The Daily Stoic - The Violence Of The Dog Days | Be Stingy With Time

Episode Date: December 5, 2022

As summer now passes into fall and all too quickly fall turns to winter, it is worth stopping and thinking for a second. Where did that time go? Not long ago you were watching fireworks and enjoying the light late into the evening. Now, suddenly, you’re in sweaters, looking at your lawn covered in leaves, wondering why it’s so dark and the evening news hasn’t even finished.✉️  Sign up for the Daily Stoic email: https://dailystoic.com/dailyemail🏛 Check out the Daily Stoic Store for Stoic inspired products, signed books, and more.📱 Follow us: Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, FacebookSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Not long ago you were watching fireworks and enjoying the late light into the evening, and now suddenly you're in sweaters looking at your lawn covered in leaves wondering why it is so dark and the evening news hasn't even finished. We talked last year about Philip Larkin's beautiful poem about the changing of the seasons, how their circular renewal contains within them a kind of finality. Summer is over, that summer is over forever. It's the violence of the dog days, as Bonnie Fair recently sang. Perhaps that's a good way to see it. Those hot summer afternoons where you didn't want to go outside, where you didn't want to do anything, where instead you waited for a drop in the temperature, a break in the humidity, you weren't killing time, time was killing you.

Sennaka reminded himself that death was not a thing in the future, but something that is happening now. It's always happening. It's the ticking hand of the clock. It's the first snow of the year. It's the spring flowers. It's the summer rains. It is the fall harvest.

It is the winter snow. This timeless reminder should sober us up to the time that we have left. It should jerk us from our passivity, from being mere observers of the passage of time and of our own lives. We must be present. We must be aware. We must live the time we have been given, this season and the next and the next. Be stingy with time. And this is from this week's entry in the Daily Stoic Journal, 366 days of writing and reflection on the art of living by yours truly and my co-writer and translator, Stephen Hanselman.

I actually do this journal every single day. There's a question in the morning, a question in the afternoon, and then there's these sort of weekly meditations. As Epictetus says, every day and night, we keep thoughts like this at hand, write them, read them aloud, and talk to yourself, and others about them.

You can check out the Daily Stalk Journal, anywhere at Books or Sold, and also get a signed personalized copy from me in the Daily Stalk store, at store.dailystoke.com. One of the most common sayings we hear and you might have said this yourself is that life is short and it is, but a cynical remark, it's pretty long if you know how to use it. And the first step to that is not giving so much of this time away to other people.

Being miserly about our time is a powerful exercise, which can keep us from squandering the one truly non-renewable resource. What in your life consumes a lot of time for no good purpose? What amusements or desires consume our time without giving us a good return? As you review that list, make a commitment to doing something about it. Life is short after all, and you don't have much to spare. Seneca says, we're all the geniuses of history to focus on a single theme that could never fully express their bafflement, the darkness, the human mind. No person would give even an inch of their estate, and the slightest dispute with a neighbor can mean hell to pay.

Yet we easily let others encroach on our lives worse. We often pave the way for those who will take it over. No person would hand out their money to a passerby, but how many of us hand out our lives? We're tight-fisted with our property and money, and yet we think too little of wasting time. The one thing we should all be the toughest miser's about, that's Santa on the shortness of life. It is not that we all have too short a time to live, Santa says, but that we squander a great deal of it. Life is long enough, and it's given in sufficient measure to do many great things

if we spend it well, but when it's poured down the drain of luxury and neglect, when it's employed to no good end, we're finally driven to see that it is, we don't receive short life. We make it so. Or as I've also heard, it rendered by Santa Claus. It's not that life is short. It's that we waste a lot of it. And this all comes from his wonderful essay on the shortness of life, which you should absolutely read.

It's a very powerful essay. It's worth rereading a couple of times a year to be quite frank. But I was thinking about this recently, I had sort of two good examples. Number one, I'm trying to get this television delivered and anyone who's been trying to buy furniture or televisions or anything that recently knows just how messed up the supply chains and logistics are. But anyways, it was supposed to come and then it didn't come. So I messaged the people and then it was supposed to come the next day. So I messaged the people and then they were supposed to mess it. And then again, then I had to contact Amazon about it.

And then they said they were going to do it. And then, but I got past her. Anyways, I'm spending time after time and for time. And then at some point, someone promised me a $200 credit on this TV, which is, you know, I'm free $200, not bad, but it occurred to me that one had already objectively spent more than $200 of my time on this thing, like if what an hour of my time is worth. But also if you just asked me, hey, would you spend $200 more on the TV and not have to go through this? I would have taken that option as well.

I had to wrestle with how much energy am I going to spend trying to get this $200 credit that may or may not ever exist, the TV from these people may or may not ever be able to chase down. And so, of course, if someone stole $200 from you, I'd be very upset, right? If they'd overcharged me $200 from this TV, I'd have been upset. But I'm willing to spend $200 of my time to either get this credit or get this TV, right? And that's what we do. We waste our time.

We value money and property, I said I'm good at saying. But time is this like thing that we assume we have an unlimited amount of, because no one, I don't know, it's just crazy. And then I think about this with the bookstore, which I love and I'm so proud of, but people come by and they want to say hi. And I think sometimes people think it's rude that I won't run downstairs to see everyone that's here.

And I can't do that, right? Because not only do I have work, but if I did that for every single here and I can't do that right because not only do I have work but if I did that for every single person I would never have time. I'd use up all my time. It's been almost the entire day doing that. And so in Sanhaka talks about being a miser, miser if you're not familiar with that word, my miser is like someone who's tight-fisted with money. It's like a cheap person. But in Sanhaka you have to be cheap with your time. You can't word, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my, because you're going to have to hurt people's feelings or not give them everything they want. When you say no, you're going to have to say no sometimes. And that's not fun. But I always try to remind myself who, when I'm saying no to one person, I am also saying yes to something else

and conversely when I'm saying yes to some inquiry, I'm also saying no to someone or something else, right? And that's just the struggle that we're on. And if you have kids, if you have a spouse, if you have work that's important, if you have potential, you're trying to fulfill. If you're just trying to get better at yourself, it's going to mean being tight-fisted with your time. It's going to mean saying no to people. That's just how it goes. That's just how it goes. That's just how it goes. And so I would urge everyone to take a minute, value, try to think about what an hour of your time is is worth, right? Try to think about things that you can take

off your plates and get that time back. But then think about what you are frivolously spending your time on and if that's worth it. What are the wrote tasks, the things that you do, the things that you go, you put off and you dread doing them. What are those things? Why are you still doing them? Do you need to be doing them? And at the end of your life, when you go, man, that flu by. I wish I had just one more day to do X. One more hour to do X, right? Are you going to look back and be like, well, I am, I am glad that I spent X many hours doing this. Think about your commute, right? How many hours you're going to spend doing that? Think about how many hours you spend in meetings. Think about how many hours you spend on ridiculous trivialities, right? I think what I like to point out, what's said in this thing about neighbors is like, yeah, if your neighbors

encroached on your property, you would object. But if your neighbor came over, just wanted a gossip about nonsense, you would indulge that, right? And that's not a good idea. You have to be miserly with your time not selfish Not cruel not indifferent to other people's time of course, but but a bit miserly with your own time and Be stingy with it as they said and I'll cut this episode short So I'm not taking up too much of your time, but you get the point taking up too much of your time, but you get the point. Thanks so much for listening. If you could rate this podcast and leave a review on iTunes, that would mean so much to us and it would really help the show. We appreciate it, and I'll see you next episode. Hey, Prime Members, you can listen to the Daily Stoic early and ad-free on Amazon Music,

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