The Daily Stoic - This Practice Will Define Your Year | 7 Stoic Mantras That Will Change Your Life

Episode Date: January 14, 2025

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Wondery Plus subscribers can listen to the daily Stoic early and ad free right now. Just join Wondery Plus in the Wondery app or on Apple Podcasts. When I travel with my family, I almost always stay in an Airbnb. I want my kids to have their own room. I want my wife and I to have a little privacy. You know, maybe we'll cook or at the very least we'll use a refrigerator. Sometimes I'm bringing my in-laws around with me or I need an extra room just to write in. Airbnbs give you the flavor of actually being in the place you are. I feel like I've lived in all these places that I've stayed for a week or two or even a night or two. There's flexibility in size and location. When you're searching you can

look at guest favorites or even find like historical or really coolest things. It's my choice when we're traveling as a family. Some of my favorite memories are in Airbnb's we've stayed at. I've recorded episodes of a podcast in Airbnb. I've written books. One of the very first Airbnbs I ever stayed in was in Santa Barbara, California while I was finishing up what was my first book,

Trust Me I'm Lying. If you haven't checked it out, I highly recommend you check out Airbnb for your next trip. Welcome to the Daily Stoic Podcast, where each day we read a passage of ancient wisdom designed to help you in your everyday life. On Tuesdays, we take a closer look at these stoic ideas and how we can apply them in our actual lives. Thanks for listening, and I hope you enjoy.

You must practice this ritual this year. Marcus Aurelius was a busy man. He was a smart and able and talented man. So why did he need to spend so many precious hours in his tent writing by the lamplight, practicing philosophy in his journals? It wasn't for our benefit. No, we never expected meditations would see an audience. He was writing for himself, to himself,

trying to get better by himself. He was journaling as a means of self-improvement as much as he was a self-expression. As Tim Ferriss has said of his own daily journaling as a means of self-improvement as much as he was of self-expression. As Tim Ferriss has said of his own daily journaling habit, "'I don't journal to be productive. I don't do it to find great ideas or to put down prose I can later publish.' The pages aren't intended for anyone but me, he says.

I'm trying to figure things out. I'm just caging my monkey mind on paper so that I can get on with my fucking day. In 2017, we first published the Daily Stoic Journal, our attempt to create a modern, accessible, and beautiful medium through which to practice Stoicism. Epictetus said that every day we should keep our philosophical aphorisms and exercises at hand so that we could write them, read them aloud, talk to ourselves and others about them. And that was the idea behind the journal.

One stoic prompt for each day to be journaled about, meditated on in the morning and the evening. And thousands and thousands and thousands of people have done that for the last 365 days. And it's been awesome to hear what they've gotten out of the process. Because a journal is a place to clarify your thoughts, to find peace and quiet, to calm

the negative energy swirling around in your head to cope with stresses and struggles. It's your loyal companion. It's your sounding board. It's your guide. But whatever form or style of journaling you practice, the point is that you keep practicing. And if you haven't been, well, now is the time to start. Whether you need help ridding yourself of bad habits like complaining or procrastination or a hot temper,

or you're looking to get stronger, wiser and braver, the pages of a journal are the perfect place to do that. You'll find your rhythm in what works best for you. But only if you start, refine as you go. Let's start. That's my journal. It sounds a little different because it's got this cool leather cover on it. It's made of ethically sourced full grain leather from a tannery in Red Wing, Minnesota.

Says on the front, make time. It's got courage, temperance, justice, and wisdom. And it's got Epictetus's quote on the back, the one we just talked about, every day and night, keep thoughts like these at hand, write them, read them aloud, talk to yourself and others about them. I don't read the Daily Stoke every day. I feel like that'd be weird, but the journal is a prompt. It's blank space. And I fill that in each day. I'm thinking about the ideas just as Epictetus said, but you know, I do the journal and then the journal goes away. I like the idea of having some continuity, a slip cover that goes on there. This one's cool.

It's got a spot to hold the pen. It's got a, we designed these little pockets on there to put some note cards and some other stuff. It sits on my bedside table. It's awesome. It's designed exclusively to fit the US edition of the Daily Stoic, but we also checked it fits the UK edition. And if you want to get the journal

and the cover as a package deal, you can do that at store.dailystoic.com. I'll link to it in today's show notes. This is a great year to start a journaling habit or to pick that journaling habit back up. I think you're really going to like it. Much of what survives to us from the ancients are little scraps, little bits of wisdom. But these little bits of wisdom from the emperor of Rome, from a slave, from one of Rome's power brokers,

these mantras, these sayings, these epigrams, as they were often called, that survive to us from the ancients are incredibly powerful. They pack a punch. That's what I wanna talk about in today's episode. Some stoic ideas, some stoic concepts that can serve as mantras for your life. These are tried and tested bits of wisdom that have survived for thousands of years for a reason. Because they're powerful, because they're important, because you want to live by them.

This one's a paradoxical expression. It basically means make haste slowly. And it was a favorite of the emperor Augustus. It was first known as Octavian. And even the transition from Octavian to Augustus is something that takes time because he's an incredibly disciplined person. He was going places, but he did so slowly, methodically, so no one could ever accuse him of being a revolutionary or a disrupter.

He did things calmly. He did them carefully. He did them deliberately. And he gets this from his stoic teachers, Athena Doris and Arius Didymus. One of the things they told him, for instance, was before he ever lost his temper, he needed to count all the letters of the alphabet first.

They understood that getting angry in the moment often set things back. Make case slowly is about being deliberate, conscientious. It doesn't mean that you take forever. It means you take the amount of time that it needs to take and that by rushing and doing it quickly, you often make it take longer than it needs to. And in the military, they say slow is smooth and smooth is fast. That's what this Latin expression means also. One of my heroes, the great Civil War general,

he wasn't the fastest, he wasn't the most aggressive of the generals, but he got the job done. You could contrast him to someone like McClellan, who Lincoln accused of having the slows. It's not just that he took a while to get going, it's that he never actually got going and got where he was supposed to go.

George Thomas wins some of the most incredible victories for the Union in the Civil War. He gets this nickname, the Rock of Chickamauga, because he, again, once he knows where he's going, once he has his aim, he's not gonna be pushed off that, he's not gonna be knocked off. Nothing is gonna get between him and where he wants to go. So this is an expression about having a sense of urgency, but also being disciplined and

responsible. It's energy plus moderation, it's measured exertion, it's eagerness, but reigned in with a sense of control. And Suetonius, the Roman historian, which is from whom we hear that this is one of Augustus's favorite expressions, he said that Octavian thought nothing less becoming in a well-trained leader than haste and rashness. Actually, a number of Octavian's other favorite expressions dance around this idea. He says, you know, better a safe commander than a bold, and that is done quickly enough, which is done well enough. and that is done quickly enough, which is done well enough. Here we go.

This basically says you have to have a strong mind and a strong body. We tend to project backwards. Today we think of philosophers as academics, theorists, nerds, right? University professors. But that's not who the Stoics were, certainly. Marcus Aurelius is not just the emperor of Rome. He's a general in the army. He's trained in

wrestling and boxing and hunting. Seneca pushed himself physically. He tried to see how little he could survive on. He did an annual cold plunge. Socrates was renowned not just for his ability to endure winter temperatures in nothing but a thin cloak. He was also, again, a soldier and an athlete. He loved to take long walks. He was active out in the world because you have to be. He actually says no citizen has a right to not take care of themselves physically, to not understand what their bodies are capable of.

There's a story about Theodore Roosevelt that I tell in The Obstacle is the Way and in Discipline is Destiny. He's a young boy, but he's asthmatic and he's weak, he's frail and his father comes to him one day and he says, you know, you've got the mind, Theodore, but you don't have the body. And this young kid, he was about 12,

he looks at his father and he says, okay, I will make my body. And that's when Theodore Roosevelt embarks on what he comes to call the strenuous life. You can still visit the house he grew up in and see the gym where he made his body. And his sister who was watching said this was the first promise that he made to himself. And most importantly, he kept it to himself. That's something Seneca talks about. He says, we treat the body rigorously so that it's not disobedient to the mind.

That's what this Latin expression means. That's what this motto is, strong mind and a strong body. This is one we understand on some level, but run away from. It's this idea that from struggle, we emerge stronger. Nietzsche said that what does not kill you makes you stronger. And we know that at some level. And yet what do we spend most of our time doing?

Trying to avoid struggle, trying to avoid adversity, trying to avoid difficulty. And this is because it's hard. We know, like for instance, about PTSD. What we don't think enough about, what is also true and also observed by psychologists and social scientists is this idea of post-traumatic growth. We can be and often are better for what we've gone through.

Seneca would talk about how he pitied people who had never gone through adversity or difficulty because they didn't know what they were capable of. When you think about the last couple of years, you think of that difficulty, right? You think about how tough it was. If you had asked yourself at the beginning, did you think you were capable of getting through all this? Maybe you would have said no,

but you know now that you are. One thing we emerge from struggle with is an understanding of how we're going to respond to struggle and difficulty. We have a better sense of our own capacity. It is not necessarily the case that we need to seek out adversity or difficulty, although we can in the physical arena certainly, but it is true that we must embrace the adversity that finds us. We must embrace the challenges and the trauma and the struggle. All of it has been chosen for us in some way and we can choose to be made better for it. It's not just that we accept these struggles that are there. This leads to another great expression. This is kind of a bonus one here, a more Foxy,

which basically means you don't just resign yourself to it, as Nietzsche said, but you embrace it. You love it because what other choice do you have? So by deciding to see this as an opportunity, as your fate, as something uniquely suited to you in this moment, you have a chance to really turn it into something. The Stoics wanted to be

like that fire that you it doesn't matter what you throw on top of it as Mark Cirillis writes, it's turning into flame and brightness and heat. That's how we emerge from the struggle better. It's like a crucible, if you will. That's how we turn what has happened to us into opportunities and fuel. This one is a fascinating one to me because it's the opposite of something that's so popular today. A lot of people talk about positive visualization, they don't talk enough about negative visualization. Imagining what could happen so you can be prepared for it. Seneca talks about how the unexpected blow lands heaviest. And that the thing that a leader can never say is, oh, I didn't think that would happen.

You have to think about it, because if the leader's not thinking about it, if you are not thinking about it, who is? And if nobody's thinking about it, who's preparing for it? Who's coming up with plan B? Who's toughening yourself up? Who's doing the work so that you can handle this? Sometimes people think that negative visualization

or thinking about bad things can manifest them into happening. Mark Sewellis talks about this. He says, but do you fear that thinking about reaping wheat is going to make that get reaped? No, of course not, right? Like no one's scared of talking about other potentialities. We just have this superstition when those things involve us.

And you got to put that aside. You got to think about the things that could happen. Seneca talks about if you're going on a shipwreck, think about a shipwreck. Think about pirates. Think about weather delays, right? Think about choppy water, right? What are you going to do if that happens? How are you prepared for that to happen?

How can you at the very least do not be surprised if that does happen? Because it's a very normal thing that happens all the time. And by the way, things that have never happened before, they happen all the time too, so you gotta be ready. For the Stoics, the idea was that nothing happens to a wise person contrary to their expectation because they're not naive, they are aware, they are informed, they have wisdom.

And wisdom is a sense of the possibilities in a given exchange, interaction, event, outcome, process. You got to know what could happen and you got to be ready for that to happen. This is a tough one for people, but it's a timeless bit of wisdom. And it's this idea that who we are determines what's going to happen, the kind of outcomes we're going to get in life. It doesn't mean that horrible people don't succeed.

It does mean that that success will be horrible for those people. So for the Stoics, the idea, again, let's focus on what we control. What we control is our character. We control the values we hold, the habits we practice, the principles we choose to live by. And when you see someone with bad character,

when you see someone with bad values, they're not gonna surprise you. They are telling you who they are. When someone tells you who they are, believe them. When someone tells you who they are with their behavior, believe them. As we talked about, Seneca said that a leader can't say, oh, I didn't think that would happen.

This is partly because a leader has to look at the character, the people they're bringing on, the people they're bringing into the organization, the people they're electing. Why on earth would you have thought it would go any different? They told you who they were, they told you what their character was. Someone with bad values, someone in the sway of ego, someone who's fundamentally insecure, someone who is dishonest, right?

This is not going to end well for them. It's not going to end well for you either trying to associate with them. There's a story about Musonius Rufus that I like. There was this obnoxious man who was obsessed with money. He gave him some, he gave him a bunch of money and people said, why would you reward this? And he said, money is exactly what this guy deserves. What Musonius understood was that this wasn't gonna change

this guy, it was only gonna reveal what he already knew about him and it was probably gonna bring about this guy's ruin faster than any kind of difficulty or adversity he could have bestowed on them. Let's look at Marcus Aurelius, right? Absolute power is supposed to corrupt, absolutely, but why doesn't that happen for Marcus? And it's because the character that he strove to develop in himself, the character that was inculcated by his mentors and advisors and philosophy teachers, he fought not to be Caesarified, as he said. He fought to be the person that philosophy tried to make him.

He wanted that expression character, his fate, to reveal who he actually was. And what we see is that he was fundamentally a good person, not a perfect one. And there were flaws in him, and those were revealed as well, but his character led him to a pretty good fate. in him and those were revealed as well but you know his character led him to a pretty good fate.

This one maybe you've seen before. I mean there's a restaurant at Disneyland named after it. Maybe you've seen it tattooed on some people's bodies or you hear it every Halloween. Memento Mori, remember you are mortal. And it's one of the most basic stoic practices there is. It might seem morbid, it might seem a little dark, but it is essential because it gives us urgency, it gives us perspective, it gives us clarity. You could leave life right now, Mark Srivastava writes in Meditation, let that determine what you do and say and think. That's what memento mori allows us to do. Why do people procrastinate? Why do they put things off? Why do they keep practicing bad habits? Why do they waste time? They do it because they think they have forever, but they don't. Seneca says it's the craziest thing in the world that we waste this precious resource.

And he says it's wrong to think of death as this thing in the future. It is not a thing in the future. It's happening right now. This is the time that passes belongs to death. We are dying every minute, we are dying every day. The time you wasted this morning, you'll never get back. The time you spent watching this video, the time I spent making this video, it has to be spent well because we don't get it again. Life is short, you gotta live it well. And you gotta live it with an awareness of the fact

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