The Daily Stoic - This Will Help You Calm Down | Ask DS

Episode Date: July 18, 2024

If you read the news, it feels like the world is falling apart. Zoom out. Take a sideways glance. Get the outside of the issue, the problem, the day’s events. Seek perspective.Ask DS:How do we know when we are sticking to our values versus leaving them behind? What can we learn from President Carter’s campaigning versus his leadership while in office? Does Ryan Holiday think there are any major pitfalls or flaws in Stoicism? 📚 Grab a copy of In a Sunburned Country by Bill Bryson at The Painted Porch: https://www.thepaintedporch.com/🎟 Ryan Holiday is going on tour! Grab tickets at ryanholiday.net/tour✉️ Want Stoic wisdom delivered to your inbox daily? Sign up for the FREE Daily Stoic email at https://dailystoic.com/dailyemail🏛 Get Stoic inspired books, medallions, and prints to remember these lessons at the Daily Stoic Store: https://store.dailystoic.com/📱 Follow us:  Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, and FacebookSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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when there happened to be someone there recording. Thank you for listening and we hope this is of use to you. And we hope this is of use to you. This will help calm you down. If you read the news, it feels like the world is falling apart. Political incompetence, political corruption, rise in crime, depressing economic news. The future looks dark. People seem awful.

And worse, it's happening near you. Are you in danger? Should you be scared? Is there really nothing you can do about it? In the hilarious book In a Sunburned Country, and you can grab a copy at the painted porch, it's wonderful, Bill Bryson speaks about the joy of reading the news in Australia, a country many thousands of miles from his own. It always amazes me how seldom visitors bother with the local paper," he writes. I personally can think of nothing more exciting, certainly nothing you could do in a public place with a cup of coffee, than to read newspapers from a part of the world you know almost nothing about.

What a comfort it is to find a nation preoccupied by matters of no possible consequence to oneself. I love reading about scandals involving ministers of whom I have never heard, murder hunts in communities whose names sound dusty and remote, features on revered artists and thinkers whose achievements have never reached my ears, whose talents I must take on faith." What he was experiencing, of course, was the wonder of perspective. He was taking Plato's view, the 10,000 foot view, the one that Marcus Aurelius talks about in Meditations. Two armies battling each other is a horrible thing up close.

From the top of a mountain it looks like ants going after a piece of food. News near us is alarming, frustrating, disappointing. News from far away is funny, absurd, and riveting. The turmoil of ancient Rome provides us moral lessons. The turmoil of our own time simply makes us queasy. Bryson, who no doubt had problems with politicians at home, noted the hilarity of two feuding Australian ministers who were literally named Abbott and Costello. The point is how we look at things matters. And sometimes by noticing how we might look at something while we're on vacation or through the lens

of a foreign language or a culture can give us a better insight into how we might better look at things at home. And by the way, the reason I'm reading Bill Bryson's book on Australia is I'm heading to Australia because on July 31st, I'm doing a talk in Sydney and on August 1st, I'm doing one in Melbourne. I loved the book.

We started carrying it at the painting board. It's one of my favorites. But anyways, if you wanna come see me, because you happen to be in that part of the world, you can, you can grab tickets at RyanHoliday.net slash tour. And then I still have to figure out what books I wanna read about another part of the world, because I'm doing talks in Toronto, Vancouver, London,

Dublin, and Rotterdam in November. I'll link to those also. You can come see me at some wonderful venues and ask some questions and all that. Ticketinfo at ryanholiday.net slash tour. And I can't wait to see all of you there. And I'm very much looking forward to spending a few days in Australia as well.

Hey, it's Ryan. Welcome to another Thursday episode of the Daily Stoke Podcast. Back in April, I was at the Naval Academy. I flew there, I was supposed to do this talk to about 1200 sophomores there at the Naval Academy. I was giving. I was supposed to do this talk to about 1200 sophomores there at the Naval Academy. I was giving this lecture on Jimmy Carter right actually next to Jimmy Carter Hall there at the Naval Academy. I was talking about the virtue of justice specifically through the lens of one of their most

famous graduates. I was really honored to do it. I'd sort of packed in a hurry the night before and I grabbed this white pair of vans that I have. They're these zip-up vans that I really like. I fly in that morning, check in the hotel, prep for the talk, I've never done this talk before. I go for a long run there along the water, get showered, start to get dressed, go to put on my shoes and they don't fit?

And I realize my wife and I have the same pair of shoes and I grabbed her pair. My running shoes are disgusting. I definitely cannot run in them. So I have to run up the street there in Annapolis. I'm staying at that waterfront hotel right there if you've ever been. And I have to buy a pair of shoes to put on and walk out with straight to the talk. So I'll bring that talk to you at some point because I was really proud of it. I think it turned out great. But I had a little Q&A after that's what I wanted to bring you today. There were some great questions. The midshipmen are always incredible to talk to. And I think you're really gonna like this. This was

part of the Stutt Ethics Lecture Series at the Naval Academy. The Stockdale Center has been a great supporter of my work and of course, Stoicism. And so here we go. The first thing they were asking me about was this, how do you adapt to the time you're in, but also stick to your values? How do you know when you're sticking to your values versus leaving them behind? Yeah, it's tough.

I think it would be wonderful if there was some, you know, clear step-by-step test or rule. Maybe one way to think about it is, what's actually the harder thing? What's the harder thing? When we're telling ourselves, oh, this is the expedient thing, oh, this will help me do this in the future, are we actually just fooling ourselves

and it's allowing us to get away with not having to do the tough thing. But the decision to wait to be strategic to build relationships, you know, if that's the tougher thing, maybe that's a way to think about it. But I do think it's important, you know, it can be easy to think, you know, hey, this is going to succeed because it's right, or this is an idea whose time it's come. That's not where change typically happens, right? Usually change, progress, right? In

old wrongs. You know, it's a knife fight. It's a long, hard slog. And, you know, Carter doesn't just decide, hey, we should do something about the Panama Canal. He has to schmooze all 100 of those senators. He has to convince them. He has to work Panama Canal. He has to schmooze all 100 of those senators. He has to convince them. He has to work the press. He has to work the State Department. It's a tough thing, right? And so I think we wanna think about doing the right thing

as not just a moral issue, but also an issue of competence and an issue of acumen. And the ability to figure out how systems work and how to get things done is just as important as doing the right thing you know Kennedy gives much more beautiful and inspiring speeches about civil rights. It takes Lyndon Johnson, the so called master of the Senate actually ram those things through.

So this tension between knowing what's right and then getting that thing done, that's the competence we have to cultivate. And that takes a lifetime. But it is tough, right? You think about who becomes the CEO of companies, who makes it all the way to Admiral or president it's usually not a disruptive person

Right you get to that level by going along but not in all things but if you're a radical if you are Disruptive if you are constantly challenging the status quo It's gonna be hard to get promotion. It's going to be hard to make friends and fans. That's why Carter has to say, you know, you're not going to like my campaign. This is what I have to say to get elected. But when I'm actually president, I'm going to do it.

And I think the problem is most people say to ourselves, that's what I'm doing. But then we get there. We get there, we get there, and then suddenly we become risk averse, or we start thinking of the next office. And that's why we don't ultimately do the hard right thing then.

Because now we can see, oh, if I stay at this five more years, or I make this or make that, then I'll get to the next level. Then I'll really be in a position to do good. And so that's constantly delaying the time when you do the hard thing and you never end up doing it because you think you'd become more empowered as you go, but in fact, you become more risk averse because now you have more to lose.

Someone asked me to expand on Carter as a campaigner versus a leader, because you have to win office to be able to be a leader and the tensions there. Yeah, I think what Carter was talking about, although he didn't run a racist campaign, he had to convince a number of pretty conservative in the lower C sense voters to give him the keys to the governor's mansion. Right. And so we see this politically now all the time. It's there's

the things that one part of your constituency wants to set wants you to say or do. And then the cost that comes over here to a different constituency. And so it's a tightrope that you're walking. And I think Carter was saying that, that you might not see me as a progressive candidate on these important civil rights issues, but he was saying to them privately, I will do those things once I am in power. What I think is beautiful and inspiring about Carter, again, is that he actually did that.

It wasn't just lip service. I think that tends to be, unfortunately, what leaders say is they tell a lot of different people what they want to hear, and then they just do what they want to do. But he's saying, you can't change policies if you don't win elections. You can't reform policies if you don't win elections.

You can't reform or change or update or, you know, do the things that you need to do in a specific spot, in a specific industry, in a specific moment in time, if you don't have power or influence, right? That's what he's talking about. Someone asked me about some pitfalls or flaws in stoicism, which is a question I think we should think about. Soism isn't

perfect. And we should critique it and try to ask ourselves questions about where it's working and not working. Yes, certainly. I actually just did a video on what the stoics get wrong. The stoics like Jimmy Carter, like all of us were all products of our time, we can question certain assumptions, but then we all have blind spots. We have things that we don't understand or that we miss. So Stoics live in a time of slavery.

They live in a time of vast inequality. The Roman Empire is a ruthless colonizer and conqueror. These are not great things. The Stoics don't question that. I think stoicism was primarily a philosophy for people trying to be good inside a not so good world. But they could have done more. They should have done more. I think one area that fascinates me that the stoics, it's not that they get wrong, but we have to remember we only have some of the surviving writings from the Stokes.

We have by no means everything they ever thought and did, but even just this idea that, you know, there's some things that we control and some things that are not in our control. Epictetus says it's either up to you or it's not up to you. Everything else that's not up to you, you don't care about. Well, the reality is there's some things in the middle that we can influence that we have some control over. And what about those? And I think that's what I'm talking about even here with Carter, right? He did the right thing, but could he have been better at doing the right thing? Did was he ignoring some things that he could have had

more influence over? Could he have, you know, greased more palms and schmoozed more and had more drinks with people? Could he have been more effective as a politician? Perhaps, maybe he saw that as not in his control, but I think you would argue it was more in his control than maybe he wanted to admit. So it's not so black and white. There's some things that are up to us.

There's some things that are not up to us. I think a bit, it's not a whole, it's just, it's an area that are up to us. There's some things that are not up to us. I think a bit It's not a whole it's just it's an area that requires some nuance Which is there's some stuff that have we have influence over ultimately getting promoted is not up to you But whether you do the right things to put yourself in a position to potentially be promoted or recognized is up to you And so that that distinction is one I think about, not just philosophically, but I think about practically in my personal life. I can write the best book that I can write, and then I hope it succeeds. But there's also things that I can do

in between, this is what we call marketing, this is what we call sales, to hopefully make that more of a reality. And that is something with St Stokes don't talk about enough. Hey, it's Ryan. Thank you for listening to the Daily Stoke podcast. I just wanted to say we so appreciate it. We love serving you. It's amazing to us that over 30 million people have downloaded these episodes in the couple years we've been doing it. It's an honor. Please spread the word, tell people about it. And this isn't to sell anything. I just wanted to say thank you. If you like The Daily Stoic and thanks for listening, you can listen early and ad free right now by joining Wondery Plus in the Wondery app or on Apple podcasts. Prime members can listen ad free on Amazon Music. And before you go, would you tell us about yourself by filling out a short survey on Wondery.com slash survey. Hi, I'm Lindsey Graham, the host of Wondery's podcast American Scandal. We bring to life some of the biggest controversies in US history, events that have shaped who we are as a country and continue to define the American experience.

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