everyone in Austin doesn't like you.

Yeah, yeah. So can you handle that? And if you can't handle that, you should stop trying to get bigger. And if you can't handle that, you should stop trying to get bigger. If you can't handle more people not liking you, definitely don't try to get more people to like you because it's just a fucking percentage game

and there's only one way this goes. And so that's a really tough thing. It's a challenge, but to your point, it's like you kind of sign yourself up for this. Well, you actually don't initially, but along the way you have to kind of maneuver and understand like that it's kind of inevitable. And the longer you, the more you try to fight it

and the more you try to change that person's POV, it's just a losing battle. And like, I'm not in the world to change anyone, you know? Like I want to focus on changing things I can control, which is internal, it's me. And if people along the way get impacted in a world to change anyone. I want to focus on changing things I can control, which is internal, it's me. And if people along the way get impacted in a positive way, awesome. If people get impacted in a negative way, awesome.

It's just, it's not my job, nor should it be anyone's, to try to change everyone in this world. Well, it's also funny, right? So there's this whole controversy, you run using someone else's bib. I'm sure that's not the worst thing you've done in your life, right? Sure.

Like, there's an epic Tidus line, he's one of the Stokes, and he goes, when someone criticizes you, say to yourself, if only they really knew me, it would be worse. And it's not that we all have like, you know, dead bodies in our freezer, but like most of the time, the things that you take heat for, the things that people don't like you for,

are not the worst things that you do. And I think what he's actually saying, again, it's not like, oh, it's okay to be worse. I think what he's saying is like, count yourself as having gotten off easy. You're dodging bullets. You're dodging more bullets than you're taking, you know? And to just go, this is a warning.

It's a warning to like, that one of the costs of a platform notoriety success is that you can't be sloppy and you can't take shortcuts. And you've got to be above board with all the things that you do. And imagine if you were subjected to real scrutiny, you know, and now try to live your life to be above such, not above such, but immune to such scrutiny.

And that like, you know, you're not doing shit that if people found out about, they'd be like, whoa. Right, so try to merge the public and the private as close together, because if all your dreams come true and you get to the level that you want, the result is going to be more scrutiny and more people looking for things not the language. You better get your shit together. You know? You said it. It's like you have to be more organized. You have to dot your I's, cross your T's. And honestly, that was my learning from that moment. It's like I've gotten to a point in the running space where it's like, I can't just

fly under the radar. You have to do things with a certain protocol. And do I believe that there should be a transfer of bibs? 100%, most races allow it, but certain races don't. But it's not my job to debate the rules of the system. It's, hey, these are the rules of this game and now I have to play the right way. Yeah, it's like, look, you start making a certain amount of money,

you better get a good accountant. 100%. Because the IRS is not gonna be as forgiving of you as they are to some random person making a fraction. You have to level up all aspects of your game, not just the monetization side, not just the performance side, but all the other unfund stuff.

Admin. Yeah, the admin, risk management, liability. You know, you just have to get your shit. So somebody told me you read the Daily Stoke. I do. Yeah, and then you post about it all the time. I post it every single day. Yeah, it's funny, because I was gonna joke with them,

I was gonna say, Ryan, I'm sure like, I've actually might've impacted some sales because people tell me that they don't buy it because I post it every day and they just watch it off my story. sure like, I've actually might've impacted some sales because people tell me that they don't buy it because I post it every day and they just watch it off my story. But equally, I've gotten many messages of people like asking about what it is. And then they ended up purchasing it and send me pictures.

But I've been reading the Daily Stoic for the past three years. How'd you find it? A mentor of mine that lived in Maryland, he first told me about the Daily Stoic and just kind of stoicism. And he's an entrepreneur that I looked up to. And then I was at a friend's house

and it was on their coffee table. Oh yeah. So I was like, these signs. And I just was like, you know what? It was like about to be the new year. And I said, you know what? I looked at it cause I'm like, oh, it's dated every single day.

Yeah. So obviously the concept of like learning just a little bit. I was, I never read in college and high school and I was a poor student. So for me, a lot of the challenge was, could I just read a page a day? Yeah. Where most people are like, I don't have time to read. I could never read. It's high school and I was a poor student. So for me, a lot of the challenge was, could I just read a page a day where most people are like, I don't have time to read. I could never read.

It's like the thought of actually- The least you can do. The least. And then obviously from there, I built my muscle of reading more and consuming more content. But that was the start of it. I was building my social content at the time. And I just like, I wanted that to be part of my routine.

And that just became the first thing I posted on my stories in the morning, just because I was like, yo, this became the first thing I posted on my stories in the morning, just because I was like, yo, this is the first thing I do before I brush my teeth. I journal and then I read the page. And it's just like, it became a part of it. You know what's funny? So the first editions of the Daily Stoic,

like it says every page. So typically the way books work is you have the title on every other page. Like it'll be like title here, title of chapter here. That's like how books tend to work. So the first edition of the Daily Stoic is that. Every other page had the Daily Stoic. And then I would post pictures of the book and people go, what book is that? So when we read the second edition of the book, probably within two months I caught it,

and now every page says the Daily Stoic on the top because people post it on social media and it's it's become part of this thing where they're sharing it sure maybe some people don't buy it because you can get it for free on Instagram every day yeah but not really like it way more people hear about it for the first time than that but it's funny like I'll post a picture of it like on Daily Stoic and it'll say and people what book is that and be like the's from the account that you're following, what are you talking about?

So that's the other thing is like, is you realize like people aren't paying nearly as close attention to you as you think they are. So you mess up or you know, whatever, you have this kind of like imposter syndrome or this doubt that's really almost a form of egotism where you think people like care about you way more than they do.

And really they're just living their lives. And like, you have to, like it humbles you. You know, you go, you'll do it and you'll be talking about something for months and months and months. And then people will be like, when's your new book coming out? You're like, I was worried I was talking about it too much

and you've not even heard about it. And so it's funny how that works. I think it's to that point of realizing that, I think this is really what helped me with criticism as well. It's like, I remember when Gary used to say this years back, it was like, if you actually realize that most people are living their life and that they have so much shit going on

that they don't really care that much about you stuttering or a typo in the video or whatever it might be, it'll help you get over the hump of caring about what people think. Because ultimately it's like, if something happened to me tomorrow on my flight, most people would move on with their life.

As sad as that might be or sound, it's like, besides my family and my loved ones, like most people, as much of a diehard Matt Troy fan someone might be, they're gonna have to go on. They're gonna have to move on. It's no different than Kobe Bryant, who at a larger scale is way more public figure. And I think that helped me realize,

I'm like, I don't have to take this so seriously. And I think so many people do, they're like, oh my God, it has to be perfect, it has to be this. I'm just like, if you actually realize that, that's actually what's stopping you from actually seeing what you're capable of and your full potential, you can actually start to unmask that.

I mean, we found that with daily self. So we'll post something, I'll do super well. And you're like, wow, wow, that did like so good. And then like, we found this on accident, like somebody reposted that same piece of content, like a month later. And it did more views the second time. You thought everyone saw it.

And you're like, not even a fraction of the people who are interested in seeing it saw it, you know? And it's just, Gary said this to me once. He was like, I just say like the same seven things. And I was like, what? And he was like, yeah, I just say the same seven things like over and over and over again. I've watched most of the stuff.

I didn't notice. I never noticed. Cause I'm not paying that close of attention, you know? And that's not to say you can be lazy and you don't have to do a good job, but it's realizing, yeah, most people are really busy. And when you are, you think you're repeating yourself, in fact, like they didn't hear it the first eight times. And the ninth time they were like,

oh, I exactly needed that. I get that with Daily Stoke all the time, people go, how did you know? Like, cause- It resonates that way. Yeah, I wrote it nine years ago, but like, and also, I wrote 366 things and then scrambled them up. That's what order they're in. You know what I mean? Like there's almost zero intentionality about the date whatsoever. The same goes for

because we daily stoke is also the email, right? The email goes out every day, which is a new thing. It's like a new email every day. But most of them were written, like, I don't choose when they go out. Brendan back there chooses when they go out. Like, he picks the order. And so people are like, oh, it's perfectly timed for today. Are those emails mirrored with this at all

or it's completely separate? So basically, so I wrote the book in 2015. It was coming out in 2016. And I just decided, I bought dailystoke.com and I said, you know what? I'm just gonna keep it going. Someday someone will get to the end of the book and they'll be like, how do I keep this going?

And so the daily Stoke email is one email every day. And I've done that every single day since 2016. So that's like multiple versions of this book, totally for free. But I write them, not in bulk, but I just write them all the time and then they get sent out separately. The team decides like, hey, you talked about this yesterday.

So the right one for today. But I have no real say over like, hey, on June 3rd, it should be this entry that that's just totally random. But then people ascribe a lot of meaning to it. They go, oh, how'd you know? Yeah, it connects. I wrote it in March, I didn't. I love that, I love that.

But that's when you know something hits. It's like, it's for whatever reason, what someone's going through in that season of their life or that day, it just triggers something. Well, we bring things to what we're reading. That's why they say you can never step in the same river twice. Like the river is different, but you're different.

Or they go, you know, when the student is ready, the teacher appears, like nothing changed, but you changed. And so now you heard the thing that you were not hearing all the times that it was in front of you before. Interesting, I love that. So have you become a reader since? Massively. Yeah? It's actually probably one of the things I'm most proud of

is that I've now become, I always say it's like, I was such a poor student because football was my identity, now I'm like a student of life. So I feel like whether it's been the Daily Stoke has been a good start and then it's been a ton of books from there and then other entrepreneurs and just people I look up to in the space.

But reading and also audio books and like Headway, which is like kind of shortening a lot of these books has become a major component of just like my day-to-day life. Interesting. Yeah. I mean, we were talking earlier, like there's all these things you can get better at. Like you can develop. You think you're not a reader and it's really, you just haven't, you weren't at a place in your life.

Or I see this all the time. People thought they hated books, but really they hate reading. Do you know what I mean? Like they're dyslexic or they have, like they're just maybe a bad eyesight or they can't sit still. And then something like audio books

just opens up this whole world. Or they loved, they would have loved reading, they just have never read a book that did anything for them. And once you have that experience of like a book that changes your life, that's a dragon that you chase over and over again. It's like the first run or like getting back into the gym. Truly.

The book for me was Rich Dad Poor Dad. Okay. And financially and just like the mindset around an employee, that book just changed a lot of how I thought about work. And that was like when I was making my transition after football was done and I was working my first corporate job. And that just sparked so many things where that was the drug that first hit. And then from there, it was a ton of Gary, a ton of your stuff, a ton of like, Jesse Itzler and Goggins. And I just like started redownloading new software. I always like I'm a big matrix guy. So I framed the brain as like software

and like I just started to find people that were doing things that I emulated or I wanted to do. And it just became like, that was like an obsession. And for me running and content and learning, like these were things I never really did. Because I was so caught up in the one thing. And I started realizing like, oh, I can run a marathon.

Like I could probably learn a new skill. I could learn a new language. I could do all these things. It's just, it's gonna take time. Do you listen to audio books when you run? Not as much. I do headway more when I run. And sometimes I just don't listen to anything when I run.

Really? Yeah. I'm more of a, if most times and not I'm a silent, I don't listen to anything. So you just spend a couple hours? Just on my, yeah. What are you thinking about or nothing? Sometimes it's nothing. Sometimes it's thoughts that whether it's content

or if I'm going on a pod or something, it could just be like how I'm feeling that moment or things I'm working through. Other times it's just nothing sometimes. During races, it's just, it's different. I typically, I can't remember the last time I actually wore headphones during a race. They're not really supposed to, they don't like it, right? Like you're not supposed to do it during an Ironman, for instance, I don't remember last time I actually wore headphones during a race. They're not really supposed to, they don't like it, right?

Like you're not supposed to do it during an Ironman, for instance, I don't get it. Well, the Ironman culture is like really strict on that stuff. Marathons, they tend to be a little bit more lenient, but in the Ironman space, like you can't, because when you're on the bike, if like there could be risk hazard,

if you're flying at fast speeds. But yeah, on runs, I like the silence of it. I just feel like I'm able to like work through things that are, whether it's a creative space or a business space where it's like, it's a time for me to just like be away from the world. Even though I bring my phone, it's not like I'm checking emails actively or doing those things, but it's just time for me to just kind of like brainstorm. Yeah.

So you don't do music? Very rarely. I like, I will sometimes turn music on if I'm like in like a deep pain cave or if I'm like deep into a long run and I'm like, all right, I need something. I mean, when I was in Korea, I turned music on like after like the six or seven day of like running the length of it.

So it's just like that kind of just, I needed something to distract my mind. Yeah, I find that distract, like I tend to listen to songs on loop and it weirdly, it creates kind of a silence because it drowns out other sounds. 100%. There's a couple artists that when I do listen to music,

I'm like, yo, this is like the mode I wanna be in. But I like going through like modes of the run where it's like the first 10 miles, I won't do anything. And then I like, maybe we'll listen to music for a couple of miles and then turn it back off or to keep it changed to the artist or whatever it is. But most times it's typically silence. Wow.

Yeah. That's crazy. I can't do it. I can't do it. I'm like, I need the- You have a playlist? No, no, it's usually a song. I'll pick a song that I'm into at that moment

and that song will be the song I'm listening to while I'm running that day or biking or whatever. And that's the same song I was listening to while I was writing. So it's kind of like tapping into a, just a vibe that I'm wanna be on, because I'm usually like working through something. I see, I see.

So like my, yeah, like my Spotify wrapped at the end of the year is like, it'll be like, you were top 1% of this artist, top 1% of this artist, top 1% of this artist. And it's funny, my kids do the same. They're like, put that song on repeat. And there's just something about our brains that want to listen to it on loop.

I mean, it's kind of like the rocky theme music for Goggett, right? It's like, how long can you do that for doing push pull-ups? It's like, you just keep something on a loop and it kind of, it drowns out everything else. Yeah. Everyone's got their own like quirks to, cause you're trying to, what you're doing is fundamentally insane. Your body does not want to be doing it and shouldn't be doing it. So you got to tap into some level that allows you to do the thing that your body's like, I'm sure you want to do this.

Yeah. It's like an internal fight, but sometimes music can push people through because it's like a level of comfort. That song makes you feel some type of way, which can get you through miles 23, 26. Yeah, yeah. Or podcasts, you're just like, oh, an hour passed? It's turning off that part of your mind that's like, how far have I gone? How far have I gone?

How far have I gone? And I think pods too, it's like, because it's multiple voices, it makes you feel like these people are running with you almost. Yeah. You know? It's like, cause I think people do enjoy running as a group,

whereas like solo runs can get kind of very monotonous, but like when you have pods on, it's like, it's nice having that feeling like, oh, like they're just like, someone's running with me right now, you know? Yeah. Although like some people are like, we should go for a run sometime. And I'm like, nope, no, it's not.

That will not be happening. You just like running on your own. Yeah, this is my thing, man. Respect, respect. I don't wanna hang out. The social aspect of how, like what running has done, I think some people, right, some people can't run on their own.

I know, I know. It's like that, and I'm very like in between because most times I do run on my own, but there's some certain people and certain individuals, like if we're doing, like this morning I did a track workout with a couple of friends, like those moments when you're grinding through it and you're running similar paces,

like it can be a competitive fire. But most times I do enjoy the solitude of like, this is like my time. Yes. But like it's now it's like, I kind of like also put myself in a mode of like hosting big shakeout runs and people are like, yo, you know, it's like it's balance.

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